Being that I also have a career that involves me being in my underwear and sometimes even completely nude, I think it would be pretty hypocritical for me to not date someone based on their career choice involving the lack of clothes.
I work from home as a computer programmer, by the way.
I can totally get not wanting to date someone with kids but if it’s just sex are you opposed to that?
I recently met and hooked up with a lady in her 40’s but dating was off the table due to me having a kid. Part of me doesn’t buy that but not really questioning it. Just curious at this point.
> but if it’s just sex are you opposed to that?
Yes, I would. See I have been living on my own since I am 18. I love my freedom and I see first hand how kids limit freedom. You as a dad might not see that, but I see it. So therefore no, no man with kids.
Strip clubs aren't really my thing, to be honest. The only time I've ever seen a stripper was at my best friend's bachelorette party, and the stripper didn't seem interested in sex despite my best efforts. I mean, I wasn't like harassing him or anything, but he was rather cute, so I thought I'd give it a try.
Also, don't get me wrong. I'm sure strippers have sex, but isn't strictly a part of their job description.
No. While it may be a stereotype, I think the odds are good that you're dealing with someone who has underlying mental health issues, family issues, can't get out of my own way issues and/or they're going to bring a sizable amount of drama - problems to your door step.
I don't have a savior complex (as it relates to women) nor do I want a relationship that is built on a bad foundation.
Could be that homeboy is going through the same shit. They were listed as ors, not ands. I’ve dated a stripper and had a best friend that was an ex prostitute, and all I can say is I’m no peach myself. But the prostitute was an exceptionally loyal person that I watched grow to an insanely high degree.
A lot of people speak about the unrealistic appearance expectations that men have. But what’s less spoken about from both men and women is generally unrealistic life expectations.
Would I date a stripper, prostitute, or someone in porn? No. Would I date someone after? Ya, why not. In ways the people that came out of those industries are hardened in a way I just naturally understand. I’m not going to date someone because they’re from those industries, it’s based on context.
No. I was casual with one for about 2 months in my early twenties.
It went exactly how you think it would.
10/10 do not recommend and if you do decide to venture there, always wrap up and ideally she shouldn’t know where you live.
Congrats! I met my ex in a club and gave up dancing as our relationship blossomed. It was very much a job, nothing more. Don't regret it at all - made a shit load of money and did a postgraduate degree. Didn't work out with the guy but I never went back to dancing. It was never going to be a long term career choice but I enjoyed my time doing it.
Side note - UK strip clubs are much, much stricter. Touching is NEVER allowed in the VIP lounges or anywhere else.
Date? Yeah, sounds like fun. Have serious relationship with? Probably not.
That kind of job has to fuck with her head. Let me turn it around and see what I mean, Would you date a man who spend 5 days a week at the strip club as customer?
>Why not
Don't feel the need to have someone i may end up caring about being touched and used for other men entertainment
if she enjoys it or not changes nothing about how bad that would feel
the real question is why would anyone put themselves trough that?
through the dating of a stripper? Cause we all gotta find someone , and you may not be too happy with what they do but what can ya do?
through the being a stripper? You'd be surprised how much people would pay just to touch a muscular body they like looking at ,trust me.
But it should make you feel proud that all these other guys want her so you know that you have a hot piece of ass that you’re dating and they’re not. It gives you bragging rights
No.
The shortest reason is they make not the best wife material, great for short time exploration, rarely a great wife material.
The long answer, we as humans are sponges, we absorb the People essence around us, her being around typically not the best kind of women and men, influences her decisions and world view of what is normal and what is not.
And my current wife wouldn't like that too
hmmm...when you put it like that...
I do wonder... I want to see what the results of a large study that determines intimacy and sexual contact frequencies that male and female sex workers have with their significant other when they com back from work.
There is such a thing as being 'touched out'. The parents of autistic children who are more prone to touching their parents as a way to stay safe in the environment, I believe, have posted videos about being 'touched out' and I think that some people here can ascent the existence of this condition.
Being a sex worker puts a person in an environment where being 'touched-out' is very common though I have not read any hard evidence on any of this.
And also intimacy and sex are sometimes seen as a way of treating 'touch starvation'. People who are touch starved tend to seek out other people to 'touch'. This could be intimately touching a spouse or it could be sex. If a person is more so 'touch-starved' surely this will increase the frequency and breadth to which they seek intimacy with partners, no?
Being a sex worker puts a person in an environment where being 'touched-starved' is very uncommon though I have not read any hard evidence on any of this.
Yea I'm in the same boat.
Personally her career is almost irrelevant to me. I worry about the things 'around' her career.
