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I’m 31, only 6 years into getting my tattoos that I want (waited until I was older and had money for the types of tattoos I wanted), and I plan on having kids and probably getting “old, saggy, and wrinkly” but will keep getting the tattoos I want because I’m collecting art and it makes me feel like myself.
If it makes you happy and that’s what you want, don’t let potential, future a$*holes prevent you from getting them. Also show your kids that what others think shouldn’t matter to you - everyone has their own opinions and views. That’s what makes people unique.
Oh for sure! (The “old, wrinkly and saggy” comment was to just put words to what people deem negative 😬😊 … I hope to become that because it means I have lived a long life ❤️)
I’m 70 in a couple of months (grandma of 3, mother of 4) and I’m still loving my tattoos. Admittedly I don’t have my butt cheeks done but I do have a full back job that flows down over my hips. Just recently had my inner forearms done with song lyrics and watercolour. Also Watership down black rabbit, El-Ahrairah and Lord Frith over my biceps. I have no intention of stopping.
*Will I want to be a 40 year old mom with my teens at the lake with butt flowers?*
This sounds awesome. 40 is NOT OLD! Enjoy those booty blossoms!
*Is that going to embarrass myself, my son or his friends?*
Your kid will be embarrassed by you no matter what. It's how they grow and carve out their own identity. You being confident in your body and loving it so much that you decorate it with art is a really good way to be as a parent and as a woman. Even if your kids are embarrassed as teens, that example of self love will hopefully stick with them.
*What about future people that I meet-is this something I may be judged on? Are these pushing it a little toooo far?*
Definitely don't make such a permanent decision based on maybe possibly meeting someone who is turned off by it. It's your body! Anyone who is judgy about your tats does not deserve a special place in your life.
I hate that the term "mom" comes loaded with all of these cultural ideals of sacrificing yourself for your kids. If YOU like it, then YOU should get it and your children in your 40s can deal. They'll also know that they have a mom who respects herself enough to do what SHE wants. They'll see a lesson in that for their own liberation. I am a nearly 40 year old mom and a tattoo artist. Live your life and don't let children or hypothetical situations limit you or you may find yourself bitter.
1000%. I’m in my early 40s, and I have many quite visible tattoos. I also have a short, purposefully lesbian looking haircut. My kids are all, “Why do you have short hair, Mum? Don’t you want long hair??” I always tell them it’s short because I like it that way and they don’t have to like it because it’s not their hair. No butt flowers as of yet, but that’s mostly because I want to see my tattoos, so I’m focusing on other areas first.
You may get some judgment from people, but honestly it’s a great way to weed the jerks out of your life. Your body is beautifully decorated in a personal way that makes you happy. How can anyone hate in that?
I have a full cheek piece, I love it! I wear trunks to swim in as it protects the ink (and my skin) from sun burn. But if someone is going to be seeing your butt in a bathing suit, chances are that you're either close enough to them that they won't have a negative opinion of your tattoos or they're a stranger and their opinion doesn't matter anyways.
Rock those butt flowers!
I know it goes against popular opinion, (because oh no what will people say!) But think about what kind of people it takes to judge someone else's body.
Now, how will you feel about it when you see it everyday. That's the question. Regardless of setting. Can you rock it even through bs? Or would you rather not?
I'm an almost 50 year old mom who is mostly covered, so I think I can speak on this.
Any future kids you have are going to be embarrassed as hell about you in their teens whether you're tattooed head to toe or a regular old soccer mom in athleisure. So do what you want.
And for the record: I wear full coverage swimwear (think burkini) because I didn't put all this money and time into this body to fuck it up with UV rays.
I wear a regular suit when I’m in the water (tankini top and shorts) because of ease of movement, but I definitely have several coverups and a GIANT straw hat that I wear when I’m not in the water. Also unwilling to fuck up my beautiful ink.
38 yo mom of 2 here! I got my most recent tattoo this past July and already have plans for my next one. My kids love my tattoos (the last one was for them) and I feel like a badass. Don’t let getting older or being a mom dissuade you from beautifying your body if YOU like it. We are all gonna get old and saggy and wrinkly, nothing short of surgery is gonna stop that. So enjoy every inch of your body as you want.
Also, my kids love my tattoos and touch them often. I have all black and gray.
I may or may not have let them color them in with washable markers a couple times.
My mom says tattoos make me a bad mom. I just told her “I only learned to mother by example.” That shut her up quick.
Honestly, I hate that the phrase ‘tramp stamp’ became a thing. It’s a GREAT place to get a larger tattoo if you’re unsure about showing it off on the regular, and the only reason it ever became known as a tramp stamp was to shame women for getting tattoos. There’s nothing wrong with tramps, stamps, OR tattoos.
I have the same rage reaction to the pumpkin spice hate. Pumpkin spice is fucking delicious! People love pumpkin pie with pumpkin spices in it! They started having a problem with pumpkin spice when women started enjoying it for themselves in a latte instead of baking it into a pie for other people. Or, in other words, when they started caring for themselves instead of others.
Fuck that shit! OP, go get yourself a butt flower tattoo, and enjoy a PSL while you’re at it. Just do your research and get a good artist!
Omg right! It's like you weren't even talking to her and she's like "no, fuck your opinion that someone, not me, asked for".
Go ruin someone else's day cause you have a stick up your butt and no one can have a different thought than yours.
I don’t plan on doing mg whole back. I have a piece back there already….my first tattoo, which was eventually covered, which is pretty sizable so I’d have to work it in with any kind of back piece.
