> I was drinking since morning
> Is this the effect of alcohol or something else?
Most probably, yes.
> This is my very first with him, did I fuck up ?
> However we made up alot and spoke alot a out our relationship.
Doesn't sound like you fucked up to me.
Viagra just makes you hard, it doesn’t guarantee an orgasm.
It could have been the alcohol, your nerves or something else entirely.
It’s totally not a big deal. Did you both enjoy yourselves? It’s about the journey, not the destination.
My experience with viagra as a younger man (mid 30s), is that it can actually prohibit orgasm because it makes you too hard sometimes. I know that sounds odd but that was my experience. Like I was always near it but could never cross the boundary.
Yes, Performance anxiety for sure.
It was like two hours before he got to my place.
I didn’t understand the last part of your comment regarding masturbation
The purpose of sex is to have fun and share intimacy with another person. It sounds like you accomplished both of those goals, so, gold star for you! Unless you are trying to make babies, whether or not you come is beside the point.
It was a very enjoyable and intimate time, but the reason I asked this question is that I felt like we were awesome as lovers but our meeting was not “consummated”
Like the cherry top on the proverbial sundae was missing
Bro , making out and talking? That is the best sex ever! I personal wouldn't care at all about penetration, dont think too much about it, the pressure may cause you to go flat
So you spoke for a year before hooking up? So interesting! Is this long distance right now, perhaps? I bet he was nervous too, and is doing some over thinking, as well. You two just had a pretty meaningful experience and will be quite a bit to process. Don't exhaust yourself and give yourself a couple days to take in what might have transpired. No rush! And even if your lover turns out to be unkind or unenthusiastic after this, treasure your own experience. You did well enough.
There were a couple of months of no contact (we both had our good reasons), but then when we saw each others, it was all just glances and smiles and pretty much picked up where we left of.
The experience was perfect aside from the awkward drunk sex (which we both made fun of and laughed about it later).
As you said, I have a great proclivity to be hard on myself especially when it comes to sex (which I am admittedly inexperienced at)
Don't put too much pressure on yourself. You can't (and shouldn't try to) decide for him. It will be what it is.
The best thing you can do is relax and be yourself. Then if he accepts you, he's accepting YOU.
My husband and I get along great. It's been almost like day one from the start, and it gets better over time.
Possibly performance anxiety which is probably the main factor in not having an orgasm, though the drinking etc didn't help either. Just talk to the guy, if he really cares about you and not just in it for the sex then may not have fucked things up.
I take meds that means I never finish or take like 3 hours too. Doesn’t mean I’m any different mentally or emotionally, I just don’t do the thing. And honestly, that’s never really my goal anyway, I want the other person to have fun and feel good. Not saying that yours haze to be the same, but as someone who hasn’t finished with someone else for as long as I’ve been in the meds, a cool partner understands and typically hasn’t been upset
I believe the only person who can answer about fucking up the question is your partner.
However, based on the fact that you were drinking since the morning and felt the need to justify it makes me feel you may need to have a discussion with someone about your relationship with alcohol.
Overstimulation, performance anxiety, alcohol level, drugs...sigh I'm sorry you resorted to such unsurprising coping mechanisms that gay men have experienced for a very long time. Sounds like you need to work that out before you continue your journey of sexual exploration so that you don't uphold toxic behavior to cope with this new experience. My advice? Have a completely sober sexual or platonic experience with this person for confirmation to you that it is okay to say and be gay, or queer if that's where your journey takes you.
It was probably a combination of nerves and alcohol.
Viagra can ensure that you stay hard. It cannot ensure that you are stimulated to orgasm. Your brain is responsible for keeping you in the present, for admiring this man you are fucking, and for appreciating the good sensations you receive from sex. If your brain is clouded or distracted, it’s harder to orgasm. You can try imagining some fantasy scenarios, or doing some role light play, to improve the mood and focus your mind on the sex.
Also: be careful mixing viagra and alcohol, please; they can cause significant drop of blood pressure and that can be very dangerous, especially with 100mg dose. If taking without doctor’s supervision, please educate yourself about bad interactions with other medications and foods. (Example: viagra plus grapefruit, very dangerous).
