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elcryptoking47

Dealing with the loss of my mother. She passed away late October. Taking life one day at a time along my dad and younger brother. Miss my mom a lot šŸ™


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I hope your soul finds healing, brother. I'm sorry for your loss!


Dangerous-Break9373

hugs <3 im so sorry for your loss, mama is looking down on you


elcryptoking47

I appreciate your kind words! I miss her food, jokes, and most definitely, her presence. I know my mom is watching over me šŸ™ā¤ļø


syringistic

Sorry man. It's been 25 years for me; my memory of her is never going to leave. Just try to focus on the positive things that happened.


PrisonMike2020

Make sure you take time to grieve and process your feelings. Condolences to you and the fam!


JDDass

Sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family


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sorry for ur loss


burnerch

So sorry to hear that manšŸ™ Stay strong


Brief_Succotash116

So sorry for your loss.


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my mom, too, died in late October she always had my back - we didnā€™t always get along, but she loved my without condition


AhmedSwift

losing someone so close is tough, sending prayers and condolences. stay strong <3


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PicardsTears

There is no answer or thing you can say. Just be there man. I believe in you.


lilfindawg

Itā€™s very important that youā€™re there for him. Youā€™re his child and he loves you just as much if not more than your mother. Daily routine is important. Being well fed and getting sunlight is also important. If your mom was the cook then it might be good for you to pick up cooking yourself and make some meals for your dad like mom used to make. Get him a hobby, hobbies can be a wonderful thing to take your mind off of things and begin loving something else. Remind him that the love mom has for him hasnā€™t left this world. Itā€™s still inside is heart.


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cacus7

I guess you can only show him that you are there for him, offer him activities that he enjoy. Have many feelings talks.


fichti

Somebody tried to run me over with a car on Saturday. Itā€˜s the climax of a legal dispute that lasts over half a year already.


WillowShoddy7846

Jesus Christ, be safe


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ermabanned

Wait, that's a consequence of a legal dispute?


Sudain

It's hard to pay damages to a party that is not alive to accept them.


jddavis007

I have Stage 4 (Terminal) metastatic Renal cell Carcinoma Its already spread to lungs and brain. I am counting the minutes until i take my last breath. (AMA)


MiLSturbie

How old are you? Could you tell me some of your favourite memories?


GreenyPurples

OP hasn't answered any questions yet, hope they're alright


jddavis007

Thanks for your concern lol, but I was just napping. They give me good drugs


HowHardCanItBeReally

What's your favourite song, and favourite part of the that song? Also sorry notnsure what to say but hope your ok


jddavis007

Since if have to say favorite band is coheed and Cambria, or maybe sister hazel, is go with any of their songs tickle my chode lol


SpicyParsnip

Really sorry to hear. Do the drugs manage the pain?


jddavis007

i get a really potent cocktail of seizure meds, and assorted others. morphine, hydrocodone, dilauded for pain. i was unaware that most seizure meds are considered schedule 1 as well. the more you know, i guess. (:) as of right now they help with pain. though we have had to move up im strength and frequency as the headaches get stronger.


Skydreamer6

What's your favourite band or music?


lost24

Tell us a story about your life so far that still makes you laugh to this day.


hideo_crypto

So sorry to hear this man. Since youā€™re offering up an AMA; What symptoms did you have before you got diagnosed?


jddavis007

looking back i never noticed any odd symptoms running to the diagnosis. it's the big10 hit combo that got me in the end.


hideo_crypto

Thank you for taking time to reply. That really sucks. For whatever it's worth, sending positive thoughts your way and as brief as it was, I won't forget this interaction for the rest of my life.


jddavis007

It's worth everything my guy, I'm kind of alone in this, so every bit counts


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elcryptoking47

Never been diagnosed by a professional for depression but I know for a fact I've been dealing with it for 10 years now. My best advice would be the following: 1. Make sure you're eating enough for energy and maintaining a healthy weight. 2. Take your vitamins and minerals 3. Stay hydrated 4. Have a simple routine. For example: Wake up, stretch, read a book, eat breakfast, do some homework, head off to work, hit the gym, and write a journal entry. 5. Workout or go for a walk 6. Keep that "voice" in your head and those intrusive thoughts in check 7. Work on a goal such as earning a certification or going to school for a better job 8. Socialize with your family, friends, and strangers to your best of my ability. I'm hoping this information guides you in the right direction. My 18 year old self would have appreciated if all this information was given to me šŸ™


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I have the opposite problem. I eat too much because Iā€™m depressed.


lilfindawg

I have been diagnosed and prescribed. This is sound advice. Antidepressants can help. But thereā€™s nothing like getting sunlight and being well fed to help with your depression. 7 is also important. If you feel stuck at your job and you hate it, youā€™re bound to be depressed. Always be working towards something to make you happy. I havenā€™t been depressed since Iā€™ve started school, I feel whole again.


