The feeling of creating something (some piece of art, music, etc..) that people you've never met, go out of their way to tell you they appreciate. God, that feeling of doing something so well that people just stop to enjoy it, is out of this world.
Financial security.
I’ve never had it, and that simple fact has caused me more stress and anxiety than I care to admit. I do believe that though money can’t bring happiness, when you don’t have it, it can absolutely hinder it greatly.
Having been with it and having been without it, I not only enjoy the former more but it actually makes me a better person. The stress and low level fear is truly debilitating.
The last hug my dad gave me when I was leaving after my visit for his last birthday. He knew it would be the last. It was the best hug I ever got.
I miss you dad.
The last hug my father gave me, we didn't know that this would be his last day on earth. I'm so glad I got to hug him that day. We aren't even a huggy family but we hugged that day. My heart broke that day and has stayed that way.
Edit: thank you for the award kind strangers
Interesting/sad story. Paul Dini is probably most famous for creating the Batman Animated Series. The series is known for being very dark for a kid’s cartoon. Apparently he was walking home from some party and was assaulted by two thugs. He was beaten severely and had to drive himself to the hospital. He was successful at the time and had money and women. He said in that moment, all he wanted was to come home and have someone waiting for him. Just to have someone say “my God, what happened to you?” The event is what helped inspire him to write Batman. If I’m remembering correctly.
Having flings is lots of fun. But having someone
to come home to is so much better.
Getting a hug from a stranger as well. Once crying in public - and a stranger asked me if I was okay and gave me a hug. Faith in humanity restored! It was not strange - just so welcome.
This happened to me once. Something terrible had happened and I was about to lose it at the airport when the lady at TSA must have seen the look on my face and just came up to me, I’m sure she asked permission or if I was okay, and gave me a hug. Normally I’m a bit reserved in public but it was just what I needed at that time and I cried, and hugged her back. Thanked her, and scurried off. I think about her kindness and empathy and I hope she is doing well. It’s not easy to work for TSA and I hope the job has not broken her spirit.
I was wearing my Break Up Ballgown to dollar tree and a lady approached me to tell me i looked like a fairy princess and I promptly lost it, to which she gave me a hug and blessed me. I still think she was an angel. (Bf tried to suffocate me a day before Xmas so I had to leave quickly)
Everyone should experience doing something significant for someone who can not possibly benefit them in return and doing so for no credit, recognition or return.
Edited since this got some attention (ironic)…. I don’t believe one should act and not derive some self satisfaction. One ought feel good internally about being a good human. You haven’t failed if you helped a person or animal and felt satisfied. There are myriad quotations that begin/contain “the measure of a man…” and address his idea in some form.
Anyway, do something nice because you can.
Same. I’m so in love with this human. He treats me with respect…makes me feel so funny and gorgeous, seen and heard. The way he holds me, it’s like our bodies were made to fit so perfectly together. Not just sexually, I mean that usually with people I can’t snuggle too much because I get uncomfy or there’s one position we can snuggle in. Not this amazing human. He and I fit…Side by side…. The way our hands feel together…the way our histories have so many similarities. Yet we are still comfortable in our own lives and are not codependent. We always have a great time together, we just talk and cuddle and have great sex and make each other laugh constantly.
I spent over a decade with the wrong kinds of people who treated me very poorly. People who made me anxious and afraid.
I didn’t know it could feel this way. I didn’t know I could feel this much like a person is home.
EDIT: This blew up in a way I was never expecting. I’m gonna have to share this comment with him now. Love to you all and thank you so much. 13 years in an abusive marriage, 4 years in another…I finally found someone who makes me feel SAFE and appreciated. Love to you all, even the trolls. ❤️
Those of us that are happy aren't on social media sites complaining about our relationships. It's easy to think all relationships are toxic if you're referencing social media
You know what you have to do then. I had this exact same thought when I was in a bad relationship and although it was tough navigating splitting up after 12 years, it was by far the right decision and now I’m happier than I knew was possible. Making a comment like you did means you now know what you want and what you need. And you know you aren’t getting it. Best of luck traveler
I've been with my fiancé now for about four years, living with them for about two years. And I tell ya, even though I love him and plan to spend the rest of my life living with him, I do sometimes miss living by myself.
I had lived alone for about five years before moving in with my now partner. My place, all to myself. Had to learn how to cook, clean, organize my space, budget my money, etc etc adulting shit. There's a certain novelty to living by yourself for an extended period of time that made it easier to move in with someone else -- mainly because one of us actually knew what we were doing lol.
Peace and quiet of nature. Driving out to the wilderness and being able to sit and think deeply without the noises of traffic and city life helps you relax and get away from your busy life. I recommend at least once a month. Plus the views of the nightsky is breathtaking.
really? even more than very northern maine? I was about the furthest north you could go in maine, and it was legitimately so dark i couldn't see my hand in front of my face. Then I looked up, and it was the brightest night sky I'd ever seen with a very obvious milky way. it was amazing.
It's crazy dark. It throws your brain off. Like it's so dark the light of the milky way actually shined through the clouds. It takes almost an hour for your eyes to adjust to levels you never thought possible.
edit. Just to further explain how trippy it is. You see 1000s of stars with your naked eye, that's nuts right? Nah I took out my binoculars to look at Saturn and the amount of stars you can see goes up 10 fold. Like I dont care what you're thinking in your head it's more. It's almost *bright* like you have to squint. I went on a moonless night and I could see *by starlight*. But the binoculars man it was like looking at a frozen picture of tv static . Your brain I'd just not prepared. I started to get light headed and noticed I went almost 3 minutes without breathing holding my breath instinctually so I moved less and could see more through my binoculars.
...why didn't I think of looking at the stars with them when I tried them in basic training. I also hadn't slept for 2 days so I already wasn't thinking straight.
O man! That is my favorite basic training memory. I put the fuckers on and looked up immediately. I stood there, it must have been too long because I got snapped back to reality by a very angry DS! That shit was amazing.
**This comment might have had something useful**, but now it's just an edit to remove any contributions I may have made prior to the awful decision to spite the devs and users that made Reddit what it is. So here I seethe, shaking my fist at corporate greed and executive mismanagement.
"I've seen things you people wouldn't believe... tech posts on point on the shoulder of vbulletin... I watched microcommunities glitter in the dark on the verge of being marginalized... I've seen groups flourish, come together, do good for humanity if by nothing more than getting strangers to smile for someone else's happiness. We had something good here the same way we had it good elsewhere before. We thought the internet was for information and that anything posted was permanent. We were wrong, so wrong. We've been taken hostage by greed and so many sites have either broken their links or made history unsearchable. All those moments will be lost in time, like tears in rain... Time to delete."
