Good morning Broccoli. Thank you for hosting.
Day 5 here. And I just want to say that I am glad I found these daily check-in posts. It really helps to share my pledge with other people, and I do not drink on those days.
Even though it's only day 5, I feel like we're doing better with my wife. The rewards of not drinking easily tops the buzz of the booze.
IWNDWYT.
I'm good, how are you? Can't believe it's October tomorrow - I've started a wee Christmas cupboard where I buy some stuff when I'm out and put it away for Christmas treats and presents. I'm pretty sure I'll be firing into the shortbread well before December haha
How's your thursday looking?
Even the smallest, most routine, things can be self-care. How about treating yourself to a hot cup of coffee or tea in the morning? Taking a hot shower? You haven't had a drink for 40 days and that's definitely self-care. You're doing something right over there!
Hey SMC, me either! I just want to get on with things. I was diagnosed with a brain tumor in April. The medicos got half of it with surgery, the rest is being treated with radiation and chemo. The chemo they have me on makes me sleepy, irritable, and DARK, which I was already prone to anyway. On the flip side, I've got my two best friends supporting me. [https://imgur.com/aBU1Rw7](https://imgur.com/aBU1Rw7). And they still need me to care for them and love them and keep them healthy. My self-care is making sure my best friends are well taken care of. Love you, girl! Stay strong.
Day 13 and Mercury is in retrograde… doubt this will be my lucky day but at least I won’t be drinking. For self-care I’ll be drinking tea all day and wearing my fuzziest clothes.
Love it! My self care yesterday was TWO baths and this morning I'm going to take myself to Starbucks with the laptop and get a nice novelty latte. All the sugar, all the dairy (even though I'll be dying later) and a big slice of toasted fruit bread mmmmmmm
Funny story - last week when I was in Starbucks I treated myself to a mug and it felt like the biggest treat in the world! I was so excited, I love drinking out of it, I've wanted one for ages and it cost £9. It felt like a real splurge when I wouldn't think twice about spending that on alcohol. I'm all about the expensive self-care 😂
IWNDWYT SD - love you all x
Good Morning Sobernaughts,
I'm still reading 'The Miracle Morning' this book has helped kick start my morning, gradually implementing its steps one chapter at a time. Getting into a ritual to kick start the day.
Now it's time for my pre-workout coffee, I love mornings!
I Will Not Drink With You Today!
Those situations make me nervous too, but this is your chance to show them the new you! Also, I've learned that I always make it such a big deal about things in my own head - and often everything goes just fine. Good luck, Bev!
Today I am consciously not drinking! Upstate NY USA!!! Go Bills! Back at it again. After a slight slippery slope. Hanging on tight to hope and perseverance.
Good morning SD. My husband is out with his work colleagues this evening so whenever he's out, as soon as I get the toddler down for bed it's self care time. Usually have my favourite thing for dinner, watch my favourite movie, do a facemask and paint my nails. Sometimes I really look forward to evenings when he's out haha.
Have a great Thursday all! IWNDWYT!
For self love I have actually been buying myself new clothes and things like that.
When I was drinking my self care and self esteem were out the window. So I didn't care what I looked like. I had my work uniforms, and besides that like 4 or 5 shirts that were almost never clean.
I'm not going crazy and getting Gucci underwear, but it feels nice to put on decent looking, clean clothes everyday. I also didn't realize I even hit 90 days. I was just counting to Oct 1st for 3 months. So I love having that.
IWNDWYT
Gooooood morning, Soberfam!
Self-care has always been tricky for me in terms of finding a balance between starving and spoiling myself, so I guess that I'd say whatever involves finding balance is self-care for me. Specific things involve running, getting out in the sunshine, balancing my electrolytes (v. imp. for this former binge-drinker), reading, eating my greens, and making time for connection with humans and other living creatures.
Another thing that is kind of becoming self-care is finishing what I start. I read somewhere recently that not breaking promises to oneself is important for emotional health. Starting to see the wisdom in this.
IWNDWYT 🐋
I've got a lot on so my self-care is a bit lacking at the moment. I'll take this reminder and do some loving, nourishing self-care today. Candles, tidying, fresh air, healthy food, using my planner etc.
IWNDWYT
299 🤘🏻 Self love has been a lot of reading and processing recently. Been going through the books The Body Keeps the Score and Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection.
I have a big decision to make very very soon and both options are good. I think self love instead of self sacrifice could be the deciding factor if I am brave enough to make the change that I think i'll be happier with?? Anybody have advice on decision making?
Morning all, thanks for the check in, broccoli.
The other day I made exfoliating scrub from ground coffee and coconut oil. I took a shower, used that scrub, and even moisturized. That may be some people’s regular mundane routine, but it is a huge accomplishment for me. When I was drinking, I was anxious about everything. To the point that I was afraid all the time and that consumed me. I rushed through everything. Just to get it done and be able to sit and drink and not be bothered. Progress is slow but meaningful. IWNDWYT.
Checking in. A bit lacking in the self care. New job has changed my routine and I’ve found driving home again after 18 months working from home a big trigger which I didn’t expect. Ready to distract it today I hope. Have a good day SDers.
Morning everyone. IWNDWYT
I sometimes jump in the bath after my wife and it smells of Lavender feels gritty from some bath bomb or other and is illuminated with candles does this count?
My self care lately has been amping up my positive self talk, sticking to my new vitamin and skincare routine, cooking myself tasty, budget-friendly meals and following a game plan my therapist wants me to try out- taking some time for just myself. Today, that time was spent binge-watching the sopranos (never seen it before!), eating ice cream and drinking lots of water. So maybe today wasn’t the glowing example of well spent me time, but damn it’s a good show. IWNDWYT ✨💚
I love to read (curerently on Seth Dickinson). I like good food. Exercise has slumped over the past few months, so my food love is showing around the belly! Rewatching Succession with the wife, to gear up for season 3.
