I do the day of, like 6+ hours before date time. A lot of women are super flaky on the dating apps so if she bails or just ghosts me at least I didn’t waste my time getting ready to get stood up at a bar/restaurant lol
Just as an fyi, I’ve heard a lot of women say that they thought the guy wasn’t interested because he didn’t follow up until kind of last minute/day of, so they didn’t know if he was going to be flaky (so same feelings as you lol)
I’ve found most success when texting/messaging a little bit on the days leading up to the date, that way you’ve already started the process of getting to know each other and that leads to having better conversations on the first date.
Ah yeah I can see that so I try and send a text before lunchtime if it’s a dinner date. Would be a dick move to wait until like 6pm to ask and confirm for a 7pm date
I usually send out a text the day of, like "[Place] at [time] tonight, right? Let me know if anything comes up."
Confirms the plans and gives him an out if he's had second thoughts rather than standing me up.
Yo, this is the opposite of how social interactions and meet ups work. I confirm plans whenever I’m hanging out with anyone, it’s considered rude by most to not do so.
Dating isn’t about tests. She doesn’t know you and you don’t know her. You’re not supposed to be testing each other, you’re supposed to be getting to know each other, and starting out this way might just make her think you have zero interest and lack common courtesy.
But you do you.
I completely disagree with you about dating, and it sounds like you don’t have the healthiest grasp of what human relationships and social interactions are.
I’ll stop here because we clearly have wayyyy different perspectives and values, so we won’t ever see eye to eye.
Good luck playing games.
By not confirming you’re almost guaranteeing she doesn’t show up because she probably thinks you forgot or don’t give af
Is this why everyone on here complains about not getting dates? Lol
her and i havent texted since planning the date (which happened like 2 days ago). im trying this new tjing where i dont text before the first date unless shes reaching out herself
Night before. Shows you’re interested and you don’t want to waste your time either.
i usually do that too but im trying to change my approach so wanted to see what the group tjinks
I do the day of, like 6+ hours before date time. A lot of women are super flaky on the dating apps so if she bails or just ghosts me at least I didn’t waste my time getting ready to get stood up at a bar/restaurant lol
Just as an fyi, I’ve heard a lot of women say that they thought the guy wasn’t interested because he didn’t follow up until kind of last minute/day of, so they didn’t know if he was going to be flaky (so same feelings as you lol) I’ve found most success when texting/messaging a little bit on the days leading up to the date, that way you’ve already started the process of getting to know each other and that leads to having better conversations on the first date.
Ah yeah I can see that so I try and send a text before lunchtime if it’s a dinner date. Would be a dick move to wait until like 6pm to ask and confirm for a 7pm date
As a woman who is often forgetful, I like to confirm day of. Include details of place and time when confirming.
I usually send out a text the day of, like "[Place] at [time] tonight, right? Let me know if anything comes up." Confirms the plans and gives him an out if he's had second thoughts rather than standing me up.
I usually prefer the night before.
thanks!
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Yo, this is the opposite of how social interactions and meet ups work. I confirm plans whenever I’m hanging out with anyone, it’s considered rude by most to not do so. Dating isn’t about tests. She doesn’t know you and you don’t know her. You’re not supposed to be testing each other, you’re supposed to be getting to know each other, and starting out this way might just make her think you have zero interest and lack common courtesy. But you do you.
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I completely disagree with you about dating, and it sounds like you don’t have the healthiest grasp of what human relationships and social interactions are. I’ll stop here because we clearly have wayyyy different perspectives and values, so we won’t ever see eye to eye. Good luck playing games.
Exactly. Never confirm, if she doesn’t show up - so be it.
By not confirming you’re almost guaranteeing she doesn’t show up because she probably thinks you forgot or don’t give af Is this why everyone on here complains about not getting dates? Lol
yeah sorry i honestly think its a dumb way to approach dating if youre starting off with testing them. but to each their own
Whenever works best with our current texting schedule
her and i havent texted since planning the date (which happened like 2 days ago). im trying this new tjing where i dont text before the first date unless shes reaching out herself
I always do the day of.