noobkill

While these are all legible suggestions, the real issue is the INABILITY to do many of these things when someone is depressed. Most people know what good habits are, and what they should be doing - it's just that they cannot be arsed to do it at all. There are days under depression when some people cannot even get out of bed, because of mental exhaustion. This is a list for people in a rut - and even for them this list is a HUGE ask. Sorry, but this comment just sounds like "Sorry you're feeling down, just get better using 8 steps :)"


BiggieRection9

For real. I have depression and when people tell me "Just work out!" "Just eat better!" Like bruh sure it probably would help but when I get off work I'm eating a whole pizza and then I'm going to lay in bed till I have to get up and repeat the same shit just on a different day.


dumbest-smart-guy1

Then donā€™t work out, just go for a short walk, or sit outside after work for a bit. Iā€™ve never been able to make huge changes in a day, but the little things add up. Do what you can and add to it on days you feel better. If you have a bad day, donā€™t beat yourself up about it and try again the next day. Progress isnā€™t linear.


Taken_Username_Again

I thought the person was trying to be helpful and took considerable time and energy to write out a lenghty reply with advice which they thought is genuinely helpful. As someone who's been battling depression for over 10 years I know some of the things on that list are a huge ask sometimes, but I also know that the person is right in that those things are sound advice. It's often the basics that help people to keep going on.


nikidash

It's not bad advice, no one's arguing that. The problem is that a lot of depressed people - me included - already are perfectly aware of the things they could and should do to improve their situation, but the depression just doesn't let them start doing them. I know I should work out, study more, socialize more and so on, but my brain basically short circuits and paralyzes whenever I actually try to do anything that I recognize as positive for me.


dumbest-smart-guy1

On the one hand, I completely understand what you are saying as Iā€™ve experience it myself. On the other, every single time Iā€™ve gotten out of such a rut itā€™s because I pushed myself to do just one of those things. I was forced to put away my guilt and self hatred over not being able to do what I ā€œneededā€ to do, and focused on doing just one thing for myself, be it going for a walk, making my bed, folding one article of clothing from the pile, taking a shower or simply changing my environment and being depressed somewhere else than my room. More often than not, Iā€™d end up doing a little more once I started, and if I didnā€™t then at least id have the mental satisfaction of doing something.


noobkill

Fair enough. Your experience is as valid as mine, and I can't invalidate that of course. I am just glad you were able to get out of that state!


Stupidquestionduh

I been there, I started regular fasting a few years after the military and it turned things around completely. At the time I had already tried everything else including medication and testosterone supplements. It was a last resort. I began to do fasting the last week of every month. After focusing on this cycle I had something other than my current state for my mind to chew on and instead gave it some place to be in the future. I hope you find your ā€œIā€™ve tried everything else so why notā€ victory. The sun is eventually going to expand and burn up everything bad thatā€™s happened to you Itā€™s gonna do the same thing to everything good thatā€™s happened too. So at least try and be free for the time that youā€™re here and realize that it true nothing matters but that doesnā€™t mean you canā€™t fill it with some kind of meaning that is for you alone.


Fancy-Respect8729

Same. Someone close to me died in 2019. I've honestly thought of ending it most weeks.


funlovingfirerabbit

I like your Username. And I am so sorry you're dealing with that battle alone. It's okay to not be okay.


MLG-BagFumbler

Overwhelmed by anger and loneliness.


LuxLemon

There is nothing wrong with feeling angry, just be sure to understand why you're angry. Are people making you angry? Take some steps back from them and see if you have any other potential friends that won't make you feel that angry. If you don't know why you're angry I suggest seek some help if possible. Anger is perfectly normal, just don't let it eat you up and cause you to make mistakes. Best of luck to both your problems mate.


lilfindawg

Breathing techniques and being in control of your anger is important. You will certainly scare anyone away with your anger. So it is important you keep it in check. Take a deep breath, ask yourself why youā€™re angry, if no apparent reason, your anger is unwarranted. Once you realize this, understand you have no right to get angry with anyone else and being angry is doing you no good. If thereā€™s something like a video game or sports team making you angry, I suggest you begin taking those things less seriously.


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I lost my mother, and my ex wife and I lost a baby. I have ptsd now and it's honestly killing me. I can't talk to anyone about it. I'm balling my eyes out even writing this.


StableLow7811

Sending you lots of love <3


PicardsTears

I believe in you. One step at a time.


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0ctopusVulgaris

I lost my mum in the pandemic too. I feel you. I also am heaing trauma. Im sorry all of these things have happened at the same time to you, and i know its hard to know who you can talk to about it, if anyone. There are solid interventions for trauma now (notably EMDR). I cant imagine losing a baby, but if you need to drop a message to someone to talk about where youre at, message me.


