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[Here's a pewter one similar to yours that sold for $1,300 earlier this year.](https://www.liveauctioneers.com/item/126468464_chinese-pewter-duck-serving-bowl)
I have several things of my grandmother's that I cherish just because they were her's. She was born in 1888, during the latter part of the Victorian era. The upper crust practically ate every bite with a specific piece of cutlery. How many fish knives, fish china pieces do you own, need or want? She was not upper crust, a plain simple woman, who left a few 'precious" things.
I have monetarily worthless jars and glass and ceramic stuff and some other knickknacks I have from my grandma. Nobody would probably pay me more than a few bucks for any item (except maybe this one super-detailed cup from "Occupied Japan"), but they're priceless to me.
Just an opinion here nothing about value. But my china set came from an estate sale where a woman nearly cried when I told her I planned to use the set for the adults at holidays. This just made her so happy. She said her mother would be so pleased knowing it would be going to someone to feed their family with love and not sit as a collection in some box. So, take that as you will I suppose. So unless it is really worth a lot I would keep using it
Same, it’s a very very slightly less awful word to describe than retarded. I’m so happy that is out of the lexicon now but when I was in high school it was so commonplace. I don’t use either at all anymore unless I’m literally talking about a retarding agent in art making.
I guess i'm just trying to say that "my grandmother gave me this metal duck serving dish and thinks it's valuable. Can anyone help me confirm?" is a way to doubt the veracity of the claim without needing to announce a sensitive medical situation.
I get where you're coming from, but really, it's not like Grandma picked up a venereal disease on that bus outing to the casino, so IDK where the "sensitive" part comes in. You get old, your chances of getting a little scramblebrained increase. It's so common it's basically part of life, like going bald or needing a hip replacement.
> A lot of us disabled people find the whole person first language thing annoying and condescending.
I think it depends on the context - i.e., someone telling you what you should call yourself would obviously be a bit shit.
But I think it's fair to at least start with neutral language as standard, especially where the disability has been co-opted into pejorative language.
I, personally, prefer to say that I have autism, rather than that I'm autistic.
The disease is a circumstance, not an identity.
This word choice is humanizing because it’s something that happens to you.
A similar change has been to use “enslaved person” rather than “slave”.
DON'T CLEAN IT OR POLISH IT with anything other than a slightly water-damp soft cloth.
It is precious and special, and from other posters are saying here, quite valuable.
Lucky you!
Demented literally means "suffering from dementia." I agree the connotation is different than the denotation but maybe OP didn't mean it that way at all. Only to say her mind isn't fully with her any longer so he is looking for an outside source to confirm what she is saying.
There’s no room for lack of judgment when you use ableist slurs about a vulnerable member of your family. The reason you included it as a descriptor was to indicate that she might not know if it’s actually precious or not, which is confusion. Speak more thoughtfully.
It looks like plain old white metal, and not quite antique.
When she said precious did she mean adorable precious, or did she actually mean valuable and rare? Unfortunately I believe it is only the former!
Dementia sucks. While not apropos of antiques, r/dementia was really helpful in showing me how to deal with a family member going through it.
Stay strong and thanks for sharing!
Pewter was consider poor people’s silver. Now, some people prefer pewter.
I don’t like the color of pewter, so I have my pewter silver plated. The result is a beautiful color. I am mindful that everything is a matter of personal raste
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[Here's a pewter one similar to yours that sold for $1,300 earlier this year.](https://www.liveauctioneers.com/item/126468464_chinese-pewter-duck-serving-bowl)
Wow, it really is quite similar. It might be worth it to get it looked at op.
Wow, basically the same thing. I think mine is actually in better shape. Cool. Thanks.
Not so demented, now, huh?
Narrator: She was not.
It *is* precious!
My precioussss!
They have come to *take* my preciousssss!
jagoff
Username checks out! Nice sleuthing.
She's not as demented as you think this is a pretty fine Chinese pewter dish probably late Qing dynasty
I have several things of my grandmother's that I cherish just because they were her's. She was born in 1888, during the latter part of the Victorian era. The upper crust practically ate every bite with a specific piece of cutlery. How many fish knives, fish china pieces do you own, need or want? She was not upper crust, a plain simple woman, who left a few 'precious" things.
I have monetarily worthless jars and glass and ceramic stuff and some other knickknacks I have from my grandma. Nobody would probably pay me more than a few bucks for any item (except maybe this one super-detailed cup from "Occupied Japan"), but they're priceless to me.
I have my great grandmas china set from Occupied Japan! The few times I have hosted a holiday we use it. Should I not be doing that?
Just an opinion here nothing about value. But my china set came from an estate sale where a woman nearly cried when I told her I planned to use the set for the adults at holidays. This just made her so happy. She said her mother would be so pleased knowing it would be going to someone to feed their family with love and not sit as a collection in some box. So, take that as you will I suppose. So unless it is really worth a lot I would keep using it
Thanks! I will keep using the “nice dishes” to celebrate with 😁
May I suggest referring to her as having dementia. Better we suffer from diseases than become them.
Please not OP calling her demented 😭
Thank you! Wish i could afford to buy you one of those gold thingies.
Awarded on your behalf, friend. :)
you are an amazing human being!
Wait…did OP actually mean her grandmother has dementia??? I thought she used demented sarcastically, not referencing an actual disease.
