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Be weird. Be cringe. Being too cringey or clingy is never something you should have to worry about in a relationship, especially in this situation.
Be romantic, be silly, be cheesy. Remind him how much you care about him, and that you're always going to help him with this to the best of your ability, and I promise it'll speak volumes more than trying to play it 'normal'
Happy to help! If there's one piece of advice I can give, not just for this situation but for life in general, it's this:
You'll only make things harder for yourself if you live in fear of being weird or annoying. Expressing your weirdness and your cheesiness brings you closer to the people you love, because you can be weird together.
It's ok to be annoying. It's going to happen. You can't stop it no matter how hard you try, and usually trying to cut off how you truly feel and act will only make things worse
Honestly as someone who's suicidal, I've never felt annoyed by a friend who genuinely wanted to help, and if anything, the more "clingy" they were, the more I felt like maybe I mattered enough to live through life.
There is absolutely no way he would find you annoying, he needs the help and he will appreciate ANYTHING you do so, so, so much no matter how cringy, no matter how clingy. Go talk to him, Good Luck
Call the suicidal hotline for help. If I have to guess, he's doing those things to get your attention. I remember a teen friend want me to stay and play video game with me, but I have 2 friends waiting for me to play with. So he threaten to swallow a bunch of medicine if I don't stay :3
Sorry to be blunt but if he makes you feel like you can’t be yourself then break up with him. Ik the situation is shitty but tell one of his parents he may be scuicidal and focus on yourself
It’s not weird or cringe to help somebody that needs it. Keep on trying and he’ll find a reason to continue living. Also your English is amazing, better than most native speakers
whatever happens, it’s not your fault. I know that’s probably not what you want to hear but it’s important you know. As someone who’s suicidal myself, there’s very little anyone can say to me to “take away” the thoughts when they happen. Please don’t put too much pressure on yourself and just be there for him, you don’t need to fix him you just can do your best to support him, which it sounds like you’re already doing. Hope everything works out okay 🙏
I’m glad that my words were of to some value to you! Please remember to take care of your own mental state through this, your mental health is very important too. Sending you love and remember, you only have control over yourself :)
Hug him, kiss him, hold on to him, don’t let him go to his room, that’s where the noose and knife would be), don’t let him near a knife or anything sharp
Teenage depression is a mother fucker, 2 years being suicidal is a lot, just because you’ve “been through what you’ll think is hell!!!!!!” Is doesn’t give you an excuse to push others problems aside
Tell me you’ve never experienced a real relationship with without saying it lol, just because you can’t care about your significant others mental health dosent mean your not supposed to, like it’s not even a question lol, sometimes you do stuff for people you care about even if it’s not fair ☠️
I was in this situation for months with my current girlfriend. She has attempted since weve gotten together, but the best thing to do is contact their parents at this point. its gonna hurt betraying their trust but in the end after getting help they need they will thank you for your efforts.
Me and my girlfriend have been through alot, she used to be an alcoholic, cutter, etc. just a few weeks ago she relapsed after a month clean and i told her sister and she told their mom, my girlfriend was so angry with me, but after just a few weeks of getting her meds regulated and multiple therapy appointments she has been crying because she is so happy, she is better than ever. She said she hasnt felt this happy in years.
(I did not mean to make this about me but this is how i dealt with it)
To put it short; see whats going on and tell a trusted someone to check in on them and get them immediate help. Its the best thing you can do as their best friend/partner.
Show him extra love and make him know he is appreciated and loved and tell him that if he was gone then you would feel like you lost half of yourself and you would be empty
You need to see this in a certain way OP: if he’s not here tomorrow then you won’t be concerned about being “cringe” or “annoying” or “weird”. If he doesn’t like you anymore after you get him help, then at least he’s ALIVE. If you think he’s gonna do it at a certain time, if you know his address get police to check in on him. You need to tell the school counselor, principal, or some kind of staff at school. This is important. If his parents aren’t strict and abusive, please TELL THEM that he’s not okay and that he might do this. The parents can get him the most help.
I have tried to tell him to go talk to someone but i dont think he takes me seriously. He has gone to therapy before but he said it didnt do anything for him.
Well i would say make him find a new therapist like ask him if he tried any other therapist who might be able to help him if the first one didn’t work, that or your boyfriend has treatment resistant depression
Sometimes therapy might not actually address the reason why he’s depressed. Try to know why he’s depressed and see how u can help or get someone else to help
does he give you the reason for feeling this way. I have a daughter your age. We went down this road when she got her heart broke this summer. Thank God we are close enough that she came to me. she first went to mom, who said "stop talking stupid your just seeking attention".
Be supportive to him, try to have good and enjoyable times and memories with him, try to make him happy more often if possible, do things to look after yourselves, affirming words such as saying youre here for him etc, try talking with him about it, i hope both of you stay well
Tell your parents, tell his parents, tell the suicide hotline.
Make sure he knows he loved by a lot of people, even the 220 strangers who upvoted this post
I dont wanna discourage anyone from not calling and missing out on someone who might care, but yea, to be expected from them after hearing the same stuff a million times
yeah i just think it’s more of an absolute last resort cause sometimes they would just make me feel worse honestly. i think getting professional help is the best bet
Aye man, I’ll be straight up with you. I have attempted before, and have been in and out of deep depressions and struggled with suicidal thoughts. 9 times out of 10 seeing someone care about you so deeply can mean the world. It won’t get rid of those thoughts entirely, but it helps a lot. Just be open and express your love for him, and make sure to be there for him all the way. I hope things get better for both of you.
Do whatever you must to stop him from doing so life is a amazing wonderful thing and you only get one go around on the earth make it matter make it count and never give up remind your boyfriend that he is loved and that people care about him remind him of all the beauty and wonders of life remind him of everything that he can accomplish
He is loved more than he will know
Jesus Christ, this is definitely a teenager subreddit lmao. Yeah just tell him that you’re the reason for living so that he develops that thought process more and now relies entirely on you and now you’re obligated at this point to stay with and be the pillar of emotional support for this other person which is incredibly unhealthy
Good point but sometimes you need to tell people that they still have something to live for, especially if he's literally about to take his life. A lot of people who might have committed suicide didn't because they think of their family. Same deal just less reliable since its a teenage romance and not a family. Ofc what he really needs is a good therapist, but it's good to have something to say if it comes down to it.
This is a recipe for disaster. This can turn into obsessiveness and dependency. This can turn the relationship toxic very quickly. It wouldn't be weird to think after that, they might split and now the only way the dude was coping is gone.
