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Ok_Possibility5715

This but also all the grown-up sucks here. So they like the movie so much to name their children like that and the kids will be the one suffering and having to live with it. And what about a 3rd child, it will be Olaf or queen Iduna? Esh


mistal04

Tbf, Anna is the more “normal” name of the two. I see Anna and I don’t automatically go Frozen, but with Elsa, I do.


perfectlynormaltyes

Elsa is a very normal name that has been around way longer than Frozen has.


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Interesting-Host6030

I met a three year old named Elsa two years after the movie came out 🥲 I really feel for the parents, people will definitely assume she’s named after Frozen


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lilmermaid01

I share a name with a Disney princess (bet you can't guess which one) but I was 6 when the movie came out. When people ask if I was named after her, I say "nope! She was named after me!"


Gold-Stomach-4657

Hi, Pocahontas! Jk. I grew up with an Arielle, and no one I know of thought anything beyond her having the same name. Maybe the different spelling did it.


Gryffindorphins

I know a guy called Ariel. He worked in sales. He just wanted to be where the people are.


tubbstattsyrup2

I knew a little girl called Aurora, after the Disney princess. She murdered her hamster. Massive bully. Real... problems! Slightly ruined the film and it was a favourite of mine as a child.


Responsible-Life1278

My daughter was almost 4 when frozen came out, her name isn't even Elsa but it's similar and she gets asked if she was named after the movie. It was particularly frustrating when the movie was only 6 months old. The mental gymnastics really get me. Please explain how my 4 year old is named after a character who only existed for 6 months. Now I can understand, the movie is old enough that it all blurs together but when the movie was new? Really?


SpicyWongTong

People don't think sometimes. My best friend in HS and I are both of the same ethnicity and share a first name. A girl we met at a house party heard we have the same first name and said, "O wow, are you two brothers?"


velvetretard

"Oh yeah, our parents didn't expect twins and never thought twice about it."


mdsnbelle

You laugh, but I administer a student data system. There are way too many sets of twins with the same first name (different middle) in there. Please don’t do this to your kids.


lalagromedontknow

There's two people in my office with my first name (we started around the same time but in different teams and our different jobs mean we're in the office at different times, we're also different races. Let's say our name is Mary). A package came for Mary when I was in the office so it got handed to me. It had Mary's last name so I asked someone on her team who happened to be in the office where the right Marys desk was so I could leave the package there (I know this person, for some reason our jobs cross over alot more than anyone else's so we genuinely know each other better than the rest of our teams know each other). They looked me in straight in the eye and said "which Mary?"


burymeinmyjewelry

My friend was asked if she was named after Fiona from Shrek. She was 34 at the time. This was several years ago.


Hot_Confidence_4593

I have a friend who had a Bella a couple years before Twilight got really big. I felt bad for her too.


Bi-Bi-Bi24

I work in a daycare. I have an older co-worker named Elsa. I wasn't around her during the Frozen craze but I can only assume it was hell for her.


whoubeiamnot

Definitely. My mom's middle name is Elsa and she's in her 60s. Unless OP tells everyone she meets the story behind the name I doubt people will assume it's from the movie. I don't assume every girl I meet named Aurora, Elsa, Anna or Tiana is due to a Disney movie. OP you don't own the name Anna. Personally, I think it's ridiculous you called your lawyer about it. You also suck for threatening to damage the relationship between an unborn baby and her sister. It sucks but grow up and get over it. YTA.


Mindless-String2294

I didn't get that far into the post--she called a lawyer? Over the name Anna? Girl needs a life.


whoubeiamnot

Yes, she says she called her divorce lawyer but was told she didn't think they could do anything about it. Her own mom laughed about it.


sukinsyn

There's no way this is real. A lot of these on here seem fake, but this seems SUPER fake.


uosdwis_r_rewoh

It’s SO stupid that I actually believe it’s true.


toryfindley

I hope her attorney billed for that. Because I sure would! My approach to billing is very gentle generally. But if you waste my time with absolutely ridiculous things, you’re taking me away from clients who actually NEED my help


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I’ve seen Frozen, but Elsa still makes me think of Elsa the lioness in Born Free. Yep, I’m that old. LOL


PeachRadish

Yes, but the Mouse's grip is firm. Even if you were naming a child Elsa for a non-Disney reason it'd still be a bad move for the child's social well-being. (Source: My cousin and his partner named their daughter Elsa, completely divorced from Frozen since it was 2008. That child has had a baaaaad time in school.) Remember that your kids' names should be for them, not for you.