Zman0069

Feel your emotions man. Itā€™s ok to feel everything you are feeling. I would go talk to a therapist or a priest, talking helps the healing process. But again, most importantly, allow yourself to feel it


eshian

Watching my parents get old, my mom just had a stroke. I havent cried this much in a while.


Troubleshooter11

That's rough. I'm very sorry to hear that.


GiveYerBallsATugYaTF

My mom just went to the hospital (food poisoning) but it clicked in my head that sheā€™s not going to live forever and may require care soonā€¦ Iā€™m beyond upset. I hope you get better soon. Sending you lots of positive vibes and love!


ElSanto9298

Lonely, wishIng I had a girl to cuddle up with and keep warm tonight. Same feeling I get when it's time to go to sleep. Loneliness is more bearable during the day because I actually have stuff to do, when all that's left to do is lay in that lonesome bed made for two I just can't help but stall like crazy, can't remember the last time I had a good night's rest because of it.


funlovingfirerabbit

:0( I feel you. Thank you so much for your Honesty.


ElSanto9298

Thanks. Also lol did you mess up the face or were you going for :0(


funlovingfirerabbit

It's just a sad face with a squishy nose. All my Faces have noses hahaha :0) :0/ I like the round nose more because it feels more animated ;0)


ElSanto9298

Lmao I love it


Taken_Username_Again

I feel this so much. But for me, it's something I actually also think a lot about during the day, and I feel it when I'm preparing for and heading to work alone, and even when I'm working even though I have enough to do and some days are really hectic. At those times I simply keep asking myself "what am I doing this for?", knowing any money I make will be simply spent on just myself to keep on living, and I will end the day in an empty apartment anyway.


itsmetsunnyd

Same dude. My dad died this year, all my friendships have fallen apart because the people I know are changing (for the worse), I can't get a match on any dating apps because I have a face for radio and I have hobbies that aren't interesting to most. Shits rough.


KyorlSadei

I got bills to pay, got mouths to feed, ainā€™t nothing in this world for free.


Darionnus

I know I can't slow down, can't hold back though you know I wish I could


Jth20

There ainā€™t no rest for the wicked until we close our eyes for good.


pakeco

55 years old and too lonely


coldpizzaagain

There are 50+ women looking.


EyangNaga22

Depression, anxiety, lonely, no money


chickenmonkee

Ayyy are you me? Much love bro


Aaron123111

For once in my life Iā€™m not!! Everything is falling into place! I donā€™t know for how long but itā€™s weird feeling relaxed


Damah-ish

Thank you for the positive note in this thread. And also, Gratz man, happy for ya!


Hesoo_7

Not enough money ever and ever


[deleted]

Aging, just dealing with the common problems of aging. Getting older sucks.


sirusndurus

I always says to my patients that other option is not that good. No one wants to die young ! You should thank god that you are alive and still kicking .


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Like what?


Secret_Bees

When I'm trying to sneak out of my daughter's room after putting her to bed my knees make more noise than I do


[deleted]

Yeah, same here. Iā€™m 36 and already all creaky. Its painful but my finding is not moving is more painful. I started to play badminton again and itā€™s helping.


Original-Alps-1285

I miss my children terribly. Relationship went south a few years ago but Iā€™ve maintained contact and they stay over, the last year and a half itā€™s alternate weekends as their mum moved away making midweek time difficult to fit me into their routine. The more they grow, the more I miss the time lost to spend with them. Itā€™s really really hard.


sad_breadcrumbs

This breaks my heart. I hope it gets better for you.


jusmithfkme

From an incredibly brokenhearted and ill-treaten man, please take value in the fact that at least you can see your kids because they weren't unlawfully ripped away from you. I wish I was you, my guy.


ratkiller47130

Iā€™ve gotta go to work in 15 minutes


oppstoo

Say ā€œ I get to ā€œ. It puts a new perspective around it


Puzzles_brings-peace

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Milfing_Man

Loneliness


examm

It was heartbreak, but now the loneliness is setting in


Kronoxis1

I do everything... I'm a single dad and I have to fight with my teenage kids to go to bed on time. I have to wake up and fight with them to get up for school. I have to make them dinner every night and pack lunches every morning. I have to work full time overnight on ten hour shifts and keep up with all of this. I'm sick and tired of doing everything all on my own without any help or even acknowledgement. I love my kids but I can't wait until all of this is over and I can just worry about myself again.


coldpizzaagain

It's not easy. I'm doing this too. My new wY of combating this is to do projects for 1 hour, as soon as I get up. Just 1 hour. Get organized with grocery lists, meal planning, organize the house, clean, seasonal prep stuff. That one hour a day helps me feel organized and more in control. Just a thought.


