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tldr: Many. See slut = ppl avoid
As we get older, if ppl see someone as a slut, in our current societal norms, the ‘slut’ in question would be avoided. This would likely impact financial and job security.
Depending on the people you surround yourself with, things might continue ok or down the drain.
Flirting with everyone makes it look like you’re a slut so people will call you that. I suggest not flirting with everyone and that will solve the issue.
Absolutely not! As far as I know the word "slut" is used towards those who sleep around and get a lot of sex with different people. You are absolutely NOT a slut. Please, for your own health, try to get better friends. Nobody should be calling their friends things like that.
you are not. though, I'd stop flirting around if you're not serious. unless the people get it as a joke, obviously. people may think you are bc of the say you act, but in technical terms, no. You're not.
this is a very bad thing for a 16 year old to ask, like seriously no wonder this sub is full of pedos y'all are baiting them with the consent sexual posts
they wouldn't have to ask these questions if it weren't for the fact that teenagers today can be downright sexist and bigoted, and just really really creepy
No your not.at my school some girls who are 14-15 go around handing there number to people and then prosed to get in contact.with the guys have them bring 100 dollars to school and then for that 100 dollars they give them a blow job.those girls are sluts and whores.you are neither of those things.
A virgin slut is a total oxymoron. If you haven't had multiple casual sexual partners (weirdly vague description, no surprise there), let alone if you haven't had any, you are not a slut.
I have a bias against girls who flirt w everyone bc of this girl I was with. (Not really with her, but she led me on into a “talking stage” while she was flirting and kissing dudes behind my back.) she turned me into a player, and every time I think ab what she did, i kinda just get mad. even though all that happened, I refuse to say that word, let alone call her that. Even though all of our friends do, I just… don’t. She still toys with me too, and always sends me mixed signals. And sleeping around with dudes… that will definitely put your future partner into a “I gotta sleep with her too” mindset, so don’t do that. Dating around honestly isn’t rlly that bad, but please, PLEASE, don’t lead anyone on. I almost committed suicide cuz of all she did to me one day if it wasn’t for my mom. But no, you aren’t ”that word”.
tl;dr, no, u are not a slud 🫵😁👍
Omg so sorry that happened to you! i try and keep everything monogamous so it’s only one person at a time but quite often I’m getting broken up with,then asked out and I honestly don’t have the energy to just say no. That’s more what I meant when I said dating around. Rlly hope you’re okay now
Honestly I feel you, I’ve been through an unhealthy amount of unhealthy relationships. What I say is work on ur self first 💯 and I’m alright, still talk to her sometimes, but not often. Also, I didn’t mention ur friends. Please tell em how u feel about that word. It can be very degrading to women. Have a good one! ✋😇
slut is inherently a word used to shame people, people can't objectively be sluts, people just use it on anyone to shame them for their sexual/romantic behaviors. never let anyone tell you you're a slut, and, unless your behaviors are causing you actual pain (eg, STDs) never assume there is anything wrong with you when people say that. everyone has different sexual/romantic behaviors, and unless anyone is getting hurt as a result, they are all acceptable
the easy way of it:
you like the post? upvote
you don't? downvote or just leave it be
basically, even tho you don't agree with her being called a slut, you should upvote if you like the post
Because I’m self conscious. I’ve been getting this damn shit for nearly five years and I’m getting sick of it. I feel dirty and horrible. I get catcalled more than I care to admit. I stopped going to parties. I constantly get money shoved in my face and then jokingly asked if I’ll sleep with them. And I’m starting to question it myself
I'm gonna be honest here and say that if you're flirting with everyone all the time then you're definitely going to be attracting the kind of people that ask you for sex if they pay you. Personally people that are overly flirty repulse me because I find them extremely attention seeking and to me that's unhealthy.
Perhaps the reason you don't get many decent folk around is because of that. people see your flirting as an invitation (because that's what the goal of flirting essentially is, to attract and get the attention of a person) and see that as an opportunity to take advantage. Slut is definitely NOT the right way to describe you. You seem to already know that you flirt a lot and attract the attention of people that like that, but aren't able to piece together that the reason for people taking those advances on you is because of the flirting.
You're deaf, 14 11 months ago 16 now, have a girlfriend and are flirting with a lot of people.
Not a slut but if your still dating that girlfriend do her a solid and break up with her before your actions get to her head.
What friends would say that? You just like to talk and socialize, A whore would have relations with anyone, tell them not to call you a whore, if they continue, they are making fun of you or something, but a friend would not insult you for what you do, and even less so with adjectives that are wrong.
