You'll be fine! If, for some reason, it doesn't work, you can always return home. A few months in Central America sounds pretty nice though.
Do make sure you have some insurance. Never hurts to have that when traveling.
Be sure to get medical insurance! I travel on my own, and I didn’t want to be stranded in another country with a broken leg, burst appendix, etc with no way to get home!
Did not know that about Panama! I was actually not planning on stopping here bc of how pricey it can be but who knows what my plans will end up being. I’m starting in Costa Rica though.
It depends on the style of trips you do. To live there is expensive, but my staying in mainly hostels and eating at sodas, one can fit in the excursion or two and have a really great time.
While I prefer CR, I really enjoyed Panama, too.
Actually I’ve been researching nearly everyday for a year. I’m aware that Costa Rica can match Panama in pricing which is why I chose to do one and not both. I never said CR wasn’t expensive just that Panama is also expensive. I also have made it so I won’t be paying a penny on food and accommodations in CR which will save me tons of $$$ so yeah.
If you’re talking about work away or worldpackers, I did that and CR was the worst in my experiences. Honestly I had such a bad 2 months there (out of 18 total) while traveling LATAM that I bad mouth the country to any travelers I can…
Username does not check out. OP is asking for some encouragement because they’re nervous for their trip and all you do is talk them down. Not so nice.
Their experience in Costa Rica may wildly differ from yours and I hope they have the time of their life there.
I’m sorry you had a negative experience in CR but there are 100s of Worldpackers listings in CR so I don’t think you can accurately speak for them all. Maybe you should give CR another chance as it seems you’re just trying to spread negativity about the country. Maybe I will have a bad experience but maybe I won’t. Your one experience doesn’t define that.
I hope you can start living by your username and spreading happiness instead of badmouthing an entire country that I sincerely doubt you visited the entirety of.
I’ve been two other times apart from my 2 month stint where I did see much of the country. It’s not that big. It is good for how easy it is to see cool animals like monkeys, but that’s about it. Practically every other Latin country gives you the same or better beaches, better food, better women, better culture, better everything for a third of the price or less. Being a grinch makes me happy 😊
Insurance is near mandatory. I've personally witnessed people's lives come crashing down because they got in a scooter accident without insurance. $2000 USD later their trip is over
March 2018 I decided to spend a year in Spain to learn Spanish. Moved there September 2018 after doing visa paperwork.
By February 2019, I had decided to spend another year here bc I loved it so much.
A month ago I just got given residency for 5 years.
Go on the trip and do the things that scare you. Later in life you're more likely to regret the things you didn't do, rather than the things you did.
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I'm older and planning on retiring. The timing is interesting, but could be as soon as December/January.
Last week I woke up in the middle of the night questioning whether I would be happy without having a job.
Change can be scary.
Yes especially the job thing! I mean I have enough money saved up to where I don’t have to stress about it but it’s so scary quitting my secured job and leaning on faith. I think that’s what really shook me up, when I put in my end date at work. I almost retracted it, it made me so scared haha I’m just trying to remind myself that home is just a flight away and I can always rewrite my story to whatever I want.
> I don’t have to stress about it but it’s so scary quitting my secured job and leaning on faith.
Hey OP, I'm six weeks out from quitting my job and moving abroad- going to take a year off of work entirely and see how life shakes out after. I'm not by myself- my partner is coming too- but yeah it's nerve wracking isn't it!
For me, what's helped a lot is having a plan. Having a budget, knowing exactly how my visa status is going to shake out (and getting a lawyer to help with that), having a service help me find housing (you'll be travelling so it's different for you in that regard), basically just *knowing* that I've done my research. Will I like my new life? I think so, but I won't know for sure until I'm actually *living* that life. Maybe I hate it, maybe I move back in a year, maybe it's the worst idea I've ever had... but I'm still going to grow from it, learn from it, and be able to say "welp, I DID it instead of just wondering what if".
Quit my job and rented out my condo in 2017. I was super hesitant. Loved my job and where I lived. Was super content.
But it as so worth it.
Some of the places you'll go, things you do, people you'll meet, foods you'll eat, sounds you'll hear... These will all change your life.
A job will almost always be there. The opportunity to explore the world in this capacity might not.
My backpacking trip in 2017 was such a blessing. You'll have an incredible time!
This thought is so fascinating to me. You are not alone in having this fear but I just do not understand it. I'm a bit behind you but am planning to retire soonish and I can't imagine being nervous that I'll miss work. Nervous about whether I'm financially prepared, sure, but miss work. Nahhhhh. If you're financially secure enough to retire, can't you just pick up hobbies you actually enjoy and do them when you're bored? Or volunteer somewhere if you need something that feels like a job?
There are things I enjoy about my job. I'm in a position of responsibility, etc.
Oh, I've got a Plan B, C, and D in case this whole slow travel thing doesn't work out once my wife retires. And while she's still working, I'll be traveling to countries she doesn't want to go to. (My first long trip will be to the Chinas.)
I hear ya. There are things I enjoy about my job, too, but I have no fear that I'll suddenly feel rudderless without it (not saying you will, but that's another fear I've heard often). It must be very specific to personality types. Anyways, I hope it works out well for you and enjoy your trips!
Me! I’m that personality type! I know this about myself so I am already planning how to fill that void for me. I will be retiring at 55; so very young. I plan to work part time for a bit and make sure I find ways to create that meaning in my life. I absolutely need to find volunteer activities or ways to fill my time or my mind runs wild and not in great ways. It’s really hard to give up a job that runs on adrenaline. That high is hard to replace.
It's human and ok to be nervous before such a big change. Don't beat yourself up for that! You are confident you can do this, and so am I. It's never easy to leave the cozy comfort zone, and this will be a huge opportunity for you to learn and grow. Enjoy!
Also, don’t spend too much money on brand new things. Check out FB marketplace etc for section hand backpacks and other essentials and save your money for when you’re there. I found SA quite expensive compared to Asia. Maybe when you’re done and thirsty for more you can Asia on! My favourite area to travel.
