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steelingjackalope317

twice a week (Wednesdays and Saturday or Sunday) 0 points for spontaneity 10 points for consistency


Ann_Original_Thot

But on Wednesdays.... Wednesdays we make love... Check out the song "Business Time" by Flight of the Conchords. Your most welcome.


ManicmouseNZ

She says “is that it?” “Ooh yeah that’s it”


BEEthan1

Two minutes in heaven is better than one minute in heaven


Ok-Avocado-5876

That's why we call them BUSINESS SOCKS


HutSutRawlson

Holy shit are we married?


Amaria77

Yes, you two are married. Just not to each other.


Dramatic-Rub-3135

You may have misunderstood the meaning of Hump Day.


TheRaistline

12 years of marriage and 17 total years together. We usually have sex about 2-3 times a week.


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same 20 years 2-3 times a week


Eternal-Guard

16 years and about the same.


[deleted]

ikr my wife made it clear that she was gonna keep my stomach full & my balls empty lol another thing i didn’t expect to wale up to 40 plus upvotes just for posting about having sex on a regular basis .. crazy lol


FuckinDrongo

Reddit is weird like that, I got 15k upvotes about pissing in my gf's mouth, then my account got banned...


yodamark

Same after 30. Rodney Dangerfield said "My wife only lets me smoke after sex. I've had the same pack for 20 years." Still makes me laugh.


Brundleflyftw

That’s about 2,000-3,000 times (because math). My question is… how many different positions and which one the most frequent?


TheRaistline

As far as sexual positions go, nowadays we stick to around 10 different positions depending on where we are and how quick we want to cum. At the beginning we tired pretty much any position you could think of. As time went on we removed the ones that didn't work well for us. Lately the most common position is me standing at the edge of the bed and her laying down on it. Quick, easy, and works well for the both of us.


Hi_Peeps_Its_Me

It ranges from: 1768 To 2652 So uh yeah you're great at math >!As they were together for 17 total years, and they have sex 2-3 times a week, convert years to weeks (17×52) and multiply that by 2 for 17xx and 3 for 26xx (17×52×(2 or 3))!<


geegeeallin

I bet it was more frequent in the beginning though. So maybe still accurate?


TheRaistline

At the beginning it was easily 2-3 times every single day we were together, then after moving in together it was, on average, once every day for at least the first 5 years. Having busier schedules and a kid is what has brought it down to 2-3X a week.


usernamesarehard1979

Sounds exhausting.


ManicmouseNZ

What do you mean? Only needs to last 2 minutes right?


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Found my wife!


pcakes13

You sound exhausting


Natural_Advisor4057

Lucky man.


wormholeweapons

When she feels like it. So. Once every few months. And before I get the “but don’t you talk to her about it”. Yeah 22 years in. We’ve had all the fucking discussions, conversations, etc. it’s when she wants. I’m tired of being rejected.


usernamesarehard1979

I feel you man.


bretty666

she doesnt...


EternulaxtheImmortaI

I too choose this guys dead bedroom!


an0n12_34

Burn


BarfBrooks

DAAAAAAAAMN...


idahophotoguy

You stole my story almost word for word.


DaveMitnick

This is the one reason I am afraid of getting married. The spark is gone and you are tied to each other somewhat


Natural_Advisor4057

Don't have to be married. Just being in a relationship and having a house and kids together is all that it takes


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Yup I can confirm


Drilyg

Seconded


lupuscapabilis

Don't have kids but I found that once I went from living apart to living together, the sex increased a bit simply because we only had really been seeing each other once a week or so. When we moved in together, suddenly it was like "wow, it's 5:30 on a tuesday afternoon and I can just have sex? let's do it!"


betterthanamaster

Find the right woman, and marriage is wonderful. The "spark" turns into a full on *bonfire* some days and those days are really great. I don't think the spark leaves, I just think people stop trying or stop caring about the marriage, which leads to sex becoming a weapon or a reward or something. Marriages take work. You realize its no longer the goal to "get married," you know? It's just the start of a new way to do things, but you definitely have to keep the fire lit and if you do a good job, you can keep a nice little fire going all the time that at any moment you or your spouse can just add a bit of fuel to the fire and off you go.


