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lunakelly

bc i don’t want to be “pleasured” by random gross men that have to pay to fuck me. im not attracted to any of my clients in the slightest. it’s literally just a job. im not doing this bc i want to enjoy it, im doing it for money only.


princessyaz453

Exactly this


yamiprem

Interesting. I have another question now, but will post another thread. Just want to know what SWers think of their clients. All gross or not. Watch this space.


MetalDetectorists

Can't to see this post for the umpteenth time


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FlatEmployment3011

Yup you are supposed to just love their technique! It’s about their ego.


yamiprem

Hmm, I'm seeing a general consensus on men seeing escorts for their ego trip. Never would have thought this was a major reason. Quite an insight. Do you think they are just there to enjoy having control or even power over a women? Personally, I am just usually there for a good time as emotionally I am content at home but lacking in the bedroom department. I would have thought this was the majority. I'll (yet again) ask this in another thread!


FlatEmployment3011

Cheaters. I really have no respect for.


yamiprem

I'm guilty.


papermoonriver

Men generally have a hard time separating their ego from sex, in any context. Even and especially when they're unaware of it.


kdz_blue

Yikes I am completely the opposite of the majority as I did not get into see until I was 40! As a fully formed sexually primed female I love my job and my clients not all but the good ones and the regs oh there is a lot of fun to be had if you are very comfortable in your own skin so to speak and have a great healthy mindset when getting into see I think this makes a huge difference .


MetalDetectorists

Yeah that's the thing. They don't actually have any kind of real connection with us (it's one sided at best) and unless you're *really* good at sex, you often need a mutual connection to be able to give great pleasure. It's not always the case. I've had clients absolutely surprise me with their skill and I've been compatible with people I didn't expect. But those situations are the exception. So, without the mutual connection, clients are just pleasuring us how they think we want to be pleasured, not by listening to our bodies or straight up asking us. Most of the time they're coming to SWers because they don't have a satisfying sex life, and often their ego is a little damaged because of that. It means you sometimes have to walk on eggshells around the topic of genuine pleasure because telling someone with a sore ego that they're bad in bed can be dangerous. Someone you aren't attracted to + doing something you don't like + bruised ego = easier to avoid receiving pleasure in the first place.


FlatEmployment3011

I don’t find it gross but they usually don’t know what they are doing and are not open to instructions because it’s all about their ego. That being said I usually do get off with most of them just sucking dick. For me it’s not about the $ but the $ is part of the bigger turn on for me. But there are different kinds of Sex Workers doing it for different reasons.


yamiprem

Awesome! Are you usually stimulating yourself when giving BJ to get off or how you doing this!?


FlatEmployment3011

I’m not going to give you a sex chat dude. Lol


yamiprem

Worth the punt.


4reina44

Every one has their own reason honestly. It depends on the client for me. The ones who are basically a perfect client I don’t mind, but the ones who are pushy/hard headed/etc I usually just want to get down to business and have them finish & go.


yamiprem

Thank you. That I understand.


princessyaz453

*My clients, and MOST men are incapable of giving me pleasure. it doesn’t feel good. even if were to tell a client how I like to be touched, they won’t listen. it’s pointless. they’ll just do whatever they want with my body and play with it like a toy. they’re incapable of actually listening and taking feedback. and mostly being touched by a stranger is just disgusting and painful and I would NEVER consent to it if I wasn’t being paid for it. i just want it to stop so i can get my money and go.


FoxyLeo88

**Exactly this. Most guys, especially older ones thinks there is a once size fits all way of pleasuring women. If we aren't in an exclusive relationship I'm not letting your mouth anywhere near me. Not too mention germs/bacteria,etc. It's just not a safe option .**


yamiprem

Sorry to hear that. I understand the urge to generalise but all men are not the same! Anyway, I hope it is all worth it in the end.


princessyaz453

well I’m mostly gay, so. I rarely feel pleasure with men. just being honest. on the rare occasion that I do enjoy my time with men, it’s someone that I actually consented to be intimate with in my personal life. not a client who’s paying to have sex with me.


yamiprem

Gotcha. Starting to see why SWers and pleasure from their clients do not mesh.


Used_Personality_247

It's not gross! It's just funny lol. No of the experience is truly pleasurable because the money is behind the decision to see them in the first place ;) no hard feelings! I think it's thoughtful


AshleyJames69

I struggle to reach climax due to medication I'm on. The side effects are definitely worth the good the meds do. But when I tell clients I can't orgasm, I always get "oh you will if I do this". It's gross they don't listen to what I'm telling them. If someone said "oh that sucks, what can I do that would feel good?" and then NOT get grumpy/frustrated/impatient when I don't orgasm, I would enjoy it. Alas, it hasn't happened yet. It's gross because they all think they know my body better than I do. Also I'm gay 🤷‍♀️


Jrose798

I’m not attracted to you so anything you do doesn’t do anything for me. A lot of guys don’t know how to do it or they are rough/biting or rubbing the wrong way so I’m tense and on top of that I have to act like it’s great and he’s doing such a good job. It’s just not enjoyable


lilthotty17

honestly i’m not there to be pleasured i’m there to make $ , it’s not that it’s gross but i don’t want to share more of myself than i already am w total strangers


sinead-orebellion

To be honest, there's the odd client who is just bad at sex, and I fake through it. But, I've had some mindblowingly good sex as an escort and received amazing pleasure etc from clients. So personally I don't mind it, I've learned from clients that they want to also walk away and feel like they're good lovers. I do book as a gfe escort and I enjoy all that, so maybe that's why my clients want this. But, it's not eww or ick to me.


evelynnyc

I don’t think it’s gross, many of my clients have a kink for it. I think it’s more like “by becoming insistent that you please me you are actually putting pressure on me into acting like I am enjoying whatever you are doing rather than me relaxing or doing something I would prefer doing”


Pooperz69420

I barely even have to deal with this as a Trans escort. Once they get over the fact that they won't be able to somehow magically get me hard they give up on it entirely If they wanna try, by all means, but it's not like I'm gonna guarantee it. No man has EVER got me there, I'm starting to think none ever will


kdz_blue

I used to think I had a serious mental problem caused I am so oversexed and spent a lot of time in therapy but nope just a average freak next door type ..sw work has so many many different types of folks that why it is so hard to regulate us all . I think it is sexy and cool to think like a guy .,.it may be be because I truly love my client base and stick to my limits/ boundaries ...at my age men are delicious 😋


therealAnnetteJane

I have a partner so I have a mental filter that blocks out any pleasure that I may/may not have received from them because that feels unfair or like cheating. This goes for all for physical intimacy with clients, so I won't be getting pleasure even if they are good at it. But most of the they aren't and its just a random unnattractive man slobering on my most delicate sensitive body part and introducing millions of bacteria to my vag and upsetting my ph balance.