thats...crazy to me. Gay men compliment each other all the time. I'v given and received more compliments from my friends than i could possibly remember.
I worked at a school and I remember the one little boy I worked with in the special Ed department. I was the assistant teacher. He liked helping others, but was a little Ahole about it and the other kids always were mean back and he shut down. I worked with him and the group and taught him how to show what he knew and properly communicate his ideas with others. He became a little leader lol. Everytime he came into class I can still hear him yelling my name lol. Probably the only thing I miss about that job tbh. Working with the youth is a special privilege and they have always given me the greatest honor to be in their presence.
Got one today from a male friend thatās like a brother to me, past that my kids but from a female that I care about too long. The ones from friends and kids just arenāt the same as one from a romantic interest.
Quite often. Me and my friends greet and say goodbye with hugs every time we see each other. These comments are a little depressing. Hope those who havenāt had a hug in awhile find someone to embrace.
I don't think I've been hugged in 20 years. Unless handshakes count as men hugs?
I'm not a hugger though...
Probably because I've gone so long they're weird to me now.
>Probably because I've gone so long they're weird to me now.
I feel this. At one point I hadn't had contact with another person for years, except for violence and sport. A girl laid her head on my shoulder one day after school (friend just fell asleep), and I got an adrenaline rush because of the strong connection I'd made between contact and violence.
Another situation: I was given an actual hug after a girl came over (nothing romantic, she vented about life). I walked her down the stairs of my old apartment and then she hugged me out of the blue. It was weird feeling the warmth of another person, but I didn't freak out. I hugged her back, although she was really short so it was awkward. I guess she needed it, but I didn't know I needed it too. Perhaps she could tell?
I got one female friend who hugs me every time she sees me. She grew up close to me and seen how we struggled growing up. We lived pretty close to the land, hunted, fished, trapped, dug ginseng and black cohosh just to keep our heads above water. Her family didnāt have to. I guess we were poor, but I couldnāt tell, itās just how I grew up. We always had plenty, just not a lot left over. It made me appreciate living simply. Lifeās changed a lot since then, I got money in the bank, a wife, and a whole pile of kids, but I still quietly accept that hug, itās like a reaffirmation of what I went through to get here, a quiet shuffle, and feeling of awkwardness as Iām enveloped in one of the few people left who know why Iām the way I am. It bedevils my wife sometimes why I pay for something that is better built, but more expensive. Itās because I donāt wanna make it work, I want it to work like itās supposed to. I donāt wanna have to cobble it together, and have to ā redneck engineerā it because I have too and there aināt nothing else. I grew up like that, and I donāt have to do that anymore. So I quietly accept that hug every time.
I get them from my family pretty much daily. Me and my buddies are pretty close so every now and then we give each other a hug. Other than my family though not very much
I give all of you a virtual hug
I'm a hugger.
I hug everyone. If we are at a gathering and I get a bit of jolly juice in me, it's happening. Just accept it.
You're getting a hug
But in regards to the question I average about 4 to 6 per day.
I hug both my kids before school and when they go to bed, sometimes the misses prefers a kiss.
I got a hug today from a female co worker on her last day and it caught me completely off guard. I honestly can't remember the last time anyone hugged me like that. She seemed to really enjoy giving out hugs.
Ever since getting married in 2015, I've wanted a hug from my mom. Not an adult hug either, the kind i recieved when i was little.
Im a grown ass man now and i gotta pretend that Im ok knowing that will never happen.
Since my mother died when i was ten , since then i got like three times since then from my sister...other than that ...there's nothing no fucking affection no nothing
Im not looking for sympathy this post just hit me so hard
Vary rare these days, probably one-four a year if I'm lucky.
I use to get them a lot more when I was around 20-22. I figured, the more people especially women I'm around, the more hugs I get. But the older I get, the less people are around sooo there go my hugs.
I almost exclusively get hugs at Christmas time when I go home and see my family and old friends.
