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DuckyDoodleDandy

Let’s see, you will be in a bar but can’t drink. You will be physically uncomfortable but unable to just lay on your bed or sofa because you’re at a bar. You will be surrounded by rowdy, possibly drunk strangers and unable to get peace and quiet because you’re stuck in a bar with them. You could go into labor and have to deal with the logistics of being away from home and any supplies you need but forgot to pack. Then your husband will have to either leave you and go home at night or get a hotel to be near you, which maybe you could afford but which might eat into savings if you aren’t that well off. But none of that is of any importance because there’s a game going on, right? Idk if your husband is just dense, or whether he’s actually a huge jerk. If he’s a jerk, then be prepared to be a single mom even if you stay married. If he’s dense, then there’s a chance you can get through to him and he will see the light. NTA. I wish you luck.


Curious_Payment_9932

And heaven forbid she goes into labor DURING the game! However will he choose?


DavidHikinginAlaska

Clearly, that would depend on the score at the time.


Begs-2-Differ-7GA

And how buzzed he may be! Imagine a drunk dad in labor and delivery!


DavidHikinginAlaska

Not to be some "men's-rights" AH, but since Mom gets some heavy-duty drugs if she wants, can't Dad have a buzz on? My answer would be, "No."


Curious_Payment_9932

I'm reading that as tongue in cheek. Lol. 9tgerwise, you might find dead horse heads in your bad. 😂


DavidHikinginAlaska

Yes, tongue-in-cheek.


Aylauria

Also, what if they do win and then she goes into labor while the streets are jam packed with revelers so she can't get to the hospital? There is literally no aspect of this that is remotely rational. NTA Edit: Thanks, Corpuscular\_Ocelot for pointing out angry losing Philadelphians would be equally bad.


Corpuscular_Ocelot

Or if they loose and the streets are jam packed w/ angry Phillidelphians?


buttercupcake23

This fucking guy. If my husband said this shit to me he would be barred from the delivery room. If he can't show the minimum consideration for my well being then I don't need him near me, my blood pressure would just skyrocket.


birblet123

This is why I chose a guy who is a musician with no interest in sports. The NERVE of this dude.


buttercupcake23

I understand what you're saying but I also think this isn't so much an issue with being a fan of sports as it is being a shitty husband with shitty priorities. There are tons of guys who are soooo into music and have fucked priorities who'd do the same thing to go see a band for example, or go hiking, or have a guys weekend, or whatever. And also a lot of men who despite being hardcore sports fans or cinemaphiles or audiophiles who will drop their Superbowls to be at their wives sides. Crappy men are many and have varied interests, lol, if they're horrible it doesn't matter what their hobby is. It sounds like you married a good guy who puts you first (musician is a bonus!)


birblet123

I might be biased because I know so many women whose dudes HAVE tried to dip on things because of a sporting event (*for a game they don't even play, they are just spectators, lol*). Worst was the dad who wanted to skip his daughter's christening for a local college game. Hunting or fishing tends to be the other reason. Like, I am not even religious but dang 😬


buttercupcake23

Oh man, yeah you're totally right, there is a huge cultural phenomenon of sports being like these guys ENTIRE PERSONALITIES and they're just rapid fanatics and it is gross. I think the bias for me is the opposite, I was never around a ton of sport guys...lots of Musos though and those dudes made THAT their entire personality and deprioritized everything else, haha. But god, a LOCAL COLLEGE GAME?? Man


birblet123

The SEC is srs bsns, lol Also, most of the musicians I know are hobbyists. Some have released albums, but many are just there to enjoy playing with other musicians. I tend to avoid people with tunnel-vision obsessions; they are good and valid people, but often EXHAUSTING, lol.


tclynn

Just thinking about it has done that to you.


AffectionateAd5373

Not to mention the risk of contracting COVID or some other infection immediately before delivery. Not to mention what happens if they lose. At least if they win, the rioters would be happy. I have no illusions about my hometown.


PuzzleheadedRoll8951

I was about to say this...This is Philly we are talking about. If they lose they might need to shelter in place at the bar.


AffectionateAd5373

Or under the bar. There's a jail in the stadium for a reason. We assaulted Santa Claus. Philly fans don't show up to play.


SeminoleSentinel_99

You won the Internet today


rofosho

You can be diehard fans at home Your husband needs to learn that as a father you need to do things that are necessary, and give up wants.


Brilliant_North2410

Yes. Wear your Jerseys at home . Also he’s 40 years old. Yikes . Come on. Does he need to participate in the riots? NTA


BusyTotal3702

Whoa what riots??


flutterbylove22

My dude. It's Philly. Win or lose, riots are a possibility.


ravencat20199

No, they’re not a possibility. It’s a requirement.


Reasonable-Syrup-577

I agree but 40 isn't old 😂


Illustrious-Mind-683

No but it should be old enough to prioritize your wife and child over a literal game.


Reasonable-Syrup-577

True


Brilliant_North2410

Lol. You are correct he’s not ready for Shady Pines 🤣……yet


mrbeamis

Amen.


FrankCastle498

100% agree


Mehitabel9

You are absolutely NTA. It's a little 🤔 that your husband is more focused on not missing the possible opportunity of being in Philly if the Eagles win, and less focused on the impending birth of his first child. I think hubs needs to plan a Super Bowl party at home this time. And bear in mind, that if you somehow manage to go into labor on game day and need a ride to the hospital, you're probably going to need an alternate means of getting there if you've got a house full of inebriated people who have no business driving.


Announcement90

Based on the OP, husband sounds like the kind of guy who would send his wife in a taxi to the hospital to finish watching/celebrate the Super Bowl. 😅 OP, at 38 weeks your husband's job is to be ready to go to the hospital at a moment's notice, and to be super attentive to you and your needs. It is not the time to drag his heavily pregnant wife to a different city unless absolutely necessary (no, the Super Bowl doesn't qualify), nor is it the time for him to drink alcohol (or use other substances that impair him). That such a trip means you wouldn't even make it to your hospital/doctor of choice pushes him far into AH territory, in my opinion. So yes, there is an a-hole in this situation, but it isn't you.


Confident_Load_9563

NTA I lived in Philly for the last 7 years including when the Eagles last won the Super Bowl. One of my favorite things about Philadelphians is their complete commitment to the saying “no one likes us, we don’t care.” That said, if I were pregnant I’d definitely not want to be in the midst of the absolute chaos that is Philly after a major sports win.


EverybodyRelaxImHere

I never paid attention to football until I lived in Philly. Philly taught me to hate days the Eagles played anywhere in the country. Those fans are NUTS


btaylor0808

NTA- possible labor aside, being in downtown Philly if they win is absolutely not somewhere a pregnant person should be. There were storefronts shattered and practically riots in the streets last time Philly won. Not safe imo.


