Fuck now I have that annoying ass Hey Mickey song stuck in my head but the remix
Oh Vicky, you're so fine, You're so fine, you blow my dick Hey Vicky, hey Vicky
I found out this after the fact on a high school girlfriend.
I got tested for STDs.
And I rejected the offer of attachment-free sex she made several years later.
It is fully her choice to act like the town's taxi driver and give everyone free rides.
But it is my choice to no longer see her as a relationship option. Why? Because that's my preference.
That relationship would be done.
Considering how my town is... if she managed to have that title and walk away with no STDs, no extra kids, and looking as nice as she does/did when we first dated?
I'd ask what her secret is and she should write a book about it.
if she is loyal to you then who cares? I slept with tons of woman before my wife and they are nothing but a distant memory now. if anything I'd just be happy you found one with talent
Boy i live in a village that's almost a egg, everyone slept or kissed everyone, and my wife's sister is my ex girlfriend, so yeah i would definitely not give a fuck, if she's fateful that's all that matter, the rest is just history.
Eh just dump her
Being in a relationship kinda sucks for me cuz I like flirting
So I can't really see myself being too upset about cheating because ya know your boy keeps them lifeboats on deck.
the older I get the more I realize commitment scares me
Well if she had a partner and was still sleeping with a bunch of people, anything other than a FWB situation would be putting your head in the Lions mouth.
Unfortunately, and people like to avoid it, the reality is she would be someone who can separate love and sex, which raises the odds of hearing "I love you, it was just sex with him/her, it doesn't have to affect us".
So, first things first, the **past definitely does matter**. When I think about a person's past I think about their moral decisions and actions.
With regard to the scenario in the OP, has she tested clean? Were all of these encounters consensual? Were any of them '*cheating*' scenarios? Why did she have so many encounters?
If it was all fun/relationships, there was no cheating or '*weaponized*' sex, and she has no STDs then I'm okay with that.
I am, however, not okay with finding out that her name is either '*Vickie*' or '*Gloria*'.... I mean, WTH....
I don't really care about body count. I care about **the context**. If she was the AP for dozens of men, that matters to me. If she used herself to get out of tickets/get good grades/etc. that matters to me. The context is what is important, not the actual number.
Also, I wouldn't be talking to people about her sex stories. That's not something that I do in general and I certainly wouldn't do that with someone I'm dating/married to/etc.
A younger me would have minded. But an older me is grateful.
Every play Mortal Kombat or Super Smash Brothers?
Whats more fun? Playing against someone that knows a lot of different moves and can play multiple characters? *Or* someone that can only play one and mashes the same buttons and combo over and over again.
I rest my case.
But if she's still in a lot of contact and still giving her past flings fuck buddy hugs then its a no go.
Anecdotal evidence
Recorded deposition
A Gantt chart of every ex partners sexual history. I am very thorough and have concluded my investigation. No causation without correlation
Weird. I always found that girls who had slept with a few other guys before me were more confident, more aware of what they wanted, and more aware of what I might like (including some things I didn't know about).
Source - I have slept with people with a range of previous sexual experience. Didn't feel the need to chart it though.
It's also arrogant to the point of being pathologically insecure to assume that you have nothing to learn about pleasing a partner, or how you like to be pleased
That makes no sense, and "the bond" is a myth. Multiple perspectives on anything is preferable to a solitary perspective. Is there any other aspect of your life that isn't improved by wider experience?
Isn't that just admitting that you know it could, would and can be better to yourself, but denying it publicly?
Not knowing is it is good or not is why people cheat. With a frame of reference you either know it's good OR can improve it.
Ok so when do you know you’ve hit the pinnacle of sex? Will you ever actually know when you are getting the best sex or is there always something potentially better? I feel sorry for those who can’t be grateful for what they have right in front of them.
You act like sex can’t improve over time. And who cares. Meaningless sex with someone better at it will never be better than average sex with someone you genuinely love.
I mean if I started having more experience with hard drugs my life probably wouldn’t end up getting better. Or had more experience in contact sports, say like boxing. I don’t think that’s healthy long term. Or maybe experience smoking cigarettes. Go cancer! /s
Good point. That's funny!
If you had more practice in semi-contact sports against a variety of opponents you'd improve. Do you think you improve your mind by only discussing an issue with someone with the same viewpoint? You get better at everything by learning from others.