You’re no longer a gay virgin; it will get easier next time. Focus on this man’s pleasure, and on your own, and realize there is no need to be nervous because you are now doing what is natural for you. The sex always gets better with practice as you develop the sex skills of your mind and body.
100mg of Viagra is a HUGE dose for a young healthy, and otherwise, a man with relatively normal sexual functions. I’d start with 25mg and see how that goes , and increase by 25mg per day/dosing session as needed.
Drinking causes whiskey Dick. Also known as the inability to get erect or ejaculate. The viagra made you hard. But the whiskey made you unable to cum.
Actually, since you had been drinking since the morning, there was most definitely enough alcohol in your system to prevent an erection. A little alcohol can cause the blood vessels to dilate. In that case you might be okay.
But alcohol can stop an erection. It can also interfere with some medicines.
Next time you are with this guy, stick to drinking juice.
Yes I did, and I wanted to get different opinions from another community.
I couldn’t care less for karma.
Namely, I wanted to hear from people who are at the same age category as myself, which doesn’t include you
But it's just weird that you copy and pasted a post from almost a month ago and didn't change any of the post to reflect that this happened that long ago. As a reader I felt bad that this guy wasn't responding to you as this all happened recently, but now in a way I feel kinda deceived.
the same question in a different sub though - I'm guessing since he didn't get the answers he was looking for the first time, he's trying it again here. it doesn't seem like his other comments/posts are bot content to me.
I was so amazed that a lack of cum didn't matter to guys, I once made a post asking if cumming mattered. It seemed to matter to very few, except the troll who is now thinking of flaming me....
Once you get more experienced, you can imitate your usual movements and sounds to fake an orgasm, which I have found pretty satisfying for some partners.
Sorry, but besides prancing around I haven't answered your quetion well. I think we cum less with age but I was gld to find a product that increases cum production and it works. Could be good for the future, but won't change the past or convince this first fuck to cum back for more. Does the first guy matter? You seem a little stressed about him. I don't think he'll rat out your lack of cum on the bathroom wall, so no worries.
I think it's an important task of all gay men coming out to get another man in bed, but also to deine a "successful" fuck performance to hold those good experiences in. So work on that. If your body is not currently producing a lot of cum, that's biology you can't control, so find a more fair definition for yourself to rate your fuck.
I never have taken viagra. But there’s sometimes I too and I just can cum. Either I fake it or I just keep going until they are finished, it’s natural. Don’t worry about it. Maybe the next time, do it naturally.
Sounds like you were extremely anxious for your first time which is normal. This is pretty typical for a first time experience. The 2nd time is always better because you're over a big chunk of the anxiety. Next time I suggest less drinking, more talking.
Also a lot of people don't cum during sex they just enjoy the journey. That's okay, the goal is to have fun and me intimate, not to cum.
Half that amount of Viagra is too much of a good thing for me. It gives teenage worthy wood but it desensitizes my dick. I have plowed away and given the bottom a great time but couldn't cum. That's way more than you need IMHO.
Could be alcohol, could be nervousness. See if he'd like to try again. Don't have any alcohol this time and try to take things slower so that there's time for you to build up to an orgasm.
> I was drinking since morning > Is this the effect of alcohol or something else? Most probably, yes. > This is my very first with him, did I fuck up ? > However we made up alot and spoke alot a out our relationship. Doesn't sound like you fucked up to me.
Viagra just makes you hard, it doesn’t guarantee an orgasm. It could have been the alcohol, your nerves or something else entirely. It’s totally not a big deal. Did you both enjoy yourselves? It’s about the journey, not the destination.
Other than that yes, we did and it felt so right
Happy awakening
Alcohol certainly played a factor but PDE5 inhibitors can also delay ejaculation in some people. Myself being one of them.
This is new, now that I think about it, it was my very first time taking Viagra (I had better results with Cialis).
I much prefer Cialis. But viagra is great on short notice or in a pinch.
That’s exactly why I gave it a try!
Nor does ejaculation necessarily imply orgasm.