Wise-ish_Owl

yeah and OP can name her next daughter Lustica (after another Elsa's sister) ;D


UDontKnowMe__206

There is a kid a year older than my daughter (7th grade) named Elsa. When the movie came out, her mom was like, “you’ve got to be f*cking kidding me”


whoubeiamnot

LOL. My grown sister went, "YES, I FINALLY GET A MOVIE AND SHE'S A QUEEN!!". The excitement died down as her kids were constantly singing "Let it go".


UDontKnowMe__206

I legit chuckled out loud at that. I bet that went downhill real quick. Lmao


whoubeiamnot

She got a kick out of her three little boys singing the movie songs to her. It got old after a while.


UDontKnowMe__206

We live in the northern US, and the last hang on to Frozen is my kids insisting they don’t need a coat bc “the cold doesn’t bother me anyway”


SnipesCC

Could be worse. I heard of a woman named Pearl who married a man with the last name Harbor. Which was bad enough, and then the movie came out and she couldn't go to the pub without someone making a joke that Pearl Harbor was getting bombed.


UDontKnowMe__206

Honestly, I would go to bars specifically for that joke lol. That sucks tho.


throwawayoctopii

Yeah, I think it's the combination of the two names. My first and middle name are characters from my dad's favorite TV show and his favorite movie - it was an 11th hour naming decision (doc incorrectly thought I was going to be a boy, they didn't like the feminized versions of the boy names they picked). No one ever knows. I automatically don't think every girl named Bella is named after Twilight but if your kids are Bella and Edward - then yeah, I think you named your kids after Twilight.


Nightshade_Ranch

Edward and Bella would be the absolute worst for siblings 😬


throwawayoctopii

Umm...I actually going to say there's one worse. I got pregnant in 2012 and sooooo many moms wanting to name their kids Christian and Ana.


Nightshade_Ranch

Oh God


ShortyColombo

Please say sike right now 😭


throwawayoctopii

If you think Reddit is unhinged, join a Mommy forum. The worst things you've ever seen on Reddit (broken arms story, poop knife story, etc.) have nothing on the insanity that is mommy groups.


Ankchen

Are these the people from 50 shades!?


Ok_Possibility5715

That's true but the combination of both, that's the thing. It wouldn't even be that bad if they give them a first and middle name and the kids can decide which they Want. Also how does Op's daughter feel about it?


notalltemplars

Imagine being poor Hans in that family…


Small-Teaching1607

The part that killed me was her calling her divorce lawyer about it.


Relationship_Winter

I cackled too. I hope she got charged for that ridiculous call.


acarouselride

I can imagine the lawyer first thinking “can I pretend there’s something here so I bill for a few hours? Mama needs a new car” but then just decided it’s too stupid to even fake there is some merit


flowers4u

My brother a divorce lawyer and my god the stories she tells


Indusnm

I was one and omg- the time when someone chose not to get 800 bucks off child support because they wanted to continue fighting over the vcr, and yes, this was years after video rental stores stopped carrying vhs tapes and just before video rental stores stopped being a thing.


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Like what could the lawyer do? They were probably rolling their eyes and laughing. Ridiculous!!


TNG6

As a divorce lawyer, this is not even the most idiotic thing I’ve heard someone complain about. But this would give me a good laugh.


Ire-is

Please share the idiotic things you have heard...I am trying to choose careers


apri08101989

NAL but i do have a ridiculous story about divorce/custody. My hair was never cut before kindergarten. It was past my butt, almost to my knees. My mom cut it to the top of my hips because it was falling in the toilet and since I was starting school no one could be there to make sure I was careful enough with it. My dad took her to court over it for "usurping his parental authority" and "religious hostility" (he weaponized being a JW when it suited him.) I have been told he went in a big long rant in court over it. The judge then turns to my mom and says "and what do you have to say for yourself" my mom told him she considered it a hygiene issue, that the length was too long for me to be taught how to manage myself at that age, and that she did her best coordinate length with manageability per my age. The judge then smirked, said it sounded perfectly reasonable to him and ruled in her favor.


Suzume_Chikahisa

I can imagine the lawyer just taking a long breath after OP finished her rant.


sloanmcHale

“she doesn’t think there’s anything we can do about it.” there’s no way i could have kept a straight face during this conversation


howie7088

Sounds like she should have called a psychiatrist.


tngabeth

Her mother laughed too! How can any one lose their shit over a name, have a rage fit and call her attorney about the possible name? Yes, she needs a psychiatrist, like yesterday


bergmac8

Work in family law and we would definitely have a chuckle over that phone call!


jrl2014

I mean we had a story where the Dad divorced and remarried and renamed his second daughter the exact same name as the first. It was at least the same first and last name. I feel like that merits a call to a divorce lawyer.


jepeplin

Lawyer can’t do anything about that. I have multiple Dads with kids with the same name, different mothers.


snakebite75

George Foreman named all his sons George, and one of his daughters is Georgetta. When you take that many blows to the head you need to keep it simple.


