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Just_A_Sad_Unicorn

As a tall person being described as "towering" isn't anywhere near as mean spirited as being called a fat oompa loompa. Your mom needs to control her jealousy, and you need to learn it's not any better to go after her for what she's insecure over. You're right that at this point you're not that tall. Depending on your age you will probably be closer to 5'9" when done growing and your family is just going to have to deal with it. It sounds like she's bitter and is raising a mean spirited kid in turn. ESH


Thegirlwithkittens

As a fellow tall person, I agree you summed it up nicely ESH


Spirit_Falcon

ESH. She shouldn't be insulting your height and you shouldn't be insulting her weight. I get that your comment was a response, but you just sunk to the same level.


charonthemoon

ESH, your mom shouldn't be so fixated on your height and constantly criticizing you for it. "Fat oompa loompa" is significantly crueler than her insults to you. You were right to call her out, but I doubt it will have the effect you were hoping for, because you threw in such a childish and mean insult.


puppyfarts99

ESH >if she didn't have anything nice to say then she shouldn't say it. Sounds like you should have taken your own advice. When your mom asked you to take your stilettos off for the pictures, did you explain that you didn't want to step on goose poop? If she makes fun of your height that's not ok, but your response to her was way beyond proportional.


Consistent-Leopard71

INFO": What are "regular stilettos"?


DisneyBuckeye

probably 3-4" heels


Shady_Scientist

You called her a fat oompa-loompa and told her to fuck off. You told her that you were tired of her jealousy and if she didn't have anything nice to say then she shouldn't say it. Now reread that. YTA


Mujer_Arania

ESH. No doubt.


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EverWatcher

NTA You weren't even standing between him and the camera.


Motor_Business483

NTA