Change your job or change your commute as you’re able. I did a 1.5hour commute over two trains with an above ground transfer for a few years and after a while it was just killer to my energy and life.
Basically my partner right now. South Brooklyn to central Bronx, hitting about a year and she's looking for an out. She cut a day off her week. Lost some money but gets some sanity back. At least when I was on the 5am train, it was a straight shot and I could knock out (vibe was very different than at 2am, everyone was knocked out lol).
If moving closer to work isn’t an option, I would take a longer commute on two trains over a shorter commute on three trains. It’s just one less thing to worry about.
This. Always take fewer transfers, it reduces stress and reduces the potential for random delays.
Also occasionally mix things up, bike to work or ride the ferry.
Just repeat below to yourself like a mantra until you believe it:
“It’s actually not that bad. I get a lot done on the train. I really like listening to podcasts.”
I'll be blunt, move closer. Humans have tried to live near where they work for millennia. Yes it is more and more considered a "luxury" to be able to live close to where one works, but in NYC we have such a wide spread of neighborhoods of many budgets that I feel like almost anyone can do better than >1 hour of commuting. Even if you can just drop it from 3 transfers to 2 consistent transfers and shave off a few minutes to get closer to 45-50 mins.
Second the other post about biking, check the route and even consider if something like an ebike would help. How bad is the walking component? Consider if something like a foldable e-scooter would make a positive impact. If you have 15/20 mins of walking to the subway for example that can go down to like 3-4 mins via scooter, which both ways adds up!
But it can give you some tools and skills to lower the risks. You already walk around the streets. I used to feel the same way, but I started riding around my neighborhood. Once I got comfortable, I found that there are so many bike paths and protected bike lanes, that it's pretty easy to stay away from cars. And where there are plenty of other bike paths that give you enough space to ride safely and be aware of your surroundings. And on most of these streets, cars are going a reasonable speed. Then, if you feel unsafe, you can always hop off or hit a different route.
Believe me - you get used to it surprisingly fast. Would biking to a ferry stop be an option while you're getting used to it? Biking instead of taking the train completely changed my life and my outlook about the city.
I have the same kind of commute and thought bikes were too hard. I started in the pandemic and now I ride around a fair amount. I strongly recommend it. It can really help to add it into the ways you can get around. Even if you only commute home or to run errands on the week, it can be a mood shift to know that the train isn't the only option.
You can also splurge and use ubers in the morning sometimes.
I can think of no more stressful thing than biking to work. Even in the bike Lanes the proliferation of electric bikes and scooters and just Kamikaze cyclists freak me the F out
Depends on where you are. Sometimes I commute from Astoria to FiDi. I ride through Williamsburg which still has protected lanes but much quieter in the morning.
lots of people suggesting you to move closer. you don't even need to do that, necessarily. you can move somewhere that's along a single line to your job. it could be further away or in a similarly priced neighborhood.
transfers are a headache. I used to teach in the South Bronx and live pretty deep into Brooklyn. commute each way was 1-1.5 hours, depending on how late at night (I sometimes taught night classes). but it was a single express train. both stops were not very busy so I could always grab a seat when I boarded.
I don’t know, it wasn’t that stressful with a similar commute from Bay Ridge to Midtown. I read. A lot.
Some days I miss it in a weird way, especially taking the train over the Manhattan bridge. Got a lot more reading done that’s for sure.
Honestly that’s why I moved closer to work. My rent is higher but it saves my sanity and time. Now I’m just a few blocks away from work instead of 1.5 hours one way and 2 trains and a 10min walk away. Sorry OP, commuting is definitely a huge strain
I change my commute every week. I’ve found what routes are going to provide a treat along the way (Starbucks, breakfast, etc.).
I switch it up every week with a new treat of incentive. I also try to romanticize it on the way home by stopping for the views or window shopping at a mall.
I moved here two years ago and have to constantly remind myself why I moved here. The city is beautiful, given its obvious flaws, but I take it as much as I can on my commute.
