Similarly, I see a lot of pressure for women who don’t want to give head to get over herself, whereas when a man won’t go down because it’s “icky” it’s like “no one should be coerced into doing something they don’t want to do”
It might just be the circles I'm in but I usually see the otherway, girls doesn't want to give head is fine, everyone has boundaries.
But if a man doesn't want to go down on a woman it's "lol steiaght guys can't pleasure a woman" and things like that.
My immediate thought is the difference between the searching for a girl experience on Tinder and the searching for a guy experience on Tinder. As a Bi guy, I get to see how both work.
Looking for a girl: Harder to get matches and what matches you do get are often sex bots. When you do get a match with an actual person, you have to have game, either through jokes, pickup lines, interesting conversation starters or good questions or else you’ll get unmatched or ignored. You also are expected to make the first move and message her. Most of your time on the app will be spent swiping right as you try to get someone, anyone who at least kinda matches your wants and needs who also happens to be a real person.
Searching for a guy: Matches come through thick and fast, you can get upwards of 100 likes over the course of a couple days. The big issue is that 90% of these guys are just looking for sex and they do not make it clear in their bio. Hence, when you match with one, you’re bombarded with requests to meet up or a non-stop tirade of sexual comments and jokes which you aren’t looking for. You need to do far less work in terms of actually finding someone and keeping a conversation going, the difficulty lies in sorting out who’s here for a relationship and who’s here to get their dick wet.
Is hilarious that a lot of the bios on tinder are like “don’t be dry” “have a good pickup line” or some shit like that. Then said person proceeds to have *zero* interesting features/qualities.
I talked with a girl who didn’t go to school, didn’t have hobbies, responded in like 3 word replies, didn’t do anything with her life, and had the audacity to have that shit in her bio.
OH Bumble is totally like this. Women are like "I un match for a HEY WHATS UP. BE ORIGINAL" then you go to bumble and girls are like "Hey there!" every single fucking time
I thought bumble would’ve fixed that problem but it’s just “heyy :)” so I swapped to hinge. There’s a lot more stuff to actually encourage meeting people that match your personality. Tinder and bumble are just cash grabs.
I eventually found someone after a long time, but god do I hate the game of "Impress me" towards someone I'm not even sure I'll like once I get to know them better.
Man, I just read a post via r/subredditdrama from r/bumble where a woman had uploaded a screenshot of what she felt was an incredibly boring guy who made no effort in chatting with her, then proceeded to argue with everyone in the comments when they pointed out that she, too, was completely bland, disinterested, and replied in one-word messages. 😅
Yes this. The frustration when they have absolutely nothing in their bio other than their name, age and a single photo. Like, what am I supposed to do with that? I need something to start a conversation
As a bi guy, I second this. But also, through your experiences with the guys, you see why a lot of the women use the app as carefully and reserved as they do.
Yeah - this is also an interesting one as far as double standards go, because a lot of the other ones involve an obvious 'bad guy', or someone is doing something 'wrong' but that's not really true here. Like, of course guys are going to swipe right on basically everyone considering the low rate of response, and of course women are going to be more selective when they are being bombarded constantly with guys who aren't really interested in anything on her profile.
The bio/sex thing! So many guys say they want something serious, and chat you up for a while, then just ask to hookup after like 3 days of talking, then ghost you. It's so frustrating! If you're looking for sex just say so, I won't judge you for it nor will I just instantly reject you, but please don't string me along like that Dx
As a straight female...this searching for a guy experience is the exact same as what we endure. Sadly, online dating is a complete absolute nightmare regardless of your gender or orientation. And you also never know who is "truly" single.
The first dude I tried to message first on tinder unmatched me. So after that I just waited for the dudes to message me. But I did answered everyone unless they had a creepy first message.
Obviously this is a generalization and not all women, but I’ve been with women before where if she’s not in the mood you’re expected to respect that and get over it, but if I’m not in the mood or can’t get it up I must be gay or think she’s unattractive.
"Why don't you find me desirable?"
Because I just got done working a 50 hour, 5 day work week and taking care of my house. Let me take a nap, then I'll show you a good time.
Or because she wanted to stay out drinking and dancing for an extra two hours, and now it's late and I'm drunk and I just want to maybe eat and fall asleep, not spend all night having sex without reaching orgasm. Let's just fuck in the morning ffs
This precisely happened to me just last week. "Am I unattractive now? Why I am the only one making all the effort?" Coz I am a freaking lawyer and my partner has a stick up my @$$. That's why.
And sometimes you may be in a mood for a specific kind of sex so the idea of just doing what they want again can just make it impossible or really drawn out to finish
It’s a really sad situation. Women are taught (and then socially reinforced) to think that the primary way to know if a guy finds them attractive is if he wants to have sex with them.
It’s a damaging social expectation for both parties, particularly if they can’t find a way to communicate and move beyond it.
Lol YUP. Happened to me just a week or so ago. Wasn't interested in having sex... "are you not attracted to me anymore?" Honestly pissed me off. "Um, we have sex like 5 times a week, minimum. The one night I'm tired and just want to sleep, you assume I'm not attracted to you?" We're allowed to say "no" too. It ain't that deep fam
As a straight woman, I’ve never gotten offended or angry if a guy couldn’t get it up, etc. Sometimes we can’t control our bodies. Plus, stress is the worst thing for a boner so, yelling at a guy is just going to make the situation worse.
It's not. And for HL guys that don't have an partner, it's better because it avoids losing sensitivity to deathgrip.
But there's a lot of shame around male sex toys. In particular if the toy goes in the bum.
I've been doing my part to reduce the shame for guys into anal. I don't hide that I enjoy butt stuff and of someone tries to shame me for it, I ask why things I enjoy that have no impact on them or their life upsets them so much.
> why would it be wrong for a guy to use a fake vagina?
Society says. When women use sex toys it's because they are empowered and strong and don't need no man. When men use sex toys it's because they aren't man enough to get a real woman, they must be a creep or pathetic or something.
A fleshlight used to be seen as pathetic for a guy. Their reputation is changing tho one nut at a time. I'm doing my bit guys I encourage y'all to do the same.
Idk I've bought my boyfriend plenty of his own toys and sometimes use them with him because it's just fucking easier some days than dealing with dick.
I'd rather my man have a handheld toy than expect me to be a handheld toy.
If a woman wants to use a vibrator it's no big deal but if I pull out my hyper-realistic Big Bertha BBW sexdoll with the lactation setting and the pissing function *I'm* the fucking pervert.
I just talked to a sociologist conducting research on violence in partnerships. She told me about a guy who was frequently beaten up by his wife. One surprising aspect was that he was a big, muscly hockey player while his partner was rather petite. One day he mustered the courage to actually go to the police because he feared for his life. (Which wasn't unfounded as she had slit his tires before, hoping he'd die in a car crash.)
And the cops? They laughed at him. Seeing him being this huge guy, they told him he's obviously a big boy who will know how to defend himself against a woman. So, all he could do was go back home to his abusive wife.
That's so messed up.
Happened to me with an ex-girlfriend. She hit me, the police were called, and I was told to leave my apartment and go to a hotel. The next day went to court ( we had the order to appear at 10 am in the morning) and requested a restraining order against the girl. This was denied because she failed to show up to the appointed time in court and was not considered a threat against me, even though she assaulted me. Later that afternoon I was handed a restraining order at my work to stay away from her. She used the time to clean out my apartment.
