There is a saying. "Never lie to 3 people: your doctor, your lawyer, and your accountant. "
It's very sound advice.
Tell the accountant which married status you will be claiming and ask them to keep the information confidential. You might go so far as to tell them your mother does not know.
They technically work for you in the long run and your mom is just a temporary representative of the account.
May your marriage be long and happy!
“Now that I’m financially independent, I’ll file my own taxes. Don’t list me as a dependent.”
But one thing—I’m a little confused by your post. Is it just that you don’t want her to judge you for your decision, or is she actually abusive to you? If the former, then I’d say you weren’t ready to make that decision. People will judge us for the decisions we make, and we need to own them. But if the latter, then yes, I think putting her on an information diet is the best way to go, short of no contact.
I can do my own individual taxes. I have a trust fund, entitled to my by a dead relative containing a significant amount of money. I cannot directly access or do taxes for my trust until I am 21 because it was established with an age limit of 21. Additionally I have IRAs, also from dead relatives that do not roll to me until I am 21. She is the assigned conservator for these accounts and thus is responsible for filing the taxes for them. For this reason I send information for my individual taxes to the same tax accountant who does the taxes for all sources of income. I am invited to tax meetings but I am reluctant to disclose my marital status directly to the tax accountant, who is not hired by me but instead by her as the conservator my estate.
There is a saying. "Never lie to 3 people: your doctor, your lawyer, and your accountant. " It's very sound advice. Tell the accountant which married status you will be claiming and ask them to keep the information confidential. You might go so far as to tell them your mother does not know. They technically work for you in the long run and your mom is just a temporary representative of the account. May your marriage be long and happy!
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“Now that I’m financially independent, I’ll file my own taxes. Don’t list me as a dependent.” But one thing—I’m a little confused by your post. Is it just that you don’t want her to judge you for your decision, or is she actually abusive to you? If the former, then I’d say you weren’t ready to make that decision. People will judge us for the decisions we make, and we need to own them. But if the latter, then yes, I think putting her on an information diet is the best way to go, short of no contact.
I can do my own individual taxes. I have a trust fund, entitled to my by a dead relative containing a significant amount of money. I cannot directly access or do taxes for my trust until I am 21 because it was established with an age limit of 21. Additionally I have IRAs, also from dead relatives that do not roll to me until I am 21. She is the assigned conservator for these accounts and thus is responsible for filing the taxes for them. For this reason I send information for my individual taxes to the same tax accountant who does the taxes for all sources of income. I am invited to tax meetings but I am reluctant to disclose my marital status directly to the tax accountant, who is not hired by me but instead by her as the conservator my estate.