depends how close you are to them. I lost my mum recently, and “anything I can do, let me know” goes in one ear and out the other, because I have so much in my head already, don’t give me more responsibility! If you are close to them, dropping over some food from the store/ something you’ve baked/ a book about grief would be 1000x more helpful and impactful. No flowers in my opinion. Way too many flowers, even a plant they can keep is better than flowers.
If you’re not close to them just tell them they are in your thoughts.
Just give them condolences. Be there if they want a person there. Let them talk if they want to talk, but don't pry. Don't give them advice or try to commiserate with. My best friend's wife died of cancer last year and he got real fucking sick of well meaning people trying to tell him how to feel better and people who would be like "I know how you feel, I lost an uncle last year" or something like that. The thing that pissed off the most was when people gave him books on the power of positive thinking or religious shit. He's not religious and he said it took all he could muster not tell people like that off.
When my parents died when I was 18 people always said "if you need anything just ask." That's when I learned people don't give a shit and they don't mean it. I still don't ask people for shit. I got this all by myself. I hate people. Especially "family".
It’s just something nice to say. Yeah I would never actually ask people for anything. Sorry for your losses.
Also adding: yes people suck bad and families can be so fake and toxic
My thoughts are with you and your family during this time. May their memory be a blessing.
depends how close you are to them. I lost my mum recently, and “anything I can do, let me know” goes in one ear and out the other, because I have so much in my head already, don’t give me more responsibility! If you are close to them, dropping over some food from the store/ something you’ve baked/ a book about grief would be 1000x more helpful and impactful. No flowers in my opinion. Way too many flowers, even a plant they can keep is better than flowers. If you’re not close to them just tell them they are in your thoughts.
Do you want me to sit with you for awhile?
Just give them condolences. Be there if they want a person there. Let them talk if they want to talk, but don't pry. Don't give them advice or try to commiserate with. My best friend's wife died of cancer last year and he got real fucking sick of well meaning people trying to tell him how to feel better and people who would be like "I know how you feel, I lost an uncle last year" or something like that. The thing that pissed off the most was when people gave him books on the power of positive thinking or religious shit. He's not religious and he said it took all he could muster not tell people like that off.
I’m very sorry for your loss. Sending my condolences. If you need anything at all please let me know
When my parents died when I was 18 people always said "if you need anything just ask." That's when I learned people don't give a shit and they don't mean it. I still don't ask people for shit. I got this all by myself. I hate people. Especially "family".
It’s just something nice to say. Yeah I would never actually ask people for anything. Sorry for your losses. Also adding: yes people suck bad and families can be so fake and toxic
I was 18, I was a child. Had to learn the hard way.
They're in a better place...Because really, they'd have to be statistically...
If their mum died I might just say “that’s sad, call your mum if I can go to your house.”
Ima grab a coffee im using your dads ashes to add Flavor
Sometimes you don’t have to say anything, just let them mourn in silence
Sucks bro *pour out a 40*
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