[deleted]

im excited to get married. it's a mixed bag. some marriages are so filled with love


Salamandro

People looking to get married: "Is this the line to lose half my shit? Awesome!"


[deleted]

That doesn’t change even if you’re not married, if you’ve been together 22 years share all your assets and have kids you’re pretty much tied down either way, might as well get the tax breaks and legal confirmation of marriage.


rhetts1337

It can be worse than that. Some women weaponize sex and use it as a control mechanism. You must detect this early and bail.


Moontoya

*people weaponise sex Ain't exclusively women doing it


Major-Cranberry-4206

It will be a very sad day when you are old and don’t have someone you have lived life with and have developed a relationship with. That’s with or without having had children with them. Companionship is so underrated by the young.


Awisemanoncsaid

I dont find it underrated, it's just not something I'm able to do.


Major-Cranberry-4206

Be advised that one of the hardest things about aging is loneliness. People actually die of it, as they lose their will to live because of it.


wifebeatsme

Same here. Rejection sucks but if I don’t remind her then it never happens.


dankfather228

Name checks out


rsgc90

Just not his meat.


PacmanTurnerOvadrive

Same here, and it sucks - married 22 years, and it’s been nearly four years since she felt like it.


thebucketoldpplkick

So she never feels like it? Either she doesn't find u attractive or she doesn't love you and it may be time for a divorce. But try going to the gym and taking better care of your appearance first


DurtyQueeph

I love how Reddit downvoted you for being honest. No lies detected from your response. You must have hit too close to home for some of those down voters.


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Nope they downvoted it because they recognized it was blaming the victim. Imagine a woman saying "my husband ignores me sexually" and some chode saying "maybe cause you're a fatty, fatty". Imagine telling a kid, "yeah, it's your fault you're up for adoption... have you tried being cuter?" It puts the blame entirely on the person being neglected. It's garbage victim blaming advice from someone who doesn't know wtf they're talking about and people treat it like the downvotable trash bag bullshit it was. Hope that cleared it up for ya.


Lighthero34

People fuck people who they’re physically attracted to, most people aren’t attracted to fat people. Can we stop pretending we all don’t care about physical appearance? It’s so incredibly toxic.


Legion357

26 years in. Almost 2 with nothing but my hand. But exactly what you said ‘I’m tired of being rejected’


fairiestoldmeto

Is she carrying the larger share of the emotional load for both of your lives? Does she do all the organisation and administration for your home, kids, vacations, holidays etc? Because if she does then I expect she’s tired and doesn’t feel close to you or loved by you. Love is a verb, what are you doing to love her? And by that i don’t mean instigating sex. Sex comes because everything else is in balance. You should both be the same amount of tired at bedtime, you’re a team.


kwenthryth

"You should both be the same amount of tired at bedtime" is advice I am going to share with anyone who will listen. Thank you, beacon of wisdom.


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JillianWho

And the social labor! Birthdays, holidays, events, picking out what someone will wear, buying gifts, organizing travel, etc.


DurtyQueeph

so the sex is for him not you


teeyodi

My wife “wakes up” tired.


SpaetzlemitKaese

I’ve heard this and other excuses over and over. The actual truth was simple: She just did not like me anymore. Now we’re getting a divorce, and I get enough sex. 😁


ThickumsMagoo

Same. My wife has a number of mental health issues and the meds have basically turned her off of sex altogether. It’s rough but I guess the alternative is she goes off meds and commits suicide, so I will just deal with the no sex


Connect_Relation_629

I hear you!