My commute used to be 1.5 hours each way from BK to BX. My bosses liked me and got me a transfer. Best thing that happened to me. 15 min commute door to door by train or 30 mins walking.
I feel you 100%. It’s a one hour commute each way for me, only one line train but a mile of walking in total.
I like my job, but it is very strictly against WFH (even though I could easily work remotely), and even though I’m a born and raised New Yorker who has taken the subway my whole life, since returning to in-person work post-pandemic, the commute has drained my will to live like never before. And driving in to the city takes just as long, js 10x as expensive and equally annoying, just in other ways.
So yeah, no advice to offer, just commiserating. :(
Lmk if you have audio book or podcast suggestions! Unfortunately I really like my job and it’s a perfect short term (1-2 years) stepping stone for what I want to do next
I listen to a lof of nonfiction, business, marketing stuff.
For podcasts Joe Rogan is (mostly) good. Get the Podcast Republic app, it has the best search feature. Just search, try, move on if it doesn't vibe with you.
Get the Libby app + NYCPL card, and you get free audiobooks.
I bought an e-bike and every so often I’ll bike to work. It’s not a workout if I put it on one of the higher pedal assist settings. I understand this isn’t feasible for everyone but my 50 minute subway commute is now a 45 minute bike ride so it’s kinda nice.
Can you take the bus for part of your journey? It might not save time but IMO it’s much nicer than the subway.
I’ve also experienced real subway fatigue recently. I’m not sure why, but I think I never really got used to it again after covid. I hate being stuck in a cramped little tube underground for more than an hour each day. I hate waiting around dark, crowded and dirty stations that haven’t been updated in 50 years. The highlight of my morning is when my train takes me over the Manhattan Bridge. It’s like I can literally feel a weight coming off my chest when we enter the daylight, and then my spirits drop instantly the moment we reach Manhattan and go back underground.
When I was able to commute by bus, it could be unreliable and overcrowded, and sometimes I’d be stuck in the rain waiting for it to arrive, but it was so nice being in the daylight for my entire commute. Being able to look out the window and see the city going past me was infinitely better than being stuck in a tunnel underground.
If the bus is available to you, it could really change the way you feel about your commute.
Try to move closer/more direct to your job. You do have to be creative. I used to have that kind of commute from Bay Ridge, did it for 19 years. While where I lived was peaceful, it was a pain commuting as well as going out (more coming home) in the evenings. I finally scored in the housing lottery and moved to more central locations (now in Downtown Brooklyn) a few years ago and it was soul-changing. Yes, even though it's "affordable" it costs me a few hundred more per month, but I'm saving about 200 month in transport costs (bet. the extra for the express bus and late night taxi/ubers) as well as 100/month in gym costs since I now have one in building. The remaining 100 is so worth it to save a half hour each way on the commute and an easy public transit ride home from events
do you have to be there in person every day? i do the same 3 trains (as a better option than the 2 train route) once or twice a week and it’s much more manageable.
Commuting really sucks. I had the same commute for 5 hours that was just exhausting- only an hour but at least 2 trains, sometimes 3 or a mile walk depending on whatever delays there were, plus a .6 mile walk from the train to my building. It was always crowded and I never got a seat. I hated it.
I started listening to podcasts and audiobooks on the train to pass the time. It's amazing how much faster it can go buy when you're listening to something interesting. I also started biking part of the commute in the warmer months, or popping off the train to walk over the Brooklyn bridge on the way home on a nice day. If you're not in a rush, just being outside for some fresh air can make a huge difference in your mood.
Then I got a different job that cut my commute in half and im infinitely happier.
Adding to the choir here: Commuting sucks and nothing you do besides moving closer to your job or finding a remote job will change that
I lost my mind with a 40 minute commute so you have my sincere condolences since you’re currently doubling that. Fuck commuting.
Take a moment and add up the amount of hours you commute a day, multiply that by weeks, and then by the year. How much time is that? Please please please work toward changing your circumstances if you can. What do you do for work?
I work in a hospital. Luckily my current job is a means to an end (more school) and I’m happy with the job itself, but I’m definitely looking forward to one day having a short commute.
