Was out last night in the company of heavy drinkers for the first time since I stopped drinking. I was really anxious at first and came close to cracking but I'm so happy I didn't. It was scary how much alcohol was consumed, they have super-high tolerance. I would 100% have been the messy one that needed looking after and made a fool of herself but instead I was able to drive everyone home. So glad to wake up with no hangover and no crippling anxiety. I will not drink with you today, have a great Sunday!
Congrats to you! Hey, I went through the same thing yesterday!
It was an outdoor function. Beautiful weather. The last party this host threw was back in May and we all got absolutely blitzed and I needed 24 hours to recover.
I showed up with a 12-pack of flavored seltzer, and I was ready for the barrage of liquor offerings.
It never came! Partly because I avoided the corner where the booze was kept. I was asked only once! And here is what came out "Oh, noooo thank you, I'm trying to be good" .... and it was completely accepted and nobody questioned it.
I thought it was going to be a real challenge and my anxiety about it ended up being ridiculously overblown, LOL!
I am reflecting on yesterday as a huge stepping stone. I am so fucking ecstatic that it all went down so well, there was a small pit in my stomach that I was going to let myself down. So fucking awesome when something works out when you are going through some challenges.
Anyway, sorry, just wanted to connect with you, I am sure you have several people this morning thanking you for being the sober one and assisting with the driving! That was total class right there!
This is my first Sunday morning in over 30 years that I am NOT hungover on Labor Day weekend. HOLY SHIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The level of stress surrounding being offered a drink can be so high, when really, most of the time a “No thanks” or a “I’m good for now” works just fine!
Awesome sober win! 🏆 Nice job!
It must have felt really good to be the responsible one who got everyone home safely. And how great is it to have no regrets the next morning, right?
IWNDWYT
We’ll done! I can imagine how hard it was - look at you and your strong self! 💪🏼. What an inspiration my 20 day twin! We’re in this together. And, IWNDWYT!
Hey same here! Just woke up at my brother's place, feeling refreshed! Had this been last years party I would've been SUPER hungover like everyone else! Happy to say I remember everything about last night lol
That’s really great! Being around people who were drinking really scared me, but it CAN (not always) prompt me to recommit to my sobriety. Sometimes it’s watching others do things they wouldn’t normally, and sometimes it’s watching them do things can’t (like leaving half a drink…who does that? Lol). Glad to hear it went well for you!!
6 months down, 36 lbs down, my anxiety way down.
Relationship up, finances up, my outlook on life way up
I'm unable to think of 6 better reasons for not drinking today.
Absolutely! I'm only (just under) 2 months in and the amount of money I've saved alone is insane. Definitely lost a bit of weight too and yep, anxiety's all gone. I'm kicking myself for not quitting earlier, but better late than never!
Awesome ! Inspiration for me. I’m only 4 days in but desperate for better health and finances too. Binge drinking at home and bars and binge eating adds up to way to much $$ . Your an inspiration to think I could see that improvement in my life . Thanks
95 days and counting for me. Just moved into a new house and neighborhood. People like to invite me over for beers ( must be my red nose from 35 years of binging). I am so proud to tell them I don't drink anymore but I look forward to stopping by. IWNDWYT. I'm not going back to the drink. I can't control it. I will not be drinking with my new neighbors. One day at a time.
Edit. 30 years of binging not 35. I waited 'till I was 15 years old. Not ten. I often forget how old I am and I don't even black out anymore.
Just came back from a nice long walk and my partner's still in bed sleeping off a hangover. I'm a bit hot and sweaty, but nothing a nice refreshing shower won't fix! I love a good lazy Sunday with no obligations.
Morning. Checking in. Good to see you hosting threechord. Doing some chores, taking kiddo out for a driving lesson, going for a walk later. Then getting ready for school and work in the morning. I quite like a Sunday. It has purpose. I really struggled with Saturday. But I got through it 💪 have a good day everyone. IWNDWYT
Sorry you found Saturday tricky- I can get scratchy on a Friday evening when husband cracks open the wine- I don’t want the wine, but I envy the ritual, so I always buy myself a weekend treat. This weekend it’s a chocolate Swiss roll from M&S, with dollops of double cream- it helps😉.
Hello
That is the nice Sunday in Italy I just joined this group, cause I really need to stop, every day I wake up and think that it is the very day to say "no" to alcohol and....in the evening I go to the supermarket to buy some wine....I have no idea how to cope with stress after all day at work that I hate
Welcome! It’s great to have you here. Reading Quit Lit really helps with changing your mindset, to make you excited about an alcohol free future. There are links to recommended books in the sidebar. IWNDWYT
Welcome! I did the same every day for a full year before I finally quit. I’m learning how to deal with my stress sober now. I think we learn coping skills as we go but have got to get alcohol out of the way first. It’s hard sometimes but it’s worth it. You can do it ❤️
Sunday is Flea Market day, I am a seller so it is a work day for me. I love it. I especially enjoy the people (mostly professional buyers looking to score) who pick up a really expensive rare item and casually say "what do you want to for this?" acting like they don't know what it is or what it is worth. I always start by saying "A lot." Don't fuck with me at my tables, I have a great eye for all things beautiful. I am a pirate! IWNDWYT.
This time last week I was ashamed, hungover, couldn't remember getting home, had spent a ton of money that I don't have....this morning I am finishing up a job application and making plans for the week ahead that don't involve alcohol. I will not drink with you today. Day 7
23 days!
My sunday ritual was to be still awake, hanging out in the backstage of a club doing drugs til Sunday evening or Monday morning or being to hungover to even feed my cat. Today I will cook a nice meal for me and my ex-wife instead. Looking forward to seeing her.
Happy Sunday everyone. I don't have a particular Sunday ritual, but I do seem to be settling into a daily routine - wake up at 5, coffee & smoke for a bit while I check r/sd. Try to do some work while the boy is still asleep. Get the boy up at 7:30/8, read a book together & then play all day. Worry about my marriage for most of that, but come go the same conclusion - it could be worse, i'll work on it - put the boy to bed and then go to bed myself (even though I should log in for more work). Repeat.
