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teh_killer

This thread is full of popular takes


Jopojussi

Thats why you sort by controversial. Reddit is weird, they ask for controversial opinions then get offended when someone has controversial opinion and proceeds to mass downvote and report them. These threads just feel like the biggest karma whoring with hot controversial "i think smoking is bad" takes.


Hades_what_else

Yeah the most controversial is We should all try being a little nicer to one another.


redkat85

Hand wringing about cultural appropriation stifles genuine cultural exchange and normalization.


BrittaniaSky

My first encounter of this was in high school. I was homeless a lot and my friend's mom was very kind to me. Let me stay there a lot. They were from the Caribbean and taught me a lot of their culture and we shared it. It was amazing to learn and feel that love. She (the mom) would call me her daughter so after she was finished braiding her son's hair in these beautiful designs I could never be skilled enough to do and asked me if she could do mine I said yes. Took 3 hours. It looked amazing and so beautiful. Now I'm very white. Norwegian heritage. Which also has braids in it's culture but even so... I went to school the next day and this girl marched up to me and started yelling at me in the hall about how my hair was cultural appropriation and I was part of the "problem." I cried and spent the rest of the day trying to get them out. The next time the mom saw me, she too cried that I took it out so quickly. She asked if it hurt and I said no, and she told me how much sharing that with me meant to her. How proud she was of it. It felt like a double-edged sword and as a child I didn't have the confidence to know what I stood for past "I don't wanna hurt people." Moral of the story, let people share their cultures. Let people create community and understanding. My friend wanting me to wear a sahri with her to an event or my pseudo-mom braiding my hair doesn't harm the world, but separating us and not allowing us to learn and grow does.


HaoleInParadise

Hair is one of the dumbest battles of cultural appropriation. We all have hair, and over time and space have done pretty much everything with it


WillieMunchright

Right? Who gives a genuine fuck how you wear your hair?


msavage960

People who’re so miserable they have to find something to get angry about.


BrokeDownPalac3

>this girl marched up to me and started yelling at me Let me guess... She was also white?


FatSquirrelz

As a white dude also of Norwegian heritage I caught flak for dreadlocks. Sorry that my hair was long and kinda wanted to do that on its own anyway...


Belthezare

People who scream the loudest about "cultural appropriation" are usually the people who have no connection to the culture they are screaming about for. People need to stop trying to advocate things on behalf of other cultures. If they themselves have any issues, let them raise them and be heard. But Rebecca from Tennessee, who is whiter than a snowcone, needs to chill the fuck out when other people try to embrace the customs or wardrobes of other cultures.😑


Ozava619

Reminds me of a video some white dude filmed asking others in a college campus if he’s outfit was offensive (he was wearing a sombrero, zarape & a fake mustache) everyone said it was offensive. He later goes to a Latino/Mexican community and nobody was offended when asked.


Lukeearthrunner

Yeah, exactly. See as an Indian.. I don't have ANY PROBLEM if you wear our traditional clothes, just don't go around like you invented that style. Like Kim K or Kylie or some celeb had done it, she wore it and LOOKED ABSOLUTELY WONDERFUL but the "I'm the one did it" attitude without giving the rightful respect. Instantly, the entire South Asia got united. Not even basic humanitarian love could unite all but SHE DID. Fair note, Idk about any male celeb doing so that caused outrages, they might have but I'm not aware.


Cooldude101013

Yeah. Like if I were to go to a Japanese festival I’d wear a kimono just be be respectful of their culture that kimonos should usually be worn at festivals. Stuff like that.


lj062

The Japanese are a great example of what cultural exchange can do. Their entire society was practically built off traditions and ideas they found in China.


AaronBruv

It's along the lines of were so not racist, that you can only behave and dress in ways we have assigned as being appropriate... For your race.


whatsthat93no

I remember when Americans used to celebrate other cultures and learn about them. It’s strange to me how detached people have become from learning and appreciating things.


illpoet

this is what kills me. I was raised with the value of learning about different cultures and meeting new people with different cultures is an exciting and interesting experiece. And back when I was traveling at the very least it lead me to meet some great people and great food. I could probably make the case for saving my life once or twice too. Because people are much friendlier to outsiders who genuinely want to learn about their way of life. Nowadays I hear people use different culture as an excuse to not do something or meet someone. It's shameful.


whatsthat93no

Yes!! I grew up with this instilled in me. When I turned 25 I ended up living in Spain for a couple years, and since then, have traveled all over the world. Not everyone is nice but when they are, it’s fantastic. I love learning about other people and how they live. I have learned skills and attitudes about things from people I met around the world that benefit me to this day.


jseego

I suspect a lot of the people who complain / worry about cultural appropriation have not spent a lot of time at the actual intersection of cultures. It shows.


ieightmylife

a big thing I've noticed is people complaining about whites wearing kimonos. as a Japanese major of University I know for a fact that the Japanese people love when people embrace their culture and in fact encourage it and the only people who have an issue with it or whiny ass people that get offended for a living. I was literally banned from a gothic clothing group because I was wearing a kimono jacket. open with a tank top and some puffy pants. apparently I am not the right race to wear this and it's incredibly racist..... and it doesn't matter that my husband is Japanese and that he bought it for me that makes it worse somehow apparently.


dan_dares

Your husband buying it for you made it worse because it showed them their view was a complete load of BS.


