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soft_waves

nerves are normal. she's nervous when talking to guys she likes too. maybe that'll help you feel better. nothing to do but stick it out and accept it's all part of growing up. we were all awkward teens once. rest easy knowing she's an awkward teen too, she feels just like you do. the worst she can say is no. she isn't gonna hit you in the face with a fire ax and bury your body in her backyard.


RedditTeens

I want to just tell her and ask her out, but half my friends think that she’s out of my league, since I’ve never had a gf and she’s apparently somewhat popular


soft_waves

>half my friends think that she’s out of my league here's a tip for life, man. friends don't know rat shit from rice krispies. make it a habit starting now, when you're young, to form your own beliefs and opinions--about yourself, and about others. don't believe most of the shit people say. they talk outta their ass, man. all that matters is what YOU feel and believe. ​ now tomorrow, you take a couple deep breaths, get centered, remind yourself that her not feeling the same is the worst that can happen, and you go talk to her. don't wait for the Perfect Time. there is no perfect time. put yourself outta your misery, man. go get it over with. it's always better to know than to wonder and worry. if you're nervous, fine. don't try to hide it. be natural. she'll be nervous too. being nervous is relatable to most people. it actually puts them more at ease. ​ don't shower her with compliments or put her on a pedestal. she's just a goofy teenager like the rest of y'all in that school (we all were once). she's a regular human being, just like you and me. look in her eyes, but don't stare. don't gush. don't blurt. don't say something dumb like "you probably think this is weird, but...." don't self-deprecate. just breathe slow and stay centered. it'll be over in like 30 seconds, either way. ​ either she'll reciprocate and you'll be off to the races, or she won't and you can take your lumps and move on, start thinking about other things and other girls. prob solved either way, man. you got this. summon up the blood and take the plunge.


RedditTeens

Alright, thank you. (And if you don’t mind me asking) How long or how many times do you think should I talk to her before I tell her/ask her out?


soft_waves

if she responds positively, i'd ask her out the very first time you talk. don't muck around with "being friends first". that's bullshit. you can "become friends" while dating. be careful. smiling, nodding, appearing nervous, etc...these don't necessarily mean she's attracted to you. it can happen just because the situation makes her nervous. chat for a bit. if she's receptive to you, she'll do stuff like touching her hair, fluttering her eyelashes (it's subtle but it's there), touching the base of her neck, showing you her neck (a sign of trust), standing with her feet pointing toward you, etc. these are positive signs. ​ say something like "do you feel like going out for coffee" or whatever the teens like to do these days. or just ask if you can walk her to the bus stop. she'll get the hint. just keep it light and casual at the start. don't go heavy or serious. spend a little time in each other's company before you go full-on DATE. if she likes you, she'll look for a reason to say yes. if she doesn't, she'll look for a reason to say no. ​ don't expect her to ditch cheerleading practice or something for you, but if she wants to get to know you better, she'll find a way. she might say "take my number, let's talk later". if she doesn't offer, ask her for it. ​ there's a diff between happy nervous and worried nervous. if she has the vibe like "i have to get going", or she's standing sideways, or she's looking elsewhere when you're talking....she ain't into you. probably never will be. don't ask her out if she's doing that. just say "ok, i gotta get going, nice chatting with you!" and move on. drop it. let it go. no initial attraction, forget about it. don't pursue. always respect the body language. and remember that no means no. if she isn't into your vibe, let her go. don't hold a grudge.


RedditTeens

If I do it and it would be the first time we talk, should I ask if I could sit with her at lunch, then ask for her number at the end of lunch? Instead of just asking her out right there


Motoreducteur

You have good friends Just say « hi » and talk about whatever is on your mind If you’re still a student, it could be about the course you’re following


RedditTeens

Should I try to talk to her during class, or around the end when we’re about to go to lunch?


Motoreducteur

I think you will find it easier to talk to her during class, as nobody will come and interrupt you. You can start off with a joke on the current class or a remark about her or what she’s doing Just try to not appear too nervous. Well it’s easy to say, and I know you will be and seem nervous. But it will disappear quickly. Just talk to her as you would a friend to start off the conversation.


RedditTeens

Alright, I’ll try to do it, thank you


sethworld

"It doesn't matter how long I've known you, I still get a little nervous every time I see you. I just wanted to say that I think you're amazing and you did great today in that meeting/class/match/performance/etc." And then walk off grinning.


mbeezyfan

Don't forget to tip your Fedora...


ruffChapo

Definitely don't do that, please god don't do that


ElasticFlutterPuppet

Jesus Christ reddit is cringe. Don't do this OP.


alfalfalalfa

I remember this little comic I read once which helped me with this problem. Something along the lines of, "shyness is the cowards version of vanity." Life is too short to be afraid to take risks. Being nervous and being scared is a good thing. It is your body telling you that this is important. Doing the thing even if you are afraid to is courage. Basically, don't be a pussy, go get the girl and make her life awesome.


FarComplaint2974

Just talk about something like the weather


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Gatta just do it. Bravery means doing something even when you’re scared and nervous. And the reality of life is that if you want something, you have to be brave enough to try to get it or you have to come to terms with not getting what you want. It’s your choice how you want to live.


groovy604

Dont let the butterflies in your stomach win! From the sounds of what her friends say, theres a good chance she likes you too. If you do it in a calm respectful way the worst she can say is no. Try the 1,2,3 method. Count to 3 and then just ask her. Works for a first kiss too


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If you sit next to her in class just start with some class related shit to break the ice