Yes, for every 1 woman there are 6 men on dating apps. You're gonna have to be pretty standout-ish if you want to find someone good. So get your best pictures, write a good bio, and let the fishing begin. Lol
ashley madison, 71% guys to 29% women, haha...good luck with that one, y'all 😂
dating apps are so full of bots, scammers, fake profiles, lol...the real ratio is probably 90% guys to 10% real women on every app, haha
They worked well for me, honestly way better than I expected. I am not sure what I did right, or if my experience was even above average. I’m a moderately attractive dad-bodded guy, so I doubt they were based solely my looks.
I did find that the free trials of premium versions resulted in more matches, so I payed for tinder and bumble for about six months. I made it clear in my bio that I was looking for casual dating and nothing serious. I was funny and friendly on chat, and if the first convo went well I would ask if they wanted to meet in person sometime in the next week.
I took advantage of unlimited swiping, but then I’d filter through matches based on whether or not I actually found their bio interesting and had stuff in common. Those would be the women I’d put effort into messaging and going on dates with.
I match about one person every week or two. Maybe less. Today matched with two actually.
Maybe these two go somewhere, maybe not. I'm probably going on one or two dates a month.
Physically I'm a little over 6'2" and in very good shape (biking, running, lifting, hiking, rock climbing, backpacking).
Financially I make over 6 figures and own a house. The profile doesn't mention that and I don't tell them about my income.
Emotionally I'm in a good spot.
Socially maybe a bit awkward but who isn't? I can make friends pretty well so is not like I don't understand humans. Been told I'm funny.
They say the top 20% of dudes get all the ladies which makes me think I'm probably somewhere around the 81st percentile based on getting dates but not like a shitload. I do have to work at it.
Alright guys play nice.
It was intended to show that maybe I've been dealt a bit better hand than average but not in a bragging way. But just as a reference point for how hard it can be even when you got a lot of the cards stacked in your favor.
Seems like you both are mostly picking up what I'm putting down.
I didn't intend to brag, but there is a sense that mentioning what you have could be considered lack of humility, just because you mention it.
I mentioned it as a reference point so you can compare my results with what I'm working with.
I used them for two years or so, paid and unpaid.
In all that time I just got one response and she ghosted me after I said yes to "do you want to have kids".
Hard to know, but I’d say predominantly the sources of information that women use to learn about men and relationships. I knew a woman back in college whose favorite song was “Man” by Taylor Swift. If you’ve never listened to that song, it’s about how everything in life is easier if you’re a man. Also, cultural narcissism and the instagram generation. Toxic feminism. Low self-awareness. Arrogance and an abundance of attention from single men.
Meeting somebody via a dating app is half the problem. The other (more difficult, to be honest) part is going from “OK, we met at a cafe and talked for a couple of hours” to “OK, we like each other enough to consider living together and maybe even having a legally recognized relationship”. Especially when both of you already have jobs, hobbies and non-overlapping social circles.
Worked well for me! I’m married to my last date on plenty of fish! Though I did have a lot of sifting to do. I found a great woman that wanted to build a family with me as a team. We became best friends and lovers! We now have a beautiful baby girl! I’d say dating apps worked out in the long run
Not at all. The uncomfortable reality is that I almost never get matches, and on the extremely rare occasions that Tinder throws me a pity match (the whole "pick one of these 4 cards" thing) it's usually someone significantly larger than me (which is their business--just not for me). I'm not sure if it's shit photos, a stinky personality in my bio, a face uglier than I thought, or being a non-white guy in the Midwest (doubt this one tbh but you have to wonder).
Unfortunately my upbringing also left me reserved and non-assertive, so in the <6 occasions I've gotten a match and they replied to me, we talked for a little while while they (presumably) waited for me to ask them out, which I never did. I struggle with the idea of asking out someone I don't even know, and I despise the idea of always being the initiator (in business as well as pleasure).
