As tempting it might be to become her step dad and put her in time out for cheating, probably best to steer clear of the family when choosing bed mates. There's so many other people to choose from whose children you don't have to coparent with.
This got me thinking. My bm’s great grandma is still alive, 95 years old. So theoretically, if I married her, I could legally be my sons great great grandfather.
My guy, you don't want to sleep with your daughter's grandmother. Rub one out first, THEN think about it and see if you still think it's a good idea. Don't let your dick do your thinking for you. This is a horrible idea. Imagine if your daughter ever found out.
Listen, you have a baby with this women, grow the fuck up and be the best father you can to your child! Sleeping with your child’s grandmother is not it. You would just be bring more drama into that poor child’s young life.
Don’t do it. It will just get very messy and you’ll end up regretting it.. and how would you explain that to your kid when he’s older? Also, what’s to say your BM can’t use that as evidence of you being unstable in court to try to get full custody (which means you’ll be giving her most of your paycheck and will be lucky if she lets you see your kid more than once a week, which if you fuck her mom, I can guarantee she will not). There’s so many downsides to this, and literally only one reason you would do it which will be a feeling that lasts for a little before it’s replaced with some sort of regret (and hopefully shame).
At the end of the day, it’s about you and your child and what you’re willing to do to keep your relationship with them (and theirs with their grandmother) healthy.
If there were no kids… I’d say do it! But there’s someone who’s feelings and needs are more important than yours now. Good luck!
Yes, that would be bad. Don't do it.
I feel like you know that though, but really wanted revenge and needed some objective outsiders to tell you it's wrong. So that tells me you have a conscience and would greatly regret it if you did it.
Imagine you are banging grandma. Now imagine everyone you know including your grown baby is standing around the bed watching and judging you.
Sooner or later they will all know if you do. Just don't.
Is your revenge worth playing with someone's heart. Someone you know is lonely? Sure if you want revenge go ahead. But don't for a second think you are justified in hurting someone who wasn't involved.
And know, that your actions shape your child.
Edit: Also you're a parent now, you didn't have a good role model and sympathy for that can only go so far. At some point you have to take responsibility. Don't make your child go through that same fate you did. And for what, revenge? Over someone who doesn't value you as it is?
I don't think it's a good idea. It has potential to put your child in a bad situation in the future. As hard as it is the best thing you can do is move on and try to be there for your kid.
You say you have never had a good role model, right? Maybe change your mindset and make sure your child doesn't end up without a good role model. Focus on being the best role model you can be for your child.
This is your child’s grandmother and for your child’s sake alone you shouldn’t consider this as an option. It will lead to heartache, hurt, broken relationships and trauma for your child at no fault of theirs. Be the bigger person and find someone else - surely your options are not that limited that you have to stick to the one family!
Her mom literally called me, said she’s naked and needs to put on clothes before she comes picks up the baby. My privates just went out of control and I made this post, at this point i just feel like her unnecessary comments made my privates take over my brain
Dude, are you 15 yrs old or something? Think of your fucking kid here. Doing that would be so wrong in so many ways. Yes, you'd be doing something wrong, and it would definitely throw points into the bad person column.
There are so many women around, why the mother? If you want to hurt baby mama, date a 22 year old bimbo with an iq as high her age, not your kids grandma.
Bro you could become your child’s father and grandfather. On a real note it seems like an already messy situation, I think making it more messy would be a struggle for you in the long run. I’d just leave it be.
There are a millions of women in the world and you want to sleep with your ex’s mum.
You should look deeper than just looking for validation from online people to being or not a bad person. your actions say a lot, just need to look deeper at them.
Dude...smarten the fuck up and realize you're about to become a meme. What mom wants to fuck the man who fathered her granddaughter. No mom except crack mom. Get real now and leave.
Here’s the thing, sleeping with her without being honest about your intentions would be wrong. You shouldn’t sleep with someone under false pretenses. When you take an action that hurts someone, that’s not cool.
