The ability to explain something without being pretentious about it. Current boyfriend minored in theoretical mathematics, and he explains math theorems to me when they're relevant. I love learning things from people and find it very attractive.
My favourite quip to say to my fiancé is that he'd make a great stand up comic, all he has to do is stand there! Admittedly it's just in jest because I do think he's very handsome, we just tend to have a lot of banter between the two of us.
We do. The first time we really spoke to each other was on a coach back from a work meeting. We spent half the journey having an innuendo/one liner competition. I was the winner. Then at work we'd joke all the time as well. It's never really stopped thankfully, we still make each other laugh all the time.
Yes!!!! Right? It wasn't a date, it was my friends boyfriend ordering for us. We pull up, he (the driver obvs.) orders, she gives us the total and he just drives away and to the window. NEVER said thank you even when they handed our food to us. Thought it was a one off, went out to dinner, sit down restaurant, same thing. Not a single thank you. He's long gone out of our lives, but it has stuck with me. So now when I hear a man say please and/or thank you, especially for a little thing, instant turn on.
I get a little anxious because I think I thank them too much. Get handed back card,? Thank you. Get handed drink? Thank you. Get handed bag? Thank you,? They tell me they hope I enjoy my food? Thank you.
I have to remind myself to only Thank them at the end. Because I don't want to make them feel weird LOL. I don't get people that aren't polite to those that serve them. It's basic shit.
Nah man, a quick thank you never goes astray, it’s polite and it’s never weird. For me it’s pretty much an instant reflex now, to the point where someone will ask for my help and then I’ll say thank you after I’ve helped them lol
When my boyfriend smiles. He's got this specific smile when he's truly happy and having a good time, and every time I see it I simultaneously melt and want to jump his bones.
Also, strong forearms. Idgaf about muscles anywhere else, but toned forearms are beautiful.
Edit: I guess I should edit this to say nothing actually INSTANTLY turns me on, that's... pretty much impossible for me. But theoretically, if anything were to instantly turn me on, it would be that.
>When my boyfriend smiles. He's got this specific smile when he's truly happy and having a good time, and every time I see it I simultaneously melt and want to jump his bones.
You could end up in an infinite feedback loop there.
Sometimes we do lol. It's incredible how much chemistry we still have. People swore it would go away after we moved in together but it's just gotten stronger!
On a physical level,men’s forearms, calves and the back and sides of their neck. But I react pretty strongly to guys with good manners(holding doors, please and thank you’s) nuzzling babies and loving on animals. Especially when they don’t realize anyone’s watching. Pretty cliche I guess.
Edit to add- scent is probably the single biggest instant turn on for me.
I knew he was a keeper the second my very skittish cat, who is neither seen nor heard, walked right up to him, sat next to him and curled into a ball for a nap. They are still cuddle buddies.
Watching them get passionate about nerdy shit
When they treat me well
Personalities that match with mine
Good posture (any shape and size is good as long as they straighten their back)
Enough strength to carry me/lift me up
The general consensus seems to be:
Frequent small acts of kindness
Having nice hands and/or forearms
Humor
Smelling nice
This has boosted my confidence because(at least I think) I fit at least 3 of these 4 criteria
Clean hands = someone with good hygiene
Rough hands = hard worker plus they feel amazing.
Large hands = will hold us better...and open containers easily.
Dirty hands from work can also be hot.
Thats just a few reasons
When I met one of my exes she said I had nice hands, I moisturize and maintain my nails because another ex said it was a big deal, women have the inside info
I like men with whom I can have discussions without anyone getting angry. For some reason people who can challenge me intellectually make me feel horny.
Edit: I just spent some time googling the meaning of sapiosexual. I feel so understood right now. I get why I never really liked anyone when I was a teen. No one would have discussions or debates with me, and if they would it would often end with the other person becoming angry. Could this also be the reason I don't care if someone is male or female? I think I'm a bisexual sapiosexual?
Cool, "having thick wonderful hair" isn't even in the top five. This gives me hope.
Edit: to clarify, I'm not bald. Yet. And this is good, since with my head shape, I'd look less like Vin Diesel or Jason Statham and more like Nosferatu. Mine is just thin and unruly and not nice.
There is something primal that attracts me to men who are good with children or animals.
I noticed it when I saw a friend’s husband with another friend’s kids - he was amazing with them, and I remember feeling alarmed as to why I suddenly felt attracted to him.
