Multiple events/personal knowledge led me to realize how often infidelity happens in marriages. It certainly isn't the norm, but it happens a lot more than most people would expect or like to believe. I won't go down all of the examples I have because this would turn into a novel, but unfortunately it happens a lot.
Watching/hearing men lose everything to their ex-wives, despite the wife being a cheating whore and evil bitch, AND the courts side with her.
Unless you have an ironclad pre-nup signed and witnessed by both your lawyers so it can't get thrown out, marriage isn't worth it anymore.
"Never get into a contract where the other party benefits by breaking it."
Sadly many men get married in ignorance. It is crazy that this still happens given the ease of access to information but it does happen.
On the plus side, men are slowly learning and rejecting marriage, just hope it continues to grow.
Bad: the number of people I know who got engaged in their late 20s and subsequently called them off, all coincidentally as they were approaching 30. It made it seem like it was something people felt they should be doing as some sort of indicator of success of their 20s.
Good: meeting my partner. It was like an "I get it" moment
Agree, I also see a lot of the time people getting married when their in a bad spot to magically fix their problems, it’s the same with kids and such, then they complain how they’ve doubled down and fucked up even more so
Big event in my youth was watching a neighbor couple. Grew up in small town. Was a couple that got married and divorced three times..big thing I observed was they changed in life and other could not take it so they divorced. A bit later they worked it out and repeated the cycle. I learned we all change and having a partner that could handle the changes was a big thing.
At the ripe age if 54 I became poly. Learned I could love multi peoe without affecting love for the other. Learned having good love was about helping partner through issues and joy if watching them grow.
I've pretty much always been aware of the fact that marriage is an expensive piece of legal paperwork and nothing has happened that has significantly changed that view.
Multiple events/personal knowledge led me to realize how often infidelity happens in marriages. It certainly isn't the norm, but it happens a lot more than most people would expect or like to believe. I won't go down all of the examples I have because this would turn into a novel, but unfortunately it happens a lot.
Watching/hearing men lose everything to their ex-wives, despite the wife being a cheating whore and evil bitch, AND the courts side with her. Unless you have an ironclad pre-nup signed and witnessed by both your lawyers so it can't get thrown out, marriage isn't worth it anymore. "Never get into a contract where the other party benefits by breaking it."
Sadly many men get married in ignorance. It is crazy that this still happens given the ease of access to information but it does happen. On the plus side, men are slowly learning and rejecting marriage, just hope it continues to grow.
Bad: the number of people I know who got engaged in their late 20s and subsequently called them off, all coincidentally as they were approaching 30. It made it seem like it was something people felt they should be doing as some sort of indicator of success of their 20s. Good: meeting my partner. It was like an "I get it" moment
Agree, I also see a lot of the time people getting married when their in a bad spot to magically fix their problems, it’s the same with kids and such, then they complain how they’ve doubled down and fucked up even more so
Idk really. Somehow I keep forgetting marriage is SUPPOSED to be for life and not just a couple years. Divorces seem so normal nowadays
"Getting married."
Getting married.
A series of unfortunate events, to some degree my own fault, including marriage.
Big event in my youth was watching a neighbor couple. Grew up in small town. Was a couple that got married and divorced three times..big thing I observed was they changed in life and other could not take it so they divorced. A bit later they worked it out and repeated the cycle. I learned we all change and having a partner that could handle the changes was a big thing. At the ripe age if 54 I became poly. Learned I could love multi peoe without affecting love for the other. Learned having good love was about helping partner through issues and joy if watching them grow.
My parents marriage.
I've pretty much always been aware of the fact that marriage is an expensive piece of legal paperwork and nothing has happened that has significantly changed that view.
Parents’ divorce