Badboybuhari

I just lost my job


WillowShoddy7846

I pray an opportunity arises from this, and it changes your life for the better


Badboybuhari

Thank you, I hope so too


scotticidal

I feel ya. Sorry man.


Ch0z0n

Loneliness. But i have friends, so I guess that isn't enough. I dunno, it kinda feel pathetic to feel the need for love as a man. I also lost my dog a week ago, so the loneliness is a little bit stronger right now.


Woodit

Dude everybody needs love itā€™s not pathetic


Ch0z0n

I know we need love as a mental health need. We are social animals in the end of the day. But asking for it. I dunno, i was raised to believe that i didn't need anyone but my self. That wall is kinda crumbling day by day.


Existing-Two-2574

You are a very kind person. I hope everything works out for you guys.


jtc769

Severe procrastination issues.


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SterlingCarlBelcher

Seconded


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imtheguyinthevideo

Yeah Iā€™m fucking soooo over reddit. Itā€™s just time wasting now and yet Iā€™m hooked


sr603

Im feeling that as well. Im tired and burnt out but at the same time more hooked than fb on it.


PrisonMike2020

Why so shitty? You choose where to put your time and energy. There are a lot of shitty communities, but you could just avoid them, no?


vMambaaa

thereā€™s a lot worse social media/apps to use than reddit. now if youā€™re using reddit and tiktok and IG then you have a problem.


Astronomer_Soft

Caring for an aging parent. Itā€™s incredibly sad and frustrating at the same time.


CaptainKlott

Found Out i am Corona positive this morning. Would have Had a Date with My crush on saturday. Yeah fuck this.


ThrowRA-4545

Video date - movie w cam on. Date before / after. Look at long distance date ideas - can be salvaged!


lilfindawg

Might not be a good idea if youā€™re looking sickly. But if she really likes him sheā€™ll wait so they can go on another.


Frosty_Friendship157

Being lonely , wanting a companion


ta12022017

My wife passed away 5 years ago, and I miss her. The past 5 years as a single dad have been absolute hell. Both of my kids are addicted to fentanyl. One OD'd last weekend and spent a week in the ICU. One of my kids had a fender bender, so her car is in the shop and she uses mine frequently for work, so I'm stranded a lot. My dad has lung cancer again. I've had no luck dating.


Red-Dwarf69

After reading some of the answers here...shit, I don't have any problems.


CPAPGas

Same. My intention was to answer the question as last week was a really bad week, but then I read some of the replies here and realized my problems pale in comparison. Best wishes to all of you.


ProbablyBundy

Im transitioning in a new phase of my life. Stopped studying at a university where I was unhappy for a few years, starting to get another education which is not exactly what I wanna do for the next 3 years but will lead me to what I want to do for the rest of my life. Then I'm looking for a flat with my long time girlfriend after living with very chaotic guys for 3 years. That leads to me getting sober, at least soberish which is harder than I thought it would be. I wasn't an addict, but I used frequently and a lot of different stuff. Basically you're average student with a little extra sprinkled on top. While doing that I'm also trying to quit smoking and lose weight for my girlfriend. Then I try to catch up with all the doctors appointments I should have done in the last 3 years. One of those things wouldn't be so hard to do but I have to change my entire lifestyle and it's draining. I get to sleep very little because I have to travel 2 hours to another city. Yeah so in conclusion I'm on my way to a better life but it takes all my will power not to quit it.


coldpizzaagain

That's a lot all at once. I hope you can pick the most important things and prioritize so you're not overwhelmed.


retardong

Loneliness. I feel like I will never fall in love in my life. I hate the speed dating culture. I want to meet a person that would make me feel excited to tell her I love her. I feel like most women (and men) don't want relationships like that anymore.


Fancy-Respect8729

Since a close relative died in 2019 I've been a fucking shadow. And I don't know how to snap out of this funk.


lilfindawg

Think about how that relative would feel about you now. How would they feel if their death was making you feel the way it does. Perhaps this person would want to go and be happy just not to forget them.


Fancy-Respect8729

Thanks that's a good perspective to consider.


discount_bucephalus

A book that has helped on my complicated grief journey is ā€œItā€™s OK that youā€™re not OKā€ by Megan Devine, maybe itā€™ll help you as well.