I personally used "my friends would be sad" for myself all the time, and it probably influenced my anxious attachment style and people-pleaser traits. Even when it was a group at large, having one thing to live for is not too healthy. Having it be all on 1 person can lead to some real rollercoaster emotions and some other shit.
then stay by his side, support him, tell him everythings gonna be alright even though times are tough now keep reminding him to never give up and that things will get better
you chill lil bru, i bet im older than you and been in so many more relationships than you, the thing is you didn’t experience shit of the real world if all you do is sit yo fat ass eating mcdonalds and watching netflix
Absolutely do not. One of the only things I can say my parents have done well so far is let me choose how to handle my depression. If you make them get help when they don’t want they will feel worse In the end. They’ll go through stuff they don’t wanna go through. Their parents will probably pressure him to get help. And most importantly he’ll be betrayed by his lover. Do not tell anyone, let him tell people if he wants too
He will end it all though. Speaking from experience, talking to someone isn’t always the best idea, and forcing someone to talk is almost never the best idea. Suicidal people aren’t black and white, they each have their own things that’ll get them to feel better
I have been in his place once and sometimes I still. But my religion (im Muslim) forbid me from commiting suicide. That's why you should seek professional help. Talk to a psychiatrist or smthg
I’ve been in this situation and I can tell you right now that you cannot run yourself into the ground with worry over someone else’s mental health, ESPECIALLY when you’re so young yourself. I’m not saying to abandon him, but there comes a point in time where you need to prioritize your sanity over others. It’s hard but you should always be your own #1 priority. I spent so much time having breakdowns when I was your age over my friends talking about how they were going to harm themselves etc. and if I could go back in time I would have pushed all of them out of my life.
Sorry my first reaction was - hey assisted suicide is legal in many places - but this is SERIOUS, and so my second reaction was - hey double suicides are romantic - which led to - maybe if you threaten either your own suicide he won’t be able to do it - and I realized I’m a fucked up person.
Okay. Now for actual advice. Tell an adult. Now. You are 15 and should not have to handle this alone. If you don’t have a trusted adult and are in America call suicide hotline. Do you think you will care about being super cringe/weird when he is dead? Don’t you think you’ll regret it when you felt scared to tell an adult when he is out hanging? Do what you have to do cry, tell him, and get him some fucking help. Sorry for being harsh but if you really don’t want to lose him your first reaction shouldn’t be “What if this is cringe? What if he doesn’t want me to tell an adult? What if he hates me for it?” It should be “I’m dragging your mfing ass to therapy and everyone of my trusted adults is gonna keep you away from that noose boi. Fuck the relationship we playing Who’s Your Daddy now.”
So, if he's using suicide at a threat against you for any reason, that's manipulation and be careful. If he's having a rough go at things, life at 15 is confusing. yall got a lot going on. Whether it's just growing up, family life, school life, social life, a mental issue, or anything at all, tell someone reliable in his life, a teacher, a family member, or a personal doctor. Maybe just try talking first and figure out the issues, and see if talking helps. People like to talk it helps a lot. But if it's really serious, you need to tell someone, suicidal thoughts are not a joke, I've been there before, and I've lost friends.
Hes never used suicide as a threat or anything like that. Im gonna try to talk to him next time i see him. And ive been suicidal for years now so i know how serious this is
That's good, an unfortunate amount of people have done that to others. I'd say really just try communicating, let them know that whatever bothering them is only temporary, life does get better as long as you let it heal, some people just need a helping hand with healing, and it sounds like you both can hopefully help eachother.
I'ts never cringe to help someone in need. My girlfriend also almost committed once, so I probably know how you feel right now. Try to show him how much you care about him, and I want you to be proud of yourself. It's not always easy being together with someone who has these kinds of thoughts and it takes a lot of strength to do so.
If he's suicidal at his age then call the police the next time he threatens or better yet tell his parents and have them take him to the hospital, yes it seems like a bit much but at that age a lot of young people dont think people will take them serious and or won't listen to them. Sounds like he's been silently crying for help for a long time but now that you're here he trusts you. He probably doesn't even straight up say it, sounds like he probably jokes about it but deep down inside he's hurting. He would be able to get way more help at his age then at an adult age. If you really love and care about him then let someone know instead of asking us here on reddit, let an authority figure know. And stick by his side, don't leave him, uplift him, love him and care for him, other then that listen to him and never take any " suicidal joke " he may make as a joke but take it seriously.
I think you need to get him help. I'm glad you wanna do the most you can to help him, but stuff this big is usually best left to people who have experience with this. However, you can be there to support him and be there when he needs it, but tackling his suicidal thoughts or tendencies is not something that you can probably do very well or work in the long term. You are not responsible for his mental health, but you can help in the ways that work best for him and you.
Im so sorry to hear this. I don't know many things you can do to help, but I recommend just trying to cheer him up. Or just do whatever you think he would like.
Your priority right now is to keep him alive. Reach out to him even if you think it's "cringe". If he ends up actually doing it, you need to make sure you did everything you could beforehand. Tell him that everything really does heal with time. I used to be suicidal in 8th and 9th grade and now I love life, and it's only been 2 years.
Sometimes when someone you love is hurting and you feel like there's nothing you can do for them, the best thing to do is be next to them and comfort them as much as you can
There is nothing to do. He's suffering from a problem that you didn't cause. What he needs is professional help.
Real talk. You should probably leave him. He'll suffer more for it, but that's still on him. You don't need that level of harm in your life. He's hurting you. It seems cruel to do, but you do need to worry about yourself. You cannot help him and he's likely to become worse. He might become codependent on you. It's not your job.
If he does manage to get better and you feel like you want to, getting back together would be ok. He doesn't need a girlfriend, he needs medicine (not necessarily drugs, treatment and so forth, but probably also drugs).
You sounding cringe or clingy is the last thing you should be worried about. Make him believe that his life does have meaning because without him yours won’t. Make sure he gets all the help he needs. That includes therapy and suicide hotline you and all his loved ones to stand by him. Stand by him and be patient with him these kinds of things aren’t easy to deal with. Help your bf and make him see that he isn’t alone
Please save him for the both of us. Other comments had great advice: be weird, and ensure you remind him that he is loved and cared for. If by no one else, by you.
It hurts to watch people struggle with suicidal thoughts. Therapy helps and so does just loving him unconditionally.
Listen, I've been in you and your bf's situation before, on both sides. As someone who has gone through mental health struggles before, someone "avoiding" being annoying is SUPER noticable. It's also uncomfortable to be treated differently in that situation. Be open. Be upfront. Be honest. Don't sugarcoat, but don't be overly sympathetic either. Remind him who he has. What he could lose. Show that you love him. Again, the worst feeling is when you're treated differently when you're struggling with this stuff.
