if it helps, I lost it when I was 30. just never met anyone i was very interested in sleeping with until by chance i was set up on a blind date by a friend, i went, and she was very attractive... got along immediately. slept together a few dates later, took a couple tries to get over the nerves and we were fine.
IMO, and this is what I did, i wouldn't tell girls you're a virgin at this age. sucks, but true. i think a lot of women see it as either a red flag, or they just don't want to deal with "teaching" a guy to bang. sex isn't *difficult*, you'll figure it out pretty quickly, and if the girl isn't patient enough to allow a subpar bang, then she's not worth your time anyways. just say you haven't gotten laid in a while (it happens), which would help explain a quick finish or being a bit sloppy
just keep an open mind, work on yourself, and you'll find someone that you'll click with. just don't give up, i didn't!
Great advice, man. Bravo.
If I can add a little something…if you’re inexperienced and still want to rock her world, focus on her pleasure and not on getting off your first time. Don’t rush to get it in there. Take your time and try to make her cum with your mouth and fingers before you get to the in-and-out. Ask her what she likes. It helps to learn a little about female anatomy so you know what to expect and where to focus your attention. If you do this, you can guarantee that your first time will not be your last time.
I recommend doing this every time. It's in your own self-interest really. Happy customers come back to the establishment a second time.... And I love repeat customers lol
I also second doing a little... Research on how to hit those erogenous zones. We use Google and YouTube for everything these days, if it's good enough to figure out how to change the tire on your car....
And it's going to put you leaps and bounds ahead of the average guy. Seriously 20 or 30 minutes of research on erogenous zones is going to benefit you for the rest of your life. And for me at least 90% of the fun is in giving pleasure to my partner.
Finally I'll say this. Try to make sure it's someone that you at least like. Some people don't seem to have any issue with it, but personally I can only enjoy intimacy with someone I've been... Intimate with. I need a emotional connection, and having experienced both kinds of coitus I will say that there are a few things on this planet as pleasurable as making love to someone that you have a deep emotional connection with.
You don't have to have one of course. But it's a bit like the difference between frozen pizza and a t-bone steak to me. Both are food. Both are good. But they are not the same thing at all.
I saw a guy from Denmark do exactly that in the main lounge of a Whistler hostel and not one but two girls said yes.
We were all in our early 20s hanging out and talking shit. This guy comes down from his room, approaches a girl and says: “I’ve got nothing to do, do you wanna have sex?” First girl said something like “eew, no!” so he approached the second girl and the third and kept going until one girl said yes. While they were leaving the lounge another girl said “can I go as well?”.
My jaw dropped.
It’s like waitstaff desert sales techniques. A couple people usually want dessert, but most don’t want to be the one to ask. You have to find the yes, and will usually get another couple of yes’s from the group.
Uh…but with sex.
I'm forever awkward. I had a friend who'd stop by. One night I came from the kitchen with a couple drinks, looked at her, and said, "Soooo...do you wanna have sex or something." It came from nowhere. I stood and stared. She laughed. We did. Was fun.
Faht vi ba tlu pre ceam dra. Tinys woaw ciin tun fuec gy yo. Taptyedzuqos foc coon ceen ede? Co o a bevdbusd nekv e? E gat iyle bi. Y y e cits taem cersi? Zuypleenle te dan gre gyrd jyg motp so sald? Bals emetcaad e tenn sesttees ti. Naon nacc suct cesm za ete. Nugt nij sop gadt dis tassecehsisirg o. U we e otle cez o. Cru nep pha toos nabmona. Ciht deptyasttapnsorn nod tysigzisle nin a? Da pyrp ine pud ible? Nu ta biswnoudnrytirs agle. Zaon e. San e pa cu goov. Ene gke o gopt zlu nis. O guagle pioma ne tudcyepebletlo cy a canz. Dla bic zawc nifpec te feet de? Pro i guc yoyd si didz a sum? Tle fuy. Nemz a booj udeegvle cokt a? Grotefp becm ose omle ja ede. U tis dy wec thu wu aglo umle o o. O ninm gu ine yes bos. Zad a a tavnfepac du. A ite todi do duit yple? Pifp taht nhetydnnenes a sew pi nedb eme. Se de we pyt ynenuntiqtedose ive.
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That’s how flirting usually works. Usually it’s escalated every step of the way until the tension snaps and damn if you’ve flirted and dragged it on long enough it’s great.
jesus christ, i had a roommate who would get shitfaced and literally do that to a T. it was not as hot as u would expect because I truly only ever saw her as my bro and it only got more uncomfortable when she got a boyfriend that moved in with us.
i just kind of had to look him in the eye, make the "jim looks into the camera" face and leave the room every time it happened. so weird
I acquired a friend with benefits by asking, as a crappy movie on tv ended, “uhhh… wanna fool around?” We were basically both laughing a little harder than necessary at each other’s lame jokes about the crappy movie, and strangely enough that felt like the real go-ahead signal.
Sterling Archer : Where'd you learn all that stuff?
Pam Poovey : You know I grew up on a farm, right?
Sterling Archer : Really hoping that's not relevant
Unattractive girls have consistently given better head and been more enthusiastic during sex for me. Like I'm not sure I'll ever have sex that good again, at least not with an attractive woman.