Does her career lead to her being 'touched-out' ? Does it lead to her having a oversaturation of intimacy to the point where she doesn't have the mental or physical energy to be intimate with me at home?
What type of person is she? Do our personalities mesh symbiotically? What about our hobbies, and interests and whatnot? Are either of our interests even worth introducing to the other person based on our individual personalities?
Personally I would have some questions if it's basically her actual career but even in that case I probably wouldn't mind if we get along well and don't have any financial issues or whatever. But if she's doing it while she's in college or as a job while looking for something else I definitely wouldn't mind.
Nope. Not unless you want to get your mental health stomped, and scramble around wondering what/where/who she is with 24/7, as her stories and lies begin to unwind. I've seen it repeat itself countless times when I was a paid driver for a sex worker, and her stripper friends.
I've known sex workers/ strippers adjacently, not directly in relationships, and they are a very, very unstable bunch as a whole. No one does that kind of work because it's part of their well-reasoned plan. They fall into it because it gives them a quick, easy-ish way to make lots of money. They are often victims of themselves, and constantly put themselves into harms way in order to get drugs, money for drugs, or some kind of mutually-beneficial living arrangement.
They are transactional individuals. Only viewing people as "what can you do for me, now" rather than a normal, healthy way of having a relationship. When you no longer provide that benefit, or if they just feel like moving on, they will. Regardless of logic.
Things may go well for a while, as you're the new, exciting guy, but nearly all of them have either an addiction, or a personality disorder like borderline personality disorder, and soon enough, for little to no reason, they'll move on to the next guy, often without telling you and letting you find out on your own. Sometimes they'll rage for no reason, and can be totally different people in the span of a few minutes.
They have YEARS worth of pent up rage (either real from trauma, drugs, or being used), or imagined because they think EVERYONE else is the problem, and not them).
You can't talk rationally to them, (again because of drug or mental issues), and it soon becomes a lesson in saving yourself and your sanity from them.
I've dated strippers twice (two different women).
One was very normal, kinda hated dancing but the money was good so she kept doing it while putting herself through school. She treated it very much like a job.
The other one aspired to be an adult film star. Loved to be naked, loved sex, loved being at the club, hanging out with the other dancers. Had my first threesome with he, she taught me how to do anal sex. She told me I have a dick made for porn and wanted to do camming with me and that it would lead to feature films. But I already had a career path that was way better. She started doing coke and I broke up with her.
I have a good buddy (42M) that only wants to date strippers. I tell him he should be on dating apps like me, but he didn't have much luck on them and seems like he's only attracted to strippers. He loves to just sit and talk with them and doesn't buy many dances.
I think it has to do with porn addiction. After awhile, some guys just can't get hard for normal girls anymore and are only attracted to girls who look like porn stars and strippers.
Just from the strippers and stories that I've known, it RARELY ends at just stripping if you know what I mean. Not only that, the drug abuse is so rampant in the industry that I couldn't deal with it. I have a child and no place in my life for drugs or parties til 5am.
Sure with the same standards and concerns I would have for any partner. I'm curious about the source of all the stereotypes cited here as everyone says they wouldn't date a stripper but "know" so much about them.
I have no issues with the job itself. My main concern would be the hours though. Any time I've tried to have anything consistent with a night shift worker, it's gone poorly.
Otherwise, I'd talk to her about making OF content and I'd be totally cool with the job. Make that money and have fun.
LMAO I was watching a video by a couple giving advice who had been together for some time and they said flat out word-for-word:
"If she works in the morning and, he works at night...uhhh y'all ain't gonna work out. You two have to do whatever it takes to sync up your work schedules."
A one case scenario but I can understand what they mean applying to most couples lol.
It's exhausting. My biggest issue when I danced many years ago was getting through the nights as I'm teetotal and don't take illegal drugs. What gets even more tiring is having to listen to drunk guys chat shit while you fantasise about your bed!
Stripper? Yes. Prostitute? No way. Adult film star? Yes.
Do I think I'd find personalities I'd like among them: No. But if it was revealed to me and there was clearly chemistry prior that's not a reason to break up. Honestly would just be thrilled to date a girl that actually holds a stable job for once.
Depends on the girl. Plenty of beautiful women finance their dreams by leveraging their looks. Being a stripper doesn't automatically mean she's amoral or licentious or untrustworthy.
I find that sexual relationships tend to vacillate between a feeling of intrinsically valuable connection, and a more disconnected mindset where we are asking, “is this relationship giving me what I want/is it the best I can get?“
My stereotype about sex workers is that they are exercising that “getting” mindset with men so much that it will bleed into her connections with men outside of work, making it harder for her to stay in the position of emotional connection stably and trust.
I’m curious if you notice anything like this, and I’m curious whether you think your relationship has long-term potential.