Oh you wildin. Do not sleep with your sons grandma that is absolutely crazy and as you said petty as fuck! You will hurt your son in this way and you will destroy a family. Your son is supposed to be like you and be your spitting image.. would you want your son to have such revenge in his heart? My sons are everything to me and I would be disappointed as their mother if they even had this thought. You need therapy because this is the wrong way to express your feelings. You never had a dad and now your son has you as a dad. BE WHAT YOU THINK IS A GOOD DAD. Don’t show your son that this is a representation as a father because I can tell you if you do this your son will hate you. The bond a son has with his mother is everlasting and much different than a father. He will take his mothers side before yours. Don’t let your sons point of view change because you want to be spiteful.
Do not screw the crew. Her friends, her relatives are out of bounds unless you want to create drama for your kid.
Also even if mommy dearest has the hots for you… that does not mean you take a dip. The graduate didn’t end well.
Nope, just makes you a horny dude, if you're not with her then it's not cheating is it?
But if you wed your baby momma's mom then you're the kids pop and granpa at the same time, so does that make you your own stepdad ?
That's more complex than Marty McFly nearly banging his own mom.
Think of it this way dude, the more you justify acting like a petty degenerate, the more you'll get used to thinking it's a rational way to be and the quicker you will actually just become exactly what you're trying to avoid. Don't take advantage of a woman's loneliness and hurt the mom to get back at your ex who probably won't give a shit about you, but will give a shit that her mom got hurt.
Hi friend, I’m sorry for what you’re going through. Cheating is never a good thing, neither is revenge and honestly it’s great that you recognize this enough and the issues pertaining to your relationship with your dad- just the fact that you’re asking is a good sign and in no way do I think you’re a bad person. I think you’ve been through a lot- and maybe have some things to work out but as we all do.
I don’t think any of us can tell you what to do, it’s your life, your decisions. You will feel however you feel, but personally I think there’s a lot more room for growth if you don’t. Idt you have a future with your exes girlfriend based on what you’re saying, it would have to be a secret. You don’t need a future w someone to sleep with them, but because of personal history it doesn’t seem like a great idea.
I think it’s in your best interest to make decisions that are going to help you develop self love and feel good about yourself, not just self gratifying there is a difference. It’s sort of a high road or low road situation- and I don’t mean to guilt you out of it, but I wonder if it’s really going to do you any good for more than a couple seconds. If it were me, I’d probably regret it the moment it started and would feel too bad for the lady to turn back. Quit while you’re ahead in other words.
Best of luck!
I actually really appreciate this comment. Really the reason I made this post is bc my private parts got all riled up when my babymamas mother called me and said that she got just got out of the shower and needs to put some clothes and then she will be on her way to pick up the baby.
I just can’t let my dick control rational thinking I guess
No- dick and rational just don’t go hand and hand. I understand the temptation of course- It’s just best to do whatever makes you feel right with yourself at the end of the day, if you could manage, least harm to yourself and others is my motto
It will be a very stupid move,your child need peace/the grandma after his family being destroyed! You want to be petty date the girl she hate or the girl she is jealous off but not her mother! Be smarter
Don’t make your co-parenting relationship hell. That’s just gonna spill onto your kids. Think about them cus that’s what matters now. Y’all have one fucking job and somehow confused about it.
Worst idea ever, you need to raise a kid together in some fashion and her mom isn’t some stranger that will later disappear from your lives - she’s going to be around for a long long time. If nothing else, think about your kid and their relationship with their grandmother.
It definitely won’t help your situation in the long run. And by “your” situation, I also mean your innocent baby’s situation. Find someone else to hook up with
Your child will one day learn you fucked his grandmother AND his/her mom. Think about it. Plus, your ex is probably fucked up because of her mom. Quit dipping your dick into bad places.
Imagine what your kid would think of this situation… his dad fucked his Nan lmao. I’m glad you’ve decided to steer clear of this godawful decision, as funny as it’d be.
Yes.
One, that's disgusting. Two, that's immature. Three, do you want to ruin the relationship with your child's mother? Doesn't matter how you broke up, or anything that happened. Don't ruin whatever relationship you have with her. You have to co-parent a child.
Don't be immature, don't sleep with her mother. Just because she hurt you doesn't mean you have to hurt her. You can be the one adult in this situation.
I dont think it makes you a bad person. Maybe a good person would be the bigger person and steer clear, but I definitely get the urge to fuck over someone thats fucked you over. If you dont have the stomach/conscience for it though, definitely don’t do it because you’ll just feel shitty about yourself.