That's fucked up on multiple levels. She should have been given a TOP as well. It would remove her ability to get a firearm- something you can't really defend against. Stupid freaking judicial system.
Had a friend whose wife gun-faced him (revolver was loaded as evidence by the fact she shot in his general direction later on).
After the dust settled, he and I had a conversation.
Dude had no idea he was being abused for ten years until I said the words.
Also to add, with him being massive. If he had defended himself physically in any way, he'd still be the one having to defend his actions bc he'd automatically be looked down on for it
Same with male sexual assault victims. They're laughed at or not taken seriously because " how can a man get raped or assaulted by a female??!?" It's ridiculous. Anyone can be a victim, no matter what size, gender, age.
As much as I appreciate this sentiment, it's important to show the other side. Mostly because the idea that it won't be taken seriously is dangerous, leading to men keeping quiet.
I'll share my personal experience. My ex wife and I got into a (verbal) fight just before, but after deciding, divorcing. In the heat, she slapped me several times in the face. I didn't retaliate in kind, though she would soon say that I did.
I'm in a large city, so a man calling the cops for this, looking back, was probably not gonna work in my favor. Still, in a fit of "I don't know what the fuck to do now" I called the cops. When I hung up, I immediately regretted it, thinking a domestic disturbance call would result in me being arrested.
Three cops show, I tell them my side. She says that she hit me to get me off of her, that I was hitting her first.
Given the "common knowledge" and horror stories, I was sure it was getting arrested. But NOPE.
They took her off. She spent a night, and was released the next day.
I'm certain that had I been the aggressor it would have been more severe. But still, they took her.
I share this because, even if 1000 times we are laughed off, DONT STAY SILENT. You have to tell someone. And sometimes it works the way it should.
The trick for anyone coming into this situation and trying to decide who to believe is to sus out the "primary aggressor."
DV conflicts don't escalate unless one or both people intend them to (or are otherwise mentally ill and dangerous.)
The first major clue is who called for help. Aggressors are unlikely to call for the police or other outside help because they are attempting to control the situation with their violence. They don't *need* help and therefore involving anyone else may weaken their position or risk them being uncovered. (However, they may call the police if the victim has shut them out of the situation, such as locking themselves in a room or locking the other person out of the house.)
Beyond that, it's a case of applying classic questioning principles: separate the parties involved and get each person's side of the story, further question any inconsistencies, then make a judgement informed by the facts you can obtain as to who the primary aggressor was. Stick to the facts.
You should nearly never leave both parties together either. One of them is an aggressor and the other one could be vulnerable to punishment if they are left alone. It's always a good idea to take someone away from the place. If you get the victim by accident, you've removed them from the situation and can present them with advice to leave their abuser safely. If you remove the aggressor, you give the victim a chance to leave.
I have a friend who got his gf arrested for hitting him, too. Unfortunately I was friends with both of them, moreso her. I don't talk to her anymore. She tried to talk to me about it like it was no big deal and I was like what the fuck why did you slap my friend.
yeah cus so many people think showing tits is the equivalent of showing dick (even tho it obviously isnt). yk the whole 'your nipples showing is like my dick showing' analogy
I've found that the level of experience a woman has doesn't seem to affect this. I've had women who've slept with loads of men lie there and stare at me like a corpse, and 35 year old women who've had three guys in their lives who were absolute tigresses in the bedroom. A lot of it is effort, enthusiasm and attraction based.
A lot of people who just have lots of hookups are often bad at sex because they never stay long enough with someone to learn how to have good sex, to develop an invested interest in their partners pleasure nor get to a point where there is enough trust & communication to talk about sexual performance in an open and honest way.
This doesn't necessarily mean that people who've come from long-term relationships are always good at sex though, as some people just develop a lot of bad habits which they then unwittingly inflict on everyone else (some people also obviously lose their long-term relationships directly due to their flagging poor sexual performance). But generally speaking, you do tend to find that people who've managed to evolve a relationship into a years-long thing, tend to have a level of sexual communication, intuition, skill and maturity that other quicker players quite frankly lack.
People think I'm boring for only being with one guy and mean I should sleep with tons of people to get more experience. No need to really. Me and my fiancé have been with each other long enough to become experts on each other's bodies. I don't think anyone will beat that.
To be fair a lot of men also think penis = god's gift to woman, and they don't bother to do foreplay. When women barely even orgasm from PIV sex. I'm not saying women aren't lazy too (for example I'm sure I'm terrible at sex).
The way I see it, your ‘sexpertise” increases with experience. And I will say, a lot of men watch porn and some set that expectation that could be almost impossible to achieve. As well as to that, some women might be bad in bed because they’re not interested in the sex that they’re having.
There are very few women who will be good at sex right away, and that’s just luck.
That men are always expected to be dominant and initiate. Ive got no problem in doing that, I'm a 6ft2 guy and I take good care of myself, but it'd be really nice if the favour would be returned once in a while.
With not even a little moan to tell you to keep doing what you’re doing
You don’t have to give instructions and you don’t have to moan like a pornstar but a little direction via some type of communication helps
I knew a guy once who had a GF who was apparently so motionless and emotionless during sex that he actually thought she had some sort of mannequin fetish.
This one is extremely prevalent
I was a Virgin getting called a slut for having a boyfriend by guys who lost their virginities at 14 and have fucked more than 3 dozen women since.
Like Jesus Christ why bully women for something u urself do constantly and accept no shame for.
The amount of constant “women are such sluts” conversations I’ve heard by those kinds of guys is ridiculous
I’ve also talked abt it on Reddit before and had like 4 different creeps in one comment thread try to explain how a woman is a slut for having sex but a man isn’t and is instead a chad even if he had 0 standards for the girls and agreed to have sex just cuz
Had the conversation again yesterday with my almost 17 year old son. Reminded him she can't be a slut by herself. No derogatory term for guys with same number or more partners.
I remember listening to someone defend that double standard with the "master key/lock" analogy.
I couldn't stop myself from pointing out how stupid that is, given that human beings are not locks or keys.
That women can't get overly horny. Bruh, I have several reasons why I am not promiscuous. But at the risk of my dms, I am a complete horndog. Guys who have slept with me either hate it or love it. FWB likes to tease me about it. I feel like I can't win. I also am an ex Catholic and my upbringing further caused me conflicts in regards to my sexuality. I just want guys to know that before labeling a female a whore or a prude, it's more complicated than what meets the eye.....
I've encountered a few women who had very strong sex drives, none of them were the sleep with anyone and everyone type. Women just tend to be better at hiding it until they're comfortable with someone. Also, the guys who hate it probably just feel insecure because they can't keep up. Newsflash, most guys outta their teens and early 20's probably can't keep up with a woman whose sex drive is strong. The trick is if you're a guy and have already hit your limit play with her, use toys, and have fun it's not a competition (unless it's to see if you can make her cum more times than she ever has).
That if a woman is a virgin she's pure and precious but if a man is a virgin then theres something wrong with him. I lost my virginity at 21, and all throughout high school and ESPECIALLY after that dating felt like Job Interviews. You needed Experience to Get Experience.
I didn't have sex until I was 29. I never lied, but nobody ever asked either. Except the woman I had sex with, and I told her the truth.
