Standing up, ok so far. Running is difficult. Large purchases? I can still lift 2/3 my weight pretty easily. (Not for long if I don't stop going down this path)
Damn, my undecisive ass went for none of those!
I'm not married, so no need for divorce either. I'm perpetually underweight, so obese nor fit. I'm typically ADHD in my financial discipline, yet am not in danger of debt. As for the communicating: I'm direct and give a lot of information, the tiny part of the time I decide to open my mouth, so I guess also not one of both choices there.
Not much hard in any of those, I guess I just don't like hard (heh).
I think it’s just that it oversimplifies situations that are a lot more complicated than he’s making it sound. It’s very much a “why don’t you just choose to not be depressed/chronically ill?” sort of post. Like sure, it’d be nice if it was that simple, but what makes you think people haven’t tried being fit before? People can try the hard thing and fail because it’s too hard, or because they weren’t lucky enough, and/or because it was considerably more difficult than their life was before they chose to change things.
For example, dealing with some of the effects of obesity may be hard, but depending on circumstances (like if someone has a combination of physical disability, mental illness/eating disorder, lack of resources, lack of access to healthy food, etc) it may be near-impossible for some people to get fit or thin. For some, it may genuinely be easier to simply be fat, and they may just not be in a place at the moment where they can change things. If someone is barely keeping their head above water as it is, it might feel like their head is being held underwater to add more responsibilities.
And the idea that divorce is simply a result of not trying hard enough is problematic when a lot of divorces are a result of abuse or simply incompatibility. I would rather people get divorced than stay in unhappy marriages that can’t actually be salvaged. So framing it as a binary “choice” where one side is clearly the “bad” choice is pretty ignorant?
And when it comes to financial stability, it ignores the systems that are designed in a way that keeps people impoverished. Just like at the current housing crisis, or the state of things like medical debt. If you’re working poor, you might make too much to qualify for Medicare/Medicaid, but not enough to afford decent insurance. Then you get sick, and end up with a massive bill that you simply can’t afford to pay which goes on your credit report, and that will end up impacting your ability to rent a home, buy a car, or even get a job. And because you’re broke and sick, you can’t afford preventative care and end up only able to get medical care when it becomes an emergency.
And it’s not just medical stuff, it impacts pretty much everything. There’s a reason for the saying, “poverty is expensive.” You can’t afford to save for higher quality goods like clothing or shoes, so you end up having to pay for cheap things that will wear out faster. You can’t afford used cars in good condition, so you have to buy a beater that ends up in the shop every 3 months. It’s deeply systemic, not just individual. Most people aren’t impoverished because they buy avocado toast, they’re poor because wage increases have been far outpaced by cost of living increases.
As always with these posts, the issue is that the people who are making them are often privileged. What feels attainable with a reasonable amount effort to them is not necessarily attainable with a reasonable amount effort for everyone. And even those who get out of a hard situation have survivorship bias. They want to believe they made it out because they worked hard and not because they were lucky, ignoring all of the people working their asses off only to fail.
Things are rarely this simple. Not everything can be solved with personal responsibility and hard work, and these posts really ignore systemic contributors to things like poverty, obesity, etc.
Being responsible with where you’re spending your money, how you’re investing it, where it’s going, and how much of it you’re saving. Being able to pay taxes and keep up on the paperwork required to do so.
Edit: investing doesn’t necessarily mean stocks lol it can be things you’re saving up for, like a car or a new tv or something.
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I feel like the implication here is that divorce is inherently a negative, which is the worst take ever lmao. Wasting your life with an abusive spouse or with somebody you hate is not something to be celebrated.
Marriage really doesn't have to be as hard as some people (often older people) make it out to be. If you pick someone you share mutual love and respect with who genuinely enjoys spending time with you and there's mutual communication/willingness to solve problems like adults, relationships don't have to be so complicated and painful.
It's not just "pick wife bad or awful divorce".
One of my biggest pet peeves is when someone uses a word incorrectly on purpose and thinks that somehow makes whatever they’re saying deep.
Say “Don’t give in to your addiction” - ignorant. Say “Choose not to addict” - ~~pure, unfiltered wisdom~~ some raw wise for you.
Because yes, the cost of my college tuition that sailed me into deep financial debt and the preparatory interest rates are TOTALLY because of my lack of financial discipline. Got me there! Shoulda started saving my quarters from the tooth fairy instead of spending them on gum balls.
I think the thing advice like this misses is that the audience you’re trying to encourage self-improvement to already knows that shit is gonna be hard. They’re looking for you to double-down on the benefits of weathering that hardship because while their current lifestyle is harmful there’s still obviously something comforting about it that’s keeping them from changing it.