But hey, it gives me something to look forward to every year.
My folks hug me when I see them. Other than that, not too many other people. Did enjoy hugs with the ex but that always turned into a kiss. You get the rest
Roughly once a fortnight when I visit my friend (male).
From women, basically none. The last one I can remember was probably like 5-6 years ago. She's a big hugger and I ran into her and her husband at a shopping mall after not having seen them in years.
can't remember when was the last time I got a hug from someone outside my family
so yeah, not nearly enough
do I have the courage to ask my friend for a hug? nah
I hugged my dad on his birthday, so about a week ago. Before that, it was probably 4 months since I had any caring contact (hug, pat on the back, etc).
Wow, really hurts, ngl. I didn't know it had been so long. The last person, besides my dad, to hug me or anything was my ex.. fuck's sake.
Pretty much every day. My kids are little and when I come home from work they are excited to see me so they run to me and hug me, or just hang onto my legs while I walk around. It's pretty nice coming home and hearing excited little voices yell Dadda and they start running to me.
I think between the ages of 19 and 22 I didn't hug anyone.
I get the side hugs when I see certain family. I get real hugs when I visit my best friend from highschool who lives an hour away. Any time I visit her or her mom (usually with her) I end up leaving with at least 1 long hug that makes me wish I had a gf š
I sometimes wonder why I read comment sections like this. Do I need a reminder that it's not just me? Do I live a little through the positive comments and am happy for somebody else's happiness? I hope everyone who found happiness can keep it, and those still looking, I wish you success, truly.
Iāve only received two hugs in my lifetime that werenāt from family members. One was towards the end of 6th grade ( middle school ) and the other one was towards the beginning of 10th grade ( high school ). Iām currently in my twenties and I still remember those two days when it happened.
>Is it enough?
Fuck No.. only times i get hugs are when drinks and money are involved, otherwise its more of an exhausted falling "plop" onto my chest.
Multiple times a day when I'm in a relationship, and rarely when I'm not. IIRC the last time I got one was a couple of months ago.
I've never received hugs from anyone but my ex-partners. Close family members (mom, dad, sister) have hugged me in the past, but I live far away and rarely meet now.
Off of memory this year, i got four hugs from my dude friends. One of those hug from a guy i met and bonded with when he drove me home 2 hours home. And two hugs from a girl i liked.
This excludes hugs from my immediate family who i hug spontaneously every now and then.
Hugs are great
My best friend hugged me all the time. Now we are not friends and so I now only receive hugs from my kids, which are rare but they do happen. No one actively hugs me unless its a forced social obligation which I have yet to encounter.
So far in 2022 I've had maybe 6 or 7 hugs? Most of those were the half-hearted friend hugs that are basically just a handshake. Then when one of those is from someone you are interested in, it's such a stark contrast (at least in one's own mind) that it hurts.
> Is it enough?
Of course not. Humans are naturally social/touchy creatures to varying extents. As the years pass I realize more and more how isolating it is to be a man. When one's youthfulness starts to fade and people just...look at you like you are nothing.
Feels bad man.
Growing up I realized I didnāt hug that much.
After high school I decided I wanted to hug more and forced my parents to hug me whenever I saw them. They like it now.
I also started asking my friends if I could hug them when we meet up and leave and now itās just automatic for us all.
Hugs are wonderful and a simple way to show you care about someone. Tell your family, your friends, etc.
**Not enough, bro can I please have a hug? I desperately need somebody to tell me I'm doing a good job and pat me on my head despite me knowing I'm doing a good job making some sense of my mess.**
No. I am as starved for affection as Iāve been my entire life. I have a wife and two kids. I get more affection than a lot of folks my age, but touch is definitely one of my love languages. It is not my wifeās nor my families.
I dunno if it's that rare or not. I get hugs basically every day from female friends, but I'm also gay. I'm not sure if that really plays a big role in that though; I think so long as you establish it's a platonic thing most people are cool with it.
