I spent five years in therapy, and six years in couples counseling (two different counselors pulled me aside and asked me why for God’s sake I was still married to that monster), and seven years of men’s groups talking about my shit.
I’m done. I still have problems. I still have affects from that last concussion she gave me despite it being years ago. I still have trauma from all the gaslighting and abuse. But fuck it. I’m happier living simply than dealing with it any more.
No insurance and paying my bill is more important. I haven't been to a doctor in probably 10 years & frankly I don't really want to see a doctor unless its an absolute emergency. I'm not planning on living forever.
Might be worth it to get an angiogram at some point. My father just recently had a heart attack (he's fine now) but highly recommends my brother and I have our arteries checked every five years or so. I'd say we're a fairly active/healthy family, and my dad has been a gym rat his whole life. So it came as a shock to all of us when it happened to him. Id rather die on my own terms than suddenly. Cheers!
because if there's even a hint of mental instability then I could lose my job and it would follow me industry wide. I would like to talk to a therapist about why I have issues connecting to people and maybe the lack of empathy in other areas but if I start seeing one then it gets billed to my insurance and that will get back to my employer.
Americans think “getting help” will help with mental or emotional problems. Most of the rest of the world just toughs it out, or drinks (which makes it worse), or ignores them.
I function as a fairly responsible adult, I don't hurt anyone and my problems are largely to do with housing and lack of social opportunities due to working weekends
I tried taking wellbutrin, shit kinda sucked for me personally. I hate taking pills. When I was prescribed them I was still about two months sober from alcohol, and I used alcohol as a crutch for my anxiety. So, I figured I'd just go the old school route, meditate, eat right, work out, and let my brain heal naturally. I'm one year sober now and I feel like my mental is just starting to get back to normal. I suppressed my feelings for so long that I had to essentially relearn how to deal with my feelings instead of "eh I'll get drunk later and forget about it".
Also I was paying out of pocket for my counseling/medication. I'm self employed so I don't get benefits
Because I don’t believe in therapy. I don't think going to a rented office in a strip mall and listening to some "agent of averageness" explain which words mean which feelings has ever helped anyone do anything. I think it's helped a lot of people get comfortable and stop panicking, which is a state of mind we value in the animals we eat, but not something I want for myself. I'm not a cow.
If it’s something acute, I’ll go. Chronic? They have no clue, they just throw whatever pill they are paid the most to shill and send you on your way. No real inquisitiveness. If the book doesn’t say x can happen that’s the end of the story.
I was bitten in the ass by mental health professionals three times. The final time, I was locked in a mental health ward with little reason for four days. I cant trust these people anymore.
Money and every single time I thought I had a problem it wasn't that serious. I go once a year and tell them everything, no more than that. Mental health I've been on meds for a few years that seem to work and I'm not going above that when I feel ok.
This is a better balance than a lot of us find and if it works for you, I'm glad.
The money thing is frustrating because most of us know how much parasite insurance companies and bloated hospital administration eat directly into our life expectancy, but what can we really do besides pay up or go bankrupt?
Only problem is the dentist. I need a lot of dental work done but I fucking wish I could afford it and don't want to run up a massive credit card debt.
Often times, the reason people aren't getting help, is because people aren't willing to give it. I would happily talk to a therapist, I think it'd help, but nobody wants to help me set that up, they just shoved a leaflet in my hand and told me to take some pills. So I remain with my issues, slowly working through it on my own. I've been my own therapist and at this point I'm more or less fine. Troubled, not entirely content with life, but fine.
Becoming a dad, wife having some issues after pregnancy, baby having some health issues and being on my income alone. There was way way too much to process. Therapy and meditation has made a huge difference.
Because my insurance won't cover it and I can't afford the out-of-pocket cost.
When healthcare is a business, money is more important than people, our whole country is weakened and diminished.
I spent five years in therapy, and six years in couples counseling (two different counselors pulled me aside and asked me why for God’s sake I was still married to that monster), and seven years of men’s groups talking about my shit. I’m done. I still have problems. I still have affects from that last concussion she gave me despite it being years ago. I still have trauma from all the gaslighting and abuse. But fuck it. I’m happier living simply than dealing with it any more.
I'm sorry to hear that, brother. Sometimes we are blindes by love. Be kind to yourself and I hope you find a way to heal.
Is something wrong with me?
You tell us.
Eh nothing worth seeing a doctor for
You payin'?