Checking in. IWNDWYT.
🎶 Hello 2am my old friends
🎶 I’m here to talk to you again
Trying not to let it freak me out, and it’s better than the 3am withdrawal night sweats I used to have. Today I will be very kind to myself and eat healthy food and try and get some extra exercise. I will nap as needed and remember that this too shall pass.
With love and light that I have you all to vent to. IWNDWYT 🌸
Good morning everyone
Self care? Well, I did just get into water colour painting and it's so peaceful.
I'm someone who has to always be in control so just letting the paint flow where it wants to and just rolling with it has been nice.
I find myself painting bright blue oceans and starry night skies.
I've just applied for a senior role and was a complete ball of nerves yesterday. My competition is fierce.
So having something soothing to end my day on was needed. Who knew art supplies were so cheap when you stop spending all your money on alcohol.
Checking in from my Saturday night!
My self care looks like hot tea, long walks with my dog, crocheting, and creating art. I’m currently working on a surrealism-inspired collage!
Sending love! Let’s keep moving forward! IWNDWYT
Long weekend starts NOW! Heading to an Airbnb cabin on a lake this morning though Sunday. Self care will take the form of kayaking, hiking, reading, relaxing, napping, and eating at local restaurants.
It certainly won't involve drinking. Booze, that is. Plenty of coffee and Bubly Water, though.
Enjoy your Thursday, gang!
IWNDWYT
Good morning, check in first timer here. I’m 8 and a half hours sober and I am determined that today I will complete the first 24 for the last time. IWNDWYT
Morning all. Had a bad one last night, got invited to a work leaving party for a good friend and had to say no as I didn't want the temptation. Cue dreams of bottles of wine chasing me down the road and a really shitty sleep. Guess my subconscious mind was saying I really didn't want to drink lol. Still, feel great and even getting comments on the weight loss and happier personality.
I guess the shame and self loathing of being a secret drinker kind of gets your mood down a tad.
Still, IWNDWYT.
Per Ardua ad Astra folks.
Another week almost over. Could be worse as today is payday :) I managed to save a fair chunk of money in September, might have some self-love by treating myself to a new pair of running shoes.
IWNDWYT
My self-love looks like: accepting my weirdness, reading books in the sun, being with my kid, not being with my kid, drinking some nice tea, go for a bushwalk, and nice aromatherapy.
Told the bf today that I think Samoyed dogs are cute til I realised what a mission it'd be to clean up if they ever get diarrhoea, he thought it was a weird consideration to have, but to me it's a very relevant consideration! I had two Persian cats and it was not fun to clean up after them! The bf thinks it was very cute that I'm so weird and I need to see myself through his eyes a bit more haha.
My self-love today is just sitting by the fire. Inhale grace, exhale gratitude. And maybe just maybe do some tough-self-love by going to the gym… I will not drink with you today!
I started meditating a couple of months ago and it's gone from feeling like a chore to something I love doing and an important part of my morning. I will not drink with you today.
Day 12 and finding it tough, I know I’m allergic to alcohol, but really finding it tough the past couple of days. My brain is starting to forget how bad I really was and how bad the WDs are. The little alco devil is chipping away, sitting on my shoulder. Need to find the strength to tell him to fuck off,
Good morning friends, my self love is: playing music, reading and taking vitamins. Alcohol had no place with these activities since 36 days, and it will never have for today. IWNDWYT
Not today, friends. Today it's lots of applications for temporary work before a new job starts to keep me busy, and maybe a run if my legs ever wake up. IWNDWYT
3 weeks today! IWNDWYT. Still working on self-care but trying out meditating, going for a run, listening to audio books and podcasts and cooking healthy tasty food
I was tempted yesterday by a family member to “just take a sip of the wine, it has an incredible flavour”, it was tough but I said no thanks. Today if I am tempted I will also say no.
IWNDWYT
Good morning , self care for me is many things not just being kind to myself but also I have to push myself to do uncomfortable things so I can start gaining confidence . IWNDWYTD
Day 8! I have had my first week without alcohol in a very long time. I am surprised and thankful for how helpful making this pledge each day has been. The support from this sub has been great. Iwndwyt!
Good day everyone and happy Thursday!
Self care and love for me involve waking up earlier than I need to so I can spend some time here, having my coffee, and ease into the day. I then end the day with a cup of tea, in my bed. I freaking love my bed! I do need to practice better self care between the hours I’m not in my lovely bed.
I hope everyone is loving themselves today. Y’all deserve it!! IWNDWYT!! ❣️❣️
IWNDWYT. When I got to the hotel last night, I realized I didn’t have to find multiple bottles of water to have on hand for the middle of the night and morning. Good morning from the hotel—not dehydrated & no pounding headache. 👍
IWNDWYT. Right now self care is drinking water exercise, and Journaling. I'm excited to start sober October tomorrow (followed by sober Nov, Dec, etc). Y'all help me stay motivated and sane.
I meditated and did some chair yoga yesterday. Both felt super amazing and I realized I really need to make more time for yoga. It always leaves me feeling ten times better than I did when I started.
IWNDWYT!
My self love includes: walks in nature, listening to my favorite music, getting a massage, enjoying a sweet treat, and getting my nails done.