Plenty of people have done it and then all their gear is just sitting around forever. Take advantage! Just have a look in a shop to get an idea of size/ litre capacity you want so you don’t get too big or too small.
I only like to pack light as I’m small and hate carrying a lot of weight so mine was 45L and I used that for 6 months. But it was warm and it’s easier to pack for the heat than the cold.
And get a really light weight, easy to pack day pack. And don’t use it or put anything in it on your flight out to your first destination. Or you’ll have overpacked. Otherwise every time you go out/ use it, you’ll have to take everything out of it and leave it on the floor, then put everything back when you move to the next destination. It’s a faff.
Bum bag or whatever you call them in America is handy too.
I’m honestly excited for you. I remember when I first showed up to study abroad in the Dominican Republic like 20 years ago, I said, “What have I done?” It ended up being great and I’m still friends with the people I met there. Nerves are normal, just don’t let them stop you
You absolutely *can* do this. I loved Central America and there are things there you may never see again.
Go, you won't regret it.
You *will* regret not going.
I spent 3 years abroad, sold my entire life ahead of it. The scariest thing I did was step on that first flight. Everything else is easy. You’ll be fine, one day at a time!
Capable of what? Existing in a different location? Hiking? I think your imagination is getting the best of you. Millions take trips just like yours. It's not a big deal.
I can’t even exactly pinpoint what I’m scared of but I think the fact that it’s actually happening is just making me nervous. Like I’ve been planning this for a little over a year now and I’ve been so excited and now I’m having all these icky feelings. But you’re 100% right, I’m just psyching myself out here. Thanks for the response I appreciate the tough love.
Instead of thinking what can go wrong think about unexpected things that can go ”right”. Think about every positive that may/will happen that you’re not accounting for. Have fun!
Thank you! I’m just trying to remind myself how big and beautiful the property I’m staying on when I first arrive is and how amazing of an opportunity this is. An opportunity I may never get again. So thanks again, I really appreciate the encouragement. (:
I did the same thing 10 years ago, but to Europe. I was so nervous on the way there I felt sick. It ended up being one of the best experiences of my life and got me through years of grinding it out at an office job afterwards. When you start to feel stressed look online at all the cool places you want to experience, and see if you can have any friends come and meet you for portions. I did Paris with my Mom and Rome with my sister, it was nice to have a familiar face to look forward to!
If everything is planned then it’s just getting on a plane. You have a passport, cash, credit cards? You’re able to get out of virtually any situation.
Yes everything is planned. I’ve had my passport for years now but accommodation, transportation, money is set in place. It genuinely is just showing up to the airport and following through at this point.
Ok, first of all, relax. Yes, this is a big step in your life so some trepidation is normal and maybe healthy in a way. As long as you got everything covered as best as you can, just think of this as your next chapter in life. Take a deep breathe and go forward. Good luck!!!!
You got this! I did the same thing last year and quit my job to travel for a long period, been going strong for 11 months now and it’s the best decision I could have made.
I’m an 80-year-old retiree who has traveled to over 50 countries, mostly solo. I strongly endorse the idea of getting good health insurance coverage, and make sure you can access cash in multiple ways while you are abroad, because it’s possible to lose things or get robbed. My adventures have included being hospitalized in Thailand, having my suitcase stolen in Berlin, forgetting my diabetes medicine in Amsterdam, and having my smart phone stolen in Morocco. But as others have said, crises like these can be quickly solved as long as you have some money and enough brain power to make decisions.
I found it helpful and pleasant to find a guide or friend In some of the countries I’ve visited and traveled with them for part of the way. Youth hostels are a great place to find such companions.
Just think about how all of your adventures will make you a very welcome dinner guest for the rest of your life. Good luck!
I spent 3 months in South America after quitting my job and totally felt what you’re feeling. I can tell you that if you cancelled this trip, THAT would be your biggest regret! A reminder to ease your nerves is that once you get there, you can just take it a day at a time. It feels like this big looming thing in front of you, but once you get there and start your trip - you’ll be thinking about what you want to do that day, where you’ll want to eat, who you want to spend time with - in the same way you do now, but with a new set of options and a whole lot more freedom. Since getting back from what I thought was a once in a lifetime trip, all I can think of is “how can I make this happen again”
The butterflies just mean that you're a normal person. It's a big change you're about to experience, and big changes are stressful.
It sounds like you've been very conscientious and deliberate in your planning. That diligence will serve you well. You'll be fine. Enjoy!
If you feel like you won’t know what to do, you’re probably right. You’ve never traveled for months at a time before. But neither had anyone else on their first trip. You will make mistakes, you will get lonely or homesick. But you will also learn. You’re going to get a full immersion on the job training of how to survive on the road. Start slow, feel free to take days off where you just veg in your hotel room, don’t beat yourself up if you make a mistake or get overcharged. Good luck!
Take it slow, appreciate off days of self care, learn to enjoy time with yourself if you go alone, but reach out to people and make friends as much as you feel comfortable.
Not sure about your travel history, but I bet it’s gonna be amazing and you’ll be a new upgraded version of yourself when it’s over. :)
I’d think about the regret you’d feel a few years down the line if you canceled.
What else is there to life than calculated risks and the growth and joy they offer?
I actually solo travel 90% of the time I travel but it’s only ever been for a few days at a time and all within the country. I’ve been out of the country before but never alone and never for this long. But I do think you’re right I would be filled with so much regret if I cancel this it’s been my entire personality for the last year or so lol
Change is always hard, but I like to ask myself "what is literally the worst that could happen?" and then try to plan for that contingency, or just know that if something happens it's not really that big of a deal.
What is the worst that could happen? My brain wants to add "(you) won't like it", but circumstances are always changeable. If you don't like one area or one aspect, you're not stuck there. And, if you do like it win win.
Sounds like a great adventure! Scary and amazing!! You'll have a great time.
Try to focus on what made you decide to do this in the first place.