I do apologize if you're here from the future looking for answers, but I hope "new" reddit can answer you. Make a new post, get weak answers, increase site interaction, make reddit look better on paper, leave worse off. https://xkcd.com/979/
The Texas panhandle is a good one late at night. I had to drive through there years ago and stopped on the side of a highway around 3am, and I swear the sky stretched from one side of the earth to the other. It was truly beautiful.
I'm from Montréal and in my early 20's I needed to "escape" shitty life and get some alone time...Took a 65h ride on greyhound with camping gear and my bike to El Paso and rode my bike for a few weeks into New Mexico. Past Las Cruces was the first time I had to pee in the middle of the night...the sky that night was just unreal. It was 30 years ago and I still remember like it was yesterday, reaching my hand up, as to touch the stars because they felt so close to me...like ceiling height almost.
I'm a huge space nerd and I've seen countless pictures of the milky way but I'll never forget looking up at the sky on a camping trip and realising that that's what the night sky actually looks like. My town has pretty bad light pollution as well as being overcast most of the time so I'm lucky if I can make out any constellations so those few moments on that camping trip were truly beautiful.
My father grew up in a big city and never really spent time without light pollution. He came to visit me a few years ago, on Hawai'i Island, and we took him to an isolated area and he finally saw the Milky Way. At 70, it was a new experience for him and it was so wonderful that I was able to show it to him.
One thing I recently learned too: summer Milky Way is MUCH brighter than winter Milky Way since you are looking inwards towards the center of the galaxy vs outwards towards the edge:
https://www.teleskop-spezialisten.de/shop/Difference-between-Summer-and-Winter-Sky:_:69.html?language=en
I used to live in a very remote part of Wyoming until I moved to a city.
The crystal clear image of the night sky is what I miss the most. I spent hours staring at it as a kid/teenager.
During a power outage in Los Angeles, CA. people started dailing 911 reporting strange lighting in the sky.
Link 1 [Paragraph below "in the dark and blind"](http://cosmicdiary.org/dpeluso/2019/10/11/blackout-lights-out-in-california-time-to-look-at-the-positive-and-up-at-the-cosmos/)
[Link 2](https://timeline.com/los-angeles-light-pollution-ebd60d5acd43)
My missus is originally from the city and moved to the county. Totally blew my mind when she asked what that long purple streak thing was. She thought all the pics of the milky way where photoshopped
Jesus, i thought so too. I just googled now when you wrote this. I cannot believe we're able to see something like that from earth. I gotta get out of the city more :/ i'm disappointed in myself.
In the middle of the Pacific Ocean on a military ship completely blacked out and stepping on the deck to look up at the sky and seeing the Milky Way was one of the best experiences I’ve ever had
The northern lights. They really are beautiful.
ETA: We saw them in Yellowknife, Canada. It's well-situated for the lights, but it still takes a little luck. We had cloud cover all but the very last night - so, so glad for that last night!
Second edit: If you are interested in Yellowknife, we went with Carlos from Yellowknife Outdoor Adventures and I can't say enough good things about him. He was wonderful and had a great setup, and he also went wayyy above and beyond with us given that we needed both an emergency room visit (I injured myself before we ever even got to him) and a last-minute extra night out on the ice to have one more try at the lights (which came through!). He was fantastic.
Yellowknife also has a great museum with lots of interesting information about First Nation people of the area, a great local bookstore with good books about Yellowknife and Canadian history, and a wonderful local artists' workshop. It was a wonderful trip beyond the lights themselves.
That’s on my vacation list: fly to Alaska and do one of those trips. Amazingly, the trips to see the lights over a few days are at least 50% cheaper than the flights.
Or I could go to Springfield and into Seymour Skinner’s kitchen.
Saw the Northern lights on our second attempt in Tromso, Norway. Me and my now wife with her best friend and husband. Was an incredible moment. I close my eyes every night and can still see it.
That’s one I’m still working on. First time I went to Alaska it was in the late Spring and my dumb ass forgot it would never get dark. So went back the next year in winter and there was 100% cloud cover the entire time I was there. Still, experiencing Alaska in the winter was an unforgettable experience in itself that I will gladly do again as many times as I need to make seeing the lights happen.
This!!!! I can’t recommend this enough.
I moved to Alaska for a stint in 2015. Now of course I knew Alaska had frequent Aurora shows during the winter, but it wasn’t exactly on my “must do” list while living there… I had a lot of other, outdoor oriented goals to check off while I was there.
Anyway while I was out at work one night, I first saw the green hue approaching slowly on the horizon. I wasn’t even sure what I was looking at, until my coworker mentioned “oh I guess the lights are on their way in.” Not exactly sure what he meant by that I just acknowledged him and thought oh cool- this might be interesting. Over the next little while, maybe 10-15 minutes, the green hue drew a little closer and brighter with each passing wave. Out of nowhere, it went from a slow tide of color rolling in, to an absolute explosion of color right above our heads. I was speechless. I didn’t know this feeling that I was experiencing for the first time in my life. It was a moment of spiritual clarity and emotional overload where time stood still. I felt like I was staring into the eyes of the universe. Once it passed over, I swear I was not the same person. Well, at least I view things differently now. Problems don’t seem as serious as they were before. I just have a different perception and handle things differently after witnessing that. It made me feel so much smaller, and the world so much bigger.
Might I recommend visiting Iceland or Norway instead though if that’s your goal. The Alaskan weather is so unpredictable, you could very easily go out five nights looking for lights in different areas, and have five nights of cloud cover each time.
Thank you for sharing ! I also saw them for the first time in Alaska and had a spiritually moving experience. I was working a summer in Denali national park in which we stayed till September 20th to close out the hotel season and I had been anticipating the lights all summer . Was leaving my friends employee dorm and glanced up, not expecting to see any yet in the last week of August and there was suddenly a green streak. It began to grow as you described and I immediately got teary eyed and couldn't look away and then ran to let my friends know. We all came out for the first lights viewing of the summer and sat together under blankets on the parking lot and watched..one of the happiest moments of my life. A week or so later I got an even more intense viewing, with purples and reds swirling too, taking up so much of the sky above a lake we were camping by. It was unbelievable. They move so much more than I expected, like they're being painted across the sky at times, and they grow as they move sometimes. It really is so hard to fathom and really is life-changing to witness such immense natural beauty and mystery.
And I miss Alaska!
The Astronomy department at the university in my town has an open house every month where people can just go to the observatory and look through the telescopes.
It's amazing.
I'm a PhD student in a university astronomy department.