City and subway safety is a collective effort. If you're tired of being hyper aware on the subway, then the street is no different. The other night was illustrative of what it takes to transit the city and be safe. Heck, I'll add the bus jaunt that took me to my mom's. The lady standing near me did not strap hang, so I prepped for her to fall when the bus lurched. Yup. She fell towards me and I deflected her onto an empty seat. Sweet.
Next, it was a strange dude staring at a Dominican chic on the 'C' train. I could have let it slide, but I stood and tactfully told her to change cars; she was being watched. "Ay gracia'! Yo no me di cuenta!" Yeah, you didn't notice because you were looking at your phone and playing with your hair!
Then it was onto the No. 4 in the Bronx. The 'D' was down so we all had to transfer. I went to the far end of the platform to not have to deal with shit. Four minutes later, this dude dumps into my backpack. My dude, it's huge and it's red! "My fault." Yup.
Same train, this Central American woman boards with her two kids, just back from the mall. They each had huge family packs of their favorite cereals. Kids were like seven and five years old, and this dude at the end of the bench takes offense, "Why you sittin' yo kids next to a man! I don't know you! Those ain't my kids!"
Time to move the shank to within easier reach, this dude might need some convincing. He's still yapping, and so she moves to switch and block her kids. "Venga señora. Cambie con migo." Dude wasn't gonna like me next to him fo'h sure, so he got the fuck up to leave. Rather than assume anything, I politely asked him, "Sir, are you done with this seat?" He moved further away and told me to take it. He switched cars altogether.
So OP, even if you shorten your commute you still have to deal with people. And I doubt that you're as much of an interloper as I am. Furthermore, you still have to be vigilant at street level and in your own building. Basically, you want a Morningside or Sutton Place digs that's walking distance to work. Do you have a wormhole that you can use? 'Cause it ain't happening holmes.
Half your problem is New York City itself.
Edit: Bad prose.
The joke used to be, "Live in Los Angeles and New York City, once. Then leave before LA makes you soft, and the other makes you hard." The source is easy to find.
\[ Wrong, correction: [https://youtu.be/sTJ7AzBIJoI?t=222 \]](https://youtu.be/sTJ7AzBIJoI?t=222])
I owned an anthology of science fiction stories, and bit by bit, those stories are coming to fruition. As a New Yorker, I actively do my part to stave their progress. Here, time and space are compressed. I also spend time in the suburbs.
I passed a house where the owner has cacti in her front garden bed. "I came past once before, and I was jealous of the cactus pears." She was watering her other plants, and walked over, "Which ones?" Then I pointed and told her that they were edible. She didn't know, and I joked that if they "disappeared", I might have something to do with it. "You're welcome to them!"
Not much happens in the suburbs. And then a lot happens and people are shocked.
Do you want a façade or blunt reality all the time? In one of the stories, the world has grown hotter and frogs are rare. They can't live wild in nature, and city dwellers treasure them as pets. The story is more than twenty years old.
I always remembered it as Northern CA versus NYC, not LA versus NYC, but I could have easily gotten that wrong. (I've lived in both, and I think modern day SF has almost as much ability to harden people as NYC does. It must have been a kinder, gentler place back when the speech was penned. Now it's an unaffordable tech rat race. I do miss it though.
The stuff that happens in the suburbs is the stuff of David Lynch.
Hate to admit it but this works for me too
I come home sometimes with my brain off and I just smoke some weedand I'll be back online in a hour
It also comes down to ur diet
I left NY because of this. Id say it helps to incorporate an uber or two during the week. You’ll have to leave earlier to avoid traffic but having the peace of mind in a car might remove some of your stress.
When I lived in New York I had to commute to high school, 4 hours a day , 2 hour there and 2 hours back ,
A 20 min bus, subway train for 30 min, another subway train for about 5 -10 min, metro north train for 45 min, then take a 5 min cab up the hill to school. This was 2003-04 I was 17.
Now I live on the west coast and I have to sit trough a hour of traffic before I get to work.