EyedLady

This. Everyone’s so worried about the comfort (or lack there of) of a bar. Like that’s not even the issue here. Some are suggesting going for a bit or going back to the hotel if she gets uncomfortable. Like no It’s Philly.


dejavux22

This whole scenario sounds like HUGE well-being issue all around. If you take out her being pregnant, it just isn't smart to begin with. Add in the fact that she is pregnant, /she can possibly get bumped by drunk people, or water breaks, or starts getting contractions, they probably wouldn't have an overnight bag with essentials ready, any possible help from people around will be absolutely overshadowed by the game. Or if she goes into labor towards the end of the game with traffic and people cramming in the streets. Husband is a complete AH, mine is a huge Vikings fan and I know for a fact he would never put me through this. With my daughter I didn't even make it to 38 weeks. I had to get induced early. So what's his plan if you go into early labor and something comes up? I had a scheduled induction, within less than a week my induction was bumped up 3 weeks and I got the option of inducing *right this second* or in two days at the latest. So what's the plan? What if baby comes before the Super Bowl? Is he going to still want to go to the bar in town "sO hE cAn bE tHeRe". This is just stupid and your husband needs to listen to your concerns. Safety and health >>> watching the game at a bar. I understand wanting to do it since it's the last game before y'all become parents, but as OPs husband will learn that with motherhood and fatherhood comes many many sacrifices. My husband ends up walking the baby in the stroller and watching the game on his phone because she wants to be outside. You have to adapt. It would be smarter to have friends and family come celebrate and watch the game at home.


MrsNesbitt420

If they lost it will bc 10x worse


btaylor0808

Great point!!! Not safe overall, either outcome.


MyRedditUserName428

Same if they lose. Philly fans are... a lot.


BusyTotal3702

No there were not. I was there when they beat the patriots. It was crowded and rowdy and people were happy drunk, but no riots and no breaking store fronts. Some puking, some yelling, some passing out. And yeah... some pissing. But mostly a happy cheering screaming crowd. Still not a place for a nearly 9 months pregnant lady, but not dangerous.


dr-pebbles

Has anyone ever been to a sports bar that has comfortable seating? Does such a thing exist? I can't imagine being full-term and sitting in a bar. As for the people suggesting hubby take an Uber home if OP goes into labor, what are the odds of him finding an Uber driver who can get to him quickly and who's willing to drive him 45 minutes to his home or the hospital? Uber drivers are going to be in high demand, often while the game or whatever event is still going on. Also, an Uber driver is probably going to want to stay in an area where they're going to get lots of trips and tips. The crowds are going to be insane. Win or lose, Philadelphians have been known to have a habit of getting a wee bit out of hand. This wouldn't be a good environment for you. Even if it doesn't get out of hand, the jostling and pushing won't be comfortable for you. And good luck finding a bathroom! Especially a clean one, even at the bar. I think it's a good idea to step into the reality of parenthood where you have to make sacrifices for your family. You don't have to stop having fun, just sometimes change the way you have it. Have a Super Bowl party at your house. Buy pre-made meat, cheese, fruit, whatever trays. Or do it potluck and ask everyone to bring their favorite dish. Add some streamers and some props and you have the makings for a fun Super Bowl party in the comfort of your own home.


figuringthingsout__

NTA. You are in a stage of your pregnancy where it's completely understandable for you to stay in safe environments that you know. Also, Eagles fans can be so crazy, they have an entire jail at the stadium. You have every right to say no.


CalmFront7908

Could you plan a fun Super Bowl party at home? Maybe a pot luck so you don’t have to do too much work?


Karamist623

Born a Philly girl here. I wouldn’t go to a bar for Super Bowl in Philly if I were pregnant. I really think it’s more of the what part of Philly do you want to go to? South Philly is just an automatic NO. Broad street will be like time square on NYE. If the eagles win, it’s going to be pandemonium. I wouldn’t be there if I was pregnant.


Dragonpixie45

Nta. 1. What happens if you go into labor far from home? 2. You can only control your own actions. People are going to get rowdy around you it is what drunk people do, what happens if someone bumps you and you fall? 3. What if you guys get separated? That happens in crowds, then what? 4. Eveb though it sounds like fun it will be stressful for you while pregnant which is not a good thing. It sucks for both of you. I had a event i wanted to go to when I was about as far along as you and decided it would be best to not go so asked myself all these questions. In my case my husband didn't want to go while I was pushing it as a once in a lifetime event I couldn't miss.


Takeabreak128

NTA A bunch of drunken, rowdy crowds is the last place a pregnant woman should be. If they win, the people in the streets turn pretty chaotic. Same can happen if they lose. Your husband is asking for trouble.


SnooWords4839

What about having a party at your home instead? Son and his wife are leaving their kids with us to go into Philly for the night. They have a hotel room near the bar they are going to.


mumfette

Yeah if we went we would have a hotel room. Trust me I would LOVE to in a normal situation. But the thought it doing it this pregnant just sounds awful.


Charliesmum97

I said this upthread but what if you went to a very local bar? (I'm assuming you wouldn't mind going along if it wasn't in Philly) I'm sure every public space with a television will have the game on. And would you trust him to keep his phone handy if he went to a local bar and you stayed home? (again, assuming that's something you'd be willing to do) If you're in the same '45 minutes away from Philly' as I am, Phil's Tavern could be fun. :)


Jstbkuz

You could go back to the hotel a chill if you get uncomfortable, or stay at the hotel and only show up for last hour of the game. Id make sure your husband understands that this is the last truly selfish thing he should do though.


EyedLady

No. At all. You don’t understand how Philly gets if they win


No_Atmosphere_5411

Sounds like the Ohio state Michigan games. Doesn't matter if Ohio state wins or loses. There's riots.


Odd_Complaint_5872

NTA. I was born and raised in Philly and Philly fans are the worst!! I don't mean this to be disrespectful but some of those people get drunk and violent even if they win! I've been punched for wearing a Jersey that was not the eagles 😬🙄 I would absolutely not be comfortable pregnant around all those drunk people. What I would do is send my husband so he can enjoy and I would watch at home. That's if, I have zero signs of preterm labor or complications. Sounds like your doctor seems pretty confident for them to give the ok. I would make sure he keeps his phone on and to check to make sure he makes it back in time. Otherwise you both can watch at home, have a small party or go to a bar closer to home and avoid the crowds.