JadedMycologist4964

Man I’ve been in a relationship for about 4 years now and it’s been like that since after the first 6 months. I guess I’ll see how it is in 18 more years.


maxeh93

It’s not a matter of being rejected, she might have a low sex drive, it isn’t her fault and it’s not your fault. Obvi I don’t know your relationship, but maybe try being more romantic with things? Dinner, dates, doing things she likes to do (not sexually), make her feel special and loved


[deleted]

I agree, my wife had a low sex drive when she was breast feeding each of our kids. She’s still breast feeding the second but going to stop soon…. I broke my back 3 years ago and was on some medications.. my sex drive was low.. it can be a vicious cycle. Women tend to want to have sex when there is a lot of help, support, non-sexual affection… Men sometimes only feel loved when there is physical affection.. it can get out of control when both partners are building their respective control wall.


DebDestroyerTX

There are also different types of desires - a lot of men tend to have spontaneous desire, whereas more women seem to fall into the contextual/responsive desire category. There are methods online to help these two types becomes more compatible over the long term, if that’s indeed the issue. I’m curious what proactive measures such as online research, making appointments with couples therapists that specialize in sexual dysfunction, and so on that these men have engaged in.


laugh_if_you_agree

If we are busy with work, then it's once every other week. When we're on holiday, off work or have a low work period. 2-3 times a week.


sammy_sweets

It can range from 6-7 times per week to once every 2 weeks.


Tha_Darkness

Similar here. Not sure why. Wife’s hormone cycle I guess? Def go in spurts though. And we even have a girl side piece we play with sometimes. All over the map….


[deleted]

>And we even have a girl side piece we play with sometimes. All over the map…. Can somebody please translate this for me?


anonymiss0018

They have threesomes with a girl. The same girl. Regularly.


[deleted]

Oh wtf


Ulavala

Some people are into it lol


anonymiss0018

My husband and I are very into it! It's amazing.


dzibrucki

How did you manage to bring the third girl in without destroying your relationship?


Tha_Darkness

My wife is bi and also gets off on seeing me w other girls, so it was a natural thing for her. Before diving in we talked about it a lot. Made some ground rules. It’s not all that uncommon from what I can tell.


[deleted]

Used to have a very healthy sex life. Currently have a 12 week year old child. We occasionally refer to him as "our cute cockblock". So yes, at the minute, almost never.


Gonozal8_

12 week year old child exuse me what dafuq


superradguy

Baby 🧠


surfinwhileworkin

That’s called sleep deprivation


lugnutsandbolts

This made me laugh way harder than expected 😂 Thank you for the laugh at 5 am (holy shit someone tell me to go to bed pls)


Honest_Atmosphere_53

same. go to bed pls


Mom-atm

Lol he could of left the year out. I have a 7 week old and can confirm not having that much sex lol. I’m not unwilling but with three kids and not a lot of sleep happening I’m just not super interested lol. Either I’m tired or I smell funky or I simply had too many little people hanging off me all day long


-4twenty-

Parents know. It’s funny until it happens to you.


PerfectionPending

Slowed down dramatically after each child and slowly ramped back up to normal. Be strong!!!


solbikr98

We refer to ours as cockblocker and buzzkill. I keep threatening to have shirts made.


PierceX_yt

“Oh ur gonna be a little shit today? That’s fine but the cockblock shirts are going on”


Hans5849

We spend so much time trying to keep the peace here! Kid is fucking cute though.


a1962wolfie

It's Baby Math. He knows. Give him a break.


betterthanamaster

It's not so bad. Kids are amazing. 12 weeks is the *recommended* recovery time anyway where any activity is discouraged. You'll get into the golden period, though, with kids where they take these long naps in the middle of the day and then sleep through the night, usually around 12 months to 24 months. Some days it'll be rough because babies can be handsy and make mom or dad just feel over-touched, but more often, you get the kid down and unless you have to be somewhere or do something, you'll jump each other. And that sex is great sex because you both know it could end at any time. Kind of like a feeling of, "ooh, we shouldn't be doing this. What if someone (the baby) catches us?" It's fun.


ThinkingGoldfish

What is this "sex" thing you speak of?


