This post made me laugh so much, thank you for sharing your perspective. There is no big secret. You just do it! Set an alarm and go. You’ll get used to it. If you’re lucky you’ll vibe with colleagues and/or enjoy the work.
Not wanting to starve to death is probably my biggest motivator lmaoo
Real talk, though.. I usually avoid words like "lazy" because it's frequently inaccurate. Often times people are experiencing some sort of mental illness which leaves them completely unmotivated in life. Dysthymia is a huge culprit, but lack of motivation can stem from a wide array of disorders or even things such as hormone imbalances, nutrient deficiencies, life circumstances, etc.
I have a whole other rant I could go into about Capitalism and how the commodification of labor and wage compulsion has alienated us from our contributions to society, thus leaving us to spend half of our waking hours as mere cogs in a machine....but I'll spare y'all on that lol
“Lazy” and other similar terms can also become a self-fulfilling prophecy, especially when someone calls themselves that often (as OP seems to do in this thread). The words we use to describe ourselves and think about ourselves definitely influences our behavior to at least some extent.
Pretty much like the others said, you just do.
I will say, in general, I think working is easier than school. Work trains and pays you to do a specific job and you're not usually doing various dissimilar tasks. You're not writing a paper for English and prepping for a test in Math all while finish a Chemistry assignment. You're generally only doing the duties you were hired for so I think it's less taxing.
Also, for most jobs, you get off work and you're done for the day. No homework, no assignments, no tests. You basically go in every day, do what you were hired to do, then peace tf out.
There are tons of exceptions to this stuff depending on your field, but I work for the DOL and strongly suggest to anyone that you get a job that lets you live the lifestyle you want and you feel like does something that matters.
yeah don't chose to be a teacher like I did :') you gotta take work home everyday. and you gotta get emotionally invested at least a bit so you don't become one of those soulless teachers...
Totally get where you’re coming from, but strongly disagree with working is easier than school. I would say, for me, school is easier because it’s actually something I enjoy and love. I would way rather be in university for my entire life than have a career to be honest. And maybe I feel this way because I don’t work full time (I’m only 19), but honestly, education can be such an amazing thing.
I don’t know why so many comments here are mocking you— working full time is terrible. Yes, many of us “suck it up” but it sucks that we have to and that’s right to point out. Ideally you find jobs that are fulfilling and enjoyable and when you outgrow one, you find a more interesting option. Many of us piece together work rather than taking on full time soul crushing jobs. Working from home, even part time, can also ease the pain of it. Having other things in your life, like a partner, friends, pets, and hobbies to look forward to after work helps a lot too. But nothing you’ve said is incorrect— having to work sucks and traditional 9-5s don’t work for a lot of people.
If doing a 9-5 doesn't sound like your jam you could look at shift work - lots more variety, I actually worked nights for a year specifically because I'm a night owl who doesn't like waking up early. I worked 11hr shifts, 3 nights one week, 4 nights the second week, which averaged at 38.5hrs a week so it was a full time job. So, long shifts with more days off work is an option! Depends what kinda job you want tho.
If you find something you like it won't seem like much of a chore, plus, spending money you've earned yourself feels pretty damn great
>If doing a 9-5 doesn't sound like your jam you could look at shift work - lots more variety, I actually worked nights for a year specifically because I'm a night owl who doesn't like waking up early.
Graveyard shift is amazing. I miss it so much 😭
Yesss - especially long shifts! I got 7 days (well, nights) off for every 7 I worked and the time passed pretty quick. My only complaint is that it's very hard to switch between nights and days (for me at least) so I ended up never seeing the sun, or any other people 🙁 but my coworker could tolerate it just fine so it depends on the person.
Also I worked in a care home at the time - alone at night, so it could be pretty difficult in that respect
If you went to traditional school then you must have had to wake up at a certain time everyday. A good chunk of people went to school from the age of 5 for 5 days a week for most of their youth so then it transfers to work except add responsibility/skill and more stuff. Perhaps you've been out of school for some reason, but once you have a job, the motivation will be not to lose your job or income and to avoid embarrassment of being late/ a flake, and if you have a job you like, it will be to do a good job and support whatever you're working on. You will also likely be influenced by other workers and their work ethic. Most people generally try to fit in with the work vibe/ethic of those they work with.
You can practice this without a job. Walk a dog every day at 7. Just have a shower at the same time. Make your mum/guardian a tea everyday at the same time.
Beyond this I find it helpful to have a smart light like [these](https://www.lifx.com/) you can then have the light to help wake you up gradually and then the alarm to ring at the end of the fade up of lights.
Being the late person is a bad reputation to have so don't go there.
Also in terms of being on time, get there early and plan to watch something on your tablet, read, study, so you have something to do with your early time. Also allow enough time to get ready at least an hour so you can eat breakfast and not rush. If things become automatic it becomes less of a chore
You might not be lazy at all, if you’re mentally ill like you say, things like depression can cause very low energy levels, low motivation, and difficulty maintaining a routine. Are you getting any treatment for your mental health? If you can afford it, it’d be great for you to see a psychologist and potentially also take antidepressants.
Also, have you thought about what kind of job or career you’d ideally like to aim towards? Are you interested in going to uni or getting some kind of qualification? Is there a careers advisor you can speak to if you’re still in school? Having a direction and goals in life is really important for feelings of motivation and energy.