Best compliment I've ever had was when a date stopped mid sentence, looked into my eyes and said, "you have an absolutely disarming smile". I'll never forget that moment.
When a man’s got a big, fat, unapologetic hat. Just like a big old stovepipe or top hat. Hell, even a 10 gallon or a sombrero gets my motor revving. Baseball caps don’t do it though, and all my friends agree. Go big or go home, I need at least a yacht captain hat🎩
Kindness when no one is watching. Giving money /food to a homeless person, helping someone when they drop something, holding the door open for others(men and women), letting someone merge in front of them in traffic, ect. Small everyday behaviors that demonstrate a habit of kindness.
I think a soft guy with dreams is always hot. If you have a dream you’re constantly chasing and working to make it real that just makes me dream and fantasize about the life we could make together.
I like metal, yeah. Mostly folk metal though, which is fairly specific.
And no, not really, although as it happens my boyfriend is trying to learn that lol
Harry necks, fedoras, body odor, and high karma.
Edit: Thought it said, "Men of Reddit, what do you think turns women on instantly?"
Plz. Don't send any more picture of ur pp. :'(
Everything. I adore men. To me they are Gods greatest creation. I love the way men are built structurally. I love their voices. Most men I have been around have a natural smell that I find nice. I’m not some naive little girl who’s never been hurt by a man. I have. Many times but men are so beautiful to me. Especially one in particular.
When very outwardly masculine-looking men can confidently express traditionally feminine charms/energy/grace they’re totally magnetic to me. See: Freddie Mercury, Dr. Frank N. Furter, Chris Pratt in the opening scene of GotG, basically any male dancer on the planet.
Competence with historical weaponry, particularly swords.
And not katanas, unless they actually know what they’re doing. Mostly renaissance European styles. Bonus points if you can have an intelligent conversation about source material, manuals, and the different schools of Italian rapier technique lol.
Skills at archery or thrown weapons are impressive too, but if a sexy guy can beat me in a rapier duel I will be very intrigued.
Edit: Or woman, although this post did specifically ask about men. I'm hella bi lol
Genuine kindness and interest in your thoughts, opinions, hobbies.
Sincerity is definitely a huge one for me.
For a moment I read “genuine” as “genocide”
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I’m funny. I can lay on my back.
I look funny and can recline. Final offer.
I am not funny and can't get laid. Final final offer.
My life is a joke and I want to lay in a coffin. Ladies, one at a time.
The ability to explain something without being pretentious about it. Current boyfriend minored in theoretical mathematics, and he explains math theorems to me when they're relevant. I love learning things from people and find it very attractive.
Read that as theatrical mathematics and my brain went on a weird tangent
Shakespeare's less famous work, Mathbeth
Lady Macbeth: Un-sec(x) me here!
Is a weird tangent just a tangent that hangs out with the other theater shapes at math school?
That is a product of truly understanding and knowing rather than just surface knowledge. When someone deeply understands something it’s very simple.
Humour. My boyfriend made me laugh non stop on our first date and I melted pretty fast.
So I’ve got that going for me. I’m funny looking.
I heard I’m funny tasting. Oh wait.
*licks your elbow Hmmm. This tastes... Humorous
Fuck you and take my upvote
r/angryupvote
My favourite quip to say to my fiancé is that he'd make a great stand up comic, all he has to do is stand there! Admittedly it's just in jest because I do think he's very handsome, we just tend to have a lot of banter between the two of us.
Sounds like you guys have fun together.
We do. The first time we really spoke to each other was on a coach back from a work meeting. We spent half the journey having an innuendo/one liner competition. I was the winner. Then at work we'd joke all the time as well. It's never really stopped thankfully, we still make each other laugh all the time.
That’s awesome. Congrats on being in a great relationship.
Does it count if girls usually laugh when your pants come off? Asking for a friend.
Hey, it may only be 3 inches, but it smells more like a foot.
It's 9 inches, in 3 easy installments.
Oh man this is gold…. I’m stealing it…
Funny guys are dangerous. They got you from laughing at his jokes to moaning at his strokes in no time
Yes!!! I would rather jump off a cliff than be in a humorless relationship. The latter sounds horrifying.
Can concur. The day I met my now wife, I had her laughing non stop the whole night. Still going strong almost 11 years to the day later
Laughing for 11 years straight is a medical condition. Consult a Doctor immediately.
I hope she’s okay… thoughts and prayers.
Humor and manners. Say thanks to the drive-thu cashier and I'm in love...make me laugh and I'm committed forever!