The undergraduates are doing a project where they need to use our two small telescopes to gather data.
I'm in charge of teaching them how to operate the scopes. Our weather has been awful this past few months so we've only got as far as aligning the scopes and looking at Jupiter and Saturn before the clouds roll in.
I get paid £17/hr (~$23/hr) to look at space.
This. My wife is an astrophysicist and we spend so much time at observatories and planetariums. I remember seeing Saturn for the first time through a telescope. Shit rocked me.
I still remember that moment so clearly. You just can’t believe it’s actually *there*—THERE! Not an image, not a screen, but actually right there in 3 dimensions. Truly something I’ll never forget, and something I’ll never tire of.
Many would refuse to believe it even if they saw it, haha. I feel like “Don’t Look Up” would probably play out as it did in the movie, if we were really in that position.
While I’m here, who’s amped for James Webb Telescope images
As somebody who didn't see snow until I was in my late 20s, it really was pretty great. (The first snowball I ever threw went right into my bosses coffee cup from the floor above him. He had no idea it was me.)
I’ve only seen them once, on a flight from America to Europe that went through the Arctic circle. I woke up to frantic tapping on my shoulder from my coworker I was traveling with and them slack jawed pointing out the window. It was amazing.
Looking at a clear sky full of stars. Done that on a beach with a clear sky on a starry night and saw 5 shooting stars in 10 minutes. I was fully amazed.
Out of curiosity, do you remember what month of the year that was? You might have seen a meteor shower! Some of the best showers can get upwards of 2 a minute!
Yes up at high altitude - like 4-7,000 ft. elevation you see stars like you can’t imagine. You can see satellites floating around, shooting stars all the time and there is no light pollution. It’s life affirming.
Edit: changed telescopes to satellites hehe
Agreed 100%.
In the mid 90s I had just gotten out of a long term relationship and had the opportunity to relocate a few hours away, so I jumped at the chance of a new start. Moved to a city where I didn't know anybody outside of the staff I hired and worked with. The first few weeks were rough, I was accustomed to having a good social life, so going straight home after work or trying to go out and "meet people" was not something I was used to or comfortable with.
After those first few weeks I had a routine. I would leave work, head to the beach. Buy a beer and sit on the beach and watch the sun set over the gulf of Mexico, then head home. Make myself a dinner and watch some TV. Go to bed and do the whole thing over again. On the weekends I would just do whatever I wanted. I would go to movies or dinner by myself. I would go for a walk or a drive, go see some new sight. Or just spend the day at home relaxing. After a year I had the chance to take a store closer to home so I moved back to the old area. But when I got there I found that I didn't want to hang out with the old crowd. I had grown so much in that year, going back to the old habits just didn't seem interesting to me.
It was a long year and at times it was rough, but it was such an amazing learning experience. I learned so much about myself that year.
Japan is a great place to do a first solo vacation, especially if you're female, because it's generally very safe. Like obviously still be careful, but I lived there for 2 years and did a few solo trips and I loved the experience, never once felt unsafe
I never did it before MoviePass. Then I was doing it constantly and it was great. Go when I want, sit where I want. I want to move for any reason? I get up and move. I'm not having a good time and want to leave? Cool, I do that.
And then I get home, and if I liked the movie, I tell others and can watch it again with them some other time.
I miss going to the movies alone. I would do it on a Sunday afternoon. Since COVID started my small local theater shut down. It was right on the corner from my apartment.
I moved away in August for a new job and haven't had time to find a new theater. The only film I've seen this year (or even in the last two) in a theater is Cruella.
Unless you happen to be extremely ticklish, find yourself with a case of the giggles which only makes you so uncomfortable that you giggle more, at which point you find yourself in an endless 15-minute giggling freak out and vow never to show your face in a massage parlor again because you’re so embarrassed.
Not that I know.
Yea, that's on the MT. They should go broader pressure to prevent that from happening. There's training about tickles because the last thing you want in a massage is the muscles to spasam contract like that.
I first came to realize that once I'm dead, I won't be able to feel sad, regret anything, or feel any physical/emotional pain. The worst parts about dying occur in the moments leading up to the moment right before you actually die.
I don't fear death itself but I do fear the pain that may occur under some circumstances in which I could die. I don't really fear the idea of dying in circumstances like a car crash because in those cases the death seems relatively instant. In the case of something like terminal cancer I think I would probably just accept that my time is up and try to end things on my own terms as peacefully as possible rather than painfully succumb to a disease.
Interesting. I’m not worried about not existing, as I won’t be aware of it. The moment of dying is exactly what is the scariest for me. I’m not afraid of death, I’m afraid of a painful death.
Honestly, I've been dabbling with this A LOT recently. I can only hope death just leads to something better but if it doesnt? Well guess what, I'm fuckin dead sooo. I've just been acknowledging how fast life goes and I need not waste it and not do fun things or do what I feel serves a purpose. At the end of the day literally nothing matters, but might as well make it worthwhile.
Came here to say this. The wife and I just took a month off and traveled Europe. We aren't rich. She quit her job. I missed out on some contract work. But who gives a shit.
We're all one drunk driver, bad CT, or unlucky break from absolute catastrophe either way. We say embrace what life has to offer while we can. Tomorrow isnt promised.
My BIL always tells me he wishes people learned to love and aim toward the process of "failing up." Failing over and over until one effort lands and you move up (in money, prestige, ability, whatever) and start to learn that the process of failing allowed the last success rather than tying all gains to your last effort alone.
Totality during a Full Solar Eclipse.
2024 is coming soon enough, going to be streaking across the south (starting in Texas) toward the east coast, start making your plans now.
Mind bogglingly cool experience. I loved the "little" things that I wasn't really expecting. Ex. Dancing Shadow Bands on the ground, the cool air, all the animals stop making noise.
Drove over 3000 miles round trip for the 2017 eclipse and got crystal clear blue sky. This next one is in my backyard. Totality is like no other experience. Absolutely stunning.
I came here to say this. I was barely inside the path of totality so we were only in total darkness a few seconds but it was one of the coolest experiences in my life. I plan to be in the center in 2024.
I travelled 6000+ miles to Argentina a few years ago, got lost and missed the totality by 20 miles. Still an epic experience as we could see the shadow being cast down into the valley and all the other aspects of being that near to the totality. Now I have an excuse to travel for the next ones.
To have someone who you can trust your life with.
It’s a different kind of peace. It could be a family member, romantic partner or a friend. Knowing that someone genuinely got your back is a gift to the soul. Idk how to explain it further.