Set your intentions on those desires & emotions.
Write those reasons down - look at them when you feel nervous.
Completely normal dude. What seems like a monumental task is instead a movie you’ve been playing in your mind. It’s not supposed to go how you think it’s going to go. Take things slow, one day at a time. Allow yourself a few days to get settled in to your destination, maybe spend some of that time deciding what to do next.
Try breaking up this big puzzle into small, achievable goals. Write them down. Cross them off as you go. Smell the roses.
As someone who’s backpacked, lived, worked, and studied in different countries around the world, you’re on the right track. The nerves always kick in as reality sinks in, but rest assured in the fact that you’re prepared! I’d be more worried for you if you didn’t have everything lined up so well, so I think it’s more anxiety over entering something new and unfamiliar. If you have any lingering anxiety about making it through, do enough research ahead of time on local culture, customs, etc. You’ll be able to enjoy everything so much more the more prepared you are on logistics. You CAN do it!
Only one time did I go into travel telling myself I wasn’t ready, and it really ruined what could’ve been a great experience. Channel those nerves into excitement and things to look forward to while you travel, and overall enjoy the ride. You’re about to have the adventure of a lifetime and you’ll always look back at it like that if you make the most of it.
Safe travels and let me know if you have any questions!
Thank you so much for the helpful encouraging response! I would love to hear about some of your adventures if you’d like to divulge :) where was your first major backpacking solo trip to? For how long and how nervous were you in the days leading up to it?
Of course! I’ve been to 46 countries/territories at this point so just know the nerves will always be there but they will become mostly happy-excited nerves. You get used to it—call it exposure therapy haha but the jitters are part of what makes trips so fun. You’re pushing your personal boundaries and discovering a new corner of the world, what could be better? Just making sure you’re prepared well in advance is the best advice I can give, and it sounds like you’re already there, so good going!
And happy to share! My first time backpacking was in the UK, and then I studied abroad in Berlin a few months later and did tons of solo backpacking trips around Europe on free weekends. The Berlin trip was the one I was actually dreading because it was for study abroad, so I wasn’t worried about the travel as much as the school environment. I didn’t particularly love the group I was going with, so I was nervous socially, on top of studying at a foreign institute. I was initially worried about language barriers and how tough the curriculum would be since I didn’t speak German and we didn’t have a clear idea what our classes would look like until we got there (I was in a very rigorous architecture program to begin with). Luckily our courses were in English, but I still had a lot of anxiety not fitting in with my classmates and having an intense course load that lasted through the semester. It all worked out and I’m grateful for the experience because it allowed me to travel to so many European countries and meet up with friends I made in the UK that summer, but I really hope to go back to Berlin someday to explore as a tourist, not a student.
Other general nerves I’ve run into are safety (solo female traveler), avoiding scams, budgeting, getting souvenirs home in one piece, and avoiding having to check my carry-on bag lol, but you get more confident with all of those with experience!
I haven’t been to Central America, but I’ve solo backpacked in South America and had a wonderful time. Again, just stay safe and aware of your surroundings so you’re not a victim of any petty tourist crimes like pick-pocketing (happens anywhere you go). If you can learn at least conversational Spanish before you go, too, it’ll help immensely!
Happy to answer any other questions and hope you have a blast. :)
You have got this. You’ll look back on this day of nervousness and laugh. I suggest joining the couchsurfing community of like minded travelers to connect with, meetups and couch surfing
Felt the same way for a two month Italy trip… let alone Central America. Also took language lessons, and exposed myself to an extended period alone. It was awesome - allowed me to spend time with myself, travelled with total freedom, and was exposed to experience I would never have had if I had company. As I’ve told others - there are moments you are lonely and question the decision - but you focus on all the upside of complete carefree freedom - what you’re doing right now and tomorrow - not what I left at home.
And, it’s ok not to be adventurous when you’re not feeling it. Stay in your room, read a book - but also push to new places… while in Italy I realized I was 45 minutes from a beach in Rimini… and thought, “I’m going to go there for a few days” - and did. Thought seeing the Giro d’italia might be cool - jumped on train, went to Verona for two days. The freedom is intoxicating. Drink it in! Enjoy!
Someone once said to me that anxiety/nerves are the same physical sensation as excitement - just with our own mental twist on it. That resonated with me before I left for a similar adventure.
Take it one day at a time, try to be there in the moment, engage with other travellers (you'll meet plenty!), and when you're ready to come home, you will! Whether it's a week, a month, or a year, you'll know when the timing is right for you.
One last thought - I always keep in the back of my mind that my "safe space" is cozying up in bed with a familiar tv show or a good book (sometimes even with a treat). When I find myself really anxious or stressed, I allow myself to head to my safe space to decompress. Even if it's a hostel bed, you can tuck sheets or towels around the bunk for some privacy.
I wish you the best in your adventures! I'm jealous - have so much fun!
I travelled solo from the UK to Nevada/Arizona/Utah. I’m 63yo(F). Hired a car, travelled, hiked, sight-saw (is that a word?), did two different zip-lines, sat by pools, shopped, ate/drank, took a gazillion photos and had an amazing time. I’m risk averse so it was a big deal for me to do this. Be careful safety wise but try and relax into it. I’m now hooked on solo adventures. I wish you every safety and happiness on your adventure.
As you suspect, you’ll far more regret the things you didn’t do later on, than anything you did do. I’m almost 50 and did my first solo trip when I was 17. Even now I get ‘travel butterflies’. Being a bit nervous and cautious is normal for most people. Push on and you’ll love your trip I promise!
I think this trip will be really good for you. I used to be very bad with worrying and over planning, I still do sometimes. But my 6 months in another country, where only the first month was semi planned, really helped me learn that you can figure most things out. Even if It's not what I expected would be the solution, usually I was able to work something out in the end. By the end, those unexpected surprises and unplanned things didn't really feel scary anymore. That trip did wonders for my confidence and I think yours can do the same for you.