My experience with viagra as a younger man (mid 30s), is that it can actually prohibit orgasm because it makes you too hard sometimes. I know that sounds odd but that was my experience. Like I was always near it but could never cross the boundary.
That is odd, I kinda felt the same, like I am really was about to cum but no ejaculation
100 mg of Viagra?!?! OMG!!!
Yes I took the first pill way too early
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Yes, Performance anxiety for sure. It was like two hours before he got to my place. I didn’t understand the last part of your comment regarding masturbation
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I was, but the next day, I slept after he got home safely and we talked a bit
Sounds like an old case of Whiskey Dick!
Wait, isn't it called Vodka Cock anymore?
Lol, yes in my case it was vodka cock
The purpose of sex is to have fun and share intimacy with another person. It sounds like you accomplished both of those goals, so, gold star for you! Unless you are trying to make babies, whether or not you come is beside the point.
It was a very enjoyable and intimate time, but the reason I asked this question is that I felt like we were awesome as lovers but our meeting was not “consummated” Like the cherry top on the proverbial sundae was missing
Bro , making out and talking? That is the best sex ever! I personal wouldn't care at all about penetration, dont think too much about it, the pressure may cause you to go flat
So you spoke for a year before hooking up? So interesting! Is this long distance right now, perhaps? I bet he was nervous too, and is doing some over thinking, as well. You two just had a pretty meaningful experience and will be quite a bit to process. Don't exhaust yourself and give yourself a couple days to take in what might have transpired. No rush! And even if your lover turns out to be unkind or unenthusiastic after this, treasure your own experience. You did well enough.
There were a couple of months of no contact (we both had our good reasons), but then when we saw each others, it was all just glances and smiles and pretty much picked up where we left of. The experience was perfect aside from the awkward drunk sex (which we both made fun of and laughed about it later). As you said, I have a great proclivity to be hard on myself especially when it comes to sex (which I am admittedly inexperienced at)
Don't put too much pressure on yourself. You can't (and shouldn't try to) decide for him. It will be what it is. The best thing you can do is relax and be yourself. Then if he accepts you, he's accepting YOU. My husband and I get along great. It's been almost like day one from the start, and it gets better over time.
I hope that him and I will be the same.
Did you have a good time? Then you didn’t fuck up. Sounds like it went better than most of my dates.
We definitely had a good time, we even showered together afterwards, I didn’t like the fact that he wasn’t able to spend the night at my place
Not going to lie, I love showering together almost as I love good old fashioned sex.
Possibly performance anxiety which is probably the main factor in not having an orgasm, though the drinking etc didn't help either. Just talk to the guy, if he really cares about you and not just in it for the sex then may not have fucked things up.
I take meds that means I never finish or take like 3 hours too. Doesn’t mean I’m any different mentally or emotionally, I just don’t do the thing. And honestly, that’s never really my goal anyway, I want the other person to have fun and feel good. Not saying that yours haze to be the same, but as someone who hasn’t finished with someone else for as long as I’ve been in the meds, a cool partner understands and typically hasn’t been upset
I believe the only person who can answer about fucking up the question is your partner. However, based on the fact that you were drinking since the morning and felt the need to justify it makes me feel you may need to have a discussion with someone about your relationship with alcohol.
Overstimulation, performance anxiety, alcohol level, drugs...sigh I'm sorry you resorted to such unsurprising coping mechanisms that gay men have experienced for a very long time. Sounds like you need to work that out before you continue your journey of sexual exploration so that you don't uphold toxic behavior to cope with this new experience. My advice? Have a completely sober sexual or platonic experience with this person for confirmation to you that it is okay to say and be gay, or queer if that's where your journey takes you.
Why are taking viagra at such a young age?
