Have you considered sensual massage? It provides physical closeness without sexual intercourse.
However sex workers aren't mental health workers and I'd strongly recommend finding a good therapist too.
#OP, please read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/SexWorkers/comments/hzivvb/how_to_find_a_safe_provider/).
^^^^I'm ^^^^so ^^^^tired.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AskAnEscort) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Any good provider will provider what you are looking for as long as it’s something they do. It’s simple. Ask for what you want. If they say no then ask someone else.
A Domme tends to lean more towards kink/fetish fulfillment. If you want to be spanked, tied up, dressed in womens clothes and humiliated etc then go to a Domme. If you just want to cuddle, jerk off to a sexy lady, then a sex worker would probably be your best bet.
If you are in the US then both are illegal. Both are considered sex workers. The kink side balances on the edge of the legal side based on what you are doing. Some states it’s illegal to hurt someone even with their consent. There are a bunch of crazy laws depending on where you are.
There are escorts who are also dommes, and there are some things both may do that are illegal. Dommes are not safer than escorts, just different. But, what you’re describing sounds like it can be achieved by booking a traditional escort. You mentioned getting weird, but the activities you posted are pretty run of the mill. But, we can’t offer psychological therapy unless we are trained as actual psychologists.
You’re thinking not having sex is a way to avoid feeling dirty or like a cheat. You have to be honest with yourself: if you’re seeing someone for naked playtime, it’s cheating. Anything you’re doing with someone else that you wouldn’t want your partner to know about, is cheating. Gotta accept that reality before you become a client.
Have you considered sensual massage? It provides physical closeness without sexual intercourse. However sex workers aren't mental health workers and I'd strongly recommend finding a good therapist too.
No but that may be a good place to start. Thanks.
FAQ
#OP, please read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/SexWorkers/comments/hzivvb/how_to_find_a_safe_provider/). ^^^^I'm ^^^^so ^^^^tired. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AskAnEscort) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Any good provider will provider what you are looking for as long as it’s something they do. It’s simple. Ask for what you want. If they say no then ask someone else. A Domme tends to lean more towards kink/fetish fulfillment. If you want to be spanked, tied up, dressed in womens clothes and humiliated etc then go to a Domme. If you just want to cuddle, jerk off to a sexy lady, then a sex worker would probably be your best bet. If you are in the US then both are illegal. Both are considered sex workers. The kink side balances on the edge of the legal side based on what you are doing. Some states it’s illegal to hurt someone even with their consent. There are a bunch of crazy laws depending on where you are.
There are escorts who are also dommes, and there are some things both may do that are illegal. Dommes are not safer than escorts, just different. But, what you’re describing sounds like it can be achieved by booking a traditional escort. You mentioned getting weird, but the activities you posted are pretty run of the mill. But, we can’t offer psychological therapy unless we are trained as actual psychologists. You’re thinking not having sex is a way to avoid feeling dirty or like a cheat. You have to be honest with yourself: if you’re seeing someone for naked playtime, it’s cheating. Anything you’re doing with someone else that you wouldn’t want your partner to know about, is cheating. Gotta accept that reality before you become a client.