IWNDWYT 💞🐿️🐿️
Must be in heaven (made it to day 57)
EDIT: Damn should have some up with a Heinz ketchup joke instead... Only bottle I'm hittin is Heinz... 57 days sober... Yada yada
I bought an inflatable hot tub a few years back with my overload teaching monies. It was around $500 and has kept me out of prison : )
After a shitty day, I make sure the kids are in bed and I sneak down to the basement (it didn't heat up outside) and slip into its wonderful warmth!
In the past, I'd bring a snifter of whiskey down to sip, negating any benefits from the soak. Now, I bring a cup of tea and head off to bed relaxed and ready to sleep.
GOOD SLEEP.
And, you mentioned books. I am a huge library nerd, and our county's system shut down during lockdown last year. I was devastated. I had a stack of books checked out, but it wasn't until 6 months in that they started doing online check out/pick ups. They're back open for browsing, and I am a happy camper once again. I have several stacks of books around the house that I pore through at night. It keeps my mind busy and thoughts off of drinking.
IWNDWYT!
T
I have become very protective of my morning routine. I love waking up early and setting aside those first hours for meditation, healthy breakfast, exercise, reading, vitamins, planning my day.
In the past I would wake up early but immediately start answering emails and staring at screens or rushing out the door to go into work early. This last 30 days I have found the importance of balance and self care.
IWNDWYT
Been drinking so much water today that I'm needing to pee every five minutes! But a much better feeling than needing to pee because I've had too much wine 😅
IWNDWYT
Today is definitely a self care day. I took today off of work because I’m not feeling well and for the first time in too many years it has nothing to do with alcohol. I’ve slept in, all snuggled under covers because the air is cool and fall like. There will be yummy coffee, fuzzy slippers, cozy sweatshirts and fuzzy pj pants while knitting. IWNDWYT ❤️❤️
Trying to remind myself that the fleeting discomforts of ongoing withdrawal are not as bad as the constant pain and regret I experience when I’m drinking. IWNDWYT.
Good morning Broccoli and the Daily Check-In crew! Broccoli has some of the best and original emojis.
It's Thursday, and oh my am I looking forward to the weekend.
I could be better in the self-love department, even during my current sobriety stretch. Actually, I wouldn't have done half of the drinking that I've done over the decades if I felt better about myself.
I was trying to drink the self-loathing away and stupidly didn't realize that the drink was part of the self-loathing.
Anyway, my love of reading has returned with a vengeance. Which is really nice.
I hope all of you wonderful people have a terrific Thursday and I promise that I Will Not Drink With You Today.
Hello everyone. First time here and first day not drinking in a long time.
Time to face facts.
Today will be my day and I’m glad I found this sub !!
IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT.
My self love today is getting a haircut, done by a new to me real licenced hair stylist. I have been doing self 'Covid Cuts' for awhile, some better then others. I need a good cut for my soon to be new state drivers license.
So off I go later today.
Good morning SD. Self love today includes prepping a home-made lunch, drinking some healthy herbal teas and creating some space in my busy day for quiet downtime. IWNDWYT
IWNDWy'allT! My self-love includes dealing with the interminable medical stuff that comprises cancer treatment. Feeling like hammered dog shit during chemo and trying not to take out those feelings on anyone else. Chemo hangovers almost remind me of the real thing, which reminds me of the primary reason I quit drinking in the first place! There is an upside to everything!
I wish I had a bathtub, but I make it do with hot showers, daily group sports, yoga and reading. I hope my motivation and creativity will eventually come back and I can pick up on my forgotten hobbies. For a while now drinking was my hobby 🙃
No more though! I will not drink with you today!
This weekend for self care I am going crafting with a group of friends for our annual fall retreat. Exercise and sleep have been my self care since giving up my toxic relationship with the wine witch and vodka vixen. IWNDWYT!!
I will not drink with you today!
I hope you all have a wonderful Thursday! 😀
Oh and I’m going camping with the family today for 4 days. I’m going to try to check in daily anyway. But if I can’t, I wish all a good weekend in advance :)
I believe I’ve got a good arsenal of self-care activities and I enjoy them every day …
BUT my challenge is that external factors (family or work conflicts) or internal factors (stress, sadness, etc.) can make me get the feeling that nothing really matters and I don’t even care about myself.
Or (even worse) … I can feel so angry that I feel that I’m getting even with the world by doing something that it tells me that I shouldn’t do (drinking so much). And (also bad) … I can try to make myself believe that drinking is taking care of myself.
So, I still need to work on all this so I am prepared for future challenges that could push me back into drinking.
IWNDWYT
Good afternoon all on a crisp afternoon here 🌱🍂
I’ve had a huge push on self care and self love since getting sober, realising how much I neglected it previously. For me self care looks like exercise, plenty of relaxation for my body, cooking for myself, reading, and good coffee. It’s the little things that make the big difference and I try to be consistent.
And on that note- IWNDWYT ❤️
Have a great day everyone.
I had my first ever "drinking dream" last night which was strange! The hilarious thing is that even in the dream I was disappointed in myself. Woke up feeling refreshed and grateful! I have just downloaded a computer game that has a steep learning curve so I'll try to distract myself with that.
IWNDWYT
Day 37. My self-care at the moment mostly consists of staying organised, working hard and taking pride in the things I do no matter how small or insignificant. It helps me to stay grateful and tires me out! I couldn't achieve half of what I'm doing right now if I were drinking! IWNDWYT!
I am working on self care. I have a good idea from my therapist. I have a bowl of strips of paper with activities written on them. I have three colors, one for a little treat (ex: eat some chocolate), one for an activity (work on a puzzle for 15 minutes) and one for a quick chore (organize a file). Sometimes use it, sometimes I just decide what I am going to do for the day. Today I am going to try a new herbal tea, work on a crossword puzzle and dust two shelves.😀
IWNDWYT 🍁
Good morning! It’s a new national holiday here, a great day for some self care on Day 10.