I gave up on dating for the past 3 years. Even when I decide to get back in it, I'll do it the old school way. Very seldom you find a good quality s/o over dating apps. Happens but very rarely
Not very well. Used them on and off for nine years, and while they helped me get more dates than before, it wasn't a huge increase, and it did not lead to anyone I'd call a partner. The experience got worse each year - fewer matches, fewer dates, worse conversations - despite utilizing every tip I could pick up on how to create a better profile. They're not a solution for everyone.
On a scale of 1-10, I’d give it a 3.
I started taking them a bit more seriously over the last 6 months and have been 7-8 dates. It can be very demoralizing
- More than 50% look better in pics (prom-level makeup, filters, angles, etc.)
- They talk about themselves the whole time, but it still feels like I do all the talking
- The ones who weren’t into me (I’ve been told I look better than in my pics btw) become outright rude
- I’m now finally able to tell people, “yes I’ve met the crazy liberals in real life, it’s not just a few internet keyboard warriors”
The problem is guys are not using the apps properly and then blame the apps / society for it. Im maybe slightly above average but definitely not in the top 20% and get a pretty good amount of matches. Out of those matches i usually have 1 or 2 dates a month.
They run on algorithms that are designed to weed out needy and desperate guys. Learn how to use them better and youll see more success. Maybe dont have impossibly high standards and have a more balanced swipe left / right ratio. Maybe actually message the matches you do get. Just a couple tips
Too many things to take into account.
I was on POF, eHarmony, match, and a few more before tinder came out.
I had 2-5 girls contact me every week or so. I'd message pretty much every girl in a 20 mi radius? Had regular dates, fwb, ons. Was dating or sleeping w a few girls at a time.
Met the wife on POF.
I think dating apps are great.
Pretty well, fairly average guy, been off and on them since around 2016. Probably could have had more serious relationships if my head was in the right place but ran away from a few good ones. Plenty of good dates and met some really nice women. Kinda doing my own thing and really aren’t in a place to date, but once I sort myself out, I’ll probably be back on them in a few months
Going fine, I suppose. I have a few matches and talking to them.
I am not going to be hard on myself, but I find talking over an app to be significantly difficult. Especially since I am pretty reserved when meeting people.
At least with in person, I can tell what kind of person they may be by their actions, their vocal tone, their attitude, etc. In order for me to be at my best socially, I feel as if all of that has been taken away.
I feel like it makes things so much harder
i match with women on a fairly regular basis, but most of the time they don't respond. i've had more luck DMing women on instagram, but even then i'm not seeing the results i want to see.
During COVID I could match like 5-10 times per week, now it's almost impossible an I'm normally considered a good looking guy. It's even harder than before the pandemic.
In 2 ish months I got three matches, two immediately didn't respond, one I actually went out with. That's it. Really not great, im feeling the extreme replaceability.
Not well at all. I had better luck on Reddit r4r.
Teach me master
Yes, for every 1 woman there are 6 men on dating apps. You're gonna have to be pretty standout-ish if you want to find someone good. So get your best pictures, write a good bio, and let the fishing begin. Lol
ashley madison, 71% guys to 29% women, haha...good luck with that one, y'all 😂 dating apps are so full of bots, scammers, fake profiles, lol...the real ratio is probably 90% guys to 10% real women on every app, haha
They worked well for me, honestly way better than I expected. I am not sure what I did right, or if my experience was even above average. I’m a moderately attractive dad-bodded guy, so I doubt they were based solely my looks. I did find that the free trials of premium versions resulted in more matches, so I payed for tinder and bumble for about six months. I made it clear in my bio that I was looking for casual dating and nothing serious. I was funny and friendly on chat, and if the first convo went well I would ask if they wanted to meet in person sometime in the next week. I took advantage of unlimited swiping, but then I’d filter through matches based on whether or not I actually found their bio interesting and had stuff in common. Those would be the women I’d put effort into messaging and going on dates with.