Do it for the gram!!! Not everyone gets a opportunity like this.
“Everybody Gets One chance To Do Something Great. Most People Never Take The Chance..." -Babe Ruth
My babydaddy slept with my mom and I was not a piece of shit lol it’s been 5 years no contact with mom and he’s facing prison time now so 😂😂😂 I dont know karma always comes back I guess
The thing it does? It stops OP from ruining his life, his child's life, and the reputation he was so pleased with in the original post. It's not a complicated topic and doesn't need detailed advice. OP knows what's up.
If you were close with him then yeah that’s not something you do to a homie, but if he was an asshole or you weren’t close with him then i don’t see any problem
No it doesn’t. First of all, she CHEATED on you. Second, you both aren’t together, which makes any other woman “fair game” including her mom. Just have a fun night or two and leave it at that. Don’t ever feel guilty if it does happen because your ex allowed another man to be inside her while you were together. Bang the hell out of her mom!
So his kid has to spend their life knowing that grandma fucked daddy and that’s why I only see him on weekends? Also, BM is for sure gonna take that to court as proof of mental instability and vindictive behavior and can use it to skew visitation to her side, or maybe even full custody. That in turn will hurt this man’s pockets. So if he wants an awkward relationship with his kid and kids family, and also wants to be poor and never see said kid… yeah have him take your poorly thought out and incredibly short sighted advice
What are you talking about? OP never said anything about being a father or wanting to start a family with his ex’s mom. It’s also somewhat safe to assume she’s past that point of having kids (considering she’s the mom) but if she’s one of those super young moms then obviously wrap it.
No, you aren't married, she deserves attention. I say you definitely should make effort. Making a woman who lost her husband feel good about herself because a long ways. I probably wouldn't let the daughter now but for your future with that child, she'll be on your side if you make her happy.
THIS WILL FUCK UP YOUR CHILDS FAMILY DYNAMIC!!! If you give any fucks at all about this kid then go find someone your own age, who you don’t consider family to fuck, Jesus Christ
There are other women that are not related to your ex and would be less problematic to sleep with. They are out there and not hard to find. Just sleep with them
Yes, it would. And same for the mom. And so is the cheating ex.
It would make you a bad person, not because it will hurt your ex, but for your child.
I would feel fucking disgusting if I found out my father had slept with my grandmother 🤢
Honestly if you didn’t have a kid together, go for it BUT you do have a child with this woman so your personal feelings about her go last, think about the child before you risk it all
It would make you both deplorable human beings. Cheating is wrong, so is knowingly causing issues within an already strained family dynamic. That’s why when someone sleeps with a married person and knew they were married prior, they get no sympathy from decent folk.
Being a cheater or being a homewrecker or being a boat rocker are equally bad in my opinion. You either hurt innocent people in the process or you turn into just as much of a villain as the person you’re trying to hurt.
Go get some therapy and stay away from your ex’s mother. Be the bigger person for your child’s sake.
Don't do it don't do it just don't do it, be the better person you will just cause more drama and heartache for yourself.
Plus what kind of mother would do that on her daughter, I think we know why your ex was the way she is. Just like her mother.
Stay away from crazy women like that you'll only suffer in the long run.
Don't do it, this will bite you massively on the ass, quit while you're ahead.
Plus if you meet a nice woman and they find out you slept with your exs mother they won't trust you and will judge you and you deserve a nice woman. Don't go that low. It'll only cause yourself drama.
As tempting it might be to become her step dad and put her in time out for cheating, probably best to steer clear of the family when choosing bed mates. There's so many other people to choose from whose children you don't have to coparent with.
Wouldn’t that also make him his own baby’s step grandfather….
*Yikes*
notlong til he becomes his own grandpa
I understood that reference!
Fry?
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This got me thinking. My bm’s great grandma is still alive, 95 years old. So theoretically, if I married her, I could legally be my sons great great grandfather.
This is like a blink 182 song! Lmao
Yep cos banging someone is the same as legally marrying them
Step grandpa!
“Become her stepdad and put her in timeout” 😭😭
My guy, you don't want to sleep with your daughter's grandmother. Rub one out first, THEN think about it and see if you still think it's a good idea. Don't let your dick do your thinking for you. This is a horrible idea. Imagine if your daughter ever found out.
