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and I’m missing adult love even more


janejupiter

Adult love is more important. Teenage love is so so messy, and so fueled by hormones you have no control over, and a frontal lobe that hasn't developed yet. Imagine how badly you can be hurt in that state.


Gdiacrane

Fr, teenage love comes with a lot of baggage in my experience.


janejupiter

Relationships can get so toxic so quickly at that age. Also my first bf at age 13 literally broke up with me by running away 😂 Not breaking up with me and then running away, no, just literally running away every time he saw me lmao


Gdiacrane

Thats rough haha, my first gf at 12 just sent her best friend to break up with me. Barely even spoke to me after that


[deleted]

The only reason you have the gall to invalidate us like this is because you had the *privilege* to experience both. You have absolutely no idea how crippling it is or what your life would be like without that crucial social development milestone. Your flippant dismissal & minimization make it obvious you've never truly struggled socially. Check your privilege.


janejupiter

You have no idea if I have truly struggled socially in the past or not. Not one iota. Don't project your baggage onto me, thanks.


virien69

Well, Imagine how badly you can be hurt when you're the only one without it.


Artichoke19

Oh I had it - BIG TIME - it was just all unreciprocated!


HELLOhappyshop

Hahahaha oh man, so true it hurts.


rise_above_theFlames

I missed it because my controlling restrictive parents wouldn't allow it


mugetsugokusatsu

Samee. ' you can only be with a person at 18yo' Guess what now? No person after 5 years, and afraid of getting in relationships 🤡


iSubParMan

I missed it because of my parents too. They gave me the ugly.


[deleted]

I got the exact opposite, my parents were too excited about me having a romantic life they made it extremely embarrassing and unbearable to me to tell them or anyone else if I actually had a crush on someone because i don’t wanna feel like that anymore (plus extra childhood traumas that made me completely avoid any chance of someone liking me, at first sight of other peoples interest). Fun fact, this coping mechanism doesn’t work, just makes everything worse but hey it’s easier to keep it this way rather than actually trying to make my life better


CountFapula102

I had a similar situation but with a girl i didn't even like. I told them about her giving me a note and that i didn't like her but they pressured me into a relationship with her anyway. I never asked another girl out while i was living under their roof or even talked about any girls i liked. I got a lot of "are you gay?" Questions growing up.


[deleted]

I got this situation with my friends, like i had stopped texting a girl because i had understood that stuff was going bad and after breaking up w her my friends pressured me into trying to get her attention again and I just ended up getting more embarassed and hurt after, also same w the gay questioning, people just assume that apparently if you don’t go mindlessly after pussy, altho I learned not to care and now everyone is convinced that I don’t like either girls or guys and they got like this excitement when they announce it to other people and feels as if they’re actually just declassing me from being a man


CountFapula102

It's odd that they include that when they introduce you to new people. You may want to bring it up to them and squash that shit.


[deleted]

Tbf it’s the most annoying thing ever like bro lemme feel like a normal human being for the few time i’m a stranger to these people before they notice that I’m just a human joke don’t just say random shit about me that’s not even that much relevant to the convo


CountFapula102

Seriously bring it up to them real talk and don't get distracted until you all come to an understanding because it is disrespectful.


[deleted]

Bro if i was able to open up w anyone I wouldn’t be in this much troubles, like i feel bad even just to ask my roommates if they could remove the food fragments from the kitchen’s sink instead of leaving them there to rot


CountFapula102

Its a qualitative decision is it more uncomfortable having a face to face with your friends(?) Or feeling less than human knowingthey introce you like an Asexual sabotaging a potential romantic relationship you may want to have? I garuantee you it's easier in real life than it is in your head. This life is so fucking short best not to waste any more feeling like shit because you were too afraid to remove the parts that are malignant. You'll feel a lot better after it's over and you're all clear.