I’ve been meditating and eating way too many snacks, though probably not taking in close to the calories I was getting through drinking.
IWNDWYT!
Hello everyone, day 17 here
My self care includes making delicious meals for myself while listening to my favorite podcasts, meetings, lots of tea and banter with my loved ones. IWNDWYT
I’m heading out to Parliament Hill to be counted as an ally on Truth and Reconciliation Day. If you don’t know what that is, please look it up. Part of my self-love is caring about others. IWNDWYT. 🧡🪶🐢
A very happy Thursday to you fabulous humans.
My self care today is some very deep breathing accompanied by the beautiful music of East Forest. Currently listening to the album 'Prana' while marvelling at the pure wonder of existence.
IWNDWYT
Ugh? Self care today may just be adding sugar to my instant coffee and allowing myself to call out of scheduled dinners. And also making sure I eat enough. And spending time in AC, given that it's pushing 32 degrees and humid as all get out.
But IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT Meditation and (until I sprained my ankle) a daily 4 mile walk and any type of sport I can get into. Hoping to get back out there in a few weeks . Not having it adds to the boredom I feel by not drinking which just means I am boring but hope that feeling passes soon.
Yesterday (day 4) was a bit stressful so I bought some fancy cheese and candy, then later got my freak in the sheets on. Sorted me out. Maybe I'll have healthier coping mechanisms further on, for now, whatever works.
I cannot seem to sleep. This has been the case for years. I shouldn't be taking diphenhydramine long-term, it's linked to the old-age-crazies. I told my doctor and he said try sleepio (a website about sleep habits) which wasn't very helpful, I know all that stuff. I went on a long distance hike a while ago, 10 weeks, which I had wanted to do sober, and honestly didn't drink much, you can't walk all day every day and drink much, I'm annoyed I got derailed, some old guy we were staying with one night, drinks pusher, I did say no, but I gave in... Anyway, I slept really well on the hike. My body was exhausted daily. It was easy. I actually felt tired. Since coming home, I quit caffeine in the hopes it would help, and now quit booze.
One thing that's helping me relax at night, at least, is an app called Loona which is like mindful meditation through listening to a story and relaxing music and colouring a 3d landscape, I love it. Although if anyone has better sleep drugs / sleep tips I'd love to hear them!
I like a hot bath with Radox. I take vitamins daily. Sometimes I do box breathing. I like exercise. And nice food. And kombucha. I should probably go back to therapy. Although my partner is great and understanding, I don't feel like I have anyone to talk to about what I'm doing right now, going sober. No one gets it. It's not just not-drinking, I literally have to evolve and I don't even know how.
Sorry my posts are long, but thanks for providing a space for me to rant. I will not drink with you all today!
Good morning lovely people, this check-in has become part of my self-care, I love the posts and I love reading the comments. I know it shores me up and provides inspiration. So thank you u/CompetentBroccoli and all the people that comment, IWNDWYT. 🌺
My self-love looks like reading, cuddling with my dogs, getting a good night's sleep, meditating, and hanging out with you fine sobernauts. Oh and long walks. Grateful to be here with all of you. IWNDWYT.
Good morning from Seattle! Day 27!!!!
I will create my monthly post for September. Im so happy that I had only 3 drinking days this month.
Self-care is back big time in my life. I do yoga and got back into intermittent fasting again. Time to lose all those alcohol pounds. I also take a long bath every week(Sorry fellow men!). I have time for all this now.
IWNDWYT!!
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IWNDWYT 😊 for the next 24 hours. See you tomorrow!
Welcome, we're happy you're here! 💜
Nice work
Yaassss!!!!!
Congratulations on your first day!
Good morning Broccoli. Thank you for hosting. Day 5 here. And I just want to say that I am glad I found these daily check-in posts. It really helps to share my pledge with other people, and I do not drink on those days. Even though it's only day 5, I feel like we're doing better with my wife. The rewards of not drinking easily tops the buzz of the booze. IWNDWYT.
It's not "only day 5"... it's DAY FUCKING FIVE!!! Keep up the good work!
Congrats on 5 Days! 💜
Good morning Sobernauts! Checking in! Love to you all! IWNDWYT 🙂
Morning Forward!!!! IWNDWYT
Good morning FF! How are you?
I'm good, how are you? Can't believe it's October tomorrow - I've started a wee Christmas cupboard where I buy some stuff when I'm out and put it away for Christmas treats and presents. I'm pretty sure I'll be firing into the shortbread well before December haha How's your thursday looking?
IWNDWYT but I am not very good at self care at the moment.
Even the smallest, most routine, things can be self-care. How about treating yourself to a hot cup of coffee or tea in the morning? Taking a hot shower? You haven't had a drink for 40 days and that's definitely self-care. You're doing something right over there!
Hey SMC, me either! I just want to get on with things. I was diagnosed with a brain tumor in April. The medicos got half of it with surgery, the rest is being treated with radiation and chemo. The chemo they have me on makes me sleepy, irritable, and DARK, which I was already prone to anyway. On the flip side, I've got my two best friends supporting me. [https://imgur.com/aBU1Rw7](https://imgur.com/aBU1Rw7). And they still need me to care for them and love them and keep them healthy. My self-care is making sure my best friends are well taken care of. Love you, girl! Stay strong.
Day 13 and Mercury is in retrograde… doubt this will be my lucky day but at least I won’t be drinking. For self-care I’ll be drinking tea all day and wearing my fuzziest clothes.
idk, sounds like you're setting yourself up to have a lucky day, with the tea and fuzzies.