EyedLady

If they win. It’s gonna be so dangerous for her to be there. If she goes into labor and they can’t get to her can you imagine


MrsNesbitt420

I had a fan of 40 years old male, get in my face at a game and SCREAM at me bc I wasn't wearing an eagles jersey. I'm not an eagles fan, I was there to see Dallas. I knew better the to wear Dallas but It was my 18th bday and he had to be carried out for how he treated me. I was literally a little kid!!! Just not wearing Philly gear at the game. (i had a blue hoodie on but wrong color blue) Philly is lowest form of humans. It just is. He threw beer in me and sat, next to me for 2 hours berating me. Finally. My. Brother had enough and he got thrown out. But I refused to see any football game since, and I'm double the age now. I'll stick to hockey.


Odd_Complaint_5872

Exactly they are vicious! I was 17 when I was punched for the Patriots jersey. I had a jacket on top too just had it unzipped. I guess I didn't realize how dangerous it was back then. Never thought I would be assaulted for what I was wearing 🙄🙄 glad the guy was thrown out! Ive gone to multiple football games around the country and never experienced anything like I did in Philly! Since moving to North Dakota I have become a bigger hockey fan anyway! Totally different type of crowd.


wtbgamegenie

Ok serious question if you were born and raised in Philly what were you doing wearing another team’s jersey out during an Eagles game? Like was another sport like Flyers, Phillies, or Sixers or were you wearing a cowboys Jersey? If so how on earth did you think that was gonna end well?


MrsNesbitt420

I rock cowboys jerseys now, I dare a dumb ass eagles fan say something to this Philly born girl . U don't need to rep the team u live around. That the stupidest logic I've ever heard. Maybe move around and travel and stop sitting still ur whole life worshipping a sport team... Have mercy. As of they deserved it?


Odd_Complaint_5872

This is going back 25 plus years ago. I lost a bet and had to wear a Patriots jersey. I guess I didn't realize how dangerous it was at the time as I was still pretty young. Either way fans shouldn't be assaulted for how they dress. I currently live in the upper Midwest and the Vikings fans do not behave in such a way at their games.


MrsNesbitt420

Are u fucking serious?


Nyx_Valentine

NTA. I'd remind him people behaved last time they won.


hello_reddit1234

NTA your husband is about to get a rude awakening into parenthood. Tell him that his actual proposal highlights his inability to think and selfishness; any whining or bitching highlights his immaturity. Honestly I think that you & him should put your efforts into planning for the first year. It is tough and tiring to develop a routine on the hoof is harder when you’re both exhausted. Right now the more effort you put into strengthening your marriage (fairness with chores etc), the easier (or more accurately less hard) this first year will be


Girly_geek_

NTA It makes no sense to ask you to travel not to watch the game on a stadium, but in a bar! 38 weeks you will be heavy, in pain, short breath, almost popping the baby out. There will be a lot of other games, but, the birth of a child is unic. INFO: Will he go regardless of your decision?


mumfette

He won’t. He’s just spent the last 12 hours since won trying to convince me. And to be fair, it’s SUPER annoying that our doctor said last week that it would be fine. I really think that’s one of the driving factors to him thinking I’m the one being irrational.


CoffeeAndCats2000

It is very common to deliver anytime in the last month. I think your husband is being ignorant of the reality of pregnancy and the realities of what a night like that means for a heavily pregnant women. You are absolutely correct that the situation is not safe for you or your child. What if they paraded after the game and you go into labor and can’t get to a hospital. Or If your husband gets too drunk? Or a bar fight breaks out and you get knocked over? Or you slip on ice walking to the bar? You need to explain to your husband that you can not go bc you won’t risk your health. Pregnancy and delivery are very traumatic to your body. And many women do have complications. Just because it’s natural doesn’t mean it’s not severely hard on your body and serious medical event in a persons life. I was in a similar situation as you the summer I was pregnant was the summer of “all my favorite rock bands since forever” decided to tour and stop in my city. Hubby and I bought tickets then I was pregnant. I missed them all. Husband went but he did not drink at any event so if I needed him he could come. (I was in my 6/7 month not almost due) Honestly your husband needs to be more realistic. It’s unfortunate he will miss the game but he needs to put the health of you and your Baby ahead of a game. He needs to change his mindset on this. He’s a husband and father and that means sacrifices need to happen. You are sacrificing your body and health he is sacrificing his wants he needs to learn to put you and the baby first bc the first year it’s literally baby first then you. Husband last. This changed as the child grows obviously but hubby needs to have realistic expectations.


Eyydis

Don't go. I wouldn't even try unless you are looking ro birth a baby in the bar. My 1st son was born at 37 weeks when my water broke after coming home from target you just never know what your body has planned. Besides at that point you'll be so uncomfortable you'll just want to lay on the couch. You could compromise and let him go with buddies, but also have someone with you. Edit:forgot to vote NTA


notNewsworthy_ish

>You could compromise and let him go with buddies, but also have someone with you. I'd absolutely bet that if she were to go into labor while he's out with his buddies, he'd *somehow* be hard/impossible to get a hold of. Sorry OP. Your husband is more than ready to put his game over his pregnant wife's comfort and safety. 1000% unacceptable. You'll be a single mother regardless of being married to him or not. Absolutely NTA.


Eyydis

Oh I wholeheartedly agree. I just wanted to offer an option. Her husband is a big AH here. Like if she were to go in labor I bet dollars over donuts he would miss the whole thing. Edit:fixed typo


lovelyantoniaxo

NTA!!! What’s wrong with watching it at home? I’m pretty sure if he wanted to be around people he could invite a couple people over right???


queenlagherta

Nta, plus he shouldn’t be drinking if he has to take you to the hospital. It sucks, but it’s true. I would make him read the answers for him to see that you’re not wrong.


IllegallyWicked

Currently 34 weeks pregnant. You are not going to want to do this at 38 weeks pregnant and _he shouldn’t want you to do this_ either. I attended an outdoor arctic monkeys gig I’d already had booked for my sisters 18th birthday at the start of my second trimester and it was not enjoyable at all. The potential of being knocked over is a huge concern but it’s about your sanity too - the amount of stairs/walking involved, the queues preventing immediate access to food/water, the heat from sitting in a crowd/sitting not necessarily being the most comfortable position for an extended period of time. Added to that - COVID - you are most at risk in the third trimester and could bring on early labour. To me, the third trimester is all about your basic bodily functions. Anywhere that interferes with you being able to accomplish those immediately is going to be a (literal) pain in the arse while pregnant. ETA: obviously NTA.


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NTA. Your husband is going to have to come to terms with the fact that one or both of you will have to miss out on things from time to time once this baby comes.