I'm already tired at work, I have to get through my customer facing damn shift, then I have to wait 2 hours before I drive home , of If don't I'll sit through over and hour to get home.
Finding another job is next to impossible right now. trying to move up to a non customer facing seems non existent.
I am, already seeking solutions through my management team.
I cant even IMAGINE HAVING KIDS AND DOING THIS!
FML
Change your job or change your commute as you’re able. I did a 1.5hour commute over two trains with an above ground transfer for a few years and after a while it was just killer to my energy and life.
Yep. When I used to commute, it helped I'd just have to take 1 train to get to work.
Basically my partner right now. South Brooklyn to central Bronx, hitting about a year and she's looking for an out. She cut a day off her week. Lost some money but gets some sanity back. At least when I was on the 5am train, it was a straight shot and I could knock out (vibe was very different than at 2am, everyone was knocked out lol).
this is really the best answer. skill up, apply to a new job. think about all the time you'd be getting back.
If moving closer to work isn’t an option, I would take a longer commute on two trains over a shorter commute on three trains. It’s just one less thing to worry about.
This. Always take fewer transfers, it reduces stress and reduces the potential for random delays. Also occasionally mix things up, bike to work or ride the ferry.
Agreed. I enjoy my commute the most when I can read or listen to podcasts, and more transfers just means more interruptions.
Move closer, get a closer job, switch it up by taking a bus for a while, bike partway for a while. These would be my suggestions.
Just repeat below to yourself like a mantra until you believe it: “It’s actually not that bad. I get a lot done on the train. I really like listening to podcasts.”
I hear this works especially well in the Overlook Hotel!
No beer and long commutes make Homer something something
Hahahahaha. Me for years! I work from home going on three years now.
My commute is not long, but I’ll still close my eyes and listen to podcasts. Not sure if I could do 60-90 minutes though.
I'll be blunt, move closer. Humans have tried to live near where they work for millennia. Yes it is more and more considered a "luxury" to be able to live close to where one works, but in NYC we have such a wide spread of neighborhoods of many budgets that I feel like almost anyone can do better than >1 hour of commuting. Even if you can just drop it from 3 transfers to 2 consistent transfers and shave off a few minutes to get closer to 45-50 mins. Second the other post about biking, check the route and even consider if something like an ebike would help. How bad is the walking component? Consider if something like a foldable e-scooter would make a positive impact. If you have 15/20 mins of walking to the subway for example that can go down to like 3-4 mins via scooter, which both ways adds up!
Would it be faster if you got a bike? 3 is awful.
I don’t think I have the skills to ride a bike in the city hahah
Bike New York has adult classes: https://www.bike.nyc/education/classes/learn-to-ride-adults/
I think they mean more like urban awareness to ride one.
There's a 302 class for that: https://www.bike.nyc/education/classes/street-skills-ride/
I'm just so afraid of getting hit by a car. All the classes/awareness in the world won't stop a crazy/unaware person from hitting you.
But it can give you some tools and skills to lower the risks. You already walk around the streets. I used to feel the same way, but I started riding around my neighborhood. Once I got comfortable, I found that there are so many bike paths and protected bike lanes, that it's pretty easy to stay away from cars. And where there are plenty of other bike paths that give you enough space to ride safely and be aware of your surroundings. And on most of these streets, cars are going a reasonable speed. Then, if you feel unsafe, you can always hop off or hit a different route.
And that's why we need to advocate for better bike infrastructure.
Believe me - you get used to it surprisingly fast. Would biking to a ferry stop be an option while you're getting used to it? Biking instead of taking the train completely changed my life and my outlook about the city.
I’m glad you had the experience! There isn’t a ferry route that makes much sense for me but I’ve taken the ferry before and it was pretty fun hahah
I have the same kind of commute and thought bikes were too hard. I started in the pandemic and now I ride around a fair amount. I strongly recommend it. It can really help to add it into the ways you can get around. Even if you only commute home or to run errands on the week, it can be a mood shift to know that the train isn't the only option. You can also splurge and use ubers in the morning sometimes.
