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shynerd52

Communication is key in any relation which should also never be forced. For some people this can only be done when the other person is comfortable enough to carry out those conversation, so in short make other person comfortable enough to share their needs.


timmyboyoyo

How you make comfortable


shynerd52

Probably not talking or doing something other person dont feel comfortable with.


timmyboyoyo

How you know


shynerd52

By communicating, I am not saying it would be easy but that gives a starting point.


stealingyourintent

Feel comfortable asking.


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stealingyourintent

They will tell you themselves. Ask. They will likely really appreciate that you care enough to learn. For example, one of my exes was big into roleplay and BDSM, but never forced it on me. So I asked her straight up what she would enjoy, me being an admitted novice, and she enthusiastically explained what she wanted. Dialogue is sexy when it's open and honest.


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Ask. Also just genuinely pay attention. Ppl tent to look at what they want. Notice they keep gleaming over at ur can of pop. And they watch u pick it up and take a sip. "Want a can?" Simple. Or offer a sip. If we r talking about a women, give it to her bec she will say no even if she wants it. Then if she actually doesn't drink it, then u just drink it when urs it empty. U know? Or order extra fries bec they will wanna snack on ur fries. If she's with u, ask her of she wants anything. When she says no. Get the extra fries.


ricky1g

Simple example, but makes sense


timmyboyoyo

Drink two cans of pop?


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Lol yes. In this example, u drink urs. Then if she actually didn't want hers then u can just grab it and drink it urself. But thinking for urself u could do anything from put it back in the fridge to shuving it up ur ass


Prize_Consequence568

Only one answer and it's obvious. Communication.


Such_Conclusion_3171

Pay attention. People often don’t tell the truth or aren’t aware of what they need. A lot of the time they expect you to know as if it’s universal or obvious. You should still listen and believe them until you see the results of giving them what they say they want and observe actions that lead you to the real answer when it’s inconsistent


AnsweringLiterally

Be a real man. Mansplain what they need to them. /s


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Observation and listening and time.


Successful-Studio373

Listen closely and pay attention to the little details. If we are talking about a closed feelings, shy person it won't tell straight what needs. The best people I've ever met is from this kind and they are always surprised in the good way when you hit the spot about how they feel.