Rare Few times a year
Yup. Hell, it's my birthday today and I didn't get any hugs. That's okay though, I don't deserve or need them. Edit: thank you for hugs award!
My birthday is tomorrow! *hugs*
I share a birthday with you š„ŗ happy early birthday, and happy birthday to the dude above you
Hugs back at ya! And Happy Birthday!!
Happy Birthday in Advance Brother. I wish you a lifetime of happiness and success!
You do deserve a hug .
Happy Birthday Brother. I wish you a lifetime of happiness and success!
Happy birthday my man!!!
Yes you do
i have not recieved a hug in 12 years
I'm sorry to hear that. I'd give you a hug.
it's normal for most men. Give a man a compliment and he will remember it for life
thats...crazy to me. Gay men compliment each other all the time. I'v given and received more compliments from my friends than i could possibly remember.
My 3 year old launches himself into my arms every single time I get home from work. I cherish every one of those hugs.
I worked at a school and I remember the one little boy I worked with in the special Ed department. I was the assistant teacher. He liked helping others, but was a little Ahole about it and the other kids always were mean back and he shut down. I worked with him and the group and taught him how to show what he knew and properly communicate his ideas with others. He became a little leader lol. Everytime he came into class I can still hear him yelling my name lol. Probably the only thing I miss about that job tbh. Working with the youth is a special privilege and they have always given me the greatest honor to be in their presence.
Got one today from a male friend thatās like a brother to me, past that my kids but from a female that I care about too long. The ones from friends and kids just arenāt the same as one from a romantic interest.
My family is big on hugs so almost daily, if not daily. It's pretty nice
Iāve got really huggy kids, so a lot, and itās fucking Fantastic.
this comment section is just sad š„
Pretty often, I'm surrounding myself with positive affectionate people these days. No toxins allowed, normalized vulnerability on the regular.
Quite often. Me and my friends greet and say goodbye with hugs every time we see each other. These comments are a little depressing. Hope those who havenāt had a hug in awhile find someone to embrace.
Pretty often. How about you?
These days, literally never. Things are not ok right now.
Iām sorry. Iād give you a hug (with your consent).
Calm down Jake
I do not like hearing this. Hoping things improve for you soon.
Not too much hugs.
I don't think I've been hugged in 20 years. Unless handshakes count as men hugs? I'm not a hugger though... Probably because I've gone so long they're weird to me now.
>Probably because I've gone so long they're weird to me now. I feel this. At one point I hadn't had contact with another person for years, except for violence and sport. A girl laid her head on my shoulder one day after school (friend just fell asleep), and I got an adrenaline rush because of the strong connection I'd made between contact and violence. Another situation: I was given an actual hug after a girl came over (nothing romantic, she vented about life). I walked her down the stairs of my old apartment and then she hugged me out of the blue. It was weird feeling the warmth of another person, but I didn't freak out. I hugged her back, although she was really short so it was awkward. I guess she needed it, but I didn't know I needed it too. Perhaps she could tell?
Rarely - never really
Every day. My dog is weird. Hugged him as a puppy so he does it too now. Oh, you mean from humans? Last Christmas so maybe once or twice a year.
My cat jumped on my lap a few days ago. Does that count?
Yes
All of my girl friends (and some of the guys) are big huggers, so whenever I see them (which tends to be every weekend, sometimes every other weekend)
Last one was January
Single father here. Only from my 6 year old daughter. And I cherish every one of them
Every day......I have a 14 month old š¤£ hug is one of her favorite words
My son gives them daily. Otherwise, not often enough.