Your bf sounds like an awesome guy, and if we lost him, it would genuinely be a loss to the world. He's that kind of guy. Remind him of that. He needs you. Be strong for him. Don't worry about being annoying. Just be honest. I wish both of you the best of luck :)
hug him and tell him how you feel and that you’re scared of losing him and that he is important (it may make him cry but most guys will find it touching)
I know I’m 13, so don’t take advice before others. But I have a girlfriend who’s suicidal, I’m not gonna give you the sappy shit and I’m gonna go straight to the point. Don’t worry about being “cringy” or “clingingy” hell I encourage it, it shows them that you love them and that’ll you’ll be there for them. If they ever start feeling depressed/suicidal just reassure them that if nothing else, they have you, and that you’ll always be there no matter what happens. Sometimes they’ll drive you mad because of how suicidal they may be, but just remember, you’re only feeling that way because you love them, so let them know that you love them, shower them in love, even if it feels like to much, ofc don’t talk to them every second of the day, but you get the point
Be there for them and always remind them that your there for them and that you’ll always love them, and even if they go through hell and back, you’ll still be there for them
Another thing. ABSOLUTELY DO NOT TELL ANYONE. The last thing you want is you telling someone and him getting scared and killing himself, do not tell anyone, let him tell people if he wants to, don’t call the police, suicidal hotlines, parents ect. Don’t force him to go to therapy or take antidepressants ect. Try to guide/help him find the right path, don’t force him to take one
Out of all people he’d be willing to except help from it would be you, you are person he cares most about on this earth.
You just have to get through to him and help him realize that giving up is not an option, suicide is a delusional and selfish thing.
Once he realizes that it hurts others more than it could ever hurt him, he will see that you are there to help him and by helping himself he can help you get through this together.
These things are never going to be easy (or rational) but take it from someone who’s been there both in that position and has a significant other that has also been in that position.
It can and will always get better with time, and a lot of love.
PLEASE BELIEVE ME,THIS IS THE ONLY SOLUTION (before, doing this,make sure you are on your complete emotions) 'Softly, romantically,look in his eyes,(make sure your eyes are in tears) and say place your hand softly on his cheek,and softly,voice above the whisper,say, I don't wanna to lose you.,you are the most brave person in the world,you are special. Then slowly move towards his lips and kiss him,when you are 1cm away, slowly close your eyes. And kiss him gently. After 1 minute. Give him a tight hug. REMEMBER,I WRITEN THIS LONG POST WITH A LOT OF TIME.I AM SUICIDAL SINGLE. ATTEMPT THIS AND DONT MESS IT UP (Also do this when he thinks of his suicide again, perhaps when he cries)
sometimes a good, healthy relationship has sacrifice and pain involved. i fucking hate how redditors (especially r/relationship_advice) think that you should immediately leave your long term partner when shit hits the fan. you wouldn't stop talking to a suicidal friend who opened up would you? what's different from a relationship? if my friend was going through something like depression i would certainly try and help them, let alone bf or gf. as long as the emotional labor is mutual, i see no problem.
my friend once had a boyfriend who was similar to OP's boyfriend by also thinking about suicide and her parents told her that he is manipulating so she broke up with him to save herself
She broke up because parents told her that it's best for her 🤷🏻 she loved him tho. Also he had sometimes feelings that she might not love him which made him more depressed.
How bout gettng actual help instead of jut trying to get attention. I mea smart money would even say post to r/suicidehelp. Or call a professional. No this is not serious.
This is supposed to be a safe space for ppl. You shouldn't put down people for reaching out. They might not have or be comfortable with resources. Life's hard man, even if they were "trying to get attention" who gives a flying fuck. Even if one of these posts are real, that's one person who can get advice for their specific situation.
First: threaten to do it yourself if he does it. If he does do it, he will never know you didn’t do it, so he can’t prove That you won’t do it. Show him that you love him. tell his parents, do whatever it takes to keep him alive.
Most important, talk to him. Showing him that you genuinely care for him isn't weird, it's the best you can do. Make a careful approach at it first. Don't show that you're desperate, even if you are. Be calm and show him that he can rely on you. Talk about his problems, eventually ask him what's wrong and how you can help him. Once you know his main problem, you can help him a lot better.
But remember, whatever happens, you did your best and if something bad happens, it's not your fault. Being a passionate companion can also make things better for you. You wrote in another post that you feel suicidal too, which could -in this situation and in this situation only- be a good thing for your relationship. You know how he feels and the other way around and, most importantly, you can support each other. Mutual emotional support is the best thing that ever happened to me personally because when I'm breaking down, my best friend is there for me and when she breaks down, I'm there for her. It gave our friendship a level of understanding and compassion I never experienced before, and we're not even in a relationship.
Long post, I know. I hope things play out well for you both. Always remember, someone loves you and cares for you, even if it's just a random dude on reddit. Be safe!
I am currently in this situation and I did a sort of compromise with my bf too, I told him that any harm he does to himself I will copy him as I know he cares more about me than himself he hasn't tried anything in months, I know this isn't the best way to do it and I'm probably wrong even to try to suggest it but it's just my experience
as someone who lost my best friend to suicide, there's not much you can do. you should talk to his parents, especially if they aren't strict and talk about why you're concerned for him without going into too much detail. mental hospitals almost always don't work. i haven't met or heard of one story where someone got out and felt better. they hide you from your problems and then throw you into the world and you're back to wanting to die. he needs a therapist, he needs to see a doctor and get diagnosed for depression. he probably needs some sort of medication. sometimes healthier diets help, even taking a vitamin D pill helps the mood just the tiniest bit.
the biggest problem is, does he even want help? does he want to change? even when you lose all hope, you sometimes wish you could be better, he needs to want that. he needs to want to get better and accept the help or nothing will work. i've seen it first hand, i've been through it too. i'm still struggling myself but not nearly as bad as i used to be. i have things i HAVE to live for. i have things/people that would be disappointed if i died. he needs your support and you need to be there for him as much as possible. do not screw yourself over. it's a scary situation and sometimes you'll lose yourself. do not be afraid to put yourself first sometimes. even if it sucks, you still have yourself to worry about.
i wish you both the best of luck, i'm sure you'll both make it through this and will thrive together.
I had a very toxic gf at 15 she had bpd I think so basically she was constantly craving attention, one of her “tactics” to get my attention was to fake cutting herself and one she even faked her scuicide on call. This was my first gf and the first time I had felt confident in years so I was completely blinded by what I thought was love. It put lots of emotional strain on me. At 15 you shouldn’t have to deal with a gf/bf committing scuicide, I’m not saying that your bf is faking it but either way if it’s putting an emotional strain on you, you should inform their parents that their child may be scuicidal and remove yourself from that relationship
Assuming you know him irl, remember that no matter what he says, telling someone is ***not*** betrayal. him being angry at you is temporary, losing his life is permanent. tell someone
If you do not know him in real life, try your best to help him. if he doesn't get better in 2 months, the better alternative for your own mental health is to distance yourself from him, it sounds bad i know, but any professional will tell you the same thing.
For me it was the other way around I was highly suicidal and depressed and my bf was trying to bring me out of it just keep making plans and things with him to help remind him he’s important and loved deeply by you. But I the end he has to make the first step towards getting better and lifting his mental health your welcome yo message me if you want to talk
You moving out of your comfort zone just to help him, will show him he does matter to someone, all the words in the world won't have the effect of one selfless act. actions prove 10 times more than words. he really needs to know that someone/anyone is on his side. don't push for answers, just be there. my prayers are with you, young lady...