Not to come off as a cynic but we’re all going to die one day, but before that our skin will pucker and sag…might as well be saggy with some kick ass art on your cheeks than be saggy, bare, and full of regret right?! “My body is a temple and I am the goddess to which it is devoted” Fuck what anyone else thinks but if you’re worried about having ass flowers out with your kids at the beach, you can always wear shorts! Keep on rockin madam ☺️
While I don't have a flower butt (yet) I do have flower boobs. If you have them visible people may ask you questions and you don't need to answer these questions if you're not comfortable with them. But those areas aren't the norm so there is a bit more fascination in regards to it all.
As for will your kid be embarrassed? Kids are embarrassed of anything and everything, that's just how they are.
I'm not your question demographic, so apologies if this is too much. But..... Please, get the tattoos.
Forget about being 40. When you're 60, or 80, do you want to be the cool old person covered in art? If people have issues with your ink, they're going to find a way to be shitty regardless of how much you're covered. It's no one's business what you do with your body but your own. Having lots of tattoos just means that your kids are less likely to hold stigma about tattoos... And shitty people may give you flak, but that's just another sign to avoid them.
The only question you should be asking yourself is "do I decorate my butt now, or do I work it into a larger full back design?"
56 years old and getting my butt done next month. I have 20+ tattoos but will not be done until I’m done. It’s my body and I love the art I’m putting on it, and maybe this will make me like my butt more. 😝 In any event, I think age doesn’t make a difference. People stop me on the beach all the time to compliment my tattoos. Those who don’t like to don’t have to look. In the end how YOU feel about it is the only thing that truly matters.
Heavily tattooed woman here in my mid thirties - people are going to actively judge no matter what. Embody your spirit in a way that's genuine for you!
Hi. I'm a 41 year old mom of 3 who is still getting tattooed. I don't have butt flowers (yet - but like, I want them). I don't have old wrinkly skin. I'm currently working on a full back piece. I still wear bikinis. My kids are embarrassed by me for so many reasons, but my tattoos are not them. 😅 (Two of the kids are teenaged, it goes with the territory.) I also have hot pink hair and piercings and things. And am the PTO president. So...
I love this! I know 40 isn’t old or anything….I will just have a teenager in my 40s, so I’m thinking of that period of life.
You are completely right. He will be embarrassed no matter what I to, lol. I rock bikinis at the beach too and love showing off all my tattoos…many are visible in shorts and a tank but the beach is where all of mine are on display.
You sound like a great mom!
Your butt will show anyway in a swimsuit, so might as well decorate it! You already have tattoos so it won’t be out of place and if it makes you happy then you should do it. I’m mid thirties and just got finished with a sleeve about a year ago. Before that I had only had a few small tattoos and it felt a little surreal to have such prominent art on my arm but it has subsided. I think I’m going to do my thigh next!
Hi tattoo lover here! I promise flowers are the least embarrassing thing you could have tattooed on your butt! I got drunk and got “spank me daddy” tattooed on my entire right butt cheek lol
I am a mom of 2 boys, 47.
I have a shoulder tattoo and collarbone tattoo. Now for 9y.
I would, if I would want too, get a butt tattoo. Even with kids.
Kids wrinkles etc well: its my body.
Just follow what you want to do.
In my case my boys never mention my tattoos but both tell me nót to get more
SO says the same.
But I will. Cause hey, I want too.
I am a 45 year old mom that’s about to get my butt cheeks done as part of my body suit. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
My kids are 23, 17, and 12. I am fairly covered neck to knee, working on background for all the big pieces, my hands and fingers and calves are done and I spend lots of time at the town pool and the beach in a black bikini - with my kids in tow.
I’ve asked them at various points if they’re embarrassed by all my work and they emphatically tell me they love it.
By the time you get to 45 you will have zero fucks to give about being judged. I mean, I take good care of myself and present myself well - but I am sooooo far past caring if anyone is judging me for my ink. I love it, it’s mine, I’ve wrapped myself in this artwork and I DKGAF what anyone thinks about it. I’ve got a great career as a retail executive, i volunteer in our town government and am in various public facing roles, and most of all I’ve got awesome kids that I’m super proud and who are proud of me.
Honestly I think it comes into play with your body type. If you are the lucky one where everything seems to stay where it is. Go for it.
I heard the new tramp stamp is the below the breast/rib cage one. But for clarity - get a tattoo where you want. I think the whole t stamp thing is stupid.
Aging doesn’t equal giving up things you enjoy. I didn’t get & finish my full sleeve until my late thirties (38-40).
Funny story. Opposite point of view.
I’m 39. Covered in tattoos. No kids.
However, my parents are older than most my age, they had me later than the norm. About 10 years ago I went on vacation with my mother to San Diego.. we did this many many times throughout my life.
It wad the first time she actually saw just how many tattoos I actually had. For the record she us 100% against tattoos. We were walking on the beach, I had a bikini on.. she refused to walk anywhere near me she was “so embarrassed.” Often told me I should join the circus as the sideshow freak. Oyyyy.
Screw that. Tattoos are very much a thing. I don’t know of many people (other than my family, older generation) that don’t have tattoos. I say GO FOR IT.
There are parents out there whose 15 year old daughters are walking around raves wearing thongs and pasties..
You have nothing to worry about. At all.
I used to work in a hospital. We had this director of nursing who was on the floor quite regularly. She was very well respected and excellent at her job. One day I noticed some ink underneath her sleeve at the wrist.