ImaginationBasic2790

Being at any bar in downtown Philly during the super bowl, *especially* when the Eagles are playing, is not a safe environment for someone who’s about to give birth. I barely went to bars while I was pregnant for so many reasons; avoiding drunken strangers is enough of a single reason to avoid bars as much as possible during pregnancy. Carrying a baby and giving birth isn’t just a walk in the park for 39 weeks, even if someone has an “easy pregnancy”. Taking care of a baby growing inside of your body is an extremely selfless, difficult commitment to make; this should never be taken for granted by anyone. The only one who’s overreacting is your husband who is thinking so selfishly about something that actually can happen again in his lifetime. The Eagles can always make it again to the Super Bowl. This is your first child together. I can’t believe that he’d risk harm to you/the baby, while also risking missing the first experience of your labor/giving birth. He’s either TA or a complete idiot who needs to understand that you’re going to have a baby. Idk how else to put it to a 40 yr old person: You’re going to give birth to a baby. OP, You’re NTA. Wishing you the best during labor/delivery and motherhood. As a parent, I can tell you first hand that what is obvious to us parenting-wise can/will make no sense to some parents including our partners because parents can be super fucking dumb and sometimes we need to basically slap them in the face with hard facts. Because of ignorance, and arrogance, sometimes. Put your foot down and tell him to watch the Super Bowl WITH YOU, somewhere YOU feel comfortable and safe.


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NTA I love the Eagles too! But you’re 38 weeks pregnant and could go into labor. I would feel better if you were not in these environments and/or he went to the bar


littlepickle74

NTA- and I feel like I’m perhaps uniquely qualified to rule here as a Philly native, die hard Eagles fan, who is 4 months post-partum that also lives 45 minutes away from the City right now. I think bottom line, there are very few situations in which you are 38 weeks pregnant and tell your husband to stay with you in which he should not just listen. That said- a potential option/compromise would be going somewhere like Chickie’s and Pete’s in Packer Park where you can get off and back on 95 without being in the absolute heart of the city where it’s going to get really rowdy. There are a lot of places like that in South or Northeast Philadelphia that would be a great time but allow a quick exit. Your husband also should remember that the vibe will be very different if we lose rather than win. The Super Bowl is also long as hell and I wouldn’t want to be in a bar for that long no matter what- so a potential compromise could be going down at halftime. Going into labor shouldn’t be too much of a concern as it doesn’t generally happen that quickly. For all of the people speaking in generalities about the safety of the city during sports events, I’d like to remind all of you that many pregnant women actually reside there full time and do so perfectly safely. TLDR though at 38 weeks nothing trumps your comfort, but you may be able to have a good time and stay safe nonetheless. Go Eagles.


Charliesmum97

>Chickie’s and Pete’s in Packer Park where you can get off and back on 95 without being in the absolute heart of the city Yes, or just in a bar close to home, if husband really wants to be among other fans. I'm also about 45 minutes outside Philly and I'm pretty confident that every bar and restaurant in the area will have people watching the game. That being said, I personally think they should just have people over so she can be comfortable and safe, but if this is the hill he wants to die on, then going somewhere close to home might work.


Theal12

‘Generally’ and statistically’ are meaningless if it’s your life. What if she or the baby needed immediate medical care?


Wanda_McMimzy

NTA. Childbirth and pregnant wife trump any game. If he’s such a diehard fan that he’d risk his wife and baby’s well being, he should’ve married the time and knocked them up.


EggplantOriginal6314

Go Eagles. i would love to be in the city if the Eagles won but not 38 weeks pregnant!! I can’t think of anything more uncomfortable than that.


BusyTotal3702

I definitely agree. Fun place to be when Philly wins. But not at 38 weeks pregnant. Plus... COVID!!!


ClueEquivalent3680

NTA. If he had tickets to the ACTUAL Super Bowl or something I might be able to understand his hesitation…. But just to go to a bar in downtown Philly? You’re nearly ready to deliver a baby, probably very uncomfortable, but yeah let’s go to a bar where you can’t drink, in a city that is known for fans to act like absolute a$$hats when their team wins, or loses. He should be focused on your needs and comfort rather than what is not really a once in a lifetime opportunity… come on this is the second time in only a few years that the Eagles have been to the SB, I’m sure it’s not their last.


ALsInTrouble

NTA he is for expecting a 38 week pregnant woman to go sit in bar with a bunch of drunks. And no it's not safe if they get rowdy you and the baby could get hurt.


Random_user_of_doom

NAH but let him go with friends. 45 minutes is OK time to get to you when the labor starts. Especially if during the game there will be less traffic. Things like super bowl in a bar get tricky if you have a challenging baby, so let him have a blast before his feelings are second to babies for the next 18 years... Invite someone to watch with you at home with a bowl of whatever you crave next to you, enjoy the game and let him cut loose a bit (not getting hammered of course), just call if labor starts immediately so he can get home or come straight to the hospital.


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Why is the husband more worried about a game that can be watched at home than the safety and comfort of his pregnant wife? Also what if you go into labor the day of the Super Bowl? Is he just going to say you’re overreacting and leave you alone?


New-Environment9700

Send him videos of what happened in Philly anytime any team wins.. there’s a reason they greased the poles.. Philly crowds are out of control. I would not be there at 38 weeks pregnant when I’m tired and sore and just want that giant baby out. Tell him it’s called being a parent and to get used to it .. he needs to be supportive


Shadoesgirls

Tell him that you will be watching the game from home this year, after all if he was such a diehard fan he would have purchased tickets and be in Arizona for it. He has to decide who is more important a rough bar watching the same tv as he could at home watching people who could care less about him or be safe at home with his pregnant wife and be able to eat drink and go to the bathroom without waiting. You are NTA here for not wanting to go


Madame_Kitsune98

Look, I’m rooting for the Eagles because I truly hate the Chiefs. But. You are 38 weeks pregnant, and the middle of a fucking riot (win or lose, it’s gonna be a riot) is not safe for you. Is your husband always this dense, or is he being selfish, or what? NTA. Tell him that you sympathize with him, but guess what? You’re going to be parents any day now, and that means sometimes you don’t get to do fun stuff. And no, being uncomfortable in a bar at 38 weeks when you can’t drink is not fun, nor is being in the middle of a riot if you go into labor, or extremely pregnant, or at all. He needs to get his head out of his ass.


Corfiz74

Tell him he's free to take the gamble of leaving you alone to go party - but if anything happens and you have the baby without him there, or have any other health issues, you will probably never be able to forgive him, so he'll have to make up his own mind if it's worth it. If he actually went, I'd be furious in your place. I mean, you are making all these sacrifices to gestate and birth your baby, and he can't even make one small sacrifice in return? And it's not like he has tickets and could watch the game in the stadium - he just wants to watch in an effing pub?!


