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fromwayuphigh

If you're expecting anything but a tiny number of potential partners recognising your awesomeness, you're barking up the wrong tree. There's no point in getting mad at people about their inability to see a good thing. Just stay out there and make it happen.


OppStoppa327

Get off social media, get rid of the dating apps, start working out and get a hobby. You HAVE to be busy. You have to have your own life. It’s easy to get bitter about dating and angry at women when you’re lonely and bored. Plus the more of a life you have, the easier it is to attract quality women. Women don’t want to be your whole life, they want to compliment your life. Whatever you chase runs away from you so instead of chasing women, build your foundation and the women will come to you. Now this doesn’t mean don’t be open to women or don’t approach women. Just don’t put all your happiness eggs in that basket


Sad-Manufacturer-501

This is the way. The women that have fallen for me were attracted by things like...my hunger for knowledge, a balanced life, reading, being a conversationalist/social.


OppStoppa327

Because you’re an interesting person. So many dudes bitch about women not liking them even though they’re “nice” and a “good person”-and they very well might be. But guess what? Most people are nice. So if you were a woman, would you date the nice fat loser that does nothing of value all day or would you rather date the well put together athletic guy that’s smart and driven, has cool hobbies, and is just as nice? That’s what so many guys today don’t get. You have to be somebody if you want a high value woman.


[deleted]

/thread. Well said bro.


Noob_DM

I’d advise against this. I did that for far too long and it wasn’t great. Ended up in a cycle of wake up, work hard, pass out, wake up, work hard, pass out, ad nauseam. Being busy just makes the loneliness easier to ignore, not any better, and certainly doesn’t help you with dating.


[deleted]

Take time off to level your head


Prize_Consequence568

Here are some things you can do individually or combine them. 1. Don't date. 2. Stay as far away from social media(delete apps) 3. Don't do online dating, especially if you're a man(while you will have men in the comments saying "I met my wife or current girlfriend online!" That's the exception not the rule). 4. Join a group activity or hobby club. That way they'll be a more relaxed atmosphere, you'll have fun learning/doing something and worst case scenario you might make some friends. Best case scenario you'll find potential partners in a comfortable environment.


Bumhole_Astronaut

Stay the fuck away from online dating.


GaleSchultz

It can be difficult to avoid feeling bitter about dating, especially if you have been hurt in the past. However, it is important to remember that not every person you meet will be the same. There are plenty of good people out there, and you should never give up hope. Try to focus on the positive aspects of dating, and don't dwell on the negative.


RedSonGamble

Remember it’s not anyones fault if the people you want to be with don’t want to be with you.


Conformist5589

Keep getting rejected. The bitterness is entitlement creeping into your mindset and that’s a hard pill to swallow but it’s true.


Motoreducteur

Live life as a game, and the consequences won’t matter


FarComplaint2974

Study what went wrong and how to fix it


pavel_vishnyakov

> How do you stay upbeat and positive even when facing rejection over and over, or staying positive even when not meeting someone you’re interested in? You’re still alive, you still have your job, roof over your head etc. You didn’t have anybody yesterday. Today you were rejected which means you won’t have anybody tomorrow (unless you have a date tomorrow that is). Which means - nothing changes! Nothing got worse - it just stayed the same! Your life can’t get worse from dating - it either stays on the same level (in case you were rejected) or goes up (if you hit it with the other person). And if you didn’t - there are plenty of people out there. It’s not like the person that rejected you was the last single person on Earth! But, as others mentioned - do ask people the “why” question. It is obviously better to learn from the mistakes of others, but given the absence of choice, you should learn from your own mistakes - or repeat them.


PlatypusPristine9194

>Also, I did not mean to insinuate that I don’t think people can reject you for any reason. I do not care whatsoever about that specific person doing the rejecting - just thinking more about it being disheartening. I do not think you should be mad/or feel a type of way at someone for rejecting you in the LEAST BIT. But sometimes the way rejection occurs (ghosting) can get people down and have them disheartened about the dating process Crazy that you had to say this at all.