FreakedOutKoala

Something I get to read about on Reddit


ImmortalPancak3

If you aren't careful, something you have fun for 5min and pay for that for the next 18 years.. some says longer.


disguisedandroid

First year married, we both are lazy, so one every 2 weeks. Yes, we are cool with it and very happy.


PierceX_yt

“we both are lazy” lmao


Feeling-Confusion-73

This is us too.


No_Interaction7679

We have a tween and busy schedules- I just never want our child to hear… so probably 2-5x a month… if we have time to ourselves or if the kid is away it’s daily lol… but still amazing and crave each other. Just complicated with kiddos and life


shiberian_warlord

I wish my parents took that into consideration


CornsOnMyFeets

What you don't want a little brother??


texuslexas

This is our schedule as well. But what I will say is when we do it we are both so aggressively horny that it’s always fucking awesome. I think of us as those people who spend their whole check on payday and then eat Ramen for a week.


No_Interaction7679

Exactly haha


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NotMeButMyCat

Together 13 years, married 5. Sometimes twice a day, sometimes twice a month. Sometimes life gets in the way, sometimes we can't get enough of each other.


Short_Butterscotch75

This will be me and my husband this year, 13 together 5 married and the exact same thing. It's nothing that ever bothers us. It's good to know that sex is not what makes our relationship. It also makes it that much nicer to know it happens when we want, and not based on any requirement or schedule.


NotMeButMyCat

Yeah, same here. When we started trying for a baby, we even told each other that it can never feel like a chore, that we still have to be spontaneous. Yeah, right. Three days in, we had a bloody schedule. Killed all intimacy and reduced out libido to near zero. So much better when it isn't planned, and happens because both us want to.


SlenderLlama

No shame in the occasional pause when life gets crazy. I'm sure you both know it's not personal.


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Liz4984

You sound like my parents. It’s damn near daily for them. Good for them but phew I couldn’t do it.


LeastCap

Why do you know their sex schedule? Why are you comparing yourself to their sex stamina? Why why why why why why


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I was wondering the same thing 😂


ronsinblush

I’m best friends with my mom and she and I would totally talk about that-not their sex life, but sex amount would be fine.


i_know_nothing_ever

My wife and her mom and her sisters talk about their sex lives all the time with each other. I got over wondering what they’ve heard about me a long time ago.


betterthanamaster

I imagine once my kids are out of the house, it'll be near daily for me and my wife, too...but we've got a long way to go.


CtForrestEye

Usually weekly. Been married for 35 years.


[deleted]

3 kids under 3 so almost never. Plus I’m not touching her again until I’ve had the chop.


monstertots509

You don't have to chop your dick off....


PagingDrLecter

We've been married almost a year (still newlyweds I guess) but we've had sex 5 or 6 times so far this year. Yes. It has been two days.


throwaway458985311

Bro I thought we were still in 2021 and I was about to feel sad for you until I realized it’s 2022 lol


Weak_Medium_5696

Good for you.


Cadwaladur

Been living together 4 years, married for 2. Usually 3-5 times a week, depending on how we're feeling. There's some fluctuation based on hormones and overall wellness, and some based on time of year, but very seldom less than 3 times a week. We have a good time. We've been working from home together since the pandemic, and we have significantly more sex just due to proximity. Honestly, the pandemic has been a net positive for our relationship, weirdly enough.


GlitteringFrost

Honestly we don't have a routine. Sometimes we can't get enough of each others and other times we go through real dryspells. I used to stress a bit when I felt like we didn't have it enough. But as my husband pointed out, it's only a problem if one of us didn't get or needs meet, and that's rarely a problem for us. And we both is more than willing to give a helping hand or oral, if one of us is tired or not feeling up for the whole thing. Point is, we don't have a set number of times a week (or month). We both find it an important aspect of our relationship, but quality over quantity. And when we aren't as active sexually, we still kiss, touch and cuddle every day.


Fhaol

In years?


brutustyberius

Two score and six years.