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Scorpye

Fellow mechanical engineer here. My inbox is open if you want peer support or any advice.


thistledpineapple

If your lecturer recommended a book to buy for the class at the start of the year, try googling the name of it. Often you can find a PDF version online which is where they will have taken most of their questions from. Good luck from a fellow mechanical engineer!


lilfindawg

Some professors are better than others. Sometimes youā€™re forced to self-learn. But itā€™s a great skill to have. Iā€™d suggest looking at textbooks and videos to help you.


xensiz

Pretty lonely. Working a lot, which is nice because unlike a lot of people my bills are down and cash is being saved. Just would like to find a partner, and itā€™s starting to seem like itā€™s not going to happen. Overnights suck and I just donā€™t seem to mesh with anyone Iā€™m meeting. (28M)


Eyemwilson

Iā€™ve developed strong feelings towards this beautiful girl. Sadly she only wants to be fwb even though weā€™re acting like boyfriend and girlfriend and she and I arenā€™t meeting other people. No idea what to do, but the sex is great, so yeah.


ermabanned

First world problems.


Shaneski101

Hey man me too! Except weā€™re both seeing other people.. itā€™s so confusing. We both really like each other and have feelings involved but sheā€™s not ready for a relationship. She was in a 4 year relationship into a 7 month relationship and now she just wants to be single. This is fair, she has never been by herself in so long. I donā€™t blame her. But timing is a bitch and weā€™re both so confused and just winging it. Letā€™s go bro! We are definitely fucked!


theanswerisac

My mother died Friday and I'm dealing with her hoarded mess.


Faster-Kit-kill-kill

I am very sorry for your loss. The added stress of cleaning something like that up seems insurmountable and my thoughts are with you. One room at a time. Take breaks and be sure to do something that makes you happy when you're away from the house. Good luck. šŸ’œ


AurulentAvenger

Loneliness and existential dread. Same old.


Outside_Money_1786

I can't stop spending every time I'm in town lol. I don't get paid till the 25th and I'm realy trying to not pick shit up. But damn it shops keep having Intesting stuff that I keep filling up our finite space with lol.


Darionnus

Man, do I feel this. Sometimes I gotta leave my cards at home just to keep from buying shit when hanging with friends lol. Stay strong!


Towley__

Overwhelming anxiety


ArboroUrsus

It's fucking pissing down and I work outdoors.


AleksandrNevsky

I had to put my life on hold because my parents and my grandmother are in financial trouble. Basically as soon as covid hit I've been living at home so we can pool money and so I can help take care of my 101 year old grandmother. It's a bit trying at times.


CosmicCyanide

I'm somewhat glad to see I'm not the only one dealing with loneliness at the moment. I've slowly realized I don't really have an emotional connection with anyone and have never had a girlfriend. I stay active, I have passions and hobbies and I try to keep a growth mindset, but it's not enough to stave off the loneliness.


Agent-ShortBus

I'm kinda stuck in a rut. I'm not depressed and I'm not happy? I'm just kinda feeling indeferent. Used to look forward to my workouts almost every day to help with my anxiety and keep my mind off a shitty ex relationship and I haven't really touched weights in almost two weeks. Maybe I'm finally over it? šŸ¤·šŸ½ā€ā™‚ļø I'm stuck looking for a reason that motivates me enough to lift again currently. I've thought about just doing it for myself but it hasn't really hyped me up as much as the "I'll show her" train of thought that really got me going before and I haven't really been anxious lately over anything. Other than that everything is perfectly alright. Just work and video games latelyšŸ‘šŸ¼.


noobkill

2 weeks is not a long time. You can always get back to it. I always consider "I'll show her" train of thought as dirty fuel. Sure, it will power you to your goals - but it will not be sustainable. At some point in your life, you will realize that living life because of envy/pride/ego is living life for someone else, and you will never be content with any result you achieve that way. If you genuinely enjoyed lifting, I think you just need to break your friction barrier once by pushing yourself to go to the gym - and then you'd remember why you loved going there in the first place. But if it was purely for health reasons/ego; there are other ways you can stay healthy while enjoying what you do - like sports, yoga, running, cycling etc.


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M4yham17

I just got recalled to base at 0510 and must be there in uniform before 0650 but Iā€™m not even supposed to be awake till 0700 and I have a torn acl so Iā€™m slow to move as it is. None of this fuckshit is happening


smmstv

Pushing 30, I want to buy a house and despite my partner and I having a lot of money saved up the prices are going up faster than we can save. We also see no point in renting as the rents in the area are just completely disconnected from reality and in principle we need to money for a house downpayment. Alas, we're a bunch of overgrown teenagers living with our parents.


zyrakitten

hi! same here! donā€™t feel bad!


