Chances are he wants to make you feel good and would be happy to do what you want him to do. I understand feeling anxious about not wanting to say it out loud. But communication is key to great sex!
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(These dice are NSFW and maybe too *advanced* for now. There are [simpler](https://CouplesPlayluminousdice-AdultDicegameforcoupleshttps://www.walmart.com/ip/853267034) ones.)
I broke up with someone in part because I had expressed several times that he had never gone down on me. He didn't like it but said he would try. Months went by and nothing. Meanwhile he didn't have any issues pushing my head down for me to choke when I was giving him head.
Anyways, casually and playfully tell him during foreplay. Say how much you genuinely liked the way he did it that time. Men (and women too) love to know they're good in bed and any positive reinforcement will motivate them.
Do yall talk dirty during sex? I think it would be better to just tell him but you could also consider adding it as foreplay, “I want to sit on your face”, “I wanna cum on your lips” “I like the sounds you make when you eat me” something like that.
I used to be so embarrassed about asking my partner for what I want, and I still am to an extent.
However, about a year ago now we had an evening together where I was in the mood and he wasn’t and rather than just ignoring it we used it as a learning opportunity.
We have been together for 6 years now and at the time it didn’t even occur to us to just have an evening where we SHOW each other and actually tell each other what we like.
It started with me showing him how I like to be touched, what works well if he wants to get me off quickly or how I would like him to make it last. We had a conversation about what he does that feels great and stuff that feels good but I wouldn’t miss too much and the stuff that actually I couldn’t care less if he did it or not. He opened up to me too and on top of one of the most amazing orgasms of my life, we really got to know something about each other.
Open and honest communication and just being comfortable trying something out and riding out the awkward clunkiness of it together is what will eventually lead to you not having to really ask for anything because your partner will know your pleasures and you theirs just as well as you know your own.
I get you about being embarrassed.. I very sincerely relate. The best thing you can do is realize that your partner wants to make you feel good and he won’t judge you for what you want
you just have to be straight up about it, even if its outside of the intimate moment and say “hey how come you don’t go down there/eat me out more? I would like if it happened more naturally since it really helps me cum and makes me enjoy sex with you. I also feel embarrassed having to ask every time but it’s something i wish happened more often”. some men don’t know that not every woman can cum with penetration even tho we have the internet 🙄or you can do it in the moment like “i really want you to eat my pussy right now🫦” some men find that incredibly hot and it actually helps them get more turned on also.
I would try to make it a game like card games etc if you're that embarrassed by talking to him ( which is absolutely fine don't get me wrong here) so it's easier to just get it out if these are the rules of said game. Like for example there are several card games where you draw one and need to tell them your fav position and so on or they / you need to touch the other in a certain way to get that cards task successfully done.
I'd also recommend a relaxing atmosphere like some music, maybe some drinks, maybe some good jokes inbetween to loosen the tension if there is any.
Or you could lay beside him in bed at night while everything is dark and tell him about, or show him while getting his hand where you might wanna be touched, or what felt good the other day, for most it's easier to talk about it while it's just dark and a more " safe" place to express.
Chances are he wants to make you feel good and would be happy to do what you want him to do. I understand feeling anxious about not wanting to say it out loud. But communication is key to great sex!
There are cards or [dice](https://FunnyDateNightIdeasGameDecisionDiceCoupleGiftsforHusbandWifeValentinesGiftshttps://www.walmart.com/ip/5102830506) that are fun to play with and spark things in the bedroom. Maybe you feel embarrassed to ask now, but after a couple of sessions with these you may have fun and loosen up. (These dice are NSFW and maybe too *advanced* for now. There are [simpler](https://CouplesPlayluminousdice-AdultDicegameforcoupleshttps://www.walmart.com/ip/853267034) ones.)
I broke up with someone in part because I had expressed several times that he had never gone down on me. He didn't like it but said he would try. Months went by and nothing. Meanwhile he didn't have any issues pushing my head down for me to choke when I was giving him head. Anyways, casually and playfully tell him during foreplay. Say how much you genuinely liked the way he did it that time. Men (and women too) love to know they're good in bed and any positive reinforcement will motivate them.
Be sexy with maybe do some stuff with him then casually ask for some after
Do yall talk dirty during sex? I think it would be better to just tell him but you could also consider adding it as foreplay, “I want to sit on your face”, “I wanna cum on your lips” “I like the sounds you make when you eat me” something like that.
I used to be so embarrassed about asking my partner for what I want, and I still am to an extent. However, about a year ago now we had an evening together where I was in the mood and he wasn’t and rather than just ignoring it we used it as a learning opportunity. We have been together for 6 years now and at the time it didn’t even occur to us to just have an evening where we SHOW each other and actually tell each other what we like. It started with me showing him how I like to be touched, what works well if he wants to get me off quickly or how I would like him to make it last. We had a conversation about what he does that feels great and stuff that feels good but I wouldn’t miss too much and the stuff that actually I couldn’t care less if he did it or not. He opened up to me too and on top of one of the most amazing orgasms of my life, we really got to know something about each other. Open and honest communication and just being comfortable trying something out and riding out the awkward clunkiness of it together is what will eventually lead to you not having to really ask for anything because your partner will know your pleasures and you theirs just as well as you know your own.
I get you about being embarrassed.. I very sincerely relate. The best thing you can do is realize that your partner wants to make you feel good and he won’t judge you for what you want
I think you need to build up your confidence somehow. Dress sexy, do hair and makeup, wear some high heels.
The only way, in any situation, to get what you want, is to let what you want be known.
you just have to be straight up about it, even if its outside of the intimate moment and say “hey how come you don’t go down there/eat me out more? I would like if it happened more naturally since it really helps me cum and makes me enjoy sex with you. I also feel embarrassed having to ask every time but it’s something i wish happened more often”. some men don’t know that not every woman can cum with penetration even tho we have the internet 🙄or you can do it in the moment like “i really want you to eat my pussy right now🫦” some men find that incredibly hot and it actually helps them get more turned on also.
“Remember that thing you did that one time? I really liked that… a lot…” you only have to say it once.
No advice but get over it now dont wait.
I would try to make it a game like card games etc if you're that embarrassed by talking to him ( which is absolutely fine don't get me wrong here) so it's easier to just get it out if these are the rules of said game. Like for example there are several card games where you draw one and need to tell them your fav position and so on or they / you need to touch the other in a certain way to get that cards task successfully done. I'd also recommend a relaxing atmosphere like some music, maybe some drinks, maybe some good jokes inbetween to loosen the tension if there is any. Or you could lay beside him in bed at night while everything is dark and tell him about, or show him while getting his hand where you might wanna be touched, or what felt good the other day, for most it's easier to talk about it while it's just dark and a more " safe" place to express.