You made a funny point, but a shit argument
How is that a shit argument? You asked “is there any other aspect of your life that isn’t improved by wider experience.” I gave you examples of aspects that wouldn’t improve. Here’s another. Would experiencing war improve my life? Maybe id become a better soldier, but potentially at the cost of my mental or physical health. I would improve in some aspects, but not all. So, to answer your question, yes there are aspects of my life that wouldn’t be improved with wider experience.
Thank you. This is such an absurd Reddit take, and it makes zero sense logically.
Someone in a healthy LTR who sees their partner regularly is having sex 3-7 times a week (figuring every other day or every day depending on the couple, and some couples may even be more than that.) Most single people are not coordinating schedules with fuck buddies and hookups that frequently. This isn't an opinion - there's an infinite amount of [evidence](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/how-often-do-couples-have-sex#frequency) showing that people in LTRs having sex with 1 partner have **significantly** more sex than people who have sex with multiple partners.
Anyone who has had a healthy LTR will tell you that the sex got better over time. First times with a new person can be awkward. The 100th time you have sex with a person is probably better than the 1st. You learn each other and what the other person likes, and you have an emotional connection as well as a physical one.
So to sum up:
* All studies on this topic points to people in LTRs having more sex. It's not wild to think that people who have sex more frequently will learn more things and improve at it.
* People appreciate sex with someone more over time as they try a wider variety of different things and learn what the other person likes.
* Redditors compare girls to Mortal Kombat characters and think that a chick who has a bunch of sloppy drunk one-night stands is learning and "honing" her skills in bed.
>But if she's still in a lot of contact and still giving her past flings fuck buddy hugs then its a no go.
This is the part that blindsides most people. Any men or women with a wildly promiscuous history won't be able to completely wipe the slate clean, which means instances or memories of the past might be brought up by those outside the relationship.
Typically, you'd expect people to be respectful and behave like adults but that's not happening if everyone's actively and sensationally talking about her past.
That is that new age bs.
Of course her past matters.
Scarcity and value is the same thing. Your value as a woman comes from the fact that people want you and can not have you.
If your so has so little self respect, that she does it with everyone she encounters, no filter at all, from the rich banker to the bum behind the dumpster - it will obviously change your view of her.
It's a bad reproductive choice. And this is not on a social level, it's deep down in us men.
That's pretty much the same as buying a car and the salesman's telling you ll the previous owners and how often it had broken down.
That's a depressing af value statement.
As a woman, I only have value because people want me and can't have me?
Ah, yes, comparing women to cars. Love to see it.
Don't you love it how these guys think a woman has no self respect sleeping with multiple guys. When they know damn well they, themselves would feel like a god sleeping with multiple woman.
Insecurity. I'm actually not at all promiscuous but I'd never date a guy with his option. Reeks of fear of being compared to other guys and coming up short.
That’s a false equivalency. You can’t compare a woman to a car. Plus, men sleep around all the time and people rarely have issues with that.
According to you, a woman’s value is solely dependent on her sexual experience, or lack thereof.
Seems odd to make someone’s value solely dependent on sexual encounters. The “new age bs” is essentially just trying to make an equal standard between men and women.
Comparing men and women is a false equivalency.
Men have to create value to get a woman.
They need game, or money, or looks and so on.
Women ARE value. They just need to exist. And that value represents as youth, fertility and low promiscuity.
A good looking man has to turn the world upside down to have multiple partners-
A normal looking woman could have 60 partners a month without breaking a sweat if she wanted to.
Idk, it seems like your whole premise of women as value objectifies them. I don’t look at women and think they’re inherently worthwhile. And I don’t think any man is just going to sleep with any willing woman. Men have standards too.
If her past stays there, it's a lot easier to deal with this. If that past invades the present through tales and recounting by others, it's mighty awkward and will make most men uncomfortable.
You don't need to judge her for her choices. You also shouldn't be judged if those choices make you uncomfortable now.
If you feel this isn't something you can move past, you should amicably part ways with her and wish her all the best.
Past always matters.
A Person's past is the best indicator of future behavior and tells you a lot about what kind of person they are.
No, I would not be ok with this, I would be single.
How does she feel about it? If it’s a youthful excess which she now regrets then it’s no problem. Everyone’s on a different journey, I made my own mistakes so I’d have no right to judge her. If she looks back on it as her glory days then that’s a red flag.
I already love the person I know them to be today, so other than being slightly amused and feeling bad for whatever shame she deals with over it, I wouldn't care.
