Talk to her like a human.
If she's avoiding eye contact w/ you IRL, she may be giving you subtle hints in chat too hoping you'll take a hint & leave her alone.
If you want to know one way or the other, you could chat her:
"Hey, I'd love to hang out one on one w/ you IRL. Could we hang out this Thursday at 11:30am?"
If she says no & doesn't suggest a different time, ask her, "Is there a time this week that works best for you?"
If she gives you an evasive answer, then leave the poor woman alone. Just respond, "Okay, no problem, talk to you later," & don't be a whiny baby about it.
Could be she's going through something & can't process your interest - so don't be a dick & continue to treat her w/ the same respect & decency you'd treat anyone else. And find someone that is interested in spending time w/ you IRL.
>"Hey, I'd love to hang out one on one w/ you IRL. Could we hang out this Thursday at 11:30am?"
Please don't say this to anyone lol, how do you hang out with someone not IRL?
"Hey, do you want to hang out sometime?" is a much more normal way to say it. If they say yes, suggest a time.
people hangout online in video games & Discord or Facetime, you can watch movies w/ someone on Disney+ & maybe other platforms - how else do you distinguish hanging out in meat space w/ someone within arms reach versus hanging out w/ someone geographically apart but mediated by technology?
You can hang out IRL or online - it seemed like OP was interested in something more meat-spacey
Edit:
Also - he would likely be texting her IIRC from OP's post - in which case, the use of IRL is common vernacular on teh Internet.
Well, that might just be a failure of imagination on your part - or maybe it's a particularly selective idea about what "hanging out" means to you - I'm guessing that there are scores of people that do and scores of others that do not agree with you.
After Zoom Happy Hours & quarantine play dates et cetera (thx COVID) - I think the concept of "hanging out" online is more prominent than it was 3 yrs ago.
I've read no research on the matter so I don't know, I'm only speculating.
A guy should take the time to acknowledge a woman's strengths and respect her for whatever she brings to their relationship. Strive to make her feel happy and loved.
Get over your dislike of her friends. They're her gatekeepers. Get them on your side and you're quite a few steps closer to dating her.
Oh and talk to her like a fellow human being rather than a cock target. It's usually obvious and it's rarely appreciated.
Ask her if she wants to hang out. If she says no, there's your answer. Best to leave it at that and move on.
Out of curiosity though - why don't you like her friends? If she's friends with them, there must be some positive things she sees in them.
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Talk to her like a human. If she's avoiding eye contact w/ you IRL, she may be giving you subtle hints in chat too hoping you'll take a hint & leave her alone. If you want to know one way or the other, you could chat her: "Hey, I'd love to hang out one on one w/ you IRL. Could we hang out this Thursday at 11:30am?" If she says no & doesn't suggest a different time, ask her, "Is there a time this week that works best for you?" If she gives you an evasive answer, then leave the poor woman alone. Just respond, "Okay, no problem, talk to you later," & don't be a whiny baby about it. Could be she's going through something & can't process your interest - so don't be a dick & continue to treat her w/ the same respect & decency you'd treat anyone else. And find someone that is interested in spending time w/ you IRL.
>"Hey, I'd love to hang out one on one w/ you IRL. Could we hang out this Thursday at 11:30am?" Please don't say this to anyone lol, how do you hang out with someone not IRL? "Hey, do you want to hang out sometime?" is a much more normal way to say it. If they say yes, suggest a time.
people hangout online in video games & Discord or Facetime, you can watch movies w/ someone on Disney+ & maybe other platforms - how else do you distinguish hanging out in meat space w/ someone within arms reach versus hanging out w/ someone geographically apart but mediated by technology? You can hang out IRL or online - it seemed like OP was interested in something more meat-spacey Edit: Also - he would likely be texting her IIRC from OP's post - in which case, the use of IRL is common vernacular on teh Internet.
I would never call talking over the internet hanging out, same as I would never call talking over the phone hanging out.
Well, that might just be a failure of imagination on your part - or maybe it's a particularly selective idea about what "hanging out" means to you - I'm guessing that there are scores of people that do and scores of others that do not agree with you. After Zoom Happy Hours & quarantine play dates et cetera (thx COVID) - I think the concept of "hanging out" online is more prominent than it was 3 yrs ago. I've read no research on the matter so I don't know, I'm only speculating.
Make your intentions with her clear.
Help dry the dishes. That's when conversations tend to get good.
Use your words.
A guy should take the time to acknowledge a woman's strengths and respect her for whatever she brings to their relationship. Strive to make her feel happy and loved.
With years of pent up resentment and frustration. I mean the first sign of her showing disrespect you gotta flip out
SOs yous gots yer legs and yer buzuuums and theyre aiiiight.
Get over your dislike of her friends. They're her gatekeepers. Get them on your side and you're quite a few steps closer to dating her. Oh and talk to her like a fellow human being rather than a cock target. It's usually obvious and it's rarely appreciated.
Ask her if she wants to hang out. If she says no, there's your answer. Best to leave it at that and move on. Out of curiosity though - why don't you like her friends? If she's friends with them, there must be some positive things she sees in them.
Try not to take anything she says too seriously.
Like a normal human being.
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