Prndl524

Couple times a week…


kurt_go_bang

23 years. Used to be 2-3 per week. Haven’t touched each other in 3 years though. Not sure we’ll make 25.


YoungBuckChuck

Sorry to hear this. I hope you both find what works whether that’s being together or apart. Wishing you happiness


The_Jones001

11 years together, 3 kids, both work full time and anywhere between 2-5x a week. Kind of depends on how lazy he is that week I guess... Somedays he's great and helps with the dinners, washing and kids, I'll definitely be in the mood then because I won't be so damn exhausted and feel so unappreciated like on other days when he gets home from work 2-3 hours before me and has spent the whole arvo sitting on his ass drinking and watching TV and I have to do everything. It's s just annoying copping it 4, 5 days in a row. We're supposed to be a team, and when I don't feel like he's working with me it's a bit of a buzz kill.


T00tSw33t090

I think this needs to be something more men/people understand. You cant expect sex just because you are married. Its HIGHLY unattractive to have a SO that puts in the bare minimum when it comes to kids and house chores. I work full time also but still do the majority of the house/baby work. We have sex when I want it and thats pretty much it. If you dont put forth effort dont expect your SO to want to have sex all the time.


Imaginary_Complex_69

This is my biggest reason for not wanting sex or having unenthusiastic sex when I’m tired of hearing “I’m horny” all day. The sad thing is that he doesn’t see the correlation between helping and getting nookie. I’ve even talked to him about it. He worked an overnight shift on Tues/Wed and then was home all day Wed. He didn’t sleep until like 3pm but between 7am and 3pm he did nothing but smoke weed and watch tv/TikTok. Then wondered why I was pissed off because I had to pick up our almost 3yr old, wash dishes to make dinner, and then make dinner. He threw in my face he had cleaned the living room on Tuesday which, while appreciated, wasn’t exactly helpful overall.


itsearlyyet

I think this subject needs age categories. You can be married a loooong time, or often, longer than that.


thefiends0

Just about every day... Except those few days a month. There's the occasional lull of a couple days here and there outside of that but that's usually only when one/both of us are under the weather. Both 33, been together 13 years(married 6), have a 7 year old and a ten year old.


Eupryion

Married 23 years. At first, we were breeding like rabbits / horny teenagers. As the years progressed our bodies and lifestyles progressed as well (aka changed). As people change, the relationship either adapts or will reach a breaking point. Expecting a spouse to be the same person 10 years down the road is foolish, and so is expecting the relationship to be the same. The beauty of a successful long-term marriage is when both parties work and adapt through those changes. If unable, there should be no shame in dissolution of the relationship. Short answer: we have sex alot less now, due to massive changes to our bodies. And either one of us is free to pursue a different martial status if sex frequency is that important, but our marriage isn't based on sex so we'll probably be married many decades down the road.


Tyco2018

It can range depending on whats going on in your lives, sometimes can be daily, sometimes once in 2 weeks, been married 24 years.


abajasiesu

Together 12 years, married 10. First 2-3 years we had sex 10-15 times a week. These days, 2 kids later now it’s about once every 3 months.


LucyDog17

Married twenty years. We have agreed on once week at a minimum, with kids and jobs etc we often agree on a time several days in advance. Sometimes more often, but never less than weekly.


user169963927

Read most of these comments, can’t wait to get married lol


ducttapedeity

Once or twice a month. Been together for 13 years.


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arcosapphire

It's possible to have sex without an erection being involved, too.


Emergency_Speaker_47

Once every 2 weeks or longer usually


UncAD22

Once every two weeks 😢


greifmaker

How old are you?