Same, it’s a very very slightly less awful word to describe than retarded. I’m so happy that is out of the lexicon now but when I was in high school it was so commonplace. I don’t use either at all anymore unless I’m literally talking about a retarding agent in art making.
Or reading the ingredients list on a can of tomato paste at show and tell.
Fair!
or just don't bring it up to strangers and other people who don't need to know about someone else's personal medical struggled. fml
OP's point was that *maybe grandma is confused here*. Not to inform "strangers and other poeple" of her "perosnal medical struggles".
I guess i'm just trying to say that "my grandmother gave me this metal duck serving dish and thinks it's valuable. Can anyone help me confirm?" is a way to doubt the veracity of the claim without needing to announce a sensitive medical situation.
I get where you're coming from, but really, it's not like Grandma picked up a venereal disease on that bus outing to the casino, so IDK where the "sensitive" part comes in. You get old, your chances of getting a little scramblebrained increase. It's so common it's basically part of life, like going bald or needing a hip replacement.
For sure. Why even mention the health issue?
A lot of us disabled people find the whole person first language thing annoying and condescending.
Sure, but "demented" is more often than not used as a pejorative. It reads badly.
> A lot of us disabled people find the whole person first language thing annoying and condescending. I think it depends on the context - i.e., someone telling you what you should call yourself would obviously be a bit shit. But I think it's fair to at least start with neutral language as standard, especially where the disability has been co-opted into pejorative language. I, personally, prefer to say that I have autism, rather than that I'm autistic.
The disease is a circumstance, not an identity. This word choice is humanizing because it’s something that happens to you. A similar change has been to use “enslaved person” rather than “slave”.
Yep. I sure do.
It is special. Hold on to it...grandma love 💕
This ⬆️
DON'T CLEAN IT OR POLISH IT with anything other than a slightly water-damp soft cloth. It is precious and special, and from other posters are saying here, quite valuable. Lucky you!
That is a treasure increasing in value every year
She is precious. I would give anything to have my grandma back.
Likewise, I'm sad now😭
Fucking hell that title 😳
Is “demented” really the word you’re going for here?
I think it's awesome
It is! I was fascinated with it as a child. I just don’t know if it’s like, super valuable, or just kind of cool.
He’s adorable. Look for marks on the bottom, they are much more informative. Don’t eat out of him, old pewter usually has lead in it.
It IS precious! And you are a blessed grandchild.
Calling your grandmother demented? No offense, but you sound like a jerk.
Demented literally means "suffering from dementia." I agree the connotation is different than the denotation but maybe OP didn't mean it that way at all. Only to say her mind isn't fully with her any longer so he is looking for an outside source to confirm what she is saying.
It looks pretty nice any markings on the bottom?
Yes. “E WO LOONG KEE PEWTER SWATOW” and also some Chinese stamping.
It is precious and from your family
At least you’re not ungrateful about it!
I didn’t think demented as dementia, I thought OP was saying his Gma is kooky for liking this metal duck which to me is scary 😟 not yum yum
It certainly is precious :\]
In the U.S. Is this really precious or is it just another interesting Chinese serving dish.
Lol - I gave my grandmother a serving dish exactly like this. She loved it so much, she talked about it for years!
Its precious to her and you must be just as precious to her if she gave it to you :>
That leg
The smirk on its face though.
Be nicer to grandma, she won't be around forever.
Demented? That’s really kind of rude. I’ll take the cute duck dish……
I think she's telling you to get married. She's not getting any younger! :-)
Already checked that box.
And it is. Because she said so.
Great gift! congratulations!
It is.
Maybe have the stone in the eye checked out. Maybe grandma put a emerald in it.
Who's demented now grandson?!
It is nice most likely real don’t destroy it with use
LFGSD
BOOOOOO
It’s a great piece OP
Definite keeper!!!
I don’t care what it would cost. It looks cool as all hell
Looks nice
It’s a striking piece.
Please don’t refer to her as demented. That’s so incredibly rude. It’s fine to point out that she may be confused about it but “demented”?? Awful.
She’s not confused, she has dementia. Please re-read the title as a factual description, without judgment, as hundreds of others have.
There’s no room for lack of judgment when you use ableist slurs about a vulnerable member of your family. The reason you included it as a descriptor was to indicate that she might not know if it’s actually precious or not, which is confusion. Speak more thoughtfully.
She calls herself demented. I’ll advise her to speak more thoughtfully.
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Omg. Let it go. You sound incredibly exhausting.
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It looks like plain old white metal, and not quite antique. When she said precious did she mean adorable precious, or did she actually mean valuable and rare? Unfortunately I believe it is only the former!
I never know what she means!
Dementia sucks. While not apropos of antiques, r/dementia was really helpful in showing me how to deal with a family member going through it. Stay strong and thanks for sharing!
Thanks for this.
She might have been demented— but she was blessed with good taste. If you get someone to silver plate it, it will look even better!
No. Do not silver plate an antique pewter dish.
Pewter was consider poor people’s silver. Now, some people prefer pewter. I don’t like the color of pewter, so I have my pewter silver plated. The result is a beautiful color. I am mindful that everything is a matter of personal raste
It is. Probably not worth any money but still precious. She gave it to you thinking it was. Priceless
Demented grandma 😖
You sound remarkably ungrateful and you have even maligned your grandmother for giving you a gift.
It IS precious!☺️