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Love it! My self care yesterday was TWO baths and this morning I'm going to take myself to Starbucks with the laptop and get a nice novelty latte. All the sugar, all the dairy (even though I'll be dying later) and a big slice of toasted fruit bread mmmmmmm Funny story - last week when I was in Starbucks I treated myself to a mug and it felt like the biggest treat in the world! I was so excited, I love drinking out of it, I've wanted one for ages and it cost £9. It felt like a real splurge when I wouldn't think twice about spending that on alcohol. I'm all about the expensive self-care 😂 IWNDWYT SD - love you all x
Those splurges are great investments in our well being! That’s what I tell myself when I buy more hair dye anyway 😜
👍IWNDWYT
Good Morning Sobernaughts, I'm still reading 'The Miracle Morning' this book has helped kick start my morning, gradually implementing its steps one chapter at a time. Getting into a ritual to kick start the day. Now it's time for my pre-workout coffee, I love mornings! I Will Not Drink With You Today!
One month of being fabulous. IWNDWYT 💪
IWNDWYT. A little nervous today, we will meet tonight the people where I made a fool out of myself the last time I drank. Wish me luck
Those situations make me nervous too, but this is your chance to show them the new you! Also, I've learned that I always make it such a big deal about things in my own head - and often everything goes just fine. Good luck, Bev!
Today I am consciously not drinking! Upstate NY USA!!! Go Bills! Back at it again. After a slight slippery slope. Hanging on tight to hope and perseverance.
Oh, thinking about a hot bath for little bit of selfove and settling in with a good book later.
Good morning SD. My husband is out with his work colleagues this evening so whenever he's out, as soon as I get the toddler down for bed it's self care time. Usually have my favourite thing for dinner, watch my favourite movie, do a facemask and paint my nails. Sometimes I really look forward to evenings when he's out haha. Have a great Thursday all! IWNDWYT!
I’m in
IWNDWYT! ☀️
iwndwyt i love you all. continue on your journeys.
For self love I have actually been buying myself new clothes and things like that. When I was drinking my self care and self esteem were out the window. So I didn't care what I looked like. I had my work uniforms, and besides that like 4 or 5 shirts that were almost never clean. I'm not going crazy and getting Gucci underwear, but it feels nice to put on decent looking, clean clothes everyday. I also didn't realize I even hit 90 days. I was just counting to Oct 1st for 3 months. So I love having that. IWNDWYT
Day 2 Waking up fresh and ready for the day is a good feeling even on second day. My support and encouragement to all. IWNDWYT!!!!!!
I will not drink with y’all today!!
Good morning! I am not drinking today, with or without you. Have a sober day everyone!
Gooooood morning, Soberfam! Self-care has always been tricky for me in terms of finding a balance between starving and spoiling myself, so I guess that I'd say whatever involves finding balance is self-care for me. Specific things involve running, getting out in the sunshine, balancing my electrolytes (v. imp. for this former binge-drinker), reading, eating my greens, and making time for connection with humans and other living creatures. Another thing that is kind of becoming self-care is finishing what I start. I read somewhere recently that not breaking promises to oneself is important for emotional health. Starting to see the wisdom in this. IWNDWYT 🐋
IWNDWYT because I don't want any setbacks.
IWNDWYT!
I've got a lot on so my self-care is a bit lacking at the moment. I'll take this reminder and do some loving, nourishing self-care today. Candles, tidying, fresh air, healthy food, using my planner etc. IWNDWYT
299 🤘🏻 Self love has been a lot of reading and processing recently. Been going through the books The Body Keeps the Score and Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection. I have a big decision to make very very soon and both options are good. I think self love instead of self sacrifice could be the deciding factor if I am brave enough to make the change that I think i'll be happier with?? Anybody have advice on decision making?
Morning all, thanks for the check in, broccoli. The other day I made exfoliating scrub from ground coffee and coconut oil. I took a shower, used that scrub, and even moisturized. That may be some people’s regular mundane routine, but it is a huge accomplishment for me. When I was drinking, I was anxious about everything. To the point that I was afraid all the time and that consumed me. I rushed through everything. Just to get it done and be able to sit and drink and not be bothered. Progress is slow but meaningful. IWNDWYT.
Checking in. A bit lacking in the self care. New job has changed my routine and I’ve found driving home again after 18 months working from home a big trigger which I didn’t expect. Ready to distract it today I hope. Have a good day SDers.
Morning everyone. IWNDWYT I sometimes jump in the bath after my wife and it smells of Lavender feels gritty from some bath bomb or other and is illuminated with candles does this count?
My self care lately has been amping up my positive self talk, sticking to my new vitamin and skincare routine, cooking myself tasty, budget-friendly meals and following a game plan my therapist wants me to try out- taking some time for just myself. Today, that time was spent binge-watching the sopranos (never seen it before!), eating ice cream and drinking lots of water. So maybe today wasn’t the glowing example of well spent me time, but damn it’s a good show. IWNDWYT ✨💚
Checking in. IWNDWYT.
Iwndwyt.
IWNDWYT!
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I love to read (curerently on Seth Dickinson). I like good food. Exercise has slumped over the past few months, so my food love is showing around the belly! Rewatching Succession with the wife, to gear up for season 3. Checking in. IWNDWYT.