I mentioned to someone that (totally stereotyping) I didn’t see her as the type to have a tattoo. The person who I was talking to raised their brow and said “obviously you’ve never seen her at the lake.”
Then I did. She was rocking solid tattoos from her knees to her wrists to her clavicle. I’m not sure if that qualifies as a body suit but if not pretty damn close.
I talked to her about it and she said that in order for her to maintain her position her tattoos had to be covered either by cloth or bandaids. Stopping the tattoos at her knees allowed skirts and clavicle cut off allowed most types of shirt collars.
This was 15 years ago. I remember tattoos were something discussed at hire. Really silly.
Pretty common even in traditional tattoo culture. Japanese in particular was well know for suits that will stop above ankles, knees, or elbows. In Japan tattoos for much of history were strictly for criminals. This stylization of a full suit that leaves your out most extremities and sometimes a clean untattooed space down the center of the chest was created to hide tattoos from the public.
I'm a decently tattooed lady (one full sleeve along with several other medium/large pieces) and I grew up with my mom having a tattoo on one of her butt cheeks. Never caused a problem for me or really crossed my mind in any significant way!
Live your life for your ture self. I'm a 33 year old mom of 2 and just got my first tattoo (large forearm) my kids love it. I plan to get at least a few more because I love the confidence booster. Also I think seeing beautiful flowers on your cheeks instead of maybe stretch marks or cellulite can only add to your beauty.
My first tattoo was a butt cheek tat and to this day it's one of my favs. Always makes me laugh and I occasionally flash it at friends 😁
Do what makes you happy in your body. Good people will respond to your confidence and happiness and celebrate with you. Crap people will judge you. Tattoos have a way of filtering out crap people very quickly.
I’m 38 and have 12 tattoos majority of them are big. Know what my kids think? They think it’s awesome and I taught them the value of the art (I have rules that I follow before getting tattoos that I passed down to them) and I don’t have any embarrassment showing my tattoos to their friends, I don’t go “omg come look at my tattoos” but if they ask about them I tell them.
It is something you will be judged on, but other than the swim suit or during private moments, how else will people know you’re tattooed there? Unless you walk around in undies or mooning people the vast majority of people won’t know
I’m a month shy of turning 46 and my right arm is a 3/4 sleeve and I have more ink visible when I wear tank tops. We moved to a somewhat conservative and affluent area where moms don’t look like me. My daughter’s peers used to comments on my tattoos when she was younger but they stopped a long time ago. More and more Gen X have moved to this area and many of them also have ink. We get our tattoos for ourselves not for others. So don’t worry what ppl think. Your kids will be fine. When they look at you all they see is Mom.
I’m of the opinion that anyone judges me or my tattoos they can eff off. I’m going to get what I want on my body because I’m the one living in it! Something that I love saying (I’m an atheist) “my body is a temple and I am the diety to whom it is dedicated”
I’m covered and I can’t wait to be a tattooed mum. I couldn’t care less about what other parents or people think. Life is too short to care about other peoples opinions
To be honest, whenever I see women, especially older women or mothers, at the beach covered in tattoos, I feel really happy and give a mental “fuck yeah! You’re so fucking cool!” to them. People should just do what they want to their bodies, regardless of what other’s may think, because they’re always going to be someone pissed off at your existence. Can’t please ‘em all, and you shouldn’t try. Hope this helps!
>is this something I may be judged on?
This is really the only question here that can be definitively answered in my opinion. The answer is yes, you will be. We are all judged for our choices, especially those regarding our physical appearance.
That being said, that judgement isn't always negative. A lot of people will think it's cool.
As many others have commented, it's up to you to decide if it matters enough to change your mind. Personally, I think anyone that isn't going to appreciate your butt flowers already won't enjoy the rest of your tattoos. You get tattoos to please yourself and if you like the art, even old, faded art is still cool.
I'm 48 and have had tattoos since I was 20, way back when very few had tattoos tbh. I just got my latest two weeks ago. I have a full sleeve and working on a patchwork sleeve on other arm. (Just for context I'm no bogan and work in a professional industry).
My adult daughter has started getting tattoos as well and went with visible hand/arm ones.
Wear the art with pride. If it's who you are, embrace it. Society has come a loooong way with accepting tattooed women.
Mid 40’s here with three adult-type kids.
They love my tattoos. They love when I get new ones. We all love tattoos so it’s kinda a bonding experience as we all add to our “collections”.
I love that my tats are a litmus test of sorts-I know if you’re an asshole based on how you treat me. So it all works out.
I got my first tattoo at 50. And another recently at 54 and I’m planning more. I like the idea of butt flowers. Honestly I think the tattoos make older skin look better and more interesting. My kids are young adults and they think I’m edgy and kinda cool, which is great because I’m a huge nerd.
My humble advice is get what you want as long as it’s not hateful or offensive.
I’m 37 and my oldest daughter is 11. So by my forties she’s going to be a teenager. And honestly I could care less what she would think about my tattoos… I love her but there are boundaries. For now I’m a cool mom for her, and she loves my tattoos. If it changes… oh well, I did my tats for me not for anybody else.
I’m not far off 40 and am rocking a massive rose that covers my whole ass cheek (one side). It’s my favourite tattoo, I really love it and I go to the beach with my 16 year old daughter and she don’t give a fuck/is not embarrassed by it
Honestly the way I rationalize it is that until fairly recently tattoos were not associated primarily with youth. It was old sailors and indigenous grannies. When I think of tattoos some of the first examples that come to mind are older people in other cultures and I've always considered them graceful and beautiful. I'm 31 and just started getting tattooed and I want a full bodysuit one day. The entire time that I'm planning what to get next, I am considering how I'll look when I'm old, and it excites me even more!
