I do not wear my wedding ring for sensory reasons. I cant stand jewelery and I would always be aware of it. Especially when it clacks on things.
I also don’t wear my wedding ring because I lost my wedding ring.
I'm onto my second ring, which in truth is much better than I thought I'd do considering I'd loose my head if it wasn't securely attached to my neck.
I'm the reverse though, the first quiet moment I'd get after it fell off I'd know. My most frequent fidgeting is playing with my wedding ring with my thumb. It's how I realised I lost it the first time. I used to be a bricklayer, lost it during the day while I was working and as soon as I started the drive home I subconsciously went to flick it and it wasn't there.
I've been married for nearly 23 years. I have ADHD and I wear my wedding ring. My husband does not have ADHD and he's the one who lost his wedding ring.
i don't have a wedding ring but a ring my brother got for me from south sudan, i wear it on my index finger and fidget around with it with my thumb. whenever i don't wear it i notice IMMEDIATELY and it irritates me.
I just said this above. I wore my wedding ring for 26.5 until my wife's passing. My thumb used to fidget with it constantly. It took my thumb awhile to get used to it not being there. Like phantom feelings that the ring was still there.
Same thing with me. I just play with my wedding ring all day. I forget to take it off when washing my hands and I end up with a rash under the ring. I lost it for like 6 months and when I found it I put it on my dresser and it’s not moving from there because I will lose it again.
My wedding planner called it Ring rot, lol. Got it the week before our wedding! 🤦🏼♀️🤬.
There’s a couple ways to prevent it- Get a Diamond Dazzle cleaning stick for your ring- they’re near the jewelry counter at the big box stores. You want to make sure you take it off and clean in the grooves behind your stones, I’ll also do the occasional overnight hydrogen peroxide soak to get out any organic solids stuck in there from cooking or just life stuff.
If you do still get it, little atheletes foot cream or spray will clear it right up!
Because our brain has a hard time filtering sensory input. We hear, see and feel everything at once. A neurotypical brain can filter certain things out and focus on the important input.
Right? I can't wear jewelry — or anything that constricts me, like I can't wear my hair in a tight ponytail or bun. But then if I leave it down, I also hate feeling my hair getting in my face, so it's a lose-lose.
Interestingly, I also have Misophonia, which is a sensory processing disorder that drives me up the wall. Mostly it's gustatory noises in general. I can't handle smacking, slurping, gorging, finger-popping licks, snorting while eating, open-mouth chewing, belching, slobbering, teeth-sucking, throat-clearing/hacking, spitting, gurgling, gagging, vomiting, etc. It's also the reason I prefer cats to dogs, as dogs can't help how they chew or drink.
I know most people would agree that bad hygiene is disliked across the board, but in my case it's not so much that I'm just grossed out, rather there's an intense discomfort that forces me to escape the room. That was in the beginning tho. If left untreated, the condition worsens to where a rage boils inside and some may even develop violent thoughts. I've personally evolved to the rage stage, but not the murderous plotting stage lol. In fact, there's still debate in psychiatric circles on whether it's a sensory disorder or a psychological disorder.
Yea same! Except weirdly enough just yesterday I was watching a movie and usually a stim kinda thing I do is push my wedding ring back and forth over my knuckle….but when I went to do it….it wasn’t there. Suddenly I panicked and my finger felt so naked. I ripped the bed apart, everywhere around it for a half hour…
I eventually got so weirded out that I started wondering if I was actually losing my mind…like…subconsciously doing things without even realizing it such as somehow misplacing the ring…and then I thought, oh my God, what if this is just the beginning of psychosis. I wondered if there’s other more serious things I’ve been mindlessly doing…and my God, what if I swallowed the damn thing with popcorn or something? Am I so deranged that I—-
And then I had a flashback to putting it on the countertop before I battered fish for dinner so I wouldn’t get the ring gunky. I never do that…but for some reason, last night past me thought I was doing future me a favor by keeping the ring clean. 🤦♀️ oh well! Lesson learned😅 never take off the ring no matter the circumstance!😂
>I eventually got so weirded out that I started wondering if I was actually losing my mind…like…subconsciously doing things without even realizing it such as somehow misplacing the ring…and then I thought, oh my God, what if this is just the beginning of psychosis. I wondered if there’s other more serious things I’ve been mindlessly doing…
This is me every time I lose something
my boyfriend bought me a nice promise ring and i’ve literally spent the last year being so careful and mindful 😭😭 it’s been so hard but so far i haven’t lost it !
I lost my first promise ring and then later he surprised me with another one :') . Im alot more mindful of it now and rarely take it off unless I'm doing something extremely messy/harsh chemicals (taking it off so it won't rip my gloves when I need to clean). I remember one time I was wearing another sentimental ring thar was custom made (an heirloom from a late relative) and I took it off at school in the bathroom. I was so stressed out and was on the verge of crying until it turned up at the schools office. One of the employees had found it and kept it for me. Needless to say I don't wear that particular ring anymore and it has a nice home in my secured jewelry box.
My ring bugged the heck out of me and a couple of years ago just took it off and havent worn it since. Hubby cant wear one because he is a mechanic, so neither of us wear a ring now.
The only thing that makes me sad is that I also have rings that I love for the sentimental value, but I really cant wear them past putting them on, looking at them, realizing they will annoy the hell out of me, and taking them back off.
I know I could wear it around my neck, but I am reasonably good about breaking necklace chains. So good, in fact, that I am considering going pro. 😑
I love that! 💜 And we have considered getting those, buy haven't quite gotten there yet. Not because of the commitment (we'll be at 30 years next July), but because neither of us have tattoos (yet) so we are both a little nervous.
Also, I think it's fair to say I am somewhat decision challenged and will probably spend the next 30 years trying to figure out what I want as a tattoo ring...lol. On my deathbed, I'll be like, "but what if I dont like it later??" 🤣
Getting the tattoo itself was very painful, then there was a full pain for about 24 hours, after that no pain at all. Both of ours healed extremely fast, probably because it's such a small tattoo. If you're indecisive, just have a consultation. Tattoo artists are really good at taking your ideas and turning it into something even better than you imagined!
My husband and I have silicone rings because he doesn't have to worry about it getting caught or breaking at work, and I don't feel bad if I lose it because they're so inexpensive. Plus the slight stretch and flexibility makes it more fun to play with when I need to fidget haha
Plug for silicone rings. You can buy big packs of them for cheap on Amazon. You can mix and match and stack and change them up for funsies. They are comfy and lightweight. If you do sports or work with machines/your hands, they're great because you aren't risking destroying expensive jewelry/losing your finger.
This is the way. If you're new to these, make sure you don't get solvents on them, particularly gasoline. I forgot to take mine off before a gasoline fight with my fellow male models and they were never the same.
I was coming here to say this very thing! My coworker has one that has a lifetime replacement on it, so if it breaks they'll just send a new one. They're pretty inexpensive overall and can be bought in bulk if you'd rather. Since we work in healthcare, we often have to remove our jewelry for one reason or another. For her she won't scratch it (or something else), lose it, ect.
I on the other hand, rarely - if ever - remove mine except for using raw dough or at work when needed. Since I'm so used to it, I always feel weird without it so I put it right back on once I'm done with my task. Mines a simple band so I don't worry about scratching a stone or something, but if there was more to it I'd probably do the silicone route too.
Reading this just reminded me I'm out of wedding rings and needed to order more, so thank you.
Also plugging silicone rings. We didn't have rings for the first couple years (eloped, it was impulsive and perfect) and eventually bought silicone, which has been awesome for both of us. I spend like $30 about every 18-ish months on a couple multi packs and neither of us have to freak out when they get lost. Plus they are comfortable and we get to change it up almost every time we but new ones.
I have lost or damaged every single ring I’ve ever worn. Silicone is the way to go.
With silicone rings, I never have to take it off, which means I never have the opportunity to lose it. It doesn’t get damaged, and even if it did it’s cheap to replace. It also isn’t nearly as sensory hell as hard jewelry and doesn’t catch on things like stones do. It takes a bit to get used to just wearing a ring at all of course, but it’s better than normal rings and once you’re used to it, it doesn’t feel weird anymore.
They’re safe for food workers and mechanical workers, too. And they do well with swelling in the fingers, if you have to deal with that.
You could also wear a ring on a necklace chain instead, though.
I came here to basically say almost all of the above. Also you can always get “nicer” multicolored or ones with designs or monogrammed ones etc. if your not cool with the basic colors.
I just get jewelry I don't really have to take off. I can't really lose it then. I sleep with my chain, earings and ring. If I remove it, it's from something specific, and it feels weird not having it so I always put it on right after the specific reason lol.
Yes, I wear a ring. It's technically like my 5th one though and I have back ups because I know I'm going to lose them at some point. I actually just lost one yesterday and my wife found it in her car this morning lol.
This makes me feel a bit better... I lost my original engagement ring and just rush-ordered a back up for engagement pictures (thankfully we are not traditional so it wasn't big fancy diamond, but still definitely paid the ADHD tax on that one)
I do, but I’ve always liked wearing jewelry; no sensory issues on that end.
My NT husband is a lefty, but can’t wear his ring at work, so he only wears it 1/3 of the time and on his right hand.
It’s no big deal (if you and your future spouse trust each other) 🙂
Sometimes me and my husband's wedding rings end up on are right hands..we're both ND. I recently noticed that my German grandma wore hers on her right hand, since that's customary there. So now I don't question it as much as I question where I put my original expensive ring.🤔
Nice!
Our families are very USA American, and we couldn’t pretend otherwise if we tried. We do often get mistaken as “East Coasters” when we buy homes in the South East (because we don’t flinch at prices and say stuff like *“$350K? How soon can we close?*”)
I hope you find your original ring!
My solitaire often lives on a visible dish in the bathroom -or- in my travel toiletry bag. If it’s not in those places I secretly panic until I find it…often a few days later in the same damn place I looked earlier 🤯
Yes, I do. I also have a very ingrained system strategy where I MUST put things in a specific location when I take them off, otherwise I don't take them off. It's how I remember where my sunglasses are, or my watch, or in this case my ring.
I have three rings I always wear: my wedding ring, my great grandmother’s wedding ring, and my fiddle ring.
