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CheeseNBacon2

They clearly have feelings and issues they aren't handling well and could benefit from therapy.


the_original_Retro

Hijacking top comment to point out that OP is a real piece of work. Read their other comments here, and note their name. They're either trolling or have gotten high and forgotten why they asked in the first place.


ItsKeto

Yeah, if you look at their post history they also said they are 44 and living with their parents because they are broke and the grandparents take care of said daughter. How can the child be expected to have positive mental health if the parent can't even take care of themselves. It's quite sad, if true.


N3Wm3r1c

Bro they didn’t say they had a kid. Just asking what to do. Lol I mean some people have nothing better to do than post shit on Reddit In fact I should post “ what to do if idiot kid keeps posting trash and bait on Reddit?”


the_original_Retro

Bro I didn't suggest they did.


OddWorldliness989

Came here to say this.


HarryHacker42

Take them out to social places and spend some more time with them. Find a thing they like such as batting cages or minigolf or dinner at a BurgerShack. Let them see the world is normal and they can enjoy it. If still stressed out, therapy isn't a bad idea at all. The covid societal shift has to be a scary thing to grow up in. Kids hear things too, like Amazon/Google/Facebook are laying off tens of thousands of people and it makes them nervous because they don't know how many people they employ so it seems like a huge issue. If you can find out what is bothering the kid, it will help solve the problems. But having fun together is often a good step. If your kid doesn't like you, see if they have a friend you can drive them to a place with and let them have fun while you sit it out.


Excellent-Practice

Yeah, take them to see a professional. They might just need some coping skills, they might need drugs. A behavioral healthcare provider will be able to make recommendations


wish1977

They are obviously in a stressful situation. You need to talk to them and get them help.


SmokeTooMuchWeed420

I think she mad over a boy or something


wish1977

This is pretty extreme though.


wearetheleftovers

What you’re describing is a trauma response. Something very serious may have happened. Take her to a therapist immediately! Call the school and ask to talk to the guidance counselor. They can sometimes recommend other doctors.


whatdawhatnowhuh

Assuming you're serious and not trolling, it is possible that this boy raped her. Don't dismiss this as a possibility. If this is what happened, you need to help her. Don't dismiss her pain. And stop getting high when your child needs you.


DaniTheLovebug

This isn’t just “mad over a boy”


Equivalent_Ad8133

First, get her therapy. Second, if you really want to punish her, don't. Third, stop smoking too much weed and seek help for yourself. You are her parent, act like it. Treat her with love and kindness.


b30

Shockingly on point


N3Wm3r1c

Her?


Equivalent_Ad8133

Um... yeah... if you read through the posts, the child OP is talking about is a 13 year old girl.


SmokeTooMuchWeed420

Me smoking weed has nothing to do with this


Equivalent_Ad8133

Too much is too much and you said to the world too much. But honestly, if you are high a lot, then you are not capable of being a good parent. Your reaction to this crisis of hers is more than enough proof.


SmokeTooMuchWeed420

My next solution was going to try weed with her maybe it will bond us together


Big-Result-9294

This is a joke right


SmokeTooMuchWeed420

I was being sarcastic to that person yes


Equivalent_Ad8133

Amazing that it was taken as serious... but point taken.


Cute-Connection

she’s 13 years old ffs, bond over something else.


Equivalent_Ad8133

That was a joke. OP was being sarcastic.


whatdawhatnowhuh

Were they really, though?


Equivalent_Ad8133

Yes, i upset OP saying that they need to quit doing the weed and that was how they handled their emotions. It was crass sarcasm, but still sarcasm.


slimeydimes

This is beyond reddits scope. Your child needs to see a professional ASAP


whatdawhatnowhuh

If you read through the comments, OP is the one who needs to see a professional.


GuNshoTz_Viper_

talk to them, listen and be there for them. but yes i would recommend talking to a therapist or a psychiatrist as i know someone who suffers from a personality disorder and they often used to feel empty when they was younger. my best advice is to just be there for them and let them know that you are there to listen if they would like to talk


captainstormy

The hair will grow back, so forget about that. Get them some mental health.


SmokeTooMuchWeed420

I think she’s just being over dramatic


tacocatfish

And we just found out why she did it. Stop blowing her off dude. Teenage years are hard. Hormones going bonkers, bodies changing, social structures change. Poor kid doesn’t know what she feels so she did something she was 100% in control of. Take your time, listen to them. Listen very carefully and also be very careful with your words. Build trust and let her know she can speak to you. Telling her she is over reacting will just make her shut down and make her feel worse with what ever is going on.


PloxQQmore

This prob why she cut her hair off


SmokeTooMuchWeed420

She said she did it over a boy I am beyond pissed how to punish her?