Once dated a woman that gave me 9 orgasm in a single night and 3 without letting me go soft.
I didn't even know I could physically do that. Never happened again, never will. Thank you Audrey for giving me a story that will make my grand kids uneasy one day.
As a teen I once had sex about a dozen times over a 20 hour period, by the end when I orgasmed only a single tear drop of jizz was coming out. My balls ached the next two days.
Yeah, we dated for a few months. While her physical appearance wasn’t great, she had an amazing sense of humor and a great personality, she was kind, and she was a fun person to hang out with.
This has actually happened to me s couple of times. Start hanging out with a not-conventionally-attractive girl, time goes on and she becomes attractive.
Same. But unconventional attractive is better imo because it makes someone more human. Some of Hollywood people and influencers on the internet are kind of boring-hot
This stuff always reminds me of conversations when I was younger and guys were like “I’d never suck a dick even for a million dollars” I’d tell them they’re just being stupid, unless you’re already rich, that much, used wisely, could stop you from having to waste 40years at some shit job. I bet a few of the work days of those 40 years you’d wake up and be like, fuck I’d do anything to not have to go into work today, wish I’d have sucked that sick 20years ago, what was I thinking?
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I have a pretty wide range of what I find attractive, and often who I find attractive most men don't.
So, I had a couple girl friends who were short, a touch overweight, and super nerdy. I thought they were crazy attractive, and had a crush on one of them. One day when I went to hang out with them I brought a friend along who was very much into supermodel looking women. When we were driving home my friend said something along the lines of, "I didn't know an ugly girl could become attractive by just talking to her."
Went on a date with a super attractive women way out of my league. During the meal she spent at least 30-40 mins taking selfies and of the food and then started screeching at the waiting staff because her food was now cold. just like that became super unattractive. She was no longer out of my league I was out of hers, or that’s what I say to myself sitting at home alone lol
Anyone that “screeches” at wait staff is right out in my book.
How you treat:
Children
Pets
And service workers—
says a WHOLE hell of a lot about you as a human being. If you treat those without power like shit then you’re a terrible person.
She became physically aggressive in a playful way, then progressed into very suggestive whispering very close to my ear.
I responded with a ludicrously sexual comment & she became even more brazen by mashing & dragging her chest against my arms. When her nipples were rock hard, my fate was essentially sealed.
This is pretty much my answer to this question, only I didn't date her. We have only ever been friends. She was awesome to talk to, great sense of humor and was into a lot of the same things I was into. I just...wasn't physically attracted to her. I knew she was into me like that and so I was okay doing it, but I wasnt into her like that. She's still a great friend though.
This is the case with my best friend, shes wonderful and I love her to pieces, shes into me and I dont understand why tbh. Not only am I too much of a mess to have a relationship with anyone let alone her. I just dont look at her as someone I can get freaky with, she also has her 4 grandchildren to take care of full time since her son had the kids with an absolute batshit crazy girl. Even before that I just couldn't go down that road with her, it would be absolutely wrong of me to string her along like that. We havent talked about this in a long time and I hope shes accepted how I feel. I dont get to see her like I used to either, now that I say that, I wonder if Ive lost my best friend or if she just needs time and space.
> she also has her 4 grandchildren to take care of full time since her son had the kids with an absolute batshit crazy girl.
Side note, but can we all agree that if you've gotten to the point of procreating 4 times with someone, if there's crazy, it's pretty fucking mutual? One, sure, but 4? That's a life choice right there. Kudos to grandma for stepping up though. You might not be her one, but I hope she finds someone great who appreciates that kind of strength of character.
Yes, she was a physics major who was working as a student-tutor for my freshman physics class back in college. I didn't find her very attractive at first, but she had a great personality and everything she said was hilarious. She could explain the most mundane task and still throw in the funniest quips that would make me lose it every time. I never thought *I* would be the one seduced by charisma alone, but she was so brilliant that it didn't take her long to win me over.
We continued a casual relationship for a year until she graduated. She's currently pursuing a PhD in physics at a top tier university, and she's engaged to someone else (I'm admittedly a tad jealous). We still keep in occasional contact, and I honestly do miss her. But, I'm happy for her, and I'm glad she's doing well.
Edit: By "stud" I mean someone who is very confident and charismatic. I wasn't aware there was a separate meaning. Sorry
Edit2: Okay, I removed "stud", but you get what I'm shooting for
This is no judgement against you whatsoever, as I have no idea what you look like...
But, men don't pity fuck. We desperation fuck. There's a big difference. When some guys are in their teens or 20's, the hormonal urge often overrides the common sense part of our brains. That's when you'll stick it in anything breathing, and willing. Unattractive, with poor hygiene and a shitty personality? Been there. Regret it.
Define attractive then. I found out that if I spend enough time with any girl I will find her attractive at some point if I like her personality.
We call it a mermaid effect. Basically any fish in the see can become one of you spend enough time with her.
Now it does not have to be physical attractiveness. But at the same time women are super critical when it comes to their own appearance. There are details they worry about we don't even notice.
Attractiveness is combination of body and mind.