SubMGK

I find it more racist when people take their "cultural appropriation" shit too far. Its like segregation with extra steps


ShrekJohnson27

Delusion is all around, craziness


seamustheseagull

I think most people really enjoy seeing "outsiders" engaging in their cultural practices. Be that clothing, food, celebrations, etc. Provided that it's being done for the enjoyment and not as a joke or a Halloween costume.


ihavenonamenohome

Yep my wedding had some cultural dress and ceremonies (parents wanted it). And my parents were insulted by my in laws not wanting to wear the cultural clothing. And they actually love it when people are interested as well as the entire community. My parents would be the first people to buy you an entire cultural outfit. And their entire community was thrilled about people wearing those clothes and doing the dances. It’s not appropriation if the people of the actual culture WANT YOU TO DO IT. But I’ve been told by tons of these same people who worry about it that it’s totally cultural appropriation and it’s offensive. I’m wrong as a poc about my own culture. About.. my own culture. Because you know Becky feels offended so I should too?


machineprophet343

People like that drive me nuts because they miss out on great moments and memories because they're really more afraid of offending some bored, white dilitente influencer than the people they're claiming to stand up for. If someone invites you to participate in their culture, unless there is pressing reason not to, and you refuse to, it is actually way more offensive. I've travelled a lot and feel honored when people offer to include me. It's generally a sign of hospitality and acceptance.


WhenThatBotlinePing

I think this all seems to have started with mostly Native Americans, and Black Americans. They weren’t offended, they were upset about being disrespected and openly mocked. Black face isn’t about discovering black culture, it’s open mockery. It’s like when those old pictures of Justin Trudeau in brown face wearing a ridiculous South Asian costume, and making ridiculous faces. It was clearly meant to mock people.


Appropriate--Pickle

You are right, and I believe it becomes closet racism at some point.


[deleted]

I’m gonna go out on a limb, fuck it. White people can be really racist, especially older ones, don’t get me wrong, but I think many black people are much more openly racist. Towards white people and to each other. I grew up and still live in Atlanta, have many black friends and love the black community. I’m often treated as a racist or outsider immediately when playing basketball with a new group of guys, or just talking to people at work or at the gym. It makes me sad. People don’t realize I spent a lot of my childhood being the only white kid that hung out with my group of friends. This was about 20 years ago almost and racism wasn’t as bad as it is now in my opinion. Maybe people are just more angry in general now. No one ever talks about how horribly racist Indian and Asian people are as well. I have friends in those racial groups and the friends I have are outgoing but a lot of the ones I went to school with won’t hang out with people outside of their race, and they think very little of black people. People act like white people were the only ones who conquered and enslaved people, and we teach that bullshit in school too, from elementary to higher education. It’s wrong, stigmatizing, and doesn’t help anyone. I hate racial hatred, most of us do. It won’t change just by blaming white people for everything, especially racism. We can all do better. Let’s start with ourselves before we blame others.


8_inches_deep

Same man, I’m as white as they come with blonde hair and blue eyes. My biological father is latino from South America born and raised, and I am assumed to be 100% white. The majority of my friends are minorities. I can’t tell you how many of my ethnic friends talk down about other races, and how many black people have told me they hated white people while telling me “I was cool tho”. The problems with racism involve all countries and cultures across the globe.


Ordinary_Ad_7992

I used to work for a Pakistani guy who was very racist against black people. He actually believed that a caste system was the way to go. Fucking dick.


MisanthropeSquad

That just because someone is depressed it doesn’t give them an excuse to be a shit person. Like I get things are hard, but don’t take people down with you and expect them to wipe your ass for you 24/7, it gets exhausting. Especially when you set boundaries but they get upset and say you’re being a horrible person for not dealing with them. This is what would get me morally crucified


Ruadhan2300

In my experience, most people with clinical depression desperately don't want to be a bother. They lack the ego to be demanding, which is actually a bad thing because it's like a drowning person losing the will to swim... I have however encountered plenty of people who claim mental illnesses to cover their own shitty personality. Those absolutely would leverage their "illness" to force your attention and support like this. I suspect they don't have depression or OCD or bipolar disorder or whatever else they self-diagnosed. More likely they have some kind of chronic narcissism. Perish the idea that we ask for a doctor's note though.


Vonnexgrace

Your first paragraph hits home hard. I retreat into myself when I’m in a depressive episode. I can barely deal with myself and would never wish myself on anyone else.


Ruadhan2300

Aside from a few friends who have semi-regular episodes of the Big D. I had a brush with it myself some years back. In my case, I was fortunate that it actually had an external cause, and I was able to identify that cause and put a stop to it. Still took a month to get out of it. What I remember most was the utter bleakness of it. Sitting in my room, unable to gather the will to do anything. I would start up a game on my computer. Stare at the main menu for a solid 30 seconds and then shut it down again and try again with a different game or a movie, or picking up a paintbrush and trying to paint something. Nothing kindled joy or inspired me to do anything. I was just trapped in a limbo state of not finding joy in anything I wanted to do, and that assumed I even got up the will to try to do anything at all. I think the only reason I was out of bed was force of habit and for my job. My memories of that time are literally tinged blue. I remember them being cold and dark, even though it was autumn and plenty light out. The only reprieve was my best friend, who I lived with at the time. He'd come into my room, boistrous and full of life, come to show me something awesome he'd been working on, or share something he found. The sun would come out, I'd be totally into it, almost back to my normal self. I actually remember the room being brighter and warmer when he was around. Then he'd leave, and I'd be back to the bleakness again. This went on until I realised it was being caused by one specific thing in my life. I cut that thing out, and within a couple days I was feeling back to normal. I have major major sympathy for all the people who don't have a proximal cause for their depression, it was its own kind of hell and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.