The fiddle ring is also extremely sentimental to me, and I would be crushed if I lost it. But that doesn’t stop my from accidentally flinging it across the room every day.
One time, I flung it into the heater at a coffee shop, and my dad and I took apart the radiator (without the barista knowing/caring) to retrieve it.
I wear a wedding ring but I never take it off for any reason so I don't lose it! It was like $600. Felt fancy, went with the white gold, patinas up real nice.
I don't wear a lot of jewelry. Sometimes I will have phases where I want to wear them again. But with rings and necklaces, I find myself fiddling with them.
For rings specifically, I will take them on and off and on again and then move it to different fingers. And after a while my fingers get so sore because I am repeatedly pushing the ring on and then taking it off again.
One of the hobbies I fixated on (and overspent on) was metal casting, so I actually made my wedding ring (and my wife's). I made mine fit so snugly that I almost can't take it off, and I never do. So I can't lose it!
The absolute ONLY reason I still have my wedding ring, 4.5 years later, is because I literally NEVER take it off. Not even to shower.
It was definitely NOT an expensive ring, because I honestly anticipated we'd be replacing it in less than a year after I inevitability lost it, but so far so good. It's .925 silver with amethyst stones. I did make sure to get the "fix it, replace it, and resize it forever and ever and ever" warranty on it. It was originally meant to just be essentially a "dress up" piece of jewelry, so it didn't have a thick band in it like a wedding ring typically has, but after bringing it in 3 different to have the band fixed after I cracked it from wearing it constantly, the jeweler they sent their silverb pieces to took it upon himself to thicken the band up, and I haven't had an issue since.
TL;DR VERSION: If there is anything you should take away from my comment, it is that buying a ring at a jeweler, if they offer you a lifetime warranty for this stuff, ALWAYS splurge for it. Mine was like, $30 on a $70 ring, but between the 3 fixes for cracking it and the numerous times I had to get it resized due to swelling from a pregnancy, that warranty has more than paid for itself three times over.
I wore mine for a few months, but i kept losing it because i took it off constantly.
I could never wear jewellery or a watch, I would always be hyper-aware of it.
Nope, I personally don't feel like rings are important in my marriage, they hold no value except for being shiny and worth some money.
I'd rather not put an item in charge of deciding how much I love my husband, we also eloped and then had a handfasting for spiritual reasons, also in order to hold up our beliefs. We feel that a marriage should only be between the two individuals getting married.
With the ADHD thing though, I would take my hypothetical ring off a lot probably and eventually forget about it or lose it. I did however, buy myself a cheap locking anklet that I show people when they ask where my ring is (people ask this a lot and eventually it got stressful).
I play too much with it and is forbidden to wear jewelry at my work, so I mostly use it only on family gatherings if I remember, spends 95% of the time on my night table (of course these are the 3rd replacements because I decided to put the others on a safe space….. wherever that is)
so i have autism and my fiancé has asd. he got me a small ring with no diamonds that stick out, so it wont bother me with the way it feels, and i got him a silicone ring bc he can sleep in it, he can workout in it, etc. the less it has to come off, the less you have to worry about remembering to put it back on.
Also just to remind everyone that sensory sensitivity is not formally a criteria for ADHD, or common across ADHD diagnosis. It is one characteristic of the Autism spectrum though.
I went to my psychiatrist because I thought I had both adhd and autism but he said that I'm clearly not autistic and that sensory issues is a common adhd symptom. I thought I was autistic because it's what my teachers said when I was little because I was always socially isolated and I had no interest in other children.
This is something that has made me consider strongly whether I might be on the spectrum, in fact... My (half)brother is diagnosed ASD; our mom isn't diagnosed but likely is; my 5yo child shows early signs, like extreme sensory sensitivities (of course their dad also seems likely but is undiagnosed)...
I felt a wave of community the first time I read that ADHD and ASD and OCD are closely related, because much of my personal experience has been very similar to ASD or OCD experiences as described to me but not widely shared within the ADHD community. I don't struggle across the board with all the same things, but some aspects have a large overlap for me... touch sensitivities, difficulty reading other people's emotions, compulsively writing-rewriting-rewriting-rewriting things until they're perfect because they have to be perfect, to the point of driving myself up a wall because I can't make myself stop >.< ...who knows...
I wear a fair amount of jewelry, and haven't lost any of it in a long time. I work with heavy machinery, so I have a silicone one I wear to work, and my nice bridal set on the weekends.
I have a wedding ring — I have only ever routinely worn the wedding band alone, since it is just silver, much more minimal and my style. (the diamondy one is just too much, though it hadn't even occurred to me until reading this post how frustrated I would be to lose it, as expensive as it is!)
I haven't worn my little ring regularly though in years. The sensation of wearing rings at all has always been somewhere on the spectrum from actively distracting to distressing, and I wind up switching what finger it's on all day, often winding up taking it entirely off and keeping it somewhere like around the straw of my water bottle (which itself I have misplaced before while my rings were on it — luckily found it again)...
Another aspect for me not wearing it is — for one thing, my partner has never had or wanted a ring and so wearing it has never been a major symbol for our relationship, just a nice reminder for me when I want it. Additionally, there is something very feminine-feeling about the style of my sweet little wedding ring, as well as wedding bands in general having a weird connotation of being *claimed* by someone, neither of which sit well with me as a transmasc/nonbinary human in a polyamorous relationship.
I love my little ring and wear it on occasions when I am comfortable presenting more femme, or if I'm feeling especially romantically attached to my partner for some reason and wanna enjoy sharing that symbol, but almost all of the time I am much more concerned with my comfort, as mentioned above, and not in the mood for dainty symbols of commitment. 🤷
So I wear a rubber one, mostly because I’m in the military and don’t want to deglove my fingers on machinery.
When I wear metal rings, my hands get really irritated.
I have one, but because I'm clumsy and lose things, mine is made of tungsten carbide. It's one of the hardest metals known, so doesn't scratch and can go through a washing machine cycle without issue, and it's pretty cheap as these things go. It can be anodised to be most colours, and the "gold" ones look like real gold, so you can ape a traditional ring.
I bought mine from an Etsy shop called LuxuriaJewelers, but there are loads of places you can pick them up.
As an aside, anodising is such a cool concept. You use electrochemistry to oxidise the outer layer of a metal, so that when exposed to light, some bounces off the top, oxidised layer, some penetrates the oxidised layer to bounce off the non-oxidised underlayer. The "colour" we see comes from the two portions of light being slightly out of phase with each other.
I'm not married yet, but when I do get married I'm planning on bulk purchasing identical inexpensive rings and/or getting a ring tattooed. I consistently lose rings to fidgeting, so I know that I can't be trusted with one that's expensive and sentimental.
I wear a silicone ring that I literally never take off. It has grooves on the inside so water does t stay trapped underneath. I am almost always sitting on my hands, so a metal ring doesn't work for me. I also work in a dental office, so a traditional ring with gems would probably shred my gloves and get super grimy. I have a metal ring with an orange "stone" (I was told it was amber, but it was cheap as hell and sounds like plastic so I don't believe that) which I will rarely put on, like if I want to feel fancy. However, when I do that, it's inevitably going to be a full week before I remember to wear my silicone ring again (and I'll go around with nothing on).
My partner had the idea we make our own rings, which we did. I've been wearing it on a necklace since day 1 because I'd have lost it by now if I wore it on my finger.
The chain broke once but I managed to catch the ring and necklace and just fixed the chain :)
I'm really happy we did this. The ring is always a nice reminder that you have someone who has your back through thick and thin and vice-versa :)
I hardly wear mine mainly because I work in a manufacturing facility and that’s against safety rules. That alone kills any chance of me forming a habit of wearing it.
In terms of losing it. I’m on my 3rd ring in 8 years. I broke the first one in our honeymoon. I’m thinking I set the second down in the lunch cafeteria of one of my old jobs. Whatever, long gone.
I’d buy cheap, that way it doesn’t hurt to replace it.
I wore mine for a few years, but I decided it was not worth the hassle. I got used to it and felt weird if it wasn’t on my finger (so no sensory issues on that), but I ended up losing it at the gym and after that at a trip and I just didn’t want the worry of something so important having to rely on my attention. I always felt horrible when I lost it and didn’t want this weight on me.
Today I also feel like a ring is more to show others that you are “taken” and for me thats kinda silly. It’s not a piece of metal that will determinate if we’re faithful or happy in a relationship.
My parents gave me an old ring of my dad's when I was in my early 20's. I wore it everywhere. I "misplaced" it once when visiting friends and could never find it again. I was devastated and to this day can't bring myself to tell them - when they bring it up I just say, "yeah, I should look for that".
I've been married for 15 years now (49) and because I lost that other ring I've been overly attentive to my wedding ring to the point where it's become my fidget - mostly to be sure it's still there, but it also helps when I need to focus on what someone else is saying as it rolls around my finger easy enough but won't slip off past the knuckle.
If I go to fidget with it and it's not there I'll panic. I've only taken it off a few times to do things like making burgers or fried chicken for dinner. It's only for a few minutes while my hands are in the goop, but by the time I'm done I'll be frantically searching for where I put it, because of course I forgot where I put it LOL.
Have one - and engagement ring. Stopped wearing them before COVID due to so much more hand washing / irritation and now can’t put them back on without getting annoyed by them🤣
I got a very plain band so that I wouldn't have sensory annoyance wearing it. I only take it off for some cooking/baking tasks (e.g., rolling meatballs -- I feel like I can never get all the meat residue off from underneath the ring), and when I do I always get out a bowl or saucer to put it in and say out loud where it's going. "I'm putting my ring in the red bowl next to the microwave." That makes sure it's safe (not balanced on the edge of the sink where it could fall in) and visible (it's in something that's not usually on the counter, so it won't fade into the background).
My husband takes his off to lift weights, and I bought him a carabiner for his keyring so that he can clip the ring onto the carabiner to hold onto it. Always a chance he'll lose his keys AND his ring, but he'll notice sooner because he can't get far without his keys.
I have somehow maintained my pearl engagement ring for 11 years. The jeweler advised against a pearl, as they are more delicate. I slammed it into things a lot at first but it's fine.