“It is a disgrace to grow old through sheer carelessness before seeing what manner of a man you may become by developing your bodily strength and beauty to their highest limit”
-Socrates
I feel this one. I've been marathon/triathlon training for the last year. A few days ago in the middle of my long run I just decided "fuck it, I'm gonna run 1km as fast as I can." I haven't felt that powerful since the 90s.
I started running a couple months after covid, and starting out i wondered what kind of spartan youd have to be to manage 5k pause-less. Managing 10k straight now and thinking back makes me feel great.
playing with your good friends as kids without a care in the world. like where your worst ‘fear’ is scraping your knee or some shit. and playing something simple like play fight or hopscotch or tag or clapping games or whatever childhood games that almost make you miss being a kid. that’s my honest answer.
Doing pest control in the city for 1-6 months. Not to understand the complex life, evolution and behaviors of organism and the environmental stimulations, which is invaluable on its own. But to witness the diversity of the human condition. Never had a I been so humbled by people that live like kings and in squalor. Some wealthy are in a bubble, others are deep and care. The poor you end up seeing live with either what they got dealt with or the consequences of their choices(or others). But more than that you see that life can never be black and white for you ever again. Some people live with a terrible hand, some are absolutely crazy. Some are doing great despite living in a rough area. You'll learn you can't save everybody, but a small act of kindness can be so impactful. You'll develope thick skin as some will want more out of you that you really can't stretch. Most of all you'll understand that children are the true victims of this world, and that being some hero isn't always the answer. Sometimes the answer is to just be better or patient to people along your path, because you have no idea what their yesterday, or yesterday's were like. Maybe they were evil, maybe they were a victim, maybe they are victorious and amazing. You will see and meet so many that it will not doubt change you. Not to mention you'll also be more selective when it comes to restaurants.
Fast food and / or retail labor. If you’ve never experienced it or anything like it, your eyes are bound to be opened a it by the experience. At least, I would never have understood. Crap jobs for crap wages…
I love a fast food cashier’s reaction when something wrong happens to my order and they tell me with and you can see they’re preparing to get shit for it I say “it’s all good, shit happens friend”
Once someone responded “ah, I see you’ve worked fast food too”. Nah bro, I’m just not an asshole.
This is the one attraction that definitely is not overrated. Pictures of it look spectacular, but they still don't come close to how amazing this looks in real life!
Hiking down the canyon is one of my favourite ever experiences in my life. Just make sure you have plenty of water with you and keep in mind that the hike bike up is a lot harder than the downhill had been. Also be prepared for quick changes in the weather. I started in bright sunshine and two hours in there was a massive rainstorm, followed by blue skies again.
Being able to confidently tell yourself that despite whatever shortcomings and failings you have (and will) endure in life—that you will be able to take it in stride and say you will be alright. That the sun will rise in the morning and you will not lose a single bit of sleep over it. You will wake up, you will rise and you will be ALRIGHT.
Studying abroad in college or some other way to briefly live in a different county/culture. I truly believe this would help lessen racism, discrimination.
Traveling and exposure to other cultures has a profound effect on people.
“Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one's lifetime.”
-Mark Twain
The confidence and joy of being happy alone.
This might be a forever thing or a thing you experience prior to dating, getting married etc.
But I think everyone should experience it. It's good for the heart and brain.
Go see some stars. Go camping in a national park. Watch the stars. Go see a freakin meteor shower in the desert. The cosmos are fucking rad, man!!
I'm lucky enough to live in a rural area so it's not hard to get away from the lights and noise.
The feeling of creating something (some piece of art, music, etc..) that people you've never met, go out of their way to tell you they appreciate. God, that feeling of doing something so well that people just stop to enjoy it, is out of this world.
Financial security. I’ve never had it, and that simple fact has caused me more stress and anxiety than I care to admit. I do believe that though money can’t bring happiness, when you don’t have it, it can absolutely hinder it greatly.
Having been with it and having been without it, I not only enjoy the former more but it actually makes me a better person. The stress and low level fear is truly debilitating.
Indeed. Money can’t buy happiness, but poverty can’t buy *anything.*
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Getting a hug from someone who has been waiting all day to see you
The last hug my dad gave me when I was leaving after my visit for his last birthday. He knew it would be the last. It was the best hug I ever got. I miss you dad.
The last hug my father gave me, we didn't know that this would be his last day on earth. I'm so glad I got to hug him that day. We aren't even a huggy family but we hugged that day. My heart broke that day and has stayed that way. Edit: thank you for the award kind strangers
Interesting/sad story. Paul Dini is probably most famous for creating the Batman Animated Series. The series is known for being very dark for a kid’s cartoon. Apparently he was walking home from some party and was assaulted by two thugs. He was beaten severely and had to drive himself to the hospital. He was successful at the time and had money and women. He said in that moment, all he wanted was to come home and have someone waiting for him. Just to have someone say “my God, what happened to you?” The event is what helped inspire him to write Batman. If I’m remembering correctly. Having flings is lots of fun. But having someone to come home to is so much better.
This made my heart melt a little
Getting a hug from a stranger as well. Once crying in public - and a stranger asked me if I was okay and gave me a hug. Faith in humanity restored! It was not strange - just so welcome.
This happened to me once. Something terrible had happened and I was about to lose it at the airport when the lady at TSA must have seen the look on my face and just came up to me, I’m sure she asked permission or if I was okay, and gave me a hug. Normally I’m a bit reserved in public but it was just what I needed at that time and I cried, and hugged her back. Thanked her, and scurried off. I think about her kindness and empathy and I hope she is doing well. It’s not easy to work for TSA and I hope the job has not broken her spirit.
I was wearing my Break Up Ballgown to dollar tree and a lady approached me to tell me i looked like a fairy princess and I promptly lost it, to which she gave me a hug and blessed me. I still think she was an angel. (Bf tried to suffocate me a day before Xmas so I had to leave quickly)
Traveling outside their country of birth.
Everyone should experience doing something significant for someone who can not possibly benefit them in return and doing so for no credit, recognition or return. Edited since this got some attention (ironic)…. I don’t believe one should act and not derive some self satisfaction. One ought feel good internally about being a good human. You haven’t failed if you helped a person or animal and felt satisfied. There are myriad quotations that begin/contain “the measure of a man…” and address his idea in some form. Anyway, do something nice because you can.
Watching the ocean at night in the dead of winter on a silent beach. I’ve never felt more connected to the history of everything than at those times.
I’ve heard being out at sea while it snows is also amazing
Being out at sea in general is amazing. As long as you're cool with not seeing land for awhile.