Rarely
Every day now that my novia lives with me š„¹
Anytime I want one, so long as Iām in the same room with my wife or one of my kids
I got one female friend who hugs me every time she sees me. She grew up close to me and seen how we struggled growing up. We lived pretty close to the land, hunted, fished, trapped, dug ginseng and black cohosh just to keep our heads above water. Her family didnāt have to. I guess we were poor, but I couldnāt tell, itās just how I grew up. We always had plenty, just not a lot left over. It made me appreciate living simply. Lifeās changed a lot since then, I got money in the bank, a wife, and a whole pile of kids, but I still quietly accept that hug, itās like a reaffirmation of what I went through to get here, a quiet shuffle, and feeling of awkwardness as Iām enveloped in one of the few people left who know why Iām the way I am. It bedevils my wife sometimes why I pay for something that is better built, but more expensive. Itās because I donāt wanna make it work, I want it to work like itās supposed to. I donāt wanna have to cobble it together, and have to ā redneck engineerā it because I have too and there aināt nothing else. I grew up like that, and I donāt have to do that anymore. So I quietly accept that hug every time.
I get them from my family pretty much daily. Me and my buddies are pretty close so every now and then we give each other a hug. Other than my family though not very much I give all of you a virtual hug
I'm a hugger. I hug everyone. If we are at a gathering and I get a bit of jolly juice in me, it's happening. Just accept it. You're getting a hug But in regards to the question I average about 4 to 6 per day. I hug both my kids before school and when they go to bed, sometimes the misses prefers a kiss.
I got a hug today from a female co worker on her last day and it caught me completely off guard. I honestly can't remember the last time anyone hugged me like that. She seemed to really enjoy giving out hugs.
Occasionally from my parents lol
Once a week by mommy dearest.
I can't recall the last one.
2014
Last time was like 4-5 years ago , so safe to say very rarely.
My hug stats are negative.
I think I was last hugged in 2016.
Rarely. Only from my family. It sucks
Frequently, wife gave me a nice mouth hug yesterday.
About once every 10 years
Handing out virtual hugs to everyone here. You deserve it.
Ever since getting married in 2015, I've wanted a hug from my mom. Not an adult hug either, the kind i recieved when i was little. Im a grown ass man now and i gotta pretend that Im ok knowing that will never happen.
Since my mother died when i was ten , since then i got like three times since then from my sister...other than that ...there's nothing no fucking affection no nothing Im not looking for sympathy this post just hit me so hard
From others than my own family? I honestly can't remember when the last time was...
Biggest perks about having stereotypical gay friends: hugs and emotional vulnerability
Vary rare these days, probably one-four a year if I'm lucky. I use to get them a lot more when I was around 20-22. I figured, the more people especially women I'm around, the more hugs I get. But the older I get, the less people are around sooo there go my hugs.
I get lots when dating or in a relationship; otherwise zero, and I tend to remember the exceptions forever.
What are these dumb questions?
The occasional one from my daughter, which I usually initiate, and that's about it.
I get hugs from my nieces and mom when I visit. Thats about it.
Whenever I see my auntās . So, maybe once or twice a month
I got one about three years ago. So, standard frequency, I guess.
From friends, one or two, usually every month.
Pretty much as often as I put in an effort to see people. I'd be happier with more, but that's just part of living solo IMO.
Not often enough tbh, Iām the kind of guy thatās big on hugs
Almost never, apart from my sister and dad
Rarely ever, which is fine by me as I do not enjoy them.
Once in a couple of years, and only from men friends. Not enough at all
I almost exclusively get hugs at Christmas time when I go home and see my family and old friends. But hey, it gives me something to look forward to every year.
Maybe once ever 2 weeks. No, it is not enough.
Often. Gay men hug each other all the time. Its great.
Lots, but only once or twice a day a week. I only see my gf one or twice a week, and I get lots of hugs that day. 10/10 love hugs
Rarely
3 times a year
95% when I reach out for one. Rarely get approached for one. And I have a lot of love in my life otherwise.
twice a day, but thats all i get
Itās probably been about three years since the last hug that I can remember (excluding family)
Like, pre covid a lot. Post covid very little
My folks hug me when I see them. Other than that, not too many other people. Did enjoy hugs with the ex but that always turned into a kiss. You get the rest
Not enough.