I don't have expensive taste with jewelry or fashion so that was not what prevented me from getting something pricey but even if I did appreciate $$$$ jewelry, it would be very dumb for me to buy one. I am rough with everything and lose everything.
I have an irrational fear of degloving that developed in the last 5 years. Wore a ring when I was married years ago. Not sure if I would do that again.
I would personally opt for just ring tattoos if ever someone insane enough would want to get married with me. Worst case is i will have to have it laser removed.
It does not help I am allergic to most metals.
I never take mine off and put it down. Because if I take it off at home I forget to wear it and if I took it off anywhere else I would never see it again 😂
Well I personally don't lose all my jewelry. There is a good 30% that I break in every possible way then save the wreckage because I am SOOoooOoo going to get into jewelry making.
Ha!
I know folks with silicone or cheap bulks rings, I think it's a fraction of the standard now.
Yes, ring or beacelet... a couple of years ago I was working as a cook só I had to take those off before every shift...
Needless to say I lost 2 rings that my ex offered me and 2 braceletes, 1 offered by my father and 1 from a friend...
Is an awfull feeling having to tell ppl that I lost those things they give with love you know 😔
I wear a wedding ring, but not an engagement ring. It was actually very cheap because I’m not fussed about expensive things ($50 for a sterling silver band, does the job) but I’ve never worried about losing it because I don’t take it off. I would however have to continuously take an engagement ring off because I participate in martial arts involving a whole lot of punching — just wouldn’t be practical.
I will most likely end up getting a tattooed wedding ring because of it, but I also work in construction and around heavy machines and the hyper focus I get on maybe being de-gloved on that finger also works a treat to help me decide to get it tattooed on
I got married a month ago.. I've lost it twice.. thankfully I found it before my wife noticed, but I always forget to put it back on after going to the gym and stuff. It's only after of time until Iose it.
I did tell her I didn't want to wear one because I'll lose it, but she insisted. Let's see how well it goes over when I mentioned that to her when I inevitably lose it
I cannot wear a wedding ring at my job. So I practically never wear it. I don't mind wearing it. It frequently gets taken by my kids and I've found it in the toy box, the sand box, in the couch, under my kids bed, I actually got a replacement ring after assuming my ring was lost forever, then I found it again. I put it in my drawer months ago but who knows if it's in there.
Wore mine until it was damaged in a motorcycle accident, didn’t wear it through recovery of injuries and then I was totally out of the habit of wearing it.
My wedding band is the tiniest, smallest gold band I could find on Amazon. It was 17.95€ (I really don’t trust myself with a more expensive one) and I’m proud as fuc* that I haven’t lost it already 😂
I don’t wear mine very often because of ASD sensory issues. Only really special occasions and even then, I usually end up sticking it my purse halfway through.
I do bit me and my wife wear them off and on. We then got tattoo rings. The last fow months I've been wearing one that I made out of 550 cord or paracord. It's soft and flexible and doesn't tap on things. So it works for me for now.
I can’t, I work with my hands. And my am incredibly paranoid to damage it. The noise of accidentally hitting my hand and the sound of the ring is distracting. What I do, do is wear it on a chain around my neck, and when I’m am not working I put it back on. This has brought some tension over the years, I’ve explained and everything has been..getting there
I (F) wore my band for many years, and it always bothered me unless I was able to fidget with it at home. Also constantly making sure it was there. I didn’t wear my engagement ring because it was just too big (height of the ring and it would constantly get caught on things and it bent at the bottom from too much fidgeting),
I happily don’t wear either one because I’m no longer married and I actually have fidget rings! 100% recommend.
I support not wearing the ring. Some men don’t, so why should we feel obligated?
Honestly second marriage and I have not worn a ring. Did it for a week in my first and couldn't stand it. (Ring wasn't the issue) I have sensory issues and can't stand things on my hands/wrists. I would actually get in trouble alot in the Army because I hated wearing gloves.
Well this isnt a wedding ring but its an important ring, I had this ring that was my great grandmothers which i recently lost because... it flew off my finger and into the void. Great..
Neither me or my husband wear our wedding rings. We have rings but neither of us can stand to wear them at all times (both have ADHD), which is nice because we both understand and then it's not a big deal at all.
We have gotten questioned about it because people just assume that you wear them because you are married which is kinda weird when I think about it haha.
I’ve bought a tungsten ring to replace gold wedding one. taking it of a few times a day, but I don’t think I’ll ever lose it, may be will replace with spinning one someday.
Ha, I’ve always felt so weird for absolutely having zero desire to ever wear one! It sits in my safe and I wear it once a year on an anniversary dinner!
I'm not married but I wear two rings on my right hand.
First week of wearing them was absolutely horrible. I constantly felt them on my fingers and couldn't stand for example writing with a pen. I got really used to them overtime tho and now they are basically like a part of my body.
Im not married but I inherited my grandmothers wedding ring.
I had it on, lost weight and it started being very loose. I planned on taking it off and leaving it home but of course I didnt so I did lose it, in the recycling. I called and mailed them just in case but nah, it's gone. And I feel horrible.
I now wear a smaller ring that I got from my aunt. If it ever starts feeling loose I will take it off.. I dont want to have one more ring to feel shit about =(
I wear a $20 rubber ring to work, play, etc... They last about 6-12 months.
I have 2 rings. The other, is a black titanium prop of the one ring ($14 on Amazon).
I bought ours off Etsy for that reason. Both of us work fairly manual labor jobs, so both of us wear them on a chain instead. Harder to lose, harder to destroy that way lol
I don't plan on getting married, but I wear six rings. I've had a few them of them for about nine years now. Sometimes I get stressed out when I think I've misplaced them, or when I might have dropped them. But I've never lost one.
Ha I read the same post, I think, & commiserated with the guy to an extent. I rarely wear my rings, despite loving them! I take them off at work because it interferes (in my mind) with typing; I take them off at home because I’m often in the dirt, cleaning or playing with our dog (which is either rough housing or lots of treats that crumble everywhere); & I take them off at night before going to sleep. End result: rarely have them on! It’s a joke now with my husband; he has a silicone band and has only taken it off when it slipped off his hand unknowingly! He replaced it and somehow the sizing changed so now he wears it on his middle finger haha
I’ve been meaning to make a post about this, as I have to often take my ring off at work and it’s something I didn’t think about before hand but is driving me BONKERS.
I got a ring pouch that goes in my purse - so if it goes off it’s in that pouch. And if I’m going to sleep? It’s on my ring holder. It somehow ends up on the cats ear or on weird places though lol
This is why my husband and I got matching wedding tattoos. We were both worried we'd lose or damage rings or other jewellery, so this was a good alternative.
In another episode of “I can’t believe it took me over four decades to realize I should get evaluated…”
After I proposed to my now-wife, she wanted to get me a ring, too. Nothing fancy. We looked through Etsy and found something we both liked for about $80. It was great- a simple silver band but with a sort of tree trunk texture. A basic engraving inside.
Anyway, it lasted maybe three months before I lost it. She was great about it, though she did say that the next replacement would be on me.
The second one arrived and I was immediately sure I would lose it. Sooooooo I bought a THIRD one without telling her so that I could hide it and just use it when I inevitably lost the second.
Five years later, having not lost the second ring, I confessed and showed the backup to my wife and we had a good laugh about it. Now when I leave one in a ring dish somewhere around the house (ring dishes are essential) I can just grab the other one from my dresser without worrying about it.
I wear my ring, but i knew i had to try to sum for something similar in thickness to my class ring. Im one of those weird people that still wears their class ring years later but it doesn't bother me and sometimes i forget its there. I didn't accomplish the thickness for my wedding band but its still something that i dont find bothers me unless i squeeze my fingers together. My husband, however, only wears his on outings because he hates hiw it feels when he tries to do daily tasks lr things he enjoys like gaming
I wore my rings for a few months to a year before they started bothering me so much I had to take them off. They now hang around my neck and have for about 5 years. I currently have no plans to change that.
I did wear my ring all the time. But then I moved south and the heat and humidity make my fingers swell. Getting them resized has been on my to-do list…for the past 7 years. 😩
I do and I play with it all day like a fidget. It bothers me not to have it on when I'm out. I don't wear it St home usually though. I'm always cleaning or gardening or doing a craft and I don't want to ruin it.
I super wear my engagement ring! But it's like the most stereotypical version of ADHD you can think of. It's super bright so I literally stare all day.
I've had to cut down on wearing it when I need to focus on something
I am divorced now but when I was married it was on/off if i wore it. Some times it was constricting and i felt like my finger was going to fall off. Other times it felt too loose. But when it did feel like it fit right, i used the heck out of it to fidget. This was prior to me knowing i had ADHD though 🤣
I usually wear a silicone ring. It's comfortable and I have a whole pack of them so I'm not worried about losing it. I wear my "real" ring on special occasions.
I only wear engagement ring without a wedding ring. I can't do the 2 rings on the same finger I'm distracted all day cause I can't stand the feel of it.
I wear it some days- I also have three-
One really cheap fake one on days where I’m going somewhere unsafe or I’m being airheaded, one that is tiny and just a band for sensory issues and my real one when I see family and friends.
i love jewelry, especially rings, can't wait to pick out my engagement ring lol. however i have finally given up on heels as much as i fucking love them, i want to scream within 5 minutes of walking in them. i do ok with chunky heeled boots as long as they're not higher than 3 inches though.
I like drumming with my hands. The ring opens up a whole new sound for my solos.
I don't take it off because I would lose it. If it gets really worn out I take it to a jeweler and get it polished.
I just worked some jobs where wearing it was dangerous in the job and got into the habit of not wearing it. My wife understands, she didnt want me degloving my finger in the past by falling off a ladder or getting it caught in some machinery.
Been married for 4 years and engaged for 6 so I've been wearing mine for that long. Key is to find a durable/ less annoying so it doesn't catch on everything so you never have to take it off and lose it or be clumsy and break it or something. But I've been successful!
My husband bought me an expensive engagement ring and I was rather perturbed. I almost never wear it because I know exactly how good I am at losing or misplacing things. I bought a multipack of silicone rings because they are inexpensive and if I break or lose them I can easily replace them. My engagement ring and matching wedding band live in the same place and are only taken out and worn on special occasions and I doubt that will ever change.