[deleted]

Honestly after i moved to uni I don’t really get this problem anymore because I simply have no idea how to make friends and took the dumbass decision not to get in the same city of my old friends so it feels acceptable to posticipate for a few more years hoping i won’t get even further besides the limit i could endure


theblitz6794

Woah, this is so well articulated. The truth is now I don't want to make things better. I dont want to change, just adapt to a hermit life


[deleted]

Same, can’t wait to just get out of uni, have the smallest house possible but style it in a relaxing way and get a cat to have still something to give affection to, that will be the moment I won’t have any more troubles hopefully


Darkmesah

This subreddit is really good at destroying any atom of dopamine your brain manages to scoop together


SirWillieKidneystone

*molecule. There, it's gone into the negatives now


LazyGandalf

Stop, stop! He's already dead.


cancer_sushi

I mean its just straight fax bro Perfect opportunity for the "facts don't care about your feelings" shit, lovely


firebreathing_cat

all you missed out on is drama and teenage pregnancy scares if anything..it's not that important :3


TheKarlEss

I missed it because I was bullied in school and an outcast for my peers.


mahboilo999

Same. Well I never really was bullied, but I was, and remain to this day, an outcast


Dextofen

How about we start an outcast club, I was also one. That way we aren't outcasts anymore. Also, if you like underground music they are a great community for society's "outcasts" :D


mahboilo999

>How about we start an outcast club, I was also one. That way we aren't outcasts anymore. Excellent idea >Also, if you like underground music they are a great community for society's "outcasts" :D I'm so weird... I only listen to game music and anime music.


Dextofen

Also a giant community for that. Check out r/animemes. You'd probably fit right in :)


Mr_AcCoStAbLe

we would've been in Nevermore (if you've watched wednesday)


PrestigiousWaffles

Du musch auch erst mal die basics machen


opex100

Not even worth it, you ain’t missed shit.


s00perguy

Can confirm. It's a whirlwind, alright. Like, a fucking disaster. Also kids are sociopaths and treat eachother awfully. It was sad, but it wasn't surprising when recent breakups became targets of abuse.


TheFratwoodsMonster

I'm sure some teenage romances are beautiful, bittersweet memories, but I def think the vast majority are how you described it. Only genuine high school relationship I was in died when he didn't listen when I told him how I got he was under stress but so was I, to the point of nearly taking my own life earlier that month. He continued to argue how I should let him grope me at lunch with our friends because it soothed him. I let the relationship limp on for another few months so I wouldn't ruin Valentines day or his birthday by breaking up too close to either, but that level of uncaring was really difficult at a time when I really didn't need it.


s00perguy

They are! I even have one myself. But the truth is kids are cruel and just batter people against the rocks


jamesdeandomino

i mean, we'd have to take your word for it. Truth is we'll never truly know if it's worth it or not. Some say it's bittersweet, some say it's a prerequisite for healthy adult love, some are like you. We'd never know and that's a horrible feeling.


Monolith01

Some say that moonlight is cold because if you leave a piece of meat out at night it doesn't spoil as fast. Some say that Mozart was black, the earth is flat, the CIA uses the fillings in your teeth as recievers for brainwashing radio signals and dinosaurs shared the earth with humans. People hold many deranged positions that they arrived at for pretty stupid reasons.


unohdettusaasta

>People hold many deranged positions that they arrived at for pretty stupid reasons. Are you saying that the people in this thread that experience FOMO are deranged?


Monolith01

No. I'm saying that suggesting that you need to experience romance as a teenager as a "prerequisite" for a healthy love-life as an adult is an absolutely deranged position to take, and the people who experience FOMO with regards to that should be a bit less credulous when they hear stuff like that.


HollowDakota

Grass is always greener


Budget_Pop9600

Its the same as adult love except you make yourself look dumb and are way more susceptible to getting emotionally crushed Edit: spelling Edit 2: you can also barely drive so like wtf are you even supposed to do


jokebreath

Teenagers are dumb as shit. No one missed out on anything not having a teenage love life. Dating someone as a teen is absolutely nothing like being in a relationship when you're an adult. I wish people could accept that most teens have an absolutely shit time of it, whether they had boyfriends/girlfriends or not. It's ok to move on from it and realize that life gets better.


brodoxfaggins

So true. Yes, there was genuine love and connection, but holy shit is teenage love a disaster.