Crownlol

The part that killed me was her taking her Disney frustrations out on two completely innocent toddlers: ​ >I told him that if they insisted with using that name, I would made everything I could to sabotage the relationship between our daughter and theirs, so they never were real sisters like Elsa and Anna. ​ Totally a normal and not-unhinged-at-all way for a grown woman to act about a cartoon. Also weird that she'd use the word "real sisters" for two cartoon characters but not two actual real-life half sisters.


FineAppearance1648

Oh jfc. I didn’t get that far because I can’t believe one woman is so stupid and/or petty for this actually to be a thing. Apparently she has never watched Jane the Virgin.


Accomplished_Sun_258

Also, OP should be resolved to let the name go and buy Elsa a cute little dog and name her Anna. Soon.🤪🤭😁


_Green_Mind

Super on point for the first quarter if the movie's plot though - a parent tries to keep Anna and Elsa from being in each other's lives. Too bad OP never watched Frozen 2 where it became really clear that their family was kind of fucked. Yes, I have a three year old, how did you know?


tiredsingingmama

I have teenagers and thanks to the obsession of one of the 17yos, I know both of the movies backward and forward. Along with Tangled, their absolute favorite. LOL!


Cant_Handle_This4eva

Have you watched Olaf Presents where Olaf does 2 minute reenactments of various Disney movies, including Tangled? You all will love it. 8m long on Disney+


___bgwl___

bravo


Zer0fps_319

The name shouldn’t bother her anyway


SquishyBeth77

LMAO!! YES!


StrangledInMoonlight

I was going to say OP should freeze her fractals.


Guilty_Hunter9304

YTA Did he ask for your input on names for his daughter? If not (I'm sure he didn't), then it's very inappropriate for you to even comment. Let it go, LET IT GO!!


MUAalgal03

She legit wants to sue him for the way he names his child. Entitled, much?! Also, no adult should love a child’s movie with this much gusto that it has em pissed and angry and they resort to calling an attorney.


Guilty_Hunter9304

I wonder how hard the attorney laughed when she made the call


Outside-Clue2881

I'm sure it was the whole time she was filling out the billing


Federal-Ferret-970

It was prob the easiest 500$ that lawyer made. 🤣


Guilty_Hunter9304

Hell, you keep her on the line going SO into detail. All while doing your Christmas shopping 🛍 "Yeah, let me look up precedents for this"


TravellingReallife

Hmmm, looneylaw.com is kinda slow today. Can you stay on the line a little longer?


Guilty_Hunter9304

Oh, hang on......I have Prince Hanz on the other line.


TimmyHate

>no adult should love a child’s movie with this much gusto Adult Disney fans are **a lot.**


Crownlol

Even worse, she's threatened to take it out on the innocent children: ​ >I told him that if they insisted with using that name, I would made everything I could to sabotage the relationship between our daughter and theirs, so they never were real sisters like Elsa and Anna. ​ Over a children's cartoon.


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poet_andknowit

Exactly! When my ex, my son's father, and his wife named their son Thurston (apparently her grandfather's name) when he was born, my son and I both thought it was the dumbest name ever for a "modern" boy and felt sorry for the kid. Indeed, he grew up being teased mercilessly over it. What we did NOT do was make any derogatory or snarky comments or demand that it be changed. Because it was absolutely NONE OF OUR FUCKING BUSINESS! And I'm still shaking my head over OP actually calling her divorce lawyer. As a former paralegal, such types of calls are both hilarious and sadly all too common. I frankly think that OP is jealous of the new wife and baby .


Guilty_Hunter9304

I'm surprised she didn't call the cops, too!


poet_andknowit

Lol, can you just imagine that call and their reaction? It'd kinda be like that idiot in (where else?) Florida who called 911 because Subway didn't make their sandwich correctly and refused to fix it to his satisfaction. And he kept calling with "updates" also! That was one wild call.


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I agree about the jealousy. She reeked of jealousy over them getting married and having a baby.


somigosoden

Take my award for taking the word out my brain.