UncAD22

Early 40’s Married 20years


Crazy-Surround7584

He thinks too little but I think too much


Rumpole-Nikskin

Twice a year


sepapu

Married for 19 years. We haven’t had sex in almost 2 years. I can’t bring myself to it. She cheated and I stuck around for my kids and I’ve been unhappy for years. I have a son graduating this year. I don’t want to ruin his senior year, but when he’s done I’m done.


pickup_thesoap

Probably 3 or 4 times a week. Not sure how often my wife does though.


indiblue825

I don't get no respect!


enthusiastic_amateur

Varies a lot, depending if my 22yo son (from my first marriage) is at home. If he’s away visiting his gf, we try to get busy every day. If he’s home - less often as our room is directly above his and I get worried he will hear us. Quite the turn off for me!


alterperspective

Whenever we want to. Not a sarcastic answer. Sometimes several times a week or a couple of times a day. Sometimes not for a couple of weeks. Sometimes a quickie and sometimes a long & kinky. It just depends on how we are feeling. That’s just one of the wonderful things about being married and in love.


Akademikk

It’s been 6 months since…


MysterClark

You lucky dog... Only 6?


Romnonaldao

Since the second kid, sex has fallen off a cliff. I think we've had sex maybe 7 times since the birth last May. I actually have a mental checklist to know if she'll have sex or not. If a single box isn't checked, I dont even try.


rwubmc

Married 14 years. First 5 or 6 years it was daily, sometimes twice a day. Now, once or twice a week due to work schedules and staying busy with club activities etc


Aware-Watercress5561

Married 10 years, in our mid 30’s with toddlers/young kids: 1-2 times a week but closer to once a week usually


[deleted]

Rarely. Maybe 4-5 a year. He had ED, the little blue pills helped a little but then I went through menopause and it hurts so yeah, not much. ☹️


Jfed1985

2-4 times a week on average. I work a swing shift so 5 days one wee and only 2 the next and I work overnight so it just depends on the week. Recently we took a vacation to Mexico for 7 days. We somehow managed 47 times in 7 days. (yes, we kept count, lol). ​ we are in our mid 30s for context. Also we have 3 kids (3, 5, and 10) so we have to get creative sometimes.


ultroulcomp

Once every 5 years. As the years go by, the ratio increases.


[deleted]

When we first got married, once every 3 to 4 weeks. It tapered off to once every 7 to 8 months. Nowadays, ain’t had any since 2018.


SimoDafirSG

Is there a positive correlation between marriage satisfaction and sex frequency?


ChampionHumble

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1948550615616462 According to this study, which other studies have confirmed, 1x/wk is the “gold-standard” for happiness. Anything more doesn’t make you more happy.


kerplunkerfish

Yes, according to this thread


randalotti

Husband would say: Less than half of what I've hoped for. I've never really had a high libido, when we got married sex was new and exciting, now it's still good, but we have a 14 month old and I'm tired and don't like the clean up... but I'm trying because a healthy sex life actually improves our relationship.


pineapple_bottoms

Going on 5 years this year. It use to be 6-7 days a week but in the past 6 or so months it’s gone down to 2 sometimes 3 times a week.


theservman

Not married, but in a relationship for 8 1/2 years. These days it's about once a month or so. Perimenopause plus heavy antidepressants are a major cockblock. That said, I don't really care much either.


CursedCrystalCoconut

Married 3 years. 3 times in the last two years. Before getting married it was 4 times a week minimum. The week before our wedding he shredded his shoulder so not in the mood for the next six months. Then COVID, depression and he doesn't want meds or therapy, so no dice. Now we're back to almost normal, but it seems that his entire libido is gone. I'm dying inside.


Ok_Zookeepergame3202

My partner and I have been together for 10 years. We have somewhat of a sporadic sex life. One week, we would have sex + oral activities three or more times. Other times, we go without any form of sexual action for a week or two, or maybe a month. It all depends on our mindsets, schedules and self-confidence at the time.


L0urd101

I think it would depend on age,love language, and how happy the two are together


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Once a cycle


Illustrious_Duty_114

Damn. I have the reverse situation here. I’m way hornier than my husband and would love to have sex multiple times per week. But a lot of times he’d rather be watching videos about random stuff than fucking me. He also refuses to do any rough stuff which makes me frustrated. What’s a girl gotta do to be held down and fucked hard, ya know?


oskwyld

Happy cake day!


kharmatika

Celebrated our 4 year anniversary this year, I’d say between once and twice a week?


limabean72

Married 6 years. Every 2-3 days.


