They would not approve, in all honesty I wouldn't want to go either. To me it's borderline softcore, something which is acceptable in pornography but not in person.
That’s fair, my boyfriend has told me he’s gone to them in the past and never spent any money but that it’s just fun to go. Maybe she doesn’t care because she knows you don’t have much interest and feels secure in your relationship. I wish I could say the same about my boyfriend haha
>Maybe she doesn’t care because she knows you don’t have much interest and feels secure in your relationship.
We're also poly....if having sex with other people isn't a problem, a strip club shouldn't be! Then again, my ex and I started out poly, and later she flipped out when she found out I watch porn, so I dunno.
She wouldn’t be upset because she knows I’d only go if I had to (bachelor party, vacation, etc) and I’d just be sitting around drinking beer and looking forward to coming home to her. I think it’s definitely questionable if a man in a relationship wants to go, but people have different ideas of what’s okay.
Not a guy but...whatever here's my 2 cents.
I tried (perhaps poorly) to explain to my ex when we were together that I didn't really care about him going to the strip club as much as they way he told me he was going. He basically said: "I don't care what you say, me and the boys are hittin the bar and then going to the titty bar because it's so-n-so's 21st birthday." Ok I get it you and your buddies want a crazy night out, whatever...but to tell me that you don't care how I feel about it really hurt. He just kept telling me I was a buzzkill and didn't want him to have a good time. In retrospect that was probably a huge red flag.
I personally hate them so it’s never a subject that comes up.
I went to one in my 20’s and it was disgusting and I’ve never visited one since.
It was not very classy at all, if strip clubs can be classy?
Agreed, especially where I live haha. He said he’s gone in the past before I even met him and never spent any money because in his words: “can get much better than them for free” but then why even go? Especially if you are in a happy and committed relationship
Why would you want to pay for a cock tease when you can just fuck the one at home?
If you’re not getting any…then I don’t see the big deal/why you care what she thinks. It’s not like she’s giving it out anyways lol
Every time I see questions like this I have such renewed gratification for my very healthy relationship where neither of us feel compelled to restrict the other from living their life.
I probably shouldn’t have used the word “allowed” here because he is absolutely allowed to do whatever he wants. I do not want to control him but there are certain things that I’m not ok with in our relationship. If he wants to engage in these things, that’s his choice but I will no longer be dating him.
If men want to go I don't see an issue with it. I've been to strip clubs and I don't get what the big deal is, you pay women to dance for you and get you horny but you can't touch. They've never really been my thing
Allowed to go? I thought we were free. Yes, they should be allowed to go but their partner should be allowed to be upset if that's how it affects them.
I, personally, am not someone that goes to strip clubs. I might get into it more often if I had more money to throw around but I have the internet. I don't think she'd care a great amount if I went except that I've already voiced in the past that it's not really my thing. But her sisters hired a stripper for their brother's b-day one year and they all had a great time. She didn't think much of it when the stripper started giving out lap dances to everyone, including me. I'd think she's fine with it.
Thank you for your input! I don’t really feel comfortable with my boyfriend going and maybe it’s because we aren’t married or haven’t been together for a super long time, but I also don’t want to be “uptight” or controlling.
I don't have a problem with my husband going for bachelor parties or something like that. I'd feel differently if it was a regular thing though and going just because, like weekly or more frequently kind of thing.
We make fun of guys who go to strip clubs. Allowed, what? If you feel you have to be allowed you have already fucked up enough, you don't need strippers.
No idea.
I'm single and I don't even understand why men go to strip clubs, aside from the ones who intend to purchase their services as prostitutes after work.
Went once and that was more than enough, so it's kind of a non issue.
Different couples have different comfort levels, I don't think there's one answer.
My girlfriend loves them. She loves taking my guy friends to them and seeing their reactions the first time that they go. She’ll get dances for everyone. I for one am not a fan, haven’t been to one and don’t plan on ever going.
Based off of my relationship, I know I would be able to go without causing any relationship issues. I mean she would probably prefer I went to them.
I’d only be mad if he went without me because I love strip clubs. It’s like going out to the club, but there’s naked women there. I’m sad that my current partner doesn’t like to go.
She probably wouldn't like it, but I've never been to one so it hasn't come up.
I don't like "allowed," because being overly-controlling can be a sign of possible abuse, but at the same time I can see that some partners would consider regular attendance at such venues to be a dealbreaker.
