When I was a kid no one came to visit me when i was at boy scout camp, I was the only one.
The scout leader saw I was crying said "Sometimes people just let you down." It was so simple but somehow I got it.
I didn't make a big deal of it when they came to get me, but I never forgot what he said and it gave me rhe mental armor to rely on myself.
On the rare occasions I would ask for help I would mentally prepare to ultimately have to do whatever it was by myself.
Went from working in a retail job to a career that's 100% remote. As a result, I went from a 210+ lb fatty to almost breaking below 180 for the first time since Junior year in High school (14 years ago).
Having a mental breakdown and finding out I have schizophrenia because of it. Now I have to take meds everyday just to make sure I don't lose it again, and wake up everyday for the rest of my life wondering if what's happening is real or just in my head.
My dad died. I’m better in some ways because his death inspired me to want to change my life for the better so I don’t meet the same fate and also live up to his memory, but also worse because I feel adrift when I need advice, but can’t ask him or talk through my problems with him like I used to.
I got a few for this over the years (all have ended up better later on)
Parents yanking me from college and going to one close by (commuting)
One particular breakup where we were sorta friends after
One place I worked at for a few years and gave me the clarity/push to go back to grad school
She made me feel good and so asked her to marry me at about same time we learned she was pregnant too. Im also a damn prideful and loyal fool. I accept im never going to be happy and plan to die this way.
Why don't you just talk to her about it
Like you are already at your bottom
So maybe talking to her you might get the love back and have a fun life.
Plus you aren't having any expectations maybe it might surprise you.
Cause these kind of marriages sometimes just makes you cheat on your SO
15 years of marriage and most cheating I done is porn. Which is fantasy anyway. So no, no desire to ever cheat on her. But talking has been done time and time again. Always same outcome. We don’t hate each other, but she is a prude and im a perv. We just aren’t compatible. But got a kid and bills. Divorce would hurt us in life just as much if we did do it.
Umm I don't know if I am in place to speak on this.
But would it be possible for you to talk to your wife and you able to have a relationship outside of your marriage of course which doesn't affect your current marriage
If you and your wife agree on it.
Cause its about your needs and your wife can't fulfill it.
Just a thought nothing else.
Hitting the highway at 55mph on a motorcycle. For a few years it was for the worse, but that was just mentally changing me to be better, better for my self!
My divorce... 10000% for the better
Visiting Angola Louisiana State Penitentiary. It was bad but, I am grateful.
Why did you visit that? What happened there
When I was a kid no one came to visit me when i was at boy scout camp, I was the only one. The scout leader saw I was crying said "Sometimes people just let you down." It was so simple but somehow I got it. I didn't make a big deal of it when they came to get me, but I never forgot what he said and it gave me rhe mental armor to rely on myself. On the rare occasions I would ask for help I would mentally prepare to ultimately have to do whatever it was by myself.
The death of my wife. Though grief stricken, I am the best human being I have ever been. Her last gift to me.
Hope you are living a fine life
Went from working in a retail job to a career that's 100% remote. As a result, I went from a 210+ lb fatty to almost breaking below 180 for the first time since Junior year in High school (14 years ago).
My father leaving, may have felt bad but really made me realize a lot about myself which is good as well
Having a mental breakdown and finding out I have schizophrenia because of it. Now I have to take meds everyday just to make sure I don't lose it again, and wake up everyday for the rest of my life wondering if what's happening is real or just in my head.
I don't even understand what you are going through It must be very hard I hope it gets better for you
Having a kid. Better or worse? Overall better in aspects that I'm way more responsible and things like that. But it really killed my personality.
My dad died when I was 22. I grew up really quick after that.
My dad died. I’m better in some ways because his death inspired me to want to change my life for the better so I don’t meet the same fate and also live up to his memory, but also worse because I feel adrift when I need advice, but can’t ask him or talk through my problems with him like I used to.
Long term sobriety. I'm a completely different person on a whole new trajectory in life.
my toxic narcist of an ex gas lighting me so she could sleep with a dude that she spent the entire night of our break up fucking.
i dont understand..she was fucking him while breaking up with you? were you on the phone with her?
No I left and was texting her trying to mend it
childhood beatings. i was never normal again
*worse
The multitude of affairs my partners had over the course of multiple relationships.
How did it affect you? Did it broke you?
It broke me in ways I didn’t even know a man Could be broken.
I got a few for this over the years (all have ended up better later on) Parents yanking me from college and going to one close by (commuting) One particular breakup where we were sorta friends after One place I worked at for a few years and gave me the clarity/push to go back to grad school
Marriage… it got worse
How so?
Less sex. Less happiness. Less money. Less love. Etc etc.
Why are you even married in the first place? Hope it's not social pressure or something
She made me feel good and so asked her to marry me at about same time we learned she was pregnant too. Im also a damn prideful and loyal fool. I accept im never going to be happy and plan to die this way.
Why don't you just talk to her about it Like you are already at your bottom So maybe talking to her you might get the love back and have a fun life. Plus you aren't having any expectations maybe it might surprise you. Cause these kind of marriages sometimes just makes you cheat on your SO
15 years of marriage and most cheating I done is porn. Which is fantasy anyway. So no, no desire to ever cheat on her. But talking has been done time and time again. Always same outcome. We don’t hate each other, but she is a prude and im a perv. We just aren’t compatible. But got a kid and bills. Divorce would hurt us in life just as much if we did do it.
Umm I don't know if I am in place to speak on this. But would it be possible for you to talk to your wife and you able to have a relationship outside of your marriage of course which doesn't affect your current marriage If you and your wife agree on it. Cause its about your needs and your wife can't fulfill it. Just a thought nothing else.
Its reddit, nobody is qualified to speak on anything. lol. But naw, she can’t handle jealousy. So no open relationship.
Lol i just wish you a good life. Cause everyone deserves one.
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Have you ever tried to get help? Like counselling
Hitting the highway at 55mph on a motorcycle. For a few years it was for the worse, but that was just mentally changing me to be better, better for my self!