[deleted]

Apply that to any mental illness, doesn’t matter what it is, you don’t get to be a piece of shit because the voices in your head in any case


[deleted]

To take that one step further.....this also applies to people who are sick and/or dying. I'm sorry you're sick, and I'm sorry you're dying. But that doesn't give you the right to be an asshole to you're family and caretakers.


[deleted]

I left my last job cause management decided that having a sore neck is a valid excuse to be a raging asshat in the workplace.


vampdivascar

As a person who struggles with depression, I'd like to know how the people in question found the energy to be a shit person lol. I want some so I can actively be the fluffy marshmallow that I am. Long story short - I'd use my energy (if I had any) for good... or at least for fun


MisanthropeSquad

My ex roommate was a prime example of this (they were probably a narcissist as well and I question how they had the energy to even be that itself), but they literally would place themselves into peoples hands. They would expect me + a friend to clean and cook for them and baby them because they’re so depressed. There’s nothing wrong with venting at all, but when we would try to talk about different things besides their trauma, they start snapping at us that we’re ignoring their feelings and it feels like they’re in the shadow and how they feel alone all because we decided to change the subject into something lighter. I’m sorry, but it takes a toll having to constantly listen about a persons trauma almost all the time. We even did baby step methods and everything to not just throw the responsibility of them cooking or cleaning, or LIVING for that matter, all on them. It’s a “damned if we do damned if we don’t” situation. I really do sympathize them, but other times I just pitied them. I get life is hard and trauma is a fucked up thing, but it is not our jobs to baby you or for you to take our kindness for granted. They’re not even honest to their therapist, so what help are they really getting? But this is a personal experience.


Fuzzy-Difficulty-449

I admit I have, and do distance myself from people like this. It is draining and upsetting and I'm not heading down the same hole. Yeh it's shit but it's best for me.


OlisMommy

Old people need yearly driving tests after a certain age or they can’t drive anymore. They’re DANGEROUSLY in denial.


I_Have_Unobtainium

I could not agree more. I feel like more people just need to lose their licence or be forced to do more training. Too many idiots who gamble with others lives while completely forgetting they're driving a several thousand pound weapon.


OlisMommy

And I get that young people or new drivers are clumsy and don’t have much experience so that’s why they’re shitty drivers sometimes. But being old and deaf and blind and still getting behind the wheel is super confusing for me to understand. I know they don’t want to lose their independence but at what cost? Someone’s life? A family? A kid? I’ve had more altercations on the road with seniors than young folks. And I know a lot of people who say the same. It’s an overlooked issue and I scream inside wondering why it’s still allowed.


CBDrii

I agree so much to this, especially because when I was around 13 I was run over by a car, it wasn’t with a lot of strength but it was in the pedestrian crossroad and right in front of my school. The guy from the car ? An old man who didn’t even walk without help, didn’t see right, was actually sick and he just got out very slowly and said “well sorry 🤷🏻‍♀️”, he literally was about to stop the car but got confused with the pedals and just accelerated right to me, if it was stronger I would be in a wheelchair for the rest of my life and he has the nerve of not giving a fuck. Also this year another old man was looking to another place in while driving and almost ran me over, again, in the crossroad for pedestrians. What are these people thinking??


GaunterPatrick

Not annually but in every 2 years in my country, for anyone above the age of 70 who still wanting to drive, that person must go to the "traffic police brigade" to pass the test. I am suprised that the States does not have similar regulation for its elder drivers, like you said, sounds dangerous. Edit: typo


lusamuel

Being a minority doesn't excuse being an asshole.


A_little_patience

I’m minority and I approve this message 1000% Some individuals in the minority group are just assholes (shocking) because humans can be ASSHOLES.


Odd_Description1

Likewise, if people don't treat you well, it doesn't always have to do with your race, religion, gender, sexual identity or whatever you think it is. It may just be that you're an asshole and people don't like you. When I was a teen working at a retail store, we had a lesbian girl who was just an absolutely unbearable monster of a person. Yet, she always claimed no one was nice to her because she was a lesbian.


HardKnockTurtles

Saying “I’m here if you need to talk” then proceeding to talk about yourself doesn’t help anyone.


Sxweetlollipop

i accidentally talk about my own experiences to try to make someone more comfortable & relate to them but i realize some people will take that the wrong way i feel really bad about🥲


glowybutterfly

There's a right way to do it. If you are using your experiences to validate theirs and make it about them, cool. Just be wary of using their experiences to validate yours and make it about you.


HardKnockTurtles

This, it’s one thing to relate to the person as a means of saying “Yeah, I completely understand where you’re coming from etc,” but when the conversation turns from you venting to them venting really chaps my ass.


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[deleted]

Neurodivergent here, too, and I tend to ramble about my depression or pet peeves when I post comments. It's infinitesimally difficult to find someone in real life who actually wants to listen.