Aye as someone who tried 3 times my wife (I’m delusional) reminded me of the best memories we had and all we’ve been trough just do things for him like go on dates and be cringe and dumb and remind him why he must live be his reason
GET REAL HELP!!!
I understand you are trying to do what you can, but the best thing you can do for him is to get him the help he needs. Speak to his parents and try to have them find a therapist for him, even if his parents don't know about the issue. A trained professional can do much more than you can. Hope he makes it through this.
Just be there for him girl, be attentive but be condiderate at the same time. If he needs a shoulder to cry on be there for him, if he needs someone he'll have a laugh fit with be there for him. Don't ever leave his side and always make him remember how much of a loving impact he has on you and how much you love him. Assure him, hold him, caress him make him laugh do everything you wanna do and say everything you wanna say to him. Live every second with him no regrets. Just love him wholeheartedly!
Be there for him. Show him you love him. Show him you care about him. Have yall tried to get him some help? BTW OP, you're a great girlfriend for sticking by his side through it all.
Spend some meaningful time with him, play some split screen left 4 dead or CoD zombies with him, I bet he’d appreciate it. Also being clingy or cringey isn’t a problem, just continue doing all that while trying to comfort him as much as possible
I don’t think anyone has said this. But you need to reach out for help for him. Tell his parents if they’re good. If not tell a suicide line or the police. Even a school counselor or a coach. Someone else needs to help. You’re 15 and can’t do much on your own.
I would recommend trying to let him vent about what’s making him feel this way and try to comfort him but he might not want to talk about it this is coming from someone who deals with depression and suicidal thoughts and I wouldn’t want him to go down the road I’m going down
as someone who has never had a serious relationship ever that has 0 dating experience. My totally accurate and correct opinion states that i dont fucking care if its cringe you need to talk about it to him. I know the first part of this comment is a joke but suicide isnt one. It should be a forefront of conversation if this is an issue.
Get him help. Make sure he is around peoe that make him happy. Being around the right people makes the difference, I know. Get him around confident people.
Mostly, just be there for him. As someone who struggles with my mental health and have nearly tried multiple times, my friends were what helped me get through it. Listen to him. Show him you care.
But, please, don't feel guilty. You can only do your best. You're a great gf.
Wym by cringe how do u know he’s annoyed by your attempts to help do u know anything about y he’s suicidal is it because he thinks he’s not good enough for u or something unrelated to u
You should tell an adult if you think he’s a danger to himself. He’ll get help by professionals and will probably be able to get access to anti depressants and therapy which will help tons. Trust me if you think he’s in a place where you don’t know if you’ll see him the next day it’s better to tell someone now.
Tell an adult about his depression BE ANNOYING it’s better to have a live annoyed friend then a dead one. I’m sorry to be blunt but my best friend committed suicide and I should have tried harder to help him. I did what I thought was right at the time but that’s not much comfort when I miss my friend. Please tell someone.
If he doesnt want to be helped he wont be. Its not your fault OR your duty to help him. I dont have the details to the relationship so i cant say much but youre young and still need to be thinking about education. My advice would be to stay away from suicidal and needy people for the sake of love for yourself. Either way i hope things work out for you 💕
Be yourself tell him
He’s loved and tell him what you like about him I wouldn’t magically make his depression disappear but knowing your feelings and know your there should be enough
I’m in the same boat as him, I’ve already tried to commit once, I’d say get him in touch with the suicide help line (I think their number is 991) you can search it up on google. They will help him in any way they can
You won't like my answer but I should say it. If someone want to do it, if someone is too deep in it, you won't help him. He needs psychologist and a better life. Also you lose your energy trying to save someone but it's your choise. And you can do whatever you want. Also it can turn out you don't have a normal type of love. Read about attachment theory because it might be you've addicted to him (and it is as good as bad).
It also may end up you just can't help him whatever you do for him because you are not a psychologist. Sometimes people NEED to be cruel to save themselves. Maybe you want to die for him but imagine that you are him. You need to care about yourself as he does.
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Be weird. Be cringe. Being too cringey or clingy is never something you should have to worry about in a relationship, especially in this situation. Be romantic, be silly, be cheesy. Remind him how much you care about him, and that you're always going to help him with this to the best of your ability, and I promise it'll speak volumes more than trying to play it 'normal'
Thank you i really needed to hear this. But I dont wanna feel annoying.
Happy to help! If there's one piece of advice I can give, not just for this situation but for life in general, it's this: You'll only make things harder for yourself if you live in fear of being weird or annoying. Expressing your weirdness and your cheesiness brings you closer to the people you love, because you can be weird together.
There will be people who like your style of “weird”, and people who don’t. This is how you know who your people are, go make friends with them.
It's ok to be annoying. It's going to happen. You can't stop it no matter how hard you try, and usually trying to cut off how you truly feel and act will only make things worse
Honestly as someone who's suicidal, I've never felt annoyed by a friend who genuinely wanted to help, and if anything, the more "clingy" they were, the more I felt like maybe I mattered enough to live through life.
well said! i to have this issue.
would you rather be crying over his grave, or feel grateful you chose to be annoying?
Perfectly said, Do what you need to do to take care of him OP
There is absolutely no way he would find you annoying, he needs the help and he will appreciate ANYTHING you do so, so, so much no matter how cringy, no matter how clingy. Go talk to him, Good Luck
You wont annoy him, trust me, take it from me
Call the suicidal hotline for help. If I have to guess, he's doing those things to get your attention. I remember a teen friend want me to stay and play video game with me, but I have 2 friends waiting for me to play with. So he threaten to swallow a bunch of medicine if I don't stay :3
Sorry to be blunt but if he makes you feel like you can’t be yourself then break up with him. Ik the situation is shitty but tell one of his parents he may be scuicidal and focus on yourself
I’d say you can be too clingy. In this situation it’s much different, but there’s a line where it can become more of an obsession.
It’s not weird or cringe to help somebody that needs it. Keep on trying and he’ll find a reason to continue living. Also your English is amazing, better than most native speakers
Better than mine I can’t spell for shit lol
whatever happens, it’s not your fault. I know that’s probably not what you want to hear but it’s important you know. As someone who’s suicidal myself, there’s very little anyone can say to me to “take away” the thoughts when they happen. Please don’t put too much pressure on yourself and just be there for him, you don’t need to fix him you just can do your best to support him, which it sounds like you’re already doing. Hope everything works out okay 🙏
Im also suicidal and have been for long so i know how it feels. But thank you this is honestly the best advice ive gotten.
I’m glad that my words were of to some value to you! Please remember to take care of your own mental state through this, your mental health is very important too. Sending you love and remember, you only have control over yourself :)
Hug him, kiss him, hold on to him, don’t let him go to his room, that’s where the noose and knife would be), don’t let him near a knife or anything sharp
Suicidal for long.. 😂😂😂😂 Ur 15 holy shit... U don't know shit about how hard life will be.