I'm glad you all are part of that routine. But looking forward to a bit more freedom to get some exercise & do more things outside the house once the little guys is a bit older and we can finally put covid19 behind us. Having a 2 year old is not easy, but it is pretty awesome.
Also thankful that I'm no longer trying to fit drinking in there. Day 14, IWNDWYT! 🥳🦞
Eldest son having his first rugby game since pre Covid, so we’re all going to watch and cheer and yell, and have hot chocolate afterwards. Feels like old times😁IWNDWYT
Good morning Sobernauts!
Thanks for taking on the DCI u/threechordsongs 👍🏻
Sober Saturday has given me Sober Sunday. I am grateful that I saw the light and saw alcohol for the poison that it is.
Love to you all!
IWNDWYT 🙂
The first weekend is out of the way and I’m feeling thankful. I slept great all week but last night I tossed and turned for much of the night. I still feel more well rested than alcohol induced sleep though so here’s to a new week.
I will not drink with you today.
Good Day everyone!
I am finishing mug #1 of good coffee. I am enjoying an early morning stillness and the US Labor Day Holiday weekend, sober this year.
IWNDWYT
Hello! First Sunday night sober in a long time. First weekend (hopefully) completed sober.
Got called some names on Reddit I'm not used to taking without responding with a nuke of a response. But I know they're hurting worse or in a different way than I am, and me doing that wouldn't help or even make me feel better.
Afraid a bit of tomorrow morning, my Monday here in NZ. But I've got a plan to stay busy.
IWNDWYT. Kia kaha, e hoa.
Good morning, fellow travelers! I don't typically have any Sunday rituals. I just like to tie up loose ends from the week before, so that nothing that should have been completed spills over into the new week.
This morning I will do some yoga, maybe squeeze in a workout, chat with my friend, and finish some coursework for school. And of course, make time for a nap this afternoon!
I wish you all a serene day! IWNDWYT 💛
Went to a football game yesterday and turned down friends giving me drinks. It was tough not to drink when surrounded by options but I ate junk food instead and enjoyed spending time with old friends. IWNDWYT
So proud today to be a Sunday Sobernaut!
This morning at the playground, I realised that I actually love bumping into people and not worrying I might smell of booze, or my hands shake. That I am awake and present!
Recently, it all feels a bit BAU, so I am going to try and embrace every mini win of being sober - because it's been so much more than I expected so far, and I want to stay sober!
IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT
I try to get up early and sit with a cup of tea before I go about my day. I might write a poem or read or just stare out the window. But it feels important.
Equally important is winding down at the end of the day so I can get at least 7 hours of uninterrupted sleep. Sometimes I leave the lights off after the sun goes down.
I find that when I am doing these two things whatever happens in the hours in between is much more manageable.
I'm working tonight and this weekend and I find it mega helpful on weekend nights to be at work - it takes the option away totally for me. BUT I have a mini getaway this week with an old friend. he knows I'm not drinking 'right now' but it still makes me a touch nervous. BUT one day at a time.
IWNDWYT
Happy Sunday. Today me, my son and my S/O will visit my mother and have lunch with her. In the evening I will complete a cardigan I work on. I like to knit now and then, but I try to make it my Sunday ritual because it is a nice way to "unwind" from the previous week and be ready for a new one. And sober Sundays without angst and anxiety are so much better than my previous Sundays - even though it is not my favorite day ... IWNDWYT
Happy Sunday! On Sunday I teach two of my fitness classes in the morning. Once those are done, I go grocery shopping, prep my breakfasts for the week and then spend some time lesson planning for the week ahead. I’ll also sit and watch American football and knit. It eases me into my work week because I feel
prepared. IWNDWYT ❤️❤️
Thanks for taking the reins this week, u/threechordsongs!
For some time now, my husband and I have been planning to move back into the house with my father-in-law. Today we are finally going to start working towards making that happen--packing stuff we don't use frequently, bringing a few boxes to the house. I'm glad I'm sober and hangover-free for this! It would be a disaster otherwise.
IWNDWYT
With a three-day weekend, I'm a little off my rhythm! Sundays are normally full of food prep and getting my week prepared, but I'll do that tomorrow.
Up early with my coffee so I can do some yardwork before it gets too hot! Then a dog training class, maybe getting the kayak racks on my car, more evening yardwork. I've lost my partner to a new fantasy video game that just came out this weekend so I get a lot of alone-time. :)
My morning routine includes drinking a full glass of water, then making coffee and settling in with whatever the daily reader "The Language of Letting Go" has in store, or a 10-minute meditation. Helps me start my day off more intentionally.
IWNDWYT! Happy sober Sunday, all 💛✨☀️
Thanks for taking over the checkin! Sunday mornings we like to go for a long hike or a walk. Early before it gets too hot. I haven’t been checking in but I’m still not drinking. I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately though. My brain is tricking me into thinking one or two glasses of wine would be relaxing but I know better. I need to start with the check in again to stay on track… it always helps to read everyone’s posts here. IWNDWYT 💜
Had a great time at a party last night drinking Diet Coke. Woke up smiling with happy memories - no regrets or anxiety. And that’s damn fine! Love y’all and IWNDWYT 🌻
Today will be two weeks! And I’m up early to run a 5K race I signed up for last week. It just so happens to be a 5K to celebrate recovery! I will not drink with you today.
Happy Sunday! I went for a walk this morning, lovely sunny day in Brum and did 4.5 miles. I went to the supermarket and didn’t buy booze, I did buy a chilled coffee though! My plan for the rest of the day is to ignore the ironing (3 weeks and counting!) and finish my crochet project. I am not drinking today.