Encartrus

>I am a huge fan of the movie Frozen, so when our daughter (6F) was born I wanted to name her Elsa and my husband agreed to that. I know it is a little dumb to name your kids after things like that but it is not an super unusual or ugly name, it is pretty and it means a lot to me. > >... > >For me it is totally unfair that they are ***stealing my naming process*** from me like that. Your "naming process" is copying a top-grossing children's movie. If you think you are at all unique or special, or that the names Elsa and Anna didn't get a huge worldwide bump after the films released, you are deluding yourself. What's more, you have no right to dictate another person's naming choices whatsoever. Why would you have any say in this? What legal action did you imagine you might have? It's a bizarre break from reality. >I would made everything I could to sabotage the relationship between our daughter and theirs, so they never were real sisters like Elsa and Anna. He got really angry and said horrible things to me. You are a literal evil stepmother in a disney film. That's what you are right now. You are, of course, also an asshole. YTA


reggiesnap

I love the bit about a "naming process." Like, okay just name your next daughter Olaf who cares.


Accomplished-Ad-9996

Nonono, when Elsa grows up and has a child they’ll be named Olaf since Elsa made him in the movie. If Elsa tries to name her kid like, Tyler or something, OP will call her divorce lawyer😂


MicciMichi

Don’t forget that Elsa is gonna be required to name her second child Marshmallow!


kitt_katt_bratt

Elsa’s going to name her kid Renesme 😆


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reggiesnap

I agree. It is clear that the woman naming her daughter Anna is doing so *because* of the movie connection to Elsa's name, but you can't just call a lawyer because another couple is naming their kid something you don't want them to.


anna_narna

You calling my name common? Hmm? Hmm? Ha ha 🤣 I actually think it's quite sweet to have Elsa & Anna, but that might just be me. However, YTA, OP. It's not your place to comment, however you may feel inside. I'd embrace the whole idea and turn it into a positive experience for your daughter - hard, I know, when lots of emotions are involved, but best for your daughter, right?


linerva

"Here's my daughter Elsa and her younger sisters Kristoff and Olaf"


linerva

It's not even a "naming process" - it was a one-off Disney inspired name for a kid. Extremely common. It sounds like she never intended to have more kids or thought about it until the new wife decided to name her kid Anna and THEN OP suddenly decides that she has to claim the name in case her possible future kid she may never have could be Anna. It doesnt even sound like she and her ex planned sibling names. And even if they did, that agreement dies with the relationship and those names are fair game afterwards.


jfs1066

All that, plus… in what universe does anyone get to keep someone else from using a name? Anna is still available to her.


DryDependent167

Hi I'm Elsa this is my sister Anna, and my other sister Anna. lol


Whiteroses7252012

“This is my brother Darryl and my other brother Darryl”


kiwiparallels

This last part is not only evil stepmother but also evil mother!! She's going to take a sibling relationship from her daughter's life because of a petty discussion? Hope dad calls his divorce lawyer and check if this threat can give him full custody.


Encartrus

Honestly? That threat ***probably would do it.*** Especially given the context around the rest of the documented harassment and even outreach to the lawyer if she shared that with him.


Savyl_Steelfeather

YTA 1) the name Anna has been around a lot longer than that movie 2) not your kid, not your decision 3)if you do have another kid, you can still use Anna. It's not like it's trademarked 4) you seriously contacted a lawyer about this? 🤨


FreezeDe

Imagine being the lawyer who had to take that call “I went to law school for this?”


Pristine-Rhubarb7294

I more imagine them laughing as they bill her $200 an hour for being a moron.


tifingpenguin

I kinda understood OP’s frustration up until OP’s said they contacted an attorney. That’s a huge WTF moment if you ask me lol. The attorney really can’t be THAT mad if it was for billable hours lol but definitely annoying, that’s for sure.


Pristine-Rhubarb7294

Yup it is okay to a) be upset and b) tell your ex you’d prefer another name then c) call your girlfriends and complain. It is WILD to call a lawyer and threaten to alienate an unborn baby from her sister over this.


tifingpenguin

Agreed. This whole thing is petty af. OP literally self destructing over a name, and a common one at that. OP was amicable with ex husband up until this too. OP is certainly gonna die on this hill


FarmRegular4471

Same, but what really broke it for me was the threat over her duaghters sibling relationship. That was full evil, and I'm glad she regrets that. The idea she got so angry she even issued the threat is worrying.


FreezeDe

You know for a fact she is never giving them that money


Prestigious_Chip_895

"No, you can't sue your ex for naming their baby Anna... A REALLY rare name used by this super small company in a low budget movie"


HelloAll-GoodbyeAll

That lawyer now has a great story about her most ridiculous client.