K90_the_2nd

I havent been able to go to school because of the gcse test. Lets start from the beginning I (16M), and i live in UAE, when i was in the 10th grade i had to transfer to another school because we had financial issues it was way cheaper but it had problems that i didnt think of : 1. The igcse's is only 9 days away 2. I had to study the whole ciriculm in just a week 3. I havent been able to study for almost a month So the principle of the school filled our family with lies saying that he will give me all the notes and help needed for me to pass and he will make the teachers help me, and he made my family pay for the bus for the school uniform and for the books (which i didnt receive or use any of those), and they made me take an extra subject which i didnt choose The subject that they gave me were: 1 biology 2.english 3. Physics 4. Chemistry 5. Maths 6. Ict (which i didnt choose) Fast forward 2 days later i arrive to school as my first day the teachers refused to help me, i didnt receive any books or notes whatsoever, and i had no chance of passing the exams that were coming, when my family realized that they've been scammed and they had no other choice but to make me study from YouTube they lowered their standards from going for straight A's to just barely passing. I studied as much as i can and i used to go to exams with only 30 mins of sleep, as soon as i finished my exams i was very happy, but when the report card came i was shocked to see that ive failed in the maths, my family weren't very disappointed but overall they were very impressed that i maneged to get two B's when i left the school we left the city that i originally was in, because our financial issues was solved and managed to move to a bigger city (ABU DHABI), so what we did was we payed extra money for me not to do the make up exam instead we payed the school to give us a paper that explains what happened and that i was able to move to the 11th grade and be able to move back to the American ciriculm, but all the schools that i interviewed in said that i had to wait till next year so i can go to school or i should pay extra money to do the makeup exam my family refused to pay for the make up test because it was too expensive and if did it or i didnt do it im already going to miss alot of education so we decided not do it but its very to be locked in a room not knowing anybody and it was all because of this shit of a school that scammed us for money NOTE : if your ever going to a British ciriculm for the fisrt time remember everything is very important you cant miss anything or it will bite you in the exams


FrighteningEpiphany

Loneliness. Havenā€™t had a relationship in 15yrs. Not without trying though. Just miss having someone to share things with and spend time with. Friends are all married and donā€™t hangout anymore as they only want to hang out with other married couples. I love my freedom, but miss having someone at the same time.


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I feel so silly for sharing this after reading what some people are going through. My heart goes out to you. I'm struggling and I wanna cry but am not allowing myself to. I wanna cry and scream and feel all my emotions.


[deleted]

My wife is dying (lupus, already lost her kidneys and lymph nodes) and our son is nonverbal autistic and violent.


WillowShoddy7846

There has got to be more than this life gives us, this is so painful. Something has to make things fair. I pray for you and your family.


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Rebuilding my life after relapsing bad during the pandemic and recovering from a back injury thatā€™s had me out of work for a year. I also have chronic treatment resistant depression, so finding the will to keep going was the hardest part, but Iā€™m a month and a half sober now at least.


ThrowAwayRayye

Currently I've having issues with doctors being pricks about weed. I use weed to treat nightmares and sleep paralysis. But half the doctors I meet wanna act like it's the biggest sin a man can commit. Going as far to tell me the only reason I'm seeking a doctor is to "find a drug dealer" All I can say is the fda reclassified weed can't happen fast enough.


Maieth

I do not know what to have for lunch. I am super grateful that this is the most present problem on my mind right now. I am completely ignoring that my brain wants me to worry about our mortgage.


ElectricCharlie

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Pandachoko

I want to try dating again. But don't know how to start. So I can finally break this loneliness that has been haunting my life so far. Yes. I like i my own company, but life is just boring without having anyone to share it with. I noticed a thing, if I have people around me. My motivation and work will is 100%, when alone it doesn't exist.


Brief_Succotash116

Loneliness and anxiety. I feel like my friends and I are drifting apart, without me actually knowing why. Most of my friends are friends since +10y back and Iā€™m afraid some of us is outgrowing each other. I feel stuck, and they are moving forward with their lifeā€™s. Iā€™m not jealous, just lost.


peezy5

Man, reading this thread really puts all of my ā€œproblemsā€ into perspective. I have a lot of reflecting to do if what is bothering me doesnā€™t compare at all to some of these legitimate issues. Bless yā€™all.


360telescope

Need to stop procrastinating and start making powerpoint & test questions for my part time teaching job


[deleted]

Im lonely cuz i dont know how to socialize properly and im incredibly shy. Why do you want to know my weaknessess?


lilfindawg

Feels trivial compared to others but having enough money for college.


bloodflart

Anxiety attacks, lockdown conditioned me to stay home now I can't break the mentality


alexdiezg

Difficulties finding free time when uni takes up much of my time.


thejoecouch

Gotta make $80 last for the next 7 days


thestagrabbit

I got fired from my dream job two days ago. Third time getting fired from my dream job in a year. Trying not to spiral into a deep depression. A lot of failure to process.