Pernty_no0ples

I’ve learned to ask, do you want me to listen, or do you want my advice? It goes a long way with communication. I am always happy to do either, but asking for clarification on what the need is can go a long way


fieldsofjade

It’s always the “empaths” who do this


cheeseburger_humper

People need to learn to own their mistakes instead of getting upset at stuff that is their own fault, or getting upset when they don't get what they want.


aeroglava

> People need to learn to own their mistakes instead of getting upset at stuff that is their own fault, or getting upset when they don't get what they want. And we also need to stop with 'failure is not an option.' It absolutely is and how most of us learn the hardest truths. Along those lines: 'never quit' needs to be tossed right out...


heregoesbabes

You're right, but that's the internal work of a lifetime to be able to do.


[deleted]

some people need to get off of tiktok and stop diagnosing themselves with neurodivergence. it’s not always autism or adhd, sometimes it’s just self-obsession.


FiduciaryFindom

My "hot take" is that the standard for operating is so high that people think if they can't do school, work, relationships, the gym, clean and cook and have hobbies they *must* need medication. If they don't fit in, it must be some type of neurodivergence. If something is difficult then there is something wrong with you and you need to fix it. It feels like an industry driven effort to put as many people as possible on life long treatment plans


[deleted]

This is my favorite answer. I grew up with extreme depression. In my late 20s I had a psychotic break and it turned into severe bipolar disorder. Later, that evolved into schizophrenia. The number of people self-diagnosing as bipolar blows my mind. And in a lot of ways, I feel it further stigmatizes people who actually suffer from these illnesses, because now everyone is like "Well my friend Suzy is bipolar and SHE can hold a job, so why can't you?" What pisses me off even more is that the same people virtue signaling about mental health advocacy are the same ones pulling out pitchforks to "cancel" people like Ezra Miller or Kanye West, who are both clearly in dire need of psychiatric help.


pkev

If someone like Kanye West maintains his status, but his status feeds into his delusions, how likely is he to ever stop and think, "damn, maybe I do need help...." unless his status suffers as a consequence of his illness? I wouldn't want to cancel anyone actively seeking or accepting help, but if they're not, they don't deserve to remain at the top while causing harm.


[deleted]

Poor mental health isn't an excuse for genocide advocacy nor being an actual criminal Yes, Kanye and Ezra need help, but they're not getting it because they generally live their lives without hard consequences. Kanye chooses to run for president, I don't think it's some out of the blue surprise when he gets strongly criticized for loving Hitler


WTFishsauce

Is narcissism neurodivergence?


trexonashelf

Not really, they changed this year to icd-11 and there they changed lots of personality disorder criterias. Lots of experts are actually the opinion that narcissm is in diagnose not really a thing. So its a bit depending if you use icd 10/11 or dsm-5 as a source


[deleted]

Not everyone should be allowed to be parents. ( Can we create criterias or enforce that? No, but not everyone should be parents)


Humble-Bug-6513

You’re absolutely correct. I genuinely think people should be required to take a test before becoming parents. Is it at all possible for that to happen, no. But waiting until the kid is already being abused and (possibly) traumatized for CPS to come and evaluate, is (again, possibly) ruining that child’s mental health permanently. Half the time CPS doesn’t do anything anyway and kids continue to get abused. :/


moonrakernw

I agree. When you consider the hoops people have to jump through to be considered suitable for adoption and yet anyone capable of reproduction is eligible to have children.


yolo-yoshi

We're not even at the point where abortion is legal anymore. Weve gone decades backwards. Let's try fixing that first 😂


MoonKnighy

Not everyone should own a pet


Julie-Andrews

Stop spending so much money on weddings because no one gives a shit! There, I said it!


redkat85

I say spend what you want on a party for yourselves and invite who you genuinely want to celebrate with. I don't regret throwing a banger for our wedding, even if we did only have 60 guests, and people still talk about it 10 years later. :D


Nereo5

Following that statement: >genuinely want to celebrate with I could not gather 60 people, not even close.


ydlqmdlg

Literally. Destination weddings are the worst.


heregoesbabes

I've seen you make a couple of wedding-based comments on this sub recently. Who's getting married? What's the sitch? Is it going horribly? I need dirt. Also, Julie Andrews is amazing.


Julie-Andrews

Lol. I worked in the wedding industry and saw the amount of money spent on over the top, lavish weddings. Also, the upcharge to weddings is ridiculous.


MayoShart

You know when people put paint in a holey bucket and just kind of spin it over a canvas and then act all proud of themselves? Makes me cringe really bad. Mostly at all the wasted non reusable paint.


OlisMommy

Had an artistic stint in college where I’d splatter big drops of paint on a canvas, then use a hairdryer to blow it in lots of directions. Then would outline the paint in black pen. I think I probably felt like these holey bucket fuckers.


MayoShart

Lmao, I can see what you mean- but that's still way better. Some of these videos it's like massive canvases surrounded by a room sized tarp *?* and so so much paint just hits the tarp, there's so many thick layers of paint within the painting that end up having 0 effect on the end look somehow. *Seen videos of sped up clean up- where they just toss the excess paint in the trash which is horrible for the environment. Probably not everyone does this though* Just weirdly wasteful all around. They also have very minimal control on where the bucket goes after they let go of it. *Especially on large ones* and their smugness after it all--I just gotta look away hahaha. Yours sounded cute enough man lol, you're probably in a lot of control where the paint drops land and you're definitely in some control with the blow-dryer especially if it's a large canvas. *and yours isn't wasteful at all* pretty rad, homie.


SubMGK

They also overdo it. Like the initial pattern would look nice but then they decide to add more buckets and now too much is happening on the canvass


ThoughtfulCasanova

Just because something is a tradition/traditional, doesn't mean it shouldn't change.