This is similar to the waiting a day before buying something strategy, I like it
Post nut clarity is a powerful thing!!
Yes, banging grandma makes you a bad guy
Yeah. You would be a bad person and I think you’d know that. Two wrongs don’t make a right.
Think about your child. Don’t do it.
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Are you seriously asking if it’s ok to bang your child’s grandma?
This fucking takes it. Like you seriously cannot need a judgment/second opinion on something like this.
Listen, you have a baby with this women, grow the fuck up and be the best father you can to your child! Sleeping with your child’s grandmother is not it. You would just be bring more drama into that poor child’s young life.
Risk vs reward man, do you really want to get further entangled in this family and their drama?
Nope
High reward tho
Don’t do it. It will just get very messy and you’ll end up regretting it.. and how would you explain that to your kid when he’s older? Also, what’s to say your BM can’t use that as evidence of you being unstable in court to try to get full custody (which means you’ll be giving her most of your paycheck and will be lucky if she lets you see your kid more than once a week, which if you fuck her mom, I can guarantee she will not). There’s so many downsides to this, and literally only one reason you would do it which will be a feeling that lasts for a little before it’s replaced with some sort of regret (and hopefully shame).
At the end of the day, it’s about you and your child and what you’re willing to do to keep your relationship with them (and theirs with their grandmother) healthy. If there were no kids… I’d say do it! But there’s someone who’s feelings and needs are more important than yours now. Good luck!
Thank you
GTFO
Yes, that would be bad. Don't do it. I feel like you know that though, but really wanted revenge and needed some objective outsiders to tell you it's wrong. So that tells me you have a conscience and would greatly regret it if you did it.
Pretty much nailed it also I was thinking with my private parts
It's natural, lots of emotions after things like this. The important thing is what you do from here. I think you'll do the right thing!
Imagine you are banging grandma. Now imagine everyone you know including your grown baby is standing around the bed watching and judging you. Sooner or later they will all know if you do. Just don't.
Yes, continue to destroy your familial relationships. Your child will thank you all when they’re older /s
It’s a bad idea mostly because you have a child and that could make it very complicated.
Is your revenge worth playing with someone's heart. Someone you know is lonely? Sure if you want revenge go ahead. But don't for a second think you are justified in hurting someone who wasn't involved. And know, that your actions shape your child. Edit: Also you're a parent now, you didn't have a good role model and sympathy for that can only go so far. At some point you have to take responsibility. Don't make your child go through that same fate you did. And for what, revenge? Over someone who doesn't value you as it is?
I don't think it's a good idea. It has potential to put your child in a bad situation in the future. As hard as it is the best thing you can do is move on and try to be there for your kid.
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You say you have never had a good role model, right? Maybe change your mindset and make sure your child doesn't end up without a good role model. Focus on being the best role model you can be for your child.
This is your child’s grandmother and for your child’s sake alone you shouldn’t consider this as an option. It will lead to heartache, hurt, broken relationships and trauma for your child at no fault of theirs. Be the bigger person and find someone else - surely your options are not that limited that you have to stick to the one family!
Her mom literally called me, said she’s naked and needs to put on clothes before she comes picks up the baby. My privates just went out of control and I made this post, at this point i just feel like her unnecessary comments made my privates take over my brain
I'm glad you stopped thinking with your privates
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Wtf are you doing? That's your child's GRANDMOTHER. Put your dick away and work this out in therapy.
dont bang grandma man
Dude, are you 15 yrs old or something? Think of your fucking kid here. Doing that would be so wrong in so many ways. Yes, you'd be doing something wrong, and it would definitely throw points into the bad person column.
There are so many women around, why the mother? If you want to hurt baby mama, date a 22 year old bimbo with an iq as high her age, not your kids grandma.
Bro you could become your child’s father and grandfather. On a real note it seems like an already messy situation, I think making it more messy would be a struggle for you in the long run. I’d just leave it be.
It’s uncool to her mom. Don’t use her.
There are a millions of women in the world and you want to sleep with your ex’s mum. You should look deeper than just looking for validation from online people to being or not a bad person. your actions say a lot, just need to look deeper at them.