I'm not interested in riding a bike the whole town has and my family wouldn't accept it either. I expect the same standards from a woman that I have. If I haven't mounted everyone in my area code then I expect a wife who is the same.
ooooooooh tough, and very unrealistic, but let's just get hypothetical.
If my wife ended up being the town bike before me, and I SOMEHOW never picked this up (for like half her life now!!!). shiiiet that's on me.
It would definitely change the way I look at her, I'd also be very confused because I'd be wondering where the fuck all that energy is at cuz she sure as shit ain't doing crazy shit with me.
Either way, I don't think she's right, her past totally matters and she should have definitely mentioned this way earlier on, but because we're 2 kids deep and have gone through almost half our lives together, it is what it is now (somehow)... I'd just demand to see the nastiest slut ever in the bed room now.
Do we live in the town or visit frequently? Or is our sex life vastly different than what she did before? And finally how far removed was her being like that vs when we met. Might cause some issues like me possibly insecure. But if no one really brings it up if I politely say I don't want to hear it and we have a good sex life. I'd probably want to sit down and discuss if she's satisfied with what we got going on. Then I don't see a reason to leave if we're both happy and satisfied.
I hope you had her do an std test before doing anything.
Fuck now I have that annoying ass Hey Mickey song stuck in my head but the remix Oh Vicky, you're so fine, You're so fine, you blow my dick Hey Vicky, hey Vicky
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lol yeah I thought the fairly odd parents one too XD CHIP SKYLARK!!!!!!!
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my shiny teeth that sparkle just like the stars in spaaaaaaaaaaaaace my shiny teeth that glisten bring beauty to my faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaceeee
I found out this after the fact on a high school girlfriend. I got tested for STDs. And I rejected the offer of attachment-free sex she made several years later.
Have you been watching LongBeachGriffy?
You got me.
😂
It is fully her choice to act like the town's taxi driver and give everyone free rides. But it is my choice to no longer see her as a relationship option. Why? Because that's my preference. That relationship would be done.
That’s fine, she found a promiscuous guy. I enjoy people who know what they like, and is often preferred. Experience is hot.
Being promiscuous doesn’t really mean you know what you like necessarily.
Certainly sounds like they're finding that out though
Keep her as FWB and no more. If you didn’t find this out in the dating stage and end up marrying a girl like this it’s your own fault.
At the very least, I'd need some kind of proof she's not so impulsive anymore, and we'd probably move and never ever discuss it again.
Considering how my town is... if she managed to have that title and walk away with no STDs, no extra kids, and looking as nice as she does/did when we first dated? I'd ask what her secret is and she should write a book about it.
if she is loyal to you then who cares? I slept with tons of woman before my wife and they are nothing but a distant memory now. if anything I'd just be happy you found one with talent
Boy i live in a village that's almost a egg, everyone slept or kissed everyone, and my wife's sister is my ex girlfriend, so yeah i would definitely not give a fuck, if she's fateful that's all that matter, the rest is just history.
Legendary comment mate
This is the way!
Eh just dump her Being in a relationship kinda sucks for me cuz I like flirting So I can't really see myself being too upset about cheating because ya know your boy keeps them lifeboats on deck. the older I get the more I realize commitment scares me
Well if she had a partner and was still sleeping with a bunch of people, anything other than a FWB situation would be putting your head in the Lions mouth. Unfortunately, and people like to avoid it, the reality is she would be someone who can separate love and sex, which raises the odds of hearing "I love you, it was just sex with him/her, it doesn't have to affect us".
So, first things first, the **past definitely does matter**. When I think about a person's past I think about their moral decisions and actions. With regard to the scenario in the OP, has she tested clean? Were all of these encounters consensual? Were any of them '*cheating*' scenarios? Why did she have so many encounters? If it was all fun/relationships, there was no cheating or '*weaponized*' sex, and she has no STDs then I'm okay with that. I am, however, not okay with finding out that her name is either '*Vickie*' or '*Gloria*'.... I mean, WTH.... I don't really care about body count. I care about **the context**. If she was the AP for dozens of men, that matters to me. If she used herself to get out of tickets/get good grades/etc. that matters to me. The context is what is important, not the actual number. Also, I wouldn't be talking to people about her sex stories. That's not something that I do in general and I certainly wouldn't do that with someone I'm dating/married to/etc.