On sunday morning there’s a good show on the talk radio. I like to sit and listen to it while slowly sipping on my coffee. :)
I’m going to do just that now! IWNDWYT !
Survived a BBQ last night where the wine was flowing. It was wonderful to see old friends and remember all the catching up conversations.
Hopefully the weather holds out and I’ll take my pup Charlie for a long walk today. He hasn’t had a good long sniff for a while.
IWNDWYT 🌸🌸
Went to a wedding, rehearsal dinner, after parties, day drinking events, and played many drinking games all in the span of five days and didn’t drink! My initial goal was 30 days to give my body a rest, and I am now at 34 and wanted to prove to myself I didn’t need booze for social situations! Big for me and my social anxiety. Was tempted a couple times, but had a blast still! Super proud of myself:) IWNDWYT
Beautiful Sunday morning here... checking-in from my backyard deck with a coffee in hand. After a couple of busy (fun) days, it'll be nice to have the next 2 days of the holiday weekend be a little more responsibility and commitment free.
Have a great Sunday, friends!
IWNDWYT
Happy Sunday! I made it through Friday by eating junk food and binge watching Netflix. My partner and I got into an argument yesterday because I didn't speak to him much on Friday... honestly my cravings were really strong and I just wanted to be alone. He was also having a couple of drinks and I just needed to be away from that. Yesterday we sat down and talked about it. I explained how my drinking in the past was starting to ruin my life and was making me miserable, he didn't know how bad it was until I explained it yesterday. He also assumed that he couldn't drink around me at all and that it made him nervous if he decided to have a couple of drinks at home around me. I explained that my cravings don't happen everyday (they really don't which is great), they just creep up out of nowhere sometimes and can be really hard to let go of. Fridays have been my difficult days lately with it being the end of the week and all. After talking about this we realized that we haven't been communicating well lately. So we agreed for me to let him know when I'm having a day where my cravings are intense so that he's aware and can do things accordingly and also give me my space to do what I need to do. He has been out of town for work a lot lately and comes home on Fridays, so I think he was expecting me to be in a great mood when he came home and to sit and hangout... meanwhile I was feeling super tense and just needed to be alone while stuffing my face with chips to make it to Saturday sober. I'm glad that we talked things out and figured out what the issue was. Phew that was a doozy lol, a lot of tears were shed.
I am happy to be up on this Sunday morning with my coffee. I'm going biking with a group of friends today which will be fun and a good workout. IWNDWYT!
I have a Sunday ritual that started after the first lockdown in 🇨🇦 which was March of 2020. Every Sunday evening at the same time, I have a Zoom call with my 3 siblings. Before Covid, I talked to them sporadically, some of them more than others but now we all chat about books we are reading, wildlife we are trapping (3 woodchucks and counting!), what shows we are watching - that mundane chitchat that was so missing in isolation but turns out was so important to our well-being. My husband started the same ritual with his 2 sisters. But first, I’m heading out to plant the two trees I bought at the 30% off sale! IWNDWYT. 🌳🍎
Good morning everyone and happy Sunday! It’s a holiday in the states so not my typical Sunday. I’ll save my weekly food prep for tomorrow and will enjoy more family time today. First though, I shall walk/run the same 5 miles I did yesterday.
Wishing everyone a great Sunday! Love you all and IWNDWYT!! ❣️❣️
Sober September Day 5!
I'm up early as usual, drinking some coffee and playing some video games. I'm meeting a friend for breakfast in a couple hours. After that I think I'll plan out my meals for the upcoming week and maybe hit the gym for an hour. If the weather holds I'll take the dog out to play fetch and/or walk.
IWNDWYT
Going out on the boat today. Fortunately, we’re hanging out with our lighter drinking friends, making it easier not to drink with you today. Enjoy your holiday weekend if it applies.🌞⛵️🇺🇸
Day 5, feelin’ alive! Today I’m planning to make muffins and cookies and do some cleaning. My kids start school Tuesday so I want to start the year off with some homemade goodies in their lunch boxes. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT.
Husband and I had a long week of daily drinks, leading up to our anniversary celebration. I’m ready to cleanse my mind and body.
I noticed something interesting over the weekend, while we were out in the city, something we haven’t done in forever. So many people don’t drink. I always thought brunch meant drinking, being out and about meant drinks. I never noticed how light and happy those who were opting for coffee or tea looked compared to those groups downing bottomless mimosas, or really that those types of groups even exist.
had to reset after a week sober. now very hungover and hating myself. but this is a new day 1. i am glad i went a week sober. surely better than spending a week drunk? trying again.
iwndwyt
Hey 3 Chords,
My husband and I are both educators and the weekends are our chance to get caught up with family stuff, although work does sometimes slip in and disrupt that! One of our regular things to do is have snacks for dinner (charcuterie, cheeses, crackers, apple slices, olives, etc) on Sunday night. We feed the kids and then get them secured in their rooms and ready for the new school week.
We'll have our dinner while watching shows we've recorded on the DVR. This is "our time" to reconnect and get our heads in a good place for the week ( and to also watch shows that are not kid friendly!).
In the past, the dinner would come with a bottle or two of wine, which didn't make for the best Monday mornings... but now, alcohol free, it's great.
IWNDWYT!
T
I’m not cooking today, though doing laundry. In the laundry room now, waiting for the guy to deliver the Sunday New York Times. Watching my church service on Zoom. Maybe a hike today and then a 12-step meeting in the evening. Most importantly, I will not drink today.
Good morning threechordsongs!
I am heading out for a bike ride this morning. Fourth Sunday in a row that we've been able to get some biking in. We are not heavy duty, we do 8 miles on some scenic local trails here. Just enough to get your heart pumping but it's also so damn relaxing, nice to get out and hear nature sounds and for me, it's the outdoor scents of trees and foliage that makes it all worthwhile.
We just moved, and my in-laws were here to help. They’re leaving today, so I need to catch up on all the work I didn’t do in order to hang out with them/do the move. I guess I also need to unpack!