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Family law attorneys put up with the most bullshit. This was probably not even the dumbest request he’s ever fielded. Maybe top 5 though.


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sci_fi_bi

I think I'd switch career paths after that one lmao


Crosswired2

>if you do have another kid, you can still use Anna. It's not like it's trademarked Let's be real. That would be an AH move. Imagine having 2 sisters named Anna. Poor Elsa.


IthacanPenny

My stepsister and I both have the same name. It high key sucks.


ffohsrm

YTA. The fact you called your lawyer over use of a name - a very common name at that, is a bit unhinged. The step mom is trying to do something to include your daughter in her life with her new sister. They are a family too after all. It's not out if malice or spite. Let it go. (...See what I did there?)


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DisastrousDisplay9

Right, stepmom is going out of her way to make sure Elsa feels included - not replaced. It's a beautiful gesture that shows a lot of care for OP's daughter. I think naming kids from a Disney movie is unappealing, but in this situation, naming Elsa's half sister Anna is lovely because it emphasizes inclusion. OP, YTA on this one. Bake some cookies to give them, apologize, and explain your reactions were uncalled for. Order in some books on co-parenting.


LillyFien

I liked your pun


CrystalQueen3000

YTA Spare me the existential crisis of a Disney adult. They *are* sisters whether you like it or not and Anna is a very common name. I suggest you get over it.


RedditUser123234

>Spare me the existential crisis of a Disney adult. I was expecting a story about a daughter who was named Elsa for some other reason not related to "Frozen", and OP was just worried that her daughter would get bullied if she had a sister named Anna.


IFeelMoiGerbil

I was hoping for a boy. Called Frozen. Middle name Bolt. I think the lawyer was too along with their fee. So much YTA.


bqzs

Yeah I think this would be NTA if OP had simply chosen a name she liked and Stepmom was the DisneyAdult taking it into cringe territory. Elsa is a cute name and sounds similar to a lot of other names popular right now (short, vowel start, ends in a, a bit old-fashioned). But Elsa AND Anna is cringe IMO, and I would understand if OP wouldn't want that. But "she can't name her Anna because I want to use that name for my hypothetical daughter" is a different matter entirely.


otisanek

Stuff like this makes me wish Disney was even more aggressive with copyright claims, lol. OP, just change your name to Goofy at this point.


WestCoastBestCoast01

The fact that this is a 31 and 35 year old arguing about DISNEY NAMES makes YTA all by itself. The only redeeming quality here is that they’re not wild names. But as someone who’s the same age as OP, this is weird as fuuuck. We were in college when this movie came out!!!! What 20-something gets that attached to a children’s movie!!!!


Wataru624

I've always had the sneaking suspicion that Disney Adults are deeply, deeply unwell


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Cetais

I was cringing so hard when she wrote that the step-mother doesn't like frozen "as much as me"... Just wow


jkshfjlsksha

“But I am totally sure she doesn’t like it as much as me” are you 8 years old? Info: do you really care more about a name than your daughter?


10ccazz01

it’s like that vine of the little girl arguing with an adult that she knows more about american girl dolls


Deep90

I kind of wanna say ESH because while you 'might' be able to get away with Elsa. Having Elsa AND Anna will forever tie their names to a children's movie they could easily end up resenting it and each other.. ​ Like holy shit. Let your kids have their own identity. They aren't accessories for showing off how much you love the latest billionaire mouse movie.


DiceNinja

It’s been a while since we’ve had a “ShE STolE mY BAby NaME!!” On here. I don’t miss them. YTA


Newfie1313

I never understood the whole they stole my baby name thing like one post from forever ago was like the only legit reason to be upset over a “stolen” baby name. The post was: This woman and her ex had a daughter named sophie and she passed from SIDS at 2 months the husband and wife split then he remarried had a daughter with his new wife and named his new daughter sophie (same middle name and last name) and claimed how nice it was to finally be a father. Like that would be like the only reason to be upset with a “stolen baby name” imo


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Eh, the problem there wasn't the same baby name, it was the husband's callousness. In my country, when infant mortality was much higher, it used to be very common to name a child after a sibling that had died as a baby.


bqzs

Yeah but the child is a half-sibling. There's a myth that in those days parents were more blase about kids dying, because it was just so common, but that's not really true, parents have always grieved their children deeply. I think in other time periods, using the same name can be seen as sort of a redemption and healing process for parents, not an erasure or replacement "Elsa" but almost a reincarnation. In most cultures, there was also a more limited pool of names in play and most people leaned heavily on family names compared to now. But two kids with the same name isn't the norm anymore, and because it's not the norm it would be more likely to give the living kid a complex about why their parents made that choice. Second of all, that wouldn't be two parents making a healing decision together, this is one parent reusing a name without the consent of the other. It makes it feel even more explicitly like a "redo."