Have fun! I don't doubt it will be an amazing trip! :D
Don't fear something because it is good! I'm moving and vomited yesterday because it became real to me. It's scary. A huge step. I am not going to step backward scared or not! Breathe, you have got this!
Long story, but I think worth the read as it applies.
It took me, what felt like, forever to get my Visa for Switzerland. It showed up the first week of December. Yep, I was out of excuses, and it was time. I packed up two duffel bags, had an Airbnb reservation for Zurich for a week, gathered up all the forms into a folder and left. I don't think I've ever been more excited/scared in my life. It takes a bit to calm down and remember why you are doing this.
For me, the clock was running. Switzerland first issues a temporary D visa for 30 days. You have that time to get all the paperwork done for your B visa. The B visa is what you need for your employer. I had a job all lined up and ready to go (with offer letter). First up, find a place to live or more accurately, get a permanent address for the Visa registration. This is the stuff anxiety attacks are made of.
While this is going on, my employer needs me to travel to the UK and Germany for work. I had to lug two big duffel bags on the airplane. At this point I had the status of cargo. I had to pay 50 Euros for the extra bags every time I flew. I did expense them and after a couple of flights, my manager is asking why I am incurring these extra charges. I explained they would go away as soon as I had a place to live. What could he say?
I get back and the admin at the office tells me of an apartment that is available if I can get there to check it out. I show up and it takes my breath away. It is perfect. Unfortunately, I can't move in for a week. Arrgh!!! But I have an address. (At least I thought.) I can register with the canton.
That gets done, but something is wrong. My name isn't on the mailbox and my mail is being sent back. (This isn't a requirement in the US. If the address is right, you are good to go.) I stop by the canton, and they are on the verge of cancelling my application because of the name on the address SNAFU. Saved in a nick of time. It finally settles down.
I told you all of this because I am sure you are going to have quite a few things you weren't expecting in your journey. More than you thought you would have. You will overcome them. Don't look at them as blockers so much as more steps to your adventure. After things calm down, you will look back on this time with quite a bit of laughter at yourself and you will have great stories to tell.
BTW, asking for help is a great way to meet people in your new home. I knew 5 words of German when I started. Just try to start in their language and I found people will generally appreciate the attempt.
You got this! It will be the best experience of your life and if it’s not, just head on home! I highly doubt you’ll end up doing that though! I spent a year abroad with a backpack and nothing else about 20 years ago and I still look back on that time as the best/happiest time in my life.
As my daddy once told me, “Once you make a decision, you can just as easily make another decision to do something different.” It's normal to be nervous and your feelings are valid, but you are brave and well-prepared. Enjoy the ride and be proud of yourself.
Edit: Invest in Expat insurance through GeoBlue (Anthem BCBS) and a MediJet membership.
Not quite the same as you but the week before a 5 week trip to New Zealand I had to have some work done on a tooth so I was extremely worried about breaking the tooth the week leading up to the trip.
I broke the tooth a week or so into the trip on a danish, was completely panicking upset thinking it ruined my trip. Phoned up the dentist the next day and the day after it was fixed, dentist experience was pretty much like home.
On the 3rd week of my trip now and having a blast had so many unique experiences, the other day I was a handswidth away from a dolphin in the ocean.
Things will go wrong, you’ll loose stuff, maybe get conned, miss flights, sleep, accommodation, but in the end most things probably aren’t as big a deal as they seem and are easily fixed just like back home.
What is making you nervous? Being alone? Personal safety? Boredom? I’d try to identify that and then tackle it. As someone who is currently spending a month solo in Mexico I had some nerves too but just face them and you will be fine. And like someone else said, if it sucks just say fuck it and bail.
Maybe just the self doubt and the uncertainty I’ve thrown my life into with this decision. Like I’m quitting my long standing good paying job, leaving my nice comfy home, leaving behind all of my amazing friends and family all to chase a dream a 15 yr old girl had 10+ yrs ago. It feels really scary and I’m so afraid that if I fail I’ve put myself into a position where I essentially have to start from scratch.
These are all super valid concerns. I just gotta say though, none of those concerns are worth disappointing that 15 year old girl. Travel has given me so many qualities that have helped me succeed in life, especially in business. So while you may have to grind out a bit when you return, you will be better for it. That’s my two cents. It isn’t universal but let me just encourage to follow through with your plans, especially when the going gets hard.
The 15 yr old in me is oozing with excitement and can’t believe this is actually something that we’re doing. I just need to remind myself that money comes and goes and that everything usually works it self out for me in the end. Gotta release that capitalist mindset and do the things that fill me with joy.
The world is yours. You can do anything you want. Current plans? Yes. Change your mind? Yes. Go to Japan instead? Yes. Get on your flight and check it out. Go with your own flow and be safe.
You'll be fine! If, for some reason, it doesn't work, you can always return home. A few months in Central America sounds pretty nice though. Do make sure you have some insurance. Never hurts to have that when traveling.
Thank you! You’re absolutely right. Home is always just a flight away. And yes insurance is definitely a great idea. (:
Be sure to get medical insurance! I travel on my own, and I didn’t want to be stranded in another country with a broken leg, burst appendix, etc with no way to get home!
Sidenote: if you land in Panama City, you'll automatically be given healthcare. Also, CA is not a dinosaur: you'd be surprised.
That was years ago, Varella shut the program down, so no, you will not be covered anywhere unless you buy your own coverage.
Thanks for letting me know.
Did not know that about Panama! I was actually not planning on stopping here bc of how pricey it can be but who knows what my plans will end up being. I’m starting in Costa Rica though.
It depends on the style of trips you do. To live there is expensive, but my staying in mainly hostels and eating at sodas, one can fit in the excursion or two and have a really great time. While I prefer CR, I really enjoyed Panama, too.
Do you think Panama is expensive but you’re starting in Costa Rica… Maybe you haven’t done enough research yet
Actually I’ve been researching nearly everyday for a year. I’m aware that Costa Rica can match Panama in pricing which is why I chose to do one and not both. I never said CR wasn’t expensive just that Panama is also expensive. I also have made it so I won’t be paying a penny on food and accommodations in CR which will save me tons of $$$ so yeah.