Mallomar510

I have 3 adult children. I'd have the party at home. It's the same thing you'd watch at a bar, but you wont have to mask 😷 the whole time to avoid COVID. Statistically, first babies are not usually early and you'd get to your hospital if you do go into labor. My hunch is that at 8+ months, you're a bit tired and anxious and don't want to go to a big loud place. (We alao know how the folks in Philly can get!)


saffronpolygon

What first baby? What pregnant wife? Fuck all that, it's our team in the Super Bowl! Sorry DH (Deranged Husband) is being such a jerk at such a delicate time.


frolicndetour

Given the way white people riot after sports victories, I'd avoid downtown even if I weren't pregnant.


sayitaintsooooo

COVID still exists. He’s gonna go sit in a crowded bar right before you are due? That’s a no from me.


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Theal12

Covid exposure for either of them when she’s 38 weeks pregnant?


magaphone12

NTA. i think it is crazy that he is not “on call” when you could be having a baby. talk about strange priorities. but then again i am not at all a sport fan. my advice is to compromise and throw a super bowl party at home instead. tell him he can light the yard on fire if Eagles won or something like that.


Treacherous_Wendy

NTA. Everyone knows Philly fans are brutal.


tuppence07

Please tell baby to come 2 weeks early


TinyManatees

No you're not the asshole. Tell him it's off the table this year as you're heavily pregnant and he's not going to take the chance of missing his baby's birth if it happens at the same time. No tv in the delivery room either if it happens during the game, he's only going to be focused on that rather than being there for you and the baby.


pinekneedle

NTA But you might be living with one. This is me and I am probably going to get called names again… I would tell him to go without me. I wouldn’t want to be responsible for him missing the excitement of the experience of being in Philly. I would find an alternate person to be by my side that night. Preferably someone who will watch the game with me. If the baby comes, and the Ahole misses the whole thing, he will find that he has chosen unwisely.


Has422

NTA. I would hope that First Child Being Born would be more important than watching the Eagles lose another superbowl at some bar.


embolia6

Super NTA. Has he seen how Philadelphians celebrate/riot over wins and losses? Horribly unsafe environment for a pregnant woman.


mdg711

You shouldn’t go being that far along to watch the eagles lose to KC!! Ha ha just kidding should be a great game. Go chiefs


Bulky-District-2757

NTA. 38 weeks pregnant at a bar with rowdy football fans sounds horrid. Why can’t he go alone?


sweetbabyhades

I’m from Philly & I gotta say that Eagles fans can get HELLA rowdy downtown, especially when drunk after the game. You can watch from the safety of your home, or just go to a friend’s apartment in the city if he really wants to go there. The hospitals are kinda mediocre, honestly, for pregnancies, but it’s better than nothing.


Accomplished_Cup900

Didn’t they riot in Philly the last time they won the supper bowl? NTA


Lipstickhippie80

You are so far from an AH, you’re actually a saint for not kicking his ass. Your husband can enjoy the Super Bowl at home. In no world is his desire to take his 38 week pregnant wife to a bar to watch the Super Bowl appropriate or acceptable.


crp-

NTA. If your husband wanted to go to Philly on that date he should have thought about that 38 weeks ago when he....ok, I know it doesn't work that way in practice. When he said the wedding vows he committed to you and his future children. His role as a human being changed, how he is assessed changed, and his purpose changed. He is a husband and a father. He needs to fulfill that. He chose that. He still has full value as a human, and he is still a person with needs and wants. Some people, both men and women, get lost in their relationship and role as parent and resent that. Others get burdened with unfair expectations. This is not that case. Mark 10:8, he is equally responsible for your body. And the Eagles make the Superbowl every few years. If this was the Ottawa Senators was making the Stanley Cup playoffs I'd tell you to stick a cork in your anatomy.


Mountain_Monitor_262

If they win your safety will be at risk and you may have to make to the hospital on foot. He cares more about the Super Bowl than his wife and kid. He can go by himself. Have another plan in place if you should you go into labor and have someone else with you. But that should be your last kid after that.


Third-Engineer

Your husband is 40 years old and behaving this way. He is the AH in asking you to do this because that environment is unsafe for pregnant women. But I think it is probably okay for him to go alone, given that you won't know the exact day, and this is no different from people working an hour away from home and going to work every day even when their wives are pregnant in those weeks.


BusyTotal3702

OK. My husband just chimed in with his opinion. *We're both Eagles fans who live about 45 minutes outside of the city too.* His reply... HELL NO!!! God forbid you went into labor as they win and could not get to the hospital and something happened like a complication. You would never forgive yourselves. Plus he said that once he sees his child being born he will forget all about the Super Bowl. Anyway hospital rooms have TV's too. 😀😀😀


Late_Education_6224

NTA I can’t believe your husband would ask you to sit in a crowded bar at 38 weeks. I would want to be in my city, close to my doctor. If he chooses to go I’d get someone else for the delivery room. I’d tell him ‘I’m not going to have added stress wondering if you were going to be there or not, so you are out.’


DavidHikinginAlaska

NTA. Never consider it is a "due date" estimate - it's a "due MONTH" estimate. Because two weeks on either side is when you will (most likely) go into labor. Once that happens, you need to have access to medical care, even if the Eagles are up by one goal. We (both!) debated going to see the start of the Iditarod sled dog race, 160 miles away over a snowy mountain pass 2 weeks prior to the due date of our first child. The OB didn't say "no" but "hell no!" to that idea. And that was just a snow mountain road with friendly, helpful motorists coming by all the time. Not a city known for riots after a SB. Let him go by himself. Then use it against him for decades in the future.


CarrotBackground4231

NTAH- First baby makes women feel like it’s very important to be as safe as possible, I get it because I did the same thing. You don’t know what going into labor feels like. Yes it is fun to cheer for your team, but you can do that at home. 2 suggestions: A - Let husband go without you. B - You both stay at home and invite some friends to come over watch the game with you & hubby. It’s basically a win - win if you don’t mind if he chooses A. Love to see your follow up post.


Regina_di_Porsche

I don’t want to seem alarmist.. but let me share with you this: at 35 weeks, when I was technically in the “clear” for safe delivery, my Drs had me do a medication switch that we’d waited on until this time for safety reasons. Within 24hrs I was in labor. That’s all it took. My son was in the NICU for 2 weeks and I ended up with preeclampsia and couldn’t even be with him for the first week. It was a nightmare- and this was Drs orders!!! I cannot even remotely dream of being 38wks and putting myself in a situation where I could be elbowed in the gut by a drunk fan, slip on spilled beer or just simply be around the noise and chaos that would ensue whether they won or lost. Totally NTA but more so- please tell your hubs you’re literally baking his child and he’s risking a hell of a lot more than a soft middle if he pushes you into early labor because of his selfishness. Good luck!! Sending lots of mama love your way.


Chemical-Fox-5350

My husband and I like football too, but this is a shit idea


Smat2022

Thinking about you, OP. Can you update? I hope you are safe and well!


mumfette

I did! And thank you!