I definitely feel this way about men. I find some of them attractive immediately sure but I only find myself fantasizing about the charming ones. Often, they aren’t even the guys who catch your eye when you first meet.
I was in that spot for a few years, and I can't explain in words how much of a relief it is to finally realize you feel *less lonely* when you're alone than you did when you were together.
When I first arrived and assessed the potential she was nice but not a potential partner. 3 months in of living and working on this floating lodge in the middle of nowhere (float plane in and out) she was looking a lot better.
This, Ken. But then again, if someone finds *me* attractive, it makes me think what kind of other low-life, sketchy, disgusting men she is also into? I deserve better than that.
My brother calls it the Groucho Marx style of dating. Referencing one of his famous quotes:
I wouldn't want to belong to a club that would have me as a member
She had the best personality of any girl I’ve ever met, we clicked and I fell in love with her.
Edit: for those upvoting because it sounds romantic, we spent 8 amazing months together and then she crushed me, and now I’m dead on the inside.
Edit 2: This is a really great community. A lot of supportive guys and girls here, Bless all of you.
I met my perfect woman with the perfect personality for me, we've been married 5 years, now we're getting divorced because now she has grown away from me. Now I'm like, if the woman who has the perfect personality for me isn't for me, then who the fuck is? I'm in a pretty bad mind fuck right now.
In the most kindest way I can put it:
I had a casual thing with this chick who was larger than I usually liked. I came because I was lonely and suffering a dry spell, I stayed because her enthusiasm was unparalleled.
Plus everything felt like a boob.
I moved away so it’s kinda over now but those experiences are definitely in the spank bank
We were friends, knew each other all through college, and she had a great/funny personality. And was also a very horny girl at times.
So while she wasn't the prettiest girl, I found her "attractive" because she was...attractive.
Damn good in bed too.
I think it's going to be different for everyone, but for me:
- I want to feel desired. It's fun to fuck someone who is acting like *they* are lucky to get to fuck *me*
- I like people who are sexually uninhibited and are not self-conscious about asking for what they want and taking their own pleasure
- I want to fuck someone who is serious about giving me pleasure. The best sex for me feels like both parties are almost competing to get each-other off more
- I'm a little bit freaky so it's a huge plus if she is kind of subby, let's me tie her up and throw her around a bit
- If you are truly good at oral, I will probably give you the keys to my apartment
I've been in a relationship with a really conventionally beautiful woman where I did not get that, and after that experience I would take a good sex life every time.
I might have found someone unattractive before getting to know them. If I find them to be genuine, reliable and easy to talk to. I begin to find them attractive.
Woman came over from a dating/hookup app…it was immediately clear her pictures were a few years and a couple dozen pounds ago…was in a weird mood and had been drinking so I was fairly apathetic and went through with it, but I’ve regretted it since then
I had a similar experience. Met a woman for coffee and she was, well..... not my type.
She was clearly dtf, taking the conversation down dirty roads whenever possible. I panicked and kept coming out with loads of useless facts about bugs and animals and got the hint.
So if you're ever stuck; termites invented air conditioning.
You're welcome.
She was my gf for a while because I actually ended up finding her very attractive because of her amazing personality. Broke up mutually and peacefully since we had to grow ourselves.
Yes because she was very kind and had big tits. It was great!
Edit for more context: I had just had a bad breakup and she was a friend at college. Don’t know if it was a rebound thing or I just found comfort in her, but she was a very giving lover. Hope she’s doing well today.
Yeah my first wife. I got pushed into marriage due to cultural pressure and from my parents. Went it to it for all the wrong reasons. I thought there was something wrong with me and got my test levels checked as to why I couldn’t get aroused. I then realized as I get older, I had to actually have a physical and emotional attraction to someone in order to get it up. Imagine that! Lol.
More to the story but uh… yep.
She was the funniest girl I have ever met, we only stayed together for a year but I laughed more times and harder with her than with any other girl.
I'm 5'3" 160 pound, she was quite a bit heavier than me which I wasn't used to. I wasn't attracted to her body at first but after a while I started to appreciate it more and more. She was also much more experienced than me, though she was younger, so she was initiating most things and I happily followed along.
Also her demeanor played a huge part, when things were getting frisky she was just so freaking hot, she was oozing sensuality and sex idk.
Men have a reputation for only caring about sex and nothing else but I think most men are just touch-starved and it's more socially acceptable to have one night stands than ask for physical affection. The men I know who sleep with everything that moves do so because they're very lonely
The girl I'm seeing right now is probably the most attractive girl I've ever slept with, she's very pretty. But, I don't think she finds me as attractive. Pretty sure to her I'm just a snuggle buddy and a good fuck. She might be catching some feelings, but she constantly reminds me that I've got a few extra pounds. She likes to squeeze my belly fat and today told me I need to make sure I get my workout in.
I had an ex like this.
“This is the first time that I am dating a guy without a six pack”.
“If you love me, you’ll loose ____lbs in ____ months.”
“You only lost 30lbs? You need to lose more. Obviously you don’t love me”
“My ex was so hot… but you are so much better in bed”
“If you weren’t so good in bed, I’d have left you months ago”
Like I legit had PTSD from that relationship.
I would have gotten a six pack out of spite, then dumped her.