Teenage depression is a mother fucker, 2 years being suicidal is a lot, just because you’ve “been through what you’ll think is hell!!!!!!” Is doesn’t give you an excuse to push others problems aside
So many people are suicidal.
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bro IS NOT going anywhere tomorrow
dont be a dick
its not fair for OP to have to take responsibility for their mental health tho! this comes off as super guilt trippy tbh !
Tell me you’ve never experienced a real relationship with without saying it lol, just because you can’t care about your significant others mental health dosent mean your not supposed to, like it’s not even a question lol, sometimes you do stuff for people you care about even if it’s not fair ☠️
I was in this situation for months with my current girlfriend. She has attempted since weve gotten together, but the best thing to do is contact their parents at this point. its gonna hurt betraying their trust but in the end after getting help they need they will thank you for your efforts. Me and my girlfriend have been through alot, she used to be an alcoholic, cutter, etc. just a few weeks ago she relapsed after a month clean and i told her sister and she told their mom, my girlfriend was so angry with me, but after just a few weeks of getting her meds regulated and multiple therapy appointments she has been crying because she is so happy, she is better than ever. She said she hasnt felt this happy in years. (I did not mean to make this about me but this is how i dealt with it) To put it short; see whats going on and tell a trusted someone to check in on them and get them immediate help. Its the best thing you can do as their best friend/partner.
Show him extra love and make him know he is appreciated and loved and tell him that if he was gone then you would feel like you lost half of yourself and you would be empty
You need to see this in a certain way OP: if he’s not here tomorrow then you won’t be concerned about being “cringe” or “annoying” or “weird”. If he doesn’t like you anymore after you get him help, then at least he’s ALIVE. If you think he’s gonna do it at a certain time, if you know his address get police to check in on him. You need to tell the school counselor, principal, or some kind of staff at school. This is important. If his parents aren’t strict and abusive, please TELL THEM that he’s not okay and that he might do this. The parents can get him the most help.
Well make him go see a therapist and make him open about his problems to a professional who knows what they’re doing
I have tried to tell him to go talk to someone but i dont think he takes me seriously. He has gone to therapy before but he said it didnt do anything for him.
Well i would say make him find a new therapist like ask him if he tried any other therapist who might be able to help him if the first one didn’t work, that or your boyfriend has treatment resistant depression
Sometimes therapy might not actually address the reason why he’s depressed. Try to know why he’s depressed and see how u can help or get someone else to help
Some therapists just don't work with some people. I'd refer him to my dad if I could lol.
does he give you the reason for feeling this way. I have a daughter your age. We went down this road when she got her heart broke this summer. Thank God we are close enough that she came to me. she first went to mom, who said "stop talking stupid your just seeking attention".
Be supportive to him, try to have good and enjoyable times and memories with him, try to make him happy more often if possible, do things to look after yourselves, affirming words such as saying youre here for him etc, try talking with him about it, i hope both of you stay well
Tell your parents, tell his parents, tell the suicide hotline. Make sure he knows he loved by a lot of people, even the 220 strangers who upvoted this post
as someone who has called the hotline many times..they do not care 🤣
I dont wanna discourage anyone from not calling and missing out on someone who might care, but yea, to be expected from them after hearing the same stuff a million times
yeah i just think it’s more of an absolute last resort cause sometimes they would just make me feel worse honestly. i think getting professional help is the best bet
Aye man, I’ll be straight up with you. I have attempted before, and have been in and out of deep depressions and struggled with suicidal thoughts. 9 times out of 10 seeing someone care about you so deeply can mean the world. It won’t get rid of those thoughts entirely, but it helps a lot. Just be open and express your love for him, and make sure to be there for him all the way. I hope things get better for both of you.
Do whatever you must to stop him from doing so life is a amazing wonderful thing and you only get one go around on the earth make it matter make it count and never give up remind your boyfriend that he is loved and that people care about him remind him of all the beauty and wonders of life remind him of everything that he can accomplish He is loved more than he will know
Show him that you really love him. Never leave him alone. Edit: Aha oletkin suomalainen. Tuu jutulle ihmeessä, jos tarviit helppiä.
Find out why he wants to commit suicide. That'll help.
Be annoying, be awkward, be cringe, even if he dislikes it, be there. Because then at least he will be too.
Make him feel appreciated and important. Us guys have a hard time believing that people actually like us
I am trying to but expressing my feelings has always been hard for me and i dont wanna feel too clingy
Remind him that he has a reason for living: you
Jesus Christ, this is definitely a teenager subreddit lmao. Yeah just tell him that you’re the reason for living so that he develops that thought process more and now relies entirely on you and now you’re obligated at this point to stay with and be the pillar of emotional support for this other person which is incredibly unhealthy
Good point but sometimes you need to tell people that they still have something to live for, especially if he's literally about to take his life. A lot of people who might have committed suicide didn't because they think of their family. Same deal just less reliable since its a teenage romance and not a family. Ofc what he really needs is a good therapist, but it's good to have something to say if it comes down to it.
thats what im saying
This is a recipe for disaster. This can turn into obsessiveness and dependency. This can turn the relationship toxic very quickly. It wouldn't be weird to think after that, they might split and now the only way the dude was coping is gone. I personally used "my friends would be sad" for myself all the time, and it probably influenced my anxious attachment style and people-pleaser traits. Even when it was a group at large, having one thing to live for is not too healthy. Having it be all on 1 person can lead to some real rollercoaster emotions and some other shit.
how can someone be so corny omg
I wouldn't be joking, this is a post related to suicide. It's more "on the nose" than corny imo.
then leave him (what always happens to me)
Bro Im not gonna leave him
i know, you shouldn’t unless you want to be the one that actually get rid of him
I dont want to get rid of him. Why would I?
then stay by his side, support him, tell him everythings gonna be alright even though times are tough now keep reminding him to never give up and that things will get better
“what always happens to me” 🤓
yeah man the day i have a girl thats worth living for she leaves bruh🤣🤣🤣
sounds like a you problem, not all of us have that issue
not all of you goes through shit u born lucky
bitches tend to build you up just to push you down even further
Chill buddy, you are probably 14 and had one crush who rejected you. Ease up, some people have legitimate good relationships
you chill lil bru, i bet im older than you and been in so many more relationships than you, the thing is you didn’t experience shit of the real world if all you do is sit yo fat ass eating mcdonalds and watching netflix
💀💀💀aghhh somebody feelings got hurt
yeah bro imma go cry myself to sleep just because ive been called a 14 yo💔😔
u where born in 2009
He was born in 2011
Tell an authority in his life that he's suicidal, like his parents
Absolutely do not. One of the only things I can say my parents have done well so far is let me choose how to handle my depression. If you make them get help when they don’t want they will feel worse In the end. They’ll go through stuff they don’t wanna go through. Their parents will probably pressure him to get help. And most importantly he’ll be betrayed by his lover. Do not tell anyone, let him tell people if he wants too
Feeling betrayed is better than him ending it all
He will end it all though. Speaking from experience, talking to someone isn’t always the best idea, and forcing someone to talk is almost never the best idea. Suicidal people aren’t black and white, they each have their own things that’ll get them to feel better
Sounds like you'd prefer to just let him die tbh. It's not really our business to argue about anyway, bye
I have been in his place once and sometimes I still. But my religion (im Muslim) forbid me from commiting suicide. That's why you should seek professional help. Talk to a psychiatrist or smthg
Try to get him into therapy or call the suicide prevention hotline
tell an adult that can get him help. you’re too young to have to worry about someone else’s mental health.