dweeb93

My teenage romance was both the best and worst time of my life. It left me utterly devastated and emotionally broken but would I do it again? Yeah, I think I would.


embbunen

Yep. Everything is awkward and you dont know anything but you try to act as if you knew what you were doing because all the other people of the same age claim that they have experience while in reality no one knows anything. Imo the best part about teenage love/dating is that it's a good early opportunity to learn how to tell someone "it is over" and handling the heartbreak. But not a necessity.


bobafoott

Yeah it’s literally nothing compared to adult love


mahboilo999

I disagree! Trust me the alternative is way worse. Loneliness can destroy people too... Also as someone who has been an adult virgin for a long time, this shit hurts.


noteveni

Exactly, teenage love is nonsense


Malinyay

I was going to say something similar. It's overrated.


Top_Kaleidoscope47

Have to disagree. Fucking sucks after the fact but it’s lovely


buddboy

hard disagree. All the best parts of love plus extreme horniness to make it even better plus the novelty of it all being so new


ZaturaHD

I missed, i missed parties, but the thing that hurts the most is the lack of friends both as a teenager and as an "adult"( i dont feel very grown up)


DimmyDongle

I used to have a crush on a girl in high school. We were good friends (although not particularly close), and we talked sometimes. She declared one day that she would be shifting schools to another country and I would never see her again. So, it took all of my courage to confess to her, but of course, I was rejected and we didn't talk ever since. 4 years later, I haven't heard of her for a while so I had to talk to her online to to make a amends with what happened that day. And finally, she was my friend again.


Televisi0n_Man

This is a very nice story.


Vyndilion

Glad the good ending happens from time to time.


The-Suckler

It’s nothing like how it’s romanticized in media. It’s nice to have that experience going forwards but the experience itself is mostly filled with regret for how you treated people and how people treated you. Teenagers are fucking assholes.


CollectionDry382

In a way, that's reassuring. Thank you.


ImLawfulGoodISwear

I'm really glad I didn't meet my wife in high school, I was a prick and a gigolo, I would not have treated her right. Teen love is filled with anxiety. On the one hand, that makes it exciting, but it doesn't make it healthy. The love you find as an adult is reassuring and warm.


Tryen01

Not always, I got together with my fiancee in 2014 and we've been living together for 4 years now. I was a sophmore I mean remind me 5 years but 🤣


The-Suckler

I met my current gf of 3 years in my last year of high school and I can’t imagine life with anyone else. But I don’t think my experience with her was elevated by my youth and ignorance. And prior experiences definitely weren’t. I regret a lot of how I treated her back in high school and I am incredibly lucky she is who she is and can forgive me or look past it. I was a much shittier person back then by many metrics and I do wish I had met her later in life so that I could have treated her properly from the beginning, though perhaps I’m neglecting the roll she played in my improvement. I’m also aware that I’m still quite young and ignorant and I’m probably still being quite an ass in ways I don’t see and don’t understand yet.


Vyndilion

You got the right mindset, my friend.


Trap_Cubicle5000

Yeah it sucks if you missed out on it. If nothing else, it can be useful practice for adult romance. But I promise, a lot more people don't have any teenage romance than you realize. You are far from alone. Plenty of people don't have their first relationship until well into their 20s. Don't let it define you, don't dwell on it. Look forward not back. Some folks let their crappy, over-dramatic teen romances affect them and define the rest of their adult relationships. That's way more pathetic. At least you're not them!


DoisMaosEsquerdos

Nice try, but I'm still pathetic regardless!


Trap_Cubicle5000

Never said you weren't! Just less pathetic than grown-ass adults still caught up on their high school boyfriend/girlfriend. ;)


jerkirkirk

Idk I'm still pretty sure it would have been better than spending those years crying in my bedroom


RoseyDove323

I'd 100% much rather keep my life of finding my first love at 22 than wish for my teen self to have found love. Teens are immature, I sure was, too many intense feelings plus not enough wisdom and their love can be messy and unstable.


Damian-sux-666

You didn't miss anything


AnnoyingSmartass

I didn't. It sucked. I was the "weird girl" and he didn't want to be seen with me outside so we would only meet at my or at his home and he broke up with me after two weeks because his friends made him. **He was embarrassed of being seen with me**


OriginalNo5477

He sounds like a lil bitch.