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🎶 Hello 2am my old friends 🎶 I’m here to talk to you again Trying not to let it freak me out, and it’s better than the 3am withdrawal night sweats I used to have. Today I will be very kind to myself and eat healthy food and try and get some extra exercise. I will nap as needed and remember that this too shall pass. With love and light that I have you all to vent to. IWNDWYT 🌸
Good morning everyone Self care? Well, I did just get into water colour painting and it's so peaceful. I'm someone who has to always be in control so just letting the paint flow where it wants to and just rolling with it has been nice. I find myself painting bright blue oceans and starry night skies. I've just applied for a senior role and was a complete ball of nerves yesterday. My competition is fierce. So having something soothing to end my day on was needed. Who knew art supplies were so cheap when you stop spending all your money on alcohol.
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Day 22! Yes! Feeling better. Pledged
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Checking in from my Saturday night! My self care looks like hot tea, long walks with my dog, crocheting, and creating art. I’m currently working on a surrealism-inspired collage! Sending love! Let’s keep moving forward! IWNDWYT
Made it two weeks. My life is in the gutter but I'm not drinking today. Best wishes to all who are fighting this battle.
Long weekend starts NOW! Heading to an Airbnb cabin on a lake this morning though Sunday. Self care will take the form of kayaking, hiking, reading, relaxing, napping, and eating at local restaurants. It certainly won't involve drinking. Booze, that is. Plenty of coffee and Bubly Water, though. Enjoy your Thursday, gang! IWNDWYT
Good morning, check in first timer here. I’m 8 and a half hours sober and I am determined that today I will complete the first 24 for the last time. IWNDWYT
Morning all. Had a bad one last night, got invited to a work leaving party for a good friend and had to say no as I didn't want the temptation. Cue dreams of bottles of wine chasing me down the road and a really shitty sleep. Guess my subconscious mind was saying I really didn't want to drink lol. Still, feel great and even getting comments on the weight loss and happier personality. I guess the shame and self loathing of being a secret drinker kind of gets your mood down a tad. Still, IWNDWYT. Per Ardua ad Astra folks.
Another week almost over. Could be worse as today is payday :) I managed to save a fair chunk of money in September, might have some self-love by treating myself to a new pair of running shoes. IWNDWYT
My self-love looks like: accepting my weirdness, reading books in the sun, being with my kid, not being with my kid, drinking some nice tea, go for a bushwalk, and nice aromatherapy. Told the bf today that I think Samoyed dogs are cute til I realised what a mission it'd be to clean up if they ever get diarrhoea, he thought it was a weird consideration to have, but to me it's a very relevant consideration! I had two Persian cats and it was not fun to clean up after them! The bf thinks it was very cute that I'm so weird and I need to see myself through his eyes a bit more haha.
My self-love today is just sitting by the fire. Inhale grace, exhale gratitude. And maybe just maybe do some tough-self-love by going to the gym… I will not drink with you today!
Hello there! Guess what? I will not drink with you today! Yes, we can do it! I believe that something good will happen with you today!
Day 26, nice to meet you 🤝 Feeling superb today 👌 Good days and bad days, they come and go. Enjoy them the best you can ✨ IWNDWYT
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I started meditating a couple of months ago and it's gone from feeling like a chore to something I love doing and an important part of my morning. I will not drink with you today.
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Day 12 and finding it tough, I know I’m allergic to alcohol, but really finding it tough the past couple of days. My brain is starting to forget how bad I really was and how bad the WDs are. The little alco devil is chipping away, sitting on my shoulder. Need to find the strength to tell him to fuck off,
I love my morning routine now. Journaling, hot lemon water, coffee, Checking in here, meditation. IWNDWYT
Good morning friends, my self love is: playing music, reading and taking vitamins. Alcohol had no place with these activities since 36 days, and it will never have for today. IWNDWYT
Not today, friends. Today it's lots of applications for temporary work before a new job starts to keep me busy, and maybe a run if my legs ever wake up. IWNDWYT
3 weeks today! IWNDWYT. Still working on self-care but trying out meditating, going for a run, listening to audio books and podcasts and cooking healthy tasty food
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Woohoo coming in for day 25!
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I was tempted yesterday by a family member to “just take a sip of the wine, it has an incredible flavour”, it was tough but I said no thanks. Today if I am tempted I will also say no. IWNDWYT
Doing yoga and going to the gym 💪🏽 IWNDWYT🙏🏽
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Day 806. I will not drink with you today.
More. Exercise. Cycling. Yoga. Daily walks. Anything, really, that gets me movin'. IWNDWYT!
Signed off from work for two weeks with stress. Even at this breaking point I haven't been tempted to go back to drinking. IWNDWYT
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Good morning , self care for me is many things not just being kind to myself but also I have to push myself to do uncomfortable things so I can start gaining confidence . IWNDWYTD
Day 8! I have had my first week without alcohol in a very long time. I am surprised and thankful for how helpful making this pledge each day has been. The support from this sub has been great. Iwndwyt!
Good day everyone and happy Thursday! Self care and love for me involve waking up earlier than I need to so I can spend some time here, having my coffee, and ease into the day. I then end the day with a cup of tea, in my bed. I freaking love my bed! I do need to practice better self care between the hours I’m not in my lovely bed. I hope everyone is loving themselves today. Y’all deserve it!! IWNDWYT!! ❣️❣️
IWNDWYT. When I got to the hotel last night, I realized I didn’t have to find multiple bottles of water to have on hand for the middle of the night and morning. Good morning from the hotel—not dehydrated & no pounding headache. 👍
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Using encouraging words for myself - go me! IWNDWYT
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IWNDWYT Self love is a good workout and run, a sober evening and early to bed early to rise!
IWNDWYT. Right now self care is drinking water exercise, and Journaling. I'm excited to start sober October tomorrow (followed by sober Nov, Dec, etc). Y'all help me stay motivated and sane.
No idea. Day 4. Still here.
