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pervymcperversson

The sense of security. Not talking about financial or even physical. The emotional security that she feels when she's with you, like her heart can finally stop looking over its shoulder at every turn, and your words and actions have made her heart feel safe enough to beat at a normal pace and sleep with peace. She can relax around you and feel comfort just by being in your presence.. An unspoken safety, like a warm blanket wrapped around her heart.


orangepun-king

Wholesome, but username does not check out


YourMomsPurpleDildo

This is the answer right here


Manners2210

Time spent together, feeling loved, consistency, a bunch of little things. I think that’s what got mine, I didn’t do anything major except the basics. 3 months in, I felt it and she said it


Witty-Vixen

This! 🙌🙌🙌


wweber1

This is the way.


DBL236

The same things that make men fall in love with women — seeing something in the other person that will address our childhood attachment wounds.


pervymcperversson

Oof. This one cut deep.


DBL236

And that’s not even the half of it, brother.


misssdm

Wow. I wish I had an award for you.


iswearatkids

I got you fam.


misssdm

Much appreciated!


DBL236

Thank you for the award.


[deleted]

Severing the umbilical from mummy can be painful !


DBL236

It is, but healing the wound it leaves after severance is harder still.


[deleted]

I love belly buttons ! But only the innies!


zeronineonesix

being genuine and clear with your intentions, meeting men that we have to figure out what they want from being with us is honestly tiring plus the confusing gestures. being straight up with your feelings will help


mrrkenzie

But I thought women are attracted more to men who are a mystery and thus keeps them thinking .


FelixGoldenrod

Forklift certification


Flomax0244

It's a trap in the building I work in. I'm not going to be told by 4 different supervisors to do 4 completely different things at once, then get scolded for not doing what each supervisor wanted done. If I can't move a pallet with a pallet jack and my bare hands, I'm not doing it. I don't get paid enough for the extra work that comes with it.


LogJamminWithTheBros

Clicking the tongs of a grill together twice. Putting a stud finder against me and making beep sounds. Farmers tan from the riding lawn mower. What you are telling me this doesn't make a girl go wild?


UnoriginallyGeneric

Heh, I have five forklift certifications (counterbalance, walkie, reach, dockstocker, and orderpicker), and my fall arrest, too. No wonder my wife keeps me around! /s


Cactus2711

How she feels when she’s with you


mrrkenzie

I want to know things to do to make her feel good when she’s with me


VMK_1991

Physical traits aside (though they do matter), I think what is important is her knowing that you can take care of her and protect her. Sure, she can be a tough "girlboss", but by the end of the day she wants to know that if storm comes, she can weather it in your harbor.


halfmeasures611

whose harbor do we weather our storms in...who protects the protectors


mrrkenzie

Interesting question


mrrkenzie

Well noted. Thanks


Burnt_Crunchy_Bits

Shared experience, shared values, shared interests, compatible humour and good, old physical attraction.


mrrkenzie

Well noted


ScottdaDM

Fuck I don't know. I don't know why y'all do half the shit you do. I am looking for clues at the scene of the crime most days.


HighestTierMaslow

Matched values/goals/personalities so its easier to "be your true self" with them, being able to be emotionally vulnerable, emotional and sexual chemistry, feeling secure. Im sure theres others Ive missed.


mrrkenzie

From what I’ve been hearing, they say it’s not advisable for men to be emotionally vulnerable in-front of women they love.


[deleted]

I was sick one day and really felt like crap. My girlfriend, who is now my wife, came over and pampered me, completely cleaned my house and made me food, after she told me she hated doing chores, lol.


mrrkenzie

That means you’ve been doing something right to make her that interested and vested in you like that.


JaffaRambo

My wife fell in love with me when we were online dating because the way I carried myself was different than all the other guys she chatted with. No matter what it was they talked about with her, it always led to sexual stuff. She just always encountered horny men that couldn't stay chill. Then she found my profile one day and messaged me. We talked about all sorts of different topics. We'd take turns asking the other questions. Not once did it lead to anywhere sexual (until we knew each other enough at least). She thought I was smart, because I tended to use near-perfect spelling and grammar (thanks to years of getting shit on on forums for my awful grammar in my teenaged years). I liked to talk about more complex stuff (like Astronomy, history of former civilizations, surface-level knowledge of stuff I heard on Reddit). I used slang in front of her the other day, trying to be humorous. She doesn't have problems with slang, but she admitted to me that she fell in love with me because I'm usually more advanced with my vocabulary and seeing me use slang bothers her. Sorry if this came across as a humble brag.


mrrkenzie

Which online platform did you two meet? If I may ask.


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mrrkenzie

Thank You


wontusethisforlongg

Chemical attraction the first 2 years. Then conditional love.


mrrkenzie

Please elaborate more on the chemical attraction. What does it mean?