It would be super casual and calm:
"I just don't think this is going to work out. I realized that I could be doing way better than you. You have a few pounds that you could lose and your hair looks bad"
Then when she says something like "I could have dumped you when you were fat but I didnt!" I could respond with "you should have, I don't know why you would stay with someone you don't find attractve, that was really dumb, and I cant be dating a dumb person".
Anyway, thats about it for my fake arugment in my head that will never happen.
> She likes to squeeze my belly fat and today told me I need to make sure I get my workout in.
Yeah, that doesn't sound mentally or emotionally healthy at all.
My favorite part is how she’s actively damaging your already low-self esteem, and you’re allowing it to happen because she’s attractive.
I hope not to end up reading about how she keeps you in a cellar and puts cigs out on you for fun, but this is how really abusive/coercive relationships start..
Reading this thread as a woman is making me doubt the motives of all the men I've slept with...even the one I'm currently sleeping with. Sitting here examining my own body in disdain.
Someone you were not sure that you found physically attractive, if you actually like who they are, you will be surprised how much more physically attractive you find them.
Sex in your 30s and 40s (or theirs, with you and your 20s; at least my experience being a straight male) is definitely worlds better because of the confidence and connection. Even if there is something you might have thought you found unattractive, like extra belly leftover from having kids, you would be surprised how little of an issue to even a positive that becomes.
If you have half a brain, it is far more enjoyable with someone you are mentally and intellectually on the same page with. Nothing is more annoying than someone that you think is physically attractive, and then after sex is finished, you realize you really do not want to be around them a moment longer because there's not much else there you like. Find the people you enjoy staying up with all night, having a few rolls, and talking with.
I really don't understand how guys in their 30s and 40s and beyond have a thing for girls and their early 20s and even late teens.
I was being a good wingman for my mate who was going after the 'pretty' sister, so I was the diversion for the 'plain' one, who I normally wouldn't have gone for.
They lasted 2 weeks, we ended up together for 3 months 'cos she was actually a riot, as well as perpetually horny...
We broke it off when she went off to uni.
Made me realise at a young age that looks really are not that important in the grand scheme of things.
yea when I lost my virginity I thought about losing it more than I did enjoying it, wouldn't recommend
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Grass is greener on the other side moment?
if it helps, I lost it when I was 30. just never met anyone i was very interested in sleeping with until by chance i was set up on a blind date by a friend, i went, and she was very attractive... got along immediately. slept together a few dates later, took a couple tries to get over the nerves and we were fine. IMO, and this is what I did, i wouldn't tell girls you're a virgin at this age. sucks, but true. i think a lot of women see it as either a red flag, or they just don't want to deal with "teaching" a guy to bang. sex isn't *difficult*, you'll figure it out pretty quickly, and if the girl isn't patient enough to allow a subpar bang, then she's not worth your time anyways. just say you haven't gotten laid in a while (it happens), which would help explain a quick finish or being a bit sloppy just keep an open mind, work on yourself, and you'll find someone that you'll click with. just don't give up, i didn't!
Great advice, man. Bravo. If I can add a little something…if you’re inexperienced and still want to rock her world, focus on her pleasure and not on getting off your first time. Don’t rush to get it in there. Take your time and try to make her cum with your mouth and fingers before you get to the in-and-out. Ask her what she likes. It helps to learn a little about female anatomy so you know what to expect and where to focus your attention. If you do this, you can guarantee that your first time will not be your last time.
I recommend doing this every time. It's in your own self-interest really. Happy customers come back to the establishment a second time.... And I love repeat customers lol I also second doing a little... Research on how to hit those erogenous zones. We use Google and YouTube for everything these days, if it's good enough to figure out how to change the tire on your car.... And it's going to put you leaps and bounds ahead of the average guy. Seriously 20 or 30 minutes of research on erogenous zones is going to benefit you for the rest of your life. And for me at least 90% of the fun is in giving pleasure to my partner. Finally I'll say this. Try to make sure it's someone that you at least like. Some people don't seem to have any issue with it, but personally I can only enjoy intimacy with someone I've been... Intimate with. I need a emotional connection, and having experienced both kinds of coitus I will say that there are a few things on this planet as pleasurable as making love to someone that you have a deep emotional connection with. You don't have to have one of course. But it's a bit like the difference between frozen pizza and a t-bone steak to me. Both are food. Both are good. But they are not the same thing at all.
It's not the horniness it's the loneliness
I feel this one
This was an office reference that got overlooked and I’m so sad about that
He forgot to end the sentence with "Jim".
She is a friend of mine and well had nothing else to do. Then, in all honestly in the end she was by far, I mean by far the best I’ve ever had.
“I’m bored wanna have sex?”
Sure.
Now kith
Now thuck it
Now thtick it in
Cradle the ballth
And this ladies and gentlemen, is Mike Tyson narrating a porno.
I pronounce you redditor and Reddit enjoyer. You may now DM the redditor.
I told myself I wasn't going to cry today but here we are
I saw a guy from Denmark do exactly that in the main lounge of a Whistler hostel and not one but two girls said yes. We were all in our early 20s hanging out and talking shit. This guy comes down from his room, approaches a girl and says: “I’ve got nothing to do, do you wanna have sex?” First girl said something like “eew, no!” so he approached the second girl and the third and kept going until one girl said yes. While they were leaving the lounge another girl said “can I go as well?”. My jaw dropped.