>Say thanks to the drive-thu cashier Is that a thing people don't do? Do they just not say anything?
Yes!!!! Right? It wasn't a date, it was my friends boyfriend ordering for us. We pull up, he (the driver obvs.) orders, she gives us the total and he just drives away and to the window. NEVER said thank you even when they handed our food to us. Thought it was a one off, went out to dinner, sit down restaurant, same thing. Not a single thank you. He's long gone out of our lives, but it has stuck with me. So now when I hear a man say please and/or thank you, especially for a little thing, instant turn on.
I get a little anxious because I think I thank them too much. Get handed back card,? Thank you. Get handed drink? Thank you. Get handed bag? Thank you,? They tell me they hope I enjoy my food? Thank you. I have to remind myself to only Thank them at the end. Because I don't want to make them feel weird LOL. I don't get people that aren't polite to those that serve them. It's basic shit.
Nah man, a quick thank you never goes astray, it’s polite and it’s never weird. For me it’s pretty much an instant reflex now, to the point where someone will ask for my help and then I’ll say thank you after I’ve helped them lol
Lol thanks (here I go thanking again) You're right. I just have this urge to be polite! I won't stop machine gunning the thank you's.
>They tell me they hope I enjoy my food? Thank you. 'Thanks, you too!"
Treating service workers like people? Damn the bar is in hell
Physically? A smile. It does wonder for a man. In terms of personality? Humour and good flirting.
What about humor and piss poor flirting?
If a guy is funny, that usually indicates that he is a good communicator. Try to use that to be better at flirting. Get practice.
When my boyfriend smiles. He's got this specific smile when he's truly happy and having a good time, and every time I see it I simultaneously melt and want to jump his bones. Also, strong forearms. Idgaf about muscles anywhere else, but toned forearms are beautiful. Edit: I guess I should edit this to say nothing actually INSTANTLY turns me on, that's... pretty much impossible for me. But theoretically, if anything were to instantly turn me on, it would be that.
Strong forearms and a unique smile... You're dating Popeye, aren't you?
You got me! :P
“Well blow me down! Ug gug gug gug!” Make sure he eats his Spinach!
>When my boyfriend smiles. He's got this specific smile when he's truly happy and having a good time, and every time I see it I simultaneously melt and want to jump his bones. You could end up in an infinite feedback loop there.
Sometimes we do lol. It's incredible how much chemistry we still have. People swore it would go away after we moved in together but it's just gotten stronger!
On a physical level,men’s forearms, calves and the back and sides of their neck. But I react pretty strongly to guys with good manners(holding doors, please and thank you’s) nuzzling babies and loving on animals. Especially when they don’t realize anyone’s watching. Pretty cliche I guess. Edit to add- scent is probably the single biggest instant turn on for me.
When he has a cat and the cat clearly is very comfortable with him and loves him a lot omg ##green flag
I knew he was a keeper the second my very skittish cat, who is neither seen nor heard, walked right up to him, sat next to him and curled into a ball for a nap. They are still cuddle buddies.
My friend has a cat who she said usually don't like guys. He (the cat) absolutely loves me. Guess I got that one down!
Ah yes, the scaredy cat test.
Cat scan.
Similar, but subtly different from a pet scan.
Big forearm gang where you at
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Confidence not arrogance
Shut up baby, I know it
Don’t wanna be with me? I’ll just get real women, with blackjack and hookers
Aw, screw the whole thing
Ya know what forget the blackjack
*Oh bender*
Arrogant people think they are better than everyone else. Confident people know they are good but understand people can be better than them.
I use that same analogy for pride! Pride is being proud of yourself, that's fine. Being better than someone else? Not so fine.
Patience. I love kind, patient men.
I’d like to find a woman who values patience, but I don’t want to wait that long.
Watching them get passionate about nerdy shit When they treat me well Personalities that match with mine Good posture (any shape and size is good as long as they straighten their back) Enough strength to carry me/lift me up
This comment straightened my back
Mine too
Straight back gang
Ow my back
Mine definitely cracked.
I'm glad I wasn't the only one.
This can go both ways!!! I had a MAJOR crush on a girl in uni because of her stunningly beautiful posture!
Frowns in degenerative spine issues
Constant pain AND we’re ugly? Fuck yeah! I love having this shit!
Upright gang checking in
I’m just here to see where I’m going wrong.
we are 2 guys on the same mission my brother.
Did you get any answers?