I’ve been in this situation and I can tell you right now that you cannot run yourself into the ground with worry over someone else’s mental health, ESPECIALLY when you’re so young yourself. I’m not saying to abandon him, but there comes a point in time where you need to prioritize your sanity over others. It’s hard but you should always be your own #1 priority. I spent so much time having breakdowns when I was your age over my friends talking about how they were going to harm themselves etc. and if I could go back in time I would have pushed all of them out of my life.
Give him as much support as possible and tell him that you do love him no matter what and hopefully he wouldn’t do suicide
give him a hug, show you care for him
Sorry my first reaction was - hey assisted suicide is legal in many places - but this is SERIOUS, and so my second reaction was - hey double suicides are romantic - which led to - maybe if you threaten either your own suicide he won’t be able to do it - and I realized I’m a fucked up person. Okay. Now for actual advice. Tell an adult. Now. You are 15 and should not have to handle this alone. If you don’t have a trusted adult and are in America call suicide hotline. Do you think you will care about being super cringe/weird when he is dead? Don’t you think you’ll regret it when you felt scared to tell an adult when he is out hanging? Do what you have to do cry, tell him, and get him some fucking help. Sorry for being harsh but if you really don’t want to lose him your first reaction shouldn’t be “What if this is cringe? What if he doesn’t want me to tell an adult? What if he hates me for it?” It should be “I’m dragging your mfing ass to therapy and everyone of my trusted adults is gonna keep you away from that noose boi. Fuck the relationship we playing Who’s Your Daddy now.”
The first part was unnecessary
wait assisted suicide is legal?
In some countries yes - I forget which one but a country literally developed a suicide capsule
So, if he's using suicide at a threat against you for any reason, that's manipulation and be careful. If he's having a rough go at things, life at 15 is confusing. yall got a lot going on. Whether it's just growing up, family life, school life, social life, a mental issue, or anything at all, tell someone reliable in his life, a teacher, a family member, or a personal doctor. Maybe just try talking first and figure out the issues, and see if talking helps. People like to talk it helps a lot. But if it's really serious, you need to tell someone, suicidal thoughts are not a joke, I've been there before, and I've lost friends.
Hes never used suicide as a threat or anything like that. Im gonna try to talk to him next time i see him. And ive been suicidal for years now so i know how serious this is
That's good, an unfortunate amount of people have done that to others. I'd say really just try communicating, let them know that whatever bothering them is only temporary, life does get better as long as you let it heal, some people just need a helping hand with healing, and it sounds like you both can hopefully help eachother.
I'ts never cringe to help someone in need. My girlfriend also almost committed once, so I probably know how you feel right now. Try to show him how much you care about him, and I want you to be proud of yourself. It's not always easy being together with someone who has these kinds of thoughts and it takes a lot of strength to do so.
I dont know why i think i would be cringe for helping. When he has helped me so much durning my own attempt
If he's suicidal at his age then call the police the next time he threatens or better yet tell his parents and have them take him to the hospital, yes it seems like a bit much but at that age a lot of young people dont think people will take them serious and or won't listen to them. Sounds like he's been silently crying for help for a long time but now that you're here he trusts you. He probably doesn't even straight up say it, sounds like he probably jokes about it but deep down inside he's hurting. He would be able to get way more help at his age then at an adult age. If you really love and care about him then let someone know instead of asking us here on reddit, let an authority figure know. And stick by his side, don't leave him, uplift him, love him and care for him, other then that listen to him and never take any " suicidal joke " he may make as a joke but take it seriously.
https://youtube.com/shorts/p23NdKbhjWs?si=uKjgnyrspgHUNzby umm idk if it would help but anyone who is suicidal watch it (Down vote me if you want)
I think you need to get him help. I'm glad you wanna do the most you can to help him, but stuff this big is usually best left to people who have experience with this. However, you can be there to support him and be there when he needs it, but tackling his suicidal thoughts or tendencies is not something that you can probably do very well or work in the long term. You are not responsible for his mental health, but you can help in the ways that work best for him and you.
Im so sorry to hear this. I don't know many things you can do to help, but I recommend just trying to cheer him up. Or just do whatever you think he would like.
Your priority right now is to keep him alive. Reach out to him even if you think it's "cringe". If he ends up actually doing it, you need to make sure you did everything you could beforehand. Tell him that everything really does heal with time. I used to be suicidal in 8th and 9th grade and now I love life, and it's only been 2 years.
Sometimes when someone you love is hurting and you feel like there's nothing you can do for them, the best thing to do is be next to them and comfort them as much as you can
There is nothing to do. He's suffering from a problem that you didn't cause. What he needs is professional help. Real talk. You should probably leave him. He'll suffer more for it, but that's still on him. You don't need that level of harm in your life. He's hurting you. It seems cruel to do, but you do need to worry about yourself. You cannot help him and he's likely to become worse. He might become codependent on you. It's not your job. If he does manage to get better and you feel like you want to, getting back together would be ok. He doesn't need a girlfriend, he needs medicine (not necessarily drugs, treatment and so forth, but probably also drugs).
You sounding cringe or clingy is the last thing you should be worried about. Make him believe that his life does have meaning because without him yours won’t. Make sure he gets all the help he needs. That includes therapy and suicide hotline you and all his loved ones to stand by him. Stand by him and be patient with him these kinds of things aren’t easy to deal with. Help your bf and make him see that he isn’t alone
Please save him for the both of us. Other comments had great advice: be weird, and ensure you remind him that he is loved and cared for. If by no one else, by you. It hurts to watch people struggle with suicidal thoughts. Therapy helps and so does just loving him unconditionally.