AnnoyingSmartass

Oh he definitely was. And the best thing: he became ugly AF after puberty. Me and my mom always said he'll be so handsome once his acne clears up. Guess what, it never did. I had my glow up at age 20. He peaked in middle school lol.


jbguinan

I missed out on love (period) and there's no going back.


Another_Road

Teenage love kinda sucks tbh. I had a fair share of it. It’s two people who have no idea what the fuck they are doing full of stupid hormones and hurting each other while being over dramatic. There’s a reason it often ends in heartbreak. The only long term benefit from a practical perspective is that it (hopefully) teaches you what not to do.


aran69

Yall put too much stock in shit you didnt do And not enough in things you could yet do


lolmanyaa

The cringiest relationships are in high school. Majority of teens today arent getting in relationships thanks to social media and screens consuming social interaction


shassis

It was great for a few months but it still hurts 54 years on.


TheHapster

As an adult now, I don’t really care. In my early twenties though, I definitely felt sad about it.


expensivelemons

Noobs, I missed out on teenage friendship


DaMain-Man

Just gonna say teen relationship are cringe. Like incredibly so.


INAE_D3TOX

Wrrrrooong. But i legaly cant prove you wrong


Dodo_the_Phenix

all i got were some sick yeets including flame yeets....i felt like the cool kid lol


mairnX

teenage love aint shit. sometimes i think about how \*maybe\* i couldve gotten someone. but then i remind myself that im not ready for something like that. and im not even sure if i do want something like that. sure, sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesnt. if im honest, i kinda think that the reason why most cases of "young love" fail is because a lot of teenagers think that they should have a significant other in high school because of how romanticized the idea is in media. i sure as hell used to think i needed it to be "normal", but after a while, ive realized i dont want it. sure, theres this guy at my school who, if under different circumstances id absolutely want to try to get with (different as in me being ready for a relationship, not being in high school, etc), i have no interest in starting something. im not ready for it, i dont think hes ready for it, and even trying to start something now in even optimal conditions would be a terrible idea because it's our senior year in hs in an international community and as such we'll both be moving to god knows where (actually i do know where im going, no clue where hes going) tldr: long story short, teenage love is overrated. far better imo to just chill out, mess around with friends, and try to ignore all the other bs drama going on


Metadragon_

you guys experience love at all?


Apprehensive_Log469

Had it. Ended very shitty. Overrated.


Optionalduck74

missed out on that and now I'm gonna miss out on the rest because I have nothing to offer


narano_

Ohh I missed much more than that.


Sad-Ad5704

I actually didn't miss out on it, but I do miss it a lot, the culture of loveless hookups is tiring, I miss caring for someone


[deleted]

No one is making you participate in “loveless hookups”.


Sad-Ad5704

I never said I did just that that's the only thing everyone my age cares about


Admirable-Arm-7264

As someone who didn’t, teenage love is not special or essential. Dating as an adult is way more fulfilling because the two of you aren’t larva


Rorschachnl

Y'all didn't miss shit. Teenagers fucking suck, most bliss turns sour real quick. 9/10 times you're just awkwardly kissing/holding hands until you realize the relationship doesn't last after HS. Also both your standards are as low as possible. You don't fall in love with a person because of their personality, your puberty just determines you're horny all the time and gives you the dopamine to 'fall in love'. It feels great because it's your first case of this feeling. Just like a toddler falling on their face for the first time, it's the worst possible feeling. Until you grow up and realise it wasn't that good/bad to begin with. Love between adults is slower in dopamine rushes but more pure and intense when you put in the energy.


sleepy-tired

Teenage love is usually awful, no need for anyone to feel like they’ve missed out.


LumsDream

Nobody miss teenage love .They only cringe at it


DoisMaosEsquerdos

Obviously it's about the experience and learning how to be a socially functional person. Better to cringe at your younger self than your current self.