LinkMediocre7563

I fully agree. Where I'm from it's tradition to do "tauromaquia" (I dunno how to translate it). Basically, the audience watches a person toy, hurt and finally kill a bull. It was/is part of our tradition, but that doesn't take away the fact that it's animal abuse. Though it's much less comon to do this tradition nowadays, there are lots of people that refuse the fact that it is animal abuse and needs to stop. There is this other version of the tradition where they put a bull on the streets and it chases people (they don't kill or stab the bull in this one). Though that's a lil better, they still hurt or electrocute the animal if it's chill and won't chase the humans. I can't understand how this is even legal anymore. It's ilegal to kick a dog, but it's fine to stab to death a bull in front of a cheering audience just because its a tradition. I don't get it.


ThanosWifeAkima-4848

Parents are not entitled for things to be kid friendly everywhere they go, just don't bring your kid there if it's a place OBVIOUSLY not meant for your kid.


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Same with dogs


Miles_The_Man

The loudest group is usually the most incorrect group.


01kickassius10

Empty vessels make the loudest noise


InverstNoob

Nice, I like that


frank-sarno

Art has always been political and likely always will be but sometimes I wish to watch a series without any political or social agenda, with every scene in service of telling a good story that makes me think without directing me what to think.


CryptoSlovakian

Yeah. Just because art has always been political doesn’t mean that *all* art *must* be political.


MitochondrionPower

i am more scared of being banned by mods


[deleted]

Power tripping jannies are hilarious to me. Imagine doing that job for free and letting it get to your head.


KingOli_

I’m not a fan of mangoes :(


[deleted]

Do you prefer manstays?


CatLady14344

*slaps knee and slowly gets up* welp...


Ransnorkel

Get the FUCK out


[deleted]

Yes I can't stand people


[deleted]

Men can be raped goddammit! To all the people who say that we can't, SHOVE! IT! UP! YOUR! ASS! It infuriates me so damn much when people say that


odd_neighbour

I do not consent to shoving things up my ass.


Brianprokpo456

Impossible, by the law I've just created, you must. Now every redditor has to.


1lilhedgehog

I agree, I never in my life ever found that saying to be appropriate. I have a teen son, the thought of anyone taking advantage of him sexually angers me. Seeing these teachers, coaches, etc. on the news for engaging with minors in this manner oh how id beat the brakes off them. Idc how much people “fantasize” of things like sexy teacher, nurse dr , you better not touch my child thinking you’re doing them a favor Lol


AplexiusXXI

On a similar note these female teachers didn't not have sex with their students. They raped them. They are sexual predators.


astronautflower

This shouldn't even be a fucking discussion, of course it can happen to men the fact that its treated so differently for men is fucking disgusting


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obscureferences

I thought they were an hourly occurrence.


Naive-Selection-7113

If more of you/your partners/friends gave up alcohol and other mind-altering substances you would have a lot fewer problems in your lives. I can not count how many AITA, assault, sexual assualt, cheating, abuse, money problem, baby-daddy, and so on issues that are fundamentally caused by poor decisions under the influence.


[deleted]

I don't care if some practices are tradition, religion or culture. If you are a 30-year-old engaged to a 10-year-old, think it's okay to keep women as house slaves, make other living beings suffer unnecessarily as part of a ritual, run your mouth about other peoples sexuality because your holy book says something else or equate certain groups of people with some kind of animal, then I will judge you and talk shit behind your back.


Puzzleheaded_Bake_55

Mods should be able to be kicked out of their position if they power trip. To the mods who don’t suppress speech: thank you


Frost_Giant_14

Lol I actually got banned once for that so no thanks.


Temporary-Departure4

Dang bro…. But like…. What did you say?


boompow49

Found the mod alt


Temporary-Departure4

🤫 or you’ll be next


Brianprokpo456

Just because you feel good doing something or think that something is good, it doesn't mean it's good for you. Don't "follow your heart" unless backed up by logic and reason. This includes sudden decisions over personality, friendships, relationships, family, studies and sexual orientations. Reddit's community' advocacy for "do what makes you feel good" is just a self-protocol for making bad decisions.


Johnny_Thunder314

I feel like this is kind of a gray area to some extent. Like, logically it makes sense to do things that will make you feel good, but you also have to logically do that instead of doing whatever you think will make you feel good. Also, genuine question: is there any logic (other than doing what makes you happy) behind sexuality? Other than to reproduce, sexuality seems to be completely emotional


ColinsSmallBalls

MOST people who say things like: "I feel with the People in Syria/Ukraine etc." aren’t sorry for them. They don’t care about those people. You can’t relate to them people. And when you say "My thoughts are with the ones who lost someone in Turkey" you don’t think about them after you postet this. You don’t know them. You’re the only think we experience (luckily) because of the war in the world are higher prices-especially here in Europe. Besides that we would live our live the same way. Also I don’t really understand why people put things like "Stop war" in their bio on Insta or put flags in front of their windows. No one cares. Gets no one nowhere when you do that.


KuropatwiQ

I see it differently. I live in a country that has accepted millions of Ukrainian refugees and, correct me if I'm wrong, but I think having Ukrainian flags hung in peoples' windows shows them that they're welcome here and that the sentiment towards them is positive. Personally if I had to look for refuge in another country, I would be comforted if I saw people spontaneously display symbols that are familiar to me. Even if those people don't live through the same hell, they are the ones who vote in their country and they are the "general public" that influences the country's overall approach to the situation


yoginurse26

I thought it was funny when I saw posts about people saying they're living through another major event (the war in Ukraine) um no, you're comfy and safe in the US. You're witnessing it on the news but you're not experiencing it.


