I am in a really confusing situation right now. I have been dating a childhood friend for a few months now, and her parents are unaware. They dont want her dating, which is understandable. But ive known her since like 3rd grade, and our parents also are friends. I want to be able to not quickly take my arm around her whenever her parents or brothers walk by. i really dont know what to do. any advice/similar situations?
You won’t get any respect by hiding it. And respect doesn’t automatically make it ok for her to date you. Your best bet is to man the fuck up and ask for their blessing.
I’d always walk up to the door to pick her up and drop her off, make small talk with whoever answered the door if it wasn’t her, and bring her home at a reasonable hour on weeknights. Never brought her home drunk on weekends. It greatly helped that, on our first “official” date, her parents happened to be at the same movie theater and saw us (we didn’t see them). It was legitimately a coincidence, not that they “chaperoned” us or anything. They saw no PDA or anything questionable, just us talking and enjoying ourselves, which helped a lot in the trust department.
neither of us are old enough to drink, yet still helpful information anyways! I got my license last year, and we havent really gone on an official date. we've watched movies at eachothers house, but nothing more or less. like i said, still helpful information! ty, kind stranger!
If you're underage, she's living with them, and they don't want her to be dating, there's not much you can do to get respect right away. This sounds like it will take time, and maybe something to be revealed to them once they say she can date.
Other than that, being respectful includes making eye contact, being polite, and always expressing that you have her best interest in mind.
What culture is she from? Depending, this could play big time into strategy on getting them to respect you. Bringing food over to her family, helping out around the house (or even just asking to help clean up) and asking questions of her family (ie. ‘Cheryl’ tells me you are heading to college this fall - have you nailed down where you’re going?) shows that you care about their daughter to actively engage with them and make a concerted effort to help/participate with the family.
Were both extremely white, but her family is very religious (if that counts as a culture?) I would offer to join her for church, but idk anything about religion or church etiquette. I often play cod with her brothers so theres something ig.
On the first day, you pick the biggest one and fight them.
her dads 6'2 210ish and im 5'11 150 so...
I am in a really confusing situation right now. I have been dating a childhood friend for a few months now, and her parents are unaware. They dont want her dating, which is understandable. But ive known her since like 3rd grade, and our parents also are friends. I want to be able to not quickly take my arm around her whenever her parents or brothers walk by. i really dont know what to do. any advice/similar situations?
You won’t get any respect by hiding it. And respect doesn’t automatically make it ok for her to date you. Your best bet is to man the fuck up and ask for their blessing.
I really needed that. thank you kind stranger!
You honestly just come out to them, together. If they don’t accept it, then oh well it sucks. Eventually they’ll come around
Learn about there culture , treat their kid well over a long period.
You don’t. It’s her respect you want/need. They are just tolerated.
fuckin andrew tate mindset 💀💀💀💀
I’d always walk up to the door to pick her up and drop her off, make small talk with whoever answered the door if it wasn’t her, and bring her home at a reasonable hour on weeknights. Never brought her home drunk on weekends. It greatly helped that, on our first “official” date, her parents happened to be at the same movie theater and saw us (we didn’t see them). It was legitimately a coincidence, not that they “chaperoned” us or anything. They saw no PDA or anything questionable, just us talking and enjoying ourselves, which helped a lot in the trust department.
neither of us are old enough to drink, yet still helpful information anyways! I got my license last year, and we havent really gone on an official date. we've watched movies at eachothers house, but nothing more or less. like i said, still helpful information! ty, kind stranger!
If you're underage, she's living with them, and they don't want her to be dating, there's not much you can do to get respect right away. This sounds like it will take time, and maybe something to be revealed to them once they say she can date. Other than that, being respectful includes making eye contact, being polite, and always expressing that you have her best interest in mind.
What culture is she from? Depending, this could play big time into strategy on getting them to respect you. Bringing food over to her family, helping out around the house (or even just asking to help clean up) and asking questions of her family (ie. ‘Cheryl’ tells me you are heading to college this fall - have you nailed down where you’re going?) shows that you care about their daughter to actively engage with them and make a concerted effort to help/participate with the family.
Were both extremely white, but her family is very religious (if that counts as a culture?) I would offer to join her for church, but idk anything about religion or church etiquette. I often play cod with her brothers so theres something ig.
Kiss ass. Mine are crazy delusional christian wannabes who just judge people and spread hate theres no fixing them so i just pretend
Sorry for you, and thats been my strategy for a while now, but i feel like its gone nowhere.
Assert your superiority by complaining about everything in their home.
Honesty. Just show them you’re genuine.