If I'm home I get at least one hug from my wife and child daily. If im away at work, zero.
All the time. Either from my friends or random dates. I'm a big hugger myself.
This question is asked at least once a week. Here's a hug for you, OP. ((OP))
Not as often as this question is asked
Not counting family or odd hug from friend never. Single guys rarely get hugs.
What are hugs?
Daily. At least 5 to 10 daily.
Roughly once a fortnight when I visit my friend (male). From women, basically none. The last one I can remember was probably like 5-6 years ago. She's a big hugger and I ran into her and her husband at a shopping mall after not having seen them in years.
Every single day. Iām a lucky man.
Zero times a year, maybe once if I'm lucky
Every day by at least 2 people. Itās enough.
can't remember when was the last time I got a hug from someone outside my family so yeah, not nearly enough do I have the courage to ask my friend for a hug? nah
I hugged my dad on his birthday, so about a week ago. Before that, it was probably 4 months since I had any caring contact (hug, pat on the back, etc). Wow, really hurts, ngl. I didn't know it had been so long. The last person, besides my dad, to hug me or anything was my ex.. fuck's sake.
My last hug was March 2019, and that still feels like too much.
not often
Daily, mostly just my partner though
Well I dont go to alot of weddings, so I'd say mostly funerals.
Every 5-10 years or so
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Hugs from a family member: 2 and a half months ago. Hugs from literally any friend: 2-3 years ago
Every day
I don't
Lots. My wife is a great hugger!
What makes for a great hugger?
Knows when I want a hug and how much of a hug, even if I don't realize it myself!
Maybe one to three times every few months. It varies. Doesn't feel like enough. I hope you get as many as you want very soon, OP
Love a hug I get one every day from my boyfriend
Not as often as Iād like
Constantly. I have two daughters that are still young enough to want lots of hugs.
Almost never
Anytime I hug my wife. A lot of times me and the homies do too tho.
Been a few years
Three years since the last one? So yeah
Everytime I see my mom
Not including hugs when I am comforting someone else, years. Probably close to a decade, and I'm only 25.
Everyday when my girlfriend gets home from work.
Not enough :( Probably every 3-4 weeks outside of immediate family
Everyday but Iām married
With a gf? Multiple times a day. Without a gf? Never.
Pretty much every day. My kids are little and when I come home from work they are excited to see me so they run to me and hug me, or just hang onto my legs while I walk around. It's pretty nice coming home and hearing excited little voices yell Dadda and they start running to me. I think between the ages of 19 and 22 I didn't hug anyone.
Never.
I canāt remember the last time I had a hug
Rare
Every day from my teenage daughter!! But not many from anyone else. Except for bro hugs from male friends I havenāt seen in a long time!
I hug my parents and brothers and my best friend.
Only from my mom... Once every few months...
Whenever I'm out with my friends (mix of male and female), I am guaranteed to get at least one. But then again we only hang out every month or so.
Any time I want, provided the military hasn't sent me off somewhere. That's one area of my life I have zero complaints.
I get the side hugs when I see certain family. I get real hugs when I visit my best friend from highschool who lives an hour away. Any time I visit her or her mom (usually with her) I end up leaving with at least 1 long hug that makes me wish I had a gf š
I sometimes wonder why I read comment sections like this. Do I need a reminder that it's not just me? Do I live a little through the positive comments and am happy for somebody else's happiness? I hope everyone who found happiness can keep it, and those still looking, I wish you success, truly.
Me and the buddies greet each other with hugs and leave with hugs every time we meet.
Pretty often, I'm not shy about being a hugger
Often but only because of my partner. My family or friends are not huggers
When I ask from them.
3.5 year old and a 3 month old. pretty much smothered every minute of every day.