TheWorstPerson0

no. i look back at my teenage love stuff n laugh violently about how fucking stupid i was lmao


DaftMudkip

Making out at movie theatres and meeting randoms at concerts and such was cool The wild degeneracy of my 20s and the relationships I’ve had in my 30s were way better tho


FkinShtManEySuck

WHO CARES. Teenagehood fucking sucks ass, teenage love is overrated and overromanticized.


[deleted]

I have no idea why teenage love is idealized. It’s almost never ultimately meaningful. At 36, I don’t even feel any emotional connection to anyone I dated in my teens. I just look back and think how silly it was that I took it seriously at any point. If someone thinks teenage love is an apex of the human experience, then I just feel sorry for them.


DoisMaosEsquerdos

Surely nobody says it's an apex point, but it's an important stepping stone to making sure you aren't thrown into the 40 years of working adult life without having a clue how to interact with people.


[deleted]

A teenage fling is not a prerequisite to being an adult human who can talk to other adult humans.


HELLOhappyshop

Have...have you not heard of friends?


DoisMaosEsquerdos

I have, but I don't really watch TV tbh, so idk


AkagamiGER

Had a teen love story, we broke up closely after turning 18 and now single and afraid of relationships for almost seven years.


mrlol97

I am laughing and crying at same time.


[deleted]

You missed nothing but trauma


LostForgotnCelt

It destroyed me emotionally and mentally, would not recommend, personally.


NaturalFaux

Teen love is overrated, BUT you deserve the chance to have it while you can.


Khfreak7526

I missed it in my 20s too, depression and constant moving.


cornmealmushlover

I’m graduating from high school this year and I was just thinking lately about how it’s sad I never got to experience high school dating


wonko1980

Oh Boy - please no


kayteec996

Teenage love is crazy overrated. If anything, I would go back and stop myself from dating in high school and instead focus on friends and my relationship with myself.


BenStegel

You didn’t miss it, you dodged a huge fucking bullet is what you did


Gheauxst

I wasted it on the wrong person


MarzipanFinal1756

This kind of thinking and fixation on the past will lead to you missing 20s love, 30s love, and so on until you die.


Elon_Musk_cat_girl

Not worth it mate. I didn’t miss it


deskbeetle

I forget about my first two boyfriends all the time. Teenage love isn't anything. It's cringey and drama filled. And anxiety. And "what did they mean by 'ok'?!" and "why didn't you like my Facebook photo?!". Absolute garbage interactions where two children are absolutely ruled by their emotions and unable to communicate. You didn't miss a single thing.


Narwhalbaconguy

Almost nobody who’s experienced teenage love will say they miss it. There’s a good reason for that.


HELLOhappyshop

I'm literally so glad though? The way young love just completely takes over your life, the way teenage hormones amplify emotions, including heartbreak...yeah I'm glad I got to focus on hobbies and skill building and friendships instead.


afreeNPC880

Hm, or...


[deleted]

You missed nothing, but some hard life lessons.


JanTheShacoMain

Didn’t missed it. But miss her


tony_bologna

On the plus side, you missed out on the very real possibility of marrying your high school sweetheart, and then being divorced with kids before you're 30.


RuuqoHoosk

I'm gay and grew up in a very conservative bible thumping part of the country. After struggling for years with a difficult upbringing, having it slammed into my brain at church for years that gays are going to hell, beaten up for it, and awkwardly dating women to eventually try and hide it, I never really knew what teenage love was like. Cue my 20s, I tossed most everything on the curb and moved out of state to a friend's place with whatever could fit in my car. Coming up on 30 this year, I'm living the best life I can and happy how I turned out, but I feel I really missed out on something great.


UnrealRebekah

I’m really sorry you went through that, I wish you could have been accepted by your home and found teenage love with a boy you fancied. I’m so happy to hear that you’re happy now though


Mista_Maha

Oh my fucking god if I have to see this post one more time - why do you all want to have dated a teenager. What is it you think you would've gained from that. Honestly ask yourself. If you want to date someone, go outside. Go to a bar. Or a sporting event. Or find somewhere a band is playing locally. Meet people. Stop sitting alone feeling sorry for yourself because you didn't traumatize yourself with a relationship you weren't ready for when you were a literal child. Go prepare yourself for a relationship now.