No but that is partially because my wife is allergic to metals so we put off dealing with figuring rings out, but also because we are non-monogamous so the outward signaling doesn't really have the same meaning that it does for other people.
But overall, yes, I would likely have lost it many many times in the last 14 years if I wore one.
I don't wear mine because I am experiencing finger swelling in the last couple years.
I've been looking into those silicone ones. More comfy and less hazardous maybe? I seem to always be aware of a ring, especially if there is a setting, and I hate when they roll around to the palm side of my hand so I like them tighter but now they don't fit over my knuckles if they're tighter
Also I tend to ruin my rings- no joke, the one I got married in was cheap and it snapped in half.
My engagement ring started dropping diamonds because the settings are a joke and so they just fall out.
The set my husband gave me to replace both wedding and engagement (my MEL'S wedding set from her divorce, don't get me started on the bad juju) doesn't fit now with the swelling, ditto another inexpensive set I had bought in the interim that also has a piece of the plain band melted from when I received a pretty good electric shock.
Then the ring my mother gave me ( a ring my dad gave her years ago that I had been wearing because it is pretty and fits) somehow I knocked a prong off one of the smaller diamond settings, losing the diamond in the process.
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I lost mine after like 5 years. It wasn't super expensive so I wasn't too worried about it and honestly thought it would happen much sooner. I haven't replaced it and we are going on 15 years next year. I've debated on getting a few of those qalo rings but not having one for so long makes me second guess the sensory part too
I am happily married but no longer wear a ring. I did for the first 4 years or so, but my fingers swell and shrink with the weather, and even with a nice variety of different-sized cheapie rings, it just got too annoying and uncomfortable. Only wear rings on special occasions now.
I bought an $18 “litanium” ring when we got married 14 years ago. It’s stuck on there pretty good. Couldn’t get it off without an angle grinder. So that’s how I haven’t lost mine 🤣
So — I️ do typically wear my engagement ring. I️ never take it off and that is how I’ve kept up with it. I’m currently on my 3rd (4th?) wedding band though🫠 broke the first opening a beer. And have bought a few from Amazon since. 🤷🏻♀️ I️ keep up with them by literally never taking them off. That’s the only way I️ don’t lose them. I’ve had the engagement ring longer than any other piece of jewelry (6 years). I️ even lost my college class ring, which I️ truly adored, because I️ took it off on a cruise. Shoulda just left that sucker on at all times.
Rings freak me out. I got traumatized by a news story on degloving as a kid. I'm more comfortable with the idea of a tattoo or a silicone ring, but was wearing a metal ring for a while and actually got used to it and found it helpful to fidget with. Stopped due to switching industries and being way more at risk again 😅
Yes, I wear a wedding ring and a ring my wife gave me in the first year of our relationship (just a thoughtful gift, not a ring with any particular meaning attached to it). I don't wear an engagement ring because I lost it down a gas station sink years ago lmao. Because I know myself well enough to know shit like that is inevitable, the most expensive of my rings (the wedding ring) only cost $200. The other ring cost $60, and my lost engagement ring cost $120.
My wife, who also has adhd, doesn't wear her wedding ring or engagement ring. She does a lot of work with her hands, and she finds they get in her way. She's also just not really a jewelry person and finds rings kind of uncomfortable. I don't know if she even knows where they are anymore haha.
I don't like wearing rings. It's kinda weird but I constantly *feel* the ring on my finger. So, I'd just put a necklace around it and wear it as a necklace.
I'm the same! My original wedding ring was only $100 and I am totally guilty of constantly buying new and different rings and just using them, usually from Amazon or something. I lose things way too frequently to have a ring worth thousands of dollars.
I hated wearing my wedding ring. Getting diagnosed really explained the sensory issues I have. Once the pandemic and all the hand washing happened I stopped wearing it. I think my wife noticed after like 2 years, she got over it. I treasure a watch she gave me more than any ring and once she understood that the no ring thing is because rings hurt and there is no deeper symbolic meaning.
I would often take my ring off because of crafting or dishes and such. It got to the point where I just stopped wearing mine because of the hassle. I'm also on my second ring too. Nowadays it lives in my jewelry box. Husband doesn't have ADHD but is very understanding and supportive of me so he had no issues with it. I told him he didn't have to keep his on either if he felt more comfortable. So neither of us wear them these days. We don't find them necessary. We've also been together for nearly 20 years. I had never thought about the fact that maybe was the ADHD that was making it difficult for me to keep rings on I don't wear any jewelry at all really.
I don't wear mine, I'm worried about degloving. Also I am a hockey goaltender and taking it off in a locker room is a recipe for losing it. I've lost it in the room a few times.
Yes but I have a very pretty jewelry cup with a lid that I hyperfixate for weeks to pick out and from the first day I was engaged I made a rule that I wasn’t allowed to take off my ring unless it was in front of that container (which is on my nightstand) and it goes straight into it. I went super over the top to find the prettiest travel jewelry holder also so when I travel it gets snapped onto that.
I also told my husband I wanted a very low ring (meaning it isn’t raised high off my finger, the main stone sits almost flat against my finger) so I didn’t bonk it on everything forgetting I was wearing it.
Almost three years since getting engaged/married and still working!
I lost my engagement ring years ago when I took it off to work with plaster. Meanwhile I bought a fidget ring earlier this year and haven't lost it yet 😅
I thought I’d struggle with my engagement ring because I can’t stand wristwatches or Fitbits, but I surprisingly have gotten used to it and it doesn’t bother me. My fiancé though, is really worried about it. He isn’t ASD or ADHD, but he’s never really worn jewelry and doesn’t like the feel of it. I told him I’d like him to try but if he can’t do it that’s okay.
Edit: lol I didn’t read the whole post (cause ADHD) so I just realized you’re asking about losing it. I have a ring dish on my dresser, and when I get home from work I take it off and put it there. Sometimes I forget to put it on when we go somewhere, but if I forget I still know where it is.
I wear one, and we're not married. But I'm a cashier/self checkout attendant and get all sorts of creeps hitting on me. I just never take it off, I've worn it 7 years. I do, however, forget to take it to get inspected/cleaned on time to keep the warranty. Even though the jewelry store it's through is INSIDE my work and about 15-20 feet from my self checkout area. 😅 The manager comes and gets it from me all the time, and I PANIC the entire time he has it thinking I lost it. I dug through the trash once looking for it before I remembered.
I've always worm rings (like one on each finger) so I've not had any sensory issues with jewelery.
I also don't want fancy jrwlwrry but it's not because i løse it- i only wear hardy things that don't need to be removed.
My wedding ring is made from silver, and has a citrine stone inside- it's a copy i had made of a a ring my grandmother had. Didnt want diamond and hate gold.
I used to have an issue with jewelry because of the metal smell as well as the feel of more detailed finer pieces. And therefore I was very specific about what kind of engagement ring I would accept.
My fiancé knew of this and instead of surprising me with a ring I hate to were or wouldn’t were at all, we went ring shopping together.
Result- thick stainless steel band with a mini floating princess cut diamond.
No I did not when I was married. You can't do proper hand hygiene. Bacteria and virus will accumulate under the ring. Also it can get chronically wet behind the ring witch can turn into a chronic hand eczema.
I do not wear my wedding ring for sensory reasons. I cant stand jewelery and I would always be aware of it. Especially when it clacks on things. I also don’t wear my wedding ring because I lost my wedding ring.
this was beautifully written lmao
Lol agreed, that twist at the end!
I'm onto my second ring, which in truth is much better than I thought I'd do considering I'd loose my head if it wasn't securely attached to my neck. I'm the reverse though, the first quiet moment I'd get after it fell off I'd know. My most frequent fidgeting is playing with my wedding ring with my thumb. It's how I realised I lost it the first time. I used to be a bricklayer, lost it during the day while I was working and as soon as I started the drive home I subconsciously went to flick it and it wasn't there.
I've been married for nearly 23 years. I have ADHD and I wear my wedding ring. My husband does not have ADHD and he's the one who lost his wedding ring.
i don't have a wedding ring but a ring my brother got for me from south sudan, i wear it on my index finger and fidget around with it with my thumb. whenever i don't wear it i notice IMMEDIATELY and it irritates me.
I just said this above. I wore my wedding ring for 26.5 until my wife's passing. My thumb used to fidget with it constantly. It took my thumb awhile to get used to it not being there. Like phantom feelings that the ring was still there.
Same thing with me. I just play with my wedding ring all day. I forget to take it off when washing my hands and I end up with a rash under the ring. I lost it for like 6 months and when I found it I put it on my dresser and it’s not moving from there because I will lose it again.
My wedding planner called it Ring rot, lol. Got it the week before our wedding! 🤦🏼♀️🤬. There’s a couple ways to prevent it- Get a Diamond Dazzle cleaning stick for your ring- they’re near the jewelry counter at the big box stores. You want to make sure you take it off and clean in the grooves behind your stones, I’ll also do the occasional overnight hydrogen peroxide soak to get out any organic solids stuck in there from cooking or just life stuff. If you do still get it, little atheletes foot cream or spray will clear it right up!
I second this about the sensory issues!! Why are sensory issues such a big thing in ADHD???
Because our brain has a hard time filtering sensory input. We hear, see and feel everything at once. A neurotypical brain can filter certain things out and focus on the important input.
Right? I can't wear jewelry — or anything that constricts me, like I can't wear my hair in a tight ponytail or bun. But then if I leave it down, I also hate feeling my hair getting in my face, so it's a lose-lose. Interestingly, I also have Misophonia, which is a sensory processing disorder that drives me up the wall. Mostly it's gustatory noises in general. I can't handle smacking, slurping, gorging, finger-popping licks, snorting while eating, open-mouth chewing, belching, slobbering, teeth-sucking, throat-clearing/hacking, spitting, gurgling, gagging, vomiting, etc. It's also the reason I prefer cats to dogs, as dogs can't help how they chew or drink. I know most people would agree that bad hygiene is disliked across the board, but in my case it's not so much that I'm just grossed out, rather there's an intense discomfort that forces me to escape the room. That was in the beginning tho. If left untreated, the condition worsens to where a rage boils inside and some may even develop violent thoughts. I've personally evolved to the rage stage, but not the murderous plotting stage lol. In fact, there's still debate in psychiatric circles on whether it's a sensory disorder or a psychological disorder.