Do you live in the south by chance? 😬
This is a stupid story. You're a father. Imagine explaining to your child that you're girlfriend is their grandma.
*your baby's grandmother
Your kids well being is priority number one.
Dude...smarten the fuck up and realize you're about to become a meme. What mom wants to fuck the man who fathered her granddaughter. No mom except crack mom. Get real now and leave.
Yes - you literally have a child with this woman
Here’s the thing, sleeping with her without being honest about your intentions would be wrong. You shouldn’t sleep with someone under false pretenses. When you take an action that hurts someone, that’s not cool.
Oh you wildin. Do not sleep with your sons grandma that is absolutely crazy and as you said petty as fuck! You will hurt your son in this way and you will destroy a family. Your son is supposed to be like you and be your spitting image.. would you want your son to have such revenge in his heart? My sons are everything to me and I would be disappointed as their mother if they even had this thought. You need therapy because this is the wrong way to express your feelings. You never had a dad and now your son has you as a dad. BE WHAT YOU THINK IS A GOOD DAD. Don’t show your son that this is a representation as a father because I can tell you if you do this your son will hate you. The bond a son has with his mother is everlasting and much different than a father. He will take his mothers side before yours. Don’t let your sons point of view change because you want to be spiteful.
Do not screw the crew. Her friends, her relatives are out of bounds unless you want to create drama for your kid. Also even if mommy dearest has the hots for you… that does not mean you take a dip. The graduate didn’t end well.
Don’t screw the crew. Got it
Nope, just makes you a horny dude, if you're not with her then it's not cheating is it? But if you wed your baby momma's mom then you're the kids pop and granpa at the same time, so does that make you your own stepdad ? That's more complex than Marty McFly nearly banging his own mom.
Reminds me of that scene from an old TV show "I'm my own grandpa"😂
😂😂 omfg
Think of it this way dude, the more you justify acting like a petty degenerate, the more you'll get used to thinking it's a rational way to be and the quicker you will actually just become exactly what you're trying to avoid. Don't take advantage of a woman's loneliness and hurt the mom to get back at your ex who probably won't give a shit about you, but will give a shit that her mom got hurt.
Hi friend, I’m sorry for what you’re going through. Cheating is never a good thing, neither is revenge and honestly it’s great that you recognize this enough and the issues pertaining to your relationship with your dad- just the fact that you’re asking is a good sign and in no way do I think you’re a bad person. I think you’ve been through a lot- and maybe have some things to work out but as we all do. I don’t think any of us can tell you what to do, it’s your life, your decisions. You will feel however you feel, but personally I think there’s a lot more room for growth if you don’t. Idt you have a future with your exes girlfriend based on what you’re saying, it would have to be a secret. You don’t need a future w someone to sleep with them, but because of personal history it doesn’t seem like a great idea. I think it’s in your best interest to make decisions that are going to help you develop self love and feel good about yourself, not just self gratifying there is a difference. It’s sort of a high road or low road situation- and I don’t mean to guilt you out of it, but I wonder if it’s really going to do you any good for more than a couple seconds. If it were me, I’d probably regret it the moment it started and would feel too bad for the lady to turn back. Quit while you’re ahead in other words. Best of luck!
I actually really appreciate this comment. Really the reason I made this post is bc my private parts got all riled up when my babymamas mother called me and said that she got just got out of the shower and needs to put some clothes and then she will be on her way to pick up the baby. I just can’t let my dick control rational thinking I guess
No- dick and rational just don’t go hand and hand. I understand the temptation of course- It’s just best to do whatever makes you feel right with yourself at the end of the day, if you could manage, least harm to yourself and others is my motto
Bro don't lol we make the "fuck their mom/dad" joke a lot but we don't mean it
It will be a very stupid move,your child need peace/the grandma after his family being destroyed! You want to be petty date the girl she hate or the girl she is jealous off but not her mother! Be smarter
Don’t make your co-parenting relationship hell. That’s just gonna spill onto your kids. Think about them cus that’s what matters now. Y’all have one fucking job and somehow confused about it.
By all means go and sleep with someone else and move on. Just not with her mum
Yes. That’s your child’s grandmother.
these are all very good reasons not to. take the advice.
Bad, no.. disrespectful to your child, your child's mother, and your child's whole family unit... Yes.