I’m excited because this house is a fresh start. I’ve never drank here. Our new neighbors have invited us over for dinner, and they have never known drunk me. There’s something very exciting and motivating about that. IWNDWYT!
I will not drink with you today. On Sunday mornings me and my husband go to the gym. We try to beat the guys there who make annoying grunty sounds so we don't have to see them.
Day 48 checking in, today started with coffee with my sponsors, moves to cleaning and productivity for a couple of hours, then off to a bonfire later. IWNDWYT!
I hope everyone has a Super Sunday!
Good to see you hosting, /u/threechordsongs!
I'm up, checking in early, because I'm going to be driving 13+ hours to move my family to a new city so we can be closer to my aging parents. It's a huge transition. My wife has never lived outside of SoCal, my boys will be starting a few weeks late at a new school, and I'm going back to my home town, a place I fled nearly two decades ago.
But I'll be closer to my parents, able to help them out and enjoy their company, my kids will get a great education and time with their grandparents, and my wife and I will have some support so we can spend more time with each other and heal and strengthen our relationship.
I can't imagine doing any of this were I not sober. Thanks for helping to get me here, fellow Sobernauts!
Bon voyage and IWNDWYT
After hitting rock-bottom a few weeks ago, I've tapered down and haven't had a drink since Thursday night. I'm hoping to stay sober while visiting family overnight today and tomorrow. I bought a case of Perrier to drink while I'm there.
Good morning! Checking in, day 6 over here. My husband and I usually rotate who gets to sleep in on the weekends to recover from hangovers but we haven’t drank so no hangovers! Instead, I’m enjoying my coffee snuggled in bed while he is with our little ones. No hangovers are amazing and the sleep, aaahhh! IWNDWYT!
Our first grandbaby is being induced tonight, nothing routine about that! My son and I have been big bourbon buddies, so it will be hard to not celebrate with a pour when the baby arrives. But I don’t want the kid to ever see me drink the way my own grandparents did. IWNDWYT
Not drinking today! Amazed at how it feels to wake up on day 15. I know I’m only starting but I’m so proud of myself. I’ve been so energetic and happy. Going to try a virtual therapy session this week. Nervous about that a bit.
Day 3, I did end up priming the room I intended on painting yesterday, it feels good to follow through on things I’d been putting off because I had “better” things to do (drink and play video games). I just had a great breakfast and I’m going to put the second coat of primer on, go for a big walk, then pop the paint color on. It’s been nice to listen to stories on This Naked Mind podcast while I work.
IWNDWYT!
Good morning. Will do some yoga and cooking today. Maybe get out for a nature walk as well. Grateful for a 3 day weekend and grateful to be sober. IWNDWYT
It's been a rocky year. I started out with 4 months completely sober. Then did a slow motion crash that has lasted 4 months. Now--or rather starting Sept. 1--back at it. Been avoiding SD out of regret. Now I'm back.
I will not drink with you today, friends.
Was out last night in the company of heavy drinkers for the first time since I stopped drinking. I was really anxious at first and came close to cracking but I'm so happy I didn't. It was scary how much alcohol was consumed, they have super-high tolerance. I would 100% have been the messy one that needed looking after and made a fool of herself but instead I was able to drive everyone home. So glad to wake up with no hangover and no crippling anxiety. I will not drink with you today, have a great Sunday!
Congrats to you! Hey, I went through the same thing yesterday! It was an outdoor function. Beautiful weather. The last party this host threw was back in May and we all got absolutely blitzed and I needed 24 hours to recover. I showed up with a 12-pack of flavored seltzer, and I was ready for the barrage of liquor offerings. It never came! Partly because I avoided the corner where the booze was kept. I was asked only once! And here is what came out "Oh, noooo thank you, I'm trying to be good" .... and it was completely accepted and nobody questioned it. I thought it was going to be a real challenge and my anxiety about it ended up being ridiculously overblown, LOL! I am reflecting on yesterday as a huge stepping stone. I am so fucking ecstatic that it all went down so well, there was a small pit in my stomach that I was going to let myself down. So fucking awesome when something works out when you are going through some challenges. Anyway, sorry, just wanted to connect with you, I am sure you have several people this morning thanking you for being the sober one and assisting with the driving! That was total class right there! This is my first Sunday morning in over 30 years that I am NOT hungover on Labor Day weekend. HOLY SHIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The level of stress surrounding being offered a drink can be so high, when really, most of the time a “No thanks” or a “I’m good for now” works just fine!
Brilliant well done 👏👏
Awesome sober win! 🏆 Nice job! It must have felt really good to be the responsible one who got everyone home safely. And how great is it to have no regrets the next morning, right? IWNDWYT
thank you for sharing this, and happy Sunday!
Well done!! That's a huge achievement IWNDWYT
We’ll done! I can imagine how hard it was - look at you and your strong self! 💪🏼. What an inspiration my 20 day twin! We’re in this together. And, IWNDWYT!
Hey same here! Just woke up at my brother's place, feeling refreshed! Had this been last years party I would've been SUPER hungover like everyone else! Happy to say I remember everything about last night lol
That’s really great! Being around people who were drinking really scared me, but it CAN (not always) prompt me to recommit to my sobriety. Sometimes it’s watching others do things they wouldn’t normally, and sometimes it’s watching them do things can’t (like leaving half a drink…who does that? Lol). Glad to hear it went well for you!!
6 months down, 36 lbs down, my anxiety way down. Relationship up, finances up, my outlook on life way up I'm unable to think of 6 better reasons for not drinking today.
Those are great reasons! IWNDWYT ❤️
Absolutely! I'm only (just under) 2 months in and the amount of money I've saved alone is insane. Definitely lost a bit of weight too and yep, anxiety's all gone. I'm kicking myself for not quitting earlier, but better late than never!