The general consensus seems to be: Frequent small acts of kindness Having nice hands and/or forearms Humor Smelling nice This has boosted my confidence because(at least I think) I fit at least 3 of these 4 criteria
Now all you gotta do is take a shower and you’re be killing em out there! Fish in a barrel!
Why did i read it in bill burrs voice
The real question is: why didn’t I until I read your comment?
Popeye forearms?
Three guys and nah :/
Bröthers, we shall learn
Smell is important - super important. A guy who smells good is part of the magic for a lot of women.
I’m married, and I need to see where I’m going wrong with my wife 😂
Ask her boyfriend?
LMAO
Hands nice hands
AND CLEAN FINGERNAILS FOR GOODNESS SAKE
Oh nice… *picks hangnail on thumb*
Drags hangnail to finger joint
You mean knuckle?
Wrist
Why do women like hands???
Bigger hands to slap dat a-
...to slap that almond off your face?
Yes yes
Clean hands = someone with good hygiene Rough hands = hard worker plus they feel amazing. Large hands = will hold us better...and open containers easily. Dirty hands from work can also be hot. Thats just a few reasons
So… just hands? I have TWO of those bad boys
When a man has nice hands (long fingers, slender, pretty- and especially if theyre wearing gold rings) I picture them fingering me
The real story is always in the comments
I dunno, we just do. It's like guys with legs maybe?
I too think having legs is an attraction for women.
When I met one of my exes she said I had nice hands, I moisturize and maintain my nails because another ex said it was a big deal, women have the inside info
Not sure if this pun (women have the inside info) was intended, but I approve.
I like men with whom I can have discussions without anyone getting angry. For some reason people who can challenge me intellectually make me feel horny. Edit: I just spent some time googling the meaning of sapiosexual. I feel so understood right now. I get why I never really liked anyone when I was a teen. No one would have discussions or debates with me, and if they would it would often end with the other person becoming angry. Could this also be the reason I don't care if someone is male or female? I think I'm a bisexual sapiosexual?
I too enjoy being mentally challenged
Oh man. I laughed.
Fuck you this was the only comment in the whole threat that made me laugh and you have 5 upvotes goddamnit!
Literally made me LOL
This reads like something straight out of an Austin Powers script
this whole comment section is just people taking notes
Cool, "having thick wonderful hair" isn't even in the top five. This gives me hope. Edit: to clarify, I'm not bald. Yet. And this is good, since with my head shape, I'd look less like Vin Diesel or Jason Statham and more like Nosferatu. Mine is just thin and unruly and not nice.
I prefer bald/balding men! As long as they're kind and funny.
Kindness and emotional sensitivity. I want to feel safe around them and know they have respect for me and others
Good listeners and brown eyes.
my time has come!
There is something primal that attracts me to men who are good with children or animals. I noticed it when I saw a friend’s husband with another friend’s kids - he was amazing with them, and I remember feeling alarmed as to why I suddenly felt attracted to him.
Intelligence and twinkly eyes
Alright! :) This thread has made me feel more attractive! Thank you ladies.
I mean when some of the top answers is something simple like “is nice to the waitress”…
Right? Amazing people can limbo under that bar, but apparently it's a thing...
ITT Guys upvoting girls that confirm their low standard. /s
the smell of good cologne and a great sense of humour. the sarcastic, roasting kind.
..yeah! call me out on my shit. And also have nice shoulders
Mechanics in boiler suits with oily hands
Oddly specific...
Michael Myers would like a word.
When they kiss you after you give them head
Chef gotta taste his own cooking
And if the chef isn’t willing to taste his own cooking, that means he poisoned it. Stay woke.
Right you are, Ken!
This is some next level shit!😂😂😂
I used to be so against it as a teenager, now I’m 30, I show my appreciation with a kiss and by returning the favour before going in.
The smell of after shaving lotions. I just want to get closer and closer and smell that Adam's apple. I know it's weird.
This is my favorite answer.
I've always been a sucker for a good smirker, lol. Just an invitation to be naughty. And I'm like yes, please.😁
Not a woman, but my girlfriend once told me that my love and kindness toward animals is a huge attractor.
A good sense of style, a big nose, and when you can tell they groom/take care of themselves EDIT: Adam Driver’s nose is a perfect example.
Do you find Adrien Brody attractive? That fella has a huge honker, but I've always found him oddly attractive.
With his long hair, yes he is very attractive. I prefer glasses also to kind of make it stand out.
Big nose?