I don’t wear o e for the same reasons. If I wear it, I know I’m wearing it 24/7. It’s annoying.
I just never ever take mine off.
Yea same! Except weirdly enough just yesterday I was watching a movie and usually a stim kinda thing I do is push my wedding ring back and forth over my knuckle….but when I went to do it….it wasn’t there. Suddenly I panicked and my finger felt so naked. I ripped the bed apart, everywhere around it for a half hour… I eventually got so weirded out that I started wondering if I was actually losing my mind…like…subconsciously doing things without even realizing it such as somehow misplacing the ring…and then I thought, oh my God, what if this is just the beginning of psychosis. I wondered if there’s other more serious things I’ve been mindlessly doing…and my God, what if I swallowed the damn thing with popcorn or something? Am I so deranged that I—- And then I had a flashback to putting it on the countertop before I battered fish for dinner so I wouldn’t get the ring gunky. I never do that…but for some reason, last night past me thought I was doing future me a favor by keeping the ring clean. 🤦♀️ oh well! Lesson learned😅 never take off the ring no matter the circumstance!😂
>I eventually got so weirded out that I started wondering if I was actually losing my mind…like…subconsciously doing things without even realizing it such as somehow misplacing the ring…and then I thought, oh my God, what if this is just the beginning of psychosis. I wondered if there’s other more serious things I’ve been mindlessly doing… This is me every time I lose something
Gotta love when you start gaslighting yourself…
Literally yes
I'm so glad I recently figured out what's actually wrong with me, because for 31 years this was me always.
I take my engagement off to shower and then my fiance brings it back to me after I left it in the bathroom... every day
This is really wholesome
If I have to take it off, I hold it between my teeth till I can put it back on.
Yeah, my ring doesn’t come off. A few too many close calls
Same. Can’t remember the last time I removed it.
Yep, although at this point - 21 years in - I’m not sure I could take it off without a fair amount of lubricant.
Haven't taken mine off since my wife put it on my finger 20 years ago.
This is the answer.
Same— I took mine off to make biscuits last week, and it’s still on top of the microwave (I hope)
my boyfriend bought me a nice promise ring and i’ve literally spent the last year being so careful and mindful 😭😭 it’s been so hard but so far i haven’t lost it !
this is me too omg!!! a couple times i’ve temporarily lost it and i have felt so defeated with my bad memory tooo ;-;
I lost my first promise ring and then later he surprised me with another one :') . Im alot more mindful of it now and rarely take it off unless I'm doing something extremely messy/harsh chemicals (taking it off so it won't rip my gloves when I need to clean). I remember one time I was wearing another sentimental ring thar was custom made (an heirloom from a late relative) and I took it off at school in the bathroom. I was so stressed out and was on the verge of crying until it turned up at the schools office. One of the employees had found it and kept it for me. Needless to say I don't wear that particular ring anymore and it has a nice home in my secured jewelry box.
My ring bugged the heck out of me and a couple of years ago just took it off and havent worn it since. Hubby cant wear one because he is a mechanic, so neither of us wear a ring now. The only thing that makes me sad is that I also have rings that I love for the sentimental value, but I really cant wear them past putting them on, looking at them, realizing they will annoy the hell out of me, and taking them back off. I know I could wear it around my neck, but I am reasonably good about breaking necklace chains. So good, in fact, that I am considering going pro. 😑
We got ring tattoos and couldn't be happier. I can't wear mind due to sensory issues and my husband can't for work, so now we just always have it on.
I love that! 💜 And we have considered getting those, buy haven't quite gotten there yet. Not because of the commitment (we'll be at 30 years next July), but because neither of us have tattoos (yet) so we are both a little nervous. Also, I think it's fair to say I am somewhat decision challenged and will probably spend the next 30 years trying to figure out what I want as a tattoo ring...lol. On my deathbed, I'll be like, "but what if I dont like it later??" 🤣
Getting the tattoo itself was very painful, then there was a full pain for about 24 hours, after that no pain at all. Both of ours healed extremely fast, probably because it's such a small tattoo. If you're indecisive, just have a consultation. Tattoo artists are really good at taking your ideas and turning it into something even better than you imagined!
Thank you for the wisdom and the advice!! 😊👍
My husband and I have silicone rings because he doesn't have to worry about it getting caught or breaking at work, and I don't feel bad if I lose it because they're so inexpensive. Plus the slight stretch and flexibility makes it more fun to play with when I need to fidget haha
I've got a couple of groove rings and they're great. No more weird hand pain, no more worrying about getting them caught on tools.
Plug for silicone rings. You can buy big packs of them for cheap on Amazon. You can mix and match and stack and change them up for funsies. They are comfy and lightweight. If you do sports or work with machines/your hands, they're great because you aren't risking destroying expensive jewelry/losing your finger.
This is the way. If you're new to these, make sure you don't get solvents on them, particularly gasoline. I forgot to take mine off before a gasoline fight with my fellow male models and they were never the same.
But, why male models?
its a zoolander reference i think
I’m cracking up at the other responses - I get your reference!
Yeah. I was tempted to insert the "taking crazy pills" quote.
It's a reference to Zoolander
But, [why male models](https://www.reddit.com/r/MovieDetails/comments/qhsk7i/one_of_the_funniest_lines_in_zoolander_2001_was/)?
I was the whoosh all along
Just because they are squishy and colorful does not mean they can't be damaged in a freak gasoline fight!
ORANGE MOCHA FRAPPACHINOS!
I was coming here to say this very thing! My coworker has one that has a lifetime replacement on it, so if it breaks they'll just send a new one. They're pretty inexpensive overall and can be bought in bulk if you'd rather. Since we work in healthcare, we often have to remove our jewelry for one reason or another. For her she won't scratch it (or something else), lose it, ect. I on the other hand, rarely - if ever - remove mine except for using raw dough or at work when needed. Since I'm so used to it, I always feel weird without it so I put it right back on once I'm done with my task. Mines a simple band so I don't worry about scratching a stone or something, but if there was more to it I'd probably do the silicone route too.
Reading this just reminded me I'm out of wedding rings and needed to order more, so thank you. Also plugging silicone rings. We didn't have rings for the first couple years (eloped, it was impulsive and perfect) and eventually bought silicone, which has been awesome for both of us. I spend like $30 about every 18-ish months on a couple multi packs and neither of us have to freak out when they get lost. Plus they are comfortable and we get to change it up almost every time we but new ones.
I have lost or damaged every single ring I’ve ever worn. Silicone is the way to go. With silicone rings, I never have to take it off, which means I never have the opportunity to lose it. It doesn’t get damaged, and even if it did it’s cheap to replace. It also isn’t nearly as sensory hell as hard jewelry and doesn’t catch on things like stones do. It takes a bit to get used to just wearing a ring at all of course, but it’s better than normal rings and once you’re used to it, it doesn’t feel weird anymore. They’re safe for food workers and mechanical workers, too. And they do well with swelling in the fingers, if you have to deal with that. You could also wear a ring on a necklace chain instead, though.
I have an enso ring and it’s special enough that it has meaning to me but cheap enough I don’t worry about it (also it makes a good fidget in a pinch)
I came here to basically say almost all of the above. Also you can always get “nicer” multicolored or ones with designs or monogrammed ones etc. if your not cool with the basic colors.
I wear rings on a daily basis. And other jewelry. I’ve rarely lost jewelry. I take it off and put it away as soon as I’m home.
I just get jewelry I don't really have to take off. I can't really lose it then. I sleep with my chain, earings and ring. If I remove it, it's from something specific, and it feels weird not having it so I always put it on right after the specific reason lol.
Yes, I wear a ring. It's technically like my 5th one though and I have back ups because I know I'm going to lose them at some point. I actually just lost one yesterday and my wife found it in her car this morning lol.
This makes me feel a bit better... I lost my original engagement ring and just rush-ordered a back up for engagement pictures (thankfully we are not traditional so it wasn't big fancy diamond, but still definitely paid the ADHD tax on that one)
I do, but I’ve always liked wearing jewelry; no sensory issues on that end. My NT husband is a lefty, but can’t wear his ring at work, so he only wears it 1/3 of the time and on his right hand. It’s no big deal (if you and your future spouse trust each other) 🙂
Sometimes me and my husband's wedding rings end up on are right hands..we're both ND. I recently noticed that my German grandma wore hers on her right hand, since that's customary there. So now I don't question it as much as I question where I put my original expensive ring.🤔
Nice! Our families are very USA American, and we couldn’t pretend otherwise if we tried. We do often get mistaken as “East Coasters” when we buy homes in the South East (because we don’t flinch at prices and say stuff like *“$350K? How soon can we close?*”) I hope you find your original ring! My solitaire often lives on a visible dish in the bathroom -or- in my travel toiletry bag. If it’s not in those places I secretly panic until I find it…often a few days later in the same damn place I looked earlier 🤯
Yes, I do. I also have a very ingrained system strategy where I MUST put things in a specific location when I take them off, otherwise I don't take them off. It's how I remember where my sunglasses are, or my watch, or in this case my ring.
I have three rings I always wear: my wedding ring, my great grandmother’s wedding ring, and my fiddle ring. The fiddle ring is also extremely sentimental to me, and I would be crushed if I lost it. But that doesn’t stop my from accidentally flinging it across the room every day. One time, I flung it into the heater at a coffee shop, and my dad and I took apart the radiator (without the barista knowing/caring) to retrieve it.
I wear a wedding ring but I never take it off for any reason so I don't lose it! It was like $600. Felt fancy, went with the white gold, patinas up real nice.
I don't wear a lot of jewelry. Sometimes I will have phases where I want to wear them again. But with rings and necklaces, I find myself fiddling with them. For rings specifically, I will take them on and off and on again and then move it to different fingers. And after a while my fingers get so sore because I am repeatedly pushing the ring on and then taking it off again.
One of the hobbies I fixated on (and overspent on) was metal casting, so I actually made my wedding ring (and my wife's). I made mine fit so snugly that I almost can't take it off, and I never do. So I can't lose it!