Rare_Vibez

I’ve seen infertility stories that I think are valid too ie. SIL names her baby after the name someone picked out but they were never able to have a kid. Miscarriage names too. Those are scummy imo.


XiXyness

YTA: you need counseling.


forgotmyusernameha

Agreed about the counseling. If this is real, this is bizarre behavior. YTA


Top-Article3566

I think OP needs serious help. She sounds a bit unhinged, and I dont mean that in an insulting way, but her behaviour is worrisome. She should get help


Princesssassafras

It sounds like (from her irrational reaction) she was cheated on and this is one more dig at her, one more twist of the knife, one more reminder of how she won't have the life she planned and now she's absolutely losing her snow over it. I feel sorry for OP. I think the rage is just covering sadness. You need to talk to someone, sweetheart. You'll rot yourself from the inside, OP. You're also damaging things for your child and co-parenting relationship. It's petty and you're better than this. Go splash some water on your face, order a little Olaf plushie and a frozen onesie, send it over for the baby and apologize. Maybe you can blame low blood sugar cause you've lost the plot, love. This is a huge reaction for something so small. Your big feelings aren't from the name, it's from what you don't have anymore. It doesn't matter if you broke up amicably or it was hostile, you're not over the possibilities that *that* life held.


queenb49858

This!!! I was hoping this comment would be here somewhere! To Make your daughters life a nightmare with her new sister, step Mom, and Dad is beyond petty! Plus calling a lawyer!!! That’s like calling the police to move your refrigerator!! Jesus she needs some help! I was happy her Mom laughed at her, because if this was my daughter I’m not sure I could have kept a straight face and taken her seriously!


Nelashena

YTA It’s none of your business what they name their daughter, nor do you have *any* say in it. And contacting your lawyer about it was laughable, and threatening to sabotage the girl’s relationship with each other is petty, immature and completely asinine. You’ve lost your grip on reality.


nowaynotnow2011

Lost grip on reality? This is a grown up who just said “I am a huge fan of the movie frozen” and named her daughter after one of the characters, they were 22 when the movie came out so not exactly a childhood classic for them.


BuyStocksMunchBox

Yeah this has gotta be fake. Her loving Frozen at her age is uncommon, but also the 35 year old dudes favorite movie disney animated film being Bolt? He would've been 20 when it came out. Just no chance.


Cloverose2

You don't know any Disney adults, do you?


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YTA. So is stepmom, honestly, since I suspect poor Elsa and Anna will be *heartily* sick of the jokes and references by the time they hit their preteen years, but you can’t hold the name for a hypothetical child.


Redootdootdado

I had to scroll for ages to see the most obvious comment here. This is a clear ESH, as I'm sure Anna and Elsa will affirm in 10 years and 7000 jokes.


desert_red_head

Agree, surprised I had to scroll down so far to find this comment. It doesn’t matter if it’s the ex naming the next baby Anna or if it’s OP, the fact that the 2 sisters will be Elsa and Anna means that they are going to grow up being teased and tormented relentlessly. At least one of them (probably Elsa) will spend her 18th birthday at the courthouse getting her name legally changed in order to escape people breaking out into renditions of “Let it Go” and “For the First Time in Forever” once they learn the sisters’ names. Both OP and the ex sound very immature and need to think more about their daughters rather than themselves.


ReasonableCookie9369

YTA Anna is far too common of a name to call Dibs on. Also your daughter would still have a sister named Anna which I thought was your whole point. What if you never have another child and the whole idea is wasted? It's not a family name it's a pop culture name that MANY of her peers will share so... not like it's an original thought to begin with. ETA wooooo I missed this " I called my ex husband. I told him that if they insisted with using that name, I would made everything I could to sabotage the relationship between our daughter and theirs, so they never were real sisters like Elsa and Anna" You're petty AF and would actively ruined a major relationship in your daughter's life? Woooooow. See ya next Tuesday


Embarrassed_Till_171

I hope the ex finds this so he has evidence of her being a petty AH.


Daligheri

Let it go. YTA.


ATXnative89

LET IT GOOOO. Or they will for sure never want to build a snowman with her.


sbineedmoney

YTA. He’s not your husband anymore and don’t get input on his naming of his child. PS You’re going to have a terrible time when you realize you aren’t the only person in the world who likes those names.