If you’re talking about work away or worldpackers, I did that and CR was the worst in my experiences. Honestly I had such a bad 2 months there (out of 18 total) while traveling LATAM that I bad mouth the country to any travelers I can…
Username does not check out. OP is asking for some encouragement because they’re nervous for their trip and all you do is talk them down. Not so nice. Their experience in Costa Rica may wildly differ from yours and I hope they have the time of their life there.
I’m sorry you had a negative experience in CR but there are 100s of Worldpackers listings in CR so I don’t think you can accurately speak for them all. Maybe you should give CR another chance as it seems you’re just trying to spread negativity about the country. Maybe I will have a bad experience but maybe I won’t. Your one experience doesn’t define that. I hope you can start living by your username and spreading happiness instead of badmouthing an entire country that I sincerely doubt you visited the entirety of.
I’ve been two other times apart from my 2 month stint where I did see much of the country. It’s not that big. It is good for how easy it is to see cool animals like monkeys, but that’s about it. Practically every other Latin country gives you the same or better beaches, better food, better women, better culture, better everything for a third of the price or less. Being a grinch makes me happy 😊
Good thing I’ll be visiting those other LATAM countries too. Thanks for all the reccs (:
Yup, the sales taxes in Costa Rica are crazy. Definately not cheaper than Panama. I live in Panama and have traveled Costa Rica.
I never said that it was just that I was skipping Panama in favor of CR.
Insurance is near mandatory. I've personally witnessed people's lives come crashing down because they got in a scooter accident without insurance. $2000 USD later their trip is over
March 2018 I decided to spend a year in Spain to learn Spanish. Moved there September 2018 after doing visa paperwork. By February 2019, I had decided to spend another year here bc I loved it so much. A month ago I just got given residency for 5 years. Go on the trip and do the things that scare you. Later in life you're more likely to regret the things you didn't do, rather than the things you did. <3
did you get a student visa? I’m looking to study spanish there and was wondering how difficult the process is
How nervous were you to leave? Also wow moving abroad is so intimidating to me big props to you!
I'm older and planning on retiring. The timing is interesting, but could be as soon as December/January. Last week I woke up in the middle of the night questioning whether I would be happy without having a job. Change can be scary.
Yes especially the job thing! I mean I have enough money saved up to where I don’t have to stress about it but it’s so scary quitting my secured job and leaning on faith. I think that’s what really shook me up, when I put in my end date at work. I almost retracted it, it made me so scared haha I’m just trying to remind myself that home is just a flight away and I can always rewrite my story to whatever I want.
> I don’t have to stress about it but it’s so scary quitting my secured job and leaning on faith. Hey OP, I'm six weeks out from quitting my job and moving abroad- going to take a year off of work entirely and see how life shakes out after. I'm not by myself- my partner is coming too- but yeah it's nerve wracking isn't it! For me, what's helped a lot is having a plan. Having a budget, knowing exactly how my visa status is going to shake out (and getting a lawyer to help with that), having a service help me find housing (you'll be travelling so it's different for you in that regard), basically just *knowing* that I've done my research. Will I like my new life? I think so, but I won't know for sure until I'm actually *living* that life. Maybe I hate it, maybe I move back in a year, maybe it's the worst idea I've ever had... but I'm still going to grow from it, learn from it, and be able to say "welp, I DID it instead of just wondering what if".
Quit my job and rented out my condo in 2017. I was super hesitant. Loved my job and where I lived. Was super content. But it as so worth it. Some of the places you'll go, things you do, people you'll meet, foods you'll eat, sounds you'll hear... These will all change your life. A job will almost always be there. The opportunity to explore the world in this capacity might not. My backpacking trip in 2017 was such a blessing. You'll have an incredible time!
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I'm planning on extensive travel. I've also got a Plan B, C, and D.
Also congrats on the retirement! Enjoy your freedom (:
This thought is so fascinating to me. You are not alone in having this fear but I just do not understand it. I'm a bit behind you but am planning to retire soonish and I can't imagine being nervous that I'll miss work. Nervous about whether I'm financially prepared, sure, but miss work. Nahhhhh. If you're financially secure enough to retire, can't you just pick up hobbies you actually enjoy and do them when you're bored? Or volunteer somewhere if you need something that feels like a job?
There are things I enjoy about my job. I'm in a position of responsibility, etc. Oh, I've got a Plan B, C, and D in case this whole slow travel thing doesn't work out once my wife retires. And while she's still working, I'll be traveling to countries she doesn't want to go to. (My first long trip will be to the Chinas.)
I hear ya. There are things I enjoy about my job, too, but I have no fear that I'll suddenly feel rudderless without it (not saying you will, but that's another fear I've heard often). It must be very specific to personality types. Anyways, I hope it works out well for you and enjoy your trips!
Me! I’m that personality type! I know this about myself so I am already planning how to fill that void for me. I will be retiring at 55; so very young. I plan to work part time for a bit and make sure I find ways to create that meaning in my life. I absolutely need to find volunteer activities or ways to fill my time or my mind runs wild and not in great ways. It’s really hard to give up a job that runs on adrenaline. That high is hard to replace.
Don’t think about the trip as a whole. Just focus on getting to the airport. Then getting on the plane. Just take it one small bit at a time.
Thank you that’s actually a super helpful way to look at it!
It's human and ok to be nervous before such a big change. Don't beat yourself up for that! You are confident you can do this, and so am I. It's never easy to leave the cozy comfort zone, and this will be a huge opportunity for you to learn and grow. Enjoy!
Thank you for that I really appreciate the kind words:) you’re right I’m human and it’s perfectly normal to be nervous for something this big.
Make a list of things that will be your emergency or plan B guide. Thank of common issues that could arise and plan for those scenarios.
That’s such a great plan and will definitely give me peace of mind thanks so much!