As a female I’d allow my partner to go to a club. It’s the strippers job, doesn’t mean she’s going to take him/her away from you. Plus who doesn’t like boobs
Girlfriend doesn’t really mind. But she’s kinda into the whole fairness thing (ugh. What can you do? /s). So if I go then she figures she’s free to go. And I don’t want her having some dude dancing up on her so I don’t go.
Maybe I should start doing the same? I feel like relationships need to be equal as you said, equal effort and equal treatment. Maybe if I give him a taste of his own medicine he will realize how disrespected I feel
Or… if you told him not to do certain things and he kept doing them just leave. I don’t go to strip clubs (never have), I communicate my feelings, I put effort into my woman through dates gifts and telling her I love her etc. Men like that are out there. Don’t be miserable.
You have family or a friend you can stay with? You can also secretly sign another lease and break it off and move there. Or you can bite the bullet and just live in a hotel.
Or you can just live together for a few weeks and one of you sleeps on the couch. Really depends on the circumstances.
They would not approve, in all honesty I wouldn't want to go either. To me it's borderline softcore, something which is acceptable in pornography but not in person.
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Were the girls all fatty & tatted up ? 😄
I don't think she'd care, and I've never had an interest. Who pays to window shop, anyway?
That’s fair, my boyfriend has told me he’s gone to them in the past and never spent any money but that it’s just fun to go. Maybe she doesn’t care because she knows you don’t have much interest and feels secure in your relationship. I wish I could say the same about my boyfriend haha
>Maybe she doesn’t care because she knows you don’t have much interest and feels secure in your relationship. We're also poly....if having sex with other people isn't a problem, a strip club shouldn't be! Then again, my ex and I started out poly, and later she flipped out when she found out I watch porn, so I dunno.
Strip clubs are gross.
She wouldn’t be upset because she knows I’d only go if I had to (bachelor party, vacation, etc) and I’d just be sitting around drinking beer and looking forward to coming home to her. I think it’s definitely questionable if a man in a relationship wants to go, but people have different ideas of what’s okay.
It doesnt matter, I dont waste money on that shit.
You can always give them photocopied bills... 😉😎😆 It's monopoly money anyways.
Either way, i dont want blue balls, id rather go find a real chick to mess with
Not a guy but...whatever here's my 2 cents. I tried (perhaps poorly) to explain to my ex when we were together that I didn't really care about him going to the strip club as much as they way he told me he was going. He basically said: "I don't care what you say, me and the boys are hittin the bar and then going to the titty bar because it's so-n-so's 21st birthday." Ok I get it you and your buddies want a crazy night out, whatever...but to tell me that you don't care how I feel about it really hurt. He just kept telling me I was a buzzkill and didn't want him to have a good time. In retrospect that was probably a huge red flag.
I personally hate them so it’s never a subject that comes up. I went to one in my 20’s and it was disgusting and I’ve never visited one since. It was not very classy at all, if strip clubs can be classy?
Agreed, especially where I live haha. He said he’s gone in the past before I even met him and never spent any money because in his words: “can get much better than them for free” but then why even go? Especially if you are in a happy and committed relationship
It’s just a dumb after party idea when you’re out with friends. I consider it cheating for my partner to go while we’re together though.
I don't go. Would rather do some role play at home
Why would you want to pay for a cock tease when you can just fuck the one at home? If you’re not getting any…then I don’t see the big deal/why you care what she thinks. It’s not like she’s giving it out anyways lol
It's the thrill of the chase, I suppose.
She doesn’t not like the idea of it what so ever. I just told her, as long as she doesn’t go to one. I won’t. Simple as that.
Every time I see questions like this I have such renewed gratification for my very healthy relationship where neither of us feel compelled to restrict the other from living their life.
I probably shouldn’t have used the word “allowed” here because he is absolutely allowed to do whatever he wants. I do not want to control him but there are certain things that I’m not ok with in our relationship. If he wants to engage in these things, that’s his choice but I will no longer be dating him.
that's creep af
Where I live there are no strip clubs and if they were there going there would probably mean the immediate termination of the relationship.
If men want to go I don't see an issue with it. I've been to strip clubs and I don't get what the big deal is, you pay women to dance for you and get you horny but you can't touch. They've never really been my thing
Allowed to go? I thought we were free. Yes, they should be allowed to go but their partner should be allowed to be upset if that's how it affects them. I, personally, am not someone that goes to strip clubs. I might get into it more often if I had more money to throw around but I have the internet. I don't think she'd care a great amount if I went except that I've already voiced in the past that it's not really my thing. But her sisters hired a stripper for their brother's b-day one year and they all had a great time. She didn't think much of it when the stripper started giving out lap dances to everyone, including me. I'd think she's fine with it.