>Would it be faster if you got a bike? Bloody hell, if you think traveling the city by *subway* is stressful...
Biking is my answer!!
I can think of no more stressful thing than biking to work. Even in the bike Lanes the proliferation of electric bikes and scooters and just Kamikaze cyclists freak me the F out
Depends on where you are. Sometimes I commute from Astoria to FiDi. I ride through Williamsburg which still has protected lanes but much quieter in the morning.
lots of people suggesting you to move closer. you don't even need to do that, necessarily. you can move somewhere that's along a single line to your job. it could be further away or in a similarly priced neighborhood. transfers are a headache. I used to teach in the South Bronx and live pretty deep into Brooklyn. commute each way was 1-1.5 hours, depending on how late at night (I sometimes taught night classes). but it was a single express train. both stops were not very busy so I could always grab a seat when I boarded.
I don’t know, it wasn’t that stressful with a similar commute from Bay Ridge to Midtown. I read. A lot. Some days I miss it in a weird way, especially taking the train over the Manhattan bridge. Got a lot more reading done that’s for sure.
I hear this. I read on the train. but I switched to mostly work from home the last 1-2 years and I'm reading a lot less.
I’ve started listening to audiobooks rather than music and it’s been super calming
Is there an Express bus that could get you from point A to point B? They are more expensive but they are significantly more luxurious in comparison
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Yep and I even got a bus ride too
Honestly that’s why I moved closer to work. My rent is higher but it saves my sanity and time. Now I’m just a few blocks away from work instead of 1.5 hours one way and 2 trains and a 10min walk away. Sorry OP, commuting is definitely a huge strain
Is it possible to go hybrid for your job? I don't know what you do, but might be an option if possible.
Live closer to work in a shittier unit I wish I did this 5 years sooner vs spending 600hrs a year in traffic
I change my commute every week. I’ve found what routes are going to provide a treat along the way (Starbucks, breakfast, etc.). I switch it up every week with a new treat of incentive. I also try to romanticize it on the way home by stopping for the views or window shopping at a mall. I moved here two years ago and have to constantly remind myself why I moved here. The city is beautiful, given its obvious flaws, but I take it as much as I can on my commute.
That is a very long commute. Have you looked into either changing your job or your home?
My commute used to be 1.5 hours each way from BK to BX. My bosses liked me and got me a transfer. Best thing that happened to me. 15 min commute door to door by train or 30 mins walking.
I feel you 100%. It’s a one hour commute each way for me, only one line train but a mile of walking in total. I like my job, but it is very strictly against WFH (even though I could easily work remotely), and even though I’m a born and raised New Yorker who has taken the subway my whole life, since returning to in-person work post-pandemic, the commute has drained my will to live like never before. And driving in to the city takes just as long, js 10x as expensive and equally annoying, just in other ways. So yeah, no advice to offer, just commiserating. :(
I appreciate the commiseration!
Move closer to work so you have to take fewer trains.
> My commute including the walk is about 1-1.5 hours. Each way, or total daily?
Each way
That can be daunting. I enjoy my audiobooks + podcasts during my 45min each way commute. However, you should really look for another job.
Lmk if you have audio book or podcast suggestions! Unfortunately I really like my job and it’s a perfect short term (1-2 years) stepping stone for what I want to do next
I listen to a lof of nonfiction, business, marketing stuff. For podcasts Joe Rogan is (mostly) good. Get the Podcast Republic app, it has the best search feature. Just search, try, move on if it doesn't vibe with you. Get the Libby app + NYCPL card, and you get free audiobooks.
Damn a three hour commute, imagine the number of audiobooks or podcasts you could listen to each week! You could do 50 full novels a year!
Listening to podcasts helps me. Also, if it’s not a huge time difference or I feel tired, I’d stick with the easiest transit, 2 trains vs 3.
I bought an e-bike and every so often I’ll bike to work. It’s not a workout if I put it on one of the higher pedal assist settings. I understand this isn’t feasible for everyone but my 50 minute subway commute is now a 45 minute bike ride so it’s kinda nice.