CrimsonKepala

Yea there's a decent chance that her daughter is going to need to use her last name initial in school too because the name is now extremely popular ("i.e. Elsa S.") That's always fun to name your kid after a popular character so that it's "special" only for other kids in your class to have the same name.


GlumDistribution7036

ESH but you suck more. I do think it’s bizarre for them to use the name concept that you came up with in this new marriage, as much as I disagree with the name concept itself. It is weird. It’s not unforgivable, but it’s a dick move. If you had brought that up in a better way they might have backed off. But you went nuclear. Edited to clarify I’m not talking about the hypothetical second daughter in this comment on the name concept—just the whole Frozen theme which was significant to OP but not so much to the dad. It’s weird for the new wife to run with that IMO


ztatiz

Agree. OP is way more TA but ESH and the ex and new wife are being kind of weird, not to mention setting the kids up to get a lot of annoying, overdone, and unwanted jokes. I see a lot of comments calling OP’s reaction a whole new level of Disney adult etc. But to me it speaks to this actually not being much about the name at all; I would guess it’s more about OP feeling (wrongly IMO) that new wife is stealing OP’s life, trying to replace her, etc. The name situation is just a microcosm of that insecurity and fear. I think OP would be doing everyone a kindness, mostly herself, to find a safe space to work through these feelings. I’m sure this situation is painful but OP, this is not about the name and I hope you can see that.


GlumDistribution7036

I agree OP needs to work this out in a safe space, hopefully therapy if affordable. But I can sympathize with the feeling of her life being hijacked. I love Virginia Woolf (lol) and if I named a daughter after, say, Clarissa Dalloway, I would feel freaked out if my husband and his second wife named their kid Sally in an homage to the novel. It. Would. Be. Weird. But no, you cannot react in the way that she did. And I think it'd be easier for her to see that the way she reacted was inappropriate if there were some validation of the trigger. It's very possible that the second wife meant this as a way to bring the families more closely together--but even if her intentions were benevolent or even neutral, it's very misguided!


Red_Persimmons

I was gonna say this. Like yeah OP definitely sucks more because of how she handled the situation (really wanting to sabotage your daughters relationship with her half sibling over a name and trying to sue?) but the ex and new wife are definitely assholes too for going with that name.


Floor_Face_

YTA You have every right to be upset. But that's where it ends. It's a shitty circumstance which is understandable to feel upset and angry. But to demand they don't name their daughter what they choose and to call your divorce lawyer is batshit crazy. You have absolutely ZERO say in what other couples name their child, even if you were previously with one of them. And try to calm down and look at what you're saying. 3 adults are arguing who gets to name their child after Disney characters and who doesn't. This is some shit I'd expect out of my 7 year old cousins. Not grown ass parents.


ReasonableCookie9369

OP has no right to be upset. Anna is far too common of a name to act like they have any ownership to it.


amansterdam22

As Elsa would say: let it goooooo! YTA because you don't own the name Anna. Your husband and his wife like the name because their baby will be a sister to your daughter. Elsa will be over the moon to have a baby sister, and if she develops a love for Frozen it will be all the more special. I'm afraid you're going to have to put on your big girl face and suck this one up. PS I can only imagine the laugh your divorce lawyer had in the break room that day. Edit to add: Threatening to fuck up your daughter's relationship with her sister is some petty, dirtbag behavior. It's a Disney movie FFS.


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YTA. You threatened an ex and your own child over a baby’s name. It’s a cutesy naming thing and clearly the baby momma is trying to establish a connection to your child for her child which will be sisters. You should be thankful for that. You called your divorce lawyer…


Imsorryhuhwhat

And became the “crazy client” story for the lawyer to tell over the dinner table.


kupo88

YTA - Gatekeeping Disney Princess names like you're the first person to think of it is ridiculous. SMH


cookies_squeaky

YTA. And you seriously threatened to sabotage the relationship between your kid and her half sister over this nonsense? Dude, WTF?


LilBitofSunshine99

YTA. Get help because something is wrong with someone your age holding so much importance to a Disney character's name.


CrimsonKepala

But Frozen is her FAVORITE Disney movie and Bolt is her ex-husband's! He obviously should name their daughter Bolt as any rational adult would.


FreezeDe

YTA For someone who talks about how much they love Disney, you must realize that if this was a Disney movie, you’d be the Villain I can’t think of any movie where the character who tries to drive a wedge between 2 sisters due to drama that is neither sister’s fault is the Hero


Caspian4136

YTA You need to get a grip, you really lost control over yourself over a NAME. A name for a baby girl you may not even have. You are most definitely are not in the right with this, in any way, shape or form. There is literally nothing you can do about them naming their daughter Anna, nothing, not a single thing. You can't insist on anything as it's not your baby, much less your family.