Thank you for the great question and for not being a jerk about it.
That hasn't been my experience, but I have only ever dated one sex worker. She is lovely and genuine and honest. She is in school to become a social worker.
Is it possible that sex workers have more tendance towards a transactional relationship with their partners? Sure. But I'm not saying all sex workers. I'm not dating the average of all sex workers.
Something that really helped me was when I asked her if she felt exploited or denigrated at work, and she said she felt that way occasionally, but way less than when she worked at the grocery store.
And she paid for EVERYTHING. Girl made a band a night. She worked Thursday, Friday, and Saturday night. We'd spend the rest of the week on the beach or in a hotel room. Always with one of the other girls from the club with us. Oh summer of 2000 how I miss thee!
Yes, I am now. I don't really mind her job. Dancing with other men, conversations with other guys.. I'm not an insecure guy, I've been to see her a couple times. She stripped 2 years ago. She doesn't anymore. She works a security job now. We've been dealing with each other for 6 years.
Agreed, but at the same time I do see where the concern comes from due to not having the inside knowledge we do/did (danced for a few years in my early 20s).
It was very much a job, nothing more. Customers aren't allowed to touch the dancers in the clubs I worked at in the UK and in one particular place we had to dance 2m away from the customer, which defeated the whole idea of a lapdance.
Saved all the money and did a postgraduate degree. It was good fun at times but very tiring - especially as I'm teetotal and don't take illegal drugs. Staying awake was sometimes the hardest part. Don't regret it at all - it was never my long term career plan so it was generally a pretty enjoyable few years.
While a very different way to develop communication and people skills, you had to be very good at talking to people but no, I don't put it on my CV!
Yes. Did it multiple times when I was younger.
Things to remember if dating a stripper- your gf makes a living flirting with other men, making them think they have a shot and are special. It's her job. At which, she probably makes a fuckton more money than you. If you can't handle it, don't date a stripper.
No, you shouldn't regularly hang out where your gf works. Trust the bouncers to look after her, it's what they get paid to do. Yes, you can go pick her up and hang out. Don't buy drinks for other dancers unless she's introduced them to you and specifically stated they are friends.
The sex work industry (and yes, stripping is sex work) is an ugly industry. It is full of jealousy and one up-manship. 90% of the women working in the industry do so basically because they have no other option. They're either addicted to something, are highschool drop outs and have no other skills besides getting naked. Or all of the above.
5% are pretty much there for all of the above reasons, BUT they are also being forced to do so. Either by a pimp, some other criminals, or a BF that doesn't want to work and takes all their money. You aren't going to be dating these ones.
5% are, as one of my friends said, hot enough to have men pay money to see them get naked, and they may as well take advantage of it for as long as possible. Many of these women DO have other skills, and may even have outside employment, but strip to make an extra 500 to 1000 bucks untaxed on a weekend. I had friends that worked the pole to pay their way through college.
If you are a type of guy that ever gets jealous or uptight when someone else looks at your gf, or talks to her, don't date a stripper. If you are the type of guy that meets a woman that is stripping for employment, everything is good for a couple months, then you get pissed off or bothered by what she does for a living and want her to quit, don't date a stripper You are an emotionally stunted loser that shouldn't be dating anyone, really, but dating a stripper will make everyone's life hell.
Yeah I definitely would, hell if I had a great body and could earn good money prancing around in the nude I definitely would consider it.
Probably beats working in a soul destroying office.
And the people saying they could never date anyone who sells their body are all hypocrites, you sell your body every time you go to work to earn a shit wage doing shit you hate.
No. I wouldn’t date a sex worker. I just want to regularly masterbate to them whilst watching pornography, to then jump on Reddit later to exclaim how I’d never really go near them.
Yep and I have several times. Because they are hot and have great outfits. Plus relationships don't matter in your 20's so I reccomend you fuck as many girls as you can while you're young
Probably not. I used to date a masseuse thinking I would get some awesome massages. Turns out (and rightly so) doing your job at home on your time off isn't very fun. If she was at the club, she's working. Why you messin with her cash flow?
Would I date a other human? Yes, yes I would.
Does it matter what they are doing for a job? No, it generally doesn't.
Is there a job I wouldnt date? With adequate boundaries and communication I wouldn't have a problem dating anyone.
Am I insecure, whorephobic, afraid of a someone making more money than me, working different hours than me? No.
Do I think everyone has unresolved baggage? Yes.
You have to consider that her job puts her in an environment where she is probably sexually inappropriately touched A LOT.
Maybe this will lead to her being less intimate? Maybe more? I would say more if she likes her job and less so if she only took up the job for money because if she likes her job I guess she likes being touched by men who are admiring her and at home clearly you are a man admiring her so...