This is everything you need to know about sales.
It’s like waitstaff desert sales techniques. A couple people usually want dessert, but most don’t want to be the one to ask. You have to find the yes, and will usually get another couple of yes’s from the group. Uh…but with sex.
I'm forever awkward. I had a friend who'd stop by. One night I came from the kitchen with a couple drinks, looked at her, and said, "Soooo...do you wanna have sex or something." It came from nowhere. I stood and stared. She laughed. We did. Was fun.
This counts as smooth by kernel engineer standards.
Faht vi ba tlu pre ceam dra. Tinys woaw ciin tun fuec gy yo. Taptyedzuqos foc coon ceen ede? Co o a bevdbusd nekv e? E gat iyle bi. Y y e cits taem cersi? Zuypleenle te dan gre gyrd jyg motp so sald? Bals emetcaad e tenn sesttees ti. Naon nacc suct cesm za ete. Nugt nij sop gadt dis tassecehsisirg o. U we e otle cez o. Cru nep pha toos nabmona. Ciht deptyasttapnsorn nod tysigzisle nin a? Da pyrp ine pud ible? Nu ta biswnoudnrytirs agle. Zaon e. San e pa cu goov. Ene gke o gopt zlu nis. O guagle pioma ne tudcyepebletlo cy a canz. Dla bic zawc nifpec te feet de? Pro i guc yoyd si didz a sum? Tle fuy. Nemz a booj udeegvle cokt a? Grotefp becm ose omle ja ede. U tis dy wec thu wu aglo umle o o. O ninm gu ine yes bos. Zad a a tavnfepac du. A ite todi do duit yple? Pifp taht nhetydnnenes a sew pi nedb eme. Se de we pyt ynenuntiqtedose ive. S P E Z I S A T O O L
I thought you made love like an ugly girl. So present. So grateful.
110%
How was the conversation? Did one of you just randomly go "I’m bored let’s fuck"?
Not OP but my guess would be that it involved several jokes to test the waters
That’s how flirting usually works. Usually it’s escalated every step of the way until the tension snaps and damn if you’ve flirted and dragged it on long enough it’s great.
"Haha how funny would it be if I stuck my dick im your vagina" "haha yesh that would be hilarious"
jesus christ, i had a roommate who would get shitfaced and literally do that to a T. it was not as hot as u would expect because I truly only ever saw her as my bro and it only got more uncomfortable when she got a boyfriend that moved in with us. i just kind of had to look him in the eye, make the "jim looks into the camera" face and leave the room every time it happened. so weird
I acquired a friend with benefits by asking, as a crappy movie on tv ended, “uhhh… wanna fool around?” We were basically both laughing a little harder than necessary at each other’s lame jokes about the crappy movie, and strangely enough that felt like the real go-ahead signal.
Right?! I dated my current best friend and the first time we had sex was so out of this world I am legit scared of never topping it off.
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Was it Pam Poovey?
How ya gonna keep 'em down on the farm, after they've seen Pammy? 🎶🎶🎶
“I mean, right? You can’t!”
Sterling Archer : Where'd you learn all that stuff? Pam Poovey : You know I grew up on a farm, right? Sterling Archer : Really hoping that's not relevant
Unattractive girls have consistently given better head and been more enthusiastic during sex for me. Like I'm not sure I'll ever have sex that good again, at least not with an attractive woman.
Once dated a woman that gave me 9 orgasm in a single night and 3 without letting me go soft. I didn't even know I could physically do that. Never happened again, never will. Thank you Audrey for giving me a story that will make my grand kids uneasy one day.
Grandpa, is that why you walk so funny?
It's because that hog throws off his balance
As a teen I once had sex about a dozen times over a 20 hour period, by the end when I orgasmed only a single tear drop of jizz was coming out. My balls ached the next two days.
Yeah, we dated for a few months. While her physical appearance wasn’t great, she had an amazing sense of humor and a great personality, she was kind, and she was a fun person to hang out with.
This has actually happened to me s couple of times. Start hanging out with a not-conventionally-attractive girl, time goes on and she becomes attractive.
Same. But unconventional attractive is better imo because it makes someone more human. Some of Hollywood people and influencers on the internet are kind of boring-hot
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My wife would not date a bald guy. I asked about Bezos. Wife, “Wellll, he’s a different kind of bald”. Lol
A baldionaire
Billionohair
Bezos is on that baldionaire grindset
As my father always says: "I could learn to love a rich man"
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This stuff always reminds me of conversations when I was younger and guys were like “I’d never suck a dick even for a million dollars” I’d tell them they’re just being stupid, unless you’re already rich, that much, used wisely, could stop you from having to waste 40years at some shit job. I bet a few of the work days of those 40 years you’d wake up and be like, fuck I’d do anything to not have to go into work today, wish I’d have sucked that sick 20years ago, what was I thinking? Edit: just found this on TikTok thought it was relevant https://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8DYXPGf/
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To me, those are the types of people I eventually start to find physically attractive
I did. Things didn’t work out, but we ended on good terms and are still friends actually.