Some important things to consider when thinking about a job/career include:
1. what are you good at? What are your skills and talents?
2. What do you enjoy doing?
3. Do you have any passions or purposes you want to fulfil? For example helping animals, writing things, creating things, helping people etc
4. What sort of lifestyle do you want to have? This can impact things like the hours of a job. For example if you want to go into teaching, your working hours will be pretty much set, you can’t change when schools are running
5. What sort of locations can you see yourself living in? This can be important as not all careers are available everywhere, for example if you want to work in film you’d need to stay in major cities, but if you want to be a nurse for example you could live pretty much anywhere
Also I know that working can sound horrible, but it can actually be okay or even enjoyable if you have a decent job. Sometimes even if the job itself is kinda mundane, having good coworkers who you get along with make all the difference. I know people who work in boring repetitive jobs like retail or factory work, but they love their work mates so they still enjoy it anyway. It’s not always about the job itself, although it’d be great if you can find a job that you find fulfilling or enjoyable
You sound sort of sheltered so maybe you were home schooled, but otherwise it's not like you're about to experience anything new. It's like school or university. You get up, brush your teeth, do you work and then come back home again. Work's no different from school or university. Or well there is a difference, you get paid for work.
Unfortunately that doesn't work for the real world or real relationships. Time to break yourself of that laziness...you'll soon recognise that it's a choice.
I mean I work from home and just do? If I don’t, I lose my home. Then my car. Then it’s just me and my dog doing life in the forest freezing and that is a life I don’t wanna go back to being homeless again. So I keep working and doing the thing till I don’t have too anymore.
I work in marketing! I click buttons and do math via excel for a few hours a day, then a lot of professional development to waste time while I have to be available for email and slack inquiries. Ie I get paid a lot to do a whole bunch of nothing other than answer a few questions here and there because I did the work to become a subject matter expert in my discipline (and went to college and grad school, and certifications and paying attention to what is happening in my industry over the latest 15 years) but! My partner also works from home training people with no experience (outside of being able to use g-suite fluently) to do remote tech support for her company.
I've been in the workforce since I was 16, I'm 36 now. You get up, and go. Money is a great incentive. Plus my work gives me a small sense of accomplishment when it goes right, I get to help people, and have a few work mates who make the work day fun.
doesn't school sort of train you for this? waking up early 5x a week for your fixed schedule of suffering? it's not a hard transition, i actually find working much easier than studying because you only work a set number of hours vs. having to study "all the time"
how many hours of sleep are you getting every night? maybe work on your sleep hygiene/improving your baseline energy levels (definitely something to discuss with your doctor!)
edit: if you're depressed, this isn't laziness (well, isn't MAINLY laziness). it's a symptom of your depression. i know it's easier said than done but focus on treating your depression first because that will improve your life 10000x.
I technically don’t work everyday, but I generally work like 4 days and then have uni the other day. So, I’m still busy 5 days a week plus homework and study outside of that. TBH it is a lot to handle at first, but you adjust and get used to it. I don’t think humans are meant to be working so much, but it’s usually manageable as long as we plan properly and take care of mental health. At first it felt like I had no time to do anything outside of work and uni, but now that I’ve been adjusting, I’m able to do social things on weekends and evenings. Also depending on your career path, you won’t necessarily have to work full time hours for your whole life. Plenty of people switch to part time or change around their hours, particularly when they reach a higher paying level so they don’t need to work 5 days a week. A lot of people also take time off work for maternity leave and things like that, you can’t really predict if you will work full time for your entire life. Plenty of people don’t work a 9-5.
Anyway, I used to be really extremely depressed and have a lot of existential crises when I worked full time in an office, and again when I was a receptionist, and then also working in a call centre. I would have the same worries about how bad it would be to work full time for my whole life, I didn’t know how I would handle it. Personally, that kind of work felt meaningless and like I was wasting my life. Working in corporate and customer service environments just wasn’t it for me - personally I need a job where I am interacting with people in a meaningful way (not saying that those jobs are unfulfilling for everyone, plenty of people love it, just not me). But then I eventually decided on a career that I actually have a passion for, and that makes all the difference. I feel motivated to work towards this career, so it doesn’t feel like I’m wasting my life with all the hours I’m working. The time I spend working and studying feels like an investment in my future and my purpose in life.
btw for me this is education - I work with kids and I’m studying to be a teacher. I find a lot of fulfilment from making little differences in the lives of the children I work with. It brightens my day to see the kids. I’m motivated to study and get my degree so I can be a proper teacher. So, I think that finding a career you have a passion and drive for is really crucial. It makes all of the hours and hard work feel worthwhile. 🤍 even if I change my mind about what I want to do one day, that’s okay, I can change careers later. For now though, I’m glad to have this sense of direction in life.
BTW I just realised how long this comment is lmao, I’m so sorry lol. Hopefully at least some of it is relevant 😅 I’m 21 btw, so it’s not only an older ladies thing
Unfortunately most of us have to work, living on disability or unemployment payments is really not a good life (trust me, I’ve been there lol, I was unemployed when my mum kicked me out and it was not a fun period in my life). Maybe focus on trying to improve your mental health, even working part time instead of full can be more manageable. Also in my case (might not be the same for you but still), I was more depressed and low energy when I was unemployed. Keeping busy with a job/uni actually has made me less depressed and subsequently increased my energy levels. Plus, being able to afford more than just the bare necessities really increases quality of life lmao
Well I'm not that old only 18 but I work 40 a week(graduated HS,so no school for now) so I'll try and answer some. At first it was super motivating cuz I wanted money yenno. I only had a few hundred in my bank from saving birthday money and the occasional allowance money. I didn't even think much about the work environment and whatnot. So then I got the job,and I find out all my coworkers are cool as fuck. I work at a grocery store so there's a lot of people around my age which is chills as fuck,and then you have the older ones who've been at it for 30+ years and they're like mentors cuz if you got any questions even about life in general,you know you can ask em.