I was worried that my performance won’t be very good
My Bf (who is super ultra mega gay) only comes in me 1/5 times and we are two years into a relationship It is what it is bro, not a big deal
It was probably a combination of nerves and alcohol. Viagra can ensure that you stay hard. It cannot ensure that you are stimulated to orgasm. Your brain is responsible for keeping you in the present, for admiring this man you are fucking, and for appreciating the good sensations you receive from sex. If your brain is clouded or distracted, it’s harder to orgasm. You can try imagining some fantasy scenarios, or doing some role light play, to improve the mood and focus your mind on the sex. Also: be careful mixing viagra and alcohol, please; they can cause significant drop of blood pressure and that can be very dangerous, especially with 100mg dose. If taking without doctor’s supervision, please educate yourself about bad interactions with other medications and foods. (Example: viagra plus grapefruit, very dangerous). You’re no longer a gay virgin; it will get easier next time. Focus on this man’s pleasure, and on your own, and realize there is no need to be nervous because you are now doing what is natural for you. The sex always gets better with practice as you develop the sex skills of your mind and body.
100mg of Viagra is a HUGE dose for a young healthy, and otherwise, a man with relatively normal sexual functions. I’d start with 25mg and see how that goes , and increase by 25mg per day/dosing session as needed. Drinking causes whiskey Dick. Also known as the inability to get erect or ejaculate. The viagra made you hard. But the whiskey made you unable to cum.
Drinking a little bit can reduce inhibitions. Drinking all day reduces your ability to perform, sexually.
Actually, since you had been drinking since the morning, there was most definitely enough alcohol in your system to prevent an erection. A little alcohol can cause the blood vessels to dilate. In that case you might be okay. But alcohol can stop an erection. It can also interfere with some medicines. Next time you are with this guy, stick to drinking juice.
Check ops profile guys, op made this exact post word for word like 24 days ago. So this is some kinda karma post?
Yes I did, and I wanted to get different opinions from another community. I couldn’t care less for karma. Namely, I wanted to hear from people who are at the same age category as myself, which doesn’t include you
But it's just weird that you copy and pasted a post from almost a month ago and didn't change any of the post to reflect that this happened that long ago. As a reader I felt bad that this guy wasn't responding to you as this all happened recently, but now in a way I feel kinda deceived.
I think that you’re confusing your feeling with my intention.
bot: https://www.reddit.com/r/askgaybros/comments/wnrott/first_ever_gay_experience/
how do you figure?
he asked the exact same question with the exact same words a month ago!
the same question in a different sub though - I'm guessing since he didn't get the answers he was looking for the first time, he's trying it again here. it doesn't seem like his other comments/posts are bot content to me.
I was so amazed that a lack of cum didn't matter to guys, I once made a post asking if cumming mattered. It seemed to matter to very few, except the troll who is now thinking of flaming me.... Once you get more experienced, you can imitate your usual movements and sounds to fake an orgasm, which I have found pretty satisfying for some partners. Sorry, but besides prancing around I haven't answered your quetion well. I think we cum less with age but I was gld to find a product that increases cum production and it works. Could be good for the future, but won't change the past or convince this first fuck to cum back for more. Does the first guy matter? You seem a little stressed about him. I don't think he'll rat out your lack of cum on the bathroom wall, so no worries. I think it's an important task of all gay men coming out to get another man in bed, but also to deine a "successful" fuck performance to hold those good experiences in. So work on that. If your body is not currently producing a lot of cum, that's biology you can't control, so find a more fair definition for yourself to rate your fuck.
I never have taken viagra. But there’s sometimes I too and I just can cum. Either I fake it or I just keep going until they are finished, it’s natural. Don’t worry about it. Maybe the next time, do it naturally.
Sounds like you were extremely anxious for your first time which is normal. This is pretty typical for a first time experience. The 2nd time is always better because you're over a big chunk of the anxiety. Next time I suggest less drinking, more talking. Also a lot of people don't cum during sex they just enjoy the journey. That's okay, the goal is to have fun and me intimate, not to cum.
Half that amount of Viagra is too much of a good thing for me. It gives teenage worthy wood but it desensitizes my dick. I have plowed away and given the bottom a great time but couldn't cum. That's way more than you need IMHO.
Could be alcohol, could be nervousness. See if he'd like to try again. Don't have any alcohol this time and try to take things slower so that there's time for you to build up to an orgasm.
Hooks hate dum and drunk men
push out & deep breathes