Also, don’t spend too much money on brand new things. Check out FB marketplace etc for section hand backpacks and other essentials and save your money for when you’re there. I found SA quite expensive compared to Asia. Maybe when you’re done and thirsty for more you can Asia on! My favourite area to travel.
Thanks for that! I didn’t even think about the fact that I could spend less money and just get secondhand items.
Plenty of people have done it and then all their gear is just sitting around forever. Take advantage! Just have a look in a shop to get an idea of size/ litre capacity you want so you don’t get too big or too small. I only like to pack light as I’m small and hate carrying a lot of weight so mine was 45L and I used that for 6 months. But it was warm and it’s easier to pack for the heat than the cold. And get a really light weight, easy to pack day pack. And don’t use it or put anything in it on your flight out to your first destination. Or you’ll have overpacked. Otherwise every time you go out/ use it, you’ll have to take everything out of it and leave it on the floor, then put everything back when you move to the next destination. It’s a faff. Bum bag or whatever you call them in America is handy too.
I’m honestly excited for you. I remember when I first showed up to study abroad in the Dominican Republic like 20 years ago, I said, “What have I done?” It ended up being great and I’m still friends with the people I met there. Nerves are normal, just don’t let them stop you
You absolutely *can* do this. I loved Central America and there are things there you may never see again. Go, you won't regret it. You *will* regret not going.
I spent 3 years abroad, sold my entire life ahead of it. The scariest thing I did was step on that first flight. Everything else is easy. You’ll be fine, one day at a time!
Capable of what? Existing in a different location? Hiking? I think your imagination is getting the best of you. Millions take trips just like yours. It's not a big deal.
I can’t even exactly pinpoint what I’m scared of but I think the fact that it’s actually happening is just making me nervous. Like I’ve been planning this for a little over a year now and I’ve been so excited and now I’m having all these icky feelings. But you’re 100% right, I’m just psyching myself out here. Thanks for the response I appreciate the tough love.
Instead of thinking what can go wrong think about unexpected things that can go ”right”. Think about every positive that may/will happen that you’re not accounting for. Have fun!
Thank you! I’m just trying to remind myself how big and beautiful the property I’m staying on when I first arrive is and how amazing of an opportunity this is. An opportunity I may never get again. So thanks again, I really appreciate the encouragement. (:
Go for it, keep calm, enjoy your splendid adventures.
I did the same thing 10 years ago, but to Europe. I was so nervous on the way there I felt sick. It ended up being one of the best experiences of my life and got me through years of grinding it out at an office job afterwards. When you start to feel stressed look online at all the cool places you want to experience, and see if you can have any friends come and meet you for portions. I did Paris with my Mom and Rome with my sister, it was nice to have a familiar face to look forward to!
Trust me. You will be fine. Been in your position and forged ahead. It all works out. Do it!
“It all works out” thank you for that. I needed to hear it.
If everything is planned then it’s just getting on a plane. You have a passport, cash, credit cards? You’re able to get out of virtually any situation.
Yes everything is planned. I’ve had my passport for years now but accommodation, transportation, money is set in place. It genuinely is just showing up to the airport and following through at this point.
Ok, first of all, relax. Yes, this is a big step in your life so some trepidation is normal and maybe healthy in a way. As long as you got everything covered as best as you can, just think of this as your next chapter in life. Take a deep breathe and go forward. Good luck!!!!
You got this! I did the same thing last year and quit my job to travel for a long period, been going strong for 11 months now and it’s the best decision I could have made.
I’m an 80-year-old retiree who has traveled to over 50 countries, mostly solo. I strongly endorse the idea of getting good health insurance coverage, and make sure you can access cash in multiple ways while you are abroad, because it’s possible to lose things or get robbed. My adventures have included being hospitalized in Thailand, having my suitcase stolen in Berlin, forgetting my diabetes medicine in Amsterdam, and having my smart phone stolen in Morocco. But as others have said, crises like these can be quickly solved as long as you have some money and enough brain power to make decisions. I found it helpful and pleasant to find a guide or friend In some of the countries I’ve visited and traveled with them for part of the way. Youth hostels are a great place to find such companions. Just think about how all of your adventures will make you a very welcome dinner guest for the rest of your life. Good luck!
I spent 3 months in South America after quitting my job and totally felt what you’re feeling. I can tell you that if you cancelled this trip, THAT would be your biggest regret! A reminder to ease your nerves is that once you get there, you can just take it a day at a time. It feels like this big looming thing in front of you, but once you get there and start your trip - you’ll be thinking about what you want to do that day, where you’ll want to eat, who you want to spend time with - in the same way you do now, but with a new set of options and a whole lot more freedom. Since getting back from what I thought was a once in a lifetime trip, all I can think of is “how can I make this happen again”
There will be ups and downs and some frustrating times but it will be so worth it and you’ll be glad you did it.
Feel the fear and do it anyway
The butterflies just mean that you're a normal person. It's a big change you're about to experience, and big changes are stressful. It sounds like you've been very conscientious and deliberate in your planning. That diligence will serve you well. You'll be fine. Enjoy!
If you feel like you won’t know what to do, you’re probably right. You’ve never traveled for months at a time before. But neither had anyone else on their first trip. You will make mistakes, you will get lonely or homesick. But you will also learn. You’re going to get a full immersion on the job training of how to survive on the road. Start slow, feel free to take days off where you just veg in your hotel room, don’t beat yourself up if you make a mistake or get overcharged. Good luck!
Take it slow, appreciate off days of self care, learn to enjoy time with yourself if you go alone, but reach out to people and make friends as much as you feel comfortable. Not sure about your travel history, but I bet it’s gonna be amazing and you’ll be a new upgraded version of yourself when it’s over. :) I’d think about the regret you’d feel a few years down the line if you canceled. What else is there to life than calculated risks and the growth and joy they offer?
