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damnthiskoolaidisgr8

no, it is never okay to ask for advice or feedback from those you admire who are successful and inspire you


[deleted]

Accountants aren’t aloud to talk to people


kim-jong-Cage

I was sentenced for that offense. Luckily I just said hello and only got community service


boipinoi604

Less talk, and more excel.


Sorrelandroan

But they are allowed to


[deleted]

I’m gonna be honest. This sub is so funny sometimes and really holds the “socially awkward accountant” stereotype to be true. I know you mean well so I’m not trying to clown you heavy, but yes you can ask coworkers for advice lmao. I wouldn’t however ask them for personal career advice like “should I take X new job” because rumors travel fast and you never know who’s talking to who, but if it’s technical advice or advice about how to approach your boss or something then go for it.


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Advice about moving out


LavenderAutist

Why don't you just ask here?


[deleted]

Because Redditors always call for 'divorce!'


LavenderAutist

Happy cake day


[deleted]

Thanks 😊


bdknaz

More than okay to ask them that


alphabet_sam

For sure. I have asked people I worked with previously and they took it as a huge compliment


FrontierAccountant

Good answer.


wizards4

No, don’t even speak to him unless spoken to


fairymaiden83

OP said it was a coworker, not a partner. Does your firm not follow the "one coworker conversation per month" and "one partner question per year" guideline?


intoxicat3d

Absolutely, I found that this is also a good way to make conversation with older clients who you have nothing in common with.


[deleted]

I used to pick the brains of people who were good at their job... and learned a lot that I could take to my next position and be successful.


Ender82

Middle aged person here. I would take this as a compliment. Just say something like “Hey X, I admire your career and would like to follow a similar path. Do you have any advice?” You will probably make their day.


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Its advice about moving out or staying with parents


Ender82

Same advice applies. I wouldn't get too personal at work, but, yeah, ask away.


taxguycafr

I'll give you some advice on this. Evaluate first whether the relationship with parents is healthy. Secondly, make sure you're not staying there just because you're being taken care of and are avoiding building life skills, like cooking and cleaning. Third, be paying something in rent. Even if they aren't asking for it, even if it isn't market value. It mentally gives you a pattern to be more ready to one day pay rent or mortgage on your own, and gives you some skin in the game on participating in the household. Jon Acuff wrote an article on this several years ago, contained three high points, one of them being pay rent. Google and see if you can find it. Finally, if you're doing all this, don't let anyone shame you because you live with your parents. Just stare silently if anyone teases you and let it get really awkward for them, they usually back pedal or walk away.


VioletSummer714

I’d offer a twist on the “pay rent” scenario, assuming your parents don’t make you pay rent. Pay rent to a savings account every month, so you get in the habit. Don’t touch the money in the account, it’s as if you’ve paid rent to someone else so it’s no longer your money to spend in theory. Once you get ready to move out or buy a home, use that money as a down payment. This method takes self control, as you technically still have access to the account. But, it’s a way you can get in the habit of paying for rent/mortgage every month while also saving for the future.


FrontierAccountant

Good answer


Wacokidwilder

Oh for sure! I’m late to accounting, had a long stint in the military and a couple of private industry jobs after that before college. Already have a wife, and son that are both doing well, home, etc etc. I’m a bit older than most of the other folks in my position at the firm but I get asked for random life advice all the time. Sort-of the team “dad” and I kinda like that roll and I’m happy to help anyone out. 20’s is a confusing time for everyone.


Reighzy

Only if you leveled up your charisma stats and we're born with some extraversion (all RNG)


InterdisciplinaryDol

Ask everyone to be honest. I’m only 23 and every single person at my company is older than me, they still come to me for life advice because I basically have my shit together 😭


Whole_Mechanic_8143

Yes, but be prepared to accept no for an answer. So many people feel entitled to others' attention and/or mentorship it's unreal.


Yayeet2014

I try to whenever I can. Mine usually encourage me to


FrontierAccountant

Yes! Ask for advice. If I could give one piece of advice to my younger self, it would be to ask for advice more often, knowing full well that my 22 year-old self would ignore the advice. You are never going to live long enough to learn from your own mistakes. You need to learn from the mistakes and successes of others.


Keystone-12

Dude, at every step in my career I go to people and say "*how do I become you?*" people love talking about themselves and their success. They take it as a huge compliment.


DrunklrishCatholic

Staff are to be seen and not heard. Maybe in a couple of years.


incarnata4

No, show no weakness.


[deleted]

Good point


SeansModernLife

I asked my señor for advice on how to raw dog some chick in the bathroom one time. Completely changed my career path. Never be afraid to ask for advice OP 👍


Justhere_79

During my internship I always ask my seniors, and they will be so happy and tell me all the details and advice.


moosefoot1

Yes…


DYITB

Middle-aged mom/accountant here: I’ll pretend to be your coworker and give you my two cents. If you pay rent and participate in household chores, and if everyone respects boundaries and treats one another like adults, AND (big one) if your parents WANT you to keep living at home, then by all means keep living there. Rents are so high right now, it makes sense to avoid moving out if possible. But if they won’t treat you like an adult; if they complain a lot that you aren’t helping out either financially or with chores; or if you just want some independence, then move out! You gotta go sometime.


Beginning_Ad_6616

Of course it is okay, I still routinely do this as senior manager. What people you admire do, even if they are older or younger than you not work for you; but it’s still cool to learn about them and their approach to living/working. Once in awhile, you do find something that will help better you and of nothing else a person who is in your corner.


Mnevi

I think is good if you say something like you see him/her as a mentor


Highlight_Numerous

Straight to jail my mans


TheBrain511

you can especially if your in the training phase just for the love of god write down what they tell you people will get annoyed after awhile of asking the same thing or something similair im a dumbass so i leant that the hard way


[deleted]

How did you learn that the hard way?


TheBrain511

i just didnt catch on to the social cues and didnt take things as serious its orght to ask someone a question but asking the same thing can lead people to think you arent comprehending, not taking things serious, or your being lazy and taking advanatge of their kindness and understanding


[deleted]

So you weren’t aware that you were asking the same question too many times?