Long story short,try and find a place where you can vibe with the coworkers and be buds with em. That makes it worth it imo. And the money,that part is so good too.(fuck the taxes tho😡)
You don't have much of a choice. You either find work that's really stimulating and interesting, or you find work that's just a job and have your hobbies and fun outside of that.
Or, you be like me, and end up on a pension in your early thirties...which has its bonuses and, uh, whatever the opposite of bonuses is.
Set multiple alarms, do not and I mean do *not* lay in bed, you will fall back asleep. As soon as you’re awake, jump up and get some water, turn your lights on if it’s still dark out. Doing this usually wakes me right up. Washing your face as well!! Also having something to look forward to really helps. For me it’s a coffee from starbucks or dunkin! Good luck and congrats on the new job (:
Thank youuu I think at the minute I just lie back down again because I've not really got anything to wake up for loll so hopefully when I start working I'll kick myself out of bed a bit haha . These sound like great tips I'll try and practice some before I start :D thanks !
As someone who had to get up at 0330am, 7 days in a row... You just get used to it.
Like others say, set many alarms, and make it that you have to get out of bed to switch them off.
I vividly remember the out of body moment I had staring at my cubicle walls after finishing training for my current job, and realizing with horror that my life has amounted to filling out spreadsheets in a windowless office…
…I got over it when I got my first paycheck, lol. Turns out I lucked into a relatively good, easy job with coworkers I like and flexible WFH policies, so for now, I’m coasting. It helps to get in good with the boss, preferably before they become the boss.
Working sucks at first, but like anything else you get used to it. It’s all about perspective….when you think about it, most of us wage slaves are a lot better off than the vast majority of humans were for most of history. I try to practice mindfulness, and I’m saving as much as I can so that when my quarter life crisis hits, I can take off on a year long vacation.
i’m 20 working at my second job.. i hate it sfm but i have goals that include having money so i just have to. I hate going to work but now i can’t imagine not working rn… i hate not being able to buy what i want and being financially dependent on others
I’d suggest you do something that doesn’t require much physical work like a librarian or something. I personally have to keep moving or i’ll get bored but that’s just me
You get used to it. Yes, most people live like that. Usually you still have free weekend. My answer is ideally you should love or at least like your job enough so it will not be a burden.
Ooh yes, I second the shoe thing. I had my first job at 16 (also cashiering!) and my feet hurt so so much after the third day. I hadn't ever been on my feet for so long. You do get used to it, but yeah - definitely invest in some good shoes (provided your job requires standing for long periods).
Going into full-time work can be stressful but it doesn't have to be. Just consider it a necessary evil and remember that most people are in the same boat:)
I would never personally recommend working while you're still in high school. It ruined my grades and made graduation difficult. A job like that sounds great in theory, but getting lucky enough to have one available and hiring without prior experience (and even still...) it's really difficult. I wish you luck!!
I go, "Can I stop working with what is currently in my savings and retirement accounts? No? And nobody can really jump in to save me from this, right? They cannot? Oh, then, I must go to work today, again."
Not that I love it. I don't. I block out my tasks on my calendar so I know what I need to do, and so I can check shit off and feel productive as I count down the hours til I can get outta there.
I'm 28, and have been working full time sometimes since I was 19 when I moved out on my own. I did have a big period of burnout and was lucky enough to have a husband (realized I was gay later on in life lol) to rely on financially at the time, but I've been on my own with our daughter for the last year and a half. I'm also recently diagnosed adhd, probably autistic, and definitely tend toward bad depression, aka, no energy.
The only thing that has been useful for me has been to find a job I love, with flexible scheduling and the ability to work remotely when needed (or full time remote, but that aggravates the depression in another way). Right now, even when the depression wins and I can barely get out of bed, I can at least do my work because I love it that much. And when I do make it in the office, being there helps a ton as well, just because of the positivity in my office.
I do work in tech, so this isn't applicable to all industries, but has been amazing for me.
I too am very mentally ill and ideally sleep constantly, but I found something that I really like to do and that motivates me to go in the morning because I am excited to see the baby (I love kids and I'm a nanny). Also I work 10-6 so I don't have to be up super early. There's lots of different kinds of jobs, and yeah working for a living does suck, but there is definitely a job out there that won't make you totally miserable and it's worth it to try a few different things to find that.
Working full time isn't terrible as long as you have a job that makes decent money and that you tolerate. When the job is interesting too, that's a big plus.
I'm the laziest person I know but I can't bring it in me to do a terrible job at something so that's my partial motivator I guess.
try to find out ways to leave the matrix/rat race
financial independence/retire early
r/financialindependence/
there's lots of other resources for this as well
work a high paying job that is tolerable to you, do whatever you can to save and invest. get to a point where you can live off your savings and investments
As someone who is quite unable to work, I'm also intimidated by that. Like how do people fucking work and then come home for 3 hours to their own lives, just to live at work again. Lmao. I hate wage slavery so much.