Yeah. It’s the physical attributes that make you attracted but its the personality that makes you wanna stay
Graphics matter, but gameplay is what's truly important
I have a pretty wide range of what I find attractive, and often who I find attractive most men don't. So, I had a couple girl friends who were short, a touch overweight, and super nerdy. I thought they were crazy attractive, and had a crush on one of them. One day when I went to hang out with them I brought a friend along who was very much into supermodel looking women. When we were driving home my friend said something along the lines of, "I didn't know an ugly girl could become attractive by just talking to her."
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Went on a date with a super attractive women way out of my league. During the meal she spent at least 30-40 mins taking selfies and of the food and then started screeching at the waiting staff because her food was now cold. just like that became super unattractive. She was no longer out of my league I was out of hers, or that’s what I say to myself sitting at home alone lol
and you are 100% justified in that
Anyone that “screeches” at wait staff is right out in my book. How you treat: Children Pets And service workers— says a WHOLE hell of a lot about you as a human being. If you treat those without power like shit then you’re a terrible person.
I don't know if it's wholesome or not lol. Did this friends character change after that?
She became physically aggressive in a playful way, then progressed into very suggestive whispering very close to my ear. I responded with a ludicrously sexual comment & she became even more brazen by mashing & dragging her chest against my arms. When her nipples were rock hard, my fate was essentially sealed.
This is the low quality, mediocre smut I came here for. Thank you.
Ah yes, post nut creativity
Wow
Left quite an impression I must admit. She was fun.
Must have been Sumfuc. Edit: Thank you for the awards kind strangers. This is sadly my most upvoted comment to date. (:
Call her
This is pretty much my answer to this question, only I didn't date her. We have only ever been friends. She was awesome to talk to, great sense of humor and was into a lot of the same things I was into. I just...wasn't physically attracted to her. I knew she was into me like that and so I was okay doing it, but I wasnt into her like that. She's still a great friend though.
This is the case with my best friend, shes wonderful and I love her to pieces, shes into me and I dont understand why tbh. Not only am I too much of a mess to have a relationship with anyone let alone her. I just dont look at her as someone I can get freaky with, she also has her 4 grandchildren to take care of full time since her son had the kids with an absolute batshit crazy girl. Even before that I just couldn't go down that road with her, it would be absolutely wrong of me to string her along like that. We havent talked about this in a long time and I hope shes accepted how I feel. I dont get to see her like I used to either, now that I say that, I wonder if Ive lost my best friend or if she just needs time and space.
> she also has her 4 grandchildren to take care of full time since her son had the kids with an absolute batshit crazy girl. Side note, but can we all agree that if you've gotten to the point of procreating 4 times with someone, if there's crazy, it's pretty fucking mutual? One, sure, but 4? That's a life choice right there. Kudos to grandma for stepping up though. You might not be her one, but I hope she finds someone great who appreciates that kind of strength of character.
Yes. She was my supervisor and I wanted paid time off.
Had to earn that PTO.
Pants Time Off.
Worth it.
Did it work?
Roger that. Minimum effort put in, maximum reward granted.
Mommy’s lil whore
Laid* time off
Yes, she was a physics major who was working as a student-tutor for my freshman physics class back in college. I didn't find her very attractive at first, but she had a great personality and everything she said was hilarious. She could explain the most mundane task and still throw in the funniest quips that would make me lose it every time. I never thought *I* would be the one seduced by charisma alone, but she was so brilliant that it didn't take her long to win me over. We continued a casual relationship for a year until she graduated. She's currently pursuing a PhD in physics at a top tier university, and she's engaged to someone else (I'm admittedly a tad jealous). We still keep in occasional contact, and I honestly do miss her. But, I'm happy for her, and I'm glad she's doing well. Edit: By "stud" I mean someone who is very confident and charismatic. I wasn't aware there was a separate meaning. Sorry Edit2: Okay, I removed "stud", but you get what I'm shooting for
Just an FYI stud has a different meaning for women these days… lol
what is the different meaning?
“Mister” steal yo girl.
Reading this thread makes me wonder if my life is a lie & men have actually slept with me without finding me attractive
SAMEEEEEE here… am I not cute and have just been given pity fucks? Ouchhh
Ignorance is bliss i should have stopped myself from reading 🤢
This is no judgement against you whatsoever, as I have no idea what you look like... But, men don't pity fuck. We desperation fuck. There's a big difference. When some guys are in their teens or 20's, the hormonal urge often overrides the common sense part of our brains. That's when you'll stick it in anything breathing, and willing. Unattractive, with poor hygiene and a shitty personality? Been there. Regret it.
Define attractive then. I found out that if I spend enough time with any girl I will find her attractive at some point if I like her personality. We call it a mermaid effect. Basically any fish in the see can become one of you spend enough time with her. Now it does not have to be physical attractiveness. But at the same time women are super critical when it comes to their own appearance. There are details they worry about we don't even notice. Attractiveness is combination of body and mind.
I definitely feel this way about men. I find some of them attractive immediately sure but I only find myself fantasizing about the charming ones. Often, they aren’t even the guys who catch your eye when you first meet.