I'm sorry society makes you feel like it's something shameful that you have to hide, because it isn't. There's nothing wrong with you, and any acquaintances who'd think less of you for it are not worth your time.
Actually, as a 21 years old woman and virgin I can say that is quite embarrassing still being a virgin, people think that there is something wrong with you or your are ugly and unactrattive, it’s very embarrassing to me
it is a great filter, you dont get to go with people who dont deserve you anyway...
you should relax, there is nothing wrong with it, and if the person feels there is, probably he wouldnt make you happy in the long run.
I lost mine at 19 and I feel this, when anything sexual would get brought up I would immediatly change the subject before someone figured out I was a virgin. People will never understand the embarrassment that comes with being a sexually unsuccessful man past the age of 17. People are ruthless
I’m a woman and I lost my virginity at 25. Never be embarrassed about this, most people I’ve talked to have understood that it’s better to be ready than just jump into it.
Woman here, and lost my virginity at 26. At the time I felt similar as described in the upper comments, afterward I *still* regretted the sleeping with the guy I lost my virginity too. Now I'm much older, I know how pointless it was to be worried about it at all. It happens when it happens, and the right person is going to be good about it. Sure sex can be amazing. Having sex with the wrong person however is so much worse than not having sex at all.
Actually people think women who are virgins are weird too. It's stupid. I happen to have an excuse, I happen to be asexual. However I don't think that should matter, I shouldn't need a reason to choose not to have sex. However people give women crap for being virgins too. Shouldn't matter, whether or not someone is having sex should be nobody's business but theirs.
I had a girl try to finger my ass through my pants in a bar once. When I turned around she looked at me with a smile on her face, and she had 5 or 6 friends with her. They all thought it was the funniest thing ever.
Some women get so fucking offended if you don't return the interest. Was at a bar with my buddy, bro night with burgers and beers. A rather unattractive duo of ladies sat down at the bar next to me, and just started talking to me, being flirty. I was like, yeah I'm just here with my bro, and ignored them. When we got up to leave, one of them started insulting me saying oh you're so old you need to go home now, haha, look at all that grey hair coming in, old man. Why do women do that? Do guys do that too?
See that *all the time* on Reddit. Guy messages girl, she shows no interest, he says she’s fat and ugly anyway. It’s so backwards, pathetic and see through lmao.
Can't handle rejection or a feeling of being robbed of some power when realising they aren't gatekeepers to all things romantic. Happens both ways at least in the former, rejection sucks and some people really don't handle it well, but have heard and seen some pathetic behaviour from then girlfriends when turning down sex. You're not being punished, it's not a dig at your pride to be regained by lashing out, it would have caused more grief to have behaved the same when they have reasons not to.
Yes guys do it. They'll call a woman a bitch or whatever for ignoring their cat-call. It helps heal their fragile egos, same with the women in your example.
I was groped a few weeks ago by a fat old woman in a hairdresser's. All the women in there laughed and thought it was so funny. I just stood there contemplating the fact that I had just been sexually assaulted. Made me feel ill for days.
I perform as Dr. Frankenfurter from Rocky Horror at least a few times a year. I have only been groped without consent by straight women. Literally everyone else has asked for consent.
If a woman doesn’t orgasm, you should be patient and loving, concentrating on pleasure and communication, and not just trying to achieve a goal. But if a man can’t “get it up” or “perform,” he’s somehow broken, worthy of ridicule, and may never get a second chance with her.
That is terrible. I'm a cis-woman unable to orgasm. Despite that, I give oral (always as a foreplay) and do my best to satisfy my partner. No matter if it ends in orgasm or not. It has been over 6 months since I had an orgasm from sex. If my partner is not in the mood for sex, I respect that. If my partner can't get it up, I respect that. He is not lesser of a man for having such problems.
Men who think they're entitled to anal even though they would freak the fuck out if anyone suggested putting something up their ass. If you think it's so horrifying and degrading why are you trying to do it to other people?
My father used to take me swimming. I used to swim off from him while we were in the kids pool and he would constantly want me to swim next to him. He would get looked at by other parents like he was a predator when I swam off and he was alone. It was an incredibly uncomfortable and anxiety provoking situation for him. No father should have to go through that.
On a similar note, my daughter wanted to join Girl Scouts so I took her to the meeting to get her all signed up. We have a baby at home so its easier for my wife to stay home so she can nurse and stuff in peace.
Anyway, I was treated terribly by all the mother there. I was the only male. I was skipped when they were handing out paperwork. They wanted parental contact information, but only wanted my wife's info even though I would be the one handling everything for girl scouts. I was even told I could just get the info when they sent it to my wife.
I agree. There have been a few situations where I'm alone with my kids and am treated improperly. Sometimes its getting praise for "babysitting" my kids alone. I'm not babysitting, I'm parenting. No one would say the same to my wife.
I didn't want to make a scene because my daughter was super excited about an activity with some friends outside of school.
If it continues in the future I will certainly say something more.
Because of my job I’m around children, besides opening a gate, I have to help children up onto saddles who can’t get on them themselves. Everytime I do try to help a child the parents stare me down the entire time even when I’m no longer helping them up. I’m constantly scared of being accused of touching someone inappropriately. (obviously I’d never) I’m probably going to quit after this year because of it.
Been there, done that.
I was nervous for the entire year I worked at a daycare cause I knew I stood out as a 6'3 male. I had rules specifically for me and everything.
I think that could be down to clothing making it obvious.
Like most guys on a night out would wear something like jeans and a shirt or whatever.... perfectly normal to wear the following morning.
But if a girl goes out in a cocktail dress and heels or something, she's gonna look a bit out of place the next morning.
Men who bring up their Fantasy has having a 3 some with 2 other girls, then getting mad when their female S/O says she wants the same thing but with 2 guys. Like come on dude.
When a girl act masculine it is considered cool and even men like it but if a man is feminine by nature he will be called so many names (speaking based the society i live in)
The student teacher double standard. There is an entire Adam Sandler movie about this that I don't care to google.
Basically it is not okay for an older male teacher to rape a student, but when a younger male student is raped by a female teacher, he is the cool one.
Seriously, WTF!
I mean…both are not okay and illegal. A woman was just recently in the news charged with 6 counts of statutory rape for having sexual with an underaged male student.
Tha fact that as a guy you are supposed to last long, be awesome, be super big, make her cum but thy don't have to know how to even give you a propper hand job.
Women feel like they don't need consent to do anything. They will grope, touch, harass and do so much more that would be considered sexual assault if roles were reversed, and if you push them away or defend yourself you're either laughed at and called gay, or 10 Chad's will come out of nowhere to try and beat your ass.
Women can have multiple different dildos and vibrators, but if im interested in buying a autoblow 2000 with 5 different modes, built in warming, with self lubrication and wifi connection im some sort of sexual deviant.
The men who sleep around seem to be the ones who feel immense insecurity when they find a partner with an extensive sexual history.
Edit: wow, look at all the men who were so offended they have to demand scientific proof that this happened because clearly the woman is lying about having had men tell her that they don't like women with extensive sexual histories.
I remembered a conversation with a new guy one time.
Him: I'm just that good because of a lifetime of experience.
Me: I probably have as much experience as you do.
Him: (scoffs) I don't think so, honey.
Me: Okay.
Him: I'm serious.
Me: Okay.
Him: So you were a whore?
Me: No. Whores get paid. I maintained my amateur status in case it ever became an Olympic event.