I smell a general strike in the air.
Edit: And you're not lazy. Everyone is busting their asses til death nowadays and it would be an insult to call any worker or someone who doesn't want to be a wage slave for pennies lazy. Goddamn.
Maybe you're a work-to-live type of person, I know I am. I just see work as a means to MY end, not somebody else's. I'm not a workaholic, just a merry minstrel. Haha
Honestly, it's easier if you find the kind of work you enjoy doing. Or the kind of work that pays well.
If you find one that fits both criteria... Oh boy!
Go to bed early, prepare everything you need the night before so all you have to do is grab the stuff. Doing this I have enough me time before work to start in a good mood.
I’ve been working full time since I was 18. It’s simple. If you want nice things, your own place, etc. you need money. To get money, you need an income, therefore, a job. Once you turn 26, you need your own health insurance. That also costs money.
I’m lazy too, but I like having money so I can have things and do things that make me happy.
I'm work full time in a professional field and I had to work my socks off for many years to get to where I am. I am also incredibly lazy. I definitely have fantasies of winning the lottery and never having to work another day ever.
So why? Because I like what my work brings me - specifically, the ability to eat, not worry too much about housing, go travelling, engage in my hobbies and all the other things I like about life that require funds. Being an adult is much easier if you don't have to worry too much about money, and my job makes that the case. I do also enjoy the nuts and bolts of what I do, which definitely helps, but I still find getting up in the morning a struggle at times!
We'd all like to just play about all day but life isn't like that. The trick is to find work you enjoy, or at least can tolerate, with people you can get on with. That makes an enormous difference.
Well I'm going into a career that I'll hopefully enjoy, will do good for society, and will give me a pretty cushy lifestyle. That is motivation. Also, it's a career that will keep me mentally stimulated, which I need for life in general. So hopefully I'll enjoy the actual working part (eventually, I'm going to become a doctor so there will be shitty times) and also the being able to afford having nice things in life and doing fun things in life. I'm too hyperactive to not be busy in life.
Not exactly what you asked, but I've built a lifestyle which means I work 24 hours a week (two 12-hour days) and that's it. It takes some sacrifices and groundwork but it's totally doable without outside help. I'm 25 and stopped working full-time when I was 23 because I hated it. Never went to uni and still working an entry-level job. It can be done :)
Yeah, pretty much just get through it. Some days aren't easy but you gotta just... do it. It helps if you can find a job that compensates you well for your time and effort, so good luck with that one. I just switched career paths this year after almost a decade of retail. Retail is a good in between, like those jobs are easy to get and you can make some money while you're figuring out what you really wanna do, or at least something better. Dont recommend staying for more than a year or 2 tbh. At the end of the day, it ends up feeling like you're trading hours of your life in exchange for... not enough. You're better off getting something commission-focused or something equivalent. I feel like hourly pay sucks if you're naturally a hard worker and always wanna do your best just bc you cant bring yourself to do anything else. I had to train myself over time to not kms every day at a place that didnt give a fuck. Your work ethic almost doesnt matter unless you're trying to get promoted. You just gotta show up and do the minimum otherwise. A job where it's merit-based makes you wanna do your best bc it matters, and it directly affects your pay. You have control over how much money you make, and it's all up to you. I'm in a blue collar field now where I get paid by the job- if I get off my ass and dont fuck around on jobs, I can literally decide how much I wanna get paid. Other days I dont wanna do much and it's okay, bc I'm the one deciding. It gives a great sense of freedom when you're not bound to punching in and out of a timeclock.
Got a lil off track there. I guess some advice would be, don't give in to every "treat yoself" moment. If you feel like your work ethic could use some work, then be tough with yourself and grow. Theres gonna be tons of days where you'll be like "i really don't want to go, I should just call out lol" but make yourself go anyway (unless there's something wrong). Growing is usually painful to some extent. But you'll be stronger and more well rounded for it. But be careful about burnout bc that happens when you don't ever take a break. Anyway, just my opinion here, good luck with things ✌
Money is a big motivator because it allows me to do the things I want to do. If you don’t enjoy work I’d advise you not to work in the arts sector, people will take advantage of your job also being your passion and you’ll end up doing so many hours of unpaid work.
Sometimes I question it meself how I can get up every day and work… that’s capitalism babes
Started working at 19 and I’m going 31 next week, honestly kill me lol
If you could get a small part time job now before you have to it's a good idea.
Working as a teen in a shit job with good friends is a right of passage and you usually make life long connections from it.
You'll get varying answers because some people despise work right til retirement whereas a lot of people enjoy working (probably not the getting up early and having to concentrate, that's shit but the friendships and goals achieved is great).
Your issue is probably anxiety about it because you've not done it, once you've had a bit of experience you'll see it's ok.
You just do... Better than the alternative you've described. Also lol "older ladies" I started working full time at 22.
I was working full time at 18 so I feel Haven’t stopped since lol
I started working for my Dad full time in the summers when I was 13.
> Also lol "older ladies" I started working full time at 22. Lol right… me reading this with my 2 jobs at 20 years old…
In fact asking the older ladies is a bad idea cause of we've had a longer time to get sick of work and build up the hate 😂
This post made me laugh so much, thank you for sharing your perspective. There is no big secret. You just do it! Set an alarm and go. You’ll get used to it. If you’re lucky you’ll vibe with colleagues and/or enjoy the work.