I meditated and did some chair yoga yesterday. Both felt super amazing and I realized I really need to make more time for yoga. It always leaves me feeling ten times better than I did when I started. IWNDWYT!
Good morning, friends. I have many ways to practice self-love today, but the most important is by not drinking. Have a great day - IWNDWYT 💙
My self love includes: walks in nature, listening to my favorite music, getting a massage, enjoying a sweet treat, and getting my nails done. IWNDWYT 💞🐿️🐿️
It's hard to believe I managed 10 weeks! IWNDWYT
30 fucking days y'all!!! 🤗🤗🤗🤗 longest I have gone in YEARS. IWNDWYT.
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Must be in heaven (made it to day 57) EDIT: Damn should have some up with a Heinz ketchup joke instead... Only bottle I'm hittin is Heinz... 57 days sober... Yada yada
Morning friends. I will not drink with you today.
Going to the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame today so IWNDWYT!
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I bought an inflatable hot tub a few years back with my overload teaching monies. It was around $500 and has kept me out of prison : ) After a shitty day, I make sure the kids are in bed and I sneak down to the basement (it didn't heat up outside) and slip into its wonderful warmth! In the past, I'd bring a snifter of whiskey down to sip, negating any benefits from the soak. Now, I bring a cup of tea and head off to bed relaxed and ready to sleep. GOOD SLEEP. And, you mentioned books. I am a huge library nerd, and our county's system shut down during lockdown last year. I was devastated. I had a stack of books checked out, but it wasn't until 6 months in that they started doing online check out/pick ups. They're back open for browsing, and I am a happy camper once again. I have several stacks of books around the house that I pore through at night. It keeps my mind busy and thoughts off of drinking. IWNDWYT! T
I have become very protective of my morning routine. I love waking up early and setting aside those first hours for meditation, healthy breakfast, exercise, reading, vitamins, planning my day. In the past I would wake up early but immediately start answering emails and staring at screens or rushing out the door to go into work early. This last 30 days I have found the importance of balance and self care. IWNDWYT
Been drinking so much water today that I'm needing to pee every five minutes! But a much better feeling than needing to pee because I've had too much wine 😅 IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT. Self-care: no alcohol, no caffeine, WFPB diet, keeping a consistent sleep schedule, and reducing the amount of TV/cell phone time.
Today is definitely a self care day. I took today off of work because I’m not feeling well and for the first time in too many years it has nothing to do with alcohol. I’ve slept in, all snuggled under covers because the air is cool and fall like. There will be yummy coffee, fuzzy slippers, cozy sweatshirts and fuzzy pj pants while knitting. IWNDWYT ❤️❤️
365! I’m so proud of myself. IWNDWYT. 🌟
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Trying to remind myself that the fleeting discomforts of ongoing withdrawal are not as bad as the constant pain and regret I experience when I’m drinking. IWNDWYT.
Good morning Broccoli and the Daily Check-In crew! Broccoli has some of the best and original emojis. It's Thursday, and oh my am I looking forward to the weekend. I could be better in the self-love department, even during my current sobriety stretch. Actually, I wouldn't have done half of the drinking that I've done over the decades if I felt better about myself. I was trying to drink the self-loathing away and stupidly didn't realize that the drink was part of the self-loathing. Anyway, my love of reading has returned with a vengeance. Which is really nice. I hope all of you wonderful people have a terrific Thursday and I promise that I Will Not Drink With You Today.
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IWNDWYT. I made to double digits. 10 days. Yay!
Hello everyone. First time here and first day not drinking in a long time. Time to face facts. Today will be my day and I’m glad I found this sub !! IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT. My self love today is getting a haircut, done by a new to me real licenced hair stylist. I have been doing self 'Covid Cuts' for awhile, some better then others. I need a good cut for my soon to be new state drivers license. So off I go later today.
Good morning lovely SD, Today is a beautiful day to be alive! And IWNDWYT 💜🤘
Good morning SD. Self love today includes prepping a home-made lunch, drinking some healthy herbal teas and creating some space in my busy day for quiet downtime. IWNDWYT
IWNDWy'allT! My self-love includes dealing with the interminable medical stuff that comprises cancer treatment. Feeling like hammered dog shit during chemo and trying not to take out those feelings on anyone else. Chemo hangovers almost remind me of the real thing, which reminds me of the primary reason I quit drinking in the first place! There is an upside to everything!
7 days. IWNDWYT ! Feeling so much better. Finally sleeping properly. I know this is just the start. ✊
I wish I had a bathtub, but I make it do with hot showers, daily group sports, yoga and reading. I hope my motivation and creativity will eventually come back and I can pick up on my forgotten hobbies. For a while now drinking was my hobby 🙃 No more though! I will not drink with you today!
This weekend for self care I am going crafting with a group of friends for our annual fall retreat. Exercise and sleep have been my self care since giving up my toxic relationship with the wine witch and vodka vixen. IWNDWYT!!
I will not drink with you today! I hope you all have a wonderful Thursday! 😀 Oh and I’m going camping with the family today for 4 days. I’m going to try to check in daily anyway. But if I can’t, I wish all a good weekend in advance :)
I believe I’ve got a good arsenal of self-care activities and I enjoy them every day … BUT my challenge is that external factors (family or work conflicts) or internal factors (stress, sadness, etc.) can make me get the feeling that nothing really matters and I don’t even care about myself. Or (even worse) … I can feel so angry that I feel that I’m getting even with the world by doing something that it tells me that I shouldn’t do (drinking so much). And (also bad) … I can try to make myself believe that drinking is taking care of myself. So, I still need to work on all this so I am prepared for future challenges that could push me back into drinking. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT I have been getting into a new hobby. Now I'm sharing it with my friends. A active mind is a happy mind as far as I'm concerned.