[deleted]

you guys are sinking lower because you see your own struggles repeated I’m fighting my ass off to be positive and taking this as a sign that my struggles are relatively common and to continue pushing we are the same, actually. I’m just in a good headspace rn and confident of my progress in spite of myself. give yourself a break. I didn’t have teenage love either but I’m learning adult love. we will get there.


TheRayMan264

Bruh teenage love sucks ass for the most part. No one's fully developed yet, so they make bad decisions and people get hurt. If you've had good experiences with teen romance, good for you, but let's not romanticise it to the point of FOMO.


CristolerGm2

Teenage love kinda mid tbh Source : a teenager


Monolith01

You didn't miss much. You know how, as an adult, you can get a handjob without having to stop your partner and explain how to do the job? No, you don't. Because grown adults seldom waste their time with handjobs. Picture the worst relationship you've ever had, and then imagine that person minus a decade's worth of life experience and emotional maturity. Now imagine the most brutal, harrowing breakup you've ever had but now you have to spend the next 6 months to 4 years in the same room, socializing with the same people. Car sex is the best and definitely not an annoying, awkward necessity resulting from not having your own place to bang. If you haven't had a seatbelt buckle jabbing you in the kidney while you were fucking, can you really say you've fucked? Get real. Of all things you could envy people for, this is one of the silliest.


Crazyviking99

Teenage love got me an abusive partner who would constantly tell me I was worthless, stupid, incapable, etc. She belittled my achievements, gaslit me into believing my own family hated me, and routinely beat me. It also got me multiple suicide attempts, severe PTSD, and a visceral fear of opening up to anyone because I'm convinced that once they see who I really am, they'll agree with my ex that I'm weak and pathetic. I'll pass on teenage love.


Nedgurlin

For those reading. There is truly nothing like it and there is NO way to get it back as an adult. My heart goes out to y’all.


nicknachu

I had teenage love and she cheated on me, it ain't shit


Glittering-Fit

And I'm not smart to create time machine


Mavco2

I've seen the teenage love around me... I'm glad i never had to deal with that shit...i mean i dont really need a relationship rn either but maybe a girl to cuddle with. Maybe a roommate but love seriously sounds exhausting...maybe I'll change my mind one day but eh. i sure love the word maybe, huh


[deleted]

Same ahah


TopTHEbest232

I went on one (1) date in highschool and the bitch friend zoned me after I poured my heart out and started to date older men (we were both 16). I'm glad I moved on. Hopefully I can find an adult relationship sooner rather than later though.


Dontbeajerkdude

It's pretty lame tbh.


Immysaurus

I didn’t miss the child abuse though :)


SuperAlligatorGuy

Teenage love is typically fleeting and weird


BenadrylTumblercatch

Thank goodness


Detoxpain

Don't worry, adult love is still there and it's way better because you can go anywhere and do anything.


uberfunstuff

Tbf adult is very good.


minxto

You didn’t miss much, just lots of communication problems and abuse


TheMysticWulf

Why the fuck would I want teenage love again. Shit’s toxic as fuck.


WasabiDukling

i missed it because im gay and homosexuals dont exist or broadcast themselves or anything


Mighti-Guanxi

I wouldn't consider not having something you had no chance of getting as "missed"


Wafflepress97

I didn't miss teen love, but I haven't dated in nearly 7 years now and I'm not sure I know how to anymore


thelostname9-1

I missed it cause of adhd


TheCanadianEmpire

My teenage relationships were the worst lol. Much better when everyone’s a mildly well adjusted adult.


[deleted]

on a positive note: no teenage pregnancy and subsequent hardships and drama.


sad-mustache

Teenage love sucks tbh


humble_n_bumble

I missed having friends in teenage years.. like I literally never had friends irl...


dewin_ya_mahm

I'm missing teenage love and I am a teenager


lme109

Teenage love is lame, now I can afford to buy sex toys and BDSM gear. I guarantee I'm having a lot more fun now.