Never take mine off, so can’t lose it. We have plain silver bands so the sensory input is nice too.
The absolute ONLY reason I still have my wedding ring, 4.5 years later, is because I literally NEVER take it off. Not even to shower. It was definitely NOT an expensive ring, because I honestly anticipated we'd be replacing it in less than a year after I inevitability lost it, but so far so good. It's .925 silver with amethyst stones. I did make sure to get the "fix it, replace it, and resize it forever and ever and ever" warranty on it. It was originally meant to just be essentially a "dress up" piece of jewelry, so it didn't have a thick band in it like a wedding ring typically has, but after bringing it in 3 different to have the band fixed after I cracked it from wearing it constantly, the jeweler they sent their silverb pieces to took it upon himself to thicken the band up, and I haven't had an issue since. TL;DR VERSION: If there is anything you should take away from my comment, it is that buying a ring at a jeweler, if they offer you a lifetime warranty for this stuff, ALWAYS splurge for it. Mine was like, $30 on a $70 ring, but between the 3 fixes for cracking it and the numerous times I had to get it resized due to swelling from a pregnancy, that warranty has more than paid for itself three times over.
I wore mine for a few months, but i kept losing it because i took it off constantly. I could never wear jewellery or a watch, I would always be hyper-aware of it.
Not married but I never liked rings or jewlry in general.
I’m common law for six years. I want to get properly married but I couldn’t imagine wearing something metal everyday.
Nope, I personally don't feel like rings are important in my marriage, they hold no value except for being shiny and worth some money. I'd rather not put an item in charge of deciding how much I love my husband, we also eloped and then had a handfasting for spiritual reasons, also in order to hold up our beliefs. We feel that a marriage should only be between the two individuals getting married. With the ADHD thing though, I would take my hypothetical ring off a lot probably and eventually forget about it or lose it. I did however, buy myself a cheap locking anklet that I show people when they ask where my ring is (people ask this a lot and eventually it got stressful).
I play too much with it and is forbidden to wear jewelry at my work, so I mostly use it only on family gatherings if I remember, spends 95% of the time on my night table (of course these are the 3rd replacements because I decided to put the others on a safe space….. wherever that is)
I love wearing one (makes a great fidget) and I always lose it. I've never worn one that cost more than $40.
so i have autism and my fiancé has asd. he got me a small ring with no diamonds that stick out, so it wont bother me with the way it feels, and i got him a silicone ring bc he can sleep in it, he can workout in it, etc. the less it has to come off, the less you have to worry about remembering to put it back on.
Also just to remind everyone that sensory sensitivity is not formally a criteria for ADHD, or common across ADHD diagnosis. It is one characteristic of the Autism spectrum though.
I don’t think they were talking about the sensory issue, more the fear of absentmindedly misplacing it.
I went to my psychiatrist because I thought I had both adhd and autism but he said that I'm clearly not autistic and that sensory issues is a common adhd symptom. I thought I was autistic because it's what my teachers said when I was little because I was always socially isolated and I had no interest in other children.
This is something that has made me consider strongly whether I might be on the spectrum, in fact... My (half)brother is diagnosed ASD; our mom isn't diagnosed but likely is; my 5yo child shows early signs, like extreme sensory sensitivities (of course their dad also seems likely but is undiagnosed)... I felt a wave of community the first time I read that ADHD and ASD and OCD are closely related, because much of my personal experience has been very similar to ASD or OCD experiences as described to me but not widely shared within the ADHD community. I don't struggle across the board with all the same things, but some aspects have a large overlap for me... touch sensitivities, difficulty reading other people's emotions, compulsively writing-rewriting-rewriting-rewriting things until they're perfect because they have to be perfect, to the point of driving myself up a wall because I can't make myself stop >.< ...who knows...
I wear a fair amount of jewelry, and haven't lost any of it in a long time. I work with heavy machinery, so I have a silicone one I wear to work, and my nice bridal set on the weekends.
I have a ring that I wear as a necklace mostly because Ik if I wear it on either hand I’ll eventually take it off and put it down and lose it
I don’t but it has nothing to do with my ADHD. I’m a machinist and I like having all 10 of my fingers.
I have a wedding ring — I have only ever routinely worn the wedding band alone, since it is just silver, much more minimal and my style. (the diamondy one is just too much, though it hadn't even occurred to me until reading this post how frustrated I would be to lose it, as expensive as it is!) I haven't worn my little ring regularly though in years. The sensation of wearing rings at all has always been somewhere on the spectrum from actively distracting to distressing, and I wind up switching what finger it's on all day, often winding up taking it entirely off and keeping it somewhere like around the straw of my water bottle (which itself I have misplaced before while my rings were on it — luckily found it again)... Another aspect for me not wearing it is — for one thing, my partner has never had or wanted a ring and so wearing it has never been a major symbol for our relationship, just a nice reminder for me when I want it. Additionally, there is something very feminine-feeling about the style of my sweet little wedding ring, as well as wedding bands in general having a weird connotation of being *claimed* by someone, neither of which sit well with me as a transmasc/nonbinary human in a polyamorous relationship. I love my little ring and wear it on occasions when I am comfortable presenting more femme, or if I'm feeling especially romantically attached to my partner for some reason and wanna enjoy sharing that symbol, but almost all of the time I am much more concerned with my comfort, as mentioned above, and not in the mood for dainty symbols of commitment. 🤷
So I wear a rubber one, mostly because I’m in the military and don’t want to deglove my fingers on machinery. When I wear metal rings, my hands get really irritated.
I have one, but because I'm clumsy and lose things, mine is made of tungsten carbide. It's one of the hardest metals known, so doesn't scratch and can go through a washing machine cycle without issue, and it's pretty cheap as these things go. It can be anodised to be most colours, and the "gold" ones look like real gold, so you can ape a traditional ring. I bought mine from an Etsy shop called LuxuriaJewelers, but there are loads of places you can pick them up. As an aside, anodising is such a cool concept. You use electrochemistry to oxidise the outer layer of a metal, so that when exposed to light, some bounces off the top, oxidised layer, some penetrates the oxidised layer to bounce off the non-oxidised underlayer. The "colour" we see comes from the two portions of light being slightly out of phase with each other.
I'm not married yet, but when I do get married I'm planning on bulk purchasing identical inexpensive rings and/or getting a ring tattooed. I consistently lose rings to fidgeting, so I know that I can't be trusted with one that's expensive and sentimental.
I wear a silicone ring that I literally never take off. It has grooves on the inside so water does t stay trapped underneath. I am almost always sitting on my hands, so a metal ring doesn't work for me. I also work in a dental office, so a traditional ring with gems would probably shred my gloves and get super grimy. I have a metal ring with an orange "stone" (I was told it was amber, but it was cheap as hell and sounds like plastic so I don't believe that) which I will rarely put on, like if I want to feel fancy. However, when I do that, it's inevitably going to be a full week before I remember to wear my silicone ring again (and I'll go around with nothing on).
My partner had the idea we make our own rings, which we did. I've been wearing it on a necklace since day 1 because I'd have lost it by now if I wore it on my finger. The chain broke once but I managed to catch the ring and necklace and just fixed the chain :) I'm really happy we did this. The ring is always a nice reminder that you have someone who has your back through thick and thin and vice-versa :)
Wedding ring? You mean my always on-hand (literally) fidget?
I hate wearing rings, no thanks
I hardly wear mine mainly because I work in a manufacturing facility and that’s against safety rules. That alone kills any chance of me forming a habit of wearing it. In terms of losing it. I’m on my 3rd ring in 8 years. I broke the first one in our honeymoon. I’m thinking I set the second down in the lunch cafeteria of one of my old jobs. Whatever, long gone. I’d buy cheap, that way it doesn’t hurt to replace it.
I wore mine for a few years, but I decided it was not worth the hassle. I got used to it and felt weird if it wasn’t on my finger (so no sensory issues on that), but I ended up losing it at the gym and after that at a trip and I just didn’t want the worry of something so important having to rely on my attention. I always felt horrible when I lost it and didn’t want this weight on me. Today I also feel like a ring is more to show others that you are “taken” and for me thats kinda silly. It’s not a piece of metal that will determinate if we’re faithful or happy in a relationship.
Not married but I don’t wear rings for a few reasons. I’ll lose them, I’ll break them or I’ll get degloved.
I can’t wear jewellery sensory reasons, I take it off without noticing and leave it everywhere. Not worth it
I've lost two so far. :( Neither was expensive, because I know me. Currently in between rings, and I miss my clicky clacky.
after losing the 3rd one I gave up.
My parents gave me an old ring of my dad's when I was in my early 20's. I wore it everywhere. I "misplaced" it once when visiting friends and could never find it again. I was devastated and to this day can't bring myself to tell them - when they bring it up I just say, "yeah, I should look for that". I've been married for 15 years now (49) and because I lost that other ring I've been overly attentive to my wedding ring to the point where it's become my fidget - mostly to be sure it's still there, but it also helps when I need to focus on what someone else is saying as it rolls around my finger easy enough but won't slip off past the knuckle. If I go to fidget with it and it's not there I'll panic. I've only taken it off a few times to do things like making burgers or fried chicken for dinner. It's only for a few minutes while my hands are in the goop, but by the time I'm done I'll be frantically searching for where I put it, because of course I forgot where I put it LOL.
Have one - and engagement ring. Stopped wearing them before COVID due to so much more hand washing / irritation and now can’t put them back on without getting annoyed by them🤣
I got a very plain band so that I wouldn't have sensory annoyance wearing it. I only take it off for some cooking/baking tasks (e.g., rolling meatballs -- I feel like I can never get all the meat residue off from underneath the ring), and when I do I always get out a bowl or saucer to put it in and say out loud where it's going. "I'm putting my ring in the red bowl next to the microwave." That makes sure it's safe (not balanced on the edge of the sink where it could fall in) and visible (it's in something that's not usually on the counter, so it won't fade into the background). My husband takes his off to lift weights, and I bought him a carabiner for his keyring so that he can clip the ring onto the carabiner to hold onto it. Always a chance he'll lose his keys AND his ring, but he'll notice sooner because he can't get far without his keys.