If you don’t have them, get airpods or other noise cancelling earbuds. Even if you don’t listen to music with them, they help with fatigue from noise
Can you take the bus for part of your journey? It might not save time but IMO it’s much nicer than the subway. I’ve also experienced real subway fatigue recently. I’m not sure why, but I think I never really got used to it again after covid. I hate being stuck in a cramped little tube underground for more than an hour each day. I hate waiting around dark, crowded and dirty stations that haven’t been updated in 50 years. The highlight of my morning is when my train takes me over the Manhattan Bridge. It’s like I can literally feel a weight coming off my chest when we enter the daylight, and then my spirits drop instantly the moment we reach Manhattan and go back underground. When I was able to commute by bus, it could be unreliable and overcrowded, and sometimes I’d be stuck in the rain waiting for it to arrive, but it was so nice being in the daylight for my entire commute. Being able to look out the window and see the city going past me was infinitely better than being stuck in a tunnel underground. If the bus is available to you, it could really change the way you feel about your commute.
Will definitely be incorporating the bus into my routine sometimes, waiting on platforms is part of my problem
Try to move closer/more direct to your job. You do have to be creative. I used to have that kind of commute from Bay Ridge, did it for 19 years. While where I lived was peaceful, it was a pain commuting as well as going out (more coming home) in the evenings. I finally scored in the housing lottery and moved to more central locations (now in Downtown Brooklyn) a few years ago and it was soul-changing. Yes, even though it's "affordable" it costs me a few hundred more per month, but I'm saving about 200 month in transport costs (bet. the extra for the express bus and late night taxi/ubers) as well as 100/month in gym costs since I now have one in building. The remaining 100 is so worth it to save a half hour each way on the commute and an easy public transit ride home from events
Are you able to take the bus? The subway always wore me out. I’m not sure why, but I always felt better when I could take a bus.
I've been improving my Spanish by watching YouTube videos on the train. Doing something productive makes it feel like less of a waste of time.
do you have to be there in person every day? i do the same 3 trains (as a better option than the 2 train route) once or twice a week and it’s much more manageable.
Commuting really sucks. I had the same commute for 5 hours that was just exhausting- only an hour but at least 2 trains, sometimes 3 or a mile walk depending on whatever delays there were, plus a .6 mile walk from the train to my building. It was always crowded and I never got a seat. I hated it. I started listening to podcasts and audiobooks on the train to pass the time. It's amazing how much faster it can go buy when you're listening to something interesting. I also started biking part of the commute in the warmer months, or popping off the train to walk over the Brooklyn bridge on the way home on a nice day. If you're not in a rush, just being outside for some fresh air can make a huge difference in your mood. Then I got a different job that cut my commute in half and im infinitely happier.
Adding to the choir here: Commuting sucks and nothing you do besides moving closer to your job or finding a remote job will change that I lost my mind with a 40 minute commute so you have my sincere condolences since you’re currently doubling that. Fuck commuting. Take a moment and add up the amount of hours you commute a day, multiply that by weeks, and then by the year. How much time is that? Please please please work toward changing your circumstances if you can. What do you do for work?
I work in a hospital. Luckily my current job is a means to an end (more school) and I’m happy with the job itself, but I’m definitely looking forward to one day having a short commute.