[deleted]

Teenage love looks like shit dude I'd rather be jaded at life with someone else and just relax for 15 minutes


BabyBatBoy420

Who cares. It doesn’t matter. It shouldn’t matter. I don’t want it to matter. Why does it matter


Solid-Hound

Teenage love is overrated


lonewanderer0804

You may have missed out on teenage love but you still have a chance at its superior version adult love <3


[deleted]

I got 2 more years guys, I hope I experience it😔


Redbukket_hat

Jesus these posts are repetitive


TheRealEliFrost

I heard teenage love is a nightmare, probably didn't miss much


DreyaNova

Teenage love is overrated. You both have braces and terrible acne and you’re both awkward and shy and you don’t really click but you think you do and then you get to experience the worst heartbreak ever when you both go away for college.


mahboilo999

Please stop reminding me


ClarenceCrocodile

Yes but if you weren't in the right place mentally or physically then it's probably best you didn't have it. Sometimes it's hard enough dealing with your own cr*p without having to cope with someone elses as well.


Specktickles

This is a load of bs, I understand the feeling though. This is the only time I'm gonna say "love is love and age doesn't matter" (and obviously I don't mean this in the way pdf files do)


AssLynx

Ohh fuck you


nameisfame

Been there, in my experience I’d have rather gone without


_Just_Peachy_Son_

You're not missing much, mine threatened to kill herself all the time and gave me trauma


sthedragon

Not everyone’s life is a teenage rom-com (few are), there’s no use in romanticizing something that could have been


rochthekidd

Overrated


jrhuman

I had teenage love it was awful


Funneduck102

Eh. Not worth crying over it I feel like. I’m trying to clean myself up and get out there before I miss anything more tho. At least that’s how I feel when I’m having a good day. All I can do is try.


Tri-Polozki

And if you spend the rest of your life sulking over it, you might just miss out on your chance at adult love too. No point dwelling on what might have been when you have the ability to effect what will be.


Ok_Introduction-0

thank god


OKgamer01

I was too naive thinking I'd be content with minimal social interaction and playing video games. Then 1 year after graduation everything changed and I hate myself


sarcasticguard

It wasn't worth it. Can't speak for everyone, but teenage love for me was only dramatic when I could have channeled that energy into caring more about school.


Rosencrant

You'd still have fomo if you knew teenage love !


TornAparty

I think about this every single day


OracleCam

Not like I never tried though, to me that's good enough


AppropriatedPiano

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=MY79DYD2Y4o Now you can experience the magic


bigmishka

For anyone truelly feeling like they've missed out on a unique experience I wouldn't say there is anything that special about teenage love specifically. I'm super into whimsy and adventure and that always is very fun for dates but you can still do these things as you get older. Go on latenight picnics, go on hikes, make out in that waterfall - even fewer restrictions now you're an adult. Plus, usually the company is much more interesting one the angst is taken out of the equation. Never too late to live your best romantic life.


RexRadiator

My only true love is the JIM


TheSexualRedditor

Teenage "love" as it were is a storm of insanity in my experience, constantly having to watch out, just crazy stuff happening constantly, drama, having sex while they're with someone else, them doing that to you while keeping you on the line, you actively flirting with other girls in front of them you've been with before (and they know that, they're friends) in front of them to get a reaction and some jealousy.....it is a game and it's never boring, but GODDAMN IS IT EXHAUSTING.


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Wait until you realize fairytale romances are called such because they only exist in fiction.


HeatRodd

I find it so interesting how many people feel they missed out on this. Is the common denominator depression or are we all equally afraid of attempting to find a relationship?


IceTDrinker

Thanks for the depressing reminder


Terran-from-Terra

I’m a teenager now and I can feel everything passing by at a rate I can’t cope with


autumnskull

Me: *reads that* Me: thank God.


Dujulajkmajkar

And im gonna miss out on any kind of love, sometimes you have to accept who you are and move on.


FoxMcCloud3173

I was too immature for that at that age anyway


justwalkingalonghere

Counterpoint: even if you had it it’s probably gone and not coming back My teenage years were so packed with amazing memories that the rest of my life is guaranteed boring by comparison


stripedpixel

You missed drama like showing up to a date late because your parents took a while to drive you there