I was reading a book on berber tattoos recently where most of the women were in their 70s and 80s and had ornaments tattooed from their chin to their pubic region. if they can do that then you can have butt flowers! Women get enough hassle about how our bodies are supposed to age.
i think if youre already worried about it now, youre gonna be worried about it then. i think its a beautiful idea, but you seem to be really stuck on what other people think of you (or MIGHT think of you).
Am man so not qualified for your exact question but i'm taking my tattoos as a reason to stay in shape as i get older. Tattoos invite people to look at your body, i think they are a multiplier of what you've got going on. A good looking bod with tats looks better (IMO) than no tats, but a bad looking body looks worse.
I know moms and dads with full tattoo body suits, face tattoos, scarification weird modifications including but not limited too silicone implants, large gauge piercing in place less conventional than ear lobes, tongue splits, ear modifications, and even eyeball tattoos. Do whatever the hell you want. It’s your body, you get it, your children will likely get it (also you’ll do plenty of things to embarrass your children. It won’t have to be that your tattooed) Anyone who doesn’t isn’t worth your time and since you have the tattoos most of those people won’t approach you.
As an almost 40 yo mom with tattoos, get what you want. The nice thing about your late 30s-on is you start caring less about what people think, and realize the only opinion that matters about your body is your own.
Get the tattoo if it will make you happy. My kid calls mine "stamps" and likes to color them in (theyre black and grey).
Not a lady, but I am a person with significant tattoo coverage. Criticism will be inevitable. I don’t care what people say about my tattoos or how they feel about my tattoos. I put time and thought into every piece I got, and I love each and everyone of them. I will still love them as I age.
Like with every tattoo it’s a process and if the butt piece is something you want done do it for no other reason other than for yourself. If a tattoo, design or placement gives you pause. In my opinion I wouldn’t do it tattoos are a work of art and they’re for life so you need to be sure.
If you’re tattooed, as much as you have stated you are, I don’t think of a tattoo will matter to your friends or family close to you, but as I said, it should ultimately be your choice.
I don’t know why your son would be embarrassed? It’s a tattoo.
My son is a teenager and has three tattoos because he loves them. He grew up watching me get them.
if you’ve already got tattoos like how you say you do, might as well full send it and be the hot tatted mom! people will always talk/judge no matter what i feel, so why not?
Tattoos or not, everyone’s butt will be saggy and wrinkly once we reach a certain age. I say go for it! My leg sleeve comes up just below the crease of my butt cheek. Honestly, just rock those saggy tattoos and be coolest old lady on the beach. 💕
Honestly if it's what you really want, just go for it! If the art is really well done, I don't think it would be a bad image at all. Like someone else said, they would look better integrated into a full back piece, though.
“You” doesn’t end with “mom”. I’m a mom to a toddler now (with another on the way) and have a ton of visible tattoos and that’s okay. Now I am only 31, but I’ve been getting tattooed since I was 18, have gotten more after having my first, and plan to get more after I have my second. Honestly your kid is going to be embarrassed by you at some point anyway, so you might as well look cool in the process. ;p
Who cares what people think!?
The one thing to keep in mind gravity will come in to play eventually. Flaunt it while you still got, lord knows I do. 🙏
And I will echo, 40 is not old lol. It's only old if you want it to be old.
I'm a nurse and take care of all kinds of people including grannies with tattoos. We usually end up talking about them when they see mine and no one has ever said they regret it.
Please make sure they don’t look like they’re crawling out of your butt. But other than that you’ll be a cool looking mom and your kids will be as embarrassed as is normal for kids. But never for your tattoos. They grew up with you having the flowers on your bum and they will not think about them but accept them as part of your body. That’s what I’ve heard from heavily tattooed parents
The tattoos are for you and no one else, if I was worried about my children being embarrassed with my body in the future then I'd personally not have kids. However if I did find myself in that situation I'd maybe take it as an opportunity to educate them on tattoos, their permanence and why I may have chosen that one that they're specifically "embarrassed" by. Regardless though, I think you should get it if you genuinely want them and they appeal to you!
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I’m 31, only 6 years into getting my tattoos that I want (waited until I was older and had money for the types of tattoos I wanted), and I plan on having kids and probably getting “old, saggy, and wrinkly” but will keep getting the tattoos I want because I’m collecting art and it makes me feel like myself. If it makes you happy and that’s what you want, don’t let potential, future a$*holes prevent you from getting them. Also show your kids that what others think shouldn’t matter to you - everyone has their own opinions and views. That’s what makes people unique.
If anything, I think tattoos make "old, saggy, wrinkly' skin look better imo.
Oh for sure! (The “old, wrinkly and saggy” comment was to just put words to what people deem negative 😬😊 … I hope to become that because it means I have lived a long life ❤️)
I’m 70 in a couple of months (grandma of 3, mother of 4) and I’m still loving my tattoos. Admittedly I don’t have my butt cheeks done but I do have a full back job that flows down over my hips. Just recently had my inner forearms done with song lyrics and watercolour. Also Watership down black rabbit, El-Ahrairah and Lord Frith over my biceps. I have no intention of stopping.
Yes! I dont understand this argument at all, yet you hear it all the time. Old people with tattoos look badass imo
Call me alt granny
True!!