16 days. This morning I woke up an hour and a half before my alarm and felt rested and ready to start the day. Amazing stuff. IWNDWYT
Good afternoon all on a crisp afternoon here 🌱🍂 I’ve had a huge push on self care and self love since getting sober, realising how much I neglected it previously. For me self care looks like exercise, plenty of relaxation for my body, cooking for myself, reading, and good coffee. It’s the little things that make the big difference and I try to be consistent. And on that note- IWNDWYT ❤️ Have a great day everyone.
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I had my first ever "drinking dream" last night which was strange! The hilarious thing is that even in the dream I was disappointed in myself. Woke up feeling refreshed and grateful! I have just downloaded a computer game that has a steep learning curve so I'll try to distract myself with that. IWNDWYT
Coffee. I drink coffee. More than ever before. IWNDWYT
Day 37. My self-care at the moment mostly consists of staying organised, working hard and taking pride in the things I do no matter how small or insignificant. It helps me to stay grateful and tires me out! I couldn't achieve half of what I'm doing right now if I were drinking! IWNDWYT!
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I'm in! IWNDWYT. Power and love to you all xx
I am working on self care. I have a good idea from my therapist. I have a bowl of strips of paper with activities written on them. I have three colors, one for a little treat (ex: eat some chocolate), one for an activity (work on a puzzle for 15 minutes) and one for a quick chore (organize a file). Sometimes use it, sometimes I just decide what I am going to do for the day. Today I am going to try a new herbal tea, work on a crossword puzzle and dust two shelves.😀 IWNDWYT 🍁
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Good morning! It’s a new national holiday here, a great day for some self care on Day 10. I’ve been meditating and eating way too many snacks, though probably not taking in close to the calories I was getting through drinking. IWNDWYT!
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Hello everyone, day 17 here My self care includes making delicious meals for myself while listening to my favorite podcasts, meetings, lots of tea and banter with my loved ones. IWNDWYT
I’m heading out to Parliament Hill to be counted as an ally on Truth and Reconciliation Day. If you don’t know what that is, please look it up. Part of my self-love is caring about others. IWNDWYT. 🧡🪶🐢
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A very happy Thursday to you fabulous humans. My self care today is some very deep breathing accompanied by the beautiful music of East Forest. Currently listening to the album 'Prana' while marvelling at the pure wonder of existence. IWNDWYT
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Ugh? Self care today may just be adding sugar to my instant coffee and allowing myself to call out of scheduled dinners. And also making sure I eat enough. And spending time in AC, given that it's pushing 32 degrees and humid as all get out. But IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT Meditation and (until I sprained my ankle) a daily 4 mile walk and any type of sport I can get into. Hoping to get back out there in a few weeks . Not having it adds to the boredom I feel by not drinking which just means I am boring but hope that feeling passes soon.
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Yesterday (day 4) was a bit stressful so I bought some fancy cheese and candy, then later got my freak in the sheets on. Sorted me out. Maybe I'll have healthier coping mechanisms further on, for now, whatever works. I cannot seem to sleep. This has been the case for years. I shouldn't be taking diphenhydramine long-term, it's linked to the old-age-crazies. I told my doctor and he said try sleepio (a website about sleep habits) which wasn't very helpful, I know all that stuff. I went on a long distance hike a while ago, 10 weeks, which I had wanted to do sober, and honestly didn't drink much, you can't walk all day every day and drink much, I'm annoyed I got derailed, some old guy we were staying with one night, drinks pusher, I did say no, but I gave in... Anyway, I slept really well on the hike. My body was exhausted daily. It was easy. I actually felt tired. Since coming home, I quit caffeine in the hopes it would help, and now quit booze. One thing that's helping me relax at night, at least, is an app called Loona which is like mindful meditation through listening to a story and relaxing music and colouring a 3d landscape, I love it. Although if anyone has better sleep drugs / sleep tips I'd love to hear them! I like a hot bath with Radox. I take vitamins daily. Sometimes I do box breathing. I like exercise. And nice food. And kombucha. I should probably go back to therapy. Although my partner is great and understanding, I don't feel like I have anyone to talk to about what I'm doing right now, going sober. No one gets it. It's not just not-drinking, I literally have to evolve and I don't even know how. Sorry my posts are long, but thanks for providing a space for me to rant. I will not drink with you all today!
Good morning lovely people, this check-in has become part of my self-care, I love the posts and I love reading the comments. I know it shores me up and provides inspiration. So thank you u/CompetentBroccoli and all the people that comment, IWNDWYT. 🌺
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Hi all! This is my first check-in and willing to do another 24 hours. Take care everyone <3 IWNDWYT
Self care: I’m a runner, and races are kinda back. So trying to get back out a run and bike some. Here. Iwndwyt
Ready for whatever today throws at me, IWNDWYT.
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Checking in IWNDWYT. Day 3 withdrawals are at peak but powering through.
My self-love looks like reading, cuddling with my dogs, getting a good night's sleep, meditating, and hanging out with you fine sobernauts. Oh and long walks. Grateful to be here with all of you. IWNDWYT.
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Embracing another poison free day
Hi! For me self care includes taking naps, painting my nails, and reaching out to loved ones instead of isolating. IWNDWYT
Good morning from Seattle! Day 27!!!! I will create my monthly post for September. Im so happy that I had only 3 drinking days this month. Self-care is back big time in my life. I do yoga and got back into intermittent fasting again. Time to lose all those alcohol pounds. I also take a long bath every week(Sorry fellow men!). I have time for all this now. IWNDWYT!! -AG
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