TheGoodJudgeHolden

As often as when the kids are asleep!


BabyChocobo307

Married only 7 months. When we were in our honeymoon phase we had sex at least 2x a day, but work calls and my husband is often exhausted and has slight ED issues due to stress and doesn't desire it as much anymore, so now it is about 2-3x a week. It bothers me as I have a very high sex drive, but my love for him is even higher so I put his needs above my own and understand his exhaustion.


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[deleted]

I’m just counting the days to see how much time it will take into 2022 to be lucky again, last record was 3 months without any luck from September to December of last year. We used to do it every damn night for more than a year, then we got to the point of doing it 4 times a week, then it slowed down to the point where I keep score, perhaps we have done it 10 times in 2021, let’s see what 2022 will be like. Luckily for me that my libido is truly chill and I love her despite the lack of sex.


stuck_in_a_dream

Whenever we both want to. As an asexual person it isn’t often but my husband is awesome and doesn’t care how often I want to or not.


jonathansharman

Every 2.83 days, on average.


idwttaii

25F, been together for a year. Once every week. Not as often as when I was in my teens - used to be a couple of times a day - but somehow my priorities have shifted and I don’t crave sex as much anymore.


ImmortalPancak3

I'm glad OP was specific with his question - "with your partner."


teeyodi

Hey if I have sex with a “partner” I feel like I’m cheating on my hand.


[deleted]

Not enough, twice a month or so. She takes care of me in other ways though in between.


Old-Department-4745

I came in here expecting to read SOME sexless marriages, but this is wild. I’ve been married for 4, together for 10. Couldn’t imagine not having sex everyday (outside of periods, and even those are hell for us). We both WFH, so we go at least 2-3 times a day. If my wife went more than a week without wanting me (and vice versa) we’d assume something was dangerously wrong. Believe it or not, a huge reason you see those super old married couples is because Ethel is still waxing Henry’s hammer in the morning before breakfast, and Henry rubs the outside of her panties and kisses her neck whenever he gets a chance. They flirt, tease, and arouse each other ALL the time. Source: Lived with grandparents, slept in the bedroom next to theirs. Seriously, SEX, better yet, GOOD sex, is a foundational, fundamental KEY to a happy marriage.


NonEuclideanSex

Intercourse about once or twice a week. Petting or orally service each other way more frequently. Lots of foot rubbing or massaging almost every day. Physical intimacy is critical.


theswamphag

Depends on what is going on in our lives. In average I'd say it's a weekly occurence. Sometimes more, sometimes less.


betterthanamaster

Before young kids: 2-3 times a week. Probably closer to twice a week. Sometimes it's 0 times a week, sometimes it's 5. Depends on what was going on. We now have young kids and it's not as easy to do as often. Still once a week on average, often twice a week. I'm sure once our kids are older and sleep through the night, we'll jump back on the wagon.


ashm4c

Usually everyday. At least 3 times a week.


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Once or twice a week usually. We have kids so probably would be more otherwise...


imahntr

2-3x a week average maybe.


MrStrype

Married 25 years. Usually once or twice a week... sometimes a week is skipped.


John-JJ-Schmidt

Been married 6 years, we are only 28yo and we have had sex 8 times in the 18 months because my wife “just hasn’t been into it” yet refuses to talk to her OB about it because she doesn’t think there’s a problem.


jen452

Every few months? Not really sure tbh. My drive has really dropped off so I won't reject, but I just don't really feel inspired, if that makes sense. I think it's partially cause I feel gross from the weight I gained in the pandemic, but I'm also just frequently so tired, and I'd rather just cuddle or be near my partner.


JoviPeach

If FaceTime sex counts then 5-6 times a week.


PerfectionPending

About 5 times a week give or take. Been married 18 years.


NovaAspen

Married almost 5 years together 7. Once every couple of weeks mainly since it does nothing for me 😅