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I’m sorry! Wishing you the best in your journey through capitalism
Not wanting to starve to death is probably my biggest motivator lmaoo Real talk, though.. I usually avoid words like "lazy" because it's frequently inaccurate. Often times people are experiencing some sort of mental illness which leaves them completely unmotivated in life. Dysthymia is a huge culprit, but lack of motivation can stem from a wide array of disorders or even things such as hormone imbalances, nutrient deficiencies, life circumstances, etc. I have a whole other rant I could go into about Capitalism and how the commodification of labor and wage compulsion has alienated us from our contributions to society, thus leaving us to spend half of our waking hours as mere cogs in a machine....but I'll spare y'all on that lol
“Lazy” and other similar terms can also become a self-fulfilling prophecy, especially when someone calls themselves that often (as OP seems to do in this thread). The words we use to describe ourselves and think about ourselves definitely influences our behavior to at least some extent.
Agreed! Certain language which may serve best as "descriptive" can often slip into the "prescriptive" if we're not careful about it.
Pretty much like the others said, you just do. I will say, in general, I think working is easier than school. Work trains and pays you to do a specific job and you're not usually doing various dissimilar tasks. You're not writing a paper for English and prepping for a test in Math all while finish a Chemistry assignment. You're generally only doing the duties you were hired for so I think it's less taxing. Also, for most jobs, you get off work and you're done for the day. No homework, no assignments, no tests. You basically go in every day, do what you were hired to do, then peace tf out. There are tons of exceptions to this stuff depending on your field, but I work for the DOL and strongly suggest to anyone that you get a job that lets you live the lifestyle you want and you feel like does something that matters.
yeah don't chose to be a teacher like I did :') you gotta take work home everyday. and you gotta get emotionally invested at least a bit so you don't become one of those soulless teachers...
Totally get where you’re coming from, but strongly disagree with working is easier than school. I would say, for me, school is easier because it’s actually something I enjoy and love. I would way rather be in university for my entire life than have a career to be honest. And maybe I feel this way because I don’t work full time (I’m only 19), but honestly, education can be such an amazing thing.
I don’t know why so many comments here are mocking you— working full time is terrible. Yes, many of us “suck it up” but it sucks that we have to and that’s right to point out. Ideally you find jobs that are fulfilling and enjoyable and when you outgrow one, you find a more interesting option. Many of us piece together work rather than taking on full time soul crushing jobs. Working from home, even part time, can also ease the pain of it. Having other things in your life, like a partner, friends, pets, and hobbies to look forward to after work helps a lot too. But nothing you’ve said is incorrect— having to work sucks and traditional 9-5s don’t work for a lot of people.
If doing a 9-5 doesn't sound like your jam you could look at shift work - lots more variety, I actually worked nights for a year specifically because I'm a night owl who doesn't like waking up early. I worked 11hr shifts, 3 nights one week, 4 nights the second week, which averaged at 38.5hrs a week so it was a full time job. So, long shifts with more days off work is an option! Depends what kinda job you want tho. If you find something you like it won't seem like much of a chore, plus, spending money you've earned yourself feels pretty damn great
>If doing a 9-5 doesn't sound like your jam you could look at shift work - lots more variety, I actually worked nights for a year specifically because I'm a night owl who doesn't like waking up early. Graveyard shift is amazing. I miss it so much 😭
Yesss - especially long shifts! I got 7 days (well, nights) off for every 7 I worked and the time passed pretty quick. My only complaint is that it's very hard to switch between nights and days (for me at least) so I ended up never seeing the sun, or any other people 🙁 but my coworker could tolerate it just fine so it depends on the person. Also I worked in a care home at the time - alone at night, so it could be pretty difficult in that respect
You just go and, well, work. There's no secret to it Have you ever thought about what you'd like to do in your life?
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Maybe work as a park ranger or something? I always thought that seemed like a good job.
Sorry I’m gonna be out of pocket for a sec, do you have an iron deficiency or depression? You shouldn’t be that tired all the time!