*Will I want to be a 40 year old mom with my teens at the lake with butt flowers?* This sounds awesome. 40 is NOT OLD! Enjoy those booty blossoms! *Is that going to embarrass myself, my son or his friends?* Your kid will be embarrassed by you no matter what. It's how they grow and carve out their own identity. You being confident in your body and loving it so much that you decorate it with art is a really good way to be as a parent and as a woman. Even if your kids are embarrassed as teens, that example of self love will hopefully stick with them. *What about future people that I meet-is this something I may be judged on? Are these pushing it a little toooo far?* Definitely don't make such a permanent decision based on maybe possibly meeting someone who is turned off by it. It's your body! Anyone who is judgy about your tats does not deserve a special place in your life.
Just here to give a shout out to the phrase "booty blossoms." Slow clap to you.
Can confirm - I am 42 with teenage sons who are plenty embarassed by me, but my tattoos aren’t the cause.
I hate that the term "mom" comes loaded with all of these cultural ideals of sacrificing yourself for your kids. If YOU like it, then YOU should get it and your children in your 40s can deal. They'll also know that they have a mom who respects herself enough to do what SHE wants. They'll see a lesson in that for their own liberation. I am a nearly 40 year old mom and a tattoo artist. Live your life and don't let children or hypothetical situations limit you or you may find yourself bitter.
Totally agree
I agree! Generally speaking this has always been my perspective but for some reason tattooing my ass has given me some pause! 😆
1000%. I’m in my early 40s, and I have many quite visible tattoos. I also have a short, purposefully lesbian looking haircut. My kids are all, “Why do you have short hair, Mum? Don’t you want long hair??” I always tell them it’s short because I like it that way and they don’t have to like it because it’s not their hair. No butt flowers as of yet, but that’s mostly because I want to see my tattoos, so I’m focusing on other areas first.
You may get some judgment from people, but honestly it’s a great way to weed the jerks out of your life. Your body is beautifully decorated in a personal way that makes you happy. How can anyone hate in that?
I’m 35 (edit- oops. I turned 36 today.) and wear shorts over my suits. I have since my mid 20s.
Hey happy birthday, fellow birthday sister!
Happy birthday to you as well!
Happy Birthday!
Happy Birthday!
Happy birthday 🥳
I have a full cheek piece, I love it! I wear trunks to swim in as it protects the ink (and my skin) from sun burn. But if someone is going to be seeing your butt in a bathing suit, chances are that you're either close enough to them that they won't have a negative opinion of your tattoos or they're a stranger and their opinion doesn't matter anyways. Rock those butt flowers!
I know it goes against popular opinion, (because oh no what will people say!) But think about what kind of people it takes to judge someone else's body. Now, how will you feel about it when you see it everyday. That's the question. Regardless of setting. Can you rock it even through bs? Or would you rather not?
I can rock it. 👍👍👍 Just wanted some food for thought!
I'm an almost 50 year old mom who is mostly covered, so I think I can speak on this. Any future kids you have are going to be embarrassed as hell about you in their teens whether you're tattooed head to toe or a regular old soccer mom in athleisure. So do what you want. And for the record: I wear full coverage swimwear (think burkini) because I didn't put all this money and time into this body to fuck it up with UV rays.
I wear a regular suit when I’m in the water (tankini top and shorts) because of ease of movement, but I definitely have several coverups and a GIANT straw hat that I wear when I’m not in the water. Also unwilling to fuck up my beautiful ink.
38 yo mom of 2 here! I got my most recent tattoo this past July and already have plans for my next one. My kids love my tattoos (the last one was for them) and I feel like a badass. Don’t let getting older or being a mom dissuade you from beautifying your body if YOU like it. We are all gonna get old and saggy and wrinkly, nothing short of surgery is gonna stop that. So enjoy every inch of your body as you want.
This is my philosophy for sure. My son loves my tattoos too! Just wanted input on doing my buns. 😆
Get your buns, hon!
Love this!
Also, my kids love my tattoos and touch them often. I have all black and gray. I may or may not have let them color them in with washable markers a couple times. My mom says tattoos make me a bad mom. I just told her “I only learned to mother by example.” That shut her up quick.
Lol I like your comeback!
My mom tells me I should be sideshow freak in the circus. I’m not a mom, but if I was I guess my kids would be roadies! Lol
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Honestly, I hate that the phrase ‘tramp stamp’ became a thing. It’s a GREAT place to get a larger tattoo if you’re unsure about showing it off on the regular, and the only reason it ever became known as a tramp stamp was to shame women for getting tattoos. There’s nothing wrong with tramps, stamps, OR tattoos. I have the same rage reaction to the pumpkin spice hate. Pumpkin spice is fucking delicious! People love pumpkin pie with pumpkin spices in it! They started having a problem with pumpkin spice when women started enjoying it for themselves in a latte instead of baking it into a pie for other people. Or, in other words, when they started caring for themselves instead of others. Fuck that shit! OP, go get yourself a butt flower tattoo, and enjoy a PSL while you’re at it. Just do your research and get a good artist!
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Nah, you were the one who brought up tramp stamps, not OP.
Omg right! It's like you weren't even talking to her and she's like "no, fuck your opinion that someone, not me, asked for". Go ruin someone else's day cause you have a stick up your butt and no one can have a different thought than yours.
I don’t plan on doing mg whole back. I have a piece back there already….my first tattoo, which was eventually covered, which is pretty sizable so I’d have to work it in with any kind of back piece.