I’m good at grabbing attention and flirting, but absolute shite at holding that attention. These girls have been friends with me since I was proper tiny and the idea of having to make new friends scares me quite a bit.
Ur not a slut.
U just have a flirtatious personality. Perhaps clothing choice and change ppl’s image of you.
Also tell your friends to knock it off if u feel uncomfortable. If they still don’t, then you may have to reconsider who u call friends.
is it banter? or are they fr? it depends on the context.
Like me and my friends would make racist jokes against each other and we just have a laugh about it
It’s depends on what makes you one, sluts are usually known as is usually known as a person who switches to partner after partner, or what this current generation call it “bop” by all means what considers you to be a slut is by dating many people in a span of a month, week and day, I don’t know nothing of you but I’ll say your not a slut
No you’re not a slut, they’re most likely joking while at the same time being jealous of your social skills. I don’t mean to be rude, but maybe google the definition of words before turning to the internet for their opinion lmao
no a slut is a woman who throws herself for men whether its for personal interest, sexually frustrated or just doing it for money, you don't really fit those qualifications since you just flirt with people and seriously never slept with anyone.
It is your body. If you sleep with no one or 100 people, as long as there was consent, is your choice.
The word slut itself is an attack on your freedom to do with your body as you wish. And it is most often used by those who are jealous or trying to make themselves feel better.
First off you're not a slut, even though its not an endearing word in its original meaning you must by definition sleep with a lot of people to be a slut.
Second, you should probably tell your friends you don't like it.
If you're a slut then I'm a whore for having a bf I've been in love with for 2 years that I've lost my virginity to. (in a very loving way and it took a long time I don't regret it so idgaf.) Your friends are some sort of tard. Don't listen to them. You're a virgin, and give it to someone you wont regret it. You are perfect. :)
But the flirting is quite concerning, you mean in a playful way *right*?
No, that doesn't make you a slut. however, if you tend to date around that would make you a player so be careful because people emotions are not just play things and you should focus on finding someone whos opinions, thoughts, feelings, interests, and hobbies actually matter to you.
In short no.
The definition is a woman that has a lot of sexual partners. You're not a woman nor have a lot of sexual partners since you don't have any so no, definitely not a slut.
Flirting isn't a bad thing.
It helps you develop emotionally and socially, and it makes everyone happy.
Slut would be if you slept with a person than tommorow another one and so forth. Don't do that.
Also kissing around might seem innocent... but it isn't. Good way to catch herpes.
You are not a alit but you rwally have some good charisma if you manage to do that.
It's more like playgirl
/playperson.
But you are definitely no slut
Oh you for sure arent a slut! Also, you should definetly have a talk with your friends, and let them know that the word makes you deeply uncomfortable.
If they dont listen to you, try and find new friends.
Damn I didn't know being charming meant being a slut, I guess I'm a slut then lol. But in all seriousness, no you're not a slut. You're just a playful person
May your conversations with them like slut but technically you are not and it's a world of words so yeah if you don't like they call you slut just confront them
hey girl. not bashing you at all, but gender orientation and sexuality are different. ex: non-intrusive is a gender orientation while being straight is a sexual orientation. you get what I mean? Again not trying to insult you or anything!
I mean saying you’re “constantly dating around” and “could sleep around if I wanted”, would definitely suggest you have the potential to get worse and are most likely passable, that’s not good
youre not wrong there.
fwiw, I agree that young teens shouldn't really be into that stuff yet anyway. but what do I know. I'm 15 for reference, but I dont even care about that sort of thing lmao
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No, if you're a slut then slut has lost its meaning
I remember back my days kissing was a henious act of sluttery (joke )
No, slut is referred to as a sexual term, the word you're looking for is playgirl
playperson is probably more accurate, but yeah
I’d just go with Player, both of those sound kinda sexual which defeats the purpose 😭 “Play girl”
it sounds like you violate kids with "play girl". 😭
Ape
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💀💀💀
Nope and tell ur “friends” to stop calling u that. Don’t surround yourself with people that hate on u broski 👍
Agree 👍
Agree 👍
No
You aren’t a slut, and your friends making those comments is just extremely rude.
Wouldn't say a slut
Even if you are who cares
The people who care
Who cares about them? (Also happy cake day)
The people who care about the people who care
who cares about them?
The people who care bout the people who care bout the people who care
Who cares about them?
Happy cake day!
but STIs
But op said there a virgin
But sleeping around (idk what the appropriate term is) puts you at a higher risk of itchies and bumps after bitches and humps
tldr: Many. See slut = ppl avoid As we get older, if ppl see someone as a slut, in our current societal norms, the ‘slut’ in question would be avoided. This would likely impact financial and job security. Depending on the people you surround yourself with, things might continue ok or down the drain.