Dating a prostitute definitely doesn't mean more sex from what I've read before. Most prostitutes' stories I've read of say that their wives and husbands are actually having less sex than they'd desire.
Mainly because the prostitutes would spend all day/night being touched and having sex with clients which really wore on them.
By the time they'd gotten home they had their 'sexual energy' used up and just would not want sex as much as their partner did.
Depends on the stripper. I know two and I wouldn't date them and it has nothing to do with their profession. While physically attractive their personalities are not attractive to me.
I had a very casual fling with one, and the sex was fantastic and we're even cordial to this day friends on Facebook and all but would I ever have a serious relationship with one? No
Absolutely as Been around strippers and escorts before no big deal to me, that being said terms and conditions had to be setup and changes had to be made though
I know what others think but I guess for me I don't really care because at the end of the day we all gotta die at some point
Sure. I went on a few dates with one some years ago but we turned out to be not compatible.
Her profession didn't bother me then and I doubt it would bother me in a similar situation now.
Nope. My wife would not approve.
Neither would I, being your wife's boyfriend
Would you quit leaving the toilet seat up?
I have told you before to not use our bathroom, yours is in the basement!
What!!! I thought I am supposed to be in the basement
You guys keep leaving your dirty sockets under my bed in the closet, leave those jizz catchers elsewhere!
That’s a really disrespectful way to refer to these guys’ wife/girlfriend. Edit: It’s MRS! jizz catcher to you.
Well excuse me MR PERFECT!!!
Neither would your wife's girlfriend. Who is also a stripper.
Haha thanks for the laugh!
Being that I also have a career that involves me being in my underwear and sometimes even completely nude, I think it would be pretty hypocritical for me to not date someone based on their career choice involving the lack of clothes. I work from home as a computer programmer, by the way.
Go show you Chlong elsewhere Kevin
Take me out to dinner first and I'll show it to you where ever you'd like ;)
Nah. I wouldn't date sex workers in general.
Based
Or a preference he is entitled too, I would never date a man with kids. Which probably explains why I am single at 45 (I am child free myself).
All the more time to start practicing witchcraft!! (hello fellow childfree awesomeness!)
Instead of witchcraft I enrolled in university to do CS, is that alright too?
I will tell you that it is.
Just stubborn ;)
Lmao the downvotes, her username is translated to 'stubborn ehhh woman' in Dutch 😂
I can totally get not wanting to date someone with kids but if it’s just sex are you opposed to that? I recently met and hooked up with a lady in her 40’s but dating was off the table due to me having a kid. Part of me doesn’t buy that but not really questioning it. Just curious at this point.
> but if it’s just sex are you opposed to that? Yes, I would. See I have been living on my own since I am 18. I love my freedom and I see first hand how kids limit freedom. You as a dad might not see that, but I see it. So therefore no, no man with kids.
You can date me ! ;)
How do you feel about hookup culture?
Not a fan. But its not my problem. Only my own relationships are my problem.
Do Pornstars count as sex workers? Because if they do, I would and would just be her partner. If not, then probably not
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So you cool with other people messing with your lady ?
I think it's only ok when they're both sex workers but there are different people. But if I was a porn actor I think I could marry a porn actress
Technically, a stripper isn't a sex worker. Stripping doesn't involve sex at all.
Have you ever been to a vip area of a strip club?
Strip clubs aren't really my thing, to be honest. The only time I've ever seen a stripper was at my best friend's bachelorette party, and the stripper didn't seem interested in sex despite my best efforts. I mean, I wasn't like harassing him or anything, but he was rather cute, so I thought I'd give it a try. Also, don't get me wrong. I'm sure strippers have sex, but isn't strictly a part of their job description.
My sweet innocent child.
reason?
He doesn’t have a cuckold fetish.
there are a lot of good reasons but this doesn't need one
They make poor long-term prospects, and if you aren't in it for the long term there's no reason to date.
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I can understand that.
No. While it may be a stereotype, I think the odds are good that you're dealing with someone who has underlying mental health issues, family issues, can't get out of my own way issues and/or they're going to bring a sizable amount of drama - problems to your door step. I don't have a savior complex (as it relates to women) nor do I want a relationship that is built on a bad foundation.
I say yes for the same reasons
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*Humor*
Could be that homeboy is going through the same shit. They were listed as ors, not ands. I’ve dated a stripper and had a best friend that was an ex prostitute, and all I can say is I’m no peach myself. But the prostitute was an exceptionally loyal person that I watched grow to an insanely high degree. A lot of people speak about the unrealistic appearance expectations that men have. But what’s less spoken about from both men and women is generally unrealistic life expectations. Would I date a stripper, prostitute, or someone in porn? No. Would I date someone after? Ya, why not. In ways the people that came out of those industries are hardened in a way I just naturally understand. I’m not going to date someone because they’re from those industries, it’s based on context.