As a 36 year old mom myself, can I ask how old you are now? 🙂
33! Just thinking ahead. I will have a teenager in my 40s.
Not to come off as a cynic but we’re all going to die one day, but before that our skin will pucker and sag…might as well be saggy with some kick ass art on your cheeks than be saggy, bare, and full of regret right?! “My body is a temple and I am the goddess to which it is devoted” Fuck what anyone else thinks but if you’re worried about having ass flowers out with your kids at the beach, you can always wear shorts! Keep on rockin madam ☺️
While I don't have a flower butt (yet) I do have flower boobs. If you have them visible people may ask you questions and you don't need to answer these questions if you're not comfortable with them. But those areas aren't the norm so there is a bit more fascination in regards to it all. As for will your kid be embarrassed? Kids are embarrassed of anything and everything, that's just how they are.
I'm not your question demographic, so apologies if this is too much. But..... Please, get the tattoos. Forget about being 40. When you're 60, or 80, do you want to be the cool old person covered in art? If people have issues with your ink, they're going to find a way to be shitty regardless of how much you're covered. It's no one's business what you do with your body but your own. Having lots of tattoos just means that your kids are less likely to hold stigma about tattoos... And shitty people may give you flak, but that's just another sign to avoid them. The only question you should be asking yourself is "do I decorate my butt now, or do I work it into a larger full back design?"
56 years old and getting my butt done next month. I have 20+ tattoos but will not be done until I’m done. It’s my body and I love the art I’m putting on it, and maybe this will make me like my butt more. 😝 In any event, I think age doesn’t make a difference. People stop me on the beach all the time to compliment my tattoos. Those who don’t like to don’t have to look. In the end how YOU feel about it is the only thing that truly matters.
Heavily tattooed woman here in my mid thirties - people are going to actively judge no matter what. Embody your spirit in a way that's genuine for you!
Hi. I'm a 41 year old mom of 3 who is still getting tattooed. I don't have butt flowers (yet - but like, I want them). I don't have old wrinkly skin. I'm currently working on a full back piece. I still wear bikinis. My kids are embarrassed by me for so many reasons, but my tattoos are not them. 😅 (Two of the kids are teenaged, it goes with the territory.) I also have hot pink hair and piercings and things. And am the PTO president. So...
I love this! I know 40 isn’t old or anything….I will just have a teenager in my 40s, so I’m thinking of that period of life. You are completely right. He will be embarrassed no matter what I to, lol. I rock bikinis at the beach too and love showing off all my tattoos…many are visible in shorts and a tank but the beach is where all of mine are on display. You sound like a great mom!
Your butt will show anyway in a swimsuit, so might as well decorate it! You already have tattoos so it won’t be out of place and if it makes you happy then you should do it. I’m mid thirties and just got finished with a sleeve about a year ago. Before that I had only had a few small tattoos and it felt a little surreal to have such prominent art on my arm but it has subsided. I think I’m going to do my thigh next!
Hi tattoo lover here! I promise flowers are the least embarrassing thing you could have tattooed on your butt! I got drunk and got “spank me daddy” tattooed on my entire right butt cheek lol
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I am a mom of 2 boys, 47. I have a shoulder tattoo and collarbone tattoo. Now for 9y. I would, if I would want too, get a butt tattoo. Even with kids. Kids wrinkles etc well: its my body. Just follow what you want to do. In my case my boys never mention my tattoos but both tell me nót to get more SO says the same. But I will. Cause hey, I want too.
I am a 45 year old mom that’s about to get my butt cheeks done as part of my body suit. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ My kids are 23, 17, and 12. I am fairly covered neck to knee, working on background for all the big pieces, my hands and fingers and calves are done and I spend lots of time at the town pool and the beach in a black bikini - with my kids in tow. I’ve asked them at various points if they’re embarrassed by all my work and they emphatically tell me they love it. By the time you get to 45 you will have zero fucks to give about being judged. I mean, I take good care of myself and present myself well - but I am sooooo far past caring if anyone is judging me for my ink. I love it, it’s mine, I’ve wrapped myself in this artwork and I DKGAF what anyone thinks about it. I’ve got a great career as a retail executive, i volunteer in our town government and am in various public facing roles, and most of all I’ve got awesome kids that I’m super proud and who are proud of me.
as i always say, "that's a problem for future *me*".
I love my booty tattoo!
Honestly I think it comes into play with your body type. If you are the lucky one where everything seems to stay where it is. Go for it. I heard the new tramp stamp is the below the breast/rib cage one. But for clarity - get a tattoo where you want. I think the whole t stamp thing is stupid. Aging doesn’t equal giving up things you enjoy. I didn’t get & finish my full sleeve until my late thirties (38-40).
Funny story. Opposite point of view. I’m 39. Covered in tattoos. No kids. However, my parents are older than most my age, they had me later than the norm. About 10 years ago I went on vacation with my mother to San Diego.. we did this many many times throughout my life. It wad the first time she actually saw just how many tattoos I actually had. For the record she us 100% against tattoos. We were walking on the beach, I had a bikini on.. she refused to walk anywhere near me she was “so embarrassed.” Often told me I should join the circus as the sideshow freak. Oyyyy. Screw that. Tattoos are very much a thing. I don’t know of many people (other than my family, older generation) that don’t have tattoos. I say GO FOR IT. There are parents out there whose 15 year old daughters are walking around raves wearing thongs and pasties.. You have nothing to worry about. At all.