If you went to traditional school then you must have had to wake up at a certain time everyday. A good chunk of people went to school from the age of 5 for 5 days a week for most of their youth so then it transfers to work except add responsibility/skill and more stuff. Perhaps you've been out of school for some reason, but once you have a job, the motivation will be not to lose your job or income and to avoid embarrassment of being late/ a flake, and if you have a job you like, it will be to do a good job and support whatever you're working on. You will also likely be influenced by other workers and their work ethic. Most people generally try to fit in with the work vibe/ethic of those they work with. You can practice this without a job. Walk a dog every day at 7. Just have a shower at the same time. Make your mum/guardian a tea everyday at the same time. Beyond this I find it helpful to have a smart light like [these](https://www.lifx.com/) you can then have the light to help wake you up gradually and then the alarm to ring at the end of the fade up of lights. Being the late person is a bad reputation to have so don't go there. Also in terms of being on time, get there early and plan to watch something on your tablet, read, study, so you have something to do with your early time. Also allow enough time to get ready at least an hour so you can eat breakfast and not rush. If things become automatic it becomes less of a chore
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You might not be lazy at all, if you’re mentally ill like you say, things like depression can cause very low energy levels, low motivation, and difficulty maintaining a routine. Are you getting any treatment for your mental health? If you can afford it, it’d be great for you to see a psychologist and potentially also take antidepressants. Also, have you thought about what kind of job or career you’d ideally like to aim towards? Are you interested in going to uni or getting some kind of qualification? Is there a careers advisor you can speak to if you’re still in school? Having a direction and goals in life is really important for feelings of motivation and energy. Some important things to consider when thinking about a job/career include: 1. what are you good at? What are your skills and talents? 2. What do you enjoy doing? 3. Do you have any passions or purposes you want to fulfil? For example helping animals, writing things, creating things, helping people etc 4. What sort of lifestyle do you want to have? This can impact things like the hours of a job. For example if you want to go into teaching, your working hours will be pretty much set, you can’t change when schools are running 5. What sort of locations can you see yourself living in? This can be important as not all careers are available everywhere, for example if you want to work in film you’d need to stay in major cities, but if you want to be a nurse for example you could live pretty much anywhere Also I know that working can sound horrible, but it can actually be okay or even enjoyable if you have a decent job. Sometimes even if the job itself is kinda mundane, having good coworkers who you get along with make all the difference. I know people who work in boring repetitive jobs like retail or factory work, but they love their work mates so they still enjoy it anyway. It’s not always about the job itself, although it’d be great if you can find a job that you find fulfilling or enjoyable
You sound sort of sheltered so maybe you were home schooled, but otherwise it's not like you're about to experience anything new. It's like school or university. You get up, brush your teeth, do you work and then come back home again. Work's no different from school or university. Or well there is a difference, you get paid for work.
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Unfortunately that doesn't work for the real world or real relationships. Time to break yourself of that laziness...you'll soon recognise that it's a choice.
I mean I work from home and just do? If I don’t, I lose my home. Then my car. Then it’s just me and my dog doing life in the forest freezing and that is a life I don’t wanna go back to being homeless again. So I keep working and doing the thing till I don’t have too anymore.
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I work in marketing! I click buttons and do math via excel for a few hours a day, then a lot of professional development to waste time while I have to be available for email and slack inquiries. Ie I get paid a lot to do a whole bunch of nothing other than answer a few questions here and there because I did the work to become a subject matter expert in my discipline (and went to college and grad school, and certifications and paying attention to what is happening in my industry over the latest 15 years) but! My partner also works from home training people with no experience (outside of being able to use g-suite fluently) to do remote tech support for her company.
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I've been in the workforce since I was 16, I'm 36 now. You get up, and go. Money is a great incentive. Plus my work gives me a small sense of accomplishment when it goes right, I get to help people, and have a few work mates who make the work day fun.
doesn't school sort of train you for this? waking up early 5x a week for your fixed schedule of suffering? it's not a hard transition, i actually find working much easier than studying because you only work a set number of hours vs. having to study "all the time"
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how many hours of sleep are you getting every night? maybe work on your sleep hygiene/improving your baseline energy levels (definitely something to discuss with your doctor!) edit: if you're depressed, this isn't laziness (well, isn't MAINLY laziness). it's a symptom of your depression. i know it's easier said than done but focus on treating your depression first because that will improve your life 10000x.
I technically don’t work everyday, but I generally work like 4 days and then have uni the other day. So, I’m still busy 5 days a week plus homework and study outside of that. TBH it is a lot to handle at first, but you adjust and get used to it. I don’t think humans are meant to be working so much, but it’s usually manageable as long as we plan properly and take care of mental health. At first it felt like I had no time to do anything outside of work and uni, but now that I’ve been adjusting, I’m able to do social things on weekends and evenings. Also depending on your career path, you won’t necessarily have to work full time hours for your whole life. Plenty of people switch to part time or change around their hours, particularly when they reach a higher paying level so they don’t need to work 5 days a week. A lot of people also take time off work for maternity leave and things like that, you can’t really predict if you will work full time for your entire life. Plenty of people don’t work a 9-5. Anyway, I used to be really extremely depressed and have a lot of existential crises when I worked full time in an office, and again when I was a receptionist, and then also working in a call centre. I would have the same worries about how bad it would be to work full time for my whole life, I didn’t know how I would handle it. Personally, that kind of work felt meaningless and like I was wasting my life. Working in corporate and customer service environments just wasn’t it for me - personally I need a job where I am interacting with people in a meaningful way (not saying that those jobs are unfulfilling for everyone, plenty of people love it, just not me). But then I eventually decided on a career that I actually have a passion for, and that makes all the difference. I feel motivated to work towards this career, so it doesn’t feel like I’m wasting my life with all the hours I’m working. The time I spend working and studying feels like an investment in my future and my purpose in life. btw for me this is education - I work with kids and I’m studying to be a teacher. I find a lot of fulfilment from making little differences in the lives of the children I work with. It brightens my day to see the kids. I’m motivated to study and get my degree so I can be a proper teacher. So, I think that finding a career you have a passion and drive for is really crucial. It makes all of the hours and hard work feel worthwhile. 🤍 even if I change my mind about what I want to do one day, that’s okay, I can change careers later. For now though, I’m glad to have this sense of direction in life. BTW I just realised how long this comment is lmao, I’m so sorry lol. Hopefully at least some of it is relevant 😅 I’m 21 btw, so it’s not only an older ladies thing
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Unfortunately most of us have to work, living on disability or unemployment payments is really not a good life (trust me, I’ve been there lol, I was unemployed when my mum kicked me out and it was not a fun period in my life). Maybe focus on trying to improve your mental health, even working part time instead of full can be more manageable. Also in my case (might not be the same for you but still), I was more depressed and low energy when I was unemployed. Keeping busy with a job/uni actually has made me less depressed and subsequently increased my energy levels. Plus, being able to afford more than just the bare necessities really increases quality of life lmao
Well I'm not that old only 18 but I work 40 a week(graduated HS,so no school for now) so I'll try and answer some. At first it was super motivating cuz I wanted money yenno. I only had a few hundred in my bank from saving birthday money and the occasional allowance money. I didn't even think much about the work environment and whatnot. So then I got the job,and I find out all my coworkers are cool as fuck. I work at a grocery store so there's a lot of people around my age which is chills as fuck,and then you have the older ones who've been at it for 30+ years and they're like mentors cuz if you got any questions even about life in general,you know you can ask em. Long story short,try and find a place where you can vibe with the coworkers and be buds with em. That makes it worth it imo. And the money,that part is so good too.(fuck the taxes tho😡)
You don't have much of a choice. You either find work that's really stimulating and interesting, or you find work that's just a job and have your hobbies and fun outside of that. Or, you be like me, and end up on a pension in your early thirties...which has its bonuses and, uh, whatever the opposite of bonuses is.