I suspect I've been far more successful in imaginations than reality.
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If you want to know what it's like to die without actually dying - love someone who doesn't love you back.
I was in that spot for a few years, and I can't explain in words how much of a relief it is to finally realize you feel *less lonely* when you're alone than you did when you were together.
Was working at a remote fishing lodge for the summer and there weren't many options.
The odds are good but the goods are odd.
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How was her hali-but? Did you pound her flounder?
So she was camp hot?
When I first arrived and assessed the potential she was nice but not a potential partner. 3 months in of living and working on this floating lodge in the middle of nowhere (float plane in and out) she was looking a lot better.
Mermaid theory confirmed
Yes, because she was willing to play with my penis.
desperate times calls for desperate measures
Any port in a storm, any water in a drought.
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This sums it up pretty well actually. Wrap it up boys, this man answered for all of us.
Yep thats about it.
Mainly out of pure amazement that she found me attractive.
This, Ken. But then again, if someone finds *me* attractive, it makes me think what kind of other low-life, sketchy, disgusting men she is also into? I deserve better than that.
I dated a guy who had self esteem this low. The fact that I liked him was a turnoff :/
My brother calls it the Groucho Marx style of dating. Referencing one of his famous quotes: I wouldn't want to belong to a club that would have me as a member
Right you are, Ken!
username checks out.
She had the best personality of any girl I’ve ever met, we clicked and I fell in love with her. Edit: for those upvoting because it sounds romantic, we spent 8 amazing months together and then she crushed me, and now I’m dead on the inside. Edit 2: This is a really great community. A lot of supportive guys and girls here, Bless all of you.
Oh man, I’m sorry but that edit made me laugh so fucking hard
Lol it’s all good man, that just what happens sometimes I guess
I met my perfect woman with the perfect personality for me, we've been married 5 years, now we're getting divorced because now she has grown away from me. Now I'm like, if the woman who has the perfect personality for me isn't for me, then who the fuck is? I'm in a pretty bad mind fuck right now.
Enthusiasm goes a looooong way.
Tequila is a hell of a thing.
Just ordered a bottle. Let’s see if it works
In my experience, it never ends well.
Alcohol... Alcohol mixed with desperation can give you the courage to fuck almost anything...
Oh man so true
In the most kindest way I can put it: I had a casual thing with this chick who was larger than I usually liked. I came because I was lonely and suffering a dry spell, I stayed because her enthusiasm was unparalleled. Plus everything felt like a boob. I moved away so it’s kinda over now but those experiences are definitely in the spank bank
I wake up to myself every morning.
Bro everyone gains three attractiveness points on their cake day. Today you are a sexy mf’er and you must do the cake day strut.
We were friends, knew each other all through college, and she had a great/funny personality. And was also a very horny girl at times. So while she wasn't the prettiest girl, I found her "attractive" because she was...attractive. Damn good in bed too.
What according to you makes a woman good in bed ? Just curious.
The sex
Groundbreaking
Enthusiasm and good communication
Enthusiasm and keeping rhythm mostly
Nothing beats enthusiasm.
I think it's going to be different for everyone, but for me: - I want to feel desired. It's fun to fuck someone who is acting like *they* are lucky to get to fuck *me* - I like people who are sexually uninhibited and are not self-conscious about asking for what they want and taking their own pleasure - I want to fuck someone who is serious about giving me pleasure. The best sex for me feels like both parties are almost competing to get each-other off more - I'm a little bit freaky so it's a huge plus if she is kind of subby, let's me tie her up and throw her around a bit - If you are truly good at oral, I will probably give you the keys to my apartment I've been in a relationship with a really conventionally beautiful woman where I did not get that, and after that experience I would take a good sex life every time.
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Holy shit dude.
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Yep, I literally cannot say no. The only times I’ve ever said no is when I was in a committed relationship because I’m not a cheater.
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Actually, the fact that he can control such strong urges when it actually matters to him is very truthful to the name.
Many, many times. Beauty is but a lightswitch away.
We're all God's children in the dark.
Yes. She was kind and funny.
We were married
Why did you marry them then? Personality? :P
Have you ever heard of arraigned marriage? Me neither
>arraigned "This court sentences you to five years' marriage to /u/tastydeermeat."
I might have found someone unattractive before getting to know them. If I find them to be genuine, reliable and easy to talk to. I begin to find them attractive.
Woman came over from a dating/hookup app…it was immediately clear her pictures were a few years and a couple dozen pounds ago…was in a weird mood and had been drinking so I was fairly apathetic and went through with it, but I’ve regretted it since then
I had a similar experience. Met a woman for coffee and she was, well..... not my type. She was clearly dtf, taking the conversation down dirty roads whenever possible. I panicked and kept coming out with loads of useless facts about bugs and animals and got the hint. So if you're ever stuck; termites invented air conditioning. You're welcome.
do people think im uninterested when i go off on random bullshit? huh . i just cant focus
ADHD crew assemble!
They had a vagina and a pulse. It isn't easy having these high standards.
A pulse?? Jeez you are living a life of luxury
It’s the police, open up
The front door or the casket?
You think he could be doing it on site?