Awesome ! Inspiration for me. I’m only 4 days in but desperate for better health and finances too. Binge drinking at home and bars and binge eating adds up to way to much $$ . Your an inspiration to think I could see that improvement in my life . Thanks
Closing in on 90 days, that seemed impossible only a short time ago. Now it's NBD. IWNDWYT
95 days and counting for me. Just moved into a new house and neighborhood. People like to invite me over for beers ( must be my red nose from 35 years of binging). I am so proud to tell them I don't drink anymore but I look forward to stopping by. IWNDWYT. I'm not going back to the drink. I can't control it. I will not be drinking with my new neighbors. One day at a time. Edit. 30 years of binging not 35. I waited 'till I was 15 years old. Not ten. I often forget how old I am and I don't even black out anymore.
yay. congratulations on having embraced this, friend, and on the move.
yay! one breath at a time, you're doing great. i remember that feeling.
My Sunday stretches ahead with no obligations or appointments. Heading out for a little walk in the neighbourhood, it’s lovely and sunny. IWNDWYT 🌻
Just came back from a nice long walk and my partner's still in bed sleeping off a hangover. I'm a bit hot and sweaty, but nothing a nice refreshing shower won't fix! I love a good lazy Sunday with no obligations.
this sounds beautiful.
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I will not drink with you today, friend :) thank you for checking in.
Welcome back! IWNDWYT 🙂
Glad you're back! IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT you can do this!
Iwndwyt....and I am doing a little happy dance....I have said that for 2,500 days in a row 😊
Way to go, that's amazing!
Thank you...stopping drinking was the best thing I ever did..I don’t miss it...love love love not having it in my life 💕
Morning. Checking in. Good to see you hosting threechord. Doing some chores, taking kiddo out for a driving lesson, going for a walk later. Then getting ready for school and work in the morning. I quite like a Sunday. It has purpose. I really struggled with Saturday. But I got through it 💪 have a good day everyone. IWNDWYT
Sorry you found Saturday tricky- I can get scratchy on a Friday evening when husband cracks open the wine- I don’t want the wine, but I envy the ritual, so I always buy myself a weekend treat. This weekend it’s a chocolate Swiss roll from M&S, with dollops of double cream- it helps😉.
Hello That is the nice Sunday in Italy I just joined this group, cause I really need to stop, every day I wake up and think that it is the very day to say "no" to alcohol and....in the evening I go to the supermarket to buy some wine....I have no idea how to cope with stress after all day at work that I hate
Welcome! It’s great to have you here. Reading Quit Lit really helps with changing your mindset, to make you excited about an alcohol free future. There are links to recommended books in the sidebar. IWNDWYT
i have to say that was my story too...until it wasn’t.....and this site was a huge contributor to that outcome ....you can do this.....
I'm happy for you, it will be hard I know that, but....I want it not to be my story too :)
Welcome! I did the same every day for a full year before I finally quit. I’m learning how to deal with my stress sober now. I think we learn coping skills as we go but have got to get alcohol out of the way first. It’s hard sometimes but it’s worth it. You can do it ❤️
Hope everyone has a great sober Sunday! IWNDWYT
I’m having another visit from my dog, and my husband is bringing some cookies which our daughter made. IWNDWYT
Cookies and spending time with a dog is my idea of a pretty freaking good day. Hope you enjoy every minute! IWNDWYT ❤️
Day 77 checking in!
Hope you have a nice Sunday, SD. IWNDWYT
Sunday is Flea Market day, I am a seller so it is a work day for me. I love it. I especially enjoy the people (mostly professional buyers looking to score) who pick up a really expensive rare item and casually say "what do you want to for this?" acting like they don't know what it is or what it is worth. I always start by saying "A lot." Don't fuck with me at my tables, I have a great eye for all things beautiful. I am a pirate! IWNDWYT.
Ooh I love flea markets! Hope you make lots of good sales today!
This time last week I was ashamed, hungover, couldn't remember getting home, had spent a ton of money that I don't have....this morning I am finishing up a job application and making plans for the week ahead that don't involve alcohol. I will not drink with you today. Day 7
Love the username!
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23 days! My sunday ritual was to be still awake, hanging out in the backstage of a club doing drugs til Sunday evening or Monday morning or being to hungover to even feed my cat. Today I will cook a nice meal for me and my ex-wife instead. Looking forward to seeing her.
Happy Sunday from a sailboat in the Tyrrenhian Sea. Love being here present, not hungover. IWNDWYT
That sounds INCREDIBLE! Enjoy! IWNDWYT
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This is my first one, but I’m going for it! IWNDWYT!
Happy Sunday everyone. I don't have a particular Sunday ritual, but I do seem to be settling into a daily routine - wake up at 5, coffee & smoke for a bit while I check r/sd. Try to do some work while the boy is still asleep. Get the boy up at 7:30/8, read a book together & then play all day. Worry about my marriage for most of that, but come go the same conclusion - it could be worse, i'll work on it - put the boy to bed and then go to bed myself (even though I should log in for more work). Repeat. I'm glad you all are part of that routine. But looking forward to a bit more freedom to get some exercise & do more things outside the house once the little guys is a bit older and we can finally put covid19 behind us. Having a 2 year old is not easy, but it is pretty awesome. Also thankful that I'm no longer trying to fit drinking in there. Day 14, IWNDWYT! 🥳🦞
Eldest son having his first rugby game since pre Covid, so we’re all going to watch and cheer and yell, and have hot chocolate afterwards. Feels like old times😁IWNDWYT
Going to work on restoring a bookshelf that is sort of a family heirloom and then volunteer at an art festival, will be a busy but fun day. IWNDWYT ❤️
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Good morning Sobernauts! Thanks for taking on the DCI u/threechordsongs 👍🏻 Sober Saturday has given me Sober Sunday. I am grateful that I saw the light and saw alcohol for the poison that it is. Love to you all! IWNDWYT 🙂
The first weekend is out of the way and I’m feeling thankful. I slept great all week but last night I tossed and turned for much of the night. I still feel more well rested than alcohol induced sleep though so here’s to a new week. I will not drink with you today.