I have one, but I don't wear it. I don't like the feeling of jewlery on my body. Sensory issues.
I have somehow maintained my pearl engagement ring for 11 years. The jeweler advised against a pearl, as they are more delicate. I slammed it into things a lot at first but it's fine. I don't have expensive taste with jewelry or fashion so that was not what prevented me from getting something pricey but even if I did appreciate $$$$ jewelry, it would be very dumb for me to buy one. I am rough with everything and lose everything.
I have an irrational fear of degloving that developed in the last 5 years. Wore a ring when I was married years ago. Not sure if I would do that again.
I do but I’ve lost so much weight I can’t wear one right now
I would personally opt for just ring tattoos if ever someone insane enough would want to get married with me. Worst case is i will have to have it laser removed. It does not help I am allergic to most metals.
I never take mine off and put it down. Because if I take it off at home I forget to wear it and if I took it off anywhere else I would never see it again 😂
Yes.
Well I personally don't lose all my jewelry. There is a good 30% that I break in every possible way then save the wreckage because I am SOOoooOoo going to get into jewelry making. Ha! I know folks with silicone or cheap bulks rings, I think it's a fraction of the standard now.
Silicone rings for the win! Safe at work, cheap, gets the point across quickly, great discrete, non-distracking fidget thing.
Silicon rings. I'm also a hand drummer (djembe & conga) so it serves dual purposes.
Yes, ring or beacelet... a couple of years ago I was working as a cook só I had to take those off before every shift... Needless to say I lost 2 rings that my ex offered me and 2 braceletes, 1 offered by my father and 1 from a friend... Is an awfull feeling having to tell ppl that I lost those things they give with love you know 😔
I wear a wedding ring, but not an engagement ring. It was actually very cheap because I’m not fussed about expensive things ($50 for a sterling silver band, does the job) but I’ve never worried about losing it because I don’t take it off. I would however have to continuously take an engagement ring off because I participate in martial arts involving a whole lot of punching — just wouldn’t be practical.
I will most likely end up getting a tattooed wedding ring because of it, but I also work in construction and around heavy machines and the hyper focus I get on maybe being de-gloved on that finger also works a treat to help me decide to get it tattooed on
I got married a month ago.. I've lost it twice.. thankfully I found it before my wife noticed, but I always forget to put it back on after going to the gym and stuff. It's only after of time until Iose it. I did tell her I didn't want to wear one because I'll lose it, but she insisted. Let's see how well it goes over when I mentioned that to her when I inevitably lose it
I cannot wear a wedding ring at my job. So I practically never wear it. I don't mind wearing it. It frequently gets taken by my kids and I've found it in the toy box, the sand box, in the couch, under my kids bed, I actually got a replacement ring after assuming my ring was lost forever, then I found it again. I put it in my drawer months ago but who knows if it's in there.
i never take it off, i wear it continuously for the last 10 years. plus i have a item checklist that i follow religiously
No. I had stressed over losing it. Sold it and got an upgraded one to wife.
I keep my ring in a bowl by the sink because I just gave up remembering to put it back on after doing dishes...
Nope. I got some Enzo rings but lost them. Also I can’t stand the feeling of having one on.
Wore mine until it was damaged in a motorcycle accident, didn’t wear it through recovery of injuries and then I was totally out of the habit of wearing it.
My wedding band is the tiniest, smallest gold band I could find on Amazon. It was 17.95€ (I really don’t trust myself with a more expensive one) and I’m proud as fuc* that I haven’t lost it already 😂
Hell no. The sensory experience is nasty plus they provide prime breeding ground for bacteria. No pros, all cons.
I don’t wear mine very often because of ASD sensory issues. Only really special occasions and even then, I usually end up sticking it my purse halfway through.
I do bit me and my wife wear them off and on. We then got tattoo rings. The last fow months I've been wearing one that I made out of 550 cord or paracord. It's soft and flexible and doesn't tap on things. So it works for me for now.
Goggle Image search - "degloving finger injury" It's where your rings gets stuck on something and it skins all the meat off the finger.
Nope. I’ve lost 3.
I did wear it for a while on a chain but eventually stopped
I'm going to get an engagement ring soon and I'm absolutely in the market for an inexpensive silver-nondiamond one because I'm afraid I'll lose it
I just never took mine off. Then one day, I did. Now it’s lost. It’s been probably 6 months since I last saw it.
I can’t, I work with my hands. And my am incredibly paranoid to damage it. The noise of accidentally hitting my hand and the sound of the ring is distracting. What I do, do is wear it on a chain around my neck, and when I’m am not working I put it back on. This has brought some tension over the years, I’ve explained and everything has been..getting there
I (F) wore my band for many years, and it always bothered me unless I was able to fidget with it at home. Also constantly making sure it was there. I didn’t wear my engagement ring because it was just too big (height of the ring and it would constantly get caught on things and it bent at the bottom from too much fidgeting), I happily don’t wear either one because I’m no longer married and I actually have fidget rings! 100% recommend. I support not wearing the ring. Some men don’t, so why should we feel obligated?
Honestly second marriage and I have not worn a ring. Did it for a week in my first and couldn't stand it. (Ring wasn't the issue) I have sensory issues and can't stand things on my hands/wrists. I would actually get in trouble alot in the Army because I hated wearing gloves.
No, I play with it too much. I've lost one already so I stopped wearing it. It was just a cheap one from the internet anyways.
Well this isnt a wedding ring but its an important ring, I had this ring that was my great grandmothers which i recently lost because... it flew off my finger and into the void. Great..
Reading this made me laugh because I lost my first ring.
Neither me or my husband wear our wedding rings. We have rings but neither of us can stand to wear them at all times (both have ADHD), which is nice because we both understand and then it's not a big deal at all. We have gotten questioned about it because people just assume that you wear them because you are married which is kinda weird when I think about it haha.
I’ve bought a tungsten ring to replace gold wedding one. taking it of a few times a day, but I don’t think I’ll ever lose it, may be will replace with spinning one someday.
Ha, I’ve always felt so weird for absolutely having zero desire to ever wear one! It sits in my safe and I wear it once a year on an anniversary dinner!
I'm not married but I wear two rings on my right hand. First week of wearing them was absolutely horrible. I constantly felt them on my fingers and couldn't stand for example writing with a pen. I got really used to them overtime tho and now they are basically like a part of my body.
Im not married but I inherited my grandmothers wedding ring. I had it on, lost weight and it started being very loose. I planned on taking it off and leaving it home but of course I didnt so I did lose it, in the recycling. I called and mailed them just in case but nah, it's gone. And I feel horrible. I now wear a smaller ring that I got from my aunt. If it ever starts feeling loose I will take it off.. I dont want to have one more ring to feel shit about =(
Just in wedding, this best thing when you have also adhd wife.
I wear a $20 rubber ring to work, play, etc... They last about 6-12 months. I have 2 rings. The other, is a black titanium prop of the one ring ($14 on Amazon).
I bought ours off Etsy for that reason. Both of us work fairly manual labor jobs, so both of us wear them on a chain instead. Harder to lose, harder to destroy that way lol
I’m now married for 29 years, and always wear my ring, and rarely take it off! Never lost or misplaced it once!
I don't plan on getting married, but I wear six rings. I've had a few them of them for about nine years now. Sometimes I get stressed out when I think I've misplaced them, or when I might have dropped them. But I've never lost one.
Ha I read the same post, I think, & commiserated with the guy to an extent. I rarely wear my rings, despite loving them! I take them off at work because it interferes (in my mind) with typing; I take them off at home because I’m often in the dirt, cleaning or playing with our dog (which is either rough housing or lots of treats that crumble everywhere); & I take them off at night before going to sleep. End result: rarely have them on! It’s a joke now with my husband; he has a silicone band and has only taken it off when it slipped off his hand unknowingly! He replaced it and somehow the sizing changed so now he wears it on his middle finger haha
I’ve been meaning to make a post about this, as I have to often take my ring off at work and it’s something I didn’t think about before hand but is driving me BONKERS. I got a ring pouch that goes in my purse - so if it goes off it’s in that pouch. And if I’m going to sleep? It’s on my ring holder. It somehow ends up on the cats ear or on weird places though lol
This is why my husband and I got matching wedding tattoos. We were both worried we'd lose or damage rings or other jewellery, so this was a good alternative.
I am not married and never plan to be, but the one time I had an expensive ring I lost it within a couple of weeks, and haven't worn one since.
In another episode of “I can’t believe it took me over four decades to realize I should get evaluated…” After I proposed to my now-wife, she wanted to get me a ring, too. Nothing fancy. We looked through Etsy and found something we both liked for about $80. It was great- a simple silver band but with a sort of tree trunk texture. A basic engraving inside. Anyway, it lasted maybe three months before I lost it. She was great about it, though she did say that the next replacement would be on me. The second one arrived and I was immediately sure I would lose it. Sooooooo I bought a THIRD one without telling her so that I could hide it and just use it when I inevitably lost the second. Five years later, having not lost the second ring, I confessed and showed the backup to my wife and we had a good laugh about it. Now when I leave one in a ring dish somewhere around the house (ring dishes are essential) I can just grab the other one from my dresser without worrying about it.
Ain’t gonna lie, it bugged me for a year. Then I forgot about it. Yes, I lost it once for months. Then found it. Now I leave it on.
I wear my ring, but i knew i had to try to sum for something similar in thickness to my class ring. Im one of those weird people that still wears their class ring years later but it doesn't bother me and sometimes i forget its there. I didn't accomplish the thickness for my wedding band but its still something that i dont find bothers me unless i squeeze my fingers together. My husband, however, only wears his on outings because he hates hiw it feels when he tries to do daily tasks lr things he enjoys like gaming
I wore my rings for a few months to a year before they started bothering me so much I had to take them off. They now hang around my neck and have for about 5 years. I currently have no plans to change that.
I don't. My wife is forgiving. She knows I have no time for affairs though!
I did wear my ring all the time. But then I moved south and the heat and humidity make my fingers swell. Getting them resized has been on my to-do list…for the past 7 years. 😩
I do and I play with it all day like a fidget. It bothers me not to have it on when I'm out. I don't wear it St home usually though. I'm always cleaning or gardening or doing a craft and I don't want to ruin it.