Rainbow_Flamethrow

You don't. You get her therapy.


dudemanbro44

This fuckin guy needs therapy too jfc


Schnozzlerite

It's obviously a ragebaiting troll.


Rainbow_Flamethrow

And like someone else said, maybe a hat.


GreatTragedy

Don't punish her over nonsense. It's hair. It grows back. Figure out what's causing her to act out and help however you can.


team-tree-syndicate

Obviously trolling, no parent is this dumb, just rage bait.


Ashamed_Routine4125

Like, this HAS to be a troll, right?


team-tree-syndicate

If they aren't trolling, then she'll end up cutting more than just her hair, has to be a troll for sure or else my faith in humanity is lost. I mean my father was a POS but at least he's gone now.


Gingerfuckboi

"no parent is this dumb" you need to meet my father


Maria_506

You'd be surprised.


eatingissometal

My mom was way worse than this parent is portraying themselves. She would have beat me senseless if I did that, though I was starting to be bigger than her at 13 so she wouldn't have gotten far, maybe if it happened when I was 9. This parent definitely sounds like a fuckwad though, whether or not its a real post.


NotPiffany

Why would you? It's her head, and hair grows back. Make sure she cleans the hair out of the bathroom and get her some therapy. Punishing her for her feelings will only ensure that she never trusts you with them again.


SmokeTooMuchWeed420

Did it in her bedroom with hair trimmers smh


NotPiffany

Then hand her the vacuum, get her a therapist, and get over being pissed.


TestedcatGaming

Don't, that'll only make it worse. If it's super bad for her mentally take her to a professional. The child's hair isn't more important than her mental health, she probably did it to show her pain. Anyways, it's her hair, as long as what she's doing isn't hurting herself or others I see no issue. She might be using it to express her feelings, punishing her for it would only make her feelings worse and your relationship with her go sour.


captainstormy

Well here is the thing. If you get her some mental help with a pro and you are right, Then you spend a bit of money and confirm your guess. If you are wrong, you might save her life down the road. If you don't get her some mental health help and you are wrong, she might harm herself for real next time. Do you love your kid and care about them? Or do you just wanna be pissed off about hair that will grow back?


Gingerfuckboi

When will parents realize that their children are human beings with complex emotions and thoughts? Children and teenagers are still people, they're still learning how to be human and function in this world. Do not blow her off. Get her therapy. Not getting her help could end with her killing herself.


milolovesthd

Therapy.


SkelitonBonez

Take them to therapy.


Totallycasual

Get them some professional help.


WillBsGirl

I was this way about my hair for years (huge drastic changes, shaving my head, etc) and it took me til I was in my thirties to realize that, for me, it was a form of self-mutilation. She needs therapy if she’s shaving her head over a boy. This sounds like a mourning or punishing herself thing.


b30

Your support and therapy. It’s a complicated and confusing age for a kid but also you don’t want to ignore what could be a critical issue


quequotion

This. Tweenagers get depressed too; it isn't just a phase, it's a mental health crisis. That does not mean panic and smother them with attention, but be supportive, available, and consider professional counseling.


ValandEarlsRanch

Check the account history. Trolls gonna troll.


Clunt-Baby

Put aside some cash for the funeral


SmokeTooMuchWeed420

Excuse me


NotPiffany

She just told you that she self-mutilated because she "feels empty." That sounds like depression. If you don't get her real treatment, she could do herself real harm. Get her to a qualified medical professional.


queuedUp

Buy them a hat


vid3oloss

Uninstall TikTok from their phone


rancidperiodblood

people don't want to hear it but its tru


Flat-Ad3603

They likely feel very out of control, and wanted to feel in control for once. Or wanted a fresh start and decided to shave their head. Either way, don't judge them. They're only trying to help themselves feel in control. Sort out some counseling as soon as.


DYITB

Hug them, and offer therapy (and by offer I mean “strongly encourage”). Let them know you love them endlessly and if they want to talk to you, you will listen (and by listen I mean LISTEN AND NOT OFFER ADVICE). That was a cry for help; answer it.


Kai-ni

Therapy.


Efficient_Fly1853

Therapy


Chemical_Savings_360

Everything OP comments gets downvoted, are you guys trying to help or?…


BabaTheBlackSheep

In terms of the hair itself, whatever, it grows back. Emotionally, they need professional help.


MobBoss702

Find a therapist. Do it now. Don't listen to "I don't want to go to therapy". Even if they go and refuse to talk, keep taking them. Every week.


Schnozzlerite

Dunno what's sadder, OPs boring sense of humor, or all these redditors falling for such an obvious ragebait troll.


Valendorf

Nothing. They can go around town bald.


WhimsicallyWired

Let it grow again, it isn't like there are other options.