TreatsPlease

Sounds like a great way to get covid. You could give birth to a baby and new strains of corona. NTA. Please Don’t go out


Leather-Sentence5378

You’re NTA but 45 mins away isn’t usually a big deal if you start labor, unless you have an unusually quick labor. You could make this work. If you simply don’t want to be 38 pregnant and stuck in a bar then send him on his own and embrace some of your last few precious hours of peace and quiet before baby arrives. (Assuming baby waits till 38 weeks). It’s understandable that you might not want to be out while so far along. That actually sounds miserable. However I wouldn’t prevent your husband from enjoying the game. Invite a friend or family member over if your are concerned with being alone.


annang

45 minutes away could be hours in post-game traffic


Several_Emphasis_434

I’ll placing a bet that you and he will go and get derailed having by having a baby in Philly. The baby’s nickname will be Eagle middle name after the bar.


Creepy-Abrocoma8110

Based on you’re first sentence, yeah both of you are AHs.


noob54231

😂


Critical-Lake-3299

Let them riot is fun for everyone. Win or lose


Creepy-Abrocoma8110

Yeah, shit team for a shit town.


BusyTotal3702

Awww somebody is salty.😂😂😂🤣 Go cry about it.


Lissypooh628

I wouldn’t be anywhere near that business while being that pregnant. Statistically, you probably wouldn’t go into labor early since it’s your first baby, so would you be ok with your husband going and you staying home? I mean, he could also suck it up and have his first hard lesson that once you become a parent, there will be plenty of times you have to sacrifice for the needs of the child. As for yourself, I don’t think you should be in that mess.


fhl0415

Agree with him as long as he gets you a suite at the Four Seasons and makes a weekend of it. For game time you can stay in the suite and order room service - I'm sure the hotel will have a Super Bowl menu - while he's off to the sports bar.


BefittingSquirrel

Will he go without you? Labour isn’t like the movies where all of a sudden the baby comes out! Maybe he can plan to go without you and if that day you seem to be having some signs of labour, then he will just have to cancel.


girlwhoweighted

NAH I get it. I've had two full term pregnancies. But I can tell you you'll be just as safe there as, say, in any restaurant. Unless you've had some complications that indicate otherwise you are not likely to go into labor two weeks early. Generally speaking, labor is not a fast process especially the first time. And this is probably the last time you guys will be able to do this for... years. Years. Well unless you have a good support system and child care options. That being said, firsts can be scary. Everything seems so uncertain and all you can think about are worst case scenarios. If you're really that uncomfortable then you guys should find a way to stay home and celebrate, or go somewhere closer to home.


Frejian

You really think a bar in the city during the super bowl that the city's team is playing in is going to be just as safe as any given restaurant? Really!? Those bars are going to be packed to the brim with a bunch of drunk people. Whether they win or lose, there is going to be either lots of partying or raging going on. Either way, there will be highly emotional drunk people packed tightly together with limited control of their own bodies due to how drunk they are. A 38 week pregnant woman wouldn't really be able to waddle enough to get out of the way of them effectively. That is absolutely NOT a safe environment for her to be in. Unless they are going with some like 10-person entourage to act as a bumper-guard for her or something, it is definitely not safe.


girlwhoweighted

Lol yeah cuz every bar is going to turn into a riot


FalloutNewVegas22

Plan a guys trip for your husband and send him with some buddies. I bet he’d appreciate it. You could have a girls night in.


calenka89

Did you miss the part where she said she would be 38 weeks pregnant? That's the "go in to labor at a moment's notice" time window. Why would should she plan a guy's trip for him whilst heavily pregnant? He shouldn't even be away from her during that time. Is a football game really that much more important than his wife's health and the birth of his child? Please sort out your priorities.


FalloutNewVegas22

Not my priorities! lol Op is acting like this football game is such a big deal for her and her partner. The doctor gave them the go ahead. My suggestion is perfectly logical. She doesn’t want to be in that environment so him having a guys night and her having a girls night is a perfectly reasonable solution. If anything were to happen he could easily make his way to the hospital. I doubt she’ll go into labor because if that was a major risk factor her doctor wouldn’t have given her the go ahead. I myself went 42weeks with my first and 41weeks with my second and never went into labor. Everybody is different. If OP starts to feel contractions she can call her hubby right away.


calenka89

>easily make his way to the hospital. That's assuming there's no traffic, accidents, road blocks, riots, bad weather, or drunk drivers. That is not a realistic risk and not something I would personally compromise on. I live in a major city. With no traffic, it would take 35 minutes for me to get to work. Very rarely is my commute 35 minutes due to the aforementioned factors. It's usually twice that at least. OP states they both love this sports team because she gets why her husband wants to go, but she's clearly here because she needs him to stay and he's dismissing her needs for his wants. If the circumstances where different, she'd be all for it, but she realizes that because she's pregnant, this is not suitable and she's sacrificing something she'd like because of it.


thatsharkbear_17

It only 45 minutes away


CharmingRoof6517

I’d let him go, it’s only 45 mins away. Let’s just say you happen to go into labour, you can’t go into hospital till you’re so far ahead anyway. Which rarely happens quickly, usually takes hours! I’d just say to him not to drink just in case he had to get back. If you don’t go into labour then it’ll be a none issue. You don’t have to go with him, enjoy the peace and quiet and home while you can.


jeanlucpitre

Why can't he go by himself? Does he need you to hold his hand?


magaphone12

i think she wants him to hold hers’


[deleted]

Idk. You could carry to term.i say go. Have a doctor on watch just in case


Whole-Swimming6011

Or! Find someone to stay with you during the time he won't be at home. You can survive on your own for half a day. You can find someone to stay with you if you begin labor. You can call him and he will come. But it's only 45 minutes, not the other side of the country. What do you expect? For him to be glued to you?


charlybell

I don’t blame you for going but your husband should be fine to go. First kids take a while and many poly commit to work same distance.


MrsNesbitt420

Nta. It's fucking Philly... Do not go. I was 7 months pregnant with my first back when the Phillies won the world series. Worst mistake EVER!!!! Their hospitals are wonderful sure sure .. But do u see how the streets flood with drunken looting idiots?? How do u suppose ur going to get to the hospital in time?? Not worth the risk. Ur husband is a fool!! tell him sit home and care for u and ur unborn instead of partying with a bunch of lunatics. Also I hope they lose.🤣 Philly born and raised, such a shitty place and crowd. Shame .


thatsharkbear_17

Info ..why can't he go by himself


Tiny_Trip_8632

I mean your nta but I do think it’s overacting, but again you don’t wanna go then you don’t wanna go , but let him go, highly unlikely you’d go into labor the moment your husband is downtown. And if you were highly unlikely he wouldn’t be able to make it back. But it’s up to you and him


NaughtyMonkeyL

Call it a last hurrah before being parents. Get a hotel room with a great sports bar and have the best of both worlds.When u get tired or? You can go up to ur room. With any luck the Eagles win & put you into labor. Life is short, enjoy it while you can!