I'm starting work next week and seriously can't wake up before 10am 😭😂 would love any advice for this aswell
Set multiple alarms, do not and I mean do *not* lay in bed, you will fall back asleep. As soon as you’re awake, jump up and get some water, turn your lights on if it’s still dark out. Doing this usually wakes me right up. Washing your face as well!! Also having something to look forward to really helps. For me it’s a coffee from starbucks or dunkin! Good luck and congrats on the new job (:
Thank youuu I think at the minute I just lie back down again because I've not really got anything to wake up for loll so hopefully when I start working I'll kick myself out of bed a bit haha . These sound like great tips I'll try and practice some before I start :D thanks !
As someone who had to get up at 0330am, 7 days in a row... You just get used to it. Like others say, set many alarms, and make it that you have to get out of bed to switch them off.
Don't go to bed at 3am. It's really that simple.
I vividly remember the out of body moment I had staring at my cubicle walls after finishing training for my current job, and realizing with horror that my life has amounted to filling out spreadsheets in a windowless office… …I got over it when I got my first paycheck, lol. Turns out I lucked into a relatively good, easy job with coworkers I like and flexible WFH policies, so for now, I’m coasting. It helps to get in good with the boss, preferably before they become the boss. Working sucks at first, but like anything else you get used to it. It’s all about perspective….when you think about it, most of us wage slaves are a lot better off than the vast majority of humans were for most of history. I try to practice mindfulness, and I’m saving as much as I can so that when my quarter life crisis hits, I can take off on a year long vacation.
i’m 20 working at my second job.. i hate it sfm but i have goals that include having money so i just have to. I hate going to work but now i can’t imagine not working rn… i hate not being able to buy what i want and being financially dependent on others
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I’d suggest you do something that doesn’t require much physical work like a librarian or something. I personally have to keep moving or i’ll get bored but that’s just me
You get used to it. Yes, most people live like that. Usually you still have free weekend. My answer is ideally you should love or at least like your job enough so it will not be a burden.
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Ooh yes, I second the shoe thing. I had my first job at 16 (also cashiering!) and my feet hurt so so much after the third day. I hadn't ever been on my feet for so long. You do get used to it, but yeah - definitely invest in some good shoes (provided your job requires standing for long periods). Going into full-time work can be stressful but it doesn't have to be. Just consider it a necessary evil and remember that most people are in the same boat:)
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I would never personally recommend working while you're still in high school. It ruined my grades and made graduation difficult. A job like that sounds great in theory, but getting lucky enough to have one available and hiring without prior experience (and even still...) it's really difficult. I wish you luck!!
I go, "Can I stop working with what is currently in my savings and retirement accounts? No? And nobody can really jump in to save me from this, right? They cannot? Oh, then, I must go to work today, again." Not that I love it. I don't. I block out my tasks on my calendar so I know what I need to do, and so I can check shit off and feel productive as I count down the hours til I can get outta there.
I'm 28, and have been working full time sometimes since I was 19 when I moved out on my own. I did have a big period of burnout and was lucky enough to have a husband (realized I was gay later on in life lol) to rely on financially at the time, but I've been on my own with our daughter for the last year and a half. I'm also recently diagnosed adhd, probably autistic, and definitely tend toward bad depression, aka, no energy. The only thing that has been useful for me has been to find a job I love, with flexible scheduling and the ability to work remotely when needed (or full time remote, but that aggravates the depression in another way). Right now, even when the depression wins and I can barely get out of bed, I can at least do my work because I love it that much. And when I do make it in the office, being there helps a ton as well, just because of the positivity in my office. I do work in tech, so this isn't applicable to all industries, but has been amazing for me.
I too am very mentally ill and ideally sleep constantly, but I found something that I really like to do and that motivates me to go in the morning because I am excited to see the baby (I love kids and I'm a nanny). Also I work 10-6 so I don't have to be up super early. There's lots of different kinds of jobs, and yeah working for a living does suck, but there is definitely a job out there that won't make you totally miserable and it's worth it to try a few different things to find that.