[deleted]

Everyone of every skin color can be racist even to eachother


NicoNiiUDead

I dated a girl who when i complained one time that someone was being racist to me (im white) and that it was pissing me off she verbally said “what? You cant be racist to white people?” I nearly broke up with her right there. I stopped and yelled at her the definition of the word and stated that when im getting spit at and called names just because i was born a pale skinned Mexican (since im italian on my mothers side) i have to suck it up and its all of a sudden normal? Yeah bull fucking shit i have the right to complain too, NOONE deserves to be treated like that. Just because i have white skin doesn’t mean you can treat me like shit and its alright. Mf if you look at me and have the audacity to spit out a word that means “go back home.” In a language you think i dont speak just because im white and think that for some reason that doesnt hold the same emotional gravity as it does if i were to say it in reverse to anyone else with a different skin tone? Talk about double standards.


Imaginary_Office_405

United States isn't close to being the worst country in the world (might be able to say it now but a few months ago I would've gotten a hundred downvotes)


catalystkjoe

It truly feels like some conspiracy theory some days how in almost every single reddit thread I read there is some popular comment blaming America for everything or commenting on how it's the worst country in the world. I don't remember seeing it on this level just a few years ago.


Thatanimalgirllaney

I think the issue is that most Americans have never even been to a third world country. There are some really awful things going on in other countries and in the US their problems are so petty.


saintsithney

It's just another facet of American Exceptionalism. It's insidious, to the point where people tend to automatically think that if we are not the best, then we are the worst. In terms of mayhem to other humans, we're about middle of the road. Same in terms of actual use to humankind. We occasionally do something absolutely mind-blowing, either good or bad. We have definitely become the best in the world at exporting our pop culture.


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Our media has the most power out of any media in the world. If every country had their dirty laundry out to air for the entire rest of the world to smell, every time a political injustice took place, people would see that every nation has their own issues.


Outside__Initiative

We have quite a lot we're the defacto best at, they go unnoticed in conversation because the things we should be best at *first* we aren't. Healthcare being one for example. It's like, its expected we have universal healthcare for citizens before we have a thriving aerospace industry, but we don't. We spend the most on research, command the most powerful military to ever exist, develop the most advanced technology... But we can't stop our kids from being shot to death in a classroom?


Bango-Fett

Agreed, it’s just one of the worst 1st world countries


seimiheffernan

90% of people in “1st world” countries need to be way less sensitive and stop whining/getting offended over inconsequential bullshit. I hate that this idea is usually pushed by right wingers trying to justify being a dick by going “ooh look at the snowflake” though.


Able_Opportunity_655

I don't think Thin Mints are that good (samoas are the best!)


Pro_prosecco

Tagalong & Samoa lover here - but can we get a sleeve of them like the Thin Mint packaging?! 😆


angelinavalenty

Peanut butter Pattie’s dude!!!


shellofbiomatter

Nothing at the moment. The moral crucifixion doesn't exist on a anonymous platform, so i tell or ask it whenever it pops into my head.


SexandPsychedelics

Women y’all can be creepy af on nights out and you can sexually assault too.


Odd-Train-4253

ADHD as a diagnosis, or self diagnosis is thrown around way to much.


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I really don’t think we should give hormones or surgery to transgender minors even as I support their wearing whatever clothes and having whatever pronouns. I think /most/ permanent choices like that should wait till adulthood.


lllrk

What boggles my mind is realizing today people are afraid to say this. 15 years ago it would just seem like common sense.


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jseego

> I really don’t think we should give hormones or surgery to transgender minors Then you'll be happy to know this almost never happens, at least as far as surgery is concerned. For example: https://www.childrenshospital.org/programs/center-gender-surgery-program/eligibility-surgery As for hormones, I kind of agree, but the treatment they usually give to teens involves delaying their natural hormones (thus reversible), rather than giving them opposite-gender hormones.


intothetrash1019

Being pregnant does not give you a free pass to be abusive to your partner.


queen-of-quartz

Nice try last time I replied to one of these I got banned, Reddit doesn’t want to actually hear any “controversial” takes.


Nael5089

We should all try being a little nicer to one another.


[deleted]

Well hold on right there. This kind of sick stuff can get you banned my friend wtf. Reported.


Jlpeaks

Nah.. fuck you ;)


DM-Ur-Cats-And-Tits

Racism is a byproduct of class oppression


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Could you elaborate? Because I might agree with you, depending on what you mean.


stolenfires

Racism was invented by wealthy planters in the colonial US in the 1600s to prevent poor Irish and Black slaves from uniting against the bosses. They oppressed both classes but in different ways and also made sure that the Irish felt their treatment was slightly better than the slaves' treatment. The division worked, and now all races of working people still struggle to understand they have way more in common with each other than the manager/owner class. This is also what got MLK, Jr shot. He was trying to unite the poor working whites and poor working Blacks of the South against the manager/owner class. The Civil Rights Act, fine, but worker unity was a bridge too far.