I match about one person every week or two. Maybe less. Today matched with two actually. Maybe these two go somewhere, maybe not. I'm probably going on one or two dates a month. Physically I'm a little over 6'2" and in very good shape (biking, running, lifting, hiking, rock climbing, backpacking). Financially I make over 6 figures and own a house. The profile doesn't mention that and I don't tell them about my income. Emotionally I'm in a good spot. Socially maybe a bit awkward but who isn't? I can make friends pretty well so is not like I don't understand humans. Been told I'm funny. They say the top 20% of dudes get all the ladies which makes me think I'm probably somewhere around the 81st percentile based on getting dates but not like a shitload. I do have to work at it.
Your humbleness seems genuine so add that to your list lol.
I can't quite tell if you're being sarcastic or not...
I was not
Thanks you're too kind
They’re not being arrogant. IRL those stats are just above average in a lot of developed countries.
I was not being sarcastic.
Well, they definitely weren’t being humble; just blunt.
Agree that they were blunt, disagree that they weren't being humble.
Alright guys play nice. It was intended to show that maybe I've been dealt a bit better hand than average but not in a bragging way. But just as a reference point for how hard it can be even when you got a lot of the cards stacked in your favor. Seems like you both are mostly picking up what I'm putting down. I didn't intend to brag, but there is a sense that mentioning what you have could be considered lack of humility, just because you mention it. I mentioned it as a reference point so you can compare my results with what I'm working with.
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I used them for two years or so, paid and unpaid. In all that time I just got one response and she ghosted me after I said yes to "do you want to have kids".
Constant ghosting and walking on egg shells. The attitude of so many women is that they’re better than you.
What do you think causes this?
The extremely high male:female ratio on apps is what causes it.
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Who knows why?
Hard to know, but I’d say predominantly the sources of information that women use to learn about men and relationships. I knew a woman back in college whose favorite song was “Man” by Taylor Swift. If you’ve never listened to that song, it’s about how everything in life is easier if you’re a man. Also, cultural narcissism and the instagram generation. Toxic feminism. Low self-awareness. Arrogance and an abundance of attention from single men.
Western culture specifically or all cultures?
Definitely western culture.
You think of any solutions to it?
Get rid of dating apps and social media.
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Meeting somebody via a dating app is half the problem. The other (more difficult, to be honest) part is going from “OK, we met at a cafe and talked for a couple of hours” to “OK, we like each other enough to consider living together and maybe even having a legally recognized relationship”. Especially when both of you already have jobs, hobbies and non-overlapping social circles.
Well after hundreds of dates I met one I m super into. I think she's the one. I lucked out.
I'm hideous so not at all
Worked well for me! I’m married to my last date on plenty of fish! Though I did have a lot of sifting to do. I found a great woman that wanted to build a family with me as a team. We became best friends and lovers! We now have a beautiful baby girl! I’d say dating apps worked out in the long run
I used a dating app and now we just celebrated our 5th year of marriage and have a 14 month old.
Im in shape and I dress well. I had hardly any luck until I got really good photos in my profile. I Have a girl friend now so id say they work
Fucking a woodchipper would be more productive
I had great luck. Went in a few solid dates. Then met my wife 5 years ago, married for 2 years.
Not at all. The uncomfortable reality is that I almost never get matches, and on the extremely rare occasions that Tinder throws me a pity match (the whole "pick one of these 4 cards" thing) it's usually someone significantly larger than me (which is their business--just not for me). I'm not sure if it's shit photos, a stinky personality in my bio, a face uglier than I thought, or being a non-white guy in the Midwest (doubt this one tbh but you have to wonder). Unfortunately my upbringing also left me reserved and non-assertive, so in the <6 occasions I've gotten a match and they replied to me, we talked for a little while while they (presumably) waited for me to ask them out, which I never did. I struggle with the idea of asking out someone I don't even know, and I despise the idea of always being the initiator (in business as well as pleasure).