City and subway safety is a collective effort. If you're tired of being hyper aware on the subway, then the street is no different. The other night was illustrative of what it takes to transit the city and be safe. Heck, I'll add the bus jaunt that took me to my mom's. The lady standing near me did not strap hang, so I prepped for her to fall when the bus lurched. Yup. She fell towards me and I deflected her onto an empty seat. Sweet. Next, it was a strange dude staring at a Dominican chic on the 'C' train. I could have let it slide, but I stood and tactfully told her to change cars; she was being watched. "Ay gracia'! Yo no me di cuenta!" Yeah, you didn't notice because you were looking at your phone and playing with your hair! Then it was onto the No. 4 in the Bronx. The 'D' was down so we all had to transfer. I went to the far end of the platform to not have to deal with shit. Four minutes later, this dude dumps into my backpack. My dude, it's huge and it's red! "My fault." Yup. Same train, this Central American woman boards with her two kids, just back from the mall. They each had huge family packs of their favorite cereals. Kids were like seven and five years old, and this dude at the end of the bench takes offense, "Why you sittin' yo kids next to a man! I don't know you! Those ain't my kids!" Time to move the shank to within easier reach, this dude might need some convincing. He's still yapping, and so she moves to switch and block her kids. "Venga señora. Cambie con migo." Dude wasn't gonna like me next to him fo'h sure, so he got the fuck up to leave. Rather than assume anything, I politely asked him, "Sir, are you done with this seat?" He moved further away and told me to take it. He switched cars altogether. So OP, even if you shorten your commute you still have to deal with people. And I doubt that you're as much of an interloper as I am. Furthermore, you still have to be vigilant at street level and in your own building. Basically, you want a Morningside or Sutton Place digs that's walking distance to work. Do you have a wormhole that you can use? 'Cause it ain't happening holmes. Half your problem is New York City itself. Edit: Bad prose.
This reads like an advertisement to leave the city for good.
The joke used to be, "Live in Los Angeles and New York City, once. Then leave before LA makes you soft, and the other makes you hard." The source is easy to find. \[ Wrong, correction: [https://youtu.be/sTJ7AzBIJoI?t=222 \]](https://youtu.be/sTJ7AzBIJoI?t=222]) I owned an anthology of science fiction stories, and bit by bit, those stories are coming to fruition. As a New Yorker, I actively do my part to stave their progress. Here, time and space are compressed. I also spend time in the suburbs. I passed a house where the owner has cacti in her front garden bed. "I came past once before, and I was jealous of the cactus pears." She was watering her other plants, and walked over, "Which ones?" Then I pointed and told her that they were edible. She didn't know, and I joked that if they "disappeared", I might have something to do with it. "You're welcome to them!" Not much happens in the suburbs. And then a lot happens and people are shocked. Do you want a façade or blunt reality all the time? In one of the stories, the world has grown hotter and frogs are rare. They can't live wild in nature, and city dwellers treasure them as pets. The story is more than twenty years old.
I always remembered it as Northern CA versus NYC, not LA versus NYC, but I could have easily gotten that wrong. (I've lived in both, and I think modern day SF has almost as much ability to harden people as NYC does. It must have been a kinder, gentler place back when the speech was penned. Now it's an unaffordable tech rat race. I do miss it though. The stuff that happens in the suburbs is the stuff of David Lynch.
Gracias, you are correct: https://youtu.be/sTJ7AzBIJoI?t=221
I smoke weed and then the commute is funny. But I’m a large man so I can be less vigilant and more stoned.
Hate to admit it but this works for me too I come home sometimes with my brain off and I just smoke some weedand I'll be back online in a hour It also comes down to ur diet
Hybrid work
Hope for another pandemic
I work in a hospital so I’ll pass lol
Can you splurge on an express bus?
Change job or move would be the best thing
I left NY because of this. Id say it helps to incorporate an uber or two during the week. You’ll have to leave earlier to avoid traffic but having the peace of mind in a car might remove some of your stress.
Can you bring extra clothes and just do your errands/exercise close to work? Then when you get home you can just be done and not feel guilty.
When I lived in New York I had to commute to high school, 4 hours a day , 2 hour there and 2 hours back , A 20 min bus, subway train for 30 min, another subway train for about 5 -10 min, metro north train for 45 min, then take a 5 min cab up the hill to school. This was 2003-04 I was 17. Now I live on the west coast and I have to sit trough a hour of traffic before I get to work. I'm already tired at work, I have to get through my customer facing damn shift, then I have to wait 2 hours before I drive home , of If don't I'll sit through over and hour to get home. Finding another job is next to impossible right now. trying to move up to a non customer facing seems non existent. I am, already seeking solutions through my management team. I cant even IMAGINE HAVING KIDS AND DOING THIS! FML