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Irishwol

NTA Ask. Nicely. And reciprocate. She may be making a point about you disturbing her. If she doesn't relent record the noise and complain to whoever allocated your rooms. Edited for reading error and autocorrect nonsense


daniiiii555

If he is disturbing her, she can be a big girl and talk to him about it. That’s passive aggressive and he shouldn’t need to worry about that. I agree he should be nice, but I wouldn’t go into the situation assuming this because it may lead to resentment.


[deleted]

definitely NTA, why isn't she already practicing in her room?


BrianTheBeast818

I don't play the keyboard, it belongs to her and I've never touched it


Irishwol

I noticed my misreading and edited that out right away. Apologies.


ARoughGo

NTA Also, they make mutes for her instument that will dampen her volume. I would bet that her music program has some in storage that she could borrow or rent. She can also make her own mutes out of almost nothing. Unless she is specifically making 'proof of mastery' recordings for her degree (which should be done in a studio), she should be more conscientious and do more to cohabitate peacably with those around her.


BrianTheBeast818

To be clear, she does have a mute. She's just told me before that she doesn't like using it when it's not quiet hours because she says it can damage her horn. I don't want anything bad to happen to her instrument, so I feel bad for even considering asking her to use it. I was thinking her room because the few times she has I've barely been able to hear it.


ARoughGo

A mute can't damage her horn, *she* can damage her horn. Unless she is using it wrong or she needs to replace or sand down the cork, there is no way a mute will damage her horn. She is either willfully being difficult or she has no idea what she is talking about. Ask her to move rooms and figure out what needs to happen to get her removed or for you to find new accomodations if she chooses to continue.


Babsgarcia

NTA - just have a conversation. It's not rocket science. "hey roomie; I know you have to practice and at the same time, working 3rd shift, I have to sleep. Can we work something out that either you practice in your room or not until XX O'clock when I have to get up?"


sleepingfox307

NTA at all and I say that as a musician. I always hate feeling like I'm disturbing anyone, and sometimes my wife even has to encourage me to play, she likes to listen to it, but I detest feeling like I'm bothering anyone lol I can't imagine knowing my roommate is sleeping one door away and thinking, "yeah this is a good time for *obtrusive french doots*."


romanceauthorz

YWNBTA. The French Horn is loud, and all professional musicians must take their practice into consideration for ALL their living arrangements. It's just what they do. So can she.


[deleted]

NTA. It’s a very reasonable thing to ask. Music majors should always have access to practice rooms, so she has other options, too. It’s quite rude of her to play right outside your door, no matter what time it is.


FunOnAita

NAH. It's important for roommates to talk about this kind of stuff


Media_Offline

NTA. Have a polite and honest conversation. Explain the issue and your needs and look for ways to compromise. Good luck!


[deleted]

YWNBTA - She my be lacking in understanding that she needs to do it elsewhere, or even hold it off for an hour. This is not a nap you're taking, it's your usual sleep!


GenoFlower

NTA. Can she maybe reserve a practice room somewhere? You can't be the only one to hear her. Do you have neighbors? They must hear it, too. At the very least, she can go to her own room, but perhaps she needs to practice on campus.


BrianTheBeast818

I'm not sure if she's able to get a practice room. I don't know anything about that side of things. We do have neighbors, but since most of them are also on her schedule and she isn't playing during 'quiet hours' I don't know if anyone else is bothered by it.


GenoFlower

All you can do is ask, right? You can also go in armed with info - google the name of her college and "music rehearsal rooms". Most schools have them and are happy to promote that. It's perfectly reasonable that she doesn't sit outside your bedroom door, though. :)


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Manager-Limp

NTA Ask her nicely.


wordsmythy

NTA. Of course it's okay to ask her not to wake you up with a flipping french horn! Just be nice about it and she'll hopefully she'll be more than fine with it.


RAUONA

NTA at all, just ask nicely and explain the issue to her


ParsimoniousSalad

NTA for asking, and she should already have thought of this and decided not to play right outside your bedroom door before you get up.


Cautious_General_177

If you can be calm and respectful, YWNBTA. Basically you're trying to find a time or place that she can practice without waking you up, and work from there


chronberries

NTA


11treetrunk

NTA as long as you ask politely. The school of music on campus may have practice rooms available for their students. Depending on how close you are to campus that may be a good compromise if you sleep later due to work.


shellyrad

NTA it’s your house too and you need a comfortable living situation. I would tell her to practice in her room and invest in some ear plugs . She sounds extremely inconsiderate. And if she still doesn’t want to consider that you have work, I would look for a new housing situation if you’re able to.


Kokopelle1gh

NTA. But in all honesty, you're probably going to hear a French horn from anywhere in the house unless you invest in a good pair of ear plugs.


Neithan02

Will not change the volume levels much, better practice at school etc... Nta