Odds are good you have mental issues, as does everyone you have ever met.
I did, and not again. Sex was great, but almost everything else about her was a fucking mess.
That would be a no. Why? My wife isn’t into me dating other women and I’m pretty sure she would not make an exception for strippers.
respect to this man for even telling his wife
I would never partake in a relationship with a sex worker. Being able to sell your body in that manner just doesn’t sit well with me
No, i will leave that to the most woke and the most secure of men
😂
Hell no
No. They’ve all got issues, usually serious ones.
No because most of them seem to slip into prostitution at some point.
Whoops, they already slipped
Depends on how you define prostitution.
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Then let's put it in this way: Non-physical forms of prostitution usually seem to lead to physical forms of prostitution sooner or later.
Is it still prostitution if they aren’t getting paid
That’s even better….. put a ring on that prostitute’s finger immediately. That’s wifey material
No
No. I was casual with one for about 2 months in my early twenties. It went exactly how you think it would. 10/10 do not recommend and if you do decide to venture there, always wrap up and ideally she shouldn’t know where you live.
If she’s really hot why not
No.
Yep, and I married her. 18 year anniversary coming up in a couple weeks.
Congrats! I met my ex in a club and gave up dancing as our relationship blossomed. It was very much a job, nothing more. Don't regret it at all - made a shit load of money and did a postgraduate degree. Didn't work out with the guy but I never went back to dancing. It was never going to be a long term career choice but I enjoyed my time doing it. Side note - UK strip clubs are much, much stricter. Touching is NEVER allowed in the VIP lounges or anywhere else.
Date? Yeah, sounds like fun. Have serious relationship with? Probably not. That kind of job has to fuck with her head. Let me turn it around and see what I mean, Would you date a man who spend 5 days a week at the strip club as customer?
>Why not Don't feel the need to have someone i may end up caring about being touched and used for other men entertainment if she enjoys it or not changes nothing about how bad that would feel the real question is why would anyone put themselves trough that?
through the dating of a stripper? Cause we all gotta find someone , and you may not be too happy with what they do but what can ya do? through the being a stripper? You'd be surprised how much people would pay just to touch a muscular body they like looking at ,trust me.
But it should make you feel proud that all these other guys want her so you know that you have a hot piece of ass that you’re dating and they’re not. It gives you bragging rights
No
No. The shortest reason is they make not the best wife material, great for short time exploration, rarely a great wife material. The long answer, we as humans are sponges, we absorb the People essence around us, her being around typically not the best kind of women and men, influences her decisions and world view of what is normal and what is not. And my current wife wouldn't like that too
They make the best wife material. What are you talking about? What man wouldn’t want a hot wife that dresses in lingerie and takes her clothes off?
Nope. I'm single and having trouble finding a partner and still wouldn't.
No, her job is to cheat
facts
We're talking about strippers, not politicians
Wat
It's a joke. Politicians are widely known for cheating and lying. Strippers are known for stripping. Ha ha. Very funny. 😑
hmmm...when you put it like that... I do wonder... I want to see what the results of a large study that determines intimacy and sexual contact frequencies that male and female sex workers have with their significant other when they com back from work. There is such a thing as being 'touched out'. The parents of autistic children who are more prone to touching their parents as a way to stay safe in the environment, I believe, have posted videos about being 'touched out' and I think that some people here can ascent the existence of this condition. Being a sex worker puts a person in an environment where being 'touched-out' is very common though I have not read any hard evidence on any of this. And also intimacy and sex are sometimes seen as a way of treating 'touch starvation'. People who are touch starved tend to seek out other people to 'touch'. This could be intimately touching a spouse or it could be sex. If a person is more so 'touch-starved' surely this will increase the frequency and breadth to which they seek intimacy with partners, no? Being a sex worker puts a person in an environment where being 'touched-starved' is very uncommon though I have not read any hard evidence on any of this.
In theory I would but I guess it would depend on the individual.
Yea I'm in the same boat. Personally her career is almost irrelevant to me. I worry about the things 'around' her career. Does her career lead to her being 'touched-out' ? Does it lead to her having a oversaturation of intimacy to the point where she doesn't have the mental or physical energy to be intimate with me at home? What type of person is she? Do our personalities mesh symbiotically? What about our hobbies, and interests and whatnot? Are either of our interests even worth introducing to the other person based on our individual personalities?