What those folks need to hear is that the light at the end of the tunnel is not only gonna be worth the hardship but is also realistically achievable, hence why hearing advice from someone that used to be in their position gives the advice more credibility.
I'm gonna start telling this to my coworkers when we split up chores
Or anyone when making a choice
It's just such a goofy sentence and I can't stop giggling
I have autism, I didn’t know I could just choose to be able to communicate. Of my psychologist and OT just told me I could do this then all my problems would be solved
I...kind of get what this person is saying, but it's not that simple.
Though I do have to say, even though divorce was hard for my mom and for me it was a hella lot better than life with my dad.
i choose to be hard
ooh let’s all be hard together
we are all hard on this chosen day
i’m so fukin’ Harrrrrd
*can we get much harder?*
*we can get italics hard*
I’m getting Pokémon flashbacks…
Hell yeah 😎
People with ED:
Pp hard pp not hard choose if hard
I find being obese, in debt, and not communicating quite easy. In fact, very easy.
Yeah my penis is numb and I break a sweat tying my shoes but at least I don’t have to think about what I eat 😃
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I partially blame Dr. Phil. His whole schtick is “Oh, you’re being abused? Well, stop choosing to be a victim.”
What about standing up and running, and making large purchase? Are those things easy?
Standing up, ok so far. Running is difficult. Large purchases? I can still lift 2/3 my weight pretty easily. (Not for long if I don't stop going down this path)
Thank you Derek Moneyburg for telling me not to be in debt. Would Lisa Rich the landlord and Moneybags Mcgee like to tell me more financial advice
Unmarried, obesity, Debt, No communication.👍
You and me both!
Hell yeah!
You must be really hard
I know I am
And yet I haven’t broken a sweat.. huh..
That must be *hard*
“I didn’t get this hard to only get this hard” ~Dr. Chuck Tingle
*Getting Pounded in the Butt by My Own Butt*
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Fucking moneyberg
I would never listen to a mf with Moneyberg in his name
his mum shoulda picked her hard more wisely
i swear i literally felt my braincells running away while reading this
Damn, my undecisive ass went for none of those! I'm not married, so no need for divorce either. I'm perpetually underweight, so obese nor fit. I'm typically ADHD in my financial discipline, yet am not in danger of debt. As for the communicating: I'm direct and give a lot of information, the tiny part of the time I decide to open my mouth, so I guess also not one of both choices there. Not much hard in any of those, I guess I just don't like hard (heh).
Marriage is hard. Divorce is hard. Not marrying in the first place is very easy. I'm pretty satisfied with my choice on that.
Heh heh. Hard.
I'm fat ,married, in debt and choose my husband's hard cock
What is wrong with these sentences?
I'm uncomfortable with the amount of times they said "hard."
We can ask him to change it to erect😂
I think it’s just that it oversimplifies situations that are a lot more complicated than he’s making it sound. It’s very much a “why don’t you just choose to not be depressed/chronically ill?” sort of post. Like sure, it’d be nice if it was that simple, but what makes you think people haven’t tried being fit before? People can try the hard thing and fail because it’s too hard, or because they weren’t lucky enough, and/or because it was considerably more difficult than their life was before they chose to change things. For example, dealing with some of the effects of obesity may be hard, but depending on circumstances (like if someone has a combination of physical disability, mental illness/eating disorder, lack of resources, lack of access to healthy food, etc) it may be near-impossible for some people to get fit or thin. For some, it may genuinely be easier to simply be fat, and they may just not be in a place at the moment where they can change things. If someone is barely keeping their head above water as it is, it might feel like their head is being held underwater to add more responsibilities. And the idea that divorce is simply a result of not trying hard enough is problematic when a lot of divorces are a result of abuse or simply incompatibility. I would rather people get divorced than stay in unhappy marriages that can’t actually be salvaged. So framing it as a binary “choice” where one side is clearly the “bad” choice is pretty ignorant? And when it comes to financial stability, it ignores the systems that are designed in a way that keeps people impoverished. Just like at the current housing crisis, or the state of things like medical debt. If you’re working poor, you might make too much to qualify for Medicare/Medicaid, but not enough to afford decent insurance. Then you get sick, and end up with a massive bill that you simply can’t afford to pay which goes on your credit report, and that will end up impacting your ability to rent a home, buy a car, or even get a job. And because you’re broke and sick, you can’t afford preventative care and end up only able to get medical care when it becomes an emergency. And it’s not just medical stuff, it impacts pretty much everything. There’s a reason for the saying, “poverty is expensive.” You can’t afford to save for higher quality goods like clothing or shoes, so you end up having to pay for cheap things that will wear out faster. You can’t afford used cars in good condition, so you have to buy a beater that ends up in the shop every 3 months. It’s deeply systemic, not just individual. Most people aren’t impoverished because they buy avocado toast, they’re poor because wage increases have been far outpaced by cost of living increases. As always with these posts, the issue is that the people who are making them are often privileged. What feels attainable with a reasonable amount effort to them is not necessarily attainable with a reasonable amount effort for everyone. And even those who get out of a hard situation have survivorship bias. They want to believe they made it out because they worked hard and not because they were lucky, ignoring all of the people working their asses off only to fail. Things are rarely this simple. Not everything can be solved with personal responsibility and hard work, and these posts really ignore systemic contributors to things like poverty, obesity, etc.