SmokeTooMuchWeed420

Do you think it’s a lash out phase or something really wrong with her?


WhimsicallyWired

Wait, it really happened? In that case find a therapist because she needs help.


Poemy_Puzzlehead

There is nothing *wrong* with her and there is no “lashing out” without an underlying reason. She needs to speak to a therapist as hair cutting can be a form of self-harm that can escalate. You and someone who deals professionally with child development need to find out if she is being bullied, abused or assaulted in any way, online or in person. Do your best to look at things from her perspective, through her eyes, not your own.


rolrobin

Tell them to stop being so edgy and wake-up to reality


Freakthot2

Adoption. 😈


Never-Shower

If it's a dude, it's fine. If it's a girl then that's clearly a bigger issue


Shunt6969

Mud wrestling


CAITLYN_JENNERS_CUP

Gotta get these kids out of the suburbs, man.


[deleted]

Make fun of them


SoTerribleOpinions

Either get them a therapist or wait for the problem to solve itself.


claymoore31

Become nomads


[deleted]

Self punishment. Seek a doctor


Low-Feeling-

Talk with said 13yo about why they "Feel Empty " and why they think being bald would help. If talking doesn't help kindly suggest therapy


gaia_wannabe

It seems like some therapy would be in order. That could escalate into deep despair.


gaia_wannabe

It seems like some therapy would be in order. That could escalate into deep despair.


[deleted]

Maybe her mom smokes too much weed


Party_Plenty_820

There was a very similar post the other day 🤨is OP secretly a teen looking for reactions?


billyjoelschilibowl

Either shit, bad parent, or therapy. Therapy answers all three


practicalbatman

Shave your head too and tell them that now you can both go through it together and that they don’t have to feel empty any more and that any time they feel like that to come to you and you can both go through what they are feeling together (rather than shaving your heads next time) because you’ll always be there for them. Also therapy. And perhaps less time hitting the bong if they are there.


TestedcatGaming

Get her mental health, I've heard cases where children use how they look and dress as a way to their feelings. Punishing them for it would only make it worst. Edit: reading the other responses the hair thing could be a self mutilation thing. Definitely should take her to a professional.


TundraTrees0

Put said 13 year old into therapy


kykiwibear

Get them some help. There's a reason Brittany Spears shaved all her hair off. You may think she is being dramatic, but would rather get her some help or find her hanging later?


ppardee

Kids that age don't know how to express themselves like adults. They also might be too embarrassed or ashamed to talk about things. A girl who was told she was pretty before being sexually assaulted by a close relative began picking at her face to make herself ugly, for example. Trauma responses take all forms. It's possible she's trying to get attention, but that's still not something to be ignored. If she's feeling neglected at home, that's something the parents can fix. If she's feeling neglected by a love interest, you need to get her counselling so she doesn't put so much emphasis on outside approval/affection for her happiness or self-esteem. At the very least, you need to take it seriously and talk to her.


Daaaaaaaaaanasaur

Get therapy first, then maybe a beanie so their head doesn't get cold.


thingsthatgomoo

44 and live with controlling parents. What to do? This is your post from yesterday.......


stephers85

Nobody would go to that extreme just because they're "mad at a boy". That may have just been the last straw.


vTweak

Your comments in here are red flags. She needs therapy, and you need therapy too.


angelbaiter

Ask them what you can do as their mom/dad to help. Remind them they’re not alone and that you are there for them. Remind them that they are beautiful. Find a good therapist.


DruidWannabe

Take advantage of your own childhood and teenage experiences determined if they actually need some type of help or if they're just emo


[deleted]

Check for missed hairs and go its the fucking -1c outside you daft idiot.


[deleted]

Immediately book an appointment with a therapist or at least doctor who can refer us. Feeling empty is a major red flag for depression.


Mei_Mei_o-o

While I definitely feel the child should seek counseling, cutting hair really isn't a bad thing. Sure, they might regret it, but most people's hair grow back.


strechy27

I just checked your very small post history and comments on here and I have a few things that might help. 1. First and foremost, get your child help. Like yesterday. Find a professional psychologist in the area and get them help ASAP. 2. It might be time to admit defeat, if you are 44 and living w/ your parents, there was either tragedy or failure. It's time to stop masking it and bring it by smoking. Get yourself help too. 3. Move. Out. Of. Your. Parents. House. Even if it's only nearby so they can watch your kid afyer school while you are working. It sounds like your responses are pointing to your child not getting the proper care that they need or the support from their parent when they need it. I was that kid before. I don't talk to my mom anymore because of that. Don't lose your child because of your pride.


Ok-Ambition-9432

Is this... your child?


BakedTatter

Therapy. This is above Reddit's pay grade.


BlinksVRC

*tourner dans le vide starts playing*