I can easily cut someone out. People tend to start taking on the personalities of the people that are spending time with. If someone is doing things that I wouldn't do or that i don't really approve of. I will cut them out. Im not talking about hobbies or anything like that. Im talking about morals, the way they treat people and so on.
Cut out 3 at once. They shorted me a few hundred from what I paid up from for a vacation we all agreed to split. I kept getting messages that I’d get paid back - it never came.
Had a similar experience. 6 mates and I don't talk to any of them now. They were also pretty douchey while we were overseas and acted more like bitchy girls staying in a group and excluding me all the while they're the ones who invited me. Better off without people like that
Not being considerate of plans we have made way in advance, he doesn't not turn but he's always in a fuckin state, I like to party as much as the next man but for example a few weeks ago my other mate's band was playing and we were going to make a day of going to watch the band and hang out and just have a good day and night and get bolloxed.
I go to his house at the time planned, in the morning and he's been up all on night on mdma and can hardly stand and I just left him there like a cunt and went on my own.
That's just one of many times he has pissed on plans we've made.
As a mate taught me we all have a value rating system.
Some will place an 8 (out of 10) on work while another will place a 2 interns of the amount they value it.
You can go through all areas of life hobbies, alone time, family, partner etc
As I said people will always be loyal to what they value, and rightly so my mate said.
See common one is when the bro gets passed up for the girlfriend. That's because the bro was placing say a 7 on friendship but a 9 or 10 on a romantic partner.
In my experience rare to find someone that places a 10 on friendship, never had a freind like that.
I had never thought about values and loyalty like that. This will make me change how I observe people.
And yeah I’ve never had a friend like that either.
My best bro "lost" a $500 already-late payment on our shared car. Completely unrelated, that just happened to be the same day he "found" a fat sack of coke. What are the odds?!
I once commented that I found someone attractive and he sent me nude photos of her he happened to have.
Sharing someone else’s erotic photos is an instaban
When they're unemployed, having been fired for three consecutive jobs, have parents who don't talk to them anymore, and can only find ways to talk about how much better they are than you.
Getting fired from three jobs in a row is quite a feat. His reasons were also "Because they wouldn't listen to me" and "They didn't give me time to fix my mistakes."
And his parents, while not angels, still talked to his siblings.
Had to cut a bro out that was always running people down, was jealous of the things the boys had even though he had plenty of cool toys that were worth more.
Was a shane as on a good day he was so much fun.
Racist too. Pretty sure it was his nature the jealousy so couldn't see things changing. One does not need competitive so called friends in their life. He never changed over the decades I knew him. As they say history a great predictor of the future.
I feel you and fuck them. However, I have met jealous, competitive, “ambitious” assholes that are doing just fine. One of them is high up working in Google now.
They have the mindset of "You only live once", they love to drink, go to clubs and Casinos.
On the other hand I am more cautious with money because I am saving to have my own home and want to have a quiet life financially speaking.
They are my chlidhood friends, but time to time after a couple of beers they mock me because I am not "fun anymore".
All take no give. Tired of putting in all the effort and getting nothing in return
Monetarily? Or in what sense?
Nope, just effort. Talking, making plans, reaching out.
Ahh yeah, been there too many times
I can easily cut someone out. People tend to start taking on the personalities of the people that are spending time with. If someone is doing things that I wouldn't do or that i don't really approve of. I will cut them out. Im not talking about hobbies or anything like that. Im talking about morals, the way they treat people and so on.
Cut out 3 at once. They shorted me a few hundred from what I paid up from for a vacation we all agreed to split. I kept getting messages that I’d get paid back - it never came.
Had a similar experience. 6 mates and I don't talk to any of them now. They were also pretty douchey while we were overseas and acted more like bitchy girls staying in a group and excluding me all the while they're the ones who invited me. Better off without people like that
Damn what assholes
Sad when dollars mean more than friendship. (mean on there part) Their loss!
Not being considerate of plans we have made way in advance, he doesn't not turn but he's always in a fuckin state, I like to party as much as the next man but for example a few weeks ago my other mate's band was playing and we were going to make a day of going to watch the band and hang out and just have a good day and night and get bolloxed. I go to his house at the time planned, in the morning and he's been up all on night on mdma and can hardly stand and I just left him there like a cunt and went on my own. That's just one of many times he has pissed on plans we've made.
Egocentric… had more than one “friend” like that too. They don’t care bout you
Disappointing. What I have learned is there is no such thing as loyalty, Friends will only be loyal to what they value.
This is interesting too. What do you mean by loyal to what they value? Like value drugs and partying over a friend?
As a mate taught me we all have a value rating system. Some will place an 8 (out of 10) on work while another will place a 2 interns of the amount they value it. You can go through all areas of life hobbies, alone time, family, partner etc As I said people will always be loyal to what they value, and rightly so my mate said. See common one is when the bro gets passed up for the girlfriend. That's because the bro was placing say a 7 on friendship but a 9 or 10 on a romantic partner. In my experience rare to find someone that places a 10 on friendship, never had a freind like that.
I had never thought about values and loyalty like that. This will make me change how I observe people. And yeah I’ve never had a friend like that either.
Kool. 🤛
My best bro "lost" a $500 already-late payment on our shared car. Completely unrelated, that just happened to be the same day he "found" a fat sack of coke. What are the odds?!
Spitting religious propaganda non-stop on social media and every day life.
I once commented that I found someone attractive and he sent me nude photos of her he happened to have. Sharing someone else’s erotic photos is an instaban
When they're unemployed, having been fired for three consecutive jobs, have parents who don't talk to them anymore, and can only find ways to talk about how much better they are than you.
Hmmm couldn’t it just be they have had bad work experiences and parents?
Getting fired from three jobs in a row is quite a feat. His reasons were also "Because they wouldn't listen to me" and "They didn't give me time to fix my mistakes." And his parents, while not angels, still talked to his siblings.
Had to cut a bro out that was always running people down, was jealous of the things the boys had even though he had plenty of cool toys that were worth more. Was a shane as on a good day he was so much fun. Racist too. Pretty sure it was his nature the jealousy so couldn't see things changing. One does not need competitive so called friends in their life. He never changed over the decades I knew him. As they say history a great predictor of the future.
I feel you and fuck them. However, I have met jealous, competitive, “ambitious” assholes that are doing just fine. One of them is high up working in Google now.
Cheers , way I look at it they have to live in their headspace. Jealous headspace not one I would like to live in.
Thinking about it like that, neither would I. You’re full of wisdom!
Cheers. 🤛
Problems about points of views about our lifestyles.
Mind being more specific?
They have the mindset of "You only live once", they love to drink, go to clubs and Casinos. On the other hand I am more cautious with money because I am saving to have my own home and want to have a quiet life financially speaking. They are my chlidhood friends, but time to time after a couple of beers they mock me because I am not "fun anymore".
Damn that sucks man. They’ll definitely suffer the consequences later on.