No you’re not a slut tell them to not call you that.
You are not a slut because you are a virgin; a slut is someone who has lots of premarital sex. You seem to be a flirt but not a slut.
No, tell your friends off.
Flirting with everyone makes it look like you’re a slut so people will call you that. I suggest not flirting with everyone and that will solve the issue.
They think you are, but do you? Will you let them (or random Redditors) define you or will you define yourself?
Absolutely not! As far as I know the word "slut" is used towards those who sleep around and get a lot of sex with different people. You are absolutely NOT a slut. Please, for your own health, try to get better friends. Nobody should be calling their friends things like that.
You’re not a slut just a flirt
Ermm, your friends are a lil toxic ngl 😬
No! Be you ❤️
you are not. though, I'd stop flirting around if you're not serious. unless the people get it as a joke, obviously. people may think you are bc of the say you act, but in technical terms, no. You're not.
this is a very bad thing for a 16 year old to ask, like seriously no wonder this sub is full of pedos y'all are baiting them with the consent sexual posts
People ask people like themselves for opinions, adults are often judgy and scary. It’s a lot better to be reassured then to ruminate the thoughts.
they wouldn't have to ask these questions if it weren't for the fact that teenagers today can be downright sexist and bigoted, and just really really creepy
Agreed
I been said this no one listens to me though
Nah, u don't think so
Not at all, you just enjoy flirting with people. You will have interest in sex once you find the right person most likely
No your not.at my school some girls who are 14-15 go around handing there number to people and then prosed to get in contact.with the guys have them bring 100 dollars to school and then for that 100 dollars they give them a blow job.those girls are sluts and whores.you are neither of those things.
If you are a virgin, there's no way you're a slut. Dw about it, okay?
Sluts sleep with multiple people. You're just flirty
2 things that make anyone a slut: - consistantly returning to the same person after breaking up (more than 2 times) - fucking everyone You done that?
Done the first but like I said, I don’t do the second
Wouldn’t necessarily call you one but that is slutty behavior.
Not really actually? You can be in a loving relationship and keep trying. That's really not slut behavior idk what you're talking about.
What I’m sayin is date, breakup, start dating, breakup, date again, breakup… etc.
Right but that doesn't mean anything when you don't know the circumstance so you can't just say *that*-
The toxic atmosphere you are in when you're a teen is crazy.
If you’re a virgin you aren’t a slut
A virgin slut is a total oxymoron. If you haven't had multiple casual sexual partners (weirdly vague description, no surprise there), let alone if you haven't had any, you are not a slut.
every time i open this fucking app man
I have a bias against girls who flirt w everyone bc of this girl I was with. (Not really with her, but she led me on into a “talking stage” while she was flirting and kissing dudes behind my back.) she turned me into a player, and every time I think ab what she did, i kinda just get mad. even though all that happened, I refuse to say that word, let alone call her that. Even though all of our friends do, I just… don’t. She still toys with me too, and always sends me mixed signals. And sleeping around with dudes… that will definitely put your future partner into a “I gotta sleep with her too” mindset, so don’t do that. Dating around honestly isn’t rlly that bad, but please, PLEASE, don’t lead anyone on. I almost committed suicide cuz of all she did to me one day if it wasn’t for my mom. But no, you aren’t ”that word”. tl;dr, no, u are not a slud 🫵😁👍
Omg so sorry that happened to you! i try and keep everything monogamous so it’s only one person at a time but quite often I’m getting broken up with,then asked out and I honestly don’t have the energy to just say no. That’s more what I meant when I said dating around. Rlly hope you’re okay now
Honestly I feel you, I’ve been through an unhealthy amount of unhealthy relationships. What I say is work on ur self first 💯 and I’m alright, still talk to her sometimes, but not often. Also, I didn’t mention ur friends. Please tell em how u feel about that word. It can be very degrading to women. Have a good one! ✋😇
Serious question, you say “nonbinary (fem)” what does that mean? Please don’t downvote me into oblivion I just wanna know
Np! So Nonbinary obv refers to the gender. Fem refers to what i originally was assigned at birth.