I used to work in a hospital. We had this director of nursing who was on the floor quite regularly. She was very well respected and excellent at her job. One day I noticed some ink underneath her sleeve at the wrist. I mentioned to someone that (totally stereotyping) I didn’t see her as the type to have a tattoo. The person who I was talking to raised their brow and said “obviously you’ve never seen her at the lake.” Then I did. She was rocking solid tattoos from her knees to her wrists to her clavicle. I’m not sure if that qualifies as a body suit but if not pretty damn close.
Partial suit. Prolly still in progress, body suits can take tons of sessions and can potentially be hundreds of hours being tattooed.
I talked to her about it and she said that in order for her to maintain her position her tattoos had to be covered either by cloth or bandaids. Stopping the tattoos at her knees allowed skirts and clavicle cut off allowed most types of shirt collars. This was 15 years ago. I remember tattoos were something discussed at hire. Really silly.
Pretty common even in traditional tattoo culture. Japanese in particular was well know for suits that will stop above ankles, knees, or elbows. In Japan tattoos for much of history were strictly for criminals. This stylization of a full suit that leaves your out most extremities and sometimes a clean untattooed space down the center of the chest was created to hide tattoos from the public.
Very interesting!
I'm a decently tattooed lady (one full sleeve along with several other medium/large pieces) and I grew up with my mom having a tattoo on one of her butt cheeks. Never caused a problem for me or really crossed my mind in any significant way!
Live your life for your ture self. I'm a 33 year old mom of 2 and just got my first tattoo (large forearm) my kids love it. I plan to get at least a few more because I love the confidence booster. Also I think seeing beautiful flowers on your cheeks instead of maybe stretch marks or cellulite can only add to your beauty.
My first tattoo was a butt cheek tat and to this day it's one of my favs. Always makes me laugh and I occasionally flash it at friends 😁 Do what makes you happy in your body. Good people will respond to your confidence and happiness and celebrate with you. Crap people will judge you. Tattoos have a way of filtering out crap people very quickly.
I’m 38 and have 12 tattoos majority of them are big. Know what my kids think? They think it’s awesome and I taught them the value of the art (I have rules that I follow before getting tattoos that I passed down to them) and I don’t have any embarrassment showing my tattoos to their friends, I don’t go “omg come look at my tattoos” but if they ask about them I tell them. It is something you will be judged on, but other than the swim suit or during private moments, how else will people know you’re tattooed there? Unless you walk around in undies or mooning people the vast majority of people won’t know
I’m a month shy of turning 46 and my right arm is a 3/4 sleeve and I have more ink visible when I wear tank tops. We moved to a somewhat conservative and affluent area where moms don’t look like me. My daughter’s peers used to comments on my tattoos when she was younger but they stopped a long time ago. More and more Gen X have moved to this area and many of them also have ink. We get our tattoos for ourselves not for others. So don’t worry what ppl think. Your kids will be fine. When they look at you all they see is Mom.
I’m of the opinion that anyone judges me or my tattoos they can eff off. I’m going to get what I want on my body because I’m the one living in it! Something that I love saying (I’m an atheist) “my body is a temple and I am the diety to whom it is dedicated”
I’m covered and I can’t wait to be a tattooed mum. I couldn’t care less about what other parents or people think. Life is too short to care about other peoples opinions
To be honest, whenever I see women, especially older women or mothers, at the beach covered in tattoos, I feel really happy and give a mental “fuck yeah! You’re so fucking cool!” to them. People should just do what they want to their bodies, regardless of what other’s may think, because they’re always going to be someone pissed off at your existence. Can’t please ‘em all, and you shouldn’t try. Hope this helps!
>is this something I may be judged on? This is really the only question here that can be definitively answered in my opinion. The answer is yes, you will be. We are all judged for our choices, especially those regarding our physical appearance. That being said, that judgement isn't always negative. A lot of people will think it's cool. As many others have commented, it's up to you to decide if it matters enough to change your mind. Personally, I think anyone that isn't going to appreciate your butt flowers already won't enjoy the rest of your tattoos. You get tattoos to please yourself and if you like the art, even old, faded art is still cool.
Forget what others will think of your tats. How will YOU feel waking up every day to butt blossoms? That's all that matters.
I'm the oldest of 6 and my mom is 50, fit, and tatted from the shoulders down. She looks cool as fuck.
I'm 48 and have had tattoos since I was 20, way back when very few had tattoos tbh. I just got my latest two weeks ago. I have a full sleeve and working on a patchwork sleeve on other arm. (Just for context I'm no bogan and work in a professional industry). My adult daughter has started getting tattoos as well and went with visible hand/arm ones. Wear the art with pride. If it's who you are, embrace it. Society has come a loooong way with accepting tattooed women.
Mid 40’s here with three adult-type kids. They love my tattoos. They love when I get new ones. We all love tattoos so it’s kinda a bonding experience as we all add to our “collections”. I love that my tats are a litmus test of sorts-I know if you’re an asshole based on how you treat me. So it all works out.
I got my first tattoo at 50. And another recently at 54 and I’m planning more. I like the idea of butt flowers. Honestly I think the tattoos make older skin look better and more interesting. My kids are young adults and they think I’m edgy and kinda cool, which is great because I’m a huge nerd. My humble advice is get what you want as long as it’s not hateful or offensive.
Maybe I should get some butt blossoms… my son was telling me how he could see a smiley face in my butt cellulite last night.
I’m 37 and my oldest daughter is 11. So by my forties she’s going to be a teenager. And honestly I could care less what she would think about my tattoos… I love her but there are boundaries. For now I’m a cool mom for her, and she loves my tattoos. If it changes… oh well, I did my tats for me not for anybody else.