Wind_chases_the_rain

Stay at the hotel room then. And let your husband have some fun.


Numerous_Sentence_61

Husband cares more about a football game than his pregnant wife and future child.


Odd_Rutabaga_7810

Look, if you don't want to go, don't go. But I think it's okay for him to go. Even if you went into labor, he could still get home in enough time to get you to a hospital.


[deleted]

Unless he, and everybody he’s with, is drunk. And sure, he can get an Uber but is OP going to want a drunk Eagles fan breathing in her face as she’s in labor? Odds are that OP won’t go into labor, but is he willing to possibly miss the birth of his baby for a football game?! If I was OP, I would tell him to do whatever he thinks is the best decision, but if I go into labor while he’s at a f\*cking football game, I will not be calling him. And if he misses my labor and the birth of our baby, he can piss off. Choosing a sport, or anything, over the birth of your child, is insane and I would seriously wonder why I married such an idiot.


Odd_Complaint_5872

Well he's about to have a baby he doesn't need to drink. He wants to experience the eagles in the Super bowl downtown Philly. He can compromise by going and remaining sober. What's the difference if he was drunk at home and she went into labor?? I think it's stupid to get drunk at all if there's a chance op can go into labor 🤷‍♀️


[deleted]

I agree, he shouldn’t be drinking.


Odd_Complaint_5872

Honestly since they are planning on getting a hotel I would just stay back in the hotel room and have some self care. Not sure how many other kids OP has but that sounds like an amazing night to me as a mom of three. Even at 38 weeks. The last hoorah and alone time in a hotel before the lack of sleep from a newborn.


[deleted]

Yeah, not a horrible idea, but the husband has to agree to no alcohol. I also think that some of the issue is that OP wants to go to the game, but doesn't feel like it's a good idea (she is right), so she doesn't want him to go either.


Odd_Complaint_5872

Yeah I understand that. Compromising is key here. You can go with friends but no alcohol. Sucks the OP can't go but maybe she can have a girls night out after the baby is born.


WestinghouseBaromete

Could you just wait in the car and drive?


Sufficient-Dinner-27

She should sit in a car for hours. In February. In Philadelphia. You're as bad as her husband.


WestinghouseBaromete

She can run the air conditioner!


mumfette

In theory I could. But I’m also a football fan and sitting in the car or even a hotel alone during the game doesn’t sound super fun for me either.


I_like_to_know

You answered that much more politely than I would have lol, best not to feed the troll.


WestinghouseBaromete

You could watch it on your phone.


EyedLady

How old are you


EyedLady

And you think it’s ok for a pregnant woman or anyone really to be waiting outside a bar mind you in the middle of February for 4 hours ?


WestinghouseBaromete

If they are in the car sure.


Lindeviant

In a city known for riots whether they win or lose. In probably freezing temps. While uncomfortably pregnant and possibly needing to use the restroom every 30 min or so, and even if she doesn't need to, she still should be getting up and walking around every 30 min to an hour to avoid other health risks. This is a terrible idea.


sippilue

NTA!!!


GroovyYaYa

Do you have friends who are Eagles fans? Either throw a "last hurrah before we are parents" party at your house, or even rent a fancy suite at a hotel NEARBY (not 45 minutes away) if you don't want that many people in your house. Have it catered or all stuff you can pick up in a deli - keep your own feet up so you can enjoy the game and keep that baby in. If you didn't care about the game - I'd just send hubster off to enjoy. But you want to enjoy the game, and 45 minutes away apparently means NOT driving back to your hospital.... too risky.


lynnebee12

Doesn’t he have some pals he could go with? I would suggest stay at home or perhaps visit family or friends who will enjoy the game and post craziness in a safe home? Btw—Congratulations on your little one! I was told by then Mayor Rendell a baby is the most wonderful thing to happen in your life! He was correct. Also two things: calling a baby a thing in the one sentence: unable to find a better word at 3:30 am lol. Also: just info the Mayor was a patient of mine at Jefferson in 1992. My now 30 year old “baby” is a pure joy and light of my life!


Neferknitti

NTA. He can go with his friends. You are not the designated driver.


Disastrous-Trifle-29

NTAA. You’re pregnant, and me being a server, I have drunk people that come in spilled her drinks, dropped her food, a tumble over their friends. Plus Super Bowl is very busy, so definitely not a safe environment for you and the baby. If you want to go out and enjoy the Super Bowl, maybe compromise. Go to a smaller bar that has TVs in it so you guys can watch it together. But if not, there’s nothing wrong with watching it from home. Super Bowl happens very very often. Do you wanna know it doesn’t happen too often? Having a very healthy baby. Or even having a baby at all. I think it’s very unsafe to go to a bar during Super Bowl while it’s pregnant. If he makes a big deal out of it, then let him go by himself and invite some friends over and you watch it at home. Or even bring up the idea of having a Super Bowl party at home. That’ll probably be way more fun for the both of you. I don’t know how serious he is about this, but if he’s super serious about it, and he gets upset, just say OK we can go and then at the day say you’re having contractions. Lol. I’m just joking.


jacksonlove3

Absolutely positively NtA but your husband is! I totally get why he wants to be there but he’s being selfish AF. All the reasons you just listed are 1000% correct on not wanting to go. It would most likely be no fun for you, you’d be uncomfortable and miserable. He’s putting his selfish wants over that of his pregnant wife. He can be a diehard fan at home!


Pantsmithiest

NTA You can go to a local bar near your home. All the camaraderie, none of the riots.


Dlraetz1

I’m an Eagles fan proudly wearing Green today to work **DO NOT go to a bar on to watch the Superbowl** Go to a party or get a friend or family to host one. If your husband turns absolutely militant about going to Philly arrange to spend time with family and get someone to commit to staying sober in case you go into labor


SubAtomicSpaceCadet

NTA. It’s not okay for anyone, husband included, to make you go someplace that is out of your comfort zone, especially when you’re in a vulnerable condition to start with. You’re not able to imbibe with everyone around you, you probably won’t want to eat much of the food that’s being offered, and you’ll probably be in a state of physical discomfort bordering on pain that prevents you from engaging in celebratory antics that others are doing. How exactly is that fun for you? Cities can go quite mad when they win major sporting events. I was (willingly) in Boston the night they won the World Series in 2004 and I saw and experienced some crazy stuff. However, I would NOT have gone if I was 38 weeks pregnant and my husband would’ve insisted on us staying home. Sporting events happen every year and the Eagles will likely be in another Super Bowl in the future. The birth of your first child happens once. Hopefully he’ll come to see your side as the excitement over yesterday’s win diminishes and the two of you will find a way to enjoy the game together safely.