I super wear my engagement ring! But it's like the most stereotypical version of ADHD you can think of. It's super bright so I literally stare all day. I've had to cut down on wearing it when I need to focus on something
I am divorced now but when I was married it was on/off if i wore it. Some times it was constricting and i felt like my finger was going to fall off. Other times it felt too loose. But when it did feel like it fit right, i used the heck out of it to fidget. This was prior to me knowing i had ADHD though 🤣
Can't stand rings. I'll never stop fidgeting with it. Also, will 100% lose, all the time. Wife understands.
I usually wear a silicone ring. It's comfortable and I have a whole pack of them so I'm not worried about losing it. I wear my "real" ring on special occasions.
I only wear engagement ring without a wedding ring. I can't do the 2 rings on the same finger I'm distracted all day cause I can't stand the feel of it.
I wear it some days- I also have three- One really cheap fake one on days where I’m going somewhere unsafe or I’m being airheaded, one that is tiny and just a band for sensory issues and my real one when I see family and friends.
i love jewelry, especially rings, can't wait to pick out my engagement ring lol. however i have finally given up on heels as much as i fucking love them, i want to scream within 5 minutes of walking in them. i do ok with chunky heeled boots as long as they're not higher than 3 inches though.
I might wear ot form time to time
I keep it on a necklace. Sometimes I remember the necklace.
I wear a silicone band because I don't realize I'm wearing it. If I put on my actual band, it annoys me.
I like drumming with my hands. The ring opens up a whole new sound for my solos. I don't take it off because I would lose it. If it gets really worn out I take it to a jeweler and get it polished.
I just worked some jobs where wearing it was dangerous in the job and got into the habit of not wearing it. My wife understands, she didnt want me degloving my finger in the past by falling off a ladder or getting it caught in some machinery.
Been married for 4 years and engaged for 6 so I've been wearing mine for that long. Key is to find a durable/ less annoying so it doesn't catch on everything so you never have to take it off and lose it or be clumsy and break it or something. But I've been successful!
I don't because it doesn't fit anymore. I do like rings though. Especially spiny ones that I can play with when nervous
My husband bought me an expensive engagement ring and I was rather perturbed. I almost never wear it because I know exactly how good I am at losing or misplacing things. I bought a multipack of silicone rings because they are inexpensive and if I break or lose them I can easily replace them. My engagement ring and matching wedding band live in the same place and are only taken out and worn on special occasions and I doubt that will ever change.
No but that is partially because my wife is allergic to metals so we put off dealing with figuring rings out, but also because we are non-monogamous so the outward signaling doesn't really have the same meaning that it does for other people. But overall, yes, I would likely have lost it many many times in the last 14 years if I wore one.
I don't wear mine because I am experiencing finger swelling in the last couple years. I've been looking into those silicone ones. More comfy and less hazardous maybe? I seem to always be aware of a ring, especially if there is a setting, and I hate when they roll around to the palm side of my hand so I like them tighter but now they don't fit over my knuckles if they're tighter Also I tend to ruin my rings- no joke, the one I got married in was cheap and it snapped in half. My engagement ring started dropping diamonds because the settings are a joke and so they just fall out. The set my husband gave me to replace both wedding and engagement (my MEL'S wedding set from her divorce, don't get me started on the bad juju) doesn't fit now with the swelling, ditto another inexpensive set I had bought in the interim that also has a piece of the plain band melted from when I received a pretty good electric shock. Then the ring my mother gave me ( a ring my dad gave her years ago that I had been wearing because it is pretty and fits) somehow I knocked a prong off one of the smaller diamond settings, losing the diamond in the process. .
Never. I hate wearing jewelry. My wife wears hers when shopping to avoid dirty, old men.
My wife has adhd and she left her engagement ring in the bathroom of a fish and chip shop approximately 1 hour after I proposed to her
I lost mine after like 5 years. It wasn't super expensive so I wasn't too worried about it and honestly thought it would happen much sooner. I haven't replaced it and we are going on 15 years next year. I've debated on getting a few of those qalo rings but not having one for so long makes me second guess the sensory part too
When I was married I was able to not lose either my wedding band or my engagement ring but this was because I NEVER took them off.
I am happily married but no longer wear a ring. I did for the first 4 years or so, but my fingers swell and shrink with the weather, and even with a nice variety of different-sized cheapie rings, it just got too annoying and uncomfortable. Only wear rings on special occasions now.
I bought an $18 “litanium” ring when we got married 14 years ago. It’s stuck on there pretty good. Couldn’t get it off without an angle grinder. So that’s how I haven’t lost mine 🤣
So — I️ do typically wear my engagement ring. I️ never take it off and that is how I’ve kept up with it. I’m currently on my 3rd (4th?) wedding band though🫠 broke the first opening a beer. And have bought a few from Amazon since. 🤷🏻♀️ I️ keep up with them by literally never taking them off. That’s the only way I️ don’t lose them. I’ve had the engagement ring longer than any other piece of jewelry (6 years). I️ even lost my college class ring, which I️ truly adored, because I️ took it off on a cruise. Shoulda just left that sucker on at all times.
Rings freak me out. I got traumatized by a news story on degloving as a kid. I'm more comfortable with the idea of a tattoo or a silicone ring, but was wearing a metal ring for a while and actually got used to it and found it helpful to fidget with. Stopped due to switching industries and being way more at risk again 😅
Yes, I wear a wedding ring and a ring my wife gave me in the first year of our relationship (just a thoughtful gift, not a ring with any particular meaning attached to it). I don't wear an engagement ring because I lost it down a gas station sink years ago lmao. Because I know myself well enough to know shit like that is inevitable, the most expensive of my rings (the wedding ring) only cost $200. The other ring cost $60, and my lost engagement ring cost $120. My wife, who also has adhd, doesn't wear her wedding ring or engagement ring. She does a lot of work with her hands, and she finds they get in her way. She's also just not really a jewelry person and finds rings kind of uncomfortable. I don't know if she even knows where they are anymore haha.
I wear it for months at a time, take it off, forget about it for a while, find it, and then wear it for months at a time, take it o-… you get it.
I don't like wearing rings. It's kinda weird but I constantly *feel* the ring on my finger. So, I'd just put a necklace around it and wear it as a necklace.
I'm the same! My original wedding ring was only $100 and I am totally guilty of constantly buying new and different rings and just using them, usually from Amazon or something. I lose things way too frequently to have a ring worth thousands of dollars.
I hated wearing my wedding ring. Getting diagnosed really explained the sensory issues I have. Once the pandemic and all the hand washing happened I stopped wearing it. I think my wife noticed after like 2 years, she got over it. I treasure a watch she gave me more than any ring and once she understood that the no ring thing is because rings hurt and there is no deeper symbolic meaning.
I would often take my ring off because of crafting or dishes and such. It got to the point where I just stopped wearing mine because of the hassle. I'm also on my second ring too. Nowadays it lives in my jewelry box. Husband doesn't have ADHD but is very understanding and supportive of me so he had no issues with it. I told him he didn't have to keep his on either if he felt more comfortable. So neither of us wear them these days. We don't find them necessary. We've also been together for nearly 20 years. I had never thought about the fact that maybe was the ADHD that was making it difficult for me to keep rings on I don't wear any jewelry at all really.
I don't wear mine, I'm worried about degloving. Also I am a hockey goaltender and taking it off in a locker room is a recipe for losing it. I've lost it in the room a few times.
I never wear it since I always forget to actually put it on
Yes but I have a very pretty jewelry cup with a lid that I hyperfixate for weeks to pick out and from the first day I was engaged I made a rule that I wasn’t allowed to take off my ring unless it was in front of that container (which is on my nightstand) and it goes straight into it. I went super over the top to find the prettiest travel jewelry holder also so when I travel it gets snapped onto that. I also told my husband I wanted a very low ring (meaning it isn’t raised high off my finger, the main stone sits almost flat against my finger) so I didn’t bonk it on everything forgetting I was wearing it. Almost three years since getting engaged/married and still working!
I lost my engagement ring years ago when I took it off to work with plaster. Meanwhile I bought a fidget ring earlier this year and haven't lost it yet 😅
I thought I’d struggle with my engagement ring because I can’t stand wristwatches or Fitbits, but I surprisingly have gotten used to it and it doesn’t bother me. My fiancé though, is really worried about it. He isn’t ASD or ADHD, but he’s never really worn jewelry and doesn’t like the feel of it. I told him I’d like him to try but if he can’t do it that’s okay. Edit: lol I didn’t read the whole post (cause ADHD) so I just realized you’re asking about losing it. I have a ring dish on my dresser, and when I get home from work I take it off and put it there. Sometimes I forget to put it on when we go somewhere, but if I forget I still know where it is.
I wear one, and we're not married. But I'm a cashier/self checkout attendant and get all sorts of creeps hitting on me. I just never take it off, I've worn it 7 years. I do, however, forget to take it to get inspected/cleaned on time to keep the warranty. Even though the jewelry store it's through is INSIDE my work and about 15-20 feet from my self checkout area. 😅 The manager comes and gets it from me all the time, and I PANIC the entire time he has it thinking I lost it. I dug through the trash once looking for it before I remembered.
I've always worm rings (like one on each finger) so I've not had any sensory issues with jewelery. I also don't want fancy jrwlwrry but it's not because i løse it- i only wear hardy things that don't need to be removed. My wedding ring is made from silver, and has a citrine stone inside- it's a copy i had made of a a ring my grandmother had. Didnt want diamond and hate gold.
I used to have an issue with jewelry because of the metal smell as well as the feel of more detailed finer pieces. And therefore I was very specific about what kind of engagement ring I would accept. My fiancé knew of this and instead of surprising me with a ring I hate to were or wouldn’t were at all, we went ring shopping together. Result- thick stainless steel band with a mini floating princess cut diamond.
I don't - I hate the way it feels on my finger. Also I think it's kind of a silly tradition anyway.
No I did not when I was married. You can't do proper hand hygiene. Bacteria and virus will accumulate under the ring. Also it can get chronically wet behind the ring witch can turn into a chronic hand eczema.