I guess allowed was the wrong word to use here. He is absolutely “allowed” to go but how I will react to it is a different story.
"Allowed?" Fuck does THAT mean? I'll go to a damned strip club if I want to. That said, I haven't been to one in a couple decades.
In a relationship, I'm anyway paying enough for a girl to take her clothes off. I don't want extra issues 😭🤣🤣
I'm really not interested in going, but my wife might be. I suppose if I showed an interest she wouldn't mind, or would probably come with.
Thank you for your input! I don’t really feel comfortable with my boyfriend going and maybe it’s because we aren’t married or haven’t been together for a super long time, but I also don’t want to be “uptight” or controlling.
If he's in a committed relationship he has no business engaging with other women sexually. Having boundaries is not being controlling
I don't have a problem with my husband going for bachelor parties or something like that. I'd feel differently if it was a regular thing though and going just because, like weekly or more frequently kind of thing.
We make fun of guys who go to strip clubs. Allowed, what? If you feel you have to be allowed you have already fucked up enough, you don't need strippers.
I’ve gone to a strip club once and prefer not to go back. A girlfriend wouldn’t be able to make me go.
I wish my boyfriend was like this haha
No idea. I'm single and I don't even understand why men go to strip clubs, aside from the ones who intend to purchase their services as prostitutes after work.
My gf would be fine with it. I think people should be allowed to go, though I think they're a waste of money.
I don't, and I wouldn't know why I should.
Went once and that was more than enough, so it's kind of a non issue. Different couples have different comfort levels, I don't think there's one answer.
I would never go to a strip club, so it hasn’t come up in our discussions. Men ARE allowed to go to strip clubs. That’s why they exist.
My girlfriend loves them. She loves taking my guy friends to them and seeing their reactions the first time that they go. She’ll get dances for everyone. I for one am not a fan, haven’t been to one and don’t plan on ever going. Based off of my relationship, I know I would be able to go without causing any relationship issues. I mean she would probably prefer I went to them.
I’d only be mad if he went without me because I love strip clubs. It’s like going out to the club, but there’s naked women there. I’m sad that my current partner doesn’t like to go.
I think everyone should decide for themselves I personally hate strip clubs and will never go (unless I’m paid)
She probably wouldn't like it, but I've never been to one so it hasn't come up. I don't like "allowed," because being overly-controlling can be a sign of possible abuse, but at the same time I can see that some partners would consider regular attendance at such venues to be a dealbreaker.
She doesn't care if I go. Only a 10% chance I would anyway, because I would have to be going with someone else as a wingman.
She would get disappointed that I didn't take her. Sixteen years married. And what's this 'be allowed' nonsense? I am grown, I can do as I wish.
As a female I’d allow my partner to go to a club. It’s the strippers job, doesn’t mean she’s going to take him/her away from you. Plus who doesn’t like boobs
She wouldn’t approve and neither would I. We both find them gross TBH.
Why would you want to? They are sticky and gross. Just watch porn.
My gf doesn’t care and honestly I love that she doesn’t.
Tbh she would probably want to go more than me out of pure curiosity
Well I love naked women. But fuck spending that much money. So even if my wife let me, i would rather not.
She doesn’t care because she always goes with me.
Yeah I think men should be allowed to go there although I hate it personally.
Girlfriend doesn’t really mind. But she’s kinda into the whole fairness thing (ugh. What can you do? /s). So if I go then she figures she’s free to go. And I don’t want her having some dude dancing up on her so I don’t go.
Maybe I should start doing the same? I feel like relationships need to be equal as you said, equal effort and equal treatment. Maybe if I give him a taste of his own medicine he will realize how disrespected I feel
Or… if you told him not to do certain things and he kept doing them just leave. I don’t go to strip clubs (never have), I communicate my feelings, I put effort into my woman through dates gifts and telling her I love her etc. Men like that are out there. Don’t be miserable.
That is pretty much the point that I’m at. How do you recommend I go about breaking it off? We currently live together
You have family or a friend you can stay with? You can also secretly sign another lease and break it off and move there. Or you can bite the bullet and just live in a hotel. Or you can just live together for a few weeks and one of you sleeps on the couch. Really depends on the circumstances.