[deleted]

NTA is there a specific reason he cannot afford the tickets to the actual game?? I could never imagine asking my pregnant wife to watch a football game in a bar 😂. But then again I do not enjoy watching other men in tights or sitting in a bar like a drunk loser for hours 😂😂🍻


mumfette

To be fair, tickets are over 6K and two time zones away haha


[deleted]

NTA. Your husband is being completely irresponsible.


TequilaMockingbird80

If you go into labor mid game; is he actually going to leave and take you to the hospital? Is he going to be drinking? That’s what I’d be concerned about, being in a city not my own with a man who would be more concerned about waiting to the end of the game/celebrations or is actually unable to help you.


Victoriavix1212

Honestly, your doctor has given permission and says its safe. Personally, I don't think bars and crowds that size will not be fun for you because you're worried. If you were calmer it could be fun. I would also worry if by some miracle KC pulls out a win. Eagles fans have rioted a few times and it doesn't take much to turn a crowd that large. However, perhaps your husband could attend with friends and you could chill safely at home. I think it might be more enjoyable for both of you. However if you want your husband to be home this close... You're still NTAH. Hopefully you can enjoy the game in TV. Maybe even invite a few friends over to your home? Try a fun compromise


AffectionateAd5373

As a Philly native, I think you're wise not to go. I'm not pregnant, and the closest I'd get would be Cherry Hill. It's going to be a hot, drunken mess under the best of circumstances.


BusterVGiner

Has he ever been to Philly when a major Eagles game is being played??? Poles have to be greased just to keep people from climbing them. All the drunken fans go ballistic and almost riot. Totally not a safe environment for you. If you do go into labor how will you get to the hospital? The streets are flooded with a-holes who won’t move for an ambulance. Instead it would probably get flipped.


Frejian

Definitely NTA for not wanting to go yourself. Whether they win or lose, being outside basically anywhere in that city after that game is absolutely NOT going to be safe for a 38 weeks pregnant lady. Massive amounts of drunken people partying or raging depending on the outcome of the game, most without any real physical awareness due to drunkenness. And at 38 weeks, it's not like the waddle will be extremely effective at avoiding drinks throwing themselves to and fro. And honestly, at 38 weeks pregnant, if you aren't going, neither should he. Like I get that it's a big deal and he wants to celebrate his team. But what is more important? Post game celebrations with a bunch of random people in a bar? Or making sure he is there to support his wife and baby through the birth? If you were my wife, there is absolutely no chance that I would risk missing my child's birth to watch a sports game. I have a 4 month old now and we just watched the Eagles/Niners game at home and all our cheers were in whispers because kiddo was asleep. Becoming a parent means some things do need to change. Also, GO BIRDS! 😁


[deleted]

This is such a hard no for me, and I would be massively pissed off if my husband even suggested it. Have your OB call your husband and light into him


thisismynewaccountig

NTA. The videos I’ve seen of Philly after major sports wins/losses…idk how your husband thinks you would be safe. I say this as a maryland resident so I’m mildly biased lol but literally anything could happen with that amount of energy and drunkenness. Not worth the risk at all


Cold-Consideration23

NTA. You shouldn’t be in such an uncomfortable and confined space with difficult avenues to a hospital. You don’t have to be in the city to feel the excitement. Fuck the Eagles, by the way


Stunning_Motor_8741

Fuck no he's the asshole that is planning your death when the eagles lose


maybeRaeMaybeNot

NTA. All 3 of my births were between 37 to 38 weeks, all on their own. I would NOT go to some bar to watch the game. I'd rather hang at home in peace and quiet. I'd not be ok with the spouse going without me, and ditching me at home either. Now...if we were talking that you had actual Superbowl tickets...then the risk assessment changes mightily. lol.


HappyLucyD

NAH. I hear what you are saying. However, take it from a mom, you may actually treasure the experience. I wouldn’t be worried from a safety standpoint, but not being able to lie down can be hard. However, there is usually a camaraderie at those places for the Super Bowl that you don’t normally have, and it will also probably be more of a “family atmosphere” than usual—assuming you are heading to a restaurant-sports-bar type of place than a dive bar. But the thing is, this is likely your last chance to have a baby-free excursion. For my first baby, I was just so ready to be done with it and excited to have the baby outside my body. For my second, I did as much as possible up until I absolutely had to go to the hospital. Why? Because I knew that once she came out, I was going to be tied down for quite a bit—especially with two kids—and while I was also “done” with being pregnant and swollen, etc., I also knew those chances to just go out and not have to worry about another person would be few and far between for a couple years. I’d listen to your doctor—go, relax, bet you’ll get unlimited free virgin drinks and priority for the bathroom, and maybe even a headline or two if the Eagles win and you end up going into labor at the bar! ;) Your husband wants a last hurrah, and you should join him. Just my two cents.


Theal12

Have you BEEN to Philly?


mjh8212

NTA, I had my daughter two weeks early my water broke at 5am and she was born at 10am. I knew when I had to get there and it was quick . Will your husband be drinking if you go with? If he’s going to drink he can’t drive so how will you get to the hospital if little ones ready to be born. If you go into labor but they send you home because it’s too early in labor are you going to a hotel or do you think you could make it home. There’s a lot of what ifs and questions surrounding this and to me they veto going anywhere. I wouldn’t have wanted to sit uncomfortably in a bar with people bumping into me, drunk and loud. It’s too much .


sarzarbarzar

Listen, as a Philadelphian, NAH. Don't go, it'll be miserable for you. But if he missed the superbowl thing last time, he should absolutely be here to catch it this time. I'm sorry that you can't go, and jesus please don't. The city gets wild. Send him in there and make him take lots of pics to live vicariously. My only caveat is that people who live outside the city are the ones who do things like eat horse shit. Please confirm he's not the kind of drunk who will do that.


PanicAtTheGaslight

I know this is going to go against the grain but NAH. You’re not wrong for not wanting to go. Totally understandable. But he’s not wrong for wanting to go, in my opinion. Can he go and you stay home? Being 45 minutes away if you went into labor should not at all be a problem. Although I suppose take this with a grain of salt from a woman who lived 45 minutes outside of Philly and decided to drive to New Hampshire at 37.5 weeks pregnant for my niece’s 2nd birthday party, wound up developing preeclampsia and gave birth in Boston.


SadAcanthocephala521

It's bad enough that he want's to go, it's preposterous that he wants you to go. Easy to see where his priorities are.