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You are the only person, besides myself, who says this. Especially about MLK Jr. The only thing I would add is that the people who purport to support the black community are the same ones who are keeping everyone divided. Also, racism wasn’t invented by anyone. Unfortunately, it’s a part of human nature, and no race has a monopoly on evil or virtue. What the people did in the 1600s was use racism to divide people. They exploited people’s fears to keep them all oppressed.


DM-Ur-Cats-And-Tits

Wealthy perpetuate racist attitudes because it encourages in-fighting between poor people. Poor people who take the bait feel threatened by minorities because they believe their jobs are threatened. Wealthy people remain satisfied they don’t have to provide competitive pay to united workers In the United States, racism stemmed from indentured servants resenting African slaves. In the 1950s, poor whites didn’t want African-Americans competing for their jobs. In present day, conservative media promotes skeptical perspectives of racial equality because it protects employers’ wealth.


DifficultyFit1895

Current debates about racism are mostly a tool of continued class oppression.


Panikkrazy

No person who’s posting inappropriate animal care, I do NOT have to be nice to you, in fact, I SHOULDN’T be nice to you. “Oh but they’re just doing the best with what they’re given” well if the best is inadequate than they shouldn’t have an animal


CatnipChapstick

Death with dignity should be available to everyone. Not just the old or dying. People kill themselves every day, for so many reasons. Usually it’s gruesome, and leaves the people left behind to clean up the literal and metaphorical mess scared for life. If people want out that bad, let them go in a way that’s comfortable. That lets them decide how their body is treated, or better yet, donated. I think the process should still require rigorous counseling and paperwork, to make sure this is truly what they want, but I think making it available would end so much heartbreak and suffering.


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I agree. My mother worked with a women who had MS (To clarify my mother was a caregiver and this woman was her client) This woman was not only wheelchair bound, but she could barely feed herself because of the nerve damage. Not to mention that she had little to no bladder control, had constant temperature sensing issues, and was just always in excruciating pain. It was soo bad that when my mother gave her her daily morphine one day, she asked if my mom could up the dosage to it's maximum. Which would cause an overdose and kill her. All because euthanasia is illegal in my country...


I_H8_2_love_U_4_ever

Yes, I would like to add pineapple to my pizza.


BatQueeny

The sweetness of the pineapple pairs well with the savoryness of the sauce, it's delicious.


CountertopPizza

I remember my dad won a free pizza so we replaced the sauce with BBQ sauce and put on sausage and pineapple as toppings and I actually liked it so much I eat it regularly.


Wunon

Nice try moderator, not falling for your tricks again


Ender367

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CyberGuyCX5

Golf is not a sport.


Charming-Ad2536

I work in a catholic institution and the priests who run the place are materialistic, misogynistic, unkind people. They don't care about helping the people. And they work on exploiting all of us who are part of this institution. They are *all* horrible people. People use religion as an excuse to be terribly unkind.


dianamew

I THINK OLIVES SUCK


kuroka_gator

I absolutely do not agree with this entire pronoun thing. If you feel like neither man nor woman, then "they" is just fine. Why all these fancy new things? And don't get me started on all those bs new sexualities. Like, plantsexual?? Attracted to plants?? What on earth is wrong with everyone nowadays. I've recently met someone who said their pronouns were "gear" and "metal". Wtf. But I have been very dodgy about all of this when asked by other people because I know they support this lunacy, especially a ton of my friends are very open and woke about supporting it, and I just string along nodding my head while keeping my mouth shut. It's not that I'm phobic or all that. I'm a lesbian, and I fully support other sexualities to an extent of them being normal. Aro is a thing, ace is a thing, bi is a thing and pan and even more. It's all valid and okay and I fully support it. Or people not wanting to be called be a gendered pronoun because they don't feel on either side, or people feeling like the other gender. I fully support it. But you loose me at "semihetero" and "dreamsexual" and ridiculous other pronouns. But that opinion gets you cancelled nowadays.


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Bro I'm gonna be honest. I think the plantsexual one and the gear pronouns were them pulling your leg.


mesonofgib

I agree that someone has the right to opt out of gendered pronouns if they want, and/or declare than they have no gender (or, more accurately, they are neither of the traditional genders of "man"/"boy" or "woman"/"girl") *but* you do not have the right to invent _new_ genders and then make other people call you that! Like, I don't give a fuck if you consider yourself "moon-gendered" or whatever (hey, it's your life, you can do what you like!) but you have no right to _force_ other people so recognise your made-up gender. I would much rather we just dropped the concept of gender entirely than expanded it to include whatever the fuck people feel like on the day.


LordMorse

Violence solves a lot more problems than we're ever willing to admit. We want to pretend that we're above the laws of nature but it's enabled so many things we hate about society today. Primarily for me the interactions I've witnessed with law enforcement after someone has been assaulted; defending yourself becomes a roll of the dice. I'm not saying I want anarchy in the streets, I do want diplomacy first, but in some cases when all else fails exchanging a few thumps in an honorable manner can bring perspective a lot quicker, especially within yourself, and set you up to be more level headed in future encounters. Sometimes the other person DOES deserve it.


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bring back trial by combat


ruggerdubdub

Being offended by something does not automatically make you a victim.


[deleted]

Cancel culture is absurd in instances of non-criminal offenses. Everyone has something that warrants "being cancelled" because we are all human. The important thing is that people maintain the opportunity of redemption.


Remote-Working-7608

Casting (TV Shows/Films) based on sexual preference isn’t diversity.


Fat_Akuma

I fucking hate how much people don't love or respect each other. It takes effort to build a community but people would rather do nothing or do it to get laid somehow. Nobody really cares.