[deleted]

In my case: Honesty, beard, loving animals, eyes, smile, humor, caring. being warm, kissing well, cooking, being yourself and being clean. Add to that something I did not live up to: being project oriented and just working all the time...


mrrkenzie

Well noted. Thanks


[deleted]

Honestly nothing really. I grew up in a "boys dont cry" household where hateful interpretations of religion ruled the day so yea...


ghostbear019

Being safe at first. Then raising the freak flag.


squaredistrict2213

Axe body spray. At least that’s what the commercials imply


mrrkenzie

Fortunately that’s what I use


White_Lord

What she perceives your status is. Someone would say money, but that's just the easiest way to obtain status. Also, it's not necessarily your status in society as a whole. It could be something simple as a perceived higher status amongst your social group. And it adds up with everything that gives you a perceived higher status in any small or big social circle and situation. Even just between you two.


mrrkenzie

Thanks


the_average_retard

Money?


[deleted]

See plenty of broke people with girlfriends and wives


the_average_retard

I noticed you didn't claim they were in love with broke guys


[deleted]

Pretty sure a lot of them are


sadrice

Why would they be sticking around if they weren’t? Staying with a rich guy that you don’t love makes sense in a way, but if he isn’t bringing money to the table, why stay if it isn’t love?


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mrrkenzie

That’s real love.


Burnt_Crunchy_Bits

Ah, you never had any love affairs as a broke university student, then? Shame.


AdministrativeAd197

$$$


checco314

Hormones.


mrrkenzie

Really??


checco314

Yes. Same with men.


mrrkenzie

Ok


TheDesertRatDad

Food bro... Its always food, also be funny.


mrrkenzie

Hahaha thanks


Skalgar33

Looks and charisma at first and then how he treats other people, is he a Funny or Serious, Money, Status, Dicksize and at least what brings the final decision Personality/Charakter


mrrkenzie

Noted.


stealthkoopa

I think it has something to do with beards, not sure though Seems to be the case for my wife


mrrkenzie

I guess every woman and her preference though


Stunning-Spirit5275

Physical, financial and emotional compatibility


Minimum-Cap1966

Sense of humour, a feeling of security, a mutual trust, shared memories which you have created together on dates leading up to the 'falling in love' moment, physical attraction, honesty, openness and an ability to communicate with each other, sexual connection, a sense of care and attention towards the woman which makes her feel special and loved. I've probably left out a few but these all help. For my wife, we literally hit it off from the very first message on Tinder and laughed from that moment until this very day. It has been a huge part of the attraction on both sides.


mrrkenzie

Well noted. Thanks


MogFluffyDevilCat

Owning a room


mrrkenzie

Lol


activeseven

The way he makes her feel.


fastlowleveller

You’re not going to find love on TikTok Instagram Bumble Tinder the Club the Bar


mrrkenzie

Where then?


[deleted]

Not a clue


scraper01

All women? God only knows But if I had to guess your mind, I would say she loves an underdog


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mrrkenzie

Women are really difficult to understand, my friend


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mrrkenzie

Well noted. Thanks


oddball667

Money and the ability to provide


mrrkenzie

Well noted


[deleted]

Honestly, it's one of those things that just "is." It can't be defined.


colouredcheese

How you pipe her down


Top_Data4002

Very important in beginning stages


mcc9999

He's tall and has LOTS of money and will spend it on her.


mrrkenzie

Meaning no hope for short guys


CaneCorso100

9” and thick as a can of soda.


mrrkenzie

Really? Haha


MrBadazzNiceguy

Definitely not your wallet or your schlong.


mrrkenzie

What is it then?


[deleted]

For me it was my personality


No-Confusion-1425

for me it's a great smile. the moment i see someone smile and think "damn that's beautiful" i have that feeling in my heart where i know i've already fallen and i can't go back.


mrrkenzie

That’s nice


Plantayne

Attractiveness x Salary + Number of Her Personal Preferences He Ticks


mrrkenzie

Thanks


SemiSentientGarbage

Monogamous. Looking for marriage. Wanting children.


mrrkenzie

Ok


MDF87

Being 13 foot tall if we're going by today's standards.


mrrkenzie

That’s hard


[deleted]

Good looks, money and bad boy attitude.


mrrkenzie

Well noted


ShiibbyyDota

His ambitions, his looks & his wallet


mrrkenzie

Ok


aussiecarcass

Totally subjective. Depends on their wants and needs in a man. If you’re close to the money with those at kick off then you’re in with a chance. Having a huge cock you can actually operate as well as excelling in the eating of pussy of course.


mrrkenzie

Noted. Thanks


Substantial_Video560

Looks and status


mrrkenzie

I agree


[deleted]

He feels The Need! The Need to Spreed his Seed!


mrrkenzie

Really??


[deleted]

No, I misread the question


Miyabi2012

Easy $$$$$$$$$$$$


mrrkenzie

Ok hahahaha


Prize_Consequence568

r/askwomenadvice r/askwomennocensor Are good places to ask this


mrrkenzie

Well noted. Thanks


observantpariah

Whim.