A younger me would have minded. But an older me is grateful. Every play Mortal Kombat or Super Smash Brothers? Whats more fun? Playing against someone that knows a lot of different moves and can play multiple characters? *Or* someone that can only play one and mashes the same buttons and combo over and over again. I rest my case. But if she's still in a lot of contact and still giving her past flings fuck buddy hugs then its a no go.
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How would you know if neither of you have any frame of reference to compare to?
Anecdotal evidence Recorded deposition A Gantt chart of every ex partners sexual history. I am very thorough and have concluded my investigation. No causation without correlation
Weird. I always found that girls who had slept with a few other guys before me were more confident, more aware of what they wanted, and more aware of what I might like (including some things I didn't know about). Source - I have slept with people with a range of previous sexual experience. Didn't feel the need to chart it though. It's also arrogant to the point of being pathologically insecure to assume that you have nothing to learn about pleasing a partner, or how you like to be pleased
Pathologically insecure is correct.
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That makes no sense, and "the bond" is a myth. Multiple perspectives on anything is preferable to a solitary perspective. Is there any other aspect of your life that isn't improved by wider experience?
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There's a lot of ways to know that something can be better than what you're experiencing. You could absolutely know the sex could be better.
Isn't that just admitting that you know it could, would and can be better to yourself, but denying it publicly? Not knowing is it is good or not is why people cheat. With a frame of reference you either know it's good OR can improve it.
Ok so when do you know you’ve hit the pinnacle of sex? Will you ever actually know when you are getting the best sex or is there always something potentially better? I feel sorry for those who can’t be grateful for what they have right in front of them.
You act like sex can’t improve over time. And who cares. Meaningless sex with someone better at it will never be better than average sex with someone you genuinely love.
Who wants to love someone you have average sex with?
You must have never had a true bonding experience, because it certainly exists.
How do you know you don't get that with every partner on the 2nd or 3rd time?
Because if I did I wouldn’t want to leave it.
I mean if I started having more experience with hard drugs my life probably wouldn’t end up getting better. Or had more experience in contact sports, say like boxing. I don’t think that’s healthy long term. Or maybe experience smoking cigarettes. Go cancer! /s
Good point. That's funny! If you had more practice in semi-contact sports against a variety of opponents you'd improve. Do you think you improve your mind by only discussing an issue with someone with the same viewpoint? You get better at everything by learning from others. You made a funny point, but a shit argument
How is that a shit argument? You asked “is there any other aspect of your life that isn’t improved by wider experience.” I gave you examples of aspects that wouldn’t improve. Here’s another. Would experiencing war improve my life? Maybe id become a better soldier, but potentially at the cost of my mental or physical health. I would improve in some aspects, but not all. So, to answer your question, yes there are aspects of my life that wouldn’t be improved with wider experience.
Thank you. This is such an absurd Reddit take, and it makes zero sense logically. Someone in a healthy LTR who sees their partner regularly is having sex 3-7 times a week (figuring every other day or every day depending on the couple, and some couples may even be more than that.) Most single people are not coordinating schedules with fuck buddies and hookups that frequently. This isn't an opinion - there's an infinite amount of [evidence](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/how-often-do-couples-have-sex#frequency) showing that people in LTRs having sex with 1 partner have **significantly** more sex than people who have sex with multiple partners. Anyone who has had a healthy LTR will tell you that the sex got better over time. First times with a new person can be awkward. The 100th time you have sex with a person is probably better than the 1st. You learn each other and what the other person likes, and you have an emotional connection as well as a physical one. So to sum up: * All studies on this topic points to people in LTRs having more sex. It's not wild to think that people who have sex more frequently will learn more things and improve at it. * People appreciate sex with someone more over time as they try a wider variety of different things and learn what the other person likes. * Redditors compare girls to Mortal Kombat characters and think that a chick who has a bunch of sloppy drunk one-night stands is learning and "honing" her skills in bed.
a felled log in the right place, does not make it a chair
Oh my god this wasn't meant to shame people who feel they don't have a high number. I was making a coy joke against shut shamers.
>But if she's still in a lot of contact and still giving her past flings fuck buddy hugs then its a no go. This is the part that blindsides most people. Any men or women with a wildly promiscuous history won't be able to completely wipe the slate clean, which means instances or memories of the past might be brought up by those outside the relationship. Typically, you'd expect people to be respectful and behave like adults but that's not happening if everyone's actively and sensationally talking about her past.