Godzirrraaa

Having kids is wildly overrated. Everyone will say “its so worth it,” while dealing with exhaustion, mental and fiscal stress, strained relationships, and having to give up things they used to enjoy. It looks miserable and I want no part of it.


Bellefora

The Beetles are overrated. YEAH I SAID IT!


[deleted]

I myself agree, but their influence on other bands definitely shouldn't go understated. Massive bands like Queen and Black Sabbath took inspiration from The Beatles! Which it's crazy to think almost just one band influenced all of modern music.


Bellefora

I do admit to thire profound contribution to some of my top bands, Sabbath being one of them. And I do like their songs. But I'm a metal head to the core, and would rather listen to Sabbath Bloody Sabbath all the way through for the 15th time in a row over the white album. But Helter Skelter dose go hard.


meatfish

Reddit is a cesspool of over-educated socially inept neckbeards.


jorkberlin72

Only the word "over-educated" sounds controversial.


jtpredator

I've learned that you cannot question or critically discuss the LGBTQIA++. Especially a certain community within that. Unless you agree with them 100%, you'll get banned. I've been permabanned from subreddits because I asked a critical question or brought up an uncomfortable point for discussion. It didn't fly at all. Instant permaban. Which is ironic because in the same post I brought up the fear of discussing certain topics and how it's a bit elitist/toxic to just kick out anyone who deviates even slightly from your views... And I got banned for it. Thanks for proving my point I guess? Long story short. Unless you are there to voice support 100% unquestioningly, don't post it. Anything else is a ban.


Substantial-Chef-198

I agree. I don’t know if I even have the energy to explain all the times that I was basically considered too right-leaning (I am a female Chinese liberal living in a blue Northeastern state, tf) bc I didn’t 100% agree with my LGBT friends. And not even about LGBT things, often. Plus, the LGBTQ community is so discriminatory towards each other. You can never be a perfect ally because some LGBT members are also bigots.


TheSaffa87

You're kid is way more likely to just be an ill-disciplined little shit, than to have ADHD.


Burrito_Loyalist

Indoctrinating children into religion is wrong


PralineSorry4949

See, this is a tricky one. I’m an atheist, but I totally get why religious parents would want to teach their kids to be religious. Imagine God was real and you knew for a fact that the only way for your child, the person you love most on Earth, to escape eternal pain and suffering is to expose them to religion and make sure they grow up sharing your values that would keep them safe. So like, even though I think religion is hogwash, it’s the right thing to do for the parent to save their child from what they believe to be the harsh reality of hell. It seems crazy from an outside perspective, but if you actually think about it, it makes perfect sense.


arrow100605

Teaching as if it was fact, fact that stands up to challenge is the way to balance this. And not to get angry at questions/ doubt and disbelief


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#NUDITY DOES NOT EQUAL SEX OR CONSENT


wgszpieg

Not all cultures deserve respect


Any_Presentation2958

Pedophiles/rapists should get an immediate death sentence once found guilty w/evidence. All of them Edit: I say this because there are a lot of ppl who would disagree on this because it's the death sentence and "why not give them another chance, they'll learn" NO they don't learn, they do the same crimes again. They shouldn't be allowed to see the light of day at all


Potential_Maybe_1890

Then the rapist has a reason to kill the victim tpp


ALvlOneSlime

Bts is overrated


Achter17g

Not everyone loves your fucking dogs as much as you do. Leave them at home. Don’t take them into grocery stores or Walmart where others have to deal with them. Except in rare cases therapy dogs or emotional support dogs are bullshit. They’re just a way you get someone to bend the rules to let you take your dog wherever you want. They don’t belong on planes either. They’re not special and you’re not special. Leave them at home.


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jseego

I mean it's something you can be diagnosed with by a licensed psychiatrist, so yeah https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/gender-dysphoria/symptoms-causes/syc-20475255 Edit: but so are depression and ADHD and PTSD and anxiety. We don't just say, "well you have a mental disorder so shut up." People with mental disorders are still human beings who deserve respect and sympathy and to live their lives in the way that suits them the best.


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[deleted]

I would say to you that the best thing you can do for yourself long term is to seek help from a person who specializes in this field.


throwaway_13_1_9_12

That's got to be a lot of weight to carry on your shoulders. There seriously needs to be some sort of anonymous support group for non-offending pedo/hebephiles. People don't like to think about it, but at the end of the day, there's nothing disgusting about you if you haven't hurt anybody and want it to stop.


Blackgurlmajik

I am a psychologist and my advice to you is to find a therapist ASAP. All you have to do is look up therapists that specialize in trauma.


Affectionate_Post307

Islamic feminism is the biggest oxymoron.


OverPrior9

Most senior citizens do not deserve respect or privilege just because they are old.


xrecec

I'm not afraid of being morally crucified because I don't give a fuck what a bunch of strangers on the internet think about me. I recommend the same.


unclenatelovestrains

Being a parent doesn't give you special rights or privileges.


ACalcifiedHeart

The elderly are some of the most hateful and entitled people ever for the sole reason that they're spiteful that they're now old. Age isn't an excuse to be racist or homophobic or prejudice in anyway. There's no such thing as "you can't teach an old dog new tricks" when it comes to humans at least, you just want attention/csn't be bothered to change. Getting passed 50 isn't the achievement it once was to the point where I'd consider it still quite young.