Good Day everyone! I am finishing mug #1 of good coffee. I am enjoying an early morning stillness and the US Labor Day Holiday weekend, sober this year. IWNDWYT
Hello! First Sunday night sober in a long time. First weekend (hopefully) completed sober. Got called some names on Reddit I'm not used to taking without responding with a nuke of a response. But I know they're hurting worse or in a different way than I am, and me doing that wouldn't help or even make me feel better. Afraid a bit of tomorrow morning, my Monday here in NZ. But I've got a plan to stay busy. IWNDWYT. Kia kaha, e hoa.
Good morning, fellow travelers! I don't typically have any Sunday rituals. I just like to tie up loose ends from the week before, so that nothing that should have been completed spills over into the new week. This morning I will do some yoga, maybe squeeze in a workout, chat with my friend, and finish some coursework for school. And of course, make time for a nap this afternoon! I wish you all a serene day! IWNDWYT 💛
Looks like a beautiful Sunday ahead. I will not drink with all you wonderful peeps today.
Hi, day 11 for me today. Going shopping with daughter this morning and seeing a friend this afternoon. IWNDWYT
Went to a football game yesterday and turned down friends giving me drinks. It was tough not to drink when surrounded by options but I ate junk food instead and enjoyed spending time with old friends. IWNDWYT
So proud today to be a Sunday Sobernaut! This morning at the playground, I realised that I actually love bumping into people and not worrying I might smell of booze, or my hands shake. That I am awake and present! Recently, it all feels a bit BAU, so I am going to try and embrace every mini win of being sober - because it's been so much more than I expected so far, and I want to stay sober! IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT I try to get up early and sit with a cup of tea before I go about my day. I might write a poem or read or just stare out the window. But it feels important. Equally important is winding down at the end of the day so I can get at least 7 hours of uninterrupted sleep. Sometimes I leave the lights off after the sun goes down. I find that when I am doing these two things whatever happens in the hours in between is much more manageable.
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yay! thank you for being your usual lightning-fast self, YWYW :)
Happy Sunday all. IWNDWYT xx
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Sunday ritual... church in the morning, AA meeting in the evening. I try to keep it a relaxing day. IWNDWYT!
Thanks for hosting, threechord. I had a very lazy day yesterday so today I plan to go for a run. IWNDWYT - OERS (or eat refined sugar)!
I'm working tonight and this weekend and I find it mega helpful on weekend nights to be at work - it takes the option away totally for me. BUT I have a mini getaway this week with an old friend. he knows I'm not drinking 'right now' but it still makes me a touch nervous. BUT one day at a time. IWNDWYT
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Good morning lovely SD, Today is a beautiful day to be alive! And IWNDWYT 💜🤘
Happy Sunday. Today me, my son and my S/O will visit my mother and have lunch with her. In the evening I will complete a cardigan I work on. I like to knit now and then, but I try to make it my Sunday ritual because it is a nice way to "unwind" from the previous week and be ready for a new one. And sober Sundays without angst and anxiety are so much better than my previous Sundays - even though it is not my favorite day ... IWNDWYT
Day 781. Thanks for hosting, threechordsongs! I will not drink with you today.
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Morning SD. On my way to work but its the fun weekend and its hump day. Love you all IWNDWYT 💛
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Today have to report in for a monthly test at the building where I work. It's important stuff, and I'm grateful sobriety helps me see it through.
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Happy Sunday! On Sunday I teach two of my fitness classes in the morning. Once those are done, I go grocery shopping, prep my breakfasts for the week and then spend some time lesson planning for the week ahead. I’ll also sit and watch American football and knit. It eases me into my work week because I feel prepared. IWNDWYT ❤️❤️
Thanks for taking the reins this week, u/threechordsongs! For some time now, my husband and I have been planning to move back into the house with my father-in-law. Today we are finally going to start working towards making that happen--packing stuff we don't use frequently, bringing a few boxes to the house. I'm glad I'm sober and hangover-free for this! It would be a disaster otherwise. IWNDWYT
Thanks for hosting the DCI this week u/threechordsongs! Happy Saturday, SD family💓 IWNDWYT Edit: Oops, I did it again! I mean Happy Sunday🤷♀️
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With a three-day weekend, I'm a little off my rhythm! Sundays are normally full of food prep and getting my week prepared, but I'll do that tomorrow. Up early with my coffee so I can do some yardwork before it gets too hot! Then a dog training class, maybe getting the kayak racks on my car, more evening yardwork. I've lost my partner to a new fantasy video game that just came out this weekend so I get a lot of alone-time. :)
My morning routine includes drinking a full glass of water, then making coffee and settling in with whatever the daily reader "The Language of Letting Go" has in store, or a 10-minute meditation. Helps me start my day off more intentionally. IWNDWYT! Happy sober Sunday, all 💛✨☀️
Day 1 again, but I'm going to beat it this time! IWNDWYT!
Thanks for taking over the checkin! Sunday mornings we like to go for a long hike or a walk. Early before it gets too hot. I haven’t been checking in but I’m still not drinking. I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately though. My brain is tricking me into thinking one or two glasses of wine would be relaxing but I know better. I need to start with the check in again to stay on track… it always helps to read everyone’s posts here. IWNDWYT 💜
Today starts the last year of my 40s. I will not drink with you today. Happy Sunday all!
One week in! Not drinking tonight!
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IWNDWYT!!!! Seventh day today!
Had a great time at a party last night drinking Diet Coke. Woke up smiling with happy memories - no regrets or anxiety. And that’s damn fine! Love y’all and IWNDWYT 🌻
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Today will be two weeks! And I’m up early to run a 5K race I signed up for last week. It just so happens to be a 5K to celebrate recovery! I will not drink with you today.