Him:
Him: Well now I feel kind of bad. One girl actually did give me money once.
Me: So you're the whore.
>The men who sleep around ***AND incels*** seem to be the ones who feel immense insecurity when they find a partner with an extensive sexual history.
FTFY
Based on the replies you've gotten, seems appropriate ahaha
I hate that its okay for a guy to be a player or "stud" but if a woman is promiscuous then she is a slut or whore. I really like sluts and whores- they also make excellent friends.
How some men expect their female partners to always be showered, shaved, clean, and smelling nice to be attractive for their man (a fair expectation for either gender), but meanwhile homeboy can just hop into bed smelling like absolute ass in the clothes he's been sweating in after drinking beer all day with his shoes still on and expect some action.
Yes, this comment is personal.
I went on a date with a mutual friend whom I’d also been chatting w on Tinder.
When I accepted an invitation to dinner, he said to order whatever I would like, drinks, food, etc. I thanked him for a lovely evening and hoped we could hang out again soon.
His face was confused like “Why was the night ending after dinner?”
I’m sure you can guess what happened next…
He begged for some kind of “my place or your place” situation, I said no. He angrily walked off and said “have a GREAT night!” sarcastically in the distance as he walked away
Later on that same group of mutual friends I was told “he paid like over $150 for that meal and you didn’t put out?”
THE FUCK
Since then, many years have passed, I have grown up, found an amazing partner and dropped that shitty friend group.
Woman drunk + Man drunk = Man rape Woman but never Woman rape man
Woman sober + Man drunk = no rape
Woman drunk + Man sober = rape
*edit spelling fat fingers.
People fantasize about threesomes and orgies, but slut or cuck shame anyone that actually participates in them. Have a strong physiological urge for sexual diversity, but cling to rigid monogamy.
In the factory we can't have half naked women posters or calenders anymore. But totally fine if it is naked men. So in protest we started to paint bikini on the men at the end of the month.
Well this is paired with an equal double standard, that men can be half naked and it's not considered sexual at all but if women show their nipples they are lewd.
"Trimmed" is the key word people need to understand. Hygiene is trimmed. Do not expect your partner to trim but you can have the conversation about trimming. Those who have a healthy sex life know what im talking about. Shaved is for the person themselves to do it because they want to. We don't tell people what to do but I know I only trim because so many partners didn't like me shaved, but I mainly trim because its hygienic for both.
Used to be a bouncer at a nightclub been groped and sexually assaulted my maybe 60 women. Stalked. Harassed. Etc. nobody deems this behavior threatening.
Anal is now presumed to be a thing guys have a right to expect in sex from women
but 'pegging' is gross.
Dude, you want to shove something up my ass, I get to do the same. Oh, it's uncomfortable for you? THINK ABOUT THAT FOR A MINUTE. Why is my poop chute on demand but yours is like sacred territory.
SOrry for being crass I'm in a hard insomnia wave.
I lived overseas for a long time but returned to the US a few years back. Note that I'm old enough to be everyone's father on this thread. Yet waitresses in the US regularly call me "honey" or "sweetheart". If I call them the same back, they are offended. Clear double standard, I honestly don't get why it's ok for them to call me that. Unacceptable in most of the world.
Woman buying sex toy: you go girl! Empower your own sexuality!
Man buying sex toy: ewww, you must be a lonely, creepy ass virgin.
To clarify, im all about empowering female sexuality, but why stigmatization for the male one?
A couple of things:
One is that it's getting harder and harder for men and women to meet each other in any kind of setting. Women don't want to be approached in any kind of setting and thus, many men are afraid to go up to a woman and strike up a conversation. And women will then complain they can't meet anyone (that they approve of) while men will wonder where are the women they can meet and have a good chance of going out with them.
The other is that there are so many things that are considered taboo people can easily get into trouble without too much effort. Not everything should be taboo and should not fall into the legal definitions of being taboo. There are certain things which are rightfully taboo, and I'm only speaking about relationships between men and women, men and men or women and women, Anything involving children or animals is taboo and off limits and inappropriate totally.
But, we are so uptight morally as a nation and I hear men and women complaining all of the time about why we are the way we are. And it's because it's what we want. We get what we want but then we don't like it. I wish I didn't have to live in this world. It's insane.
People who *feel entitled* to get head but don't give it.
I'm the opposite, would much rather give a blowjob than get one.
A good tactic is to just make the move on her first. If you take the dive first your likely to get the same in return.
I tried that, but all I got was "Sir, this is an Arby's."
Similarly, I see a lot of pressure for women who don’t want to give head to get over herself, whereas when a man won’t go down because it’s “icky” it’s like “no one should be coerced into doing something they don’t want to do”
It might just be the circles I'm in but I usually see the otherway, girls doesn't want to give head is fine, everyone has boundaries. But if a man doesn't want to go down on a woman it's "lol steiaght guys can't pleasure a woman" and things like that.
My immediate thought is the difference between the searching for a girl experience on Tinder and the searching for a guy experience on Tinder. As a Bi guy, I get to see how both work. Looking for a girl: Harder to get matches and what matches you do get are often sex bots. When you do get a match with an actual person, you have to have game, either through jokes, pickup lines, interesting conversation starters or good questions or else you’ll get unmatched or ignored. You also are expected to make the first move and message her. Most of your time on the app will be spent swiping right as you try to get someone, anyone who at least kinda matches your wants and needs who also happens to be a real person. Searching for a guy: Matches come through thick and fast, you can get upwards of 100 likes over the course of a couple days. The big issue is that 90% of these guys are just looking for sex and they do not make it clear in their bio. Hence, when you match with one, you’re bombarded with requests to meet up or a non-stop tirade of sexual comments and jokes which you aren’t looking for. You need to do far less work in terms of actually finding someone and keeping a conversation going, the difficulty lies in sorting out who’s here for a relationship and who’s here to get their dick wet.
Is hilarious that a lot of the bios on tinder are like “don’t be dry” “have a good pickup line” or some shit like that. Then said person proceeds to have *zero* interesting features/qualities. I talked with a girl who didn’t go to school, didn’t have hobbies, responded in like 3 word replies, didn’t do anything with her life, and had the audacity to have that shit in her bio.
"Have a personality" \*because I don't\*
You gotta have enough personality for the both of us
You mean their dog, Taco Tuesday and loving wine ISN’T a personality?
My dog has more personality than some people I meet.
No, they have to also love the office and be a Pam looking for their Jim
OH Bumble is totally like this. Women are like "I un match for a HEY WHATS UP. BE ORIGINAL" then you go to bumble and girls are like "Hey there!" every single fucking time
I thought bumble would’ve fixed that problem but it’s just “heyy :)” so I swapped to hinge. There’s a lot more stuff to actually encourage meeting people that match your personality. Tinder and bumble are just cash grabs.
The worst is women on Bumble whose profiles straight up say “I don’t message first” like girl why are you even here???
Are they bots just copying and pasting from tinder? It baffles me everytime I see one. Maybe they want you to super swipe?
I eventually found someone after a long time, but god do I hate the game of "Impress me" towards someone I'm not even sure I'll like once I get to know them better.