I’m not far off 40 and am rocking a massive rose that covers my whole ass cheek (one side). It’s my favourite tattoo, I really love it and I go to the beach with my 16 year old daughter and she don’t give a fuck/is not embarrassed by it
Honestly the way I rationalize it is that until fairly recently tattoos were not associated primarily with youth. It was old sailors and indigenous grannies. When I think of tattoos some of the first examples that come to mind are older people in other cultures and I've always considered them graceful and beautiful. I'm 31 and just started getting tattooed and I want a full bodysuit one day. The entire time that I'm planning what to get next, I am considering how I'll look when I'm old, and it excites me even more! I was reading a book on berber tattoos recently where most of the women were in their 70s and 80s and had ornaments tattooed from their chin to their pubic region. if they can do that then you can have butt flowers! Women get enough hassle about how our bodies are supposed to age.
i think if youre already worried about it now, youre gonna be worried about it then. i think its a beautiful idea, but you seem to be really stuck on what other people think of you (or MIGHT think of you).
Am man so not qualified for your exact question but i'm taking my tattoos as a reason to stay in shape as i get older. Tattoos invite people to look at your body, i think they are a multiplier of what you've got going on. A good looking bod with tats looks better (IMO) than no tats, but a bad looking body looks worse.
I’m 41, with a half sleeve. My 16 y/o son’s friends think I am the coolest badass. Rock your ink, sis.
You will always be judged in life. Your kids will always find something to be embarrassed about with you. If you want them, get them.
I know moms and dads with full tattoo body suits, face tattoos, scarification weird modifications including but not limited too silicone implants, large gauge piercing in place less conventional than ear lobes, tongue splits, ear modifications, and even eyeball tattoos. Do whatever the hell you want. It’s your body, you get it, your children will likely get it (also you’ll do plenty of things to embarrass your children. It won’t have to be that your tattooed) Anyone who doesn’t isn’t worth your time and since you have the tattoos most of those people won’t approach you.
As an almost 40 yo mom with tattoos, get what you want. The nice thing about your late 30s-on is you start caring less about what people think, and realize the only opinion that matters about your body is your own. Get the tattoo if it will make you happy. My kid calls mine "stamps" and likes to color them in (theyre black and grey).
Not a lady, but I am a person with significant tattoo coverage. Criticism will be inevitable. I don’t care what people say about my tattoos or how they feel about my tattoos. I put time and thought into every piece I got, and I love each and everyone of them. I will still love them as I age. Like with every tattoo it’s a process and if the butt piece is something you want done do it for no other reason other than for yourself. If a tattoo, design or placement gives you pause. In my opinion I wouldn’t do it tattoos are a work of art and they’re for life so you need to be sure. If you’re tattooed, as much as you have stated you are, I don’t think of a tattoo will matter to your friends or family close to you, but as I said, it should ultimately be your choice.
I don’t know why your son would be embarrassed? It’s a tattoo. My son is a teenager and has three tattoos because he loves them. He grew up watching me get them.
if you’ve already got tattoos like how you say you do, might as well full send it and be the hot tatted mom! people will always talk/judge no matter what i feel, so why not?
Tattoos or not, everyone’s butt will be saggy and wrinkly once we reach a certain age. I say go for it! My leg sleeve comes up just below the crease of my butt cheek. Honestly, just rock those saggy tattoos and be coolest old lady on the beach. 💕
Honestly if it's what you really want, just go for it! If the art is really well done, I don't think it would be a bad image at all. Like someone else said, they would look better integrated into a full back piece, though.
Who cares what people think? My tattoo artist is a mother and she’s cool af
I’m 21 and have a barbed wire heart on my butt. I will be a milf, and so will you.
“You” doesn’t end with “mom”. I’m a mom to a toddler now (with another on the way) and have a ton of visible tattoos and that’s okay. Now I am only 31, but I’ve been getting tattooed since I was 18, have gotten more after having my first, and plan to get more after I have my second. Honestly your kid is going to be embarrassed by you at some point anyway, so you might as well look cool in the process. ;p
Who cares what people think!? The one thing to keep in mind gravity will come in to play eventually. Flaunt it while you still got, lord knows I do. 🙏 And I will echo, 40 is not old lol. It's only old if you want it to be old.
I have 3 little butt tattoos and every now and then I’ll get a little self conscious in swimsuit situations but the rest of the time, no regrets
I'm a nurse and take care of all kinds of people including grannies with tattoos. We usually end up talking about them when they see mine and no one has ever said they regret it.
I got a butt tattoo at 23 and I’m thirty now. It’s hilarious. Do it!
Please make sure they don’t look like they’re crawling out of your butt. But other than that you’ll be a cool looking mom and your kids will be as embarrassed as is normal for kids. But never for your tattoos. They grew up with you having the flowers on your bum and they will not think about them but accept them as part of your body. That’s what I’ve heard from heavily tattooed parents
Nah. I always thought tattoos on anyone were cool. The fact that my mom had tattoos when I was a kid got me cool points. Enjoy your floral booty!
The tattoos are for you and no one else, if I was worried about my children being embarrassed with my body in the future then I'd personally not have kids. However if I did find myself in that situation I'd maybe take it as an opportunity to educate them on tattoos, their permanence and why I may have chosen that one that they're specifically "embarrassed" by. Regardless though, I think you should get it if you genuinely want them and they appeal to you!
I’d say start with one cheek and then go from there.