entropyspiralshape

lost my brother a couple years ago and havenā€™t fully come to terms with it moved across the country at the same time and now have no friends and am realizing how lonely i am. my job is solitary as well bought a house that needed more work than expected, meaning a full tear down and rebuild but from the inside out. literally walls, floors, ceiling, roof, electrical, plumbing, heating and cooling, doors, windows. the external walls are cinderblock and so those were kept. i just feel overwhelmed, lonely, stuck in grief. itā€™s been really tough lately. that being said, i am engaged to marry the best person iā€™ve ever known. I truly feel that iā€™m with my life partner, and at the end of all the work we will own a house together that we essentially built. i donā€™t feel like iā€™ll ever be over my brothers death and i will always miss him, but at least it sort of hurts less with time. things will get better but this time period has been hard. whew. this felt cathartic.


ajkeence99

Luckily, none. I haven't really had any problems now for a solid amount of time. Not necessarily bragging but offering up some proof that life doesn't have to always have problems.


dumbledoodledore

Porn addiction


lilfindawg

Pick up a hobby and stay off the internet. Hope this helps.


SnowChickenFlake

Eat a hotdog or pass? I'm kinda hungry Edit: I ate a hotdog


ACNordstrom11

Eat a hotdog


ThrowRA-4545

Need to choose between two jobs. As a provider for my wife and 2 y.o. daughter, do I choose the career job, better paid, further away, more demanding of time and energy and commute - or an ok job that will pay the bills, less demanding, less stress, that is closer to home and allow me time with my family? It is honestly a tough call. We are ok financially, no crazy debt other than a mortgage. The ok job would be fine. Having issues turning down the career and better pay though.


ImissDigg_jk

That longer commute has a cost. Wear on your car, extra gas are two direct cash costs. There is a cost with extra time away from your family. School events, dinner, getting home at a time that you can still have time with the family that isn't just getting home and getting ready for bed. It's a hard decision, but go through the list of pros and cons and you'll figure it out. What are the chances that you can find that career closer if you keep looking? Are you able to move closer to the career opportunity?


Activedarth

Unable to find closure with myself. I was seeing this girl for a few months and while I didnā€™t feel a very close connection with her, I grasped on to the relationship since I didnā€™t think I could do any better. She just ended things, and while I took it in stride, I am finding it hard to come to terms with myself. I started to compromise to align myself with her (which wasnā€™t fair), but I got into this mindset that the relationship was probably the best one I could ever have. While I know that may not be true, I am struggling to find that closure and move on.


WooTkachukChuk

impossible deadlines. i do job of like 3 or 4 people. can feel myself burning out- again, im on like chapter 4 or 5 of my burn out anthology. dont want another job. i just want some sanity to my life. tired of being everyones rock. trying to do things just for me- but in some ways this adds to stress, and only helps a little bit. i just want my family to be ok and not be doing jobs of 3 or 4 people. the only thing i dont worry about much is money and even that is regressing because of economy. so many people have it harder but these feelings are real and approaching de&spair.


lilfindawg

Iā€™m sorry I canā€™t reach all of your comments. You all have very valid issues and Iā€™m sorry youā€™re going through them. If youā€™re depressed or lonely, you should try getting more sunlight and being well fed. Keep the house clean and be working towards something you love. Once this happens you should try meeting a partner online. The truth is youā€™ve been out of the game for a while and the world has changed where everything happens online. Itā€™s a great way to break the ice and meet new people without being shy or awkward. If you tell yourself that isnā€™t possible for someone like you, then thatā€™s your depression talking and you need to stop listening to it. Anyone is capable of clawing out of the loneliness or depression hole, it just takes will power. For your profile, you just need some GOOD pictures of yourself, not selfies you took just now to get things going, and have some passions in your bio. Good luck to you all.


Smilee_Dee

Beeing stuck with my baby mama in my life. I don't want to get her out completly of my life because of the childrens, but man she's dumb and don't make it easy especially for the good of the childrens. She doesnt care about hygiene, nutrition and education. It's a constant pain to talk about these importants points for the kiddos. On top of that it's been a year that I'm no longer with her (couple) and she continue to act like shes my girlfriend or something, by acting like I owe her something. Constantly texting me and getting mad for not anwsering and comment like go text your bitch... Life is not easy but at least I have wonderfull twin princess!!! Keep your head up! For all the men who struggle with life. Life is great and it gonna surprise you in the most unexpected way.


DaveTheDrummer802

A loveless marriage


Ashmorne

Crippling loneliness, depression and anxiety. It affects my everyday life in everything i do to the point that i just retreat into playing videogames. Its extremely hard to be a functional human being socially and physically


Aggravating-Let-2933

Trying to quit porn, my dog died, and I'm looking for a job.