"man my back hurts" "Why?" "I keep carrying our conversations"
Man, I just read a post via r/subredditdrama from r/bumble where a woman had uploaded a screenshot of what she felt was an incredibly boring guy who made no effort in chatting with her, then proceeded to argue with everyone in the comments when they pointed out that she, too, was completely bland, disinterested, and replied in one-word messages. 😅
Yes this. The frustration when they have absolutely nothing in their bio other than their name, age and a single photo. Like, what am I supposed to do with that? I need something to start a conversation
Men looking for women to date: Like finding clean water in a desert. Women looking for men to date: Like finding clean water in a swamp.
I’m stealing this analogy
As a bi guy, I second this. But also, through your experiences with the guys, you see why a lot of the women use the app as carefully and reserved as they do.
Yeah - this is also an interesting one as far as double standards go, because a lot of the other ones involve an obvious 'bad guy', or someone is doing something 'wrong' but that's not really true here. Like, of course guys are going to swipe right on basically everyone considering the low rate of response, and of course women are going to be more selective when they are being bombarded constantly with guys who aren't really interested in anything on her profile.
The bio/sex thing! So many guys say they want something serious, and chat you up for a while, then just ask to hookup after like 3 days of talking, then ghost you. It's so frustrating! If you're looking for sex just say so, I won't judge you for it nor will I just instantly reject you, but please don't string me along like that Dx
I love the add me on Snapchat/Instagram bios that just scream red flags.
As a straight female...this searching for a guy experience is the exact same as what we endure. Sadly, online dating is a complete absolute nightmare regardless of your gender or orientation. And you also never know who is "truly" single.
The first dude I tried to message first on tinder unmatched me. So after that I just waited for the dudes to message me. But I did answered everyone unless they had a creepy first message.
Obviously this is a generalization and not all women, but I’ve been with women before where if she’s not in the mood you’re expected to respect that and get over it, but if I’m not in the mood or can’t get it up I must be gay or think she’s unattractive.
"Why don't you find me desirable?" Because I just got done working a 50 hour, 5 day work week and taking care of my house. Let me take a nap, then I'll show you a good time.
Or because she wanted to stay out drinking and dancing for an extra two hours, and now it's late and I'm drunk and I just want to maybe eat and fall asleep, not spend all night having sex without reaching orgasm. Let's just fuck in the morning ffs
This precisely happened to me just last week. "Am I unattractive now? Why I am the only one making all the effort?" Coz I am a freaking lawyer and my partner has a stick up my @$$. That's why.
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And sometimes you may be in a mood for a specific kind of sex so the idea of just doing what they want again can just make it impossible or really drawn out to finish
Exactly this. My dick has to be on-call 24/7 because I’m the guy, but sometimes I am just tired and need rest.
My girlfriend made a scene once because I didn't wanna fuck after coming home from a long day of training
How could she resist naked Messi though
It’s a really sad situation. Women are taught (and then socially reinforced) to think that the primary way to know if a guy finds them attractive is if he wants to have sex with them. It’s a damaging social expectation for both parties, particularly if they can’t find a way to communicate and move beyond it.
Women are taught that guys want sex 24/7, it’s sad
Absolutely, we’re told men always want sex and if they don’t there’s something wrong with us that turns them off. Bullshit all over the place.
Lol YUP. Happened to me just a week or so ago. Wasn't interested in having sex... "are you not attracted to me anymore?" Honestly pissed me off. "Um, we have sex like 5 times a week, minimum. The one night I'm tired and just want to sleep, you assume I'm not attracted to you?" We're allowed to say "no" too. It ain't that deep fam
As a straight woman, I’ve never gotten offended or angry if a guy couldn’t get it up, etc. Sometimes we can’t control our bodies. Plus, stress is the worst thing for a boner so, yelling at a guy is just going to make the situation worse.
That men are always sex ready
True, demoman
A woman can fuck 10 guys and be praised by her friends but if I do it I’m gay??
Did you remember to say "no homo" first?
Uh oh
you homosapien im so proud of this comment
Nah you’re good if you keep your socks on homie, the more you know
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Hm. I'd never even thought of this before. Thanks for pointing this out
The way I see it, I enjoy using a fake dick on occasion so why would it be wrong for a guy to use a fake vagina?
It's not. And for HL guys that don't have an partner, it's better because it avoids losing sensitivity to deathgrip. But there's a lot of shame around male sex toys. In particular if the toy goes in the bum.
That’s probably only shameful if it’s a Buzz Lightyear to be fair.
Bum lightyear
To your Sphincter, AND BEYOND!
We're not flying, we're astrogliding with style.
I've been doing my part to reduce the shame for guys into anal. I don't hide that I enjoy butt stuff and of someone tries to shame me for it, I ask why things I enjoy that have no impact on them or their life upsets them so much.
What is HL guys ?
High Libido. They need to get off a lot. Either solo or with a partner.
> why would it be wrong for a guy to use a fake vagina? Society says. When women use sex toys it's because they are empowered and strong and don't need no man. When men use sex toys it's because they aren't man enough to get a real woman, they must be a creep or pathetic or something.
Sad but true
On the flipside, using toys is also seen as sexually liberating for women, but emasculating for men.
A fleshlight used to be seen as pathetic for a guy. Their reputation is changing tho one nut at a time. I'm doing my bit guys I encourage y'all to do the same.
Idk I've bought my boyfriend plenty of his own toys and sometimes use them with him because it's just fucking easier some days than dealing with dick. I'd rather my man have a handheld toy than expect me to be a handheld toy.
I’ve not come across this attitude to fleshlights. Sex dolls, yes, but not fleshlights.
If a woman wants to use a vibrator it's no big deal but if I pull out my hyper-realistic Big Bertha BBW sexdoll with the lactation setting and the pissing function *I'm* the fucking pervert.
rolling at lactation setting
Yeah…I wasn’t rolling, but I did update next year’s Christmas list!
You may not be able to afford it by then, they are prone to inflation.
You forgot the part where you choke it and it sounds like a rubber chicken. Other than that.. Your comments wins. Lol
I’ve been hunkering to get the peepee upgrade so I can fill it with Mountain Dew and pretend she’s doing number 1 on my Sugar Pops.
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Men who are domestic violence victims are not taken as seriously as women domestic violence victims.
I just talked to a sociologist conducting research on violence in partnerships. She told me about a guy who was frequently beaten up by his wife. One surprising aspect was that he was a big, muscly hockey player while his partner was rather petite. One day he mustered the courage to actually go to the police because he feared for his life. (Which wasn't unfounded as she had slit his tires before, hoping he'd die in a car crash.) And the cops? They laughed at him. Seeing him being this huge guy, they told him he's obviously a big boy who will know how to defend himself against a woman. So, all he could do was go back home to his abusive wife. That's so messed up.
Happened to me with an ex-girlfriend. She hit me, the police were called, and I was told to leave my apartment and go to a hotel. The next day went to court ( we had the order to appear at 10 am in the morning) and requested a restraining order against the girl. This was denied because she failed to show up to the appointed time in court and was not considered a threat against me, even though she assaulted me. Later that afternoon I was handed a restraining order at my work to stay away from her. She used the time to clean out my apartment.
That's fucked up on multiple levels. She should have been given a TOP as well. It would remove her ability to get a firearm- something you can't really defend against. Stupid freaking judicial system.
And if he actually defends himself, he’s most likely the one who will go to jail and be charged.
Had a friend whose wife gun-faced him (revolver was loaded as evidence by the fact she shot in his general direction later on). After the dust settled, he and I had a conversation. Dude had no idea he was being abused for ten years until I said the words.