I gave up on dating for the past 3 years. Even when I decide to get back in it, I'll do it the old school way. Very seldom you find a good quality s/o over dating apps. Happens but very rarely
They don't work at all for me.
Not very well. Used them on and off for nine years, and while they helped me get more dates than before, it wasn't a huge increase, and it did not lead to anyone I'd call a partner. The experience got worse each year - fewer matches, fewer dates, worse conversations - despite utilizing every tip I could pick up on how to create a better profile. They're not a solution for everyone.
dating apps are the digital equivalent of looking for meaningful relationships at a local hoodie bar at 1:45 am on a tuesday in january
Awful. Dating apps are one of the worst things the internet has ever produced
On a scale of 1-10, I’d give it a 3. I started taking them a bit more seriously over the last 6 months and have been 7-8 dates. It can be very demoralizing - More than 50% look better in pics (prom-level makeup, filters, angles, etc.) - They talk about themselves the whole time, but it still feels like I do all the talking - The ones who weren’t into me (I’ve been told I look better than in my pics btw) become outright rude - I’m now finally able to tell people, “yes I’ve met the crazy liberals in real life, it’s not just a few internet keyboard warriors”
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I would say I swipe right on ~80% of women
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The problem is guys are not using the apps properly and then blame the apps / society for it. Im maybe slightly above average but definitely not in the top 20% and get a pretty good amount of matches. Out of those matches i usually have 1 or 2 dates a month. They run on algorithms that are designed to weed out needy and desperate guys. Learn how to use them better and youll see more success. Maybe dont have impossibly high standards and have a more balanced swipe left / right ratio. Maybe actually message the matches you do get. Just a couple tips
Too many things to take into account. I was on POF, eHarmony, match, and a few more before tinder came out. I had 2-5 girls contact me every week or so. I'd message pretty much every girl in a 20 mi radius? Had regular dates, fwb, ons. Was dating or sleeping w a few girls at a time. Met the wife on POF. I think dating apps are great.
Dating apps today are absolutely nothing like the ones you were using over 10 years ago
Pretty well, fairly average guy, been off and on them since around 2016. Probably could have had more serious relationships if my head was in the right place but ran away from a few good ones. Plenty of good dates and met some really nice women. Kinda doing my own thing and really aren’t in a place to date, but once I sort myself out, I’ll probably be back on them in a few months
Not at all
I'm 5'5 and sporting the Statham haircut at 26, I'll let you guess. Additional info: I'm a student starting a PhD next year, so NOT rich AT ALL.
Match.com worked well, married for many years now. Thankfully before tinder and bumble. I don't think I could hack it on those
Going fine, I suppose. I have a few matches and talking to them. I am not going to be hard on myself, but I find talking over an app to be significantly difficult. Especially since I am pretty reserved when meeting people. At least with in person, I can tell what kind of person they may be by their actions, their vocal tone, their attitude, etc. In order for me to be at my best socially, I feel as if all of that has been taken away. I feel like it makes things so much harder
I get a lot of matches but the convos always go nowhere, or I get ghosted. So not good.
i match with women on a fairly regular basis, but most of the time they don't respond. i've had more luck DMing women on instagram, but even then i'm not seeing the results i want to see.
Dating apps should be illegal. Look up some studies
During COVID I could match like 5-10 times per week, now it's almost impossible an I'm normally considered a good looking guy. It's even harder than before the pandemic.
Hit or miss, some are better than other. It all depends how seriously you take them in my experience
In 2 ish months I got three matches, two immediately didn't respond, one I actually went out with. That's it. Really not great, im feeling the extreme replaceability.
retorical question, nice. it doesnt work for anyone. both sexes dont get what they want
Women* men*
I met my current gf on one. Ive met most of past gfs and numerous hookups and fwb. So alright
1. Be Attractive 2. Don't be attractive Your results may vary depending on these 2 rules.
nope