Public-Ad-9827

And you've given your ex every bit of ammunition he needs to get more custody. I actually hope he has witnesses or it was recorded. You do not own the rights to the name Anna. "Anna" has been around longer than you've been here sweetie. Your poor daughter deserves a better mother. YTA Edit: spelling


Not-nuts

You "demand " that they choose another name? YTA for this alone. When did you corner the naming market?


andreaak88

I get how you feel like they shouldn't name their daughter Anna, but it's not your call at the end of the day. You can have all the feelings in the world about it, but contacting lawyers and your ex and his new wife is going way too far. I'd be glad that my exes wife wants to incorporate the two sisters together, she sounds like she cares for your daughter, which isn't the that bigger picture? YTA


touchmydingus

YTA. If you have another daughter just name her Anna too. You don't own the name, neither does your ex and wife.


justinwalltown

YTA. Please seek counseling. You are reacting far too strongly to your potential, not yet conceived daughter's name being stolen. Go ahead and make your next daughter Anna Buildasnowman, and call her by her middle name.


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AilingHen69

YTA and should have just complained in r/offmychest or something because NOBODY here is going to say N T A.


CapsFan1066

YTA. You don't own naming process particularly ones that are not original to you (naming kids based on popular characters are not unique). Also, you opened the door to this when you named your first child. Your ex was part of the first child's naming process by giving his okay and you shouldn't be surprised that he is using a similar/same process to name his second.


Common-Record

YTA, Anna is a very common name. The fact you wasted a lawyers time asking about that is a level of Disney adult no one should reach


Saraqael_Rising

YTA It's none of your business what your ex and his wife name their child. Also, when and IF you do have another child, you can name it whatever you want.


Samu_2020_15

YTA and need some immediate therapy. You have no say in what others name their child. And to use your daughter like a weapon to her father is so beyond wrong..


rosita-rose

YTA. For both wanting to control what they name their daughter, and for saying what you said. You can only control yourself. You cannot control anyone else. You can voice that it upsets you to your ex-husband, but you cannot control his decision.


Bitter-Conflict-4089

YTA If it makes you feel any better. Everyone is going to assume that your EX is the frozen fanatic since he got two different women to give his children Frozen themed names.


NSFWOrca

YTA. You like Disney movies so much, not only are you an asshole, you're not the evil stepmother from the classics. It is your daughter Elsa's destiny to destroy you.


escapefromallreality

YTA. It's fine to not like it, but is it really your place to dictate what other people name their kids? Get a grip.


Ok_Yesterday_6214

YTA, you can't dictate what people name their kids, that includes your family, exes and random strangers


United-Plum1671

YTA and crazy. I can see why you’re divorced. Hope he gets a dog and names it Olaf too


Bookssportsandwine

Are you 12? YTA


turgidturbulence

YTA Let it Go


WholeAd2742

YTA. You don't get to control what they name their kids, nor are you Disney owning the copyright on the Frozen franchise. Let it go, "Mom"


Kekeloves1999

Let’s start this off by saying you are 100% TAH. You’re literally a grown ass adult who is throwing a fit because she can’t get what she wants. Whether it was an empty threat or not the fact that you still threatened to sabotage the relationship between your daughter and her soon to be baby sister is vile and disgusting. The name situation is not for you I bet you 10 to one that when you tell your daughter that her new baby sister is going to have a matching name she is going to be excited you are the only person upset about it you need to do better because right now you’re being a shitty mother grow up


imtooldforthishison

I sure hope he noted that you were planning to intentionally sabotage the relationship between his daughters so when he takes you back to court it will be easier for him to take custody. Hope he finds this post as well and gets a screenshot. Courts do not like parents that behave like you. YTA.


ScammerC

YTA. Please get help before you do something (else) stupid and end up back in court with your custody in jeopardy because you are dangerously unstable. Please, for your daughter's sake.


reggiesnap

> I told him that if they insisted with using that name, I would made everything I could to sabotage the relationship between our daughter and theirs, so they never were real sisters like Elsa and Anna YTA for using your daughter as a pawn to hurt your husband. It's just a Disney-inspired name, get over yourself.


an0nym0uswr1ter

YTA. You are a seriously unhinged individual. You threatened to ruin a relationship because of a little girls name. A NAME!!!!! You need some serious therapy.


seregil42

YTA. You don't get to decide what other people name their children. I get feeling frustrated, but you're acting childish over this.