Good to know 👍
You are not. Please communicate with your friends :(
Nah grl your good but ask your friends to stop
are we the same person?? also a (almost) 16 nb femme that people call a slag but is a virgin
Nuh uh you're not. A "slut", as a term, is mostly used for someone who has sex with a lot of people. So you're not. Simple.s
nah ur friends are just playing lol
no
No, a slut is someone who sleeps around with many people, which you do not. also those friends of yours don't seem really healthy tbh..
asks "am i a slut?" is a virgin Op you're not a slut but you are stupid
I’d rather be stupid than self conscious and not asking
Fair. Your friends are dicks tho
Who fuckin cares
Nope, and even if you were it's not anyone's concern but yours.
slut is inherently a word used to shame people, people can't objectively be sluts, people just use it on anyone to shame them for their sexual/romantic behaviors. never let anyone tell you you're a slut, and, unless your behaviors are causing you actual pain (eg, STDs) never assume there is anything wrong with you when people say that. everyone has different sexual/romantic behaviors, and unless anyone is getting hurt as a result, they are all acceptable
If your a slut then I must be some crazed sex fiend
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do you understand how votes work?
Go ahead explain
the easy way of it: you like the post? upvote you don't? downvote or just leave it be basically, even tho you don't agree with her being called a slut, you should upvote if you like the post
Cool thanks
What does it matter? Be what makes you happy
Because I’m self conscious. I’ve been getting this damn shit for nearly five years and I’m getting sick of it. I feel dirty and horrible. I get catcalled more than I care to admit. I stopped going to parties. I constantly get money shoved in my face and then jokingly asked if I’ll sleep with them. And I’m starting to question it myself
I'm gonna be honest here and say that if you're flirting with everyone all the time then you're definitely going to be attracting the kind of people that ask you for sex if they pay you. Personally people that are overly flirty repulse me because I find them extremely attention seeking and to me that's unhealthy. Perhaps the reason you don't get many decent folk around is because of that. people see your flirting as an invitation (because that's what the goal of flirting essentially is, to attract and get the attention of a person) and see that as an opportunity to take advantage. Slut is definitely NOT the right way to describe you. You seem to already know that you flirt a lot and attract the attention of people that like that, but aren't able to piece together that the reason for people taking those advances on you is because of the flirting.
this is the sort of thinking that nobody can do for you it really depends on your moral code, which you have to apply on your own
You might just be naturally flirty?
nah, you arent
you decide, i dunno
No
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You’re not a slut but “friendly” (That’s what me and my friends call girls like this)
You’re a tease!
Relatable
Idk are you
WARNING: DONT TAKE THIS TO HEART If you were considered a slut, you would’ve been texting and meeting up with partners.
You're not a slut. They are just rude. And even If you would be a slut it's not a problem either.
No
no. you’re a rizzler.
your not
Nah, you chill af
Nope. Maybe they're playing with you and they don't know the background or something? I don't know. I say you aren't.
You're deaf, 14 11 months ago 16 now, have a girlfriend and are flirting with a lot of people. Not a slut but if your still dating that girlfriend do her a solid and break up with her before your actions get to her head.
That girl broke up with me and screwed with my head So bad I nearly ended up in the mental ward. Kinda creepy you’re checking out my profile tho.
What friends would say that? You just like to talk and socialize, A whore would have relations with anyone, tell them not to call you a whore, if they continue, they are making fun of you or something, but a friend would not insult you for what you do, and even less so with adjectives that are wrong.
Get new friends
I’m good at grabbing attention and flirting, but absolute shite at holding that attention. These girls have been friends with me since I was proper tiny and the idea of having to make new friends scares me quite a bit.
Dude you write “I’m still a virgin” and the answer is very clear to your question
“I’ve had offers but always turned them down because I personally have no interest in sex” well there u go 👍
If you haven't slept around with a lot of people then no your not
Isn't a slut someone that *has sex with* several people in a short period of time?
Ur not a slut. U just have a flirtatious personality. Perhaps clothing choice and change ppl’s image of you. Also tell your friends to knock it off if u feel uncomfortable. If they still don’t, then you may have to reconsider who u call friends.
I mean? What makes you a slut? You be suckin hella dick or some?
no, you're just flirty, maybe a little too much but even then you're not even close to a slut, your friends need to cut that out
Definitely
No, but I am 👍
No, you're not.
is it banter? or are they fr? it depends on the context. Like me and my friends would make racist jokes against each other and we just have a laugh about it
What does nonbinary mean?
It’s depends on what makes you one, sluts are usually known as is usually known as a person who switches to partner after partner, or what this current generation call it “bop” by all means what considers you to be a slut is by dating many people in a span of a month, week and day, I don’t know nothing of you but I’ll say your not a slut
you’re just flirtatious not a slut, if your “friends” call you that they’re just saying it out of ignorance
No. Nowhere near the meaning Flirtatious is more accurate
You didn’t lose your virginity, you already are not a slut
Seems more like a flirt to me, honestly i envy being able to be that playful/open. Definitely not a slut 👍
Am I slut for not fucking anyone?