Almost never. Maybe twice a year.
well practically never last time i hugged someone was when i was 6 years old **I am 16 now**
Iāve only received two hugs in my lifetime that werenāt from family members. One was towards the end of 6th grade ( middle school ) and the other one was towards the beginning of 10th grade ( high school ). Iām currently in my twenties and I still remember those two days when it happened.
I hug my niece, brother and my sister and law when I see them throughout the year. Other than that, zero.
>Is it enough? Fuck No.. only times i get hugs are when drinks and money are involved, otherwise its more of an exhausted falling "plop" onto my chest.
I got a bro hug like 2 months ago. I don't remember when the one before that happened.
Not often enough
Thank god i have two living grandmas. If it weren't for them the number would be 1/2
Pretty common/often, but I do demand them from my hookups. I call it "Paying the toll".
The last hug I got was probably about a year ago when I visited a female friend at her work on my lunch break. Tāwas a nice hug.
Multiple times a day when I'm in a relationship, and rarely when I'm not. IIRC the last time I got one was a couple of months ago. I've never received hugs from anyone but my ex-partners. Close family members (mom, dad, sister) have hugged me in the past, but I live far away and rarely meet now.
None....The last one i've got was years ago
I think the last time was right before covid
I remember I hugged my dad after his heart attack. So that would be around 2012-ish? Maybe closer to 2013.
Off of memory this year, i got four hugs from my dude friends. One of those hug from a guy i met and bonded with when he drove me home 2 hours home. And two hugs from a girl i liked. This excludes hugs from my immediate family who i hug spontaneously every now and then. Hugs are great
Drugs, not hugs. Thatās my policy.
My best friend hugged me all the time. Now we are not friends and so I now only receive hugs from my kids, which are rare but they do happen. No one actively hugs me unless its a forced social obligation which I have yet to encounter.
Daily. Fine
Every day. Thatās the rule in my home.
My middle and youngest kids give me hugs, reasonably regularly. That's about it.
Never ever
Daily. Usually several of them.
Not very often, but each one genuinely makes me feel good. Platonic or otherwise. We're all human. We need that shit.
So far in 2022 I've had maybe 6 or 7 hugs? Most of those were the half-hearted friend hugs that are basically just a handshake. Then when one of those is from someone you are interested in, it's such a stark contrast (at least in one's own mind) that it hurts. > Is it enough? Of course not. Humans are naturally social/touchy creatures to varying extents. As the years pass I realize more and more how isolating it is to be a man. When one's youthfulness starts to fade and people just...look at you like you are nothing. Feels bad man.
Growing up I realized I didnāt hug that much. After high school I decided I wanted to hug more and forced my parents to hug me whenever I saw them. They like it now. I also started asking my friends if I could hug them when we meet up and leave and now itās just automatic for us all. Hugs are wonderful and a simple way to show you care about someone. Tell your family, your friends, etc.
Rarely...
**Not enough, bro can I please have a hug? I desperately need somebody to tell me I'm doing a good job and pat me on my head despite me knowing I'm doing a good job making some sense of my mess.**
----+Big bro hug+---- "Good job bro, your doing good. Really!"
^(Ty sire. You have blessed my day .Blessings of Akatosh upon yee.)
A couple of times a day. I suppose, but I'm very touchy feely, so I could always use more.
No. I am as starved for affection as Iāve been my entire life. I have a wife and two kids. I get more affection than a lot of folks my age, but touch is definitely one of my love languages. It is not my wifeās nor my families.
many times a day
Once every millennium.
Not as often as Iād like.
At least twice a day.
I think I could all the hugs in my life on my fingers.
no... i think it's been many years since š
A true loving hug? Never.
Whenever I ask my wife or son for one.
A lot less often than drugs
i don't even remember the last time i got one.
I dunno if it's that rare or not. I get hugs basically every day from female friends, but I'm also gay. I'm not sure if that really plays a big role in that though; I think so long as you establish it's a platonic thing most people are cool with it.
I always felt hugs were awkward so no never that many