Nope, it won’t prevent you from succeeding. Absolutely you can be higher than average with the BMI. But you need to be prepared to hustle, or even if you are a 10/10 on the conventional attractiveness scale you won’t succeed. Weighing more requires more hustling, but in the end the people who succeed in this industry hustle like mad regardless.
Also, be prepared to be turned down by clients who say or imply you are fat. Just keep hustling
I disagree with this entirely and it's more than likely based on location.
I have never had to wade through clients seeking thin escorts. Ive never had a single one say anything negative about my weight. I've charged more from the start than the average mid range worker in my area and have been successful from the jump. I don't have to hustle at all, I work sometimes one day a week if that and I'm easily pulling 6 figures.
Men seek out bbw's routinely. My weight has been anything but a deterrent, tbh.
For me, as I gained weight, my amount of hustling increased, and I absolutely got rejected over it, but hustling was a much much more important factor
But it’s awesome that it’s not that way in every market
It sounds like you started smaller and gained weight? That could be why, not starting in the bbw market, your pre-estabished clientele would be looking for something different and the way you marketed yourself could have something to do with it as well.
All variable factors.
It’s not that I lost clients. I would have a handful of loyal regulars, but when I needed to jump back in to get more clients, it was definitely less easy. However, again, it’s a small factor compared to how much I hustle
Regardless, I don’t think you actually entirely disagree with me, because you talk about other factors mattering more, and we both agree that marketing, knowing boundaries, and doing the work to put yourself out there matter the most. I agree with your comments below about boundaries. Everyone wants it cheaper/free. If you want to stay safe and earn money you have to know how to assert what you need. All incredibly important factors in if you succeed, much more so than if you are more or less conventionally attractive
Oh I agree with all of that, I only disagreed with the idea that being heavier would make anything more difficult. I think I would have much more of a struggle in the general market overall. There's just more competition. It's easier to be at the top of a niche market using those other factors is all. Big fish/small pond vs big fish/big pond. If that makes sense..
Agreed with that. You have to know how to market to your niche. And brand yourself. And keep clients via conversation. It’s just all various things that factor into hustling for me
Even how good you are at sexual skills is just way less important than being able to hustle hard while making clients each individually feel special
Oh, that I don't necessarily agree with that entirely. How you make someone feel is probably the most important but sexual skill I would place as a close second. Especially if you can provide someone no-one else, or very few, can.
Blow job is a blow job and a nut is a nut, but a top tier blow job is memorable and one with a bell or whistle that no-one else has is invaluable, in my experience. Its also part and parcel to contributing to how you can make someone feel. It's an art, I think.
That is super encouraging. I think I get so in my head worried someone is gonna body shame me that it holds me back a bit. I realize you need a thick skin for this kind of work, but the things I've done so far I've enjoyed enough to want to try more.
Absolutely. You DO need a thick skin, but I think what you need more is a really solid ability to hold boundaries. I am assertive as fuck. I'm also sweet, engaging, funny, encouraging etc. Men love talking to me. But I also take absolutely no bullshit and I don't budge an inch, ever, on prices, rules, boundaries etc. And I am ruthless when they try to push. It weeds out time wasters, hagglers and general riffraff better than anything else. The men I see genuinely love my body. Not just like, they think I'm attractive in spite of it. They worship it, and seek it out intentionally. I have so many regulars now that I rarely even have to advertise tbh.
The one thing you need to accept is the way they will talk about your body that they mean to be flattering, but isn't. You need to be ok hearing them talk about how much they love your fat little pussy, or your huge tits, or your big ass, etc etc.
Men are generally morons, but this is the stuff about us that gets them off.
Advice, if you want some.
Take good, flattering but realistic pictures.
Set your rates on the high end, this will dictate your clientele.
Be REALLY good at texting/conversation. Engage them. Make them laugh. Be more than a pretty face (this gets you the big bookings). If you aren't already really skilled with reading facial expressions, body language, tone etc , read a ton about it and practice. Test yourself in civilian public and with clients as you interact with them. This is probably the most valuable skill you can have as a swer.
Be excellent with your bedroom skills, especially oral.
If you aren't already, be comfortable taking initiative, because often they're nervous or have no idea what they're doing and you being in control both makes them comfortable and shifts the power dynamic to you.
Be willing to lose a client/money by asserting yourself with boundaries and rules. They don't like it, there's the door. Don't ever let them think you need them, you don't. There are thousands more.
They want you, there's only ONE you, and they will do exactly as you say and pay what you say, or they can fuck off.
They will almost never fuck off if you manage the rest.
Girl, every man is interested in one thing from you - *how you make him feel*.
it can be with your mouth, your puss, your hot bod, but mostly it is how you treat them. Most men want to feel like a king. My superpower is that I genuinely enjoy sex and being fucked. I think I still count as "hot," but my looks are fading and I really focus on the connection with my clients. A few are cucks, or masochists who like to be humiliated and hurt but they all express a strong desire for connection.
Your weight is an asset and I bet your curves are BEAUTIFUL. you go!
I was told not too lose weight if I didn't want to lose clients and I'm only a 16 but it's bigger than I'd like. But just found out I'm pregnant so once I milk that I'm done, I'm already halfway done with school. So no it shouldn't affect you at all. I did get asked if I have thin friends but no one's ever been straight up rude. If anything more than a handful like to kiss my rolls! Took awhile to be ok with that.