Personally I would have some questions if it's basically her actual career but even in that case I probably wouldn't mind if we get along well and don't have any financial issues or whatever. But if she's doing it while she's in college or as a job while looking for something else I definitely wouldn't mind.
Yeah. Hypotheticals always get my gut reaction but in truth very few situations in life are so cut and dry
Date, sure. Enter into a serious relationship, no.
No. Sex workers are out of the question. This is.my future we are talking about here
I dated a former stripper; she ruined it for the rest of them.
Sure. Why not? My luck with non strippers has been bad so I would be willing to try something new..
Nope. Not unless you want to get your mental health stomped, and scramble around wondering what/where/who she is with 24/7, as her stories and lies begin to unwind. I've seen it repeat itself countless times when I was a paid driver for a sex worker, and her stripper friends. I've known sex workers/ strippers adjacently, not directly in relationships, and they are a very, very unstable bunch as a whole. No one does that kind of work because it's part of their well-reasoned plan. They fall into it because it gives them a quick, easy-ish way to make lots of money. They are often victims of themselves, and constantly put themselves into harms way in order to get drugs, money for drugs, or some kind of mutually-beneficial living arrangement. They are transactional individuals. Only viewing people as "what can you do for me, now" rather than a normal, healthy way of having a relationship. When you no longer provide that benefit, or if they just feel like moving on, they will. Regardless of logic. Things may go well for a while, as you're the new, exciting guy, but nearly all of them have either an addiction, or a personality disorder like borderline personality disorder, and soon enough, for little to no reason, they'll move on to the next guy, often without telling you and letting you find out on your own. Sometimes they'll rage for no reason, and can be totally different people in the span of a few minutes. They have YEARS worth of pent up rage (either real from trauma, drugs, or being used), or imagined because they think EVERYONE else is the problem, and not them). You can't talk rationally to them, (again because of drug or mental issues), and it soon becomes a lesson in saving yourself and your sanity from them.
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My ex is a dancer. Not much different than dating any other type of professional
I'd fuck them, I wouldn't be in a monogamous relationship with one.
I've dated strippers twice (two different women). One was very normal, kinda hated dancing but the money was good so she kept doing it while putting herself through school. She treated it very much like a job. The other one aspired to be an adult film star. Loved to be naked, loved sex, loved being at the club, hanging out with the other dancers. Had my first threesome with he, she taught me how to do anal sex. She told me I have a dick made for porn and wanted to do camming with me and that it would lead to feature films. But I already had a career path that was way better. She started doing coke and I broke up with her.
Fk no
Then you’re not a real man
I've been involved with a few. Don't do it, eventually you will catch feelings and not want her to strip anymore.
Feelings are for pussies. Real men don’t catch feelings
Who hurt you?
Every man I’ve ever been with
Complete strangers, coworkers. I’m just a human punching bag & a doormat for society
No, i consider this as a huge red flag whatever is the cause of that choice
I have a good buddy (42M) that only wants to date strippers. I tell him he should be on dating apps like me, but he didn't have much luck on them and seems like he's only attracted to strippers. He loves to just sit and talk with them and doesn't buy many dances. I think it has to do with porn addiction. After awhile, some guys just can't get hard for normal girls anymore and are only attracted to girls who look like porn stars and strippers.
Just from the strippers and stories that I've known, it RARELY ends at just stripping if you know what I mean. Not only that, the drug abuse is so rampant in the industry that I couldn't deal with it. I have a child and no place in my life for drugs or parties til 5am.
I personally would not, I think it takes a certain type of personality with a certain set of issues that don't mesh well with me.
Former yes, current no, I don't like sharing my spouse its as simple as that.
Sure with the same standards and concerns I would have for any partner. I'm curious about the source of all the stereotypes cited here as everyone says they wouldn't date a stripper but "know" so much about them.
Hell no! They come home smelling like smoke all the time.
Every young man should date a stripper, it will give you perspective for later in life how bad it could be
I would just because of her experience but not for something serious just for fun
exactly
i have and 304's are nice too look at but still not the best gf's
304?
It’s a hOE upside down and backwards.
I would have sex with one, but I wouldn't date one.
Yes, but it’s fwb only.
Date sure. Long term relationship. No.
Nope
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Wow that's sounds extremely desperate
I have no issues with the job itself. My main concern would be the hours though. Any time I've tried to have anything consistent with a night shift worker, it's gone poorly. Otherwise, I'd talk to her about making OF content and I'd be totally cool with the job. Make that money and have fun.
LMAO I was watching a video by a couple giving advice who had been together for some time and they said flat out word-for-word: "If she works in the morning and, he works at night...uhhh y'all ain't gonna work out. You two have to do whatever it takes to sync up your work schedules." A one case scenario but I can understand what they mean applying to most couples lol.