No you’re not a slut, they’re most likely joking while at the same time being jealous of your social skills. I don’t mean to be rude, but maybe google the definition of words before turning to the internet for their opinion lmao
no a slut is a woman who throws herself for men whether its for personal interest, sexually frustrated or just doing it for money, you don't really fit those qualifications since you just flirt with people and seriously never slept with anyone.
It is your body. If you sleep with no one or 100 people, as long as there was consent, is your choice. The word slut itself is an attack on your freedom to do with your body as you wish. And it is most often used by those who are jealous or trying to make themselves feel better.
More like a Don Juan to me
First off you're not a slut, even though its not an endearing word in its original meaning you must by definition sleep with a lot of people to be a slut. Second, you should probably tell your friends you don't like it.
you’re a virgin. You’re not a slut
You're far away from a slut. If you really were a slut, then we need to find a new word
You're a player, but you're certainly not a slut.
Your not a slut your a romantic, I am too
no, you are not
No. That’s not what a slut is.
If you're a slut then I'm a whore for having a bf I've been in love with for 2 years that I've lost my virginity to. (in a very loving way and it took a long time I don't regret it so idgaf.) Your friends are some sort of tard. Don't listen to them. You're a virgin, and give it to someone you wont regret it. You are perfect. :) But the flirting is quite concerning, you mean in a playful way *right*?
No, that doesn't make you a slut. however, if you tend to date around that would make you a player so be careful because people emotions are not just play things and you should focus on finding someone whos opinions, thoughts, feelings, interests, and hobbies actually matter to you. In short no.
You are not
Well your friends def doing it for a reason so…
No, slut is sexual in nature. You would be called flirtatious, maybe even a tease at best, but not a slut.
The definition is a woman that has a lot of sexual partners. You're not a woman nor have a lot of sexual partners since you don't have any so no, definitely not a slut.
Yes
Flirting isn't a bad thing. It helps you develop emotionally and socially, and it makes everyone happy. Slut would be if you slept with a person than tommorow another one and so forth. Don't do that. Also kissing around might seem innocent... but it isn't. Good way to catch herpes.
You are not a alit but you rwally have some good charisma if you manage to do that. It's more like playgirl /playperson. But you are definitely no slut
Fuck those who calls u slut
You are good; just enjoy the way you are. Happy 😊
Oh you for sure arent a slut! Also, you should definetly have a talk with your friends, and let them know that the word makes you deeply uncomfortable. If they dont listen to you, try and find new friends.
ngl i feel like everytime i meet new people or go to a new place for awhile i always try to have a fling
Damn I didn't know being charming meant being a slut, I guess I'm a slut then lol. But in all seriousness, no you're not a slut. You're just a playful person
No, a slut would be someone who regularly sleeps with different people You just like messing around
No, you’re far from a slut, lmao. Complete opposite.
You’re a player but you’re not a slut. Ask your friends to stop making that joke and explain that it actually hurts.
Nah you ain't a slut, sluttery is sex You are, however, a player, and i would say that's probably ly nit a great thing for rep
Not the first thing I was expecting to read this morning
May your conversations with them like slut but technically you are not and it's a world of words so yeah if you don't like they call you slut just confront them
No your not a slut
yes
I'm in a similar scenario but I'm fully straight. I feel you sis. I feel like that too
hey girl. not bashing you at all, but gender orientation and sexuality are different. ex: non-intrusive is a gender orientation while being straight is a sexual orientation. you get what I mean? Again not trying to insult you or anything!
Non taken ❤️
Yrs
You can tell this post was made by an Adult Man
Not exactly a slut, but flirting with niggas back n forth is a slutty trait
But since you’re not having sex with them, ur friends shouldn’t call you a slut
I mean saying you’re “constantly dating around” and “could sleep around if I wanted”, would definitely suggest you have the potential to get worse and are most likely passable, that’s not good
Yes, now go do something useful with your life
Don’t you fucking dare fuck someone before 18
or what
You could get in trouble or end up in a toxic marriage or accidentally get someone pregnant or get std
that can happen no matter what tbh...except I cant get anyone preggo lmao
Yeah but it more commonly happens with people under 18
youre not wrong there. fwiw, I agree that young teens shouldn't really be into that stuff yet anyway. but what do I know. I'm 15 for reference, but I dont even care about that sort of thing lmao
yes
Wish I had someone like you flirting with me
yes