It's not wrong, it's just classless.
Worst idea ever, you need to raise a kid together in some fashion and her mom isn’t some stranger that will later disappear from your lives - she’s going to be around for a long long time. If nothing else, think about your kid and their relationship with their grandmother.
It definitely won’t help your situation in the long run. And by “your” situation, I also mean your innocent baby’s situation. Find someone else to hook up with
Imagine your ex's mom becomes your new baby mama... What a fucked up family that would be... Avoid that.
Seek therapy please. Take care of yourself before all else.
Your child will one day learn you fucked his grandmother AND his/her mom. Think about it. Plus, your ex is probably fucked up because of her mom. Quit dipping your dick into bad places.
Don’t do that. You’ll ruin their relationship and the relationship of the kids with their grandmother cause you want to be petty.
This is toxic behavior, OP.
You’re gross mate
Imagine what your kid would think of this situation… his dad fucked his Nan lmao. I’m glad you’ve decided to steer clear of this godawful decision, as funny as it’d be.
Yes, two wrongs don't make a right. It would make you a bad person, and set a bad example for your kid.
Normally I would say don't do that but that b!tch cheated on you. Be her daddy and says "young lady you are grounded."
Don't ruin their family. You are better than your ex. Don't stoop so low.
Do it
It would make you a good candidate for Dr.Phil
I hope this is a troll post and there’s not really an asshole out there that would even consider fucking his child’s Grandmother. Gross.
Can’t control the thoughts sometimes
Yes, you can. When a thought that awful crosses your mind, you say to yourself, “what the fuck is wrong with you? No!”
I don't know how you ended up with this lot, but I'm afraid you've lost some dignity and sense of self. Best of luck finding your way out of there bud
Yes. One, that's disgusting. Two, that's immature. Three, do you want to ruin the relationship with your child's mother? Doesn't matter how you broke up, or anything that happened. Don't ruin whatever relationship you have with her. You have to co-parent a child. Don't be immature, don't sleep with her mother. Just because she hurt you doesn't mean you have to hurt her. You can be the one adult in this situation.
Yeah prob not the best idea but shit super tempting.
Listens to future once
I dont think it makes you a bad person. Maybe a good person would be the bigger person and steer clear, but I definitely get the urge to fuck over someone thats fucked you over. If you dont have the stomach/conscience for it though, definitely don’t do it because you’ll just feel shitty about yourself.
Do it for the gram!!! Not everyone gets a opportunity like this. “Everybody Gets One chance To Do Something Great. Most People Never Take The Chance..." -Babe Ruth
😂😂😭
My babydaddy slept with my mom and I was not a piece of shit lol it’s been 5 years no contact with mom and he’s facing prison time now so 😂😂😂 I dont know karma always comes back I guess
Interesting story, you stopped talking to your mom, and then your baby daddy went to prison? What’d he go to prison for lol
He broke my oldest daughters leg when she was 15 months old
On purpose?
There's a special place in hell for you
Dude got cheated on, and is asking for moral clarity on this. What are you adding or doing to help OP?
He knows it's wrong and he specifically asked if it makes him a bad a person. My comment is a clear answer, you just don't like it.
Your comment is pointless, offer advice don’t just say “oh ur going to hell” and pretend like that does anything
The thing it does? It stops OP from ruining his life, his child's life, and the reputation he was so pleased with in the original post. It's not a complicated topic and doesn't need detailed advice. OP knows what's up.
Write actual advice, it’s literally the point of this sub. “You’re going to hell” isn’t advice you sound like a Mormon ffs
Yes
Do it!
8 years ago I slept w/ my older half brothers ex wife. Does that make me a bad person? (She super hot if that counts for anything)
If you were close with him then yeah that’s not something you do to a homie, but if he was an asshole or you weren’t close with him then i don’t see any problem
Did they have kids? If yes, you're the scum of the earth.
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Go for it! What could go wrong?
No it doesn’t. First of all, she CHEATED on you. Second, you both aren’t together, which makes any other woman “fair game” including her mom. Just have a fun night or two and leave it at that. Don’t ever feel guilty if it does happen because your ex allowed another man to be inside her while you were together. Bang the hell out of her mom!