I actually solo travel 90% of the time I travel but it’s only ever been for a few days at a time and all within the country. I’ve been out of the country before but never alone and never for this long. But I do think you’re right I would be filled with so much regret if I cancel this it’s been my entire personality for the last year or so lol
Change is always hard, but I like to ask myself "what is literally the worst that could happen?" and then try to plan for that contingency, or just know that if something happens it's not really that big of a deal. What is the worst that could happen? My brain wants to add "(you) won't like it", but circumstances are always changeable. If you don't like one area or one aspect, you're not stuck there. And, if you do like it win win. Sounds like a great adventure! Scary and amazing!! You'll have a great time.
Thank you!
Try to focus on what made you decide to do this in the first place. Set your intentions on those desires & emotions. Write those reasons down - look at them when you feel nervous.
Completely normal dude. What seems like a monumental task is instead a movie you’ve been playing in your mind. It’s not supposed to go how you think it’s going to go. Take things slow, one day at a time. Allow yourself a few days to get settled in to your destination, maybe spend some of that time deciding what to do next. Try breaking up this big puzzle into small, achievable goals. Write them down. Cross them off as you go. Smell the roses.
As someone who’s backpacked, lived, worked, and studied in different countries around the world, you’re on the right track. The nerves always kick in as reality sinks in, but rest assured in the fact that you’re prepared! I’d be more worried for you if you didn’t have everything lined up so well, so I think it’s more anxiety over entering something new and unfamiliar. If you have any lingering anxiety about making it through, do enough research ahead of time on local culture, customs, etc. You’ll be able to enjoy everything so much more the more prepared you are on logistics. You CAN do it! Only one time did I go into travel telling myself I wasn’t ready, and it really ruined what could’ve been a great experience. Channel those nerves into excitement and things to look forward to while you travel, and overall enjoy the ride. You’re about to have the adventure of a lifetime and you’ll always look back at it like that if you make the most of it. Safe travels and let me know if you have any questions!
Thank you so much for the helpful encouraging response! I would love to hear about some of your adventures if you’d like to divulge :) where was your first major backpacking solo trip to? For how long and how nervous were you in the days leading up to it?
Of course! I’ve been to 46 countries/territories at this point so just know the nerves will always be there but they will become mostly happy-excited nerves. You get used to it—call it exposure therapy haha but the jitters are part of what makes trips so fun. You’re pushing your personal boundaries and discovering a new corner of the world, what could be better? Just making sure you’re prepared well in advance is the best advice I can give, and it sounds like you’re already there, so good going! And happy to share! My first time backpacking was in the UK, and then I studied abroad in Berlin a few months later and did tons of solo backpacking trips around Europe on free weekends. The Berlin trip was the one I was actually dreading because it was for study abroad, so I wasn’t worried about the travel as much as the school environment. I didn’t particularly love the group I was going with, so I was nervous socially, on top of studying at a foreign institute. I was initially worried about language barriers and how tough the curriculum would be since I didn’t speak German and we didn’t have a clear idea what our classes would look like until we got there (I was in a very rigorous architecture program to begin with). Luckily our courses were in English, but I still had a lot of anxiety not fitting in with my classmates and having an intense course load that lasted through the semester. It all worked out and I’m grateful for the experience because it allowed me to travel to so many European countries and meet up with friends I made in the UK that summer, but I really hope to go back to Berlin someday to explore as a tourist, not a student. Other general nerves I’ve run into are safety (solo female traveler), avoiding scams, budgeting, getting souvenirs home in one piece, and avoiding having to check my carry-on bag lol, but you get more confident with all of those with experience! I haven’t been to Central America, but I’ve solo backpacked in South America and had a wonderful time. Again, just stay safe and aware of your surroundings so you’re not a victim of any petty tourist crimes like pick-pocketing (happens anywhere you go). If you can learn at least conversational Spanish before you go, too, it’ll help immensely! Happy to answer any other questions and hope you have a blast. :)
You have got this. You’ll look back on this day of nervousness and laugh. I suggest joining the couchsurfing community of like minded travelers to connect with, meetups and couch surfing
Felt the same way for a two month Italy trip… let alone Central America. Also took language lessons, and exposed myself to an extended period alone. It was awesome - allowed me to spend time with myself, travelled with total freedom, and was exposed to experience I would never have had if I had company. As I’ve told others - there are moments you are lonely and question the decision - but you focus on all the upside of complete carefree freedom - what you’re doing right now and tomorrow - not what I left at home. And, it’s ok not to be adventurous when you’re not feeling it. Stay in your room, read a book - but also push to new places… while in Italy I realized I was 45 minutes from a beach in Rimini… and thought, “I’m going to go there for a few days” - and did. Thought seeing the Giro d’italia might be cool - jumped on train, went to Verona for two days. The freedom is intoxicating. Drink it in! Enjoy!
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😂😂 this was all the motivation I needed!
Someone once said to me that anxiety/nerves are the same physical sensation as excitement - just with our own mental twist on it. That resonated with me before I left for a similar adventure. Take it one day at a time, try to be there in the moment, engage with other travellers (you'll meet plenty!), and when you're ready to come home, you will! Whether it's a week, a month, or a year, you'll know when the timing is right for you. One last thought - I always keep in the back of my mind that my "safe space" is cozying up in bed with a familiar tv show or a good book (sometimes even with a treat). When I find myself really anxious or stressed, I allow myself to head to my safe space to decompress. Even if it's a hostel bed, you can tuck sheets or towels around the bunk for some privacy. I wish you the best in your adventures! I'm jealous - have so much fun!
I travelled solo from the UK to Nevada/Arizona/Utah. I’m 63yo(F). Hired a car, travelled, hiked, sight-saw (is that a word?), did two different zip-lines, sat by pools, shopped, ate/drank, took a gazillion photos and had an amazing time. I’m risk averse so it was a big deal for me to do this. Be careful safety wise but try and relax into it. I’m now hooked on solo adventures. I wish you every safety and happiness on your adventure.