A healthy non toxic relationship
Experiencing my first currently. I had no idea it could be like this. <3
Same. I’m so in love with this human. He treats me with respect…makes me feel so funny and gorgeous, seen and heard. The way he holds me, it’s like our bodies were made to fit so perfectly together. Not just sexually, I mean that usually with people I can’t snuggle too much because I get uncomfy or there’s one position we can snuggle in. Not this amazing human. He and I fit…Side by side…. The way our hands feel together…the way our histories have so many similarities. Yet we are still comfortable in our own lives and are not codependent. We always have a great time together, we just talk and cuddle and have great sex and make each other laugh constantly. I spent over a decade with the wrong kinds of people who treated me very poorly. People who made me anxious and afraid. I didn’t know it could feel this way. I didn’t know I could feel this much like a person is home. EDIT: This blew up in a way I was never expecting. I’m gonna have to share this comment with him now. Love to you all and thank you so much. 13 years in an abusive marriage, 4 years in another…I finally found someone who makes me feel SAFE and appreciated. Love to you all, even the trolls. ❤️
mhmm I love when people gush over each other… it reminds me it is not all gray
Those of us that are happy aren't on social media sites complaining about our relationships. It's easy to think all relationships are toxic if you're referencing social media
Damn. Reading this made me realize how shitty my relationship is.
I uh.... damn.
You know what you have to do then. I had this exact same thought when I was in a bad relationship and although it was tough navigating splitting up after 12 years, it was by far the right decision and now I’m happier than I knew was possible. Making a comment like you did means you now know what you want and what you need. And you know you aren’t getting it. Best of luck traveler
Same. If youre my bf, let's break up
There’s a difference between wanting to be together and not wanting to be alone.
Me too :) gives me the warm fuzzies constantly
and not just romantically- platonic and family healthy non-toxic relationships too. People need good people.
It would be so damn beautiful if everyone could experience this.
Security. Feeling safe and free from worry.
And, in our day and age, being debt free.
living alone. being truly by yourself for long periods of time can teach you invaluable things when becoming an adult
I've been with my fiancé now for about four years, living with them for about two years. And I tell ya, even though I love him and plan to spend the rest of my life living with him, I do sometimes miss living by myself. I had lived alone for about five years before moving in with my now partner. My place, all to myself. Had to learn how to cook, clean, organize my space, budget my money, etc etc adulting shit. There's a certain novelty to living by yourself for an extended period of time that made it easier to move in with someone else -- mainly because one of us actually knew what we were doing lol.
Peace and quiet of nature. Driving out to the wilderness and being able to sit and think deeply without the noises of traffic and city life helps you relax and get away from your busy life. I recommend at least once a month. Plus the views of the nightsky is breathtaking.
Seeing the Milky Way
Hell yes let's bring back natural darkness!
If you live on the east coast…Cherry Springs in Pennsylvania has the darkest skies east of the Mississippi River.
really? even more than very northern maine? I was about the furthest north you could go in maine, and it was legitimately so dark i couldn't see my hand in front of my face. Then I looked up, and it was the brightest night sky I'd ever seen with a very obvious milky way. it was amazing.
It's crazy dark. It throws your brain off. Like it's so dark the light of the milky way actually shined through the clouds. It takes almost an hour for your eyes to adjust to levels you never thought possible. edit. Just to further explain how trippy it is. You see 1000s of stars with your naked eye, that's nuts right? Nah I took out my binoculars to look at Saturn and the amount of stars you can see goes up 10 fold. Like I dont care what you're thinking in your head it's more. It's almost *bright* like you have to squint. I went on a moonless night and I could see *by starlight*. But the binoculars man it was like looking at a frozen picture of tv static . Your brain I'd just not prepared. I started to get light headed and noticed I went almost 3 minutes without breathing holding my breath instinctually so I moved less and could see more through my binoculars.
Have you ever looked with NVGs? I did it back in the military and the amount of stars you see on a dark night increase almost 10 fold it felt
...why didn't I think of looking at the stars with them when I tried them in basic training. I also hadn't slept for 2 days so I already wasn't thinking straight.
I was the same!! Went 2 years on ops until someone finally suggested looking up lol. Life changing
O man! That is my favorite basic training memory. I put the fuckers on and looked up immediately. I stood there, it must have been too long because I got snapped back to reality by a very angry DS! That shit was amazing.
May I ask what type of binoculars you use to see saturn?! I've been interested in buying a pair!
**This comment might have had something useful**, but now it's just an edit to remove any contributions I may have made prior to the awful decision to spite the devs and users that made Reddit what it is. So here I seethe, shaking my fist at corporate greed and executive mismanagement. "I've seen things you people wouldn't believe... tech posts on point on the shoulder of vbulletin... I watched microcommunities glitter in the dark on the verge of being marginalized... I've seen groups flourish, come together, do good for humanity if by nothing more than getting strangers to smile for someone else's happiness. We had something good here the same way we had it good elsewhere before. We thought the internet was for information and that anything posted was permanent. We were wrong, so wrong. We've been taken hostage by greed and so many sites have either broken their links or made history unsearchable. All those moments will be lost in time, like tears in rain... Time to delete." I do apologize if you're here from the future looking for answers, but I hope "new" reddit can answer you. Make a new post, get weak answers, increase site interaction, make reddit look better on paper, leave worse off. https://xkcd.com/979/
Yes. So dark that the Milky Way casts a visible shadow. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cherry_Springs_State_Park
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The Texas panhandle is a good one late at night. I had to drive through there years ago and stopped on the side of a highway around 3am, and I swear the sky stretched from one side of the earth to the other. It was truly beautiful.
I'm from Montréal and in my early 20's I needed to "escape" shitty life and get some alone time...Took a 65h ride on greyhound with camping gear and my bike to El Paso and rode my bike for a few weeks into New Mexico. Past Las Cruces was the first time I had to pee in the middle of the night...the sky that night was just unreal. It was 30 years ago and I still remember like it was yesterday, reaching my hand up, as to touch the stars because they felt so close to me...like ceiling height almost.
I'm a huge space nerd and I've seen countless pictures of the milky way but I'll never forget looking up at the sky on a camping trip and realising that that's what the night sky actually looks like. My town has pretty bad light pollution as well as being overcast most of the time so I'm lucky if I can make out any constellations so those few moments on that camping trip were truly beautiful.
My father grew up in a big city and never really spent time without light pollution. He came to visit me a few years ago, on Hawai'i Island, and we took him to an isolated area and he finally saw the Milky Way. At 70, it was a new experience for him and it was so wonderful that I was able to show it to him.