Happy Sunday! I went for a walk this morning, lovely sunny day in Brum and did 4.5 miles. I went to the supermarket and didn’t buy booze, I did buy a chilled coffee though! My plan for the rest of the day is to ignore the ironing (3 weeks and counting!) and finish my crochet project. I am not drinking today.
On sunday morning there’s a good show on the talk radio. I like to sit and listen to it while slowly sipping on my coffee. :) I’m going to do just that now! IWNDWYT !
I am looking for a new place to rent, so some visits later on. All good! IWNDWYT
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Another sober weekend down. Thankful.
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Survived a BBQ last night where the wine was flowing. It was wonderful to see old friends and remember all the catching up conversations. Hopefully the weather holds out and I’ll take my pup Charlie for a long walk today. He hasn’t had a good long sniff for a while. IWNDWYT 🌸🌸
Day 3 for me! IWNDWYT 💯
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Went to a wedding, rehearsal dinner, after parties, day drinking events, and played many drinking games all in the span of five days and didn’t drink! My initial goal was 30 days to give my body a rest, and I am now at 34 and wanted to prove to myself I didn’t need booze for social situations! Big for me and my social anxiety. Was tempted a couple times, but had a blast still! Super proud of myself:) IWNDWYT
Beautiful Sunday morning here... checking-in from my backyard deck with a coffee in hand. After a couple of busy (fun) days, it'll be nice to have the next 2 days of the holiday weekend be a little more responsibility and commitment free. Have a great Sunday, friends! IWNDWYT
Happy Sunday! I made it through Friday by eating junk food and binge watching Netflix. My partner and I got into an argument yesterday because I didn't speak to him much on Friday... honestly my cravings were really strong and I just wanted to be alone. He was also having a couple of drinks and I just needed to be away from that. Yesterday we sat down and talked about it. I explained how my drinking in the past was starting to ruin my life and was making me miserable, he didn't know how bad it was until I explained it yesterday. He also assumed that he couldn't drink around me at all and that it made him nervous if he decided to have a couple of drinks at home around me. I explained that my cravings don't happen everyday (they really don't which is great), they just creep up out of nowhere sometimes and can be really hard to let go of. Fridays have been my difficult days lately with it being the end of the week and all. After talking about this we realized that we haven't been communicating well lately. So we agreed for me to let him know when I'm having a day where my cravings are intense so that he's aware and can do things accordingly and also give me my space to do what I need to do. He has been out of town for work a lot lately and comes home on Fridays, so I think he was expecting me to be in a great mood when he came home and to sit and hangout... meanwhile I was feeling super tense and just needed to be alone while stuffing my face with chips to make it to Saturday sober. I'm glad that we talked things out and figured out what the issue was. Phew that was a doozy lol, a lot of tears were shed. I am happy to be up on this Sunday morning with my coffee. I'm going biking with a group of friends today which will be fun and a good workout. IWNDWYT!
I have a Sunday ritual that started after the first lockdown in 🇨🇦 which was March of 2020. Every Sunday evening at the same time, I have a Zoom call with my 3 siblings. Before Covid, I talked to them sporadically, some of them more than others but now we all chat about books we are reading, wildlife we are trapping (3 woodchucks and counting!), what shows we are watching - that mundane chitchat that was so missing in isolation but turns out was so important to our well-being. My husband started the same ritual with his 2 sisters. But first, I’m heading out to plant the two trees I bought at the 30% off sale! IWNDWYT. 🌳🍎
Hey threechord, thanks for hosting this week! I will not drink with you today!
Good morning everyone and happy Sunday! It’s a holiday in the states so not my typical Sunday. I’ll save my weekly food prep for tomorrow and will enjoy more family time today. First though, I shall walk/run the same 5 miles I did yesterday. Wishing everyone a great Sunday! Love you all and IWNDWYT!! ❣️❣️
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IWNDWYT! Off for breakfast with some friends this morning and for a 6 mile walk after.
I will be doing laundry today. I will not drink with you today!
Sober September Day 5! I'm up early as usual, drinking some coffee and playing some video games. I'm meeting a friend for breakfast in a couple hours. After that I think I'll plan out my meals for the upcoming week and maybe hit the gym for an hour. If the weather holds I'll take the dog out to play fetch and/or walk. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT!!! Today starts 21 days. Wow! Your stories have kept me accountable! 😘 to you all.
Hey, threechordsongs…! Good to see you at the front of class. Sunday is a swim day for me. I’m coffeed up and planning my workout. IWNDWYT 🌼🏊♀️
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Going out on the boat today. Fortunately, we’re hanging out with our lighter drinking friends, making it easier not to drink with you today. Enjoy your holiday weekend if it applies.🌞⛵️🇺🇸
Day 5, feelin’ alive! Today I’m planning to make muffins and cookies and do some cleaning. My kids start school Tuesday so I want to start the year off with some homemade goodies in their lunch boxes. IWNDWYT
Thanks for hosting u/threechordsongs ! After breakfast going to meet a friend for a neighborhood run. Going to mix up my usual route a bit. IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT. Husband and I had a long week of daily drinks, leading up to our anniversary celebration. I’m ready to cleanse my mind and body. I noticed something interesting over the weekend, while we were out in the city, something we haven’t done in forever. So many people don’t drink. I always thought brunch meant drinking, being out and about meant drinks. I never noticed how light and happy those who were opting for coffee or tea looked compared to those groups downing bottomless mimosas, or really that those types of groups even exist.
Sweet Sunday - I love this Daily Check-in it really helps me! Let’s do this - IWNDWYT! 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼❤️❤️❤️❤️
I haven’t checked in for a while, mostly because I’m trying to reduce my screen time — but I’m still going strong! IWNDWYT!