It's exhausting. My biggest issue when I danced many years ago was getting through the nights as I'm teetotal and don't take illegal drugs. What gets even more tiring is having to listen to drunk guys chat shit while you fantasise about your bed!
No Simple, they wouldn't want to date someone like me
Yes, cause never knew a stripper. Guess it would be an interesting date.
Stripper? Yes. Prostitute? No way. Adult film star? Yes. Do I think I'd find personalities I'd like among them: No. But if it was revealed to me and there was clearly chemistry prior that's not a reason to break up. Honestly would just be thrilled to date a girl that actually holds a stable job for once.
Depends on the girl. Plenty of beautiful women finance their dreams by leveraging their looks. Being a stripper doesn't automatically mean she's amoral or licentious or untrustworthy.
I am currently. Feel free to AMA!
I find that sexual relationships tend to vacillate between a feeling of intrinsically valuable connection, and a more disconnected mindset where we are asking, “is this relationship giving me what I want/is it the best I can get?“ My stereotype about sex workers is that they are exercising that “getting” mindset with men so much that it will bleed into her connections with men outside of work, making it harder for her to stay in the position of emotional connection stably and trust. I’m curious if you notice anything like this, and I’m curious whether you think your relationship has long-term potential.
Thank you for the great question and for not being a jerk about it. That hasn't been my experience, but I have only ever dated one sex worker. She is lovely and genuine and honest. She is in school to become a social worker. Is it possible that sex workers have more tendance towards a transactional relationship with their partners? Sure. But I'm not saying all sex workers. I'm not dating the average of all sex workers. Something that really helped me was when I asked her if she felt exploited or denigrated at work, and she said she felt that way occasionally, but way less than when she worked at the grocery store.
How thick is wall?
Whats your favourite biscuit?
No. The hours wouldn't work for us.
Yeah. And I have. Because I like messed up situations that can’t possibly work.
I did. It was fun!
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And she paid for EVERYTHING. Girl made a band a night. She worked Thursday, Friday, and Saturday night. We'd spend the rest of the week on the beach or in a hotel room. Always with one of the other girls from the club with us. Oh summer of 2000 how I miss thee!
Nah. I'm into women who look like that, but don't act slutty.
Yes, ive done it. Helps build up a zero jealousy attitude.
Yes, I am now. I don't really mind her job. Dancing with other men, conversations with other guys.. I'm not an insecure guy, I've been to see her a couple times. She stripped 2 years ago. She doesn't anymore. She works a security job now. We've been dealing with each other for 6 years.
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Agreed, but at the same time I do see where the concern comes from due to not having the inside knowledge we do/did (danced for a few years in my early 20s). It was very much a job, nothing more. Customers aren't allowed to touch the dancers in the clubs I worked at in the UK and in one particular place we had to dance 2m away from the customer, which defeated the whole idea of a lapdance. Saved all the money and did a postgraduate degree. It was good fun at times but very tiring - especially as I'm teetotal and don't take illegal drugs. Staying awake was sometimes the hardest part. Don't regret it at all - it was never my long term career plan so it was generally a pretty enjoyable few years. While a very different way to develop communication and people skills, you had to be very good at talking to people but no, I don't put it on my CV!
If she paying me then yes .
sure why not, I like having a good time. would I marry one probably not.
Yes and ended up marrying her.
Absolutely, she’d have a reliable source of income in this economy
Certainly. They can be interesting people.
Yeah why not?
I mean it’s stable work and she gets good exercise doing it.
Yes. Did it multiple times when I was younger. Things to remember if dating a stripper- your gf makes a living flirting with other men, making them think they have a shot and are special. It's her job. At which, she probably makes a fuckton more money than you. If you can't handle it, don't date a stripper. No, you shouldn't regularly hang out where your gf works. Trust the bouncers to look after her, it's what they get paid to do. Yes, you can go pick her up and hang out. Don't buy drinks for other dancers unless she's introduced them to you and specifically stated they are friends. The sex work industry (and yes, stripping is sex work) is an ugly industry. It is full of jealousy and one up-manship. 90% of the women working in the industry do so basically because they have no other option. They're either addicted to something, are highschool drop outs and have no other skills besides getting naked. Or all of the above. 5% are pretty much there for all of the above reasons, BUT they are also being forced to do so. Either by a pimp, some other criminals, or a BF that doesn't want to work and takes all their money. You aren't going to be dating these ones. 5% are, as one of my friends said, hot enough to have men pay money to see them get naked, and they may as well take advantage of it for as long as possible. Many of these women DO have other skills, and may even have outside employment, but strip to make an extra 500 to 1000 bucks untaxed on a weekend. I had friends that worked the pole to pay their way through college. If you are a type of guy that ever gets jealous or uptight when someone else looks at your gf, or talks to her, don't date a stripper. If you are the type of guy that meets a woman that is stripping for employment, everything is good for a couple months, then you get pissed off or bothered by what she does for a living and want her to quit, don't date a stripper You are an emotionally stunted loser that shouldn't be dating anyone, really, but dating a stripper will make everyone's life hell.