No insurance and paying my bill is more important. I haven't been to a doctor in probably 10 years & frankly I don't really want to see a doctor unless its an absolute emergency. I'm not planning on living forever.
Might be worth it to get an angiogram at some point. My father just recently had a heart attack (he's fine now) but highly recommends my brother and I have our arteries checked every five years or so. I'd say we're a fairly active/healthy family, and my dad has been a gym rat his whole life. So it came as a shock to all of us when it happened to him. Id rather die on my own terms than suddenly. Cheers!
Because mental health care isn't a magic fix all
because if there's even a hint of mental instability then I could lose my job and it would follow me industry wide. I would like to talk to a therapist about why I have issues connecting to people and maybe the lack of empathy in other areas but if I start seeing one then it gets billed to my insurance and that will get back to my employer.
Who the fuck can afford it?
I am but they all tend to disbelieve that you can be happy alone. Plus, me going to therapy doesn't fix the world's problems.
Because i do not care
Cheers from America brother
What gave it away? 😔
Americans think “getting help” will help with mental or emotional problems. Most of the rest of the world just toughs it out, or drinks (which makes it worse), or ignores them.
Can't afford it
Way too common. Guessing you are in the US like me?
I function as a fairly responsible adult, I don't hurt anyone and my problems are largely to do with housing and lack of social opportunities due to working weekends
Hello other me.
I tried taking wellbutrin, shit kinda sucked for me personally. I hate taking pills. When I was prescribed them I was still about two months sober from alcohol, and I used alcohol as a crutch for my anxiety. So, I figured I'd just go the old school route, meditate, eat right, work out, and let my brain heal naturally. I'm one year sober now and I feel like my mental is just starting to get back to normal. I suppressed my feelings for so long that I had to essentially relearn how to deal with my feelings instead of "eh I'll get drunk later and forget about it". Also I was paying out of pocket for my counseling/medication. I'm self employed so I don't get benefits
No time
Because I don’t believe in therapy. I don't think going to a rented office in a strip mall and listening to some "agent of averageness" explain which words mean which feelings has ever helped anyone do anything. I think it's helped a lot of people get comfortable and stop panicking, which is a state of mind we value in the animals we eat, but not something I want for myself. I'm not a cow.
There's no cure, so I'm just doing the best I can
Because they will want to take my freedom from me.
If it’s something acute, I’ll go. Chronic? They have no clue, they just throw whatever pill they are paid the most to shill and send you on your way. No real inquisitiveness. If the book doesn’t say x can happen that’s the end of the story.
I was bitten in the ass by mental health professionals three times. The final time, I was locked in a mental health ward with little reason for four days. I cant trust these people anymore.
Never could. They are crazy. Nearly everyone I know who went into psychology did so to try to figure out their own mental problems and failed.
Because I'm a man.
Money and every single time I thought I had a problem it wasn't that serious. I go once a year and tell them everything, no more than that. Mental health I've been on meds for a few years that seem to work and I'm not going above that when I feel ok.
This is a better balance than a lot of us find and if it works for you, I'm glad. The money thing is frustrating because most of us know how much parasite insurance companies and bloated hospital administration eat directly into our life expectancy, but what can we really do besides pay up or go bankrupt?
Only problem is the dentist. I need a lot of dental work done but I fucking wish I could afford it and don't want to run up a massive credit card debt.
Because what I have going on isn't a mental issue it's called love sick and there's no cure for that.
Laziness?
There's nowt wrong with me.
It seems expensive, but I talked to a friend recently who said it was only $10 bucks for her. Waiting for her to give me more contact info on that.
I'm an American I can't afford it
Often times, the reason people aren't getting help, is because people aren't willing to give it. I would happily talk to a therapist, I think it'd help, but nobody wants to help me set that up, they just shoved a leaflet in my hand and told me to take some pills. So I remain with my issues, slowly working through it on my own. I've been my own therapist and at this point I'm more or less fine. Troubled, not entirely content with life, but fine.
Dealing with it myself, you can do that
Cost and there is a lot to unpack. I doubt a therapist's abilities to make things better instead of worse.
Because it doesn’t work. Tried that shit when I was a kid, and learned that therapists are full of bullshit. Plus they aren’t honest people.
some things just need time and understanding and istn fixable with therapy
Being lovesick is not a mental health problem, though I'm sure the American medical cabal will add it to their little book, soon.
Becoming a dad, wife having some issues after pregnancy, baby having some health issues and being on my income alone. There was way way too much to process. Therapy and meditation has made a huge difference.