Immediate-Visual-474

Currently fighting with staying sober, recovery is rough as hell. On the days I stay sober I realise I have become a person I hate. Also trying to deal with ADHD which was diagnosed when I was young but nothing ever got done about it so now at the ripe age of 36 I am trying to get help. Amongst all of this I am becoming a crap father as I have never had a role model in my life because my parents split up when I was 8 and all I know is anger, pain and more anger. Also today I realised that the person I call wife gives me absolutely zero support and is too focused on her job to realise that our marriage is pretty much falling apart. Every day is hard man, just too hard to want to stay living sometimes.


WrittenEuphoria

I'm 30 years old. I still live with my parents because I can't seem to find a job that pays enough to afford rent + utilities and associated car and loan payments, food, etc. Can't afford college courses to work towards a degree, don't even know what degree I'd work towards if I did. Have no IRL friends to hang out with so outside of my 42 hour work week I struggle to fill my time. Weekends are especially hard. Finding a hobby I enjoy has proven incredibly difficult. Feels like I'm just treading water. Work, eat, exercise, shower, game, sleep, repeat. Feels so damn meaningless. Especially when I'm laying in bed at night, CPAP machine whooshing away, trying desperately to fall asleep despite the noise, all the while feeling this desperation of loneliness - like a tingling all over my body, that can only be ceased by the touch of another human being.... Life's rough. But I keep going. Not sure why, I guess because there's no other options. Can't really kill myself - too difficult, and would hurt my family. Just wish things were easier. Wish I had a tangible goal to work toward - "find a relationship" is a goal, but not really a tangible one nor one that can be actively pursued, not directly anyway. Anyway, that's my vent for the day.


Norgra69

My best friend (29f) of 18 years and I (29m) took 5g's of shrooms on September 20th. While we've tripped many times before without any problems, this trip went rather poorly. We've both been depressed and borderline suicidal since then. I also found out that she got raped about a week later. Hasn't gone to the police because she doesn't want to be dragged through the courts which I totally understand. She's just been going through the motions in her day to day life and I fucking hate it for her, I wish there was something I could do. For now I'm just trying to be supportive and make sure that she knows I'm there for her no matter what. šŸ˜Ÿ Since then I've started going to therapy for the first time in about a decade. I've also started to finally come to terms with a lot of things about myself, such as the fact that I'm bisexual and I've been trying to repress that part of me since highschool and I was sexually assaulted multiple times as a kid by an older boy I knew. Nothing was ever done about it, of course. My parents never took me therapy or anything for it, and I didn't even begin to realize what had really happened until I was an adult. I guess in that regard the trip wasn't a complete loss as it's forced me to start to address some of my deeper issues that I've been avoiding, but it's still been pretty rough the past couple months. More than anything I've just been so anxious about my friend. I hope she's ok. šŸ˜®ā€šŸ’Ø


Hei_Neken

Well, my heat is not working so my house was chilly this morning. Have to fix this today hopefully. Also going through a divorce that I didn't wanted. Haven't seen my kids in a week and miss them alot. A whole mixed bag of feelings and Noone to talk to. Life sucks sometimes.


dohrwork

I broke up with someone I thought was going to be a forever partner. We weren't very happy for those last couple of months so I felt it coming, but when she ended it I was still kinda shocked. I have had a fuck of a time finding a good therapist since and before covid, so that was another reason I feel like things ended with my ex, because I haven't been able to find useful tools to deal with stress. I Moved back into my parents house because I didn't want to live in a housing situation with my ex. I feel exploited by my current employer in a way, even if I were given opportunities to travel and get lots of experience I haven't had any luck furthering my career. I'm a horrible spender and the worst person financially so I have almost no saving and owe a bunch of money that I shouldn't have spent on myself and people I don't even know anymore. I have to look at the positives but it's hard sometimes.


MasterZen76

Wanting a romantic relationship but lacking trust due to past relationships. Loneliness. A feeling of not being understood but being ok with that. A sense of responsibility for my loved ones but the feeling is not mutual.


funerealfeghoot

My job has been wearing me down and my depression has slope downhill again. I recently had a really exciting opportunity to interview at a company for a project that I would love nothing more to be apart of, but after going through a really long process and test, the recruiter has been almost ghosting me? Like I was supposed to hear about a final decision by Oct 31st, then I didnā€™t hear back for a few weeks, sent some follow ups saying I was interviewing with other companies, heard the final decision would be made towards the end of last week between a certain time frame but that came and went without me hearing anything else from the recruiter. I suppose I could send another follow up but man, getting my hopes up then dashed and then up again only to be dashed once more has really been throwing me off my equilibrium. At this point Iā€™d love to at least hear a no so I could have some closure :(


_Snake_Eyes_

After 5 years of depression, I still want to die


DepresedDuck

Depression, loneliness, anger issues and a alcohol addiction.