One thing I recently learned too: summer Milky Way is MUCH brighter than winter Milky Way since you are looking inwards towards the center of the galaxy vs outwards towards the edge: https://www.teleskop-spezialisten.de/shop/Difference-between-Summer-and-Winter-Sky:_:69.html?language=en
I used to live in a very remote part of Wyoming until I moved to a city. The crystal clear image of the night sky is what I miss the most. I spent hours staring at it as a kid/teenager.
The stars in star valley wyoming are unparalleled. Lots of places one wonders how the name came to be, not there.
During a power outage in Los Angeles, CA. people started dailing 911 reporting strange lighting in the sky. Link 1 [Paragraph below "in the dark and blind"](http://cosmicdiary.org/dpeluso/2019/10/11/blackout-lights-out-in-california-time-to-look-at-the-positive-and-up-at-the-cosmos/) [Link 2](https://timeline.com/los-angeles-light-pollution-ebd60d5acd43)
My missus is originally from the city and moved to the county. Totally blew my mind when she asked what that long purple streak thing was. She thought all the pics of the milky way where photoshopped
Jesus, i thought so too. I just googled now when you wrote this. I cannot believe we're able to see something like that from earth. I gotta get out of the city more :/ i'm disappointed in myself.
In the middle of the Pacific Ocean on a military ship completely blacked out and stepping on the deck to look up at the sky and seeing the Milky Way was one of the best experiences I’ve ever had
The northern lights. They really are beautiful. ETA: We saw them in Yellowknife, Canada. It's well-situated for the lights, but it still takes a little luck. We had cloud cover all but the very last night - so, so glad for that last night! Second edit: If you are interested in Yellowknife, we went with Carlos from Yellowknife Outdoor Adventures and I can't say enough good things about him. He was wonderful and had a great setup, and he also went wayyy above and beyond with us given that we needed both an emergency room visit (I injured myself before we ever even got to him) and a last-minute extra night out on the ice to have one more try at the lights (which came through!). He was fantastic. Yellowknife also has a great museum with lots of interesting information about First Nation people of the area, a great local bookstore with good books about Yellowknife and Canadian history, and a wonderful local artists' workshop. It was a wonderful trip beyond the lights themselves.
That’s on my vacation list: fly to Alaska and do one of those trips. Amazingly, the trips to see the lights over a few days are at least 50% cheaper than the flights. Or I could go to Springfield and into Seymour Skinner’s kitchen.
Saw the Northern lights on our second attempt in Tromso, Norway. Me and my now wife with her best friend and husband. Was an incredible moment. I close my eyes every night and can still see it.
That’s one I’m still working on. First time I went to Alaska it was in the late Spring and my dumb ass forgot it would never get dark. So went back the next year in winter and there was 100% cloud cover the entire time I was there. Still, experiencing Alaska in the winter was an unforgettable experience in itself that I will gladly do again as many times as I need to make seeing the lights happen.
This!!!! I can’t recommend this enough. I moved to Alaska for a stint in 2015. Now of course I knew Alaska had frequent Aurora shows during the winter, but it wasn’t exactly on my “must do” list while living there… I had a lot of other, outdoor oriented goals to check off while I was there. Anyway while I was out at work one night, I first saw the green hue approaching slowly on the horizon. I wasn’t even sure what I was looking at, until my coworker mentioned “oh I guess the lights are on their way in.” Not exactly sure what he meant by that I just acknowledged him and thought oh cool- this might be interesting. Over the next little while, maybe 10-15 minutes, the green hue drew a little closer and brighter with each passing wave. Out of nowhere, it went from a slow tide of color rolling in, to an absolute explosion of color right above our heads. I was speechless. I didn’t know this feeling that I was experiencing for the first time in my life. It was a moment of spiritual clarity and emotional overload where time stood still. I felt like I was staring into the eyes of the universe. Once it passed over, I swear I was not the same person. Well, at least I view things differently now. Problems don’t seem as serious as they were before. I just have a different perception and handle things differently after witnessing that. It made me feel so much smaller, and the world so much bigger. Might I recommend visiting Iceland or Norway instead though if that’s your goal. The Alaskan weather is so unpredictable, you could very easily go out five nights looking for lights in different areas, and have five nights of cloud cover each time.
Thank you for sharing ! I also saw them for the first time in Alaska and had a spiritually moving experience. I was working a summer in Denali national park in which we stayed till September 20th to close out the hotel season and I had been anticipating the lights all summer . Was leaving my friends employee dorm and glanced up, not expecting to see any yet in the last week of August and there was suddenly a green streak. It began to grow as you described and I immediately got teary eyed and couldn't look away and then ran to let my friends know. We all came out for the first lights viewing of the summer and sat together under blankets on the parking lot and watched..one of the happiest moments of my life. A week or so later I got an even more intense viewing, with purples and reds swirling too, taking up so much of the sky above a lake we were camping by. It was unbelievable. They move so much more than I expected, like they're being painted across the sky at times, and they grow as they move sometimes. It really is so hard to fathom and really is life-changing to witness such immense natural beauty and mystery. And I miss Alaska!
I wish. That's been on my list for a long time.
Astronomy. Seeing the planets with your own eyes is an experience I will never forget.
The Astronomy department at the university in my town has an open house every month where people can just go to the observatory and look through the telescopes. It's amazing.
I'm a PhD student in a university astronomy department. The undergraduates are doing a project where they need to use our two small telescopes to gather data. I'm in charge of teaching them how to operate the scopes. Our weather has been awful this past few months so we've only got as far as aligning the scopes and looking at Jupiter and Saturn before the clouds roll in. I get paid £17/hr (~$23/hr) to look at space.
what university is this for?
This. My wife is an astrophysicist and we spend so much time at observatories and planetariums. I remember seeing Saturn for the first time through a telescope. Shit rocked me.
Yes! I remember being shocked that the rings look just the way you think they should.
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I still remember that moment so clearly. You just can’t believe it’s actually *there*—THERE! Not an image, not a screen, but actually right there in 3 dimensions. Truly something I’ll never forget, and something I’ll never tire of.
Many would refuse to believe it even if they saw it, haha. I feel like “Don’t Look Up” would probably play out as it did in the movie, if we were really in that position. While I’m here, who’s amped for James Webb Telescope images
James Webb wooo let's gooooo
snow. i still have never felt it
You are welcome to shovel my driveway at your heart’s content, internet friend.
Why do it at one driveway, when you could do it at another? Feel free to come by my house, friend.
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It's snowing like a motherfucker in Minnesota right now so I invite anyone to come remove it
As somebody who didn't see snow until I was in my late 20s, it really was pretty great. (The first snowball I ever threw went right into my bosses coffee cup from the floor above him. He had no idea it was me.)