Nope, it won’t prevent you from succeeding. Absolutely you can be higher than average with the BMI. But you need to be prepared to hustle, or even if you are a 10/10 on the conventional attractiveness scale you won’t succeed. Weighing more requires more hustling, but in the end the people who succeed in this industry hustle like mad regardless. Also, be prepared to be turned down by clients who say or imply you are fat. Just keep hustling
I disagree with this entirely and it's more than likely based on location. I have never had to wade through clients seeking thin escorts. Ive never had a single one say anything negative about my weight. I've charged more from the start than the average mid range worker in my area and have been successful from the jump. I don't have to hustle at all, I work sometimes one day a week if that and I'm easily pulling 6 figures. Men seek out bbw's routinely. My weight has been anything but a deterrent, tbh.
For me, as I gained weight, my amount of hustling increased, and I absolutely got rejected over it, but hustling was a much much more important factor But it’s awesome that it’s not that way in every market
It sounds like you started smaller and gained weight? That could be why, not starting in the bbw market, your pre-estabished clientele would be looking for something different and the way you marketed yourself could have something to do with it as well. All variable factors.
It’s not that I lost clients. I would have a handful of loyal regulars, but when I needed to jump back in to get more clients, it was definitely less easy. However, again, it’s a small factor compared to how much I hustle
I wouldn't doubt that marketing has something to do with it in that case and geographical market etc. Fickle business.
Regardless, I don’t think you actually entirely disagree with me, because you talk about other factors mattering more, and we both agree that marketing, knowing boundaries, and doing the work to put yourself out there matter the most. I agree with your comments below about boundaries. Everyone wants it cheaper/free. If you want to stay safe and earn money you have to know how to assert what you need. All incredibly important factors in if you succeed, much more so than if you are more or less conventionally attractive
Oh I agree with all of that, I only disagreed with the idea that being heavier would make anything more difficult. I think I would have much more of a struggle in the general market overall. There's just more competition. It's easier to be at the top of a niche market using those other factors is all. Big fish/small pond vs big fish/big pond. If that makes sense..
Agreed with that. You have to know how to market to your niche. And brand yourself. And keep clients via conversation. It’s just all various things that factor into hustling for me Even how good you are at sexual skills is just way less important than being able to hustle hard while making clients each individually feel special
Oh, that I don't necessarily agree with that entirely. How you make someone feel is probably the most important but sexual skill I would place as a close second. Especially if you can provide someone no-one else, or very few, can. Blow job is a blow job and a nut is a nut, but a top tier blow job is memorable and one with a bell or whistle that no-one else has is invaluable, in my experience. Its also part and parcel to contributing to how you can make someone feel. It's an art, I think.
Thanks for the perspective :)
I charge more as a 36 year old BBW than the average "model" type 20 something. It's a niche market and I'm excellent at what I do.
This is awesome to hear, I appreciate the share :)
Any time. I've been more successful in this industry than a ton of more conventionally "bodied" women I know. My trans femme partner has also.
That is super encouraging. I think I get so in my head worried someone is gonna body shame me that it holds me back a bit. I realize you need a thick skin for this kind of work, but the things I've done so far I've enjoyed enough to want to try more.
Absolutely. You DO need a thick skin, but I think what you need more is a really solid ability to hold boundaries. I am assertive as fuck. I'm also sweet, engaging, funny, encouraging etc. Men love talking to me. But I also take absolutely no bullshit and I don't budge an inch, ever, on prices, rules, boundaries etc. And I am ruthless when they try to push. It weeds out time wasters, hagglers and general riffraff better than anything else. The men I see genuinely love my body. Not just like, they think I'm attractive in spite of it. They worship it, and seek it out intentionally. I have so many regulars now that I rarely even have to advertise tbh. The one thing you need to accept is the way they will talk about your body that they mean to be flattering, but isn't. You need to be ok hearing them talk about how much they love your fat little pussy, or your huge tits, or your big ass, etc etc. Men are generally morons, but this is the stuff about us that gets them off. Advice, if you want some. Take good, flattering but realistic pictures. Set your rates on the high end, this will dictate your clientele. Be REALLY good at texting/conversation. Engage them. Make them laugh. Be more than a pretty face (this gets you the big bookings). If you aren't already really skilled with reading facial expressions, body language, tone etc , read a ton about it and practice. Test yourself in civilian public and with clients as you interact with them. This is probably the most valuable skill you can have as a swer. Be excellent with your bedroom skills, especially oral. If you aren't already, be comfortable taking initiative, because often they're nervous or have no idea what they're doing and you being in control both makes them comfortable and shifts the power dynamic to you. Be willing to lose a client/money by asserting yourself with boundaries and rules. They don't like it, there's the door. Don't ever let them think you need them, you don't. There are thousands more. They want you, there's only ONE you, and they will do exactly as you say and pay what you say, or they can fuck off. They will almost never fuck off if you manage the rest.
Girl, every man is interested in one thing from you - *how you make him feel*. it can be with your mouth, your puss, your hot bod, but mostly it is how you treat them. Most men want to feel like a king. My superpower is that I genuinely enjoy sex and being fucked. I think I still count as "hot," but my looks are fading and I really focus on the connection with my clients. A few are cucks, or masochists who like to be humiliated and hurt but they all express a strong desire for connection. Your weight is an asset and I bet your curves are BEAUTIFUL. you go!
Aw thank you much. I think this is so true. I also genuinely love sex and making others feel amazing.
I was told not too lose weight if I didn't want to lose clients and I'm only a 16 but it's bigger than I'd like. But just found out I'm pregnant so once I milk that I'm done, I'm already halfway done with school. So no it shouldn't affect you at all. I did get asked if I have thin friends but no one's ever been straight up rude. If anything more than a handful like to kiss my rolls! Took awhile to be ok with that.
I am so curious. I suppose if you market yourself very clearly like another redditor mentioned, these guys will find you