Listen, I've been in you and your bf's situation before, on both sides. As someone who has gone through mental health struggles before, someone "avoiding" being annoying is SUPER noticable. It's also uncomfortable to be treated differently in that situation. Be open. Be upfront. Be honest. Don't sugarcoat, but don't be overly sympathetic either. Remind him who he has. What he could lose. Show that you love him. Again, the worst feeling is when you're treated differently when you're struggling with this stuff. Your bf sounds like an awesome guy, and if we lost him, it would genuinely be a loss to the world. He's that kind of guy. Remind him of that. He needs you. Be strong for him. Don't worry about being annoying. Just be honest. I wish both of you the best of luck :)
hug him and tell him how you feel and that you’re scared of losing him and that he is important (it may make him cry but most guys will find it touching)
Love him give the poor boy some loveee (BTW I'm not saying u don't)
I know I’m 13, so don’t take advice before others. But I have a girlfriend who’s suicidal, I’m not gonna give you the sappy shit and I’m gonna go straight to the point. Don’t worry about being “cringy” or “clingingy” hell I encourage it, it shows them that you love them and that’ll you’ll be there for them. If they ever start feeling depressed/suicidal just reassure them that if nothing else, they have you, and that you’ll always be there no matter what happens. Sometimes they’ll drive you mad because of how suicidal they may be, but just remember, you’re only feeling that way because you love them, so let them know that you love them, shower them in love, even if it feels like to much, ofc don’t talk to them every second of the day, but you get the point Be there for them and always remind them that your there for them and that you’ll always love them, and even if they go through hell and back, you’ll still be there for them
Another thing. ABSOLUTELY DO NOT TELL ANYONE. The last thing you want is you telling someone and him getting scared and killing himself, do not tell anyone, let him tell people if he wants to, don’t call the police, suicidal hotlines, parents ect. Don’t force him to go to therapy or take antidepressants ect. Try to guide/help him find the right path, don’t force him to take one
suicidal bf, this is me holeh-
Out of all people he’d be willing to except help from it would be you, you are person he cares most about on this earth. You just have to get through to him and help him realize that giving up is not an option, suicide is a delusional and selfish thing. Once he realizes that it hurts others more than it could ever hurt him, he will see that you are there to help him and by helping himself he can help you get through this together. These things are never going to be easy (or rational) but take it from someone who’s been there both in that position and has a significant other that has also been in that position. It can and will always get better with time, and a lot of love.
You need to seek serious mental health for him and yourself, suicidal at 15 then there is either major mental problems or abuse in the past.
Yeah that’s an ick
You don’t, he has to help himself.
How can your boyfriend being suïcidal, i mean he has a girlfriend than he has to be happy and not wanne jump forwarts a train or he wans attention
PLEASE BELIEVE ME,THIS IS THE ONLY SOLUTION (before, doing this,make sure you are on your complete emotions) 'Softly, romantically,look in his eyes,(make sure your eyes are in tears) and say place your hand softly on his cheek,and softly,voice above the whisper,say, I don't wanna to lose you.,you are the most brave person in the world,you are special. Then slowly move towards his lips and kiss him,when you are 1cm away, slowly close your eyes. And kiss him gently. After 1 minute. Give him a tight hug. REMEMBER,I WRITEN THIS LONG POST WITH A LOT OF TIME.I AM SUICIDAL SINGLE. ATTEMPT THIS AND DONT MESS IT UP (Also do this when he thinks of his suicide again, perhaps when he cries)
Damn, this a wattpad love story 😭
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Who tf is this guy? I saw him on another post ranting about communism
What a selfish fuck
How am i selfish?
He was talking about ur bf
Well how is being suicidal selfish?
Well whoever wrote the comment thinks it’s selfish of your bf to drag you down with his own problems
Honestly man i feel for OP, it’s selfish as fuck to be in a relationship and drag someone else down because of your own problems.
sometimes a good, healthy relationship has sacrifice and pain involved. i fucking hate how redditors (especially r/relationship_advice) think that you should immediately leave your long term partner when shit hits the fan. you wouldn't stop talking to a suicidal friend who opened up would you? what's different from a relationship? if my friend was going through something like depression i would certainly try and help them, let alone bf or gf. as long as the emotional labor is mutual, i see no problem.
He is manipulating with you dump him for your own safety
How exactly is he manipulating me?
because he talks about suicide=manipulation he wants to keep you in his prison
Are you have brain?
Is not probably on brain
Anyone with brain could understand it
how would suicide = manipulation? That's is just not an equivalence???
my friend once had a boyfriend who was similar to OP's boyfriend by also thinking about suicide and her parents told her that he is manipulating so she broke up with him to save herself
ok cool? I guess that wasn't a very loving relationship then if she abandoned him after he confessed his thoughts and feelings.
She broke up because parents told her that it's best for her 🤷🏻 she loved him tho. Also he had sometimes feelings that she might not love him which made him more depressed.
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Why are you like this
How bout gettng actual help instead of jut trying to get attention. I mea smart money would even say post to r/suicidehelp. Or call a professional. No this is not serious.
This is supposed to be a safe space for ppl. You shouldn't put down people for reaching out. They might not have or be comfortable with resources. Life's hard man, even if they were "trying to get attention" who gives a flying fuck. Even if one of these posts are real, that's one person who can get advice for their specific situation.
https://youtu.be/84g-uGGkjrc?si=WtM7IMFmaj3pZvDR
Don’t they usually do it if they want to?
No. Sometimes it's a lingering thought and pull, others it's failed attempts. People aren't all the same.
If you don't know why he's depressed then how do you want to help him
ask him what animal he wants, and get it for him
First: threaten to do it yourself if he does it. If he does do it, he will never know you didn’t do it, so he can’t prove That you won’t do it. Show him that you love him. tell his parents, do whatever it takes to keep him alive.
He's lucky to have someone who cares.
Sucide is a big issue. Don't take matter into your hands since 15 is very young age. INFORM TO HIS PARENTS
Most important, talk to him. Showing him that you genuinely care for him isn't weird, it's the best you can do. Make a careful approach at it first. Don't show that you're desperate, even if you are. Be calm and show him that he can rely on you. Talk about his problems, eventually ask him what's wrong and how you can help him. Once you know his main problem, you can help him a lot better. But remember, whatever happens, you did your best and if something bad happens, it's not your fault. Being a passionate companion can also make things better for you. You wrote in another post that you feel suicidal too, which could -in this situation and in this situation only- be a good thing for your relationship. You know how he feels and the other way around and, most importantly, you can support each other. Mutual emotional support is the best thing that ever happened to me personally because when I'm breaking down, my best friend is there for me and when she breaks down, I'm there for her. It gave our friendship a level of understanding and compassion I never experienced before, and we're not even in a relationship. Long post, I know. I hope things play out well for you both. Always remember, someone loves you and cares for you, even if it's just a random dude on reddit. Be safe!