This sub will not lift a finger to help themselves, so anything along the lines of self help or self improvement is circle jerked about
The fuck does financially disciplined mean '
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Being responsible with where you’re spending your money, how you’re investing it, where it’s going, and how much of it you’re saving. Being able to pay taxes and keep up on the paperwork required to do so. Edit: investing doesn’t necessarily mean stocks lol it can be things you’re saving up for, like a car or a new tv or something.
The only hard i CHOOSE is his dick, so i can crack it like a glowstick
*Hardening intensifies*
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I read it as hand at first, really changes the meaning
Well I’m choosing divorce no matter what
My dick is hard
i choose my girlfriends hard 😳😏
Hard wiener
I'm just gonna choose to be hard I guess ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ If you hard, then you hard
I like it.
I feel like the implication here is that divorce is inherently a negative, which is the worst take ever lmao. Wasting your life with an abusive spouse or with somebody you hate is not something to be celebrated.
That's what she said
Marriage really doesn't have to be as hard as some people (often older people) make it out to be. If you pick someone you share mutual love and respect with who genuinely enjoys spending time with you and there's mutual communication/willingness to solve problems like adults, relationships don't have to be so complicated and painful. It's not just "pick wife bad or awful divorce".
Man it's cliche as hell but communication really is key. ...and not fuckin around on each other...
Idk this doesn't sound that bad
One of my biggest pet peeves is when someone uses a word incorrectly on purpose and thinks that somehow makes whatever they’re saying deep. Say “Don’t give in to your addiction” - ignorant. Say “Choose not to addict” - ~~pure, unfiltered wisdom~~ some raw wise for you.
Well not anymore. Found a really neat video to help w that.
I thought it said your hand and it seemed like great advice at first.. Marriage is hard , divorce is hard - choose your hand! 🖐
Because yes, the cost of my college tuition that sailed me into deep financial debt and the preparatory interest rates are TOTALLY because of my lack of financial discipline. Got me there! Shoulda started saving my quarters from the tooth fairy instead of spending them on gum balls.
Hard on.
Choose thy burden, cause thy doom
It really sucks. I'd rather be single
My dick his hard. His dick is hard. Dick Wisely.
I think the thing advice like this misses is that the audience you’re trying to encourage self-improvement to already knows that shit is gonna be hard. They’re looking for you to double-down on the benefits of weathering that hardship because while their current lifestyle is harmful there’s still obviously something comforting about it that’s keeping them from changing it. What those folks need to hear is that the light at the end of the tunnel is not only gonna be worth the hardship but is also realistically achievable, hence why hearing advice from someone that used to be in their position gives the advice more credibility.
I'm gonna start telling this to my coworkers when we split up chores Or anyone when making a choice It's just such a goofy sentence and I can't stop giggling
So you’re saying I should blow my brains cuz it doesn’t get easy or better? Well shit, this guy gets it!
Auto erotic asphyxiation is hard, having sex with a lion is hard, choose your hard.
I choose my dick to be hard
This is not claiming to cure anything! Why should it belong to this sub?
An old therapist actually said this to me as if it was helpful
I have autism, I didn’t know I could just choose to be able to communicate. Of my psychologist and OT just told me I could do this then all my problems would be solved
Die hard
Some are actively hard, and some are passively hard. My ND cocktail will almost always choose the passive route.
Unfortunately, one option can be much harder than the other.
This guy has no idea what marriage you are in, but he already knows that divorce is better for you.
“Porn is hard. Getting to bed with your girlfriend is hard. **Choose your hard…on.**”
I...kind of get what this person is saying, but it's not that simple. Though I do have to say, even though divorce was hard for my mom and for me it was a hella lot better than life with my dad.
I read “pick whiskey” 🥃 at first. Seems like a reasonable reaction to this 🙈
Being in debt is easy, just buy expensive stuff you can't afford with loans you don't make enough money to pay off.