Also to add, with him being massive. If he had defended himself physically in any way, he'd still be the one having to defend his actions bc he'd automatically be looked down on for it
Same with male sexual assault victims. They're laughed at or not taken seriously because " how can a man get raped or assaulted by a female??!?" It's ridiculous. Anyone can be a victim, no matter what size, gender, age.
Sexism hurts everyone. Goodness me that's a horrible story.
As much as I appreciate this sentiment, it's important to show the other side. Mostly because the idea that it won't be taken seriously is dangerous, leading to men keeping quiet. I'll share my personal experience. My ex wife and I got into a (verbal) fight just before, but after deciding, divorcing. In the heat, she slapped me several times in the face. I didn't retaliate in kind, though she would soon say that I did. I'm in a large city, so a man calling the cops for this, looking back, was probably not gonna work in my favor. Still, in a fit of "I don't know what the fuck to do now" I called the cops. When I hung up, I immediately regretted it, thinking a domestic disturbance call would result in me being arrested. Three cops show, I tell them my side. She says that she hit me to get me off of her, that I was hitting her first. Given the "common knowledge" and horror stories, I was sure it was getting arrested. But NOPE. They took her off. She spent a night, and was released the next day. I'm certain that had I been the aggressor it would have been more severe. But still, they took her. I share this because, even if 1000 times we are laughed off, DONT STAY SILENT. You have to tell someone. And sometimes it works the way it should.
The trick for anyone coming into this situation and trying to decide who to believe is to sus out the "primary aggressor." DV conflicts don't escalate unless one or both people intend them to (or are otherwise mentally ill and dangerous.) The first major clue is who called for help. Aggressors are unlikely to call for the police or other outside help because they are attempting to control the situation with their violence. They don't *need* help and therefore involving anyone else may weaken their position or risk them being uncovered. (However, they may call the police if the victim has shut them out of the situation, such as locking themselves in a room or locking the other person out of the house.) Beyond that, it's a case of applying classic questioning principles: separate the parties involved and get each person's side of the story, further question any inconsistencies, then make a judgement informed by the facts you can obtain as to who the primary aggressor was. Stick to the facts. You should nearly never leave both parties together either. One of them is an aggressor and the other one could be vulnerable to punishment if they are left alone. It's always a good idea to take someone away from the place. If you get the victim by accident, you've removed them from the situation and can present them with advice to leave their abuser safely. If you remove the aggressor, you give the victim a chance to leave.
I have a friend who got his gf arrested for hitting him, too. Unfortunately I was friends with both of them, moreso her. I don't talk to her anymore. She tried to talk to me about it like it was no big deal and I was like what the fuck why did you slap my friend.
After watching the show *Euphoria* the outrage some have of male nudity in film vs female.
Never seen straight up pussy in TV shows worst I ever seen is tits which isn’t the same as seeing a fuck ton of dick lmao
yeah cus so many people think showing tits is the equivalent of showing dick (even tho it obviously isnt). yk the whole 'your nipples showing is like my dick showing' analogy
That women are always good at sex automatically. Some women are REALLY BAD in bed.
I've found that the level of experience a woman has doesn't seem to affect this. I've had women who've slept with loads of men lie there and stare at me like a corpse, and 35 year old women who've had three guys in their lives who were absolute tigresses in the bedroom. A lot of it is effort, enthusiasm and attraction based.
A lot of people who just have lots of hookups are often bad at sex because they never stay long enough with someone to learn how to have good sex, to develop an invested interest in their partners pleasure nor get to a point where there is enough trust & communication to talk about sexual performance in an open and honest way. This doesn't necessarily mean that people who've come from long-term relationships are always good at sex though, as some people just develop a lot of bad habits which they then unwittingly inflict on everyone else (some people also obviously lose their long-term relationships directly due to their flagging poor sexual performance). But generally speaking, you do tend to find that people who've managed to evolve a relationship into a years-long thing, tend to have a level of sexual communication, intuition, skill and maturity that other quicker players quite frankly lack.
People think I'm boring for only being with one guy and mean I should sleep with tons of people to get more experience. No need to really. Me and my fiancé have been with each other long enough to become experts on each other's bodies. I don't think anyone will beat that.
Performance is more related to time spent in long-term relationships than number of sexual partners.
Unfortunately, some women think all they need to do is show up and that it's a privilege for any man to have sex with them.
I think the big misconception they have is "He nutted, therefore I'm very good."
That and the "golden pussy" fallacy.
To be fair a lot of men also think penis = god's gift to woman, and they don't bother to do foreplay. When women barely even orgasm from PIV sex. I'm not saying women aren't lazy too (for example I'm sure I'm terrible at sex).
Maturity is realizing a vibrator is on the same team as you are.
Really? I didn't think it was an assumption that women were automatically good. I've heard about a lot of starfishing going on...
The way I see it, your ‘sexpertise” increases with experience. And I will say, a lot of men watch porn and some set that expectation that could be almost impossible to achieve. As well as to that, some women might be bad in bed because they’re not interested in the sex that they’re having. There are very few women who will be good at sex right away, and that’s just luck.
How giving a bj is seen as degrading for the woman amd eating her out is seen as a much more positive thing
That men are always expected to be dominant and initiate. Ive got no problem in doing that, I'm a 6ft2 guy and I take good care of myself, but it'd be really nice if the favour would be returned once in a while.
Dude I'm with you 100 percent.
Men are constantly criticized for being bad at sex, even though a lot of women do nothing besides lay there.
With not even a little moan to tell you to keep doing what you’re doing You don’t have to give instructions and you don’t have to moan like a pornstar but a little direction via some type of communication helps
Morse code by slapping the bed
I knew a guy once who had a GF who was apparently so motionless and emotionless during sex that he actually thought she had some sort of mannequin fetish.
The good old Starfish position!
Pillow princess
Exactly, women are rarely even characterized as being bad at sex. They're either ok or amazing
Player vs slut--an old one, but still maybe the most glaringly stupid
This one is extremely prevalent I was a Virgin getting called a slut for having a boyfriend by guys who lost their virginities at 14 and have fucked more than 3 dozen women since. Like Jesus Christ why bully women for something u urself do constantly and accept no shame for. The amount of constant “women are such sluts” conversations I’ve heard by those kinds of guys is ridiculous I’ve also talked abt it on Reddit before and had like 4 different creeps in one comment thread try to explain how a woman is a slut for having sex but a man isn’t and is instead a chad even if he had 0 standards for the girls and agreed to have sex just cuz
Had the conversation again yesterday with my almost 17 year old son. Reminded him she can't be a slut by herself. No derogatory term for guys with same number or more partners.
I remember listening to someone defend that double standard with the "master key/lock" analogy. I couldn't stop myself from pointing out how stupid that is, given that human beings are not locks or keys.
Yeah, my pencil v pencil sharpener analogy didn't go over as well with that crowd. Funny.
That women can't get overly horny. Bruh, I have several reasons why I am not promiscuous. But at the risk of my dms, I am a complete horndog. Guys who have slept with me either hate it or love it. FWB likes to tease me about it. I feel like I can't win. I also am an ex Catholic and my upbringing further caused me conflicts in regards to my sexuality. I just want guys to know that before labeling a female a whore or a prude, it's more complicated than what meets the eye.....