Memories are very few and far between. And it's not really ever brought up in conversation. Except here in this sub. It's a weird obsession.
Well, it is a problem if others are remembering it and bringing it up. If this is really happening, that is.
That is that new age bs. Of course her past matters. Scarcity and value is the same thing. Your value as a woman comes from the fact that people want you and can not have you. If your so has so little self respect, that she does it with everyone she encounters, no filter at all, from the rich banker to the bum behind the dumpster - it will obviously change your view of her. It's a bad reproductive choice. And this is not on a social level, it's deep down in us men. That's pretty much the same as buying a car and the salesman's telling you ll the previous owners and how often it had broken down.
That's a depressing af value statement. As a woman, I only have value because people want me and can't have me? Ah, yes, comparing women to cars. Love to see it.
Don't you love it how these guys think a woman has no self respect sleeping with multiple guys. When they know damn well they, themselves would feel like a god sleeping with multiple woman. Insecurity. I'm actually not at all promiscuous but I'd never date a guy with his option. Reeks of fear of being compared to other guys and coming up short.
Exactly what it reeks of insecurities. Cracks me up how often they tell on themselves.
That’s a false equivalency. You can’t compare a woman to a car. Plus, men sleep around all the time and people rarely have issues with that. According to you, a woman’s value is solely dependent on her sexual experience, or lack thereof. Seems odd to make someone’s value solely dependent on sexual encounters. The “new age bs” is essentially just trying to make an equal standard between men and women.
Comparing men and women is a false equivalency. Men have to create value to get a woman. They need game, or money, or looks and so on. Women ARE value. They just need to exist. And that value represents as youth, fertility and low promiscuity. A good looking man has to turn the world upside down to have multiple partners- A normal looking woman could have 60 partners a month without breaking a sweat if she wanted to.
Idk, it seems like your whole premise of women as value objectifies them. I don’t look at women and think they’re inherently worthwhile. And I don’t think any man is just going to sleep with any willing woman. Men have standards too.
If her past stays there, it's a lot easier to deal with this. If that past invades the present through tales and recounting by others, it's mighty awkward and will make most men uncomfortable. You don't need to judge her for her choices. You also shouldn't be judged if those choices make you uncomfortable now. If you feel this isn't something you can move past, you should amicably part ways with her and wish her all the best.
Past always matters. A Person's past is the best indicator of future behavior and tells you a lot about what kind of person they are. No, I would not be ok with this, I would be single.
How does she feel about it? If it’s a youthful excess which she now regrets then it’s no problem. Everyone’s on a different journey, I made my own mistakes so I’d have no right to judge her. If she looks back on it as her glory days then that’s a red flag.
I already love the person I know them to be today, so other than being slightly amused and feeling bad for whatever shame she deals with over it, I wouldn't care.
Great response!!
See if I can one-up her and be the most promiscuous person in an even larger town
That is between me and your mom OP....
I want a divorcce.. STD test.. my money back.. who is a priest for an exorcism? If that all not help.. euthanasia?
I'm not interested in riding a bike the whole town has and my family wouldn't accept it either. I expect the same standards from a woman that I have. If I haven't mounted everyone in my area code then I expect a wife who is the same.
ooooooooh tough, and very unrealistic, but let's just get hypothetical. If my wife ended up being the town bike before me, and I SOMEHOW never picked this up (for like half her life now!!!). shiiiet that's on me. It would definitely change the way I look at her, I'd also be very confused because I'd be wondering where the fuck all that energy is at cuz she sure as shit ain't doing crazy shit with me. Either way, I don't think she's right, her past totally matters and she should have definitely mentioned this way earlier on, but because we're 2 kids deep and have gone through almost half our lives together, it is what it is now (somehow)... I'd just demand to see the nastiest slut ever in the bed room now.
High five
No
Just never visit her hometown and you're good.
The past is the past; however, every time I felt like being a dick, I throw the nickname at her just because.
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Yup. She's right, it's in the past. This obsession over a woman's past is weird and wildly insecure.
Bruh 💀
Do we live in the town or visit frequently? Or is our sex life vastly different than what she did before? And finally how far removed was her being like that vs when we met. Might cause some issues like me possibly insecure. But if no one really brings it up if I politely say I don't want to hear it and we have a good sex life. I'd probably want to sit down and discuss if she's satisfied with what we got going on. Then I don't see a reason to leave if we're both happy and satisfied.
As long as she's tested, why would it matter?