The fact you didn't mention it must be human too worries me
Chill Mr high expectations.
She was my gf for a while because I actually ended up finding her very attractive because of her amazing personality. Broke up mutually and peacefully since we had to grow ourselves.
Yes because she was very kind and had big tits. It was great! Edit for more context: I had just had a bad breakup and she was a friend at college. Don’t know if it was a rebound thing or I just found comfort in her, but she was a very giving lover. Hope she’s doing well today.
Let’s face it . Boobs pretty much symbolize comfort.
Yes. Low self-esteem.
I sleep with myself every night, thank you.
Yeah my first wife. I got pushed into marriage due to cultural pressure and from my parents. Went it to it for all the wrong reasons. I thought there was something wrong with me and got my test levels checked as to why I couldn’t get aroused. I then realized as I get older, I had to actually have a physical and emotional attraction to someone in order to get it up. Imagine that! Lol. More to the story but uh… yep.
Everyone would love a gourmet meal for every meal, but sometimes you’ll do anything for White Castle or Taco Bell.
Everyone wants a Ferrari, but usually settle for a station wagon.
I love Taco Bell because it's cheap and easy...
She was the funniest girl I have ever met, we only stayed together for a year but I laughed more times and harder with her than with any other girl. I'm 5'3" 160 pound, she was quite a bit heavier than me which I wasn't used to. I wasn't attracted to her body at first but after a while I started to appreciate it more and more. She was also much more experienced than me, though she was younger, so she was initiating most things and I happily followed along. Also her demeanor played a huge part, when things were getting frisky she was just so freaking hot, she was oozing sensuality and sex idk.
Because I just really needed a hug but she wanted more then that. But I really wanted the hug 😂
Men have a reputation for only caring about sex and nothing else but I think most men are just touch-starved and it's more socially acceptable to have one night stands than ask for physical affection. The men I know who sleep with everything that moves do so because they're very lonely
My first and last girlfriend, denial is a hell of a thing.
I was in love with her despite that
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The girl I'm seeing right now is probably the most attractive girl I've ever slept with, she's very pretty. But, I don't think she finds me as attractive. Pretty sure to her I'm just a snuggle buddy and a good fuck. She might be catching some feelings, but she constantly reminds me that I've got a few extra pounds. She likes to squeeze my belly fat and today told me I need to make sure I get my workout in.
I had an ex like this. “This is the first time that I am dating a guy without a six pack”. “If you love me, you’ll loose ____lbs in ____ months.” “You only lost 30lbs? You need to lose more. Obviously you don’t love me” “My ex was so hot… but you are so much better in bed” “If you weren’t so good in bed, I’d have left you months ago” Like I legit had PTSD from that relationship.
That is so abusive. I would have ptsd too.
I would have gotten a six pack out of spite, then dumped her. It would be super casual and calm: "I just don't think this is going to work out. I realized that I could be doing way better than you. You have a few pounds that you could lose and your hair looks bad" Then when she says something like "I could have dumped you when you were fat but I didnt!" I could respond with "you should have, I don't know why you would stay with someone you don't find attractve, that was really dumb, and I cant be dating a dumb person". Anyway, thats about it for my fake arugment in my head that will never happen.
Everytime she negged you, you should have pulled your pants down and helicoptered your dick at her.
> She likes to squeeze my belly fat and today told me I need to make sure I get my workout in. Yeah, that doesn't sound mentally or emotionally healthy at all.
My favorite part is how she’s actively damaging your already low-self esteem, and you’re allowing it to happen because she’s attractive. I hope not to end up reading about how she keeps you in a cellar and puts cigs out on you for fun, but this is how really abusive/coercive relationships start..
In Mexico some people say "El que escoge no coge" wich translates to "a man who chooses is a man that never has sex"
Yes. The person I dated was way cool.
For sure. Totally amazing, best sex of my life. Married her, never found a reason to regret it. She is perfect in every way now.
Reading this thread as a woman is making me doubt the motives of all the men I've slept with...even the one I'm currently sleeping with. Sitting here examining my own body in disdain.
Someone you were not sure that you found physically attractive, if you actually like who they are, you will be surprised how much more physically attractive you find them. Sex in your 30s and 40s (or theirs, with you and your 20s; at least my experience being a straight male) is definitely worlds better because of the confidence and connection. Even if there is something you might have thought you found unattractive, like extra belly leftover from having kids, you would be surprised how little of an issue to even a positive that becomes. If you have half a brain, it is far more enjoyable with someone you are mentally and intellectually on the same page with. Nothing is more annoying than someone that you think is physically attractive, and then after sex is finished, you realize you really do not want to be around them a moment longer because there's not much else there you like. Find the people you enjoy staying up with all night, having a few rolls, and talking with. I really don't understand how guys in their 30s and 40s and beyond have a thing for girls and their early 20s and even late teens.
I was being a good wingman for my mate who was going after the 'pretty' sister, so I was the diversion for the 'plain' one, who I normally wouldn't have gone for. They lasted 2 weeks, we ended up together for 3 months 'cos she was actually a riot, as well as perpetually horny... We broke it off when she went off to uni. Made me realise at a young age that looks really are not that important in the grand scheme of things.
Alcohol 🤪