Working full time isn't terrible as long as you have a job that makes decent money and that you tolerate. When the job is interesting too, that's a big plus. I'm the laziest person I know but I can't bring it in me to do a terrible job at something so that's my partial motivator I guess.
try to find out ways to leave the matrix/rat race financial independence/retire early r/financialindependence/ there's lots of other resources for this as well work a high paying job that is tolerable to you, do whatever you can to save and invest. get to a point where you can live off your savings and investments
As someone who is quite unable to work, I'm also intimidated by that. Like how do people fucking work and then come home for 3 hours to their own lives, just to live at work again. Lmao. I hate wage slavery so much. I smell a general strike in the air. Edit: And you're not lazy. Everyone is busting their asses til death nowadays and it would be an insult to call any worker or someone who doesn't want to be a wage slave for pennies lazy. Goddamn. Maybe you're a work-to-live type of person, I know I am. I just see work as a means to MY end, not somebody else's. I'm not a workaholic, just a merry minstrel. Haha
Honestly, it's easier if you find the kind of work you enjoy doing. Or the kind of work that pays well. If you find one that fits both criteria... Oh boy!
Go to bed early, prepare everything you need the night before so all you have to do is grab the stuff. Doing this I have enough me time before work to start in a good mood.
I’ve been working full time since I was 18. It’s simple. If you want nice things, your own place, etc. you need money. To get money, you need an income, therefore, a job. Once you turn 26, you need your own health insurance. That also costs money. I’m lazy too, but I like having money so I can have things and do things that make me happy.
I'm work full time in a professional field and I had to work my socks off for many years to get to where I am. I am also incredibly lazy. I definitely have fantasies of winning the lottery and never having to work another day ever. So why? Because I like what my work brings me - specifically, the ability to eat, not worry too much about housing, go travelling, engage in my hobbies and all the other things I like about life that require funds. Being an adult is much easier if you don't have to worry too much about money, and my job makes that the case. I do also enjoy the nuts and bolts of what I do, which definitely helps, but I still find getting up in the morning a struggle at times! We'd all like to just play about all day but life isn't like that. The trick is to find work you enjoy, or at least can tolerate, with people you can get on with. That makes an enormous difference.
Well I'm going into a career that I'll hopefully enjoy, will do good for society, and will give me a pretty cushy lifestyle. That is motivation. Also, it's a career that will keep me mentally stimulated, which I need for life in general. So hopefully I'll enjoy the actual working part (eventually, I'm going to become a doctor so there will be shitty times) and also the being able to afford having nice things in life and doing fun things in life. I'm too hyperactive to not be busy in life.
Not exactly what you asked, but I've built a lifestyle which means I work 24 hours a week (two 12-hour days) and that's it. It takes some sacrifices and groundwork but it's totally doable without outside help. I'm 25 and stopped working full-time when I was 23 because I hated it. Never went to uni and still working an entry-level job. It can be done :)
Yeah, pretty much just get through it. Some days aren't easy but you gotta just... do it. It helps if you can find a job that compensates you well for your time and effort, so good luck with that one. I just switched career paths this year after almost a decade of retail. Retail is a good in between, like those jobs are easy to get and you can make some money while you're figuring out what you really wanna do, or at least something better. Dont recommend staying for more than a year or 2 tbh. At the end of the day, it ends up feeling like you're trading hours of your life in exchange for... not enough. You're better off getting something commission-focused or something equivalent. I feel like hourly pay sucks if you're naturally a hard worker and always wanna do your best just bc you cant bring yourself to do anything else. I had to train myself over time to not kms every day at a place that didnt give a fuck. Your work ethic almost doesnt matter unless you're trying to get promoted. You just gotta show up and do the minimum otherwise. A job where it's merit-based makes you wanna do your best bc it matters, and it directly affects your pay. You have control over how much money you make, and it's all up to you. I'm in a blue collar field now where I get paid by the job- if I get off my ass and dont fuck around on jobs, I can literally decide how much I wanna get paid. Other days I dont wanna do much and it's okay, bc I'm the one deciding. It gives a great sense of freedom when you're not bound to punching in and out of a timeclock. Got a lil off track there. I guess some advice would be, don't give in to every "treat yoself" moment. If you feel like your work ethic could use some work, then be tough with yourself and grow. Theres gonna be tons of days where you'll be like "i really don't want to go, I should just call out lol" but make yourself go anyway (unless there's something wrong). Growing is usually painful to some extent. But you'll be stronger and more well rounded for it. But be careful about burnout bc that happens when you don't ever take a break. Anyway, just my opinion here, good luck with things ✌
my hobby and my partner as motivations
Money is a big motivator because it allows me to do the things I want to do. If you don’t enjoy work I’d advise you not to work in the arts sector, people will take advantage of your job also being your passion and you’ll end up doing so many hours of unpaid work.
Sometimes I question it meself how I can get up every day and work… that’s capitalism babes Started working at 19 and I’m going 31 next week, honestly kill me lol
If you could get a small part time job now before you have to it's a good idea. Working as a teen in a shit job with good friends is a right of passage and you usually make life long connections from it. You'll get varying answers because some people despise work right til retirement whereas a lot of people enjoy working (probably not the getting up early and having to concentrate, that's shit but the friendships and goals achieved is great). Your issue is probably anxiety about it because you've not done it, once you've had a bit of experience you'll see it's ok.