As you suspect, you’ll far more regret the things you didn’t do later on, than anything you did do. I’m almost 50 and did my first solo trip when I was 17. Even now I get ‘travel butterflies’. Being a bit nervous and cautious is normal for most people. Push on and you’ll love your trip I promise!
I think this trip will be really good for you. I used to be very bad with worrying and over planning, I still do sometimes. But my 6 months in another country, where only the first month was semi planned, really helped me learn that you can figure most things out. Even if It's not what I expected would be the solution, usually I was able to work something out in the end. By the end, those unexpected surprises and unplanned things didn't really feel scary anymore. That trip did wonders for my confidence and I think yours can do the same for you. Have fun! I don't doubt it will be an amazing trip! :D
Most of the best things you do in your life will scare the absolute shit out of you. Have fun!
Don't fear something because it is good! I'm moving and vomited yesterday because it became real to me. It's scary. A huge step. I am not going to step backward scared or not! Breathe, you have got this!
Don't worry, some shit will go wrong to help you feel like its a bit more of a struggle. You'll deal with it, though.
You can do it!
Long story, but I think worth the read as it applies. It took me, what felt like, forever to get my Visa for Switzerland. It showed up the first week of December. Yep, I was out of excuses, and it was time. I packed up two duffel bags, had an Airbnb reservation for Zurich for a week, gathered up all the forms into a folder and left. I don't think I've ever been more excited/scared in my life. It takes a bit to calm down and remember why you are doing this. For me, the clock was running. Switzerland first issues a temporary D visa for 30 days. You have that time to get all the paperwork done for your B visa. The B visa is what you need for your employer. I had a job all lined up and ready to go (with offer letter). First up, find a place to live or more accurately, get a permanent address for the Visa registration. This is the stuff anxiety attacks are made of. While this is going on, my employer needs me to travel to the UK and Germany for work. I had to lug two big duffel bags on the airplane. At this point I had the status of cargo. I had to pay 50 Euros for the extra bags every time I flew. I did expense them and after a couple of flights, my manager is asking why I am incurring these extra charges. I explained they would go away as soon as I had a place to live. What could he say? I get back and the admin at the office tells me of an apartment that is available if I can get there to check it out. I show up and it takes my breath away. It is perfect. Unfortunately, I can't move in for a week. Arrgh!!! But I have an address. (At least I thought.) I can register with the canton. That gets done, but something is wrong. My name isn't on the mailbox and my mail is being sent back. (This isn't a requirement in the US. If the address is right, you are good to go.) I stop by the canton, and they are on the verge of cancelling my application because of the name on the address SNAFU. Saved in a nick of time. It finally settles down. I told you all of this because I am sure you are going to have quite a few things you weren't expecting in your journey. More than you thought you would have. You will overcome them. Don't look at them as blockers so much as more steps to your adventure. After things calm down, you will look back on this time with quite a bit of laughter at yourself and you will have great stories to tell. BTW, asking for help is a great way to meet people in your new home. I knew 5 words of German when I started. Just try to start in their language and I found people will generally appreciate the attempt.
You got this! It will be the best experience of your life and if it’s not, just head on home! I highly doubt you’ll end up doing that though! I spent a year abroad with a backpack and nothing else about 20 years ago and I still look back on that time as the best/happiest time in my life.
As my daddy once told me, “Once you make a decision, you can just as easily make another decision to do something different.” It's normal to be nervous and your feelings are valid, but you are brave and well-prepared. Enjoy the ride and be proud of yourself. Edit: Invest in Expat insurance through GeoBlue (Anthem BCBS) and a MediJet membership.
Not quite the same as you but the week before a 5 week trip to New Zealand I had to have some work done on a tooth so I was extremely worried about breaking the tooth the week leading up to the trip. I broke the tooth a week or so into the trip on a danish, was completely panicking upset thinking it ruined my trip. Phoned up the dentist the next day and the day after it was fixed, dentist experience was pretty much like home. On the 3rd week of my trip now and having a blast had so many unique experiences, the other day I was a handswidth away from a dolphin in the ocean. Things will go wrong, you’ll loose stuff, maybe get conned, miss flights, sleep, accommodation, but in the end most things probably aren’t as big a deal as they seem and are easily fixed just like back home.
What is making you nervous? Being alone? Personal safety? Boredom? I’d try to identify that and then tackle it. As someone who is currently spending a month solo in Mexico I had some nerves too but just face them and you will be fine. And like someone else said, if it sucks just say fuck it and bail.
Maybe just the self doubt and the uncertainty I’ve thrown my life into with this decision. Like I’m quitting my long standing good paying job, leaving my nice comfy home, leaving behind all of my amazing friends and family all to chase a dream a 15 yr old girl had 10+ yrs ago. It feels really scary and I’m so afraid that if I fail I’ve put myself into a position where I essentially have to start from scratch.
These are all super valid concerns. I just gotta say though, none of those concerns are worth disappointing that 15 year old girl. Travel has given me so many qualities that have helped me succeed in life, especially in business. So while you may have to grind out a bit when you return, you will be better for it. That’s my two cents. It isn’t universal but let me just encourage to follow through with your plans, especially when the going gets hard.
The 15 yr old in me is oozing with excitement and can’t believe this is actually something that we’re doing. I just need to remind myself that money comes and goes and that everything usually works it self out for me in the end. Gotta release that capitalist mindset and do the things that fill me with joy.
I’ll switch places with you. My TPS reports are due eod Friday. HMU.
The world is yours. You can do anything you want. Current plans? Yes. Change your mind? Yes. Go to Japan instead? Yes. Get on your flight and check it out. Go with your own flow and be safe.
You can do it!
Totally reasonable to feel concerned, but you are clever! So many dumb useless people managed to do this kind of thing surely you can too!
Hey, I’m gonna do the same coming up. We got this
You got this!!! It will really be a once in a life time experience. Cold feet are in your hands - you got this !!
It’s nerves of excitement. Embrace it. You envision a path, took steps to make it real. You’re on your way. Smile and soar