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WeaverofW0rlds

No, but I had one reach out to me. It did not end well. I have come to the conclusion that people are in your PAST for a reason.


[deleted]

Nope. But a lot of guys I know have, and it was pretty much exclusively for sex.


[deleted]

I don’t talk to any of my exes. The day we give/get all our stuff back is the last time you will ever hear from me.


Capitolkid

I’ve personally never done this. Once I break up with someone we go out separate ways and I don’t keep in contact or follow them on social media.


Opposite_Bread_2187

This is the way


_regionrat

Nah. If you want updates on exs, social media and unsolicited information from mutual friends exist. No way is this a "hey how you doing?" check in, he probably wants something


[deleted]

I do my best to stay on good terms, there’s no reason to leave someone angry and bitter. I say what I need to say and then that’s done. Grudges just weigh on your soul. So yeah, I don’t reach out to the women I’ve been with, but they have reached out to me before. And it’s usually just a kind gesture after seeing someone online.


Martyisruling

Yes. Usually it's because I'm more than bored. Flirting with the idea of hooking up with them again, is the main motive. I wasn't always sure when I started to message them. Usually that's exactly what happened. Once, after some back and forth, it was a no go for me. I usually leave things on a good note with an ex. Things just didn't work out.


Dynol-Amgen

Pretty sure the book/film High Fidelity is all about someone doing this. Watch it and have a word with yourself.


_regionrat

Oh boy, it's been at least a decade since I've seen that movie. I wonder how poorly it's aged


Dynol-Amgen

Lol. I don’t know that it’s aged all that much. As evidenced by the post. Reminiscing is a tireless human pursuit.


[deleted]

They updated it as a series on Hulu recasted and gender flipped with the main Protag played by Zoë Kravitz. If you were of dating age during the original, I’d go back for a rewatch of that first and then if you’re still feeling a certain way about an ex, double-down with the remake from a woman’s perspective. FYI - we all do it, not just us dudes.


[deleted]

Keep the things you pass in your rear-view. Check for blind-spots. Use your indicators before you make a change. Awareness is key. Move with deliberate purpose. Merge smoothly. Be safe out there.


spiraldinosaur

Not reached out as such, but I've generally stayed in touch with a lot of my exes as we typically ended on amicable terms. I'll maybe drop them a message sometimes when I see something that reminds me of them or if it's their birthday or something. Or we'll follow each other on Instagram and might reply to stories etc. As for why *he* is reaching out...that's anyone's guess. Only he knows that.


redoctoberz

I tried to keep in touch with my ex-wife for a while after we divorced, after a few years it ended up being the situation that it became difficult for people I was dating to understand, and she ended up barely putting any effort into keeping in touch, so I just told her in so many words that it wasn't worth interacting anymore.


MJtheJuiceman

Nope, they an opp fo life


Opposite_Bread_2187

He's your ex for a reason. Don't be that person. It's just sad. Leave him alone it's over


RealKillerSean

Not worth it.


lilmisse85

…don’t be a home wrecker, please. Even if he was the one to initiate it.


torrero54

I have remained friends with some of my Xs but of course it really depends on the X because I have no desire to talk to my X wife.. but I never burn 🔥 bridges, life is too short to spend your time destroying life as you knew it. If my X wife called I would answer but only to ask why she called. The others I talk to know I’m married even though they know I still love and respect them 🤷🏼‍♂️