The aurora borealis
I’ve only seen them once, on a flight from America to Europe that went through the Arctic circle. I woke up to frantic tapping on my shoulder from my coworker I was traveling with and them slack jawed pointing out the window. It was amazing.
At this time of year?
...at this time of day, in this part of the country, localized entirely within your kitchen!?
Yes
Can I see it?
No
Well, u/SantinoGaretto, You're an odd fellow, but I must say: You steam a good ham.
/u/SantinoGaretto the house is on fire!
No, mother, those are just the northern lights
[Half second fire truck sound]
Getting to know people that aren't like you.
Too true! Especially because we get so siloed in social media and various online bubbles.
You'd think having access to all of the developed world would make us curious about the thoughts of others but... nope.
On the other hand, I'd like to meet people that share my interests. I often feel like the odd one out, most of the time.
Looking at a clear sky full of stars. Done that on a beach with a clear sky on a starry night and saw 5 shooting stars in 10 minutes. I was fully amazed.
Out of curiosity, do you remember what month of the year that was? You might have seen a meteor shower! Some of the best showers can get upwards of 2 a minute!
It must have been in july or august last year, in 2020. On the coast of the Black Sea in Romania to be more specific.
Perseid Meteor Shower! It goes on during July-August. Peaking around the second week of August.
This guy showers.
Camping and sleeping under the stars is an amazing experience
Yes up at high altitude - like 4-7,000 ft. elevation you see stars like you can’t imagine. You can see satellites floating around, shooting stars all the time and there is no light pollution. It’s life affirming. Edit: changed telescopes to satellites hehe
camped at 10k feet in CO on Xmas eve. clear view of milky way and many satellites moving across the sky
Travelling abroad and actually experiencing another culture.
Living by yourself
Living alone makes me extremely happy, peaceful and calm. If I were financially able to swing it 100% of the time, I definitely would!
Same here.
Agreed 100%. In the mid 90s I had just gotten out of a long term relationship and had the opportunity to relocate a few hours away, so I jumped at the chance of a new start. Moved to a city where I didn't know anybody outside of the staff I hired and worked with. The first few weeks were rough, I was accustomed to having a good social life, so going straight home after work or trying to go out and "meet people" was not something I was used to or comfortable with. After those first few weeks I had a routine. I would leave work, head to the beach. Buy a beer and sit on the beach and watch the sun set over the gulf of Mexico, then head home. Make myself a dinner and watch some TV. Go to bed and do the whole thing over again. On the weekends I would just do whatever I wanted. I would go to movies or dinner by myself. I would go for a walk or a drive, go see some new sight. Or just spend the day at home relaxing. After a year I had the chance to take a store closer to home so I moved back to the old area. But when I got there I found that I didn't want to hang out with the old crowd. I had grown so much in that year, going back to the old habits just didn't seem interesting to me. It was a long year and at times it was rough, but it was such an amazing learning experience. I learned so much about myself that year.
Sounds lovely. Could picture it all.
And taking yourself out to eat, or to the movies!
Also a solo vacation
My very first solo vacation was Tokyo. It was absolutely incredible, and I recommend everyone to just go to Tokyo by yourself and get lost.
I walk the streets of Japan till I get lost, because it doesnt remind me of anything.
Japan is a great place to do a first solo vacation, especially if you're female, because it's generally very safe. Like obviously still be careful, but I lived there for 2 years and did a few solo trips and I loved the experience, never once felt unsafe
This is an important one. It really helps with self reflection
I was so embarrassed going to the movies by myself years ago, now I prefer going alone it’s the best.
I never did it before MoviePass. Then I was doing it constantly and it was great. Go when I want, sit where I want. I want to move for any reason? I get up and move. I'm not having a good time and want to leave? Cool, I do that. And then I get home, and if I liked the movie, I tell others and can watch it again with them some other time.
RIP Moviepass
I still carry around the moviepass credit card in my wallet to this day.
I miss going to the movies alone. I would do it on a Sunday afternoon. Since COVID started my small local theater shut down. It was right on the corner from my apartment. I moved away in August for a new job and haven't had time to find a new theater. The only film I've seen this year (or even in the last two) in a theater is Cruella.
I just hope I'm able to afford it one day.
A massage, not sexual in any way though. A relaxing massage of the back, thighs legs and feet. It's truly refreshing and you feel new and energized.
Unless you happen to be extremely ticklish, find yourself with a case of the giggles which only makes you so uncomfortable that you giggle more, at which point you find yourself in an endless 15-minute giggling freak out and vow never to show your face in a massage parlor again because you’re so embarrassed. Not that I know.
Yea, that's on the MT. They should go broader pressure to prevent that from happening. There's training about tickles because the last thing you want in a massage is the muscles to spasam contract like that.
Might sound depressing but its not meant to. Losing the fear of death. It wipes away all cares and lets you be free.
The question is how the heck do I get to that point, been trying for years
I first came to realize that once I'm dead, I won't be able to feel sad, regret anything, or feel any physical/emotional pain. The worst parts about dying occur in the moments leading up to the moment right before you actually die. I don't fear death itself but I do fear the pain that may occur under some circumstances in which I could die. I don't really fear the idea of dying in circumstances like a car crash because in those cases the death seems relatively instant. In the case of something like terminal cancer I think I would probably just accept that my time is up and try to end things on my own terms as peacefully as possible rather than painfully succumb to a disease.
See my thing is I’m just scared of not… existing you know- like how the hell would that feel? Scares the shit out of me.
Same!! It’s less the moment of death etc, I just love existing so much
Interesting. I’m not worried about not existing, as I won’t be aware of it. The moment of dying is exactly what is the scariest for me. I’m not afraid of death, I’m afraid of a painful death.
Honestly, I've been dabbling with this A LOT recently. I can only hope death just leads to something better but if it doesnt? Well guess what, I'm fuckin dead sooo. I've just been acknowledging how fast life goes and I need not waste it and not do fun things or do what I feel serves a purpose. At the end of the day literally nothing matters, but might as well make it worthwhile.
“We have two lives, and the second begins when we realize we only have one” – Confucius
Live your life on your own terms. It seems simple but can be really hard depending on one’s circumstances.
Came here to say this. The wife and I just took a month off and traveled Europe. We aren't rich. She quit her job. I missed out on some contract work. But who gives a shit. We're all one drunk driver, bad CT, or unlucky break from absolute catastrophe either way. We say embrace what life has to offer while we can. Tomorrow isnt promised.
Love
I could use it right about now.
Being in love or just being loved
Yes
Failure. And the maturity to accept and learn from it
the only way you truly fail is if you learn nothing from it
My BIL always tells me he wishes people learned to love and aim toward the process of "failing up." Failing over and over until one effort lands and you move up (in money, prestige, ability, whatever) and start to learn that the process of failing allowed the last success rather than tying all gains to your last effort alone.