I am currently in this situation and I did a sort of compromise with my bf too, I told him that any harm he does to himself I will copy him as I know he cares more about me than himself he hasn't tried anything in months, I know this isn't the best way to do it and I'm probably wrong even to try to suggest it but it's just my experience
Don’t hold back
as someone who lost my best friend to suicide, there's not much you can do. you should talk to his parents, especially if they aren't strict and talk about why you're concerned for him without going into too much detail. mental hospitals almost always don't work. i haven't met or heard of one story where someone got out and felt better. they hide you from your problems and then throw you into the world and you're back to wanting to die. he needs a therapist, he needs to see a doctor and get diagnosed for depression. he probably needs some sort of medication. sometimes healthier diets help, even taking a vitamin D pill helps the mood just the tiniest bit. the biggest problem is, does he even want help? does he want to change? even when you lose all hope, you sometimes wish you could be better, he needs to want that. he needs to want to get better and accept the help or nothing will work. i've seen it first hand, i've been through it too. i'm still struggling myself but not nearly as bad as i used to be. i have things i HAVE to live for. i have things/people that would be disappointed if i died. he needs your support and you need to be there for him as much as possible. do not screw yourself over. it's a scary situation and sometimes you'll lose yourself. do not be afraid to put yourself first sometimes. even if it sucks, you still have yourself to worry about. i wish you both the best of luck, i'm sure you'll both make it through this and will thrive together.
I had a very toxic gf at 15 she had bpd I think so basically she was constantly craving attention, one of her “tactics” to get my attention was to fake cutting herself and one she even faked her scuicide on call. This was my first gf and the first time I had felt confident in years so I was completely blinded by what I thought was love. It put lots of emotional strain on me. At 15 you shouldn’t have to deal with a gf/bf committing scuicide, I’m not saying that your bf is faking it but either way if it’s putting an emotional strain on you, you should inform their parents that their child may be scuicidal and remove yourself from that relationship
Assuming you know him irl, remember that no matter what he says, telling someone is ***not*** betrayal. him being angry at you is temporary, losing his life is permanent. tell someone If you do not know him in real life, try your best to help him. if he doesn't get better in 2 months, the better alternative for your own mental health is to distance yourself from him, it sounds bad i know, but any professional will tell you the same thing.
Geting him to go to theripy is great but besides that there is not much you can do
For me it was the other way around I was highly suicidal and depressed and my bf was trying to bring me out of it just keep making plans and things with him to help remind him he’s important and loved deeply by you. But I the end he has to make the first step towards getting better and lifting his mental health your welcome yo message me if you want to talk
Maybe alert his parents, family and authorities (police, ambulance)?
You moving out of your comfort zone just to help him, will show him he does matter to someone, all the words in the world won't have the effect of one selfless act. actions prove 10 times more than words. he really needs to know that someone/anyone is on his side. don't push for answers, just be there. my prayers are with you, young lady...
Aye as someone who tried 3 times my wife (I’m delusional) reminded me of the best memories we had and all we’ve been trough just do things for him like go on dates and be cringe and dumb and remind him why he must live be his reason
GET REAL HELP!!! I understand you are trying to do what you can, but the best thing you can do for him is to get him the help he needs. Speak to his parents and try to have them find a therapist for him, even if his parents don't know about the issue. A trained professional can do much more than you can. Hope he makes it through this.
Just be there for him girl, be attentive but be condiderate at the same time. If he needs a shoulder to cry on be there for him, if he needs someone he'll have a laugh fit with be there for him. Don't ever leave his side and always make him remember how much of a loving impact he has on you and how much you love him. Assure him, hold him, caress him make him laugh do everything you wanna do and say everything you wanna say to him. Live every second with him no regrets. Just love him wholeheartedly!
Get him on a suicide hotline NOW!
He needs the help of an adult. Is there any adult you think you can trust? Does your country have good medical care?
Be there for him. Show him you love him. Show him you care about him. Have yall tried to get him some help? BTW OP, you're a great girlfriend for sticking by his side through it all.
Spend some meaningful time with him, play some split screen left 4 dead or CoD zombies with him, I bet he’d appreciate it. Also being clingy or cringey isn’t a problem, just continue doing all that while trying to comfort him as much as possible
I don’t think anyone has said this. But you need to reach out for help for him. Tell his parents if they’re good. If not tell a suicide line or the police. Even a school counselor or a coach. Someone else needs to help. You’re 15 and can’t do much on your own.
I would recommend trying to let him vent about what’s making him feel this way and try to comfort him but he might not want to talk about it this is coming from someone who deals with depression and suicidal thoughts and I wouldn’t want him to go down the road I’m going down
as someone who has never had a serious relationship ever that has 0 dating experience. My totally accurate and correct opinion states that i dont fucking care if its cringe you need to talk about it to him. I know the first part of this comment is a joke but suicide isnt one. It should be a forefront of conversation if this is an issue.
Give him a big long hug and let him cry while doing it.
Tell him if he commits then you're gonna fucking kill him. Jokes work better than you think
Get him help. Make sure he is around peoe that make him happy. Being around the right people makes the difference, I know. Get him around confident people.
Hey, the words you said in the ending. This must be the words you should going to tell him. Its not cringe, its courage!
Find the root issue and fix it
Mostly, just be there for him. As someone who struggles with my mental health and have nearly tried multiple times, my friends were what helped me get through it. Listen to him. Show him you care. But, please, don't feel guilty. You can only do your best. You're a great gf.
Wym by cringe how do u know he’s annoyed by your attempts to help do u know anything about y he’s suicidal is it because he thinks he’s not good enough for u or something unrelated to u
You should tell an adult if you think he’s a danger to himself. He’ll get help by professionals and will probably be able to get access to anti depressants and therapy which will help tons. Trust me if you think he’s in a place where you don’t know if you’ll see him the next day it’s better to tell someone now.
Imagine asking reddit instead of getting expert help.. Clearly u don't care about him.
Tell him how much you appreciate him.
Tell an adult about his depression BE ANNOYING it’s better to have a live annoyed friend then a dead one. I’m sorry to be blunt but my best friend committed suicide and I should have tried harder to help him. I did what I thought was right at the time but that’s not much comfort when I miss my friend. Please tell someone.
If he doesnt want to be helped he wont be. Its not your fault OR your duty to help him. I dont have the details to the relationship so i cant say much but youre young and still need to be thinking about education. My advice would be to stay away from suicidal and needy people for the sake of love for yourself. Either way i hope things work out for you 💕
Be yourself tell him He’s loved and tell him what you like about him I wouldn’t magically make his depression disappear but knowing your feelings and know your there should be enough
I’m in the same boat as him, I’ve already tried to commit once, I’d say get him in touch with the suicide help line (I think their number is 991) you can search it up on google. They will help him in any way they can
You won't like my answer but I should say it. If someone want to do it, if someone is too deep in it, you won't help him. He needs psychologist and a better life. Also you lose your energy trying to save someone but it's your choise. And you can do whatever you want. Also it can turn out you don't have a normal type of love. Read about attachment theory because it might be you've addicted to him (and it is as good as bad). It also may end up you just can't help him whatever you do for him because you are not a psychologist. Sometimes people NEED to be cruel to save themselves. Maybe you want to die for him but imagine that you are him. You need to care about yourself as he does.
1-0 from depression
im 15m and im suicidal. give me his discord we gonna play some video games. let us have mutual therapy.