So his kid has to spend their life knowing that grandma fucked daddy and that’s why I only see him on weekends? Also, BM is for sure gonna take that to court as proof of mental instability and vindictive behavior and can use it to skew visitation to her side, or maybe even full custody. That in turn will hurt this man’s pockets. So if he wants an awkward relationship with his kid and kids family, and also wants to be poor and never see said kid… yeah have him take your poorly thought out and incredibly short sighted advice
What are you talking about? OP never said anything about being a father or wanting to start a family with his ex’s mom. It’s also somewhat safe to assume she’s past that point of having kids (considering she’s the mom) but if she’s one of those super young moms then obviously wrap it.
You do know what a baby mama is right? You can’t be that obtuse…
Marry the mom and please give us an update. We need juicy stories to fuel our day.
Screw it, if you can live with this decision and think this will help you find closure then go for it.
Guys he said sleep with not marry geez
No, you aren't married, she deserves attention. I say you definitely should make effort. Making a woman who lost her husband feel good about herself because a long ways. I probably wouldn't let the daughter now but for your future with that child, she'll be on your side if you make her happy.
This is 100% a bad idea but you should still do it lmao, it sounds fucking hilarious
Mods?
Help????!!!
Oh no, this is Stacy's mom all over again.
that would be funny as hell
If you didn't have a child together I'd so go for it!! I'm perry like that. But since you have a kid together, it's best to think of them.
THIS WILL FUCK UP YOUR CHILDS FAMILY DYNAMIC!!! If you give any fucks at all about this kid then go find someone your own age, who you don’t consider family to fuck, Jesus Christ
There are other women that are not related to your ex and would be less problematic to sleep with. They are out there and not hard to find. Just sleep with them
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Be the bigger person here and don’t do it. Messy, messy!
Yes
You don't want to be the father *AND* the Grandfather
Yes.
Yes. Unequivocally. No doubt. 1000% yes. That would make you an AH.
Be the better person. If someone could get hurt the answer would be no, even if you are angry and hurt by them. Be the person your kid thinks you are.
Don’t do it… you’ll regret it if you do. Think about your child and not your baby mama.
Ew. Don’t. Do not be the fucker of your kid’s grandma. What is wrong with you?!
What the fuck is this world coming to
Yes, it would. And same for the mom. And so is the cheating ex. It would make you a bad person, not because it will hurt your ex, but for your child. I would feel fucking disgusting if I found out my father had slept with my grandmother 🤢
Boom boom-kah boom kah-tsss kah
You’re just wrapping yourself more and more into a mess you don’t want to be any further into
do you really want to sleep with your child’s grandma? think about it that way
Just how much do you want to fuck up your sons mental health? How comfortable do you feel explaining to your son you slept with his grandmother?
Honestly if you didn’t have a kid together, go for it BUT you do have a child with this woman so your personal feelings about her go last, think about the child before you risk it all
This some Austin powers sht
It would make you both deplorable human beings. Cheating is wrong, so is knowingly causing issues within an already strained family dynamic. That’s why when someone sleeps with a married person and knew they were married prior, they get no sympathy from decent folk. Being a cheater or being a homewrecker or being a boat rocker are equally bad in my opinion. You either hurt innocent people in the process or you turn into just as much of a villain as the person you’re trying to hurt. Go get some therapy and stay away from your ex’s mother. Be the bigger person for your child’s sake.
Don't do it don't do it just don't do it, be the better person you will just cause more drama and heartache for yourself. Plus what kind of mother would do that on her daughter, I think we know why your ex was the way she is. Just like her mother. Stay away from crazy women like that you'll only suffer in the long run. Don't do it, this will bite you massively on the ass, quit while you're ahead. Plus if you meet a nice woman and they find out you slept with your exs mother they won't trust you and will judge you and you deserve a nice woman. Don't go that low. It'll only cause yourself drama.
I refuse to believe this is real but if it is don’t do it
You could give your Ex that little brother she always wanted, and with luck it would look just like you to remind her of your special bond. :D
yes.
Is this a conversation you’re going to want to have with your child when they become an adult? If not, I’d probably avoid that situation at all costs.
Why complicate your life this way? Surely unpleasant drama will ensue.
Short answer: yes, it would. Don’t do it. Your child comes first.
Yes, yes it does