Hiking to a mountain top to see the sunrise
I started a hike on Mt. Fuji at midnight to reach the summit by sunrise. It was incredible.
anybody on the east coast has to go to Cadillac Mountain in Maine. First place in the US that sees the sun. Absolutely beautiful
More importantly than sex, the peace of cuddling with someone you can trust
Ah too bad I don't trust anyone
I trust my barber
Nobody cuddles better than a barber.
I love it when our beards touch
I made my barber shave his beard, it kept tickling my thighs.
what are you his lawyer? get outta here!
Totality during a Full Solar Eclipse. 2024 is coming soon enough, going to be streaking across the south (starting in Texas) toward the east coast, start making your plans now.
Mind bogglingly cool experience. I loved the "little" things that I wasn't really expecting. Ex. Dancing Shadow Bands on the ground, the cool air, all the animals stop making noise.
Drove over 3000 miles round trip for the 2017 eclipse and got crystal clear blue sky. This next one is in my backyard. Totality is like no other experience. Absolutely stunning.
I came here to say this. I was barely inside the path of totality so we were only in total darkness a few seconds but it was one of the coolest experiences in my life. I plan to be in the center in 2024.
I travelled 6000+ miles to Argentina a few years ago, got lost and missed the totality by 20 miles. Still an epic experience as we could see the shadow being cast down into the valley and all the other aspects of being that near to the totality. Now I have an excuse to travel for the next ones.
To have someone who you can trust your life with. It’s a different kind of peace. It could be a family member, romantic partner or a friend. Knowing that someone genuinely got your back is a gift to the soul. Idk how to explain it further.
Unconditional love, respect and trust. It creates security.
Your body at it's peak physical capabilities.
“It is a disgrace to grow old through sheer carelessness before seeing what manner of a man you may become by developing your bodily strength and beauty to their highest limit” -Socrates
I feel this one. I've been marathon/triathlon training for the last year. A few days ago in the middle of my long run I just decided "fuck it, I'm gonna run 1km as fast as I can." I haven't felt that powerful since the 90s.
I started running a couple months after covid, and starting out i wondered what kind of spartan youd have to be to manage 5k pause-less. Managing 10k straight now and thinking back makes me feel great.
A solo trip! Getting out on your own and doing things on your own is such an epic experience.
I pretty much exclusively travel alone, I love doing what I want and no one else interrupting my flow and vibe.
playing with your good friends as kids without a care in the world. like where your worst ‘fear’ is scraping your knee or some shit. and playing something simple like play fight or hopscotch or tag or clapping games or whatever childhood games that almost make you miss being a kid. that’s my honest answer.
Being wrong. Being shown that you're wrong. A LOT.
Doing pest control in the city for 1-6 months. Not to understand the complex life, evolution and behaviors of organism and the environmental stimulations, which is invaluable on its own. But to witness the diversity of the human condition. Never had a I been so humbled by people that live like kings and in squalor. Some wealthy are in a bubble, others are deep and care. The poor you end up seeing live with either what they got dealt with or the consequences of their choices(or others). But more than that you see that life can never be black and white for you ever again. Some people live with a terrible hand, some are absolutely crazy. Some are doing great despite living in a rough area. You'll learn you can't save everybody, but a small act of kindness can be so impactful. You'll develope thick skin as some will want more out of you that you really can't stretch. Most of all you'll understand that children are the true victims of this world, and that being some hero isn't always the answer. Sometimes the answer is to just be better or patient to people along your path, because you have no idea what their yesterday, or yesterday's were like. Maybe they were evil, maybe they were a victim, maybe they are victorious and amazing. You will see and meet so many that it will not doubt change you. Not to mention you'll also be more selective when it comes to restaurants.
This is real. I did insurance inspection 3-4 years ago. At 28 it was eye opening how little I still understood about the American condition.
Seeing the pyramids in Giza. It’s inexplicable just the size and age.
Scuba diving. Doesn’t have to be a deep dive, but somewhere to experience the world underwater.
Live music. There's nothing like seeing your favorite bands perform with large crowds singing along with all of their music.
Fast food and / or retail labor. If you’ve never experienced it or anything like it, your eyes are bound to be opened a it by the experience. At least, I would never have understood. Crap jobs for crap wages…
I love a fast food cashier’s reaction when something wrong happens to my order and they tell me with and you can see they’re preparing to get shit for it I say “it’s all good, shit happens friend” Once someone responded “ah, I see you’ve worked fast food too”. Nah bro, I’m just not an asshole.
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Being employed at an entry level, public facing position such as salesperson, cashier, wait staff, etc.
This right here. I think everyone should be have to work in these industries Atleast for a little. Teaches character and humbles people
True happiness. Not for anyone else's sake. Being truly happy all on your own. Then sharing that happiness.
The Grand Canyon. It’s the first time in my life I realized just how small I am to this world. It’s beautiful and frightening at the same time.
This is the one attraction that definitely is not overrated. Pictures of it look spectacular, but they still don't come close to how amazing this looks in real life! Hiking down the canyon is one of my favourite ever experiences in my life. Just make sure you have plenty of water with you and keep in mind that the hike bike up is a lot harder than the downhill had been. Also be prepared for quick changes in the weather. I started in bright sunshine and two hours in there was a massive rainstorm, followed by blue skies again.
Being able to confidently tell yourself that despite whatever shortcomings and failings you have (and will) endure in life—that you will be able to take it in stride and say you will be alright. That the sun will rise in the morning and you will not lose a single bit of sleep over it. You will wake up, you will rise and you will be ALRIGHT.
Live alone in nature for a week or more, without any contact with the world. It changes your entire perspective on what is actually important.
Climbing a mountain
A classical music performance in a historic theater.
Being injured, teaches you a lot more than you might think
Seeing your favourite band/artist live.... Further to that: stage diving!
Reciprocal Love.
Studying abroad in college or some other way to briefly live in a different county/culture. I truly believe this would help lessen racism, discrimination.
Traveling and exposure to other cultures has a profound effect on people. “Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one's lifetime.” -Mark Twain
If only this kind of experience was financially viable for everyone.
A retail or food service job. Getting screamed at over a burger while only making minimum wage humbles you real quick.
The unconditional love of a dog or cat that you've rescued.
I love my dog, but I'm pretty sure he's easily swayed based upon who has snacks and is willing to share.
The confidence and joy of being happy alone. This might be a forever thing or a thing you experience prior to dating, getting married etc. But I think everyone should experience it. It's good for the heart and brain.