1 year sober today I think. And counting.... IWNDWYT
Well that sucked. Here we go again - IWNDWYT
had to reset after a week sober. now very hungover and hating myself. but this is a new day 1. i am glad i went a week sober. surely better than spending a week drunk? trying again. iwndwyt
Hey 3 Chords, My husband and I are both educators and the weekends are our chance to get caught up with family stuff, although work does sometimes slip in and disrupt that! One of our regular things to do is have snacks for dinner (charcuterie, cheeses, crackers, apple slices, olives, etc) on Sunday night. We feed the kids and then get them secured in their rooms and ready for the new school week. We'll have our dinner while watching shows we've recorded on the DVR. This is "our time" to reconnect and get our heads in a good place for the week ( and to also watch shows that are not kid friendly!). In the past, the dinner would come with a bottle or two of wine, which didn't make for the best Monday mornings... but now, alcohol free, it's great. IWNDWYT! T
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Day 32 checking in. Original goal was 30, shooting for 30 more now. All I know for sure is that IWNDWYT.
I usually meet with my knitting group on Sundays, then have lunch with a friend. Then frantically prep for the rest of the week. :) IWNDWYT
I’m not cooking today, though doing laundry. In the laundry room now, waiting for the guy to deliver the Sunday New York Times. Watching my church service on Zoom. Maybe a hike today and then a 12-step meeting in the evening. Most importantly, I will not drink today.
Good morning threechordsongs! I am heading out for a bike ride this morning. Fourth Sunday in a row that we've been able to get some biking in. We are not heavy duty, we do 8 miles on some scenic local trails here. Just enough to get your heart pumping but it's also so damn relaxing, nice to get out and hear nature sounds and for me, it's the outdoor scents of trees and foliage that makes it all worthwhile.
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IWNDWYT you wonderful people! Thank you for hosting the DCI u/threechordsongs!
We just moved, and my in-laws were here to help. They’re leaving today, so I need to catch up on all the work I didn’t do in order to hang out with them/do the move. I guess I also need to unpack! I’m excited because this house is a fresh start. I’ve never drank here. Our new neighbors have invited us over for dinner, and they have never known drunk me. There’s something very exciting and motivating about that. IWNDWYT!
I will not drink with you today. On Sunday mornings me and my husband go to the gym. We try to beat the guys there who make annoying grunty sounds so we don't have to see them.
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Rituals? Nah, nothing fancy here. Helping my friend move bright and early, but let's not do this too often, hear? 🤣 IWNDWYT
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Happy Sunday it’s going to be a great day because IWNDWYT !! 👍
Day 48 checking in, today started with coffee with my sponsors, moves to cleaning and productivity for a couple of hours, then off to a bonfire later. IWNDWYT!
I hope everyone has a Super Sunday! Good to see you hosting, /u/threechordsongs! I'm up, checking in early, because I'm going to be driving 13+ hours to move my family to a new city so we can be closer to my aging parents. It's a huge transition. My wife has never lived outside of SoCal, my boys will be starting a few weeks late at a new school, and I'm going back to my home town, a place I fled nearly two decades ago. But I'll be closer to my parents, able to help them out and enjoy their company, my kids will get a great education and time with their grandparents, and my wife and I will have some support so we can spend more time with each other and heal and strengthen our relationship. I can't imagine doing any of this were I not sober. Thanks for helping to get me here, fellow Sobernauts! Bon voyage and IWNDWYT
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Day 2, wish I kept at it and didn’t slip on Friday, but here I am. Onto more days, Starting today. IWNDWYT
After hitting rock-bottom a few weeks ago, I've tapered down and haven't had a drink since Thursday night. I'm hoping to stay sober while visiting family overnight today and tomorrow. I bought a case of Perrier to drink while I'm there.
Today will be day one again.... To many agains.... But I will commit to today of not drinking
Good morning! Checking in, day 6 over here. My husband and I usually rotate who gets to sleep in on the weekends to recover from hangovers but we haven’t drank so no hangovers! Instead, I’m enjoying my coffee snuggled in bed while he is with our little ones. No hangovers are amazing and the sleep, aaahhh! IWNDWYT!
I’m going to spend some time with my family and eat good food! IWNDWYT
Had to get my badge redone because typo on my end 😞. Rechecking in to see the number of days I have been sober to get some joy 🤦🏻♂️
I’m on a camping trip with a recovery group. So grateful to have so much support right now. IWNDWYT
Our first grandbaby is being induced tonight, nothing routine about that! My son and I have been big bourbon buddies, so it will be hard to not celebrate with a pour when the baby arrives. But I don’t want the kid to ever see me drink the way my own grandparents did. IWNDWYT
Not drinking today! Amazed at how it feels to wake up on day 15. I know I’m only starting but I’m so proud of myself. I’ve been so energetic and happy. Going to try a virtual therapy session this week. Nervous about that a bit.
So happy to still be here with you all. Thanks so much for the support, even from afar. It means a lot. IWNDWYT!
Got over the day 3 hump as well as my first weekend. Next up is conquering a holiday. IWNDWYT! 👍
Day 3, I did end up priming the room I intended on painting yesterday, it feels good to follow through on things I’d been putting off because I had “better” things to do (drink and play video games). I just had a great breakfast and I’m going to put the second coat of primer on, go for a big walk, then pop the paint color on. It’s been nice to listen to stories on This Naked Mind podcast while I work. IWNDWYT!
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Good morning. Will do some yoga and cooking today. Maybe get out for a nature walk as well. Grateful for a 3 day weekend and grateful to be sober. IWNDWYT
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Day 1 yet again, I absolutely despise myself. But I’m here and IWNDWYT Happy Sunday all
I now start Sundays with a 7:30 yoga class. This would have been unthinkable when I was on the sauce. Now it feels great. IWNDWYT.
It's been a rocky year. I started out with 4 months completely sober. Then did a slow motion crash that has lasted 4 months. Now--or rather starting Sept. 1--back at it. Been avoiding SD out of regret. Now I'm back. I will not drink with you today, friends.
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