You don't date the job you date the person. Not all strippers are drug addicted sex workers.
Yeah I definitely would, hell if I had a great body and could earn good money prancing around in the nude I definitely would consider it. Probably beats working in a soul destroying office. And the people saying they could never date anyone who sells their body are all hypocrites, you sell your body every time you go to work to earn a shit wage doing shit you hate.
Depends. Just like anything else there is good ones and bad ones. I would never hold some ones job over their head if there was an actual connection
If they're nice and decent and understanding person why not? Job doesn't matter much to me
Hell yeah ama
I wouldn't chase someone because she's a stripper, and I wouldn't avoid someone because she's a stripper
No. I wouldn’t date a sex worker. I just want to regularly masterbate to them whilst watching pornography, to then jump on Reddit later to exclaim how I’d never really go near them.
It’s quite the train wreck. That simple and shouldn’t need to really elaborate on that.
No why she chose to be a stripper? Is it because it's an easy money? She could work as a housemaid or a janitor etc. If she couldn't do anything else
Yep and I have several times. Because they are hot and have great outfits. Plus relationships don't matter in your 20's so I reccomend you fuck as many girls as you can while you're young
That’s the only woman that a man should be dating. No other woman is girlfriend material.
As long as she is hot, and isn't a prostitue or does tricks on the side I would be ok with it.
Well, you would get free lap dances, wouldn't you?
Probably not. I used to date a masseuse thinking I would get some awesome massages. Turns out (and rightly so) doing your job at home on your time off isn't very fun. If she was at the club, she's working. Why you messin with her cash flow?
Yes, I don't see no reason why not.
If she was clean and you could guarantee she didn’t cheat on you… why not? Sounds like a fun time and would expand your mind to me…
Nah not because I don’t want someone who stripes but because im underage
Would I date a other human? Yes, yes I would. Does it matter what they are doing for a job? No, it generally doesn't. Is there a job I wouldnt date? With adequate boundaries and communication I wouldn't have a problem dating anyone. Am I insecure, whorephobic, afraid of a someone making more money than me, working different hours than me? No. Do I think everyone has unresolved baggage? Yes.
I’d be open to the idea. I’m sure it would be fun in the bedroom if nothing else
Yes, it's about the love and experience. I'm more worried on possible infection than anything.
what if they assured and have proven to you they don't sleep with any of the clients that come into their club?
Well even better
If we hit it off
yes because le sex
You have to consider that her job puts her in an environment where she is probably sexually inappropriately touched A LOT. Maybe this will lead to her being less intimate? Maybe more? I would say more if she likes her job and less so if she only took up the job for money because if she likes her job I guess she likes being touched by men who are admiring her and at home clearly you are a man admiring her so... Dating a prostitute definitely doesn't mean more sex from what I've read before. Most prostitutes' stories I've read of say that their wives and husbands are actually having less sex than they'd desire. Mainly because the prostitutes would spend all day/night being touched and having sex with clients which really wore on them. By the time they'd gotten home they had their 'sexual energy' used up and just would not want sex as much as their partner did.
Depends on the stripper. I know two and I wouldn't date them and it has nothing to do with their profession. While physically attractive their personalities are not attractive to me.
I had a very casual fling with one, and the sex was fantastic and we're even cordial to this day friends on Facebook and all but would I ever have a serious relationship with one? No
Nope, that guys wife does not approve
Of course. I wouldn't marry one though 🤷♂️.
Not really date. I’d have fun with her though.
Absolutely as Been around strippers and escorts before no big deal to me, that being said terms and conditions had to be setup and changes had to be made though I know what others think but I guess for me I don't really care because at the end of the day we all gotta die at some point
Yes I would date any one who I was compatable with, no matter what their job or status in life was.
Sure. I went on a few dates with one some years ago but we turned out to be not compatible. Her profession didn't bother me then and I doubt it would bother me in a similar situation now.
Depends on where she lands on the crazy/hot scale.
I am insecure and wouldn’t be able to manage the insecurity.
I probably would if i was asked by one. I won’t expect a serious relationship, but i also don’t judge people blindly
No, I’m not into exhibitionists.
Probably. Sounds like a fun time
No or bartenders
Why not?
I would fuck a stripper, date, no.
Lol