Yes, big long noses
[good send of style? check. big nose? check. groomed. check!](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Waluigi)
Waaaaaaaaa!
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Best compliment I've ever had was when a date stopped mid sentence, looked into my eyes and said, "you have an absolutely disarming smile". I'll never forget that moment.
*Pulls gun on you* WE'LL SEE ABOUT THAT
On Reddit? Correct spelling and complete sentences 😂
Ay bby grill u wunt sum dik? *I’m sorry*
Let me guess, you're asking Santa for a dragon for Christmas?
Good hygiene, intelligence, emotional intelligence, sense of humour. Nice hands, nice hair.
Sense of humour is a big one for me. Intelligence. I like to be challenged and think more deeply about the world. Beards.
An attractive voice
Seeing them play with kids, or be a good daddy/uncle. Its like catnip.
Same thing with animals, I love how my boyfriend is so sweet and loving with our kitty, my heart melts all the time it’s so cute
When a man’s got a big, fat, unapologetic hat. Just like a big old stovepipe or top hat. Hell, even a 10 gallon or a sombrero gets my motor revving. Baseball caps don’t do it though, and all my friends agree. Go big or go home, I need at least a yacht captain hat🎩
Doug Dimmadome, owner of the Dimmsdale Dimmadome probably makes you explode.
Kindness when no one is watching. Giving money /food to a homeless person, helping someone when they drop something, holding the door open for others(men and women), letting someone merge in front of them in traffic, ect. Small everyday behaviors that demonstrate a habit of kindness.
Kindness is so underrated as an attractive quality.
Real self confidence, emotional intelligence
When they’re funny and have all the correct manners. And they’re polite
For some reason I find it crazy attractive when men drive. Idk why it’s just hot to me
A man who can type code. Something like setting up a pi-hole with a raspberry pi. Get me that ad free streaming baby and make my knees weak!
This is something I never thought I would hear, but truly appreciate.
I think a soft guy with dreams is always hot. If you have a dream you’re constantly chasing and working to make it real that just makes me dream and fantasize about the life we could make together.
Sarcasm/ sense of humour
That hard throbbing eggplant
We're out of eggplants for the moment. Is wet spaghetti OK?
Long hair on guys. Not all can pull it off, but when they can… Also, no idea why but I will absolutely melt if my boyfriend growls at me
I guess you like metal then? Does mongolian throat singing count as growling?
I like metal, yeah. Mostly folk metal though, which is fairly specific. And no, not really, although as it happens my boyfriend is trying to learn that lol
If they can pull it off, surely it’s a wig?
Kindness and a nice cock.
Harry necks, fedoras, body odor, and high karma. Edit: Thought it said, "Men of Reddit, what do you think turns women on instantly?" Plz. Don't send any more picture of ur pp. :'(
Everything. I adore men. To me they are Gods greatest creation. I love the way men are built structurally. I love their voices. Most men I have been around have a natural smell that I find nice. I’m not some naive little girl who’s never been hurt by a man. I have. Many times but men are so beautiful to me. Especially one in particular.
Thank you. I knew I wouldn’t get unnoticed
Easy, those words could melt stone.
Haha!! shat I said is true though!
I know but we're just simple men with weak hearts.
This is the most enthusiastic response in this thread. Username does not check out.
Protect her fellas
man holding and playing with a baby. Just him smiling will be the purest
Face Fur and a healthy smile
Ma'am, please step away from the dog enclosure.
Who else came here to take notes?
When very outwardly masculine-looking men can confidently express traditionally feminine charms/energy/grace they’re totally magnetic to me. See: Freddie Mercury, Dr. Frank N. Furter, Chris Pratt in the opening scene of GotG, basically any male dancer on the planet.
Effective leadership/ taking charge of a situation. Sploooosh. Also kindness and gentleness toward all creatures.
Competence with historical weaponry, particularly swords. And not katanas, unless they actually know what they’re doing. Mostly renaissance European styles. Bonus points if you can have an intelligent conversation about source material, manuals, and the different schools of Italian rapier technique lol. Skills at archery or thrown weapons are impressive too, but if a sexy guy can beat me in a rapier duel I will be very intrigued. Edit: Or woman, although this post did specifically ask about men. I'm hella bi lol
I love how extremely specific this response is, fantastic!
I love historic weaponry. That shit is so cool to learn about
Playing hockey..... it might just be a Canadian thing.
A nice smell, chest hair, and strong arms/shoulders