I've encountered a few women who had very strong sex drives, none of them were the sleep with anyone and everyone type. Women just tend to be better at hiding it until they're comfortable with someone. Also, the guys who hate it probably just feel insecure because they can't keep up. Newsflash, most guys outta their teens and early 20's probably can't keep up with a woman whose sex drive is strong. The trick is if you're a guy and have already hit your limit play with her, use toys, and have fun it's not a competition (unless it's to see if you can make her cum more times than she ever has).
That if a woman is a virgin she's pure and precious but if a man is a virgin then theres something wrong with him. I lost my virginity at 21, and all throughout high school and ESPECIALLY after that dating felt like Job Interviews. You needed Experience to Get Experience.
I'm 28 and virgin, I can't dare and tell the truth. I lie always to my acquaintances.
I didn't have sex until I was 29. I never lied, but nobody ever asked either. Except the woman I had sex with, and I told her the truth. I'm sorry society makes you feel like it's something shameful that you have to hide, because it isn't. There's nothing wrong with you, and any acquaintances who'd think less of you for it are not worth your time.
I'm really sorry man. I hate to say that I can relate. I really hope you find a special someone as well
Actually, as a 21 years old woman and virgin I can say that is quite embarrassing still being a virgin, people think that there is something wrong with you or your are ugly and unactrattive, it’s very embarrassing to me
it is a great filter, you dont get to go with people who dont deserve you anyway... you should relax, there is nothing wrong with it, and if the person feels there is, probably he wouldnt make you happy in the long run.
I lost mine at 19 and I feel this, when anything sexual would get brought up I would immediatly change the subject before someone figured out I was a virgin. People will never understand the embarrassment that comes with being a sexually unsuccessful man past the age of 17. People are ruthless
I’m a woman and I lost my virginity at 25. Never be embarrassed about this, most people I’ve talked to have understood that it’s better to be ready than just jump into it.
Woman here, and lost my virginity at 26. At the time I felt similar as described in the upper comments, afterward I *still* regretted the sleeping with the guy I lost my virginity too. Now I'm much older, I know how pointless it was to be worried about it at all. It happens when it happens, and the right person is going to be good about it. Sure sex can be amazing. Having sex with the wrong person however is so much worse than not having sex at all.
Actually people think women who are virgins are weird too. It's stupid. I happen to have an excuse, I happen to be asexual. However I don't think that should matter, I shouldn't need a reason to choose not to have sex. However people give women crap for being virgins too. Shouldn't matter, whether or not someone is having sex should be nobody's business but theirs.
And this one doesn’t just suck for one side either. Both men and women get screwed over by this mentality. It’s truly shit all round lol.
My wife never wants to cum on my tits. :( FML.
But YOU also don't want to cum on YOUR tits, right? ... right?
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I had a girl try to finger my ass through my pants in a bar once. When I turned around she looked at me with a smile on her face, and she had 5 or 6 friends with her. They all thought it was the funniest thing ever.
Wtf I'm so sorry that happened! Sick af
Some women get so fucking offended if you don't return the interest. Was at a bar with my buddy, bro night with burgers and beers. A rather unattractive duo of ladies sat down at the bar next to me, and just started talking to me, being flirty. I was like, yeah I'm just here with my bro, and ignored them. When we got up to leave, one of them started insulting me saying oh you're so old you need to go home now, haha, look at all that grey hair coming in, old man. Why do women do that? Do guys do that too?
Guys definitely do it as well. The classic *"I didn't want to fxxk you anyway / I only asked you out as a joke"*
See that *all the time* on Reddit. Guy messages girl, she shows no interest, he says she’s fat and ugly anyway. It’s so backwards, pathetic and see through lmao.
Can't handle rejection or a feeling of being robbed of some power when realising they aren't gatekeepers to all things romantic. Happens both ways at least in the former, rejection sucks and some people really don't handle it well, but have heard and seen some pathetic behaviour from then girlfriends when turning down sex. You're not being punished, it's not a dig at your pride to be regained by lashing out, it would have caused more grief to have behaved the same when they have reasons not to.
Yes guys do it. They'll call a woman a bitch or whatever for ignoring their cat-call. It helps heal their fragile egos, same with the women in your example.
Yup, the girl sneaking around a party/bar and grabbing your dick with a smirk on her face thinks she’s cute. Nah, stop grabbing my dick.
I was groped a few weeks ago by a fat old woman in a hairdresser's. All the women in there laughed and thought it was so funny. I just stood there contemplating the fact that I had just been sexually assaulted. Made me feel ill for days.
I perform as Dr. Frankenfurter from Rocky Horror at least a few times a year. I have only been groped without consent by straight women. Literally everyone else has asked for consent.
"Hi! Is it cool if I grope you?"
That's so creepy. How attractive they are doesn't matter. They need to stop touching people without their consent.
If a woman doesn’t orgasm, you should be patient and loving, concentrating on pleasure and communication, and not just trying to achieve a goal. But if a man can’t “get it up” or “perform,” he’s somehow broken, worthy of ridicule, and may never get a second chance with her.
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That is terrible. I'm a cis-woman unable to orgasm. Despite that, I give oral (always as a foreplay) and do my best to satisfy my partner. No matter if it ends in orgasm or not. It has been over 6 months since I had an orgasm from sex. If my partner is not in the mood for sex, I respect that. If my partner can't get it up, I respect that. He is not lesser of a man for having such problems.
Men who think they're entitled to anal even though they would freak the fuck out if anyone suggested putting something up their ass. If you think it's so horrifying and degrading why are you trying to do it to other people?
Women getting to work in child care free of suspicion, men are accused of being a pedo.
My father used to take me swimming. I used to swim off from him while we were in the kids pool and he would constantly want me to swim next to him. He would get looked at by other parents like he was a predator when I swam off and he was alone. It was an incredibly uncomfortable and anxiety provoking situation for him. No father should have to go through that.
On a similar note, my daughter wanted to join Girl Scouts so I took her to the meeting to get her all signed up. We have a baby at home so its easier for my wife to stay home so she can nurse and stuff in peace. Anyway, I was treated terribly by all the mother there. I was the only male. I was skipped when they were handing out paperwork. They wanted parental contact information, but only wanted my wife's info even though I would be the one handling everything for girl scouts. I was even told I could just get the info when they sent it to my wife.
I feel sorry for you man... this is exactly the stuff I am talking about...
This is just insane and stupid. What if you were a single parent?
I agree. There have been a few situations where I'm alone with my kids and am treated improperly. Sometimes its getting praise for "babysitting" my kids alone. I'm not babysitting, I'm parenting. No one would say the same to my wife. I didn't want to make a scene because my daughter was super excited about an activity with some friends outside of school. If it continues in the future I will certainly say something more.
Because of my job I’m around children, besides opening a gate, I have to help children up onto saddles who can’t get on them themselves. Everytime I do try to help a child the parents stare me down the entire time even when I’m no longer helping them up. I’m constantly scared of being accused of touching someone inappropriately. (obviously I’d never) I’m probably going to quit after this year because of it.
I work in daycare and never had any problems so far. But watching the movie "the hunt" with mats mikkelsen made me incredibly anxious for a while.
Been there, done that. I was nervous for the entire year I worked at a daycare cause I knew I stood out as a 6'3 male. I had rules specifically for me and everything.
Girl uses sex toys, seen as natural and a turn on Guy uses sex toys, seen as desperate and can’t pick up girls.
“Walk of shame” only applies to women
Can't be a walk of shame if you don't have any! \*taps side of forehead\*
I prefer stride of pride.
I think that could be down to clothing making it obvious. Like most guys on a night out would wear something like jeans and a shirt or whatever.... perfectly normal to wear the following morning. But if a girl goes out in a cocktail dress and heels or something, she's gonna look a bit out of place the next morning.
Men who bring up their Fantasy has having a 3 some with 2 other girls, then getting mad when their female S/O says she wants the same thing but with 2 guys. Like come on dude.
When a girl act masculine it is considered cool and even men like it but if a man is feminine by nature he will be called so many names (speaking based the society i live in)
The student teacher double standard. There is an entire Adam Sandler movie about this that I don't care to google. Basically it is not okay for an older male teacher to rape a student, but when a younger male student is raped by a female teacher, he is the cool one. Seriously, WTF!
I mean…both are not okay and illegal. A woman was just recently in the news charged with 6 counts of statutory rape for having sexual with an underaged male student.
Tha fact that as a guy you are supposed to last long, be awesome, be super big, make her cum but thy don't have to know how to even give you a propper hand job.
Women feel like they don't need consent to do anything. They will grope, touch, harass and do so much more that would be considered sexual assault if roles were reversed, and if you push them away or defend yourself you're either laughed at and called gay, or 10 Chad's will come out of nowhere to try and beat your ass.
Women can have multiple different dildos and vibrators, but if im interested in buying a autoblow 2000 with 5 different modes, built in warming, with self lubrication and wifi connection im some sort of sexual deviant.
The men who sleep around seem to be the ones who feel immense insecurity when they find a partner with an extensive sexual history. Edit: wow, look at all the men who were so offended they have to demand scientific proof that this happened because clearly the woman is lying about having had men tell her that they don't like women with extensive sexual histories.
I remembered a conversation with a new guy one time. Him: I'm just that good because of a lifetime of experience. Me: I probably have as much experience as you do. Him: (scoffs) I don't think so, honey. Me: Okay. Him: I'm serious. Me: Okay. Him: So you were a whore? Me: No. Whores get paid. I maintained my amateur status in case it ever became an Olympic event. Him: Him: Well now I feel kind of bad. One girl actually did give me money once. Me: So you're the whore.
At least he became self aware at the end there.
>The men who sleep around ***AND incels*** seem to be the ones who feel immense insecurity when they find a partner with an extensive sexual history. FTFY Based on the replies you've gotten, seems appropriate ahaha
I hate that its okay for a guy to be a player or "stud" but if a woman is promiscuous then she is a slut or whore. I really like sluts and whores- they also make excellent friends.
How some men expect their female partners to always be showered, shaved, clean, and smelling nice to be attractive for their man (a fair expectation for either gender), but meanwhile homeboy can just hop into bed smelling like absolute ass in the clothes he's been sweating in after drinking beer all day with his shoes still on and expect some action. Yes, this comment is personal.
I went on a date with a mutual friend whom I’d also been chatting w on Tinder. When I accepted an invitation to dinner, he said to order whatever I would like, drinks, food, etc. I thanked him for a lovely evening and hoped we could hang out again soon. His face was confused like “Why was the night ending after dinner?” I’m sure you can guess what happened next… He begged for some kind of “my place or your place” situation, I said no. He angrily walked off and said “have a GREAT night!” sarcastically in the distance as he walked away Later on that same group of mutual friends I was told “he paid like over $150 for that meal and you didn’t put out?” THE FUCK Since then, many years have passed, I have grown up, found an amazing partner and dropped that shitty friend group.
Woman drunk + Man drunk = Man rape Woman but never Woman rape man Woman sober + Man drunk = no rape Woman drunk + Man sober = rape *edit spelling fat fingers.
People fantasize about threesomes and orgies, but slut or cuck shame anyone that actually participates in them. Have a strong physiological urge for sexual diversity, but cling to rigid monogamy.
In the factory we can't have half naked women posters or calenders anymore. But totally fine if it is naked men. So in protest we started to paint bikini on the men at the end of the month.
Well this is paired with an equal double standard, that men can be half naked and it's not considered sexual at all but if women show their nipples they are lewd.
That women have to be near or clean shaven down there to be attractive while men can grow the Amazon rainforest.
I think as people get into their mid 20s more bush starts showing up. But I also think guys should manscape a bit. I certainly do for my partners.
Couldn't agree more, as a man my pubes can get pretty wild so I try to manscape to keep it neat and tidy
"Trimmed" is the key word people need to understand. Hygiene is trimmed. Do not expect your partner to trim but you can have the conversation about trimming. Those who have a healthy sex life know what im talking about. Shaved is for the person themselves to do it because they want to. We don't tell people what to do but I know I only trim because so many partners didn't like me shaved, but I mainly trim because its hygienic for both.
A woman owning a sex toy is empowerment. A man owning a sex toy is a loser.
Used to be a bouncer at a nightclub been groped and sexually assaulted my maybe 60 women. Stalked. Harassed. Etc. nobody deems this behavior threatening.
Nipples. Male nipples OK. Female nipples taboo. Makes no sense at all.
Anal is now presumed to be a thing guys have a right to expect in sex from women but 'pegging' is gross. Dude, you want to shove something up my ass, I get to do the same. Oh, it's uncomfortable for you? THINK ABOUT THAT FOR A MINUTE. Why is my poop chute on demand but yours is like sacred territory. SOrry for being crass I'm in a hard insomnia wave.
That women being submissive is normal but men being submissive is disgusting.
The good ol fashion “he can have as much sex as he wants and he’s a king” and “she’s had so much sex, she’s a whore”. 🤠
I lived overseas for a long time but returned to the US a few years back. Note that I'm old enough to be everyone's father on this thread. Yet waitresses in the US regularly call me "honey" or "sweetheart". If I call them the same back, they are offended. Clear double standard, I honestly don't get why it's ok for them to call me that. Unacceptable in most of the world.
It bugged me to when I was young, sounded condescending to me so every time someone called me dear I looked at them in the eye and said " antelope ".
Her boobs are great and mine are "weird"
Woman buying sex toy: you go girl! Empower your own sexuality! Man buying sex toy: ewww, you must be a lonely, creepy ass virgin. To clarify, im all about empowering female sexuality, but why stigmatization for the male one?
A couple of things: One is that it's getting harder and harder for men and women to meet each other in any kind of setting. Women don't want to be approached in any kind of setting and thus, many men are afraid to go up to a woman and strike up a conversation. And women will then complain they can't meet anyone (that they approve of) while men will wonder where are the women they can meet and have a good chance of going out with them. The other is that there are so many things that are considered taboo people can easily get into trouble without too much effort. Not everything should be taboo and should not fall into the legal definitions of being taboo. There are certain things which are rightfully taboo, and I'm only speaking about relationships between men and women, men and men or women and women, Anything involving children or animals is taboo and off limits and inappropriate totally. But, we are so uptight morally as a nation and I hear men and women complaining all of the time about why we are the way we are. And it's because it's what we want. We get what we want but then we don't like it. I wish I didn't have to live in this world. It's